My daughter had an idea to try and catfish my fiance because of suspicious behavior on his part. She set up the profile, sent him a friend's request and a really nice comment about how handsome he looked. He fell for it hook, line and sinker! I was gone on a flight the next day! What a POS! I dodged a bullet thanks to my amazing daughter who is also my ride or die!
@barbarakennedy2330Ай бұрын
Right on and thank God!
@OUTBACK-PARANORMAL-CRYPTIDS25 күн бұрын
🇦🇺🪃Your daughter is as we say in Australia ,,"A BLOODY LEGEND"
@MatrixxPhoenixx23 күн бұрын
She's amazing 😭 MY daughter was 16 when she found out incriminating evidence in her dad's car and told her friend who's mother told me.. surprise!! 24 yrs married to a bonifide covert narc! She's also my ride or die.🤩
@marybarton702723 күн бұрын
@@MatrixxPhoenixx Some men are so predictable. Others it may take time before they unmask themselves but it all comes to light sooner or later. Im glad your free of that trash.
@teresa656422 күн бұрын
Ughhhh, my stomach is in my throat for you Janelle. I have been in your shoes. I was married for 27 years to someone who did the exact same thing plus narcissistic. He is never going to change bc he knows he can manipulate you. My heart literally aches for you. I’ve been divorced for 10 years now. I have two adult sons. They kept asking me when I was going to leave bc he nagged about his encounters to them. For me, I didn’t understand that I didn’t love myself. I gave away all my power. You deserve a happy life. Only YOU can do that for yourself. I was in therapy for five years but I am a completely different person now. I know I am a better person having gone through what I did and what I learned about myself. I stayed for 27 years bc I was afraid. He broke me over & over bc he could. One day he was telling me, again, the reason he cheats is bc I don’t look like I did when we were married, I finally had no physical reaction to how painful that would be to me. I literally felt nothing and in that moment I knew I was free. I was still in therapy which helped during the divorce and transition. You are worth so much more than what you have been given. Please find your support group that will tell you the truth in a loving way. You deserve yourself.
@andrea605311 ай бұрын
I’d rather be alone than married and wondering who my husband is sleeping with.
@kimgotaway626410 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@MT-yx5cu9 ай бұрын
Yeap, thankfully many women are waking up this. Single life isn't that bad considering the alternative
@TheAustrianPainter879 ай бұрын
@@MT-yx5cuBoyfriends cheat too😁
@MT-yx5cu9 ай бұрын
@@TheAustrianPainter87 I said single. What boyfriend are you speaking of?
@dr.jenniferma39148 ай бұрын
Alone for life over that form of hell. I've been there and believe me, three years later you wake up with cancer and regret all of the time you wasted on a loser.
@NotSoEntertaining.5 ай бұрын
“Is my marriage fixable?” It was so painful to hear that. Girl, run. Run as fast and as far as you can.
@courtneyschwab43014 ай бұрын
But not before she prints the evidence from the dating app and takes it to an attorney that helps her file for divorce. In many states from the US; an affair during marriage is grounds for full custody of the shared children and alimony. Plus he will need to pay court costs and lawyers fees.
@mendaciousreality84594 ай бұрын
@iamdragonettatooremember to thank god for this entire situation in this first place too. Thank god for putting this lady through hell and heartbreak…. What is she being thankful for exactly you delusional moron ?
@paulinecraft2444 ай бұрын
This is just sad hop in that car and never look in the rearview
@mendaciousreality84594 ай бұрын
iamdragonettatoo why thank god for the harsh truth when god’s the one did this number on her in the first place ?
@ChristisFaithful4 ай бұрын
If she's that dedicated to building something new and getting that trust back, she needs to find out if he wants to be married and if he does, why. I've been there and with a 2yo & 1yo. We tried the move away, after he gave me an STI and tried to play like I was dumb and got it from a toilet seat at his sister's... that's another story and hammered home the importance to meet the other family before sealing the relationship. It seems much harder for us women to divorce, with kids, and move on. Those guys cheating manage to get into something fast but I know I worry about my kids, gave up my income to take care of the babies so was financially hurt, but he disappeared the afternoon prior to us moving, I went with the babies. Paid a phone for him to call the kids for 2 years and he never called 1, while they were awake 2, if he was "doing well". Finding a good man who is interested in a woman with now teens, it's hard. At least in the area I live in. If it's meant to be, t then I trust the Lord God to put him in my life.
@user-mm1jh9zp7j4 ай бұрын
Unconditional tolerance is NOT unconditional love.
@theworldaccordingtoallie11764 ай бұрын
This comment needs to be added to a plaque and passed around.
@Lieze-nz4 ай бұрын
Yes! This!!!!
@millyardopeacecraft97784 ай бұрын
Pattern Of Mistakes > Mistake. A mistake is fixable. A Pattern of mistakes is not, unfortunately.
@denisekennedy30993 ай бұрын
Perfect. Just perfect.
@denisekennedy30993 ай бұрын
@@theworldaccordingtoallie1176 Absolutely. I’m circulating this to friends and tattooing it onto the inside of my own eyelids!
@digitatissue850211 ай бұрын
Janelle, Your husband left you a long time ago. When you are emotionally ready, please move on. Be ready, you’re worth it!
@katz7345 ай бұрын
OmG Jenelle deserves so much more. She’s such an incredible woman and needs someone who will treat her like the queen she is.
@MrDeano-eu9rg5 ай бұрын
Calm down...we only hear her side here. She might suck.
@mrsmayes75455 ай бұрын
@@MrDeano-eu9rg or she doesn't and that's the husbands problem 😂
@katz7345 ай бұрын
@@MrDeano-eu9rg no I think you and your comment sucks. 🤭👎
@MrDeano-eu9rg5 ай бұрын
@@katz734 you're just agreeing with the narrative set forth by the presenter. Basic
@kctexan11 ай бұрын
"Don't let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you." - Steve Harvey
@charlesmoneyham28737 ай бұрын
That man also has divorced multiple times. So be careful
@noneya12386 ай бұрын
@charlesmoneyham2873 Well he should know.
@GriBlanco6 ай бұрын
@@charlesmoneyham2873then he knows exactly why he says it.
@rottenejl16 ай бұрын
Biggest moron I can think of
@wendy14796 ай бұрын
THIS!! Every single person needs to hear this. Man or woman, if their behavior says they don't want you, believe them. Find someone who does. BE that person who cares about you and find a kindred who does too❤
@kristenkaz30805 ай бұрын
I want to share a glass of wine with this woman! One of my best friends did this to her husband. Even met him at lunch & she SERVED HIM HIS DIVORCE PAPERS IN THE RESTURANT. My bestie is LEGEND.
@brightpage10202 ай бұрын
👏 🙌 👏 🙌 👏 🙌 🎉❤🎉❤🎉😂😢😅😊
@skerdycat2 ай бұрын
PERIODT
@JaxLittles2 ай бұрын
This is the only outcome that should be expected from a test like this. Even if her husband failed, she should be serving divorce papers for trying it
@klickingkayasmr75852 ай бұрын
Him: “what’s on the menu, babe?” Her: DIVORCE
@janet78042 ай бұрын
When you have to stoop to his level by catfishing your husband.. it's time to move on...
@talienanaquin74454 ай бұрын
Janelle, baby….. he’s only going to therapy to keep you on the leash so he can keep doing what he’s doing. He has no plans to stop. He’s manipulating you.
@vaska19994 ай бұрын
🎯
@ScottishTerrorsInLA2 ай бұрын
🎯
@brightpage10202 ай бұрын
Agreed.
@kalabakonbitts136226 күн бұрын
💯.
@evahamrick419722 күн бұрын
Exactly! Right now he has everything in his pocket.
@shethewriter11 ай бұрын
We’ve romanticized being “strong enough” to tolerate abuse.
@gardenofdeedensub_confirmation11 ай бұрын
Yasss and I’m tearing that paradigm down in my life. We have been hoodwinked into accepting toxicity as strength.
@MrsBee-uo2lc11 ай бұрын
What!?!? No, it's the exact opposite. The second people feel unhappy or come across the smallest of problems, they quit and give up. 🙄
@mandaJt10 ай бұрын
@@MrsBee-uo2lc Some do, and some stay no matter what. There are many varieties of situations out there.
@Bianca041410 ай бұрын
You can grow together though. I had a friend and they had a semi abusive relationship with their partner but after years together they finally had kids and they've both grown allot from having children and settling down. It really just depends. I don't recommend someone staying in an abusive relationship,but abuse can look different for every couple.
@show_me_your_kitties10 ай бұрын
Say what? What planet are you on?
@carriesing29 күн бұрын
The first rule of planning an exit is don’t tell him about your plan. Keep it secret.
@greatestever2478 күн бұрын
& gather as much evidence as you possibly can
@suzieq17043 ай бұрын
I was married to a serial unfaithful man. I didn't walk away. I ran.
@leannepenner78062 ай бұрын
You go girl. Go find people who deserve to be around you
@LLMC96820 күн бұрын
🙌
@wendyf11654 ай бұрын
When someone shows you who they are over and over again. BELIEVE THEM!
@TeriHuebert-tq7kf21 күн бұрын
This is the best comment I’ve read. You have a good head on your shoulders. 😊
@kathleenredick27519 күн бұрын
Yep. Friend, boss, partner, government... 🙁
@hazelmill2011 ай бұрын
Stds aren’t the only safety issue. There are a lot of murders that happen because the side chick gets knocked up and decides she doesn’t want to just be the side chick anymore. You have no idea what kind of insane people that man is bringing into your and your kids lives
@RepentImmediately8 ай бұрын
More often the man kills his wife to be with the side chick or if she gets pregnant and he doesn't want to destroy his marriage he kills the side chick. Chris Watts killed his whole family to be with the side chick.
@FL-CourtReporter7 ай бұрын
So true. There’s a lot she doesn’t know. Remember the movie Fatal Attraction?
@rebeccaspratling28656 ай бұрын
When I was 11 in the '90s one of the teachers at my school was murdered by the mistress. It's really not worth it.
@FL-CourtReporter6 ай бұрын
I’m a court reporter and seen a lot. when I was betrayed I realized I was lucky to have not ended up in a bad episode of dateline 😂! This woman was total opposite of me. Nope, total nut! She was a drug induced, gun selling to felons Scary felon! Geez! He was an idiot. In an odd way, I could see a younger better version of me; not even close. They both got in real trouble. 😂no words. Broke my young son’s 30s hearts even with a namesake. They were so proud of their dad. 😢
@kYA00h6 ай бұрын
for real.. he could also be bringimg angry dudes around because he messed with their woman
@javiermorales36511 ай бұрын
This woman sounds so beautiful and loyal I hate husbands who treat these precious women like this. If you hate commitment then don’t get married
@kind242311 ай бұрын
Exactly, her husband is heartless
@danrobinson54449 ай бұрын
Well honestly folks there's always more to the story. Have to hear his side, why did he lose interest?
@RepentImmediately8 ай бұрын
@@danrobinson5444doesn't matter why he lost interest....if he wants something else he should have the balls to leave
@DeRocco217 ай бұрын
why is it that SO many PEOPLE complain about this, "why is such a good person treated this way??" because theres something in human nature that likes the excitement of taboo, and the grass is greener on the other side, well grass is always the same color
@somethingclever27 ай бұрын
And stay abstienent
@InvictumLupus5 ай бұрын
I married someone,too, after a brief period of dating. After marriage I found out that I couldn’t compete with a porn addiction and dating websites. I walked away. A marriage with a serial cheater is NOT fixable.
@JakeDrives14 ай бұрын
The scheming husband cannot be rehabilitated. He’s had enough chances and still lies. I hope she finds peace. ASAP!
@nikstar131321 күн бұрын
Really? Thanks for that 🎉
@danielperea621110 ай бұрын
The “Is my marriage fixable?” question, broke me omg 😥
@edgardominguez86786 ай бұрын
I don’t know, can you lose like 89 lbs?
@y2ksurvivor6 ай бұрын
@@edgardominguez8678you first.
@ashleighedwards35756 ай бұрын
Sure she can go to the gym and while she’s at she can regain self confidence build strength and character and win the affections from healthy, in shape, better disciplined single men at the gym. Or she can pick a physical hobby like martial arts where she will get in phenomenal shape create a social network and find in shape men there with healthy mindsets and libidos to better fit her needs. Thank you for giving a healthy suggestion that will benefit her physical and mental health and send her in the direction of a building an extended social network(which may help with getting better employment) and a better fit, friendly, disciplined and overall better caliber man. BTW for all u know she weighs 89lbs but she could still enjoy getting out of the house and again finding better caliber men. Men will sleep with other women bc they are the other woman BMI issues or not. Plenty of stories of men cheating on wives with the uglier and even more obese mistress. Some men do prefer women who are bigger.
6 ай бұрын
@ashleighedwards3575 or maybe don't look for another man. I think she should just work on herself and if by chance a man, or more, introduces themselves then great and go from there. Good luck to all.
@rebeccaspratling28656 ай бұрын
@@edgardominguez8678I'm so sorry your partner is obese. 🙏💛 I hope she looses the weight and you guys can fix your relationship. 🫂
@marysaltlife142711 ай бұрын
This woman is my sister! In her circumstance and behavior. FINALLY her husband ended the marriage. My sister was messed up for a while because she still loved him in spite of everything. Years later, she is fiercely independent, self-respecting, and normal again. She says now the pain and loneliness while getting over him was worth it to come out of it in better mental shape. Please, caller, RUN from this man, please!
@blueseptember217411 ай бұрын
I'm two years out and feeling more peaceful but I went through it let me tell you 😅. I was crying 24/7 even though he got more and more awful. I understand this woman 100 percent.
@isay20711 ай бұрын
So happy for you both😊
@MonaMona-cn5zw11 ай бұрын
Did her ex tried coming back after she was feeling herself again?
@marysaltlife142711 ай бұрын
@@MonaMona-cn5zw No, but he told others he really messed up treating her that way.
@ivywildwss11 ай бұрын
Right! Not to mention he could've already given her a STD and made her sterile if it went untreated leaving her unable to ever have more children.
@Fenty0033 ай бұрын
She sounds like a lovely woman. I hope she heals from this.
@einnockate26 күн бұрын
Fixable? Not with a narcissist. He will most likely never change.
@carolc.133410 ай бұрын
My husband of 25 years gave me gonorrhea from a stripper/prostitute. I am numb and trying to figure things out. Thank you for this call and advice
@user-qo7zp4pq6x6 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry….. praying for you right now…❤❤❤
@2intriguing16 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry.
@Taylor0866 ай бұрын
It's s3xual assault in my country, you can sue him for damages
@nowyouseeme34026 ай бұрын
TMI
@Mewa-tv6qc6 ай бұрын
Don’t let that idiot get away with what he did to you
@orangesplaylist11 ай бұрын
Someone who serial cheats, accuses YOU of cheating, then makes you feel stupid even when you have evidence I don't think loves you, ma'am. This one might be a wash.
@Erica-wz8yv11 ай бұрын
Exactly. She’s just taking out the trash at this point.
@talyahr330211 ай бұрын
Might? It is trash garbage rubbish
@shannonfritch83137 ай бұрын
Gaslighting at its finest
@thefirm46066 ай бұрын
Sounds narcissistic
@LaJuera25Ай бұрын
Gaslighting. We call that gaslighting
@Coffeetime19915 ай бұрын
If he’s over protective of his phone he is cheating
@healup37962 ай бұрын
AMEN
@heidikickhouse-Ай бұрын
My niece got cuckoo when I picked up her phone - at first I thought, is she cheating on me with a fake Auntie? But no, she was just talking serious trash about me, making fun of me being clumsy and, oh yes, stupid, on IM with her husband. While I was visiting. I was leaving shortly, couldn't she have waited a little bit?
@Ofanother27 күн бұрын
@coffeetime1991 Nah. They probably just haven’t cleared their internet history.
@casaledbetter25 күн бұрын
Or doing something shady
@nikstar131321 күн бұрын
@@heidikickhouse-you obviously are annoying to them and need to take responsibility ❤
@lesliem56173 ай бұрын
Her health would crumble in other ways from pretending. The body takes all that stress and implodes. You're ill, and he moves on.
@cornelia-wp5hj14 күн бұрын
Yes. I developed osteoporosis from the constant high stress levels
@cashelrose17 күн бұрын
Amen….
@igit4ever55811 ай бұрын
I’m glad he addressed her health. When a person cheats, they jeopardize your life. HIV/AIDS etc. are still real. Oftentimes this is something John usually don’t address. Glad he did.
@TulipsNTattoos11 ай бұрын
He addresses this quite often, actually; and, even on the Ramsey show.
@shachede682811 ай бұрын
he addresses often
@rgeorge861811 ай бұрын
For me, this would be over (not because I can’t forgive and move on), but I don’t want to spend my life battling preventable diseases and I can’t let my children become motherless because of my husband’s negligence, selfishness, dishonesty, etc. & my own inability to cut my losses.
@MrsMathews11 ай бұрын
Yup people don’t like to talk about it, but this is how too many women end up with HIV and other STDs.
@dennykeaton970110 ай бұрын
@@TulipsNTattoos Dave Ramsey?
@1740ryguy11 ай бұрын
The fact that she catfished him and seeing for herself what he’s doing and the fact he’s done it before and she’s literally finding receipts! And she still finds a way to forgive him?!? This woman deserves soo much better. This guy is taking advantage of her insecurities and making her look like the villain. Insane call. I understand she wants the marriage to work but enough is enough.
@Mar.....O11 ай бұрын
Hope she this is it for her?
@katelyndefreitas281011 ай бұрын
Sunken cost fallacy
@TH-eb5ro11 ай бұрын
@@Austenfan177 The problem is that many are taught what to settle for not what they deserve, it has a lifetime of repercussions.
@summerdowlig11 ай бұрын
Sadly she already knew what he's like she knew he's a cheater. Probably hope he'd finally have some morals and not take the bait.
@sarahalderman312611 ай бұрын
Most likely she can’t afford to raise the kids herself and is just stuck for now. Hence the reason so many of us have to wait until the kids are grown.
@Ashly3044 ай бұрын
He will never stop because he knows she ain't going anywhere. It's not fixable because he doesn't love her and will not stop.
@ED80sАй бұрын
Yes unfortunately she is enabling him because he knows there are no consequences.
@MGobin5425 күн бұрын
Yes once they know your not going anywhere, they continue to do what they are doing. I love the advice gives her. To move on and build something different and set better example of marriage for her children.
@serendipidy23 күн бұрын
Exactly, and it takes 2 to Tango. Even if she wants to fix her marriage, if he is not on board, it will not work. So the only way is separation.
@billie-ocean82864 ай бұрын
She’s in denial poor woman she sounds so sweet and hopeful he must’ve never wanted to be married
@olesmokey3944 ай бұрын
He probably didn't I hate it for her but she chose the wrong dude kinda on her.
@GrantTravels23Ай бұрын
People do the honeymoon stage too soon and then women withholding sex from men as a weapon and then get surprised when they go outside of the marriage to get their needs met when all the guy wanted to do was come home to someone who showed him she loved him. Comes down to a gender miscommunication. Men are just as guilty in not researching up on what women need. But point being, keep him fed n fked, and he's not going anywhere else cuz he has no reason to
@evaswritingvault306611 ай бұрын
Feeling the need to Catfish your husband probably tells you all you need to know.
@dabd817511 ай бұрын
💯 females set the trap and then blame the guy it's crazy😂
@crashtestdummy197211 ай бұрын
@@dabd8175i dont think you should be setting traps in a relationship thats toxic, but if you fall for it, you are probably a scummy person too. What a wild call though!
@misstrinity532911 ай бұрын
Are you serious? So her husband been a serial cheater is nothing but the catfishing is where you draw the line
@Emptytopfloor11 ай бұрын
@@dabd8175even more crazy is that the males FALL for it 🤣
@216trixie11 ай бұрын
@@dabd8175you're blaming all of this on the female? Way to turn the whole thing around on its head and invert reality.
@liannebenn209711 ай бұрын
I catfished my ex husband too. It was so funny to see him rush all excited to the computer.
@citrustaco11 ай бұрын
So this is all a game? Why not say all the things to get him excited from the real you instead of the fake you?
@talyahr330211 ай бұрын
@@citrustacoobviously he didnt want to hear it from her. Hence the cheating which is why she catfished in the first place.
@simoneXox11 ай бұрын
🤦🏾♀️
@mandaJt10 ай бұрын
@@citrustaco Because the issue is the cheater, not the cheatee. There is so much nuance here, it's not a matter of "just." I'm guessing based on the situation that there is likely one or more types of abuse happening in this relationship.
@Wealth_Wisdom_Discernment10 ай бұрын
@@citrustacoexactly, if woman spent that much energy making their marriage amazing, their husband wouldn’t be out looking
@d.s.284 ай бұрын
Poor wife has no self esteem or self worth. Prayers for her healing.
@shirellejohnson138722 күн бұрын
When she said what am I doing wrong made me so so sad. I felt that do deep. That's a deep hurt a person who doesn't except themselves feels when others do wrong by them. She sounds so beautiful
@godmadesam5 ай бұрын
He doesn’t want you girl, RUN!!!!!!
@pamelawilliams957410 ай бұрын
John was so gentle, yet honest with her. I divorced my cheating husband 4 years ago. Best decision of my life. I could never let my daughter think that it is ok to be treated that way by anyone. Her and I are closer than ever and happy as can be. YOU GOT THIS, JANELLE!!!
@Jkaye137 ай бұрын
My sister continues to live with her cheating husband of 28 years, and the damage it has done to her two daughters is devastating.. both are single, at 26 and 30, and one doesn't date and has said that she will never marry because of her father's cheating abuse of her mother that she witnessed her whole life.. he was emotionally and verbally abusive. This has a huge affect on the children who witness it.. and as this caller shows, it's easy to become the doormat wife that tolerates this abuse when it's what you've witnessed in your parents growing up.. my sister's husband had a father who cheated on his mom.
@selfmaderish46907 ай бұрын
Kids watch everything from the time they’re born and whatever you allow, they think they should allow
@pamelawilliams95747 ай бұрын
@@Jkaye13 this is so heartbreaking.
@pamelawilliams95747 ай бұрын
@@selfmaderish4690 100%
@Mushroom321-6 ай бұрын
@@Jkaye13 Way too sad !! 🥺☹️😬
@10tepeyac11 ай бұрын
You can tell she’s a good woman. I feel so bad for her
@PepeDeezNutz11 ай бұрын
She’s naïve
@10tepeyac11 ай бұрын
@@PepeDeezNutz I think she’s in denial
@EmpressMermaid10 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, she's been made to believe that "good woman" equates to forever putting herself in the background and that she must support and blindly accept him no matter what. A "good woman" never challenges her man, never confronts him, understands and forgives all his shortcomings. I know, I was raised with these beliefs and these beliefs led me to stay in an abusive marriage way too long. After all, I was a "good woman".
@PepeDeezNutz10 ай бұрын
@@10tepeyac nah she’s just dumb AF
@ellencox841510 ай бұрын
She's in love with the man she thought he was ... not who he actually was. This is very very difficult with two kids. People are flippant with the "just divorce him" comments. They don't realize they are asking her to be the one who "destroys the family". She has two young kids, she's not going to tell them that dad can't keep his 🍆 out of randos... they are only going to know it from Dad's "your mom broke up our family" perspective. You are also asking her to be a single mother to two children when she probably can't afford to be. Literally telling her to put the family into poverty. It sounds good on paper. It is completely different in real life.
@blackghostart3083 ай бұрын
Just the sadness and disappointment in her voice when she says "you're right" it's heartbreaking.
@sophiag23484 ай бұрын
He has so much compassion for her, what a gem. Pray for this lady, how sad!
@striperkid11 ай бұрын
She needs to file for divorce and pronto. This dude is NEVER going to change.
@opendoorproperty10 ай бұрын
My heart broke when she asked,"Is My marriage fixable?"
@2intriguing16 ай бұрын
I broke down so bad. My God. I hate she has babies, I would have prayed she left.
@aliciarobertson49795 ай бұрын
Such a sad state of mind and heart. 💔💔💔 Poor Janelle …hope she got added strength to move on.
@anastasha34115 ай бұрын
Coming from a true friend saying these exact words " You don't want to say it out loud because you don't want it to be true and I love you enough to tell you it's true." is what we needed to hear as another wake up call.
@user-lr6kj1xt6i4 ай бұрын
Don’t give her false hope by saying that they can come back from this. It doesn’t matter how many stipulations she needs and he agrees to. He’s a liar who is going to lie. It’s not easy to change your life but, my gawd, you have to find a new life that is safe, and won’t kill your soul.
@stillcoolnana23 күн бұрын
Well said!
@s.maisonave47897 ай бұрын
Girl RUN, don't walk, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.
@susanhill31003 ай бұрын
Run run run 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️
@angelaratzay9034Күн бұрын
Your marriage is not fixable!! Leave him he has committed the ultimate insult to you. Leave him you will make a great life for yourself. If you stay you are telling him and others you are weak and can be mistreated. Please get rid of him. I would not let a man touch me if he was with another woman. O God. You are not your parents!!. Move along.
@Ellely1436 ай бұрын
He keeps cheating because he knows how sweet she is and he knows how to manipulate her. But at this point nothing is salvageable because he clearly doesn’t want to make their relationship work. He broke the foundation of that relationship and trust is completely broken.
@mogx25862 ай бұрын
Janelle you sound like a fun, lovely person even from this short call. I'll pray for the Lord to give you the strength you need.
@heatherlowe733023 күн бұрын
I love when he said you are worth more than that! They do deserve better! She should get out!
@donnasearch14 ай бұрын
Janelle-when I was living in Atlanta my husband cheated and gaslighted me. He had a seminary degree. I walked away with my three children. It was challenging but God protected us.❤ I pray God’s favor and protection over you. “For I know the plans I have for you, Janelle-declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.”😊
@SherryONeill2 ай бұрын
Amen !!!
@imaginyas20 күн бұрын
Beautiful ❤️
@bbridget13Ай бұрын
That sigh and “you’re right” broke my heart for her.
@aina338711 ай бұрын
She needs to leave him. She obviously loves him, but it isn't worth it.
@saraliburd775211 ай бұрын
The question is what is there to live-he treats her like crap-this is codependency
@Ryan-wx1bi11 ай бұрын
When someone cheats, youll never be able to truly trust them again. I just cant imagine a relationship ever being healthy after that happens.
@spectatoryoutube7 ай бұрын
Right, it always stays with you in your mind and in the back of your mind. I would lay in bed and imagine both of them together, hugging, kissing, caressing and making love to each other....it was haunting and tormenting.
@stevepierce2276 ай бұрын
I know of a story of a pastor who's wife cheated on him and got pregnant from the cheating. She repented, and he forgave her and raises the child as his own son. Without the Lord true forgiveness wouldn't be possible, but with the Lord there can be healing no matter how broken it may seem.
@Ryan-wx1bi6 ай бұрын
@@stevepierce227 Yes, with Lord Vishnu anything can be accomplished. Even getting an entire congregation to believe in your lies
@stevepierce2276 ай бұрын
@@Ryan-wx1bi Are you saying that because you think I am lying, the pastor was lying, or that the idea of the Lord (by Lord I mean Jesus Christ, in case that wasn't obvious) is a lie?
@Ryan-wx1bi6 ай бұрын
@@stevepierce227 are you saying the religion of Hinduism that outdates Christianity is a lie? And yes, I'm saying your pastor is lying about the situation
@AG-iu9lv5 ай бұрын
"Choose the difficult path that leads to freedom" 🤯
@heatherlowe733022 күн бұрын
I think a lot of women need to hear that!
@lioness634525 күн бұрын
Felt so sad for this woman because none of us can truly understand unless we experience this. I hope she finds the courage to change her life.
@katcraig752511 ай бұрын
This sounds like my story. Janelle leave. He won't stop. He's probably a narcissist or suffers from HPD; mine did. Life is sooo much better now. You can do it Janelle. You're worth it sis. Believe me YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!
@marysaltlife142711 ай бұрын
Please forgive my ignorance... What is HPD?
@aislingobrien548511 ай бұрын
@@marysaltlife1427Histrionic personality disorder - part of the cluster B personality disorders group - it’s characterised by hyper sexual behaviour and other traits that tend to make for a difficult partnership..
@chitlinjuice10 ай бұрын
Not every man that doesn't like you is a narcissist. I think he's a coward and married a woman he really didn't want to begin with, but narcissism is on a whole other demonic level of craziness.
@marysaltlife142710 ай бұрын
@@aislingobrien5485 Thank you so very much. I greatly appreciate your explanation.
@TheJulithegreat6 ай бұрын
Yeah, I don't think he is "suffering from hpd". Rather, he's enjoying his cluster b traits! What part of doing whatever you want and being 100% selfish is suffering to an evil person?
@lisasunshine77311 ай бұрын
When I was first divorced i had a guy pursing me that creeped me out. He was stalker material. I would see his truck parked on the corner watching me come home and one night when I was out with friends left me this urgent voice mail to meet him at my house something was wrong. I couldn’t get rid of him and he hadn’t done anything in the eyes of the law. I went out of town and when I got back I knew he had been in my house. I do not it drink coffee and there was a coffee make on my counter. I hired a reputable private investigator with my concerns. When he investigated him he told me that he had stolen plates on his vehicle and other things and they contacted the police with what all they found. I thank God that I trusted my instincts early and while I wasn’t able to prove anything on my own the P.I. Was able to find things out. I never heard from this guy again. I feel very blessed that it turned out the way it did in that it was taken care of and I was safe. The Private investigator told me that if you think you need a PI you probably do and run. This reminded me of this. I trusted my instincts right within the first weeks of meeting this weirdo.
@name96018 ай бұрын
always trust your gut
@dancingmama31345 ай бұрын
Well there it is, when he asked her why she feels like her feelings don't matter and she said her parents are still together after 45 years but her Dad has cheated on her mom the whole time. Her Dad was a horrible person and her mom accepted it and didn't see her worth and so the cycle continues. Please people don't tolerate serial cheaters! Don't let your children see that that's acceptable
@heatherlowe733022 күн бұрын
Exactly this! Don't let your children think this is what a marriage should be! Show them they deserve better!
@user-hr1ql2fu3f4 ай бұрын
I have been in a relationship with a serial cheater. They don’t quit! And they make you feel responsible for their cheating. Your husband may also be a narcissist. He has proven over and over that he does not respect you, or love you, imo. You can’t forgive someone that doesn’t want to be forgiven. He only wants to be forgiven til the next time, and then he wants to be forgiven again. I’ll bet he even tells you that you don’t know how to forgive. He sounds like a master manipulator and gaslighter. That is why I mentioned narcissism. You deserve better and more. Your children deserve better. A father that abuses the mother is not a good father, and certainly not a good husband! You are being abused mentally and physically. Your husband doesn’t even care about your emotional and physical well being. You already know he is a cheater. And after 5-15 times, how ever many it’s been, he has no interest in stopping and will not stop! I’ll bet you are exhausted with trying to keep track of him, and figuring out what he is doing and where he is at. But then when you are together in public settings at family events, he probably acts like husband and father of the year. You know the drill, and have been living it your entire married life. Do yourself and your kids a favor. Leave him, and make a safe and loving environment for you and your kids. I’m sorry this hurts so much. It’s not going to stop until you leave him. Don’t give him the opportunity to ruin your physical and mental health. Trust me, he will always be grooming his next victim, so that when one finds him out he’s got plenty of supply on hand. Your husband is a suck wad! I think you already know that. I wish you the very best and will be praying for you and for your strength.
@annstewart850611 ай бұрын
This woman is in a powerful position to break the cycle of generations of infidelity. Stand tall. I divorced my ex of 23 years as I believed I could easily get a sexual disease first hand and not have a cheating spouse bring it home to me. I too was in a public couple image where everyone envied our marriage. Time to call him out and divorce him. Your kids don't need a toxic role model. Good luck and stay strong.
@chris-gx7rs4 ай бұрын
Well women shouldn't give men reasons to cheat
@Brianna_Little_Apple_Mama11 ай бұрын
Oh Janelle, when you asked if your marriage was fixable… my heart broke for you. I pray you can move on from this. You seem like an amazing amazing woman!!
@gaypreator85476 ай бұрын
She wants so badly to not accept the situation. She does sound amazing, big hearted and generous of spirit.
@kayabe8564 ай бұрын
This lady has too much optimism.
@indymj3834 ай бұрын
“Who taught you that what you feel in your guts is so wrong?” That’s called female socialization
@davinasquirrel76724 ай бұрын
aka 'doormat training'.
@lovelace87024 ай бұрын
Not necessarily accurate. Could be but women Ive heard usually say listen to your gut. And the parents and or spouse makes you question yourself. Just dont question yourself period who ever might say otherwise
@vaska19994 ай бұрын
Yup.
@annelynch92173 ай бұрын
That is not something that’s reserved solely for women. It’s intended for anybody who opens themselves up emotionally to other people. Having that attitude is what turns women into doormats. There’s no such thing as “female socialization“. Feminism is the worst thing that ever happened to women. This may shock you, but men get cheated on too.
@BIBLE-a-s-m-r2 ай бұрын
My mom always told me to listen to it. That’s not average momming?
@zarahsgarden209711 ай бұрын
I could never trust someone again after betrayal like this
@nnyv004011 ай бұрын
she's awesome and so bubbly - I love her vibe. I feel so bad for what happened to her, she does not deserve this. She's too kind and beautiful to waste her positive energy on this trashy man. YOU DESERVE BETTER JANELLE! WE ARE ALL ON YOUR SIDE.
@OopThereItIs7777710 ай бұрын
She should have never done this. She has issues to be even messing with it. A sane woman, that is mature would have said she wants counseling or she’s out. High schoolers do this stuff, not grown women.
@CJ-ft9yo6 ай бұрын
@@OopThereItIs77777for pity’s sake listen to yourself, you’re blaming her, a smart feisty woman for doing this and she has issues but only for putting up with this creep she’s trying to stay married to. Interesting you don’t mention the creep she married to.
@TheTeresamori4 ай бұрын
Please he’s treating you like the doormat store.
@somewhrntmАй бұрын
I had the same thing happen to me. It took me many many many years to get over my ex husband. He up and to that point was the love of my life. It’s now 22 years later and I have peace.
@daisycano454211 ай бұрын
Her husband probably gaslit her. My ex did that all the time telling me I’m crazy. But what do you know? He had an affair for six years. I finally left him and I feel so happy, free and healthy. It’s scared to leave at first but the peace that comes with leaving is worth it all!
@anneshirley956011 ай бұрын
I am so sorry that happened to you. That's horrible. I'm glad you found peace.
@daisycano454211 ай бұрын
@@anneshirley9560 thank you!
@kclarke297110 ай бұрын
You have that right, I didn't think I could stand a week without him. It's been 8 years now. I feel so free, it's so nice. Stay strong.
@daisycano454210 ай бұрын
@@kclarke2971 so happy for you ❤️
@meforme8338 ай бұрын
I love his no sugar coating, just raw , honest advice. 😊
@RG-hf4et6 ай бұрын
The husband deserves to be catfished. Get a lawyer quick.
@MrsJFJ3 ай бұрын
Having been there myself, yeah, it’s a loss, and I was exactly where you are 12-13 years ago, but fast forward…my husband and I just celebrated 9 years of marriage. Do the math and see that it’s my second husband and truly the best man I’ve ever known. We have a beautiful blended family. Praise God! You and your kids are worth it, Janelle!
@ChimeraTruely22 күн бұрын
The silence in the moment it hit her said so much. It was heartbreaking when she said, "Is my marriage fixable?" I've never seen this channel, but you've earned a sub. Thank you for the encouragment you provided to this caller. There is no doubt in my mind that you helped so many people who are facing the same struggle and needed to be reminded that they also deserve better than what their partner is doing to them.
@janetbooth7986 ай бұрын
Oh how her story resonates with me. I am fifteen years on the other side of a divorce after surviving my ex husband’s infidelities during our 22 year marriage. I am living proof that there is a joyful and fulfilling life after this level of betrayal, emotional abuse and verbal abuse.
@smears60394 ай бұрын
You inspire me. I’m making my plan to leave and regain back my joy for life, and to try and love myself. Thank you for sharing this.
@webistebi83104 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing… I am in the process of divorce and I know I should have let him go decades ago… 💝
@Meangirl222 ай бұрын
Are you remarried??
@janetbooth7982 ай бұрын
I have not remarried
@brightpage10202 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. So many women suffer for like ever... not realizing how much brighter it could be outside the household of misery.
@IamtheAllison7 ай бұрын
I cried with his response, I think she never really heard someone say: “you are enough.” Subscribed just because of the kindness and just amazing advice he gave.
@symonelovesJesusАй бұрын
Enough for what?
@jikan-tabi-18883 ай бұрын
Her kindness and easy-going nature were taken advantage of for 12yrs. Plus her parents dynamics planted the seeds. Take care and best wishes.
@sharoncrawford71925 ай бұрын
I feel so bad for women who get cheated on. I grewup watching my mother go through that, and I cant stand seeing anyone being cheated on. My mother stayed with him until the day she died, and was a very good and faithful wife!😢
@brooklin_bernek6 ай бұрын
This is the EXACT reason I am filled with regret for leaving my career at the post office to have another baby , being without a job /income keeps women/men stuck
@vickiegibson292016 күн бұрын
Yes it does. Plus there are two little kids. If she has family who will help her then she might be able to leave him. The hard part for me when this happened to me was to turn my kids over to the Dad knowing that he never changed a diaper and never had a lot to do with the girls and not knowing where he lived exactly or who he was having them around. Thankfully I had family to help me, my kids were 2, 4, and 6. The six year old would stand at the door waiting for him to show up on his visitation weekend and when he didn’t show up my boy would be so sad. The two girls wanted nothing to do with him at that time. At their ages they were all about Mommy and honestly really didn’t know him. He had always interacted with the boy but not so much with the two girls. He came from a patriarchal family and had little interest in little girls. The boy was ready to go when his Dad showed up to pick him up. The two year old was still in diapers and Dad wanted nothing to do with diapers. The four year old did everything not to go. Then one weekend after I had potty trained the youngest he came to get them and insisted on taking the girls too. He literally pulled the baby out of my arms since I had her on my hip at the time. She screamed and cried and kicked but he took her anyway. He put the baby in the car and came back for the 4 year old. I had had a few minutes to calm her down and I told her to go with him that it would be alright. When she got out to the car she tried to calm the baby but she was throwing a fit so the four year old told her Dad to take them back to Mommy. He said no and she started screaming and crying. We live in the mountains with lots of two lane switch back roads, the girls were so upset that he got about half way over the mountain and the girls threw up in his tiny sports car. He turned around and brought the two girls home to me. Through the years, it was a constant battle with visitation until the girls were old enough to be more independent of me which was a couple of years. Then they peacefully went when he forced them to go. This all started in 1987, the kids grew up found their adult footing. The baby went into the service and served in Iraq in 2002 and 2003 for 15 months. Spent 5 years and 10 months in the service, then used the GI bill to go to college. She became a counselor who has worked with the homeless and drug addicts. Married with two kids. The middle daughter became a Registered Nurse who worked ICU COVID all during the pandemic, my son did several different jobs until he decided to be a funeral director and embalmer who worked through the pandemic also. So I have three warriors, who have given me six grandchildren. They are all great parents and allow me to have lots to do with my grandchildren. I am blessed. I started out as hurt and confused as the woman who spoke on the show. I want to say there is hope after divorce.
@nope756011 ай бұрын
You can't fix a problem that's not yours.. You just can't. All the years of counseling, talking about it, getting caught.. That's indicative of a person that won't be changing. Why should he? He's gotten everything he's wanted. He knows he can keep doing it. However, you can change your life. You can find people who make you feel good all the time, not just some of the time. You can find a partner who realizes your worth all the time, not just when he's caught. It's not easy, but I really wish that you'd at least take a break from your marriage and free yourself from the daily burden of wondering "what the hell is my husband up to."
@Ella-Bella202410 ай бұрын
"You can't fix a problem that's not yours." - well said.
@janetginty18474 ай бұрын
Run girl as fast as you can and don't look back you are beautiful and better than that ✨️
@matmorkinsti2 ай бұрын
This is like if The Piña Colada Song ended incredibly sadly, but it’s real…and sad.
@lunallena559420 күн бұрын
Oh it's you 😂!
@getinthespace771511 ай бұрын
Infidelity is a deal breaker, time to move on.
@bonitajolie93415 ай бұрын
Depends.
@getinthespace77155 ай бұрын
@@bonitajolie9341, no depends. The smart move on. The weak bargain.
@chris-gx7rs4 ай бұрын
Well maybe women should have sex with there men then we men wouldn't cheat
@kathleenredick27519 күн бұрын
@@getinthespace7715 No. Sometimes the "cheater" really is 'repentent', fesses up and asks forgiveness. At that point, it's up to the one who was wronged to say yes or no. If it's a yes, boundaries and accountablility need to be set up - a same sex friend to hold the offender accountable.
@paulaprice69496 ай бұрын
Getting an STI from this would be so scary. She deserves better.
@evahamrick419722 күн бұрын
First time finding you. I'm so impressed how you responed to her call, no white wash. Straight up, good solid advice. For everyone! Even an offered help. Great video. I'll be back.
@Claudia-lq3ns24 күн бұрын
My goodness, I truly hope she leaves him and "breaks the cycle." Especially after she said that her father has always cheated on her mother. Please leave him for the kids' sake 😢
@youheartmel11 ай бұрын
Janelle, girl please leave him. You deserve better. There are good men out there who serve and protect their marriage and family. I’ve been cheated on and *not once* did I think, “what did i do wrong?” I left the day I found out… Don’t catfish him if you’re going to just stay. You’ve seen it play out with your parents. Find your dignity and FREE yourself of this misery.
@rubyx210211 ай бұрын
She’s just like me fr
@KissingTheCook11 ай бұрын
@@rubyx2102Then wake up baby. You are gonna be 10 years down the road and looking back knowing you're in exactly the same place you are now.
@rubyx210211 ай бұрын
thx girl but it was just a joke since she catfished her man @@KissingTheCook
@gwenj541911 ай бұрын
It's not that easy when you have children and you are talking about totally disrupting their lives too.
@schokococoa57511 ай бұрын
@@gwenj5419are their lives not already disrupted??
@TAMMY022011 ай бұрын
FYI....Everyone knows your relationship is not perfect, he cheats too much ,your friends and associates dont know how to tell you they know about it.,he probably has tried to cheat with them.
@thecramptons11 ай бұрын
Wow..ur probably right
@christinegraham25795 ай бұрын
“He cheats too much”? Cheating once, is too much
@Ressa95 ай бұрын
You are right! I wasn’t on social media much until I got divorced. I was amazed at the amount of married men who messaged me 😢. They are by far the most persistent and you have to block them. I really am not sure I could trust a man again. I understand this isn’t every man but it’s really hard out here
@d.j.guillory87315 ай бұрын
Holy Cow!!!!! I never dreamed of this kind of support when I went thru a divorce and am a DV survivor !! I wish you love, light, peace, and a promise that Joy is out there for you dear!!
@hanashable954 ай бұрын
Oh god I was in a marriage like this.. it’s exhausting. I want to hug her 😢 it’s so hard and heartbreaking and changes you forever!
@ginnyf593111 ай бұрын
Shes needs to be careful because chances are she is an emotionally abusive relationship. This same thing happened to me- once I started saying I was going to leave or fix this, the physical stuff started. 12 years later I am happily remarried with the best man ever. took awhile to mentally heal because he gaslit me on the texts and dating sites just like Janel.
@blueseptember217411 ай бұрын
Cheating husbands do tend to escalate to abuse
@Price890311 ай бұрын
True
@ShaareiZoharDaas6 ай бұрын
He will hit the wrong woman and be a statistic.@@blueseptember2174
@elettramia63804 ай бұрын
Cheating on your spouse IS emotionally and mentally abusive to begin with. Especially when you are a serial cheater, that is the greatest form of abuse
@vaska19994 ай бұрын
She's definitely in an emotionally abusive relationship: her husband cheats on her, lies to her, gaslights her, weeps tears of convenient momentary remorse, makes false promises. All of which constitutes pretty severe emotional and psychological abuse.
@privacyplease155611 ай бұрын
Fixable??? Why does she WANT to fix this?
@denisebacher50404 ай бұрын
I did the exact same thing with my husband. Made an account and went after him fiercely. I mean I was being myself but he didn’t even notice. He was so intrigued by this woman I created. After a few months I came clean. He got angry and I started to cry and pointed out *I * should be the one who was angry. He never really changed for the next 4 years we were together.
@semperfiyorkies60842 ай бұрын
Girl, once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better. Better than asking if your marriage is fixable when you did nothing to break it!!
@cathyosullivan71811 ай бұрын
It’s sad that people think it’s okay to have a spouse and family and have side pieces. How would he feel if she had partners on the side?
@user-jw1bl4hq9j10 ай бұрын
U would be surprised how many individuals on the internet are teaching men to cheat …..I found them …it’s unbelievable.
@ServantOfYHWH6 ай бұрын
Best comment ever. PREACH!!!
@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp6 ай бұрын
They would feel how Morris Chestnut felt in The Best Man! When Terrace Howard told him, “You’re ALWAYS stepping out, how would you feel if she got something on the side?” They can NEVER take what they dish out! Some men REALLY believe that no one else will want their wife SMH!!!
@vaska19994 ай бұрын
Data show that 75% of American husbands and 50% of wives cheat on their spouses at least once.
@coolaunt51611 ай бұрын
Four words: Run like the wind.
@LifehasnoNiche27 күн бұрын
I love her transparency. A lot of women deal with this, may she find peace and live her truth.
@Justthefurofus5 ай бұрын
Yep he said it. I’m worried for her for STDs. I knew a lady who was married and had two children with him and because he wanted a boy (and had two girls) he cheated and gave her an incurable disease. It was devastating for her and of course he eventually left her and that’s when she found out she was sick.
@kayn275611 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Throw away the whole husband. He has never been faithful to you from day 1. Nasty nasty nasty
@kiki1197411 ай бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@Veracityseeker77 ай бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@IslemTav11 ай бұрын
I lived through this. Wow. Incredible how similar our stories are. I left in 2020 in the middle of the pandemic and never turned back.
@simoneXox11 ай бұрын
I hope you're okay now ❤
@IslemTav10 ай бұрын
@@simoneXox Thanks so much! ♥ I am, and I've never been better. My family were incredibly supportive throughout the process of getting back up on my feet again. I could not have done it without them!
@aprilm442310 ай бұрын
Wow! You go, girl!!💪
@simoneXox10 ай бұрын
So happy for you ! Xx
@deeh51265 ай бұрын
There are so many of us who lived this. And we felt so alone and ashamed. But we were not alone and the shame belongs on the cheating/abusive party. I was fortunate and left just before the pandemic. Moved in with his parents, where they gave me and my kids a stable, supportive and safe place while I got on my feet.
@17tignau5 ай бұрын
I hate to see such a good women be wasted on a man who deserves much less
@brettmanning5017Ай бұрын
It’s mind blowing to me how many people come on here with a problem and it somehow reflects their parent’s relationships they experienced when they were a kid. History really does repeat itself
@deedeeblanscet443310 ай бұрын
My little sisters name is Janelle and her first husband was an absolute nightmare! He could charm anyone and had all of us fooled as he did and sold drugs, was involved in all kinds of illegal activity and on top of everything, had affairs and even has a son that is nearly as old as the beginning of her marriage. He ended up in prison, they divorced, and she’s been through so much but now she is married to a real man who remembers her from 3rd grade. He makes her feel so safe and he loves her unconditionally. I’m so glad she’s out!! And that’s what I hope for THIS Janelle. It won’t be easy but this is unbearably hard! God be with you and your children, Janelle.
@10tepeyac11 ай бұрын
My heart bleeds for this woman. She truly loves him and is a good good woman
@kaceyharms3135Ай бұрын
I will say this…… there are many bad marriages out there where no one cheats. It’s just a bad marriage. Janelle…. It’s not your fault. He’s got a brokenness you will never be able to fix. He has to do the hard work. I would love to hear her comeback story!! So many women need to hear a comeback story!! Give them courage.
@SilvermoonscorpionАй бұрын
She reminds me of my sister. Why would she want to save her marriage. Big hugs her. Hope she found the strength she's needs to do what's best for her and their kids.
@stephanie5797 ай бұрын
I never thought my husband was an amazing man with so much integrity … after being together 35 yrs I have recently found out he was in a 2 yr love affair … I now look at him as a very selfish, shallow and insecure man … he wants to workmen our marriage but I told him I will let you know my decision after I heal from your lies, deceit and betrayal 👍👍👍 I love me way more than him
@stephanie5797 ай бұрын
I meant I never thought my husband would cheat on me …
@nadirabajramovic74566 ай бұрын
My goodness I thought I was along but I see this happening everywhere after so many years of marriage I am at same situation trying to fixed my self first and go through this painful time starting therapy kind angry more at my self signs where right in front of me I just ignore them busy with other things and I believe his lies when I would ask a question Thanks
@elettramia63804 ай бұрын
He had a 2 year love affair that he got caught participating in. There nothing to heal from at this point besides the divorce. He is still probably having that affair and if Not it will be with another woman in the future. Also you only know of this 1 affair, who knows how many he’s actually had. Divorce him and leave!
@1Icyman4 ай бұрын
A man can cheat and still love his wife. He doesn't want a divorce. He still supports and protects his wife. When a woman cheats its a wrap. It's 100% done. The difference is the motivation and intentions. Men and woman are wired differently. Women can never fully understand what's it's like to be a man.
@chris-gx7rs4 ай бұрын
Why do you say that you love yourself more than your husband 😊
@Mike_Cosentino11 ай бұрын
This woman is simply awesome for this clever move and I wish her all the best. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
@garypeters282711 ай бұрын
Who hurt you?
@Mike_Cosentino11 ай бұрын
@@garypeters2827who hurt YOU, good sir?
@carllo376411 ай бұрын
@@garypeters2827cheater spotted😂
@texasgina11 ай бұрын
Mike you're right. It has nothing to do with the person they are with it's all about what's inside of their brain that causes them to constantly need attention from the opposite sex. They don't change. They will deny it until there's receipts to prove it. And then they will promise to never do it again and once the other person gets comfortable and starts trusting them again they do it again it's called the honeymoon phase. I've watched my daughter go through this and I've begged her and begged her to leave but she thinks it's her fault and she's gorgeous and she's super intelligent🤷🏼♀️
@venuselectrificata10 ай бұрын
@kanajingly8957I’m an example. I cheated on my first husband. Was immature in my early 20s just horrible decisions. Now I’m 40 in my second marriage and treasure my husband dearly. Learned my lessons for sure!
@lesliesnowdon849022 күн бұрын
You got to the part where she needs to tell her friends, and i started to cry. It opened up my journey to happy in my mind and the emotions just flowed. Telling her friends is hard because it is admitting the you were wrong and that you need help. They are two of the hardest things to do. Thanks for being there for her.
@angelawingard55615 ай бұрын
Dr. John, when you ask a mother "Do you work?", please say "Do you work out of the home?" Mothers WORK all day long! Love your show! Thank you for all you do!
@hopishadow5 ай бұрын
so true!
@melonie_peppers5 ай бұрын
He obviously meant financially smarty pants. She can't support herself if she decides to leave
@annelynch92173 ай бұрын
Not a hard conclusion to come to. I don’t know why this comment was even necessary. This man HARDLY degrades stay at home mothers, but it doesn’t pay the bills.
@susancassels5887Ай бұрын
🤗
@victoriaporsiempreАй бұрын
@@melonie_peppers why calling names? don’t be rude! 😡