Is It Time to Face Reality and Move On?

[@SMtWalkerS]

The woman with the rotten dad makes me appreciate my dad all over again. a WWII era man, stoic, few words, but was always there for us. A walk with him every day, a long hike every weekend. When I started showing interest in art, in archery, in horseback riding - no fanfare, supplies for the activity would appear in my room. When I worked night shifts, he would pick me up at the hospital at 2 in the morning to keep me safe. I miss him so much.

[@donnahobson9263]

I had a WII Dad, too. He was very supportive. We were very lucky and blessed.

[@SMtWalkerS]

@@donnahobson9263 Very lucky, indeed! Good men.

[@Alisha-nl9qh]

Divorced now, but I let my bridesmaids pick out their own dresses. The only thing I asked is that it was black and to the ground. My best friends dress was $10 from Goodwill, and she looked stunning. My pictures turned out great because they all picked something that flattered them.

[@Cashhhhew]

My best friend is getting married and this was her request. I’m so grateful to her for it 🙏 I got a gorgeous baby blue long dress that I can actually wear again! Only $75(:

[@Alisha-nl9qh]

@Cashhhhew it was actually pretty cool to see the dresses come together. I had no idea what my bridesmaids were going to look like, I didn't see the dresses until the day of, and they all looked so amazing and beautiful. It worked out beautifully, and it was way less stress to go that route. It was my hope that they would pick something that not only flattered them but something they could use again and again. I have no regrets on that part.... wish I could say the same about the marriage, lol.

[@memories-in-memphis]

My maid of honor had been in 5 weddings. I went over to her house and we picked out she already had. He uh

[@libertyordeath1953]

I did the same thing except my bridesmaids dresses were red. Each one picked something different and they all looked beautiful.

[@Lilymoo88]

I have been through the same thing as Claire. One of my exes kept using his depression as an excuse to blow up at me and stand me up on dates. Luckily I knew what was happening and left after 6 months of dating. Don’t stay in relationships where you’re the punching bag or the parent. Leave.

[@vickimerritt2832]

Be warned he will want a relationship when he is old, and needs a nurse or someone to exploit.

[@pulidobl]

This

[@dihe1392]

That's when you kick him 😂 or take the wheelchair away

[@Thespiritleads777]

Oh yeah, you nailed it to the wall. That’s coming for sure

[@Gemmarose9012]

It’s not hard to block all avenues. I have.

[@ModdyPuppets]

I dropped out of being a friend’s bridesmaid when the dress was gonna cost me $300…. $5,000??? In THIS economy???

[@MariaMautiDrake]

😂 “I’m this economy?!”

[@krystlesykes2623]

I paid for all my ladies and had great joy making them feel beautiful and valued. Together, we had the best day! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@deborahbrown555]

Claire, run don’t walk away from this! Been there and done that. Tried for 31 years with no results. It takes two whole people to become one. This is one place where two halves or any other combo don’t make one whole!💕💕

[@dianagabriela3287]

I applaud the Dad. My older kids, 12 & 13 yrs old are officially the only ones out of their friends groups and cousins of similar age that don’t have a smart phone. How we have gotten to the point where most parents give into giving their tweens phones 😏 can’t comprehend.

[@vickimerritt2832]

I dealt with Jeckle/Hyde spouse for 37 year that used me as an emotional punching bag and always gaslighted me that it wasnt that bad during those abuse me and push me pull me crud, extremely impossible to flourish or raise our children properly in those enviroments. I was changed, they were changed and he became the perpetual center of attention. His response when confronted was to escape or ostrasize us as if we were the problems, in his denial of the issue coming from him he killed us off. I should have left sooner, but had false hope he would change. He did, but always for the worse. he still refuses any accountability for his behaviors that so changed us all from who were meant to be.

[@caroldorsett8170]

Run run fast

[@tracyjonse9592]

I too lived this life for 27 years. You are not alone. I think there are so many of us. Continue to be strong and remember who you were prior to this and hopefully you will find some peace.

[@elaineventer9531]

@@tracyjonse9592 I was in it for 11 years.... and finally reached my breaking point. When I told him it was over, he attempted suicide, not even his family would help when I asked for it... that part was sad.. he did 4 months after coz he stopped dialysis... I sometimes feel sad it worked out that way but he was not the listening type, apparently narcissists don't listen, and that was it. He made the choice to do what he did. When I tried to explain to him how I felt he flew off the handle and turned it around to be my fault.

[@annabeltemple230]

Love your content. Also, laughed so hard with you, and in total agreement, with your response to the wedding bridesmaid expenses question. Similarly, with wedding gifts. I remember us literally printing on our wedding invitation RSVP response cards, "Gifts respectfully declined. The greatest gift that you can give us, in celebrating our marriage, is the treasure of your company."

[@Jarcano8]

Love your podcast Dr. John. You always seem to say something that I value and can gain insight from. Thank you.

[@sandrawaier3231]

Thank you! Totally agree about the debacle that weddings have become! And with what Kelly that it's become more about the wedding - one day - than the marriage!

[@olivias2836]

The wedding culture has gotten out of control and John is so right- people are doing it ALLL for the Instagram/social media/ photos. I’m in one of my best friends weddings and between the bachelorette weekend, traveling, all the events, hair, makeup, dress etc I will have spent around $2,500-3,000. I’m most definitely able to afford it and am happy and excited to do it but I’ve had to explain to the bride on multiple occasions that she can’t be offended if some of her bridesmaids can’t afford to participate in all the activities, hair, makeup etc

[@FreeSpirit47]

The bride knows this. Many brides want what they want & anyone who isn't onboard is wrong in most brides thinking. Because of all the hype & out of control expense, I have declined to be a bridesmaid in a few weddings. The narcisstic "look at me" + "look at my perfect life" that so many people chase & overspend on is so ridiculous, I won't participate. I am happy for the people in their celebrations, I give them a nice gift. Sometimes they hold a grudge until a couple years later they realize how ridiculous it all was. Mostly, the celebrants understand with little to no hard feelings. I have the money for all the destination weddings, clothes, hair, makeup, etc. It seems like a big waste, to me. I have never said that, it would be rude of me to say it. I do think it a lot. The two weddings where the bride was gracious, the groom was happy about the festivities & the couple stayed happily married were my sister & my youngest daughter. My sister & her husband married in a park, under an arch of simple greenery. It was beautiful! They clearly loved each other so much. Tragically, she died just 2 years later. It was over 10 years ago, her husband still mourns. My youngest daughter's wedding dress was home made. I used to make custom wedding dresses so, my youngest daughter & eldest daughter had the dress of their dreams + more. My youngest daughters actual wedding ceremony was very small & private. She had 2 receptions in 2 different states. The people who attended her second wedding reception were unable to travel for financial or health reasons. She & her husband love those people so much they were willing to pay professionals to put it together. I wanted to do this for them & they were so appreciative. My daughter & her husband are still very happily married, 7 years & counting.

[@bufficliff8978]

I've spent between $50 and $1,000 being a bridesmaid and MOH. My favorite time being MOH was at the most expensive wedding. My least favorite time being bridesmaid was at the cheapest wedding. Cheaper wedding is more stress. At the more expensive one everything was taken care of, so we could focus on the bride, the day, and when anything was about to go wrong it was handled. At the two cheap weddings the ceremony was late because the people involved were not prepped and didn't know how to pace things. 5k for a bridesmaid is WAY too much. But people who brag about how cheap their weddings were are obnoxious people whom I dislike 🤷‍♀️ One of my oldest friends would have had an absolutely lovey wedding but she had a boner of arrogance about being one of those people who "didn't care about the price tags" and would have a cheap wedding because she loved her man that much, and the day Lowkey sucked, and it ended with her in tears. If she'd let herself spend more it would have been better.

[@kellibuzzard9431]

The reality TV princess wedding is the focus rather than the marriage, it seems.

[@brandyk]

Re the bride situation, did this woman never watch Bride Zillas? Unless her friends are all extremely wealthy ( for example if the bride is holding back the fact that she is an A list Hollywood celebrity and she's friends with similar folks that is a big ask of people. The fact that she's not quite sure n had to ask John this is very revealing in a bad way. I'm guessing someone already told her it's her and she wants to get another opinion. Well I guess she got it. This would be insensitive even a few years ago but especially in today's economy. It wouldn't surprise me in the least if they did studies n found women like this were far more likely to be divorced. Men who marry women like this are not thinking clearly. This is a huge red flag I'm so many ways. The only thing I can say about having all of my close friends of 10-25 years bail on me at the worst time in my life when I was 40-42 n beyond bc that only made it worse was that I never was put in the position of having to spend anything even close to that on their wedding whether i was in the bridal party or merely attending as a close friend as they had sisters and sister inaws who were chosen to be in the bridal party. I was never hurt as far as I was concerned I was saving some money at least. Most got married in early to mid twenties and we all still lived in our home state so that was easy but few got married a decade later and I had to drive back but no biggie. I only had one friend who had a destination wedding in FLA rather than back in our old state of NY or his current state of NJ which of course made it far more expensive for everyone but he understood I couldn't afford to go. They had good reason to have it there bc she had lived in CA n Indiana so her friends and family would have had to travel anyway so might as well go somewhere really nice. Today with the way even more women burn relationships n stop talking to people very quickly n don't try to work things out even with parents at times,it's beyond foolish to spend this much money for just one friend's wedding. Once you do it for one it's hard not to do it for others. Even this bride may feel she spent nearly that much on one of their weddings. But she should have said that.

[@margaretmartine9430]

Oh man… my twin boys got their iPhones at 14, they were the last ones from their friend group. They do have all sorts of parental controls on the devices, but it’s still too much to handle, and we did talk about all the dangers and responsibilities. These things are sooo addictive.

[@JennieC21]

Dr John saying “you can do the right thing but it still hurts really bad” I felt that! The weight is real 🥺 Mine is a really long story but I too chose to step away from both my parents, for my own wellbeing and to protect my heart… my heart still hurts🥺❤️‍🩹

[@caroldorsett8170]

Caller 3. They are scary and never change period. Please move on while you can run run fast.

[@ShanLynn7]

Sending my love and hugs out to Erika!! I feel your pain about disconnecting from family and truth on it gets harder, but after a year of setting boundaries I never thought I could, has absolutely brought me peace. This is about you girl, this is about not people pleasing anymore, this is about choosing you and your mental health ❤😊. Reach out if you wanna girl talk this thing. ❤️🙏🏻

[@brightpage1020]

As a mom... I see how addictive, let alone how dangerous these devices are. My daughter is 10 and wants a phone of her own. Many of her friends have them. Would I hand my daughter a crack pipe? That would take her on a ride through the tenderloin? No. Nope. Not happening. I'll ask her to watch her friends with phones for 5 years and see how they all wind up. Dare her to just hold off and wait. As a kid, I knew the dangers of drugs and alcohol waaaaay before I knew the benefits.i knew the harm and the pain so often surrounding them. So I held off as long as I could as a prude... And avoided the experimentation that seemed culturally normal at the time... Until college, and even then, I was slow to swing in. Best thing I ever did was wait until my brain had a chance to mature a little bit. And watch. Just watch and wait. And see. Where folks wound up after 2 years, 5 years... Eventually 20. I got in but I got out probably slower than I should but I knew going in already where and who to call for help... And how to recognize the signs that I'd need it. My special needs 6 year old is constantly trying to steal my jeep. He thinks the fact that he can ride a Power Wheels around the yard qualifies him with the equivalent of a drivers' licence. But he really wants to drive. Like really. And has a stubborn fit and will punch me and scratch, bite, kick me to get his way when I stand between him and that car. I have to hide my keys. That's still easier than risking the inevitable harm letting him have his way would bring. Smartphones = risk of inevitable harm for 10 y/os, especially girls.... No.

[@alyceecampbell9995]

Thank you for doing this show I gives me life.

[@pulidobl]

Woman with depressed/anxious boyfriend - DO NOT MARRY HIM. I would move on. You will be avoiding a very big mistake in your life!!!

[@SMtWalkerS]

Agree! That is what dating is for - to get acquainted and see if you want to go further. Sometimes you don't need a giant billboard to read the signs of problems.

[@SludgeMan90]

So people who struggle with depression and mental health aren't worthy of love?all of the other facets who they are mean nothing and those who love them should just leave them and move on? What a callous and careless thing to say.

[@KVW110]

My wedding and divorce COMBINED didn't cost that much! And my next wedding(should I ever marry again) will be even cheaper!

[@beebeelicious]

To the woman with the "depressed" partner please leave him, this is abuse and it will wreck you!❤❤❤❤

[@Poohbear0340]

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[@Poohbear0340]

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[@suebarnard1734]

Please get yourself some help!

[@lisacraft9929]

The first caller should watch the old movie Double Standard It's the true story of a judge that had 2 wives and 2 families. His original family didn't know about the second family for YEARS. The judge lived in fear of being caught for YEARS too.

[@pulidobl]

My maternal grandfather did this. His other family was overseas. Just found out a few years ago. I‘m 66yo. People suck…

[@rose8662]

​@@pulidobl I'm so sorry that happened to you!

[@brandyk]

So sorry to hear this and really felt badly for this woman too n John's words n advice seemed very appropriate. I'm not saying he has to beat up on her Mom too but seriously she is a big part of how this woman feels now. Our choices have consequences. The mother should feel guilty if she knew the man she was dating n eventually slept with was married. She too is a homewrecker. Sorry John.

[@ritawallace-reed7500]

I remember the 'Double Standard' movie. The things supposed responsible adults do to their families.

[@caitlinhanson5666]

Can we please clip the end about weddings and make it go viral lol

[@bronsonisaboss]

Ive been in quite a few weddings and i hace always found it stupid that anyone would ask for their loved ones to pay anything at all. Gifts, suits, dresses, etc. Its your wedding. You want me in it. You pay. I just got engaged a week ago. Our wedding is going to be so different that guests will actually have a good time.

[@pamelavesey6381]

Erica. Its nice u got to know him. Has he ever offered you financial support??? How little are you willing to accept from him, to keep this person who does not care about you, in ur life?

[@Buckeye.belle330]

The conversation of children having smartphones needs to happen everywhere. My daughter is 3 and I have another one on the way in a week, neither of them will have smartphones. The family computer will be in the central part of the house and they won't be allowed to use school issued electronics without supervision. No questions about it.

[@randombullify]

I would buy multiple colorways of a "Stop Living Life for Instagram" t shirt. Just saying.

[@Bamifun]

Walk away, girlfriend. Don’t be a fixer. Find someone who is already relatively ‘fixed.’

[@patriciasmith8334]

I love how Dr. John didn't mince words about the depressed bipolar boyfriend. Neither of these conditions are a pass to treat people like crap. While you may be depressed you can learn how to manage your relationships and communicate effectively. Her boyfriend isn't showing respect for her feelings especially since he knows his yelling and cursing is a trigger for her.

[@Superrradical42]

Let me gather my brides maid dresses. Oops, they’re all in the trash.

[@jennyjunemoon-walker8739]

Claire, I'm sorry lady. I think it took me 40 years to learn to avoid the males who's potential I was in love with. Leave him. Please.

[@biznachos1]

With my dad, when I slightly criticized him, it meant no contact forever..

[@vickimerritt2832]

I got married in 1978 in the JPs office in a 60 dollar dress, with i bff maid of honor and a Brookshires bouquet. Lasted 37 years, my first his 3rd. sad to see it end but necessary at the time. It ran its course.

[@brandyk]

You married someone who was married twice before???

[@beastshawnee]

I am sooo pissed at the callers Dad who pretended he didn’t even know her sometimes. My gawd-how painful! Hon-don’t ever give that man another minute of thought if you can help it. My Dad was a covert violent psychopath with no diagnosis back when he was in charge of 2 small children. I knew he was crazy by age 4- and I hated him by age 7. He and Mom insisted he loved me but clearly that was not true-his many attempts to murder me absolutely negate that for one thing. He thought of me entirely as a possession and a toy and a kid to beat when he was mad at the world- so 2-8 times daily. I tried to save my family and out a good face on everything and fix up what I could for 50 years. Then one day I had my fill. Mom aske me to apologize to him for a glance of irritation I gave him when he interrupted me speaking with my niece …She wanted me to apologize to my extreme abuser. And so I said I was never gonna see him ever again and she was also on no contact until he died. Now he is dead and the world is a tiny bit safer and I just felt relief! No guilt at all. No regrets at al. I have seen mom at community events a few times but yhe one time we tried to do anything-she kept talking about my dad as if he were some man o f honor. no. She is very very low contact. My only regret with her is that she is missing out because she messed up and never protected us. She actively participated sideways by saying things like “did you clean your room good enough?” Now I understand that she did that to feel in control when she wasnt. So now I see She wasn’t just neglectful but she was also abusive. She just got him to fo the dirty work. And then she always transferred the blame to us kids. “If you Kids hadn’t been pushing his buttons all day… Whatever. The man was made out of buttons. He could be triggered into a rage by a sigh, a swallow, a shrug…anything. Buttons on a bomb. Crazy. No contact felt so amazing the day I realized I felt freer and NOT more guilty…but Less. A few years from now you may choose differently if you feel forgiving JUST be aware…He may paint you as the bad person to everyone to make his guilt feel lesser and you still need to guard yourself against him. He is also gonna prefer his male child…This is what these misogynists do. It sucks. Hopefully your brother and siblings will appreciate your perspective as well someday.

[@CaliCoast805_lovin_life]

😢❤thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry this happened to you. Good vibes and love sent your way.

[@laurao8099]

When I hear color palette I think they mean they want everybody in the wedding party 2 pick something that matches a variety of colors that they have in their wedding. I don't think anything's wrong with that I think that one is completely reasonable. Because you can buy really cheap clothes usually in almost any color palette

[@traceycurtis1005]

She didn't say he cussed at her. In my family, we can have a crap day and raise our voice and cuss about what happened, but it's not at the other person. It's just opening up about our feelings towards the day/situation. Edit: also got married for less than 2000 and still happily married 14 yrs later.

[@RepentImmediately]

She said he's short and cold with her and also curses.

[@k.l.massie8702]

She said he yelled and swore at her. Maybe you're just hearing it the way you wanted to hear it to justify your type of family.

[@margaretmartine9430]

If I were the woman with the cowardly father, I’d sent that 3rd letter to him. Why protect him?

[@brandyk]

Yes Ive heard about this letter writing thing for a long time but never heard it explained as well as John does n also several letters he recommended at time such as letters to your past n future self. I'm not sure I always go along with the idea of not sending them. In some situations n for some people it might be quite appropriate n healing. I do think that while doing the extremely difficult and emotional task of writing it is better done with the belief that you're not sending it. Allows you to be more honest and raw n not censoring oneself. But after that and maybe even a month or two or years later I don't see anything wrong with rereading it. Perhaps crossing out or deleting a few lines or words n sending it. I'm just not sure on this. I imagine there are pros and cons but I think this advice has just been passed down for so long no one challenges it. I'd love to see someone like John or others do a segment on this. Prayers to this young woman. She was living in a fantasy world and while it hurts to finally give it up in the long run I think it's the right thing. I also loved his advice n clarification in the beginning before even hearing how awful the father has been all these years. Yes you don't have to feel remorse or regret you can just do what you need to do for your own emotional n psychological health when people are treating you a certain way. People and society in general will.often try to guilt trip you so she is probably understandably falling victim to that type of thinking. So true that doing the right thing n the healthy thing will not come without a cost.

[@Stillpril]

The dad should Catfish the kid with the phone. Show her how it's done. She will never know if it's a kid or a pedo or her dad on the other end of the net. I'm only half joking. Maybe catfish the mom?

[@alleykeosheyan4779]

That's been done, and it's alarming how fast the kids on the receiving end fell for a fake profile and agreed to meet up with them! Get the kid a flip phone, that's all she needs to get in touch with parents, friends, etc. If her friends make fun of her for it, she doesn't need them, because they're not true friends.

[@sackettfamily4685]

Only thing is, it might be used against him. Would it worth going to court over? Maybe, but it might be too late.

[@VickieStreet-rs2xo]

Why do people hang on to people when it’s clearly not working

[@hillarybillary21]

Good D or seggs

[@hillarybillary21]

Or for kids with parents it’s love

[@jennyjunemoon-walker8739]

Fear

[@Alisha-nl9qh]

Why do I cry watching every episode?😂

[@laurao8099]

The first scenario so heartbreaking I think if someone was listening to that and did not cry then they probably need to get some therapy.

[@brandyk]

Because you are a decent human being with a heart n soul. Or you're peeling onions alot.

[@Alisha-nl9qh]

@brandyk strangely enough I don't "cry" when I cut up onions. Maybe because there is good air flow or because I intentionally don't hover over the cutting board.

[@latonyahylton8690]

What kind of bride asks her friends to spend $5000 on a wedding?? It's not their day. Are they getting a degree after spending $5000?? Cray Cray..

[@Fatheroftheyear12]

My wife and I were put in a similar situation earlier this year. Good friends of ours decided to get married in Italy and expected us to be there (with our first baby who was 9 months old) and all that was covered was 4 nights at the villa everyone stayed at.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Yeah that’s nuts! I’d just skip it.

[@S2K2121]

We had a destination wedding in Purto Vallarta . Sent the invites and left it up to our guests to decide with zero pressure from us. This ultimately gave us a super budget friendly guest count, which was the goal all along lol

[@vickimerritt2832]

wow, just wow bridezilla full of herself. Actually insulting. her poor hubby, talk about digging others gold. They are supposed to be your guests not your bank account.

[@Thespiritleads777]

I’ve only been a bridesmaid once, because the bride picked me due to me being a size 2. This bride who is asking her bridesmaid to pay $5,000 for a dress is the same kind of person, unless she and the bridesmaids are úber rich.

[@jessicajohnson8378]

Why would you even give a 12-year-old a phone I didn't get my first phone until I was 14 my mom told me that I couldn't get a phone until I was 14 she told me to wait until I was 14 and honestly that was the best decision that she ever made for me

[@francesdaly1284]

I'm the third of 11 siblings 6 girls and 5 boys and my father never had time for me so I cut him out of my life when I was 55 nine years ago he died in 2015 and I do feel bad sometimes but that's life 🙂🙂🙂

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

This second caller…yuck. Every kid, especially by 12, has a phone. I wouldn’t let my kid go to a friend’s house if she couldn’t have her phone…just last weekend, she called me, wouldn’t say a word, u thought, what is going on, speak kid. Then I realized and said, I have to come get you we’ve had a family emergency. When I got her home, she said nothing happened, she just wanted to come home….right there I have set a precedent, I will believe you, I will be here for you, I will get you no questions asked…PHONES ARENT ALWAYS BAD.

[@kellysmith7163]

John, you cracked me up on "Am I the problem"! $5k??? That's nuts!

[@catherineottilio3273]

Can't expect a rattlesnake not to bite you.Oh my god

[@kellibuzzard9431]

I was a bridesmaid in more than 20 weddings...😅

[@brandyk]

Lol the downside of being popular for sure.

[@vickimerritt2832]

they target adult females too. Is Dad a policeman? Take the daughter to speak with someone that works these child porn, trafficing rings in law enforcement. They have programs to age appropriate education youngsters. There are maybe work arounds, by parental controls, maybe.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Hmm the phone thing might be more that mom doesn’t understand the dangers online! I know this because I WAS that mom. My husband finally had to sit me down and actually SHOW me the porn and crap online that my little boys could find back when they were little ones. I just wasn’t aware of any of it. I didn’t use social media or anything like that and had absolutely no idea that sort of thing was available online until my husband showed me. I wonder if maybe this mother might not be aware?

[@flashthecorgi2053]

The mother is for sure aware. The dad caught her chatting with someone and then they took her phone away for awhile, 4 months later she got it back because she was showing good behavior!

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@flashthecorgi2053 I suppose, especially if they’re not communicating or the father isn’t articulating exactly what he’s afraid of. I mean I guess I was really sheltered and unaware of this sort of thing. But then this was 20 years ago and the world was a different place then.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@sarahalderman3126 That’s very true. I feel like the dad did communicate especially since he’s sees this in his line of work everyday. Also, she had to of been aware with the incident because she agreed to give them a phone with no internet until she got her smartphone back for good behavior!

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@flashthecorgi2053 yes, I suppose I’m just projecting my own ignorance on the matter… but I was truly shocked and utterly unaware that there were actually people online that could use pictures of random little kids for something like that. Never in a million years would I have imagined any of it. My husband knew this about me and didn’t want to “hurt” me by exposing me to the reality of it, but I am ever so grateful that he finally found the courage to share his worries with me. I can’t help but wonder if this father doesn’t know how to communicate his fears with his ex wife.

[@John-du2mq]

Mt question is, why wouldn't you just trust your husband and take his word for it for the safety of your children? Even if you didn't know, for a husband to say this is a terrible idea is probably something to take seriously.

[@AdrianClement]

On the topic of kids having cell phones. Do yall feel that even with age appropriate parental controls and time limits kids shouldn't have phones? I cant imagine my kids and i not being able to contact each other when we aren't together. My kids are not able to access the internet or chat rooms or social media or download apps or buy anything. They have limited time to play games that i approve. And yes it was crazy time consuming to set up the parameters. Part of me feels that if I make it completely forbidden then I won't have the opportunity to have conversations about the dangers and they will rebel and get into deeper trouble. As it stands we talk about not responding to texts they don't recognize. Not telling anyone their real name or where they live. But for the time being they just aren't able to even access things that would make them vulnerable. It feels like if I fabricate a world for them without devices how will they know how to use them properly? I model for them what being on your phone should look like. I use my device with intention and self control. Focused on learning and personal growth. We are a household with no internet, nonl wifi, no cable, no TV, and no radio. At least with a phone I can control what they are exposed to. I do not see the logic in no phones no matter what as being the answer. The time the spend on their devices is with me in the same room. The only issues we have had are sometimes a kids show talks about sorcery and witchcraft and that's when we tall about the spiritual dangers and we block that show. Do people really just hand their kids a phone with no parental controls like our parents did with TV during our childhood? We were exposed to everything. I feel like in so many ways it's gotten safer because we are aware and proactive now.

[@bilbobaggins4403]

You can control your thoughts? Or notice them?

[@kw3113]

Claire just dating for two years and your miserable. If you marry him yes it will feel like this and worse until you divorce him.

[@sunshinerose9747]

My stand point with my secret undisclosed "crush" I am not trying to change his situation I just want his "time"

[@dianagabriela3287]

Ugh, Claire! Run the other way, you have nothing tying you to him! You sound completely miserable.

[@arthurshat7793]

I don’t regret deleting instagram. At.all.

[@elizabethpeck3978]

Id love to vent to you but I really don’t have no idea where I would start I have so many questions it would take forever to get answers to everything I want to know?? Stay amazing though

[@juanarizmendez3479]

Sooo i cant related to this but ... i have a half brother (20 yrs ) i am 25 year old ... we dont talk like i do with my other half Siblings. We grew up with Addict mother and he left with his dad's side of the family .. government give him to his dad family.. i try to reach out but its really dry and i stop

[@ScottDaileyYOUTUBE]

That bridesmaid stuff cost more than my car!!!

[@ZiggyWhiskerz]

And talk to the mighty ERRIIICAAAA!!! me listening with this in the back ground. I'm sorry... What???!!! Huh??? Oh!

[@jilljoseph8648]

Still enjoying the show but what’s up with these unskippable ads?

[@theshunnedBandersnatch]

That's KZbin. They're trying to get more people to spring for premium by putting in more ads that creators can't change placement of, making ads unskippable and now using adblock detectors.

[@vickimerritt2832]

Am I the only one seeing pattern of repeat infidelity and wreckless procreation instigated by men?

[@jeradkiester698]

Reckless procreation is the choice of the mother.

[@barbiesergio7663]

Punched in the gut 7:05 too? 🥺🥺🥺

[@catherineottilio3273]

Wow, left.Because there's something wrong with him.I guess the supplies to a lot of ex husbands too oh my dear jesus thank you

[@KMH6290]

My whole wedding was $5,000 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@TheListKeepers]

sure is scary growing up in the 21st century damn

[@brandyk]

The bride in the last segment is on track to be the ex wife in the first call was it,with the father concerned about his 12 yr old daughter with snart phone n Mom as John said seemingly more concerned with being her child's friend n not wanting conflict. No one wants that and its important to pick your battles with kids entering teenage years but with Dad not wanting it n knowing alot about this from work, perhaps a police officer or some type of first responder etc it should have at least snapped her out of her thinking n get a better handle on her reasons. Not saying this is the case but it likely would with that bride but some Moms are living out their own dreams of social status that they achieved in high school or desperately wanted but didn't get thru their daughter. Ite understandable she does not want her daughter to be left out but there are ways to try to mitigate that n brainstorm with her daughter n her ex husband.

[@kathigratton2286]

Had a cheap second marriage 0$ Well the cost of our license and to file as well as my sister to get ordained. 100 maybe lol

[@SupaPinkix]

Lmao at 1:15

[@beckycurry7456]

They don't call you I've called 3 times and they still don't have the courtesy to call me back!!! And I'm suicidal 😂

[@NauticalPhasmid]

Hey, be sure to check in with a therapist in your area about the suicidal thoughts, and call the suicidal hotline if needed.

[@suebarnard1734]

Please you need to get help!

[@k4xxxminecrafter792]

Also- whatever kids or adults post could end up on the front page of the newspaper or as someone’s screen saver. Yuck