What to Do When Bad Relationships Get Worse

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- A man looking for advice on how to support his sister as she grieves her late husband
- A woman who tried to repair a rocky relationship with her family
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[@estefaniapena1533]

Jen, don't let a man tell you he doesn't want you twice.

[@stephengallagher2209]

She left him, asked for a separation... then she was miffed he wasn't celibate for 18 months? lol She is deluded. He got a younger, hotter model. Good for him.

[@22Steamboat]

Excellent perspective, “I don’t think it’s wise to fix the roof when the foundation of the house isn’t stable.”

[@palapalak.8907]

Very good analagy.

[@kelseysmith3297]

My favourite thing about my dad is when I am truly upset and heartbroken he just gives me a hug. No words. No extra fluff. I can snot on his shoulder until the cows come home. Once he asked if I want to talk about it. I said no. And I just got a bigger hug. That's what I needed.

[@jam20230]

Kelsey, you have such a wonderful amazing dad! Please send him my biggest regards. I pray that you and your dad and your family have a wonderful year and lots of blessings and health to you all.

[@nickabel8279]

Sounds nice. And you fixed whatever the issue was in a good time frame after? I've heard John say that caring is being honest and giving the hard truth. Letting those in need of help get buried and keep making mistakes is how you end up with children wanting body parts removed

[@xstevenx8132]

@@nickabel8279 I think that as a father, there’s not much more you can do for your kids, than show them unconditional uncritical love. A hug without words says I love you for exactly who you are, i’m behind you no matter what you’re going through and I’m here to comfort you whenever you need it. After a certain age kids are not going to listen to what you have to say, but they will take with them how you make them feel. It sounds to me like your father gave her the exact thing that she needed a deep emotional well to pull from.

[@reneet5858]

You're Dad is / was awesome He might have felt like he didn't know what to say, but he sure knew what to do!

[@elizabethmalone6379]

I had a beautiful grandad like that, who would just stand there for ages, while I clung on to him, when I came home from hospital, after not seeing anyone for weeks.. he was my hero..gentle giant ❤

[@bonjoursophie]

Jenn from Australia, PLEASE PLEASE scrape up the last of your dignity and get out of that situation ASAP. PLEASE RESPECT YOURSELF AND YOUR SON 🙏

[@brightpage1020]

To Jenn - And your ex! You broke up. That probably crushed him - you’re the mom of his kid. Then you left the country… then you came back to ruin the relationship he was enjoying so much he moved her in! Only to re-crush the chance at being with you again - with resentment you set yourself up for. He’s not the only one to fly by the seat of his pants here, but but he did take your feelings into consideration when he quit the other relationship he’d moved in (which probably would have wound up with another kid and become a roomie situation eventually, anyway - that’s who he is, after all). So… dignity or not, show some compassion and stop being so selfish about what the universe might be showing *you* and start thinking about your communication from his end. And your son’s. You didn’t want who he is in your relationship but didn’t want him to enjoy any other. You don’t get to have your cake and eat it, too. You can blame him all you want. He earned it by lying or not telling you openly about the other girl. That’s him. That’s who you chose. Stop punishing him for your choice to stay in it. Make a new choice. Take responsibility for yourself. Nobody’s holding a gun to your head to be there but you’re flip flopping is doing a damaging number on him and probably your son, who has been dragged into deception. So do yourself a favor and check out the negative effects your choices have not just on you, but on others around you. Is that the wake you want them to feel behind you!?

[@juliereis146]

Why is it that Jenn can break her covenant with her husband but the woman with the disabled husband can’t? Doesn’t Marley deserve to have her needs met to? Doesn’t she deserve the life and love of a equal partner? Why is Marley not worth “it”?

[@Jocelyn123rox]

@@juliereis146because the disabled husband has no say or choice. Also the til in sickness and in health is being disregarded

[@skaziblu]

Please don't say thats who he is after all, splits change people because they can see where they fuckdd up.

[@janellchavira916]

Yup..never gets better ,just escalates...hardest part is to walk away, but you're worth it!

[@oc2538]

The girl isn't the issue, her level of self esteem is the problem. He's done, he's stepped out. He's with another woman. He's literally moved on, brought another woman in the home and made your son lie. Doesn't sound like a good husband nor a good father. Run for the hills.

[@ts8024]

Jenn from Australia, he is not interested in a relationship with you.

[@MalloryNewcomb]

Really blown away by Dr John’s advice about helping the young man helping his sister grieve. Sounds like some of his very best advice. Also I love this little brother’s heart that he just wants to help his sister. Just that alone made me feel so good ❤

[@selmamartin8737]

Year two of widowhood is brutal. The numbness wears off and reality hits hard. Close friends and family are helpful. Thank you for being there for your sister.

[@novemberpepper9761]

Why is it ok for callers to draw boundaries but not ok for other family members? It’s great that Kay and her husband are now sober-her aunt has the right to not want them around her and her child. Boundaries go both ways!

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

True

[@chilltheheckoutwithava1454]

It’s because the aunt isn’t drawing boundaries for HERSELF, she’s drawing boundaries for the caller. Boundaries for herself would be: “if caller is there, my family and I will not be there” NOT “if my family and I are there, caller will not be there”. You don’t get to put boundaries on others.

[@mariapiwowarczyk8389]

He did say it though… She can choose to say it… just not to scream it

[@crow_feather]

Man...my heart really goes out to the man who lost his brother-in-law. I lost one of my closest friends to suicide. I still mourn his death, and he's been gone for over a decade. This guy is being an incredible brother to his sister. I really wish him, his sister, and everyone mourning healing in whatever way is the absolute best for them. My love and prayers to them all. ❤️

[@distorbia20]

Kay you will only understand the pain you have caused or how manipulative maybe you came across when you were an addict. Just continue to be sober and give your family time. You can’t rush their healing and acceptance. Kay is looking to rush the process. Girl you run back to a dude who was abusive. Also you were hard to deal with. Imagine how your parents and family felt when they had to put you in rehab. Lock you away.

[@hansendesigns]

the SECOND he requires that MY CHILD keeps secrets from me, that guy’s done!! He could just tell her the coward!! how do you consider the guy who put your son in a spot to lie and/or hide his fathers COWARDLY lies??

[@elizabetha8565]

Regarding the last call I think if the aunt called and said the same story I think John would have said no don't go near that guy you have to keep those kids safe. I feel for the Dad that tried so hard he must feel like a failure.

[@crow_feather]

Yeah...I have to say, as an abuse survivor, I was really taken aback by John's giving this girl the support for her to stay with this guy. There is absolutely no guarantee that he won't hit her again, and even if he never lays a hand on her in the future, there's still the emotional implications of her learning to love herself enough to not stay with a man who would ever do that to her. My heart goes out to the father as well for all of the reasons you mentioned. John's an awesome guy, and usually I absolutely love the advice he gives to people, but I was really shocked by his advice on this one!

[@soul1380]

People don't always turn to drugs, alcohol and sex/ cheating because of childhood trauma. Sometimes peer pressure is a very real thing and kids cave to it. Sometimes this pressure creates the trauma. We can see the epidemic of mental crisis on the youth today, via social media right now.

[@LoudUpstairsNeighbor]

I'm glad you say this...this was my story but every therapist I went to kept asking if I was touched as a kid or physical abused as a kid. It let me down several more of years of bad addiction with no help. Luckily I ended up finding an awesome rehab center that didn't blame everyone else for my problem and helped me not have horrific shame.

[@aliciacarstensen7904]

On the other side of the coin I had quite vile abuse ass a child and having to testify which is just as traumatic. I can't tell you how many unethical therapists I had because they thought they could easily violate my boundaries because of my past. Now I see a psychiatrist for my meds and that's it. My healing comes from nurturing my relationship with my 2 grown kid and my best friend and my dog. I do things that make me happy like walking my dog, cruising town in my car jamming to my tunes, creating art,watching fave movies and going somewhere new. Also staying single so someone isn't trying to change me or control me. All the above is far better than any words that come out of a therapists mouth annd charge $200 for

[@gingergann3934]

Tim, I appreciate that you're being there for your sister. Good for you. Thank you - from a survivor (not from suicide) of a spouse that died.

[@jenniferhuerta9824]

Kay 😭 poor baby girl!!!! And I’m speaking to her as the broken little girl. That’s when she needed someone to save her. Not just when her arm got broken.

[@breannabaldridge6547]

Exactly 😢 poor Kay!

[@pear_jules4013]

To the last caller; acceptance was the answer to all of my problems. And the Serenity Prayer. You know these things. Put them into practice. You are not alone. 🙏🏻

[@AshleyLebedev]

Jen from Australia. I’m doing this to my beau. Let’s do it together. You’re not alone in this world even when you think you are. You don’t ever know the other warriors doing these things at same time, and some of those warriors truly succeed. Let go & let your healing TRULY begin. You haven’t TRULY lived for yourself in so long. Say I’m done. Because you will never be happy if you don’t love yourself again. You are unhappy cuz you are not You are not YOU ARE NOT happy. And who would be in such a bogus situation! The only reason that you’re even wanting him is because he treats you like you treat self & show up for self. That’s not attractive. You’re just afraid to leave. He asked why you couldn’t respect yourself more and you said so HE isn’t mad at me. Like THAT IS NOT SELF CARE. Find your value love! YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS & BEING CHOSEN & TO LIVE A LIFE YOU ARE PROUD OF. Nothing you have ever done makes you that expendable. I’m leaving my beau of 4 years and it’s taken me AGES! But when someone doesn’t choose you you have to CHOOSE YOURSELF. There is a little girl inside of you who is so heartbroken that you will not love her any better than she was loved as a little girl. And you are passing this to next generation. He may be nice, so is my ex. But he doesn’t respect me and it’s taken me TWO YEARS to realize WHO CARES, I’ll meet my own needs and now that I’ve pulled away he runs back but you can’t do it for that reason, you gotta just CHANGE your own life for YOU & not go back. For YOU. What if you actually restarted a new life that actually made you feel SO LOVED. And SO SEEN. And so beautiful & seen & chosen. That can be AHEAD OF YOU. Much of your sadness isn’t even him anymore. It’s that you lost trust in yourself & your choices. It’s that you feel so unhappily powerless in the situation you stay in. And that last part isn’t cuz you love the relationship that you stay, it’s because you are scared that you won’t be ok or can’t do this alone. BUT HONEY, HEAR ME FROM MY HEART: YOU CAN!

[@SouchiMousy]

Thank you. This advice is mandatory, I feel. You never know until you find out, how the grass may actually be greener on the other side. In situations like this, you need to take care of you. Everyone needs to be reminded of this! We are all deserving of love, but if it hurts and hinders more the help should be for yourself.

[@AshleyLebedev]

@@SouchiMousy 🧡

[@dachater1]

Great perspective!

[@lisehrby2565]

Thank you ❤ i'm leaving after 4 ys too. It too took me atleast 2 ys to finally be done. I have to own up to that fact, that his cheating, his verbal abuse, pushing me so i fell 3x, his lying and general non affection could only happen cos i let it by staying and hoping and seeing the potential in him. I tried to save his little Boy inside but abandoned my own little girl. That's tough realization 😢

[@jes13rodriguez]

​@lisehrby2565 I'm in the exact situation it sounds like

[@christinapetersen5311]

It’s me…I, I’m the problem, it’s me… or it…It’s Me I, I’m the dark one,“It’s me”.

[@sweetstorm7652]

When bad relationships get worse, You get out asap. That’s it, no but, what , if… unless you enjoy the drama of it all. Some people do love the chaos and adrenaline, no judgement…

[@ludoludo80]

Exactly !

[@cg741graf5]

Save your son from this. Walk away and show him a better way to live, relate, and parent. 😢

[@lav7161]

Kay has to somewhat put herself in her dad's shoes. Imagine she had a daughter and the boyfriend sent her daughter to the ER and then she went back? What a slap on the face. She's not taking any accountability of how that would make her Dad feel. She just wants forgiveness and she wants it now!

[@SouchiMousy]

I heard it too, however, I also heard someone lost as to what to do, as well. What do you do when you're stuck and don't know how to escape? Maybe it's best to separate from the trauma, and heal first.

[@MercurialSaturnian]

Sure, if he was a good father in the first place

[@caitlynryder8639]

If I'm honest, I think it's pretty bratty of her to give her dad a hard time. She put herself in a crap situation, he comes in to rescue her and she's got her nose out of joint because he was overbearing and strict. She's an addict.

[@chaboi7]

​@hottea6512 sure bud, if I had a daughter and some guy broke her arm and sent to to the hospital the police would have to come and get him before the ambulance came for him too, if anything the dad wasn't harsh enough, I was a drug addict for 7 years of my life yet I never got violent enough to break someone's arm, much less a woman and MUCH LESS MY GIRL!

[@27Marlo]

Amazing grief support advice! My mom and grandma died years ago. My world was turned inside out. Those who were most supportive did some of the exact things Dr. John said. ❤

[@rubyb7252]

8:58 my husband and I have been married for about a year now, and we've had versions of that type of conversation. When I hear stuff like that brought up, I kinda chuckle because we're confused as newlyweds but we've got the spirit hahaha

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

I never had a struggle with bedtime with my kids, even as toddlers they put themselves to sleep…I think parenting isn’t that deep…just love your kid. Now that my kids are older, we recently had a talk about how we parented, they were grateful…I think it was actually more difficult to parent like that.

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

If there was ever a girl I felt for, it was the last caller, she has been through a lot!

[@laurao8099]

I love love love love love the advice of lett her direct the feeling/grieving! I'm not sure about everybody else but when I have lost someone who's close to me I go through a myriad of emotions I might be really upset but then the next day I might want to just laugh about funny stories or experiences we may have had another day I may be mad and I think it does a world of good to just walk someone with them through this roller coaster of emotions when someone dies

[@jen9015]

Kay, great job getting sober. Keep on keeping on. Best of luck to you and your husband.

[@kaylafyi]

Just found this channel and I love the advice you give these people it's exactly what they need to hear to hopefully get through their situations!!

[@MugglesUnited19]

It’s the how do we want our life to feel that gets me every time.

[@YY-ei1gm]

Love this man. I love his insight. So motivated by him.

[@tanyagiacchina492]

Always good stuff Dr John. Thank you

[@AshleyLebedev]

To Kay: I just want to say sometimes families need to violate kinship to show how much something goes against their belief in something. Both sides of your family are understandable. His side is understandable. My cousin was a meth addict & at some point after trying to save him for years, my aunt cut him off. I could never do that but she hit her wall & sometimes children refuse to wake up for “love” I feel your pain because I’ve had to cut out my entire family. They are truly unremorseful shite people. But I just also want to say sometimes when our family isn’t there we settle for awful love elsewhere (I’ve done this so much to myself) - So plz just start respecting & loving self, no matter where that is. Please make sure your partner is a good partner. When we are not well loved it’s easy to lie to self (not saying he’s bad, just hold self accountable to check in) Stop waiting for family to change. The hard reality is sometimes they don’t. I had to write mine off so many times over years and I really have learned the hard way. Also, look up everything you can on anxious preoccupied attachment style (and attachment styles) and see if you are anxious preoccupied. You don’t have to keep saving everyone. It’s what we do our whole lives when we had to cater or save our parents. It will make you sick one day with terrible illnesses if you live the rest of your life with that thought process never leaving your head. It’s exhausts the system. Make beauty where you can. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST SECOND AND THIRD. CHOOSE THAT WHICH TRULY FEELS LIKE FREEDOM. To you; not to anyone else.

[@emmydallvechia6941]

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[@chaboi7]

Imho the girls boyfriend is lucky dad didn't go looking for him when this happened, you dont go hurting someone's daughter like that.

[@rozfisher2182]

I love that you're a Swiftie, you're the best!

[@SouthBayTri74]

Hey! I've been to Perth! Love that place. I met an amazing girl there and lost her information on my kayaking trip. Haha

[@crow_feather]

Completely random question...but is Dr.Delony growing either a goatee or mustache?

[@France149]

Sht up, yeah!? Wow harshhhh tension , shock on 🙌🙌🙌🙌 who knew to sa less in therapy sims . Yikez

[@moisesvillasenor3302]

Hello There

[@Magical_Makeup_UK]

She’s still in love with him obviously 😢

[@territ1231]

Its not love. She loves who she wants him to be!

[@SouchiMousy]

@@territ1231 It hurt, but you can love someone and not LIKE them either If he's shown you how you'll be treated, and you don't like it, find someone who will. Also, find that for yourself, anyway.

[@stephengallagher2209]

Let us just note, Jen asked for a separation, and abandoned her family, husband, child, left the country. Now she wants him back, as she sees him with younger, hotter, more fertile options. She is a fool.

[@beastshawnee]

Or was she near suicidal with this already cold man?

[@beastshawnee]

But no woman is thinking about other women like that-LOL. Please never write female characters-You just cannot!

[@Christian-gb8zf]

All these abused women calling in from Australia 👀 I think this is the 4th call I’ve heard this week from there

[@brandyk]

Re the first caller from Australia, notwithstanding the complexities of being from kne country but eventually making your life n having children' in her case her son in another. Obviously COVID had some bearing but this jas clearly been a marital issue for some time. I must have missed the part where they are even thinking of getting back together just bc she moved back to the country and allowed her to stay in the home. She called saying she wasnt sure how to get over what he did during the 18 month separation but that seems to not be the core issue. She then goes on to say they both said they had no intention of changing anything so exactly why did they separate n why js she even considering staying with him if he is even giving her that chance. I suspect that some of these stories hit me a hit differently bc i was never married or had kids, as on my day it was expected to only do the second within the confines of the first. And also im reasonably responsible and would not dream of bringing a child into the world that i could not fully support or who would not have the benefit of a two parent household. That said John never asked her if she works and what her lifestyle n financial situation would be without him. Dont expect her to come right out n say it even anonymously.on a radio show and some dont even acknowledge it to themselves but many women even during the past 30 plus years not knly get married for financial reasons but certainly stay for it. It may sound like she doesnt have a spine or has low self esteem etc n even she when pressed said that like a lot of callers she has a history. Fair enough but if she won the lottery tomorrow would she still even be considering staying? Money of course cannot buy everything and some people really want companionship even if it's not exactly great. I wish we would get away from the idea that there is someone better out there that people will miraculously find once they leave. That is so not true but it also doesn't mean that people should stay for that reason. Its a gamble but it doesnt have to look a certain way for it to be the right decision. There is a price to be paid either way n their are pros n cons. For me im too genuine a person to jse someone so going it alone made more sense but if course its not been easy. Re the 2nd caller what a wonderful brother not just to care but to go out of his way to try to learn best way to go about it. Why just wing it when theres so much information out there these days. Of course every situation is different so tailor it,( i wouldnt necessarily recommend him telling other people to back off including mother n other older relatives just lead by example or if going to don't be that abrupt) Wish this guy was my brother..

[@Nat-lg2ks]

I didnt know we can call you for advise from Down Under!! 😂

[@tinam761]

Kay, please be careful when it comes to the “fawning” Dr. D was talking about. That is something I have done since a child to try to stay safe while being abused & I carried that into adulthood. It seems your Aunt is controlling and possibly being abusive at this point. I understand addiction from the point of a parent. (My son is in active addiction… 14yrs) So, I know all that comes with it. Sometimes family members can get angry on my behalf because my son has put me through the ringer and they see the toll it has taken on me. I am 💯positive that you are not fully aware of the stress, fear and pain caused when you were using and getting sober. Your Aunt does remember though … you hurt her brother. You and your husband are sober now and have turned your lives around… there may be some making of amends to happen and then it’s up to your Aunt to forgive. Writing a letter may be a good idea and then that’s it. She doesn’t get to punish you for the rest of your life. Consider getting a therapist to help navigate your relationship with your Dad & Step Mom … maybe they can come in with you for a session to help figure out some boundaries with the Aunt. Write a letter to your Dad and Step Mom and thank them for sending you to rehab AND you up. Honestly… you must know ALL of it was necessary. That is what was needed to GIVE YOU the best opportunity for getting well. You 💯 needed to be away from ANYONE that could have any potential to influence your sobriety in a negative way. Your Dad was RIGHT. He maybe saved your life. I wish you well in your future. Make amends, give them a little space and move forward. Accept responsibility… however don’t live in guilt and shame. That is the past you. I’m so happy you are here … ❤ sober and improving your life.

[@ludoludo80]

why is the aunt should be forced to forgive her or accept how she acted with her brother ? Kay is talking like everything is ended and everyone should forgive and forgot because she did it .... i don't think she is saying everything ...

[@martinebanks8223]

So she called it off went for 18 month did what she did , and upset that he did what he did , crazy bro need to run

[@JoeyTheProdigal-pr2xl]

Just go to counselor. As if there are a plethora of great counselors out there. John your ministry might want o consider vetting counselors in every state and then connecting people to them rather than sending people into the ethosphere of "Just go get a counselor." Bad counseling is far worse than no counseling.

[@papi5377]

Mówiąc Szczerze zawszę się czułam wartościową osobą - bezwzględu na wszystko. Nawet wtedy gdyby przegrywałam swojego faceta. Tym razem nie przegram.

[@sanniepstein4835]

Late advice to the brother---When someone is grieving, they are vulnerable, and all kinds of predators try to move in. Protect her money.

[@anglophils645]

(John, "separated" is misspelled in your titles. Your people are spelling it "seperated", which is incorrect.)

[@rebekahwilson7703]

In regard to the woman from Australia:It’s time to go. Obviously, there’s no going back in time, but the best time to go would have been when you both said, “I’m not going to change.”

[@drcoffee5588]

This one is too funny. She left, came back and wants to enforce rules on the husband who can careless if she lives or dies. Lady move on and find someone you can control.

[@JJtvee]

If you want your 2 year old to sleep well then lots of outside playtime time in the sunshine, NO ELECTRONICS in their face no sugar.

[@Gingerrrrsnapps]

I’m sorry but John isn’t being constant here. If someone calls in and says I don’t want them at my house because of my values than he says oh well that’s on them. They have to abide by that. But now he’s saying that shouldn’t be putting those boundaries there. Pick one

[@flashthecorgi2053]

I see it as the aunt is trying to control things. The dad has reached out multiple times to try and reconnect and keeps getting shut down by the sister. Also, John is being constant because he said at the end go make your holidays the best they can be without family. In this situation her and her husband have turned their lives around and this woman is holding that over them which is not fair (but life isn’t fair.) Also, she is not even willing to have a mature conversation she just screamed and left. In this situation it’s probably best she write letters and call once a month like John said instead of engaging with toxic family members. In your sentence saying Delony says “well that’s on them” isn’t true he always says they are your values and you make the decision if you don’t want a couple that’s not married sleeping in the same room then you put that boundary down and take ownership of your values and don’t compromise. It’s not the other persons problem.

[@Constantin9va]

I’m starting to puzzle together the fact that it’s not about helping the callers, it’s about his Charismatic Christian Cosplay. It’s super funny. I’m entertained, although we shall see how long this silly goose will hold my attention with this gag.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@Constantin9va You can think what you want but, John has absolutely changed my life for the better. I’ve listened to him for 3 years on his podcast, other people’s podcast, Ramsey show, his books and never once have I thought he has an ulterior motive other than wanting to genuinely help people. Delony is such a kind, genuine, loving human being and I’m so blessed that he’s in my life.

[@neoalley]

There is no contradiction. He isn't framing it like that because the aunt is acting out childishly, not communicating from a mature values-based approach. And that's not the issue-- it's how she is walking into a battlefield and repeatedly getting injured.

[@caligirl8904]

They took a few breaks, and she expects him to not be with another woman? Either on or completely off.

[@France149]

Solve problems with hands? Mk good luck 🤞🙌🙌🎉 🎉

[@zeomarmob]

This one is very strange….

[@papi5377]

Godność jest wrodzona. I trzymać się tego. Mam to Filipie. Bezwglednie. I Tym razem nie przegram .

[@velvetfaerie]

PERTH????? YEEWWWWW🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@carolynmaryscott]

separated was spelled wrong in your coda bar.

[@chaboi7]

That girl needs to come to terms with the fcat that getting her arm broke by her boyfriend will never sit right with her dad, i feel like her dad wasnt harsh enough on that guy and the daughter seems to not give a damn about her own safety.

[@maricelacarrillo9994]

I would recommend a sleep training expert. They're a little pricey but worth it. They give really good tips and tricks on what to do. They give you a sleep schedule and it really helps. It will be rough for the first few day but it gets better. By the time you know it, your baby will be sleeping 10 to 11 hours a night.

[@beastshawnee]

“sleep training” babies is so abused and overdone.

[@kissed_by_sunshine_10]

What's funny is that the doc knows exactly that the comments are gonna be filled with ppl shitting on his advice. Lol

[@michelletaylor1900]

Jen, you never went back to your house for anything to see your son, pick up somerlthing, so that you could see another woman was living there?

[@KrisG66]

Dr John, I absolutely love you and your show, but seperated is not a word, Your team needs to spell things correctly!

[@snow999]

I had a teacher that said, “There is A RAT in separate.”

[@frenchfry14595]

I'm sorry, but this woman wants her cake and wants to eat it too. He's a jerk. He's always going to be a jerk. Get out of there and find someone new who isn't a jerk.

[@santafilipina9020]

Taylor Swift is overrated.

[@MsCristina38]

I love her music, it’s very angst ridden, teenager type of stuff. Super fun and dramatic 😂.

[@cayleebis]

real

[@France149]

😂💐💐💐💐💐🥰😍🤩🤔🧐

[@Constantin9va]

Is this man possibly the Worst Listener in America? Give him an award! 🏆! Edit: to be clear, I’m a huge fan! Watching this dude monologue under the pretense of giving “advice” is super entertaining.

[@elizabetha8565]

Are you talking about the first caller? I feel like he missed a whole bunch and it probably didn't help she was super tired and didn't get everything out well.

[@tinam761]

Just a bully hiding behind a keyboard.

[@kunya16]

You waste a lot of time leaving comments on all his videos because you're mad at Christians.

[@ejohnson4321]

WHO WRITES THE BANNERS AT THE BOTTOM OF THE SCREEN FOR THIS SHOW? THE WORD IS "SEPARATE" NOT, NOT, NOT, SEPeRATE! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@SchmidtBitch]

But what about if the foundation is just a little tilted but your roof is rotting from rain and leaking

[@Sweetamber222]

Haha. I like listening to his show. Especially while cleaning. Random but true. ❤😂🧹🧼🧽

[@stacyjaye6350]

I find cleaning amazingly satisfying. You can actually see that you've accomplished something good, immediately. I think it's reflective of a mentally healthy person. And then we get our brains operated on by Dr John at the same time! 👍😆