Men (over 50) Who Chase Sex Don't Do THIS

[@ms.k7487]

Something I've thought about: all these dating "chats" or the talking phase can help people to feel less lonely. However, be careful with this because there's nothing established yet but an exchange of information. I think that people join the apps out of loneliness alone without any real intention of knowing why they're there. All of these superficial chats can make you feel like you have so many new connections, but this is an illusion.

[@TheDWZemke]

Interesting video. I was a Male model 6' 4" 30 years ago. I got married at 23 and she was 33. Lost her to Alzheimer's. Great marriage. Lol my therapist said i should take a year off as the next women are NOT my therapist. I would argue that most men have a secure attachment style. Granted my population are 90% couples that have been together a long time going into retirement. Business owners, couples from church and executive couples. I do have friends that chase younger women but it is really obviously. Currently I am looking for dating applications that can filter out women that are looking for someone to take care of them so they can check out. Looking for a life partner. An assignment of dating applications would be helpful. FYI I turn around business so I am on the road all week and live in Minnesota on weekends.

[@TheDWZemke]

FYI I filter out women that are living on a dopamine high. You know the swiper ladies types.

[@wendygoffena2185]

I am a therapist and I can say from experience secure attachments in couples is extremely rare. The dynamic i comr across most frequently is an anxious person with an avoidant person, and in nearly all cases I have worked with the woman is the anxious and the man is the avoidant, but this isn't always the case. Based on childhood experiences and traumas it can occur in either sex. And I've encountered couples that have been together many years. They have learned to adapt,. flex, and communicate semi-effectively with honesty, integrity, respect. They encountered numerous challenges in the course of their lives that nearly ruined their marriages. They were able to overcome those challenges with fierce resilience. Every relationship comes with challenges. It is about how to effectively communicate, positive problem solving skills and conflict resolution. Each person needs to be heard and validated. Take responsibility for their role and be accountable for their behaviors...owning theirs, and having a willingness to accept and forgive their partners. The longest marriages don't come easily. It's hard work for both people. As for dating apps and websites, that is a whole new animal and not easily navigated. . It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I have never seen a more dysfunctional congregation of broken people looking for love and happiness. Most have so much trauma and emotional baggage they haven't worked on, that it isn't even funny. Those sites are loaded with users, abusers. Scam artisys. and Manipulators looking to fill a void inside of themselves they don't know how to fill for themselves. Many are looking for sugar mommas or daddy's, want someone to take care of them, or have control issues that link back to insecure attachments and pay traumas. Unfortunately dating websites are the most accessible way to meet people in our busy society. I've never had a good experience on dating websites, and will never go that route again. I wish you the best of luck in your search.

[@TheDWZemke]

@wendygoffena2185 As a therapist, let's hope a population of secure attachment people were not seeking out your expertise. Thank you for wishing me luck.

[@jnmsks6052]

So, if someone pops up after ghosting, should we call it a haunting? 👻

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes

[@deb2319]

Yes

[@michellemcauley2315]

Perfect!

[@DorothyPrater-w5l]

We have all 10. Thank you. I really like you. Watch you almost day

[@DorothyPrater-w5l]

Every day

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks so much, I appreciate that!

[@terrimanokmusic]

It’s a two way street is it not? The same checklist is applicable to both genders and regardless of sexual preference 🙁

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@barbaragardner1475]

But wouldn’t the trauma from divorce depend on which side of the divorce you are on. If you are the one wanting out chances are they already have someone else on the side. The one left picking up pieces have the trauma.

[@deb2319]

Good Talk ..yeah i cannot do long distamce..zero affection and phone therapy unpaid Sucks In a bad way.😂

[@Rose-hv3ou]

Sanki biraz hüzünlü ve yorgun gibisin, Cancığım. Umarım iyisindir 💚

[@JonathonAslay]

I'm good... thank you 😊

[@Rose-hv3ou]

@@JonathonAslayPleasure 💚 I’m glad to learn that you’re well 🥰

[@gamerchristina1079]

Jean was nice

[@susanharrie3326]

❤

[@EdelweisSusie]

I wish he’d stop reading his pre-written text off his laptop! Drives me nuts.

[@JonathonAslay]

Are you talking about me?

[@LadyAvalonArt]

The remarks and questions about Las Vegas and roulette were really condescending and belittling. Like a 40 yo women wouldn't know what Vegas and gambling are. And the mockery of couples engaged in long distance texting was truly insulting. How many hours of self-help and spiritual work have you so proclaimed to have done? Obviously, not enough. Because clearly none of us are as enlightened as JA. You are so arrogant and passive aggressive with women, you have difficulty stifling it. It seeps out like toxic goo.

[@JonathonAslay]

I'm not perfect; I proclaim this frequently that I'm not. I'm merely scratching the ant's belly for personal development, and I make many mistakes. I can always do better. If I was harsh, I didn't mean to hurt anyone. I do appreciate your feedback

[@LadyAvalonArt]

@@JonathonAslay I've been listening to your channel a while. You have no filter. Yet, you're the first one to howl if someone leaves a negative comment here. Knowledge without kindness has no practical application. You have a highly critical and judgemental nature. You're surrounded by women here who stroke your Ego constantly, but if you don't start, "Walking the Walk." I guarantee you will remain single. No Duct Tape here.

[@rhondabaldwin7529]

Well written

[@alexdeyong2890]

@@LadyAvalonArt There, I am not stroking anyone's ego, but I have a problem with people "attacking" someone who is a public figure. You always have a choice: if it is not your cup of tea...do not listen. Why the need to attack?