Jordan Peterson - The Danger Of Taking Too Much Responsibility

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Dr Jordan B. Peterson on how to stop overthinking. Is it possible to stop overthinking? Does Jordan Peterson think you can take too much responsibility for your life? How does Jordan think you can stop anxiety? Are thought loops inevitable? How do you let go of control?
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[@ChrisWillx]

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[@nicolelawrence5177]

I think it means knowing when to fight and when to surrender.

[@josealbertofernandez4593]

Hello Chris, the audio seemed a bit off in this episode. the noise gate that you used here seems somewhat extreme, and the background noise kept popping in while the subject was talking. maybe instead of putting such a harsh noise gate it would be better to edit the background noise in post production ? other than that, pretty good episode

[@kaizerthomsen5738]

I actual prefer and would love to hear YOUR thoughts instead of having Jordan put up on a piedistal and take all his words/conclusions for facts cos he poisen the abstract way of thinking with all his money talk - or only consult him when you are in an economic need for guidence. Cos he sounds like a "sales" man with alot of real fine quotes he throws in the mixed coversations about responsibility/and to make him stand out from all other tutors he has just exatly just that.. carry a too big a burden trying to have all answers and beliewe they are fact.. they are HIS reality and from his life conclusions with all fame hard work and the enormus spread out wisdom he has and perhaps missing the wife or mistress or just to have peace for some time after all the years as some Plato icon well deserved. And he should be listening to YOU Chris.

[@Jordy_NL]

Thank you!

[@jaredyoung5353]

The world is not infinite growth.

[@TheDhammaHub]

As the Buddha put it: you are not responsible for a thought/feeling arising - you are responsible for delighting in it, entertaining it, or pushing it away.

[@TheDhammaHub]

@@Jimmy-jm1ol Well, you can try to predict your next thought, the next two thoughts or the next three thoughts etc. and see how well you do ;D The Buddha just as much advised to make an effort and abandon unwholesome thoughts. He just noticed that we do not control the process

[@Skelfi]

@@Jimmy-jm1ol I think that Jesus's meanin "committing the act in thought " is the similar to what the Buddha meant by "delighting in" the "thought/feeling".

[@joneslive586]

@@Jimmy-jm1ol how's it in contrast?

[@brianyan6673]

@@Skelfi So then you mean the similarities instead of 'contrast' as that suggest they are polar opposites.

[@alangwhiteTheBoss]

Sure thing

[@TheBrick534]

As someone who has a tendency towards extreme behaviours, let me tell you, you ABSOLUTELY can go overboard on taking on more responsibility than one can actually deal with. I did it in the relationship I was in and ended up destroying something that had so much potential for happiness and love for the future. I’ve come to realize that there’s actually very little in my control and that’s okay. I trust that God, the divine creator, is taking care of the rest and I need not worry as long as I strive to follow in his ways. I am responsible for myself, and myself alone. Outside of that is the Lord’s business.

[@primorojo9481]

He’s talking about picking your problems.

[@foziaar5878]

Expectation is the root of all heartache…. Comparison is the thief of joy 💕 don’t stress over things you cannot control

[@UKtoUSABrit]

Chris Williamson is a very impressive thinker. Probably the best interview of Peterson I have seen. Kudos Chris!!

[@raymondtendau2749]

I second you on that.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@k4piii]

Check Lex Fridman, I believe he has the deeper thoughts. But Chris is great as well

[@Murphator]

Im so glad he covered this. He talks a lot about not taking enough responsibility... not often about taking too much

[@Ryan-Horgan]

Man I really think Chris is the best interviewer around right now. Rogan is also brilliant and there is a reason he's number 1. But Chris is clearly (at least in my mind) more intelligent. His questions have layers to them man

[@benzykaram]

Exactly, what a delight to listen to his questions.

[@jordanterry6248]

Wow the analogy about carrying the boat over ground is so cool to me. I’ve hardened myself a lot over the past few months as I’ve gone through some trials but things seem set to improve in a month or so, and I’ve been thinking a lot about needing to soften myself again now that I’ve gotten through the main challenges. I have to not try to carry the boat over ground now that I’m about to come the the shore of the river I’ve been traveling through.

[@RaduP3]

Man I watched 3 of your videos with JP today, and 2/3 of them literally clicked with me on a very intimate level and provided me with new perspective. and the topics are not light ones. thank you very much for your work.

[@jmb8989]

Right? I'm back for a second round of this interview and I am taking away a whole new experience. Chris Williamson is fantastic at delving into conversations with great thinkers. I have listened to Peterson so much that I often anticipate what he says next with "average interviewers" and their questions but Chris takes the conversation to places I have not heard Jordan discuss. His questions are based on the last thing Jordan has said rather than a preplanned set of thoughts.

[@StianGuzman]

Always belive that everything could go the right way, even if it dosent sometimes. Because if you only gonna overthink about every outcome of every situation, then you are forgetting all about the beauty in letting situation goes as it will anyway. No one gets anywhere with overthinking expect to an unresult thought. And this i learned from a good friend, always ask yourself while you overthinking, what would be the best answer to give yourself if no one else can and then move on. If there is no right answer from yourself and you're still not satisfied, then make a scenario up and ask someone what they would have done in a similar situation. Days and night flies to fast through our eyes and would you rather hoping for a conclusion inside your overthinking or let life be as it is and work harder on life itself. You cant fix everything, and everything will end up as it will anyway. So enjoy life more and stop worry so much. The only thing worry and overthinking are taking from us is joy and happiness. Dont let them win, you are better then that. Always think that overthinking is your own demon trying to forget to have fun. If you can fight yourself out of there, then life would be so much happier for yourself. You cant controll everything

[@LyndseyMacPherson]

This is such a great part of that whole interview, which was tremendous. Well done.

[@Posmeallie]

I can relate. At work I used to always feel like I had to do a big task solo. It was a big relief to realize, hey, it’s okay to spread the task apart through the team, and really does help things get done faster.

[@JamesAcrossAmerica]

I'd like to discuss the metaphor of "releasing the tiller" in foul seas. Speaking literally, this is true, but it also requires you to stop the engines. The boat will find a balanced roll in the waves, but you are no longer working towards a destination. This prioritizes the comfort of the present over getting to a safe harbor. If a smooth ride is all you care about and you don't have the skill to navigate and predict the swell, releasing the tiller is your best bet. But you're no longer setting your own course and will be taken by the wind. So you can't be surprised if you end up on the rocks. If you're in a rough situation you are better off making your way with purpose. Be careful who/what you relinquish your control to.

[@b.melakail]

This was touched on in Dune. To release control of the vehicle and let the storm guide you

[@michaelnice93]

Not all boats work that way in all storms. Most boats need to stay under power and most pilots have to make sure the boat does not go sideways to breaking waves. Jed McKenna is a questionable source. The path Jed advocates is different than what Peterson is talking about.

[@odinnhrafnsson6267]

Without going further into the video. The title really captured me- this is something I've been thinking about alot recently. I would say, the best decision I've made about my life so far (5 years ago) is taking responsibility for myself. It stopped me in my tracks toward self- destruction and has presented me with more fruitful and fullfilled life. The depths of self responsibility is vast and is truly a discovery. However, as a perfectionist, I've felt recently it almost makes me recentful in regards to some people (maybe because they're in the same situation as I was) and when it comes to being a wholesome person, integrated the shadow, I feel like I'm burying the monster under the weight of too much responsibility (Jungian ideology). Am I somewhat responsible for other peoples wellbeing (that is if I think I have something to offer to do so) ? Am I responsible for creating a better world for coming generations regarding climate change? ..

[@MO-go9oo]

Really enjoyed this, thank you for posing the question.

[@123Leeko]

Amazing. Right on

[@tracyjohnson1665]

Thank you sir 👍 keep moving forward

[@azen036]

Dr. Peterson should talk more on this topic too when he talks about taking responsibility

[@sick_nisson]

As a professionally high performing, middle-management worker hoping to move to leadership, this was incredibly useful to hear. Thank you Jordan and thank you Chris ❤️

[@RichardHarlos]

@Nick Sisson wrote, _"As a professionally high performing, middle-management worker hoping to move to leadership, this was incredibly useful to hear. Thank you Jordan and thank you Chris ❤️"_ Hi, Nick. A little unsolicited feedback here in hope it may be useful, perhaps even helpful: The idea of 'moving to leadership' may, for some, be a kind of subconscious translation of 'aspiring to power'. Consider that 'leadership' is a role one plays rather than a 'kind of person one is'. And that means either you're leading people who **want** to be led, and they've chosen (elected) you, or... you're leading people whom you believe **need** to be led, with a low-key implication of _whether they want to be or not._ In the former scenario, you don't need to 'hope to move' into leadership: if 'they' want 'you' as their leader, they'll do the bulk of the work to install you in that role relative to them. And -- or maybe 'but' -- if they don't put you in that role relative to them, then either you've got to convince/persuade them that you're the 'right man for the job', or... you've got to put yourself in that role relative to them regardless whether they want you in that role or not. The former is more or less inevitable in a voluntary relationship, while the latter is the path of aspirants to power -- which, as you doubtless already realize, is the path of those who would rule over others (even if the articulated motive for self-installation is 'for their own good'). Something to think about, and hopefully in a helpful way. Cheers!

[@sick_nisson]

@@RichardHarlos Loads of meaty content there, thank you Richard. My main takeaway was that you want to be crowd-surfed up the mountain by enthusiastic colleagues rather than stepping on them to race to the top. And once you're up there, throw down rope ladders and bring as many trusted, intelligent people along with you as you can. Don't aim to be a leader, aim to be a person people want to be led by

[@S1MPLECAVEMAN]

Thank you for helping us better ourselves by creating this channel🍻

[@CEA9234]

This is nice. I feel like i am an intellectual. I enjoy learning things like this and thought provoking conversation. Sadly it can be challenging to find people to have these sorts of conversations with.

[@BeastxxWar]

My overthinking and putting the responsibility of the world on my mind, as an imperfect person is quite anxiety inducing. I need to learn how to better balance my mindset with wanting to work on self improvement as well as improving the world around me without consuming so much negativity. Lately, after years of bad behaviors and lack of mindfulness I have found that my newfound "awareness" of so many things has put so much stress on me that I am always feeling stressed and anxious.

[@ramoralesrp]

Such a beautiful wealth of knowledge in just this short clip

[@magentapilot4576]

Great question!

[@SethBeamerMusic]

Love the interview 🙏🏻 Suggesting no noise gate - room noise essential 💪🏻

[@egontokessy1610]

Good Question... I like this. I'm going to watch your podcasts more on spotify.

[@sunflowersandbluewaters]

This is a great video I needed to hear this

[@user-op8cw6li4o]

Great question.

[@avestaatif4535]

what a great question!

[@morganoox3838]

Yep. That's me. I am responsible for all kinds of things that are outside my control. Just ask my boss or anyone who depends on me. If something bad happens, and even if it has nothing to do with me, its still my failure. I am always responsible.

[@juliusway]

Great question, well put. Interesting response.

[@davekendall1338]

Good stuff from Chris and Jordan, as always.

[@monocyte2210]

Chris is such a great interviewer

[@Chevron.Muskoka]

There is enough for everyone to do. There is also something for everyone to do. Good leadership is often being able to identify what responsibilities are deligated and to whom.

[@delanymom87]

This guy is a literal INTP like me. That's why I seriously see to eye to eye. He says what's on his mind In lots of different ways for a reason. Its because truly, the whole world has been blind to the fact that we communicate in english, but each use our own lexicon and language within the language. Him and I speak the same language

[@fancyshmancy]

Love!

[@-J-H-]

For intelligent people it's hard to stop thinking. But even for them it's possible to stop overthinking. In order to stop: they need to proiritize their thoughts. Which is easier said than done...But once you manage to-, you'll find yourself being more focused and energetic

[@kevinaustin51]

Honestly I think that’s where my video game and entertainment media addictions come from I just can’t silence my mind without an aid. (Not saying I’m smart btw)

[@jmb8989]

I am quite scattered with pursuits of the mind, never knowing which thought is most worth exploration. Writing has been the best way for me to "spit out a thought" and no longer have it cluttering my mind. Writing my thoughts out helps me to see which thoughts loop on themselves without a conclusion vs. thoughts that lead to conclusions which I can make use of in my daily life. Consider your attention like a light you cast out. You could cascade like a broad rainbow or you could narrow your attention and be like a focused laser. There is utility in both, I think.

[@AI-kt1gs]

The only responsability you need is the quality of your thoughts, always question the contents of your thoughts, are they serving you or are they keeping you down. Know yourself build yourself

[@jmb8989]

Many people fear being alone. Social media is evidence that people want to feel important and relevant. There is a great peace in being alone for extended periods of time and having a moment of realization that no one is thinking of you, searching for you, gossiping, it is as if you don't even matter. Those are the moments I feel a deep connection to humanity because I have let go of the superficial details of what I think makes me important and the comparison of everything stops, only the moment I am in exists.

[@charlizerichards2716]

@@jmb8989 that’s a really good thought. However there are some times when being alone can seem almost suffocating ,like I’m trapped in my own thoughts. How would u say u reach a place where u finally let go of self comparison and find being alone to be comforting rather than lonely ?

[@jmb8989]

@@charlizerichards2716 I used to have the feeling of being trapped and tormented by my thoughts. I realized I was leaving parts of my life unattended to. The biggest turning point for me was cutting off Facebook cold turkey. I'll think on this and see if I can offer anything more helpful.

[@mustang607]

How come it seems that people who take away numerous responsibilities from others are never responsible when things go really wrong?

[@fredhelmecke6073]

You do with the truth,

[@amandalee714]

I’ve never seen Jordan speaking and sitting with such a calm demeanor. He is usually on the defensive or teaching but now he is just speaking as if he’s thinking out loud or talking to a friend. Even in Joe Rohan he was not this calm. It is a lot easier to swallow what he’s saying when he’s calm. I love this.

[@gjcamacho]

I think he might have been in pain... =(

[@raffaelerosato7044]

It's great to talk to who will be known as one of the great thinkers whoever lived. To pry ino these beautiful minds goes past what you would retain from their books when they are long gone. Imagine talking to any of the individuals he references. Sorta of the same.

[@konradobidoski5415]

I'd really like to know your take on Jed McKenna's books. What do you see in them Chris? Like actually, what is the value and what do you think they apply to in your life?

[@sorousha19]

The only issue i have with peterson. He talks too much about picking up responsibility but he doesn't warn enough about the dangers of too much order. Alan watts teaches in moments of true chaos letting go is the way to come out unscathed. Controlling the rudder through the storm can be the very thing that ends up sinking the ship. As much as peterson rightly teaches us to get our lives in order we also need to learn the art of letting go, to be content with things out of our immediate control and comfortable in moments of quiet. We don't need to be busy all the time. This is a lesson for the conscientious person otherwise they will become a slave to their constant anxieties and future abstractions, never able to enjoy the present which is really all we have.

[@jakehansen5719]

I love it when Jordan Peterson says that "It's a complicated problem because we are on a single planet and some resources are more zero-sum than others, but we haven't really run into any actual zero-sum limits in terms of our - you know the probability of us living an abundant life on the planet." This is true yet it goes to his broader point which is that we can invent "other games" and have an unlimited capacity to grow as a species. Many, especially those on the left, don't want to see the universe as an unlimited space where we can expand and grow. We aren't running out of resources and limiting resources or imposing restrictions on how we use a resource will not prevent that resource from being depleted over time. Population control could hold off the inevitable, which is genocidal, or we can free up resources to be used in ways that allow us to expand. At this moment there are two forces working in the world against each other. The one who wants to limit us to this planet and impose restrictions to stave off what is inevitable and the one who is trying to get the human species inter-planetary because it recognizes that the resources in the universe are without limit. We need to be on the side that is trying to get our species to become inter-planetary. This is essential for the survival of the human species as well as our ability to protect resources of the universe. It may have even happened already thousands or millions of years ago, and we just don't know it.

[@0ijm3409fiwrekj]

can you imagine living in a time where we are inter-planetary? People updating their insta profiles to say what planets they have visited LOL I can imagine those before we could travel between continents thinking the same thing

[@shawnmuench]

The left is concerned about the consumption that is wasteful. They would endorse creative use of resources, and do- in terms of solar etc. Those are pushes for something next. The left also represents imagination and change, so it would be the worldview of inventing new games and forms of life. A good resource for seeing this vision of leftism is David Graeber.

[@qchtohere8636]

The left is simply concerned with sustainability before we hit rock bottom, but please, go on, I really want to see how deep we can dig ourselves into.

[@imconfused9992]

If human hearts aren't greedy, we won't need to be inter-planetary.

[@damnmexican90]

@@shawnmuench this is objectively false.

[@alfredhitchcock45]

Indefinite responsibility You’re not in this alone Heroic path - universal redemption Narcissism

[@Just_logic]

Waw. This clip applies to me.

[@ericjohnson6665]

I've of the opinion that we're all in this together. It's time to cooperate more.

[@seancooper5140]

An observation/question: The topic was raised that as we become more responsible, we need to delegate to others (instead of trying to shoulder everything by ourself), and IF WE'RE IN A MANAGEMENT ROLE that makes sense, but what about the rest of us who are merely individuals with no authority over anyone else?

[@dorkyface]

Well, I think he also means delegating to friends and family, if possible. If you have financial burdens, for instance, it's okay to ask for help from wife/parents/siblings/etc. Supporting kids shouldn't fall 100% on the father. He delegates to those he can rely on around him.

[@dariofromthefuture3075]

Fantastic episode. So happy you asked him to take the opposite angle of where he usually comes from. Bc it’s valid

[@mj-nw5vc]

Holly shit Jordan wow!

[@EXILEDEARTH]

That brown suite is nice.

[@aojbooker8650]

I feel like whenever an over thinker experiences overwhelming anxiety it is usually the result of a personal issue that they have not addressed which causes them to fundemantally view the world or themselves in a overly negative way…..cognitive reframing is often times the solution

[@Jaqvander]

Yeah, but cognitive reframing doesn't address the issue.

[@aojbooker8650]

@@Jaqvander i think it does because often the way that overthinkers frame a situation in their heads is by over exaggerating negative possibilities. If, say, this tendency to over exaggerate negative possibilities is a result of a person’s lack of confidence in the face of people that he thinks he needs to impress, then cognitive reframing could allow that person to realize that he actually doesn’t need to impress these people, for example. That’s one of many ways to reframe the situation in a way that is more reflective of reality

[@Jaqvander]

@@aojbooker8650 Yes, but lack of self confidence and the need to impress are symptoms of the issue you need to address. Cognitive reframing just replaces the lid you put on it. Right? I mean, how are you going to process lack of self worth by Cognitive reframing? This is a deep, long-standing pain on which you will have built so many beliefs and other maladaptive behaviour over the years, cognitive reframing is going to do nothing.

[@aojbooker8650]

@@Jaqvander I totally see why you would look at it in the way you do. The lack of self-esteem and constant anxiety about one's failures seem like a deep-rooted issue that would require much more work than reframing the way one looks at a situation. But we should ask ourselves, why exactly is it that a person would have low self-esteem? It would likely stem from factors like past trauma and possibly certain personality predispositions, but what is it that keeps the low self-esteem going? It's a set of BELIEFS that a person holds about themselves right? Low self-esteem by definition is the lack of confidence in one's own abilities or worth as a person. This means that at the core of your being you believe that you are worth less than other people...you see other people as your judge.....you believe that you are likely to fail when called to perform simple tasks in front of others.....you believe that failure in and of itself is a confirmation of your worthlessness. These are all simply false ideas that need to be changed. Now, I am not suggesting that someone with low self-esteem can just tell themselves to magically stop believing what they believe and it will all of a sudden go away. Self worthlessness is a deep-seated belief that will not just resolve itself overnight. Cognitive reframing/restructuring for low self-esteem takes lots of time and self-reflection and should be coupled with exposure to one's fears. The falseness of the previous beliefs of self worthlessness will become more and more evident over time. Just a side note, I am also making these suggestions because I've gone through it.

[@Jaqvander]

@@aojbooker8650 yeah, now I'm with you, after reading your last bits. So you faced the fear, did you?😏 So did I, and it was hell. Until it wasn't any longer. Did you really face the fear, all of it? Because it was such a nasty period of time having to go through that for me, I often thought "I bet no one else is doing this, I bet they're all on drugs by now."

[@stevenlowe3245]

People get bogged down forgetting or never grasping that responsibilities are all mental abstractions and can be walked away from at any time...with consequences of course. Being in a mental oubliette is much easier knowing there is a ladder to freedom next to you at all times.

[@delanymom87]

This is me. And the messed up part is I'm the least qualified for the job. I have severe disorganized schizophrenia. Some days, making a cup of tea will take an hour, dispite trying as hard as I can to make tea, and stay focused.

[@lamontcranston3177]

If thinking too much about nothing is to be eliminated let's start with Jordan Peterson.

[@nioengland]

It's not just a sound, balanced and solid knowledge base.. one that includes all the general and raw aspects of life the hardware is also needed to store, process and manage that knowledge.. to add parts together when formulating solutions for the knowledge base.. the best way to start is an empty planet.. you have the soil and grass and trees.. the rivers and the oceans then you build up from there but the hardware is different and that is best when it is already in place before acquiring the knowledge.. this can be done through work.. and will be a different approach for a man and a woman.. but both must live a life this demonstrates the fundamental differences between men and women.. for men it will be mostly hard work.. man type work.. but for a woman they can chill about at home and just see the world around them.. the more complete the world is.. the more a woman will learn

[@alexandercastellini5741]

Very much so. Shit broke me.

[@TreatSpin]

It’s all up to you, but it’s not all up to only you

[@davebarry7133]

Jordan Peterson's genius is frightening

[@Jorvanius]

1:28 "From time to time, if you pay attention, you can hear the impact of the facts he's dropping."

[@dereklim1393]

What a great and thoughtful question to put to the man. 👍

[@chrisjansson4540]

TIME! SPACE AND TIME! A FACTOR!!! 😎

[@jaliylellerby3377]

I’d love too talk to this Man for like 10 min

[@JayJay-wg5ex]

The antidote to responsibility is play

[@jonathanbrotto1991]

I was a one dimensional person who worked like a machine till I could not take it. Some lessons learned later in life I guess.

[@seancarl1085]

I think I may be going through the same thing, but haven’t had the “I can’t take it anymore” moment… yet. What was your situation Jon?

[@jonathanbrotto1991]

@@seancarl1085 I was the CIO of my family business while going to grad school and being an introvert handling people along with being dyslexic.

[@xkben90]

In a sense, it’s good you experienced that because you know what your limits are. And when I say limits, I don’t mean your ability to work or make money, but your ability to handle the load mentally. We are a capitalist society that glorifies the grind mentality, but once you take a breath and look around you, you have to question what you’re doing all this work for if you can’t even enjoy your life.

[@M0RPHOBIA]

Love and truth is the antidote to the apocalypse. You don't need to know more about life.

[@zackaryshapley3571]

“If you saw Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his shoulders, if you saw that he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the last of his strength, and the greater his effort the heavier the world bore down upon his shoulders -What would you tell him?" I…don't know. What…could he do? What would you tell him?" “To shrug."

[@braydynniewiadomski5454]

I like it.

[@jmb8989]

I am so glad I saw this comment after learning about Atlas of Mauritania an hour ago. If you are intrigued by the story of Atlantis, I would consider learning more about Atlas. The rise and fall of societies fascinates me.

[@delanymom87]

This is why Dominos General Managers are the best example of a true great manager.

[@theresponsibility3425]

So close. When you say you have to share the burden with people in your life, I think the miss step is to not share that pain with God. Delicate the pain you can't bear with God, and you can't take on an amount that will crush you because it's no longer just you. Not that it is easy. But why not aim for the best version of ourselves?

[@davekendall1338]

There's a big element of faith there that a lot of people (myself included) struggle with. That said, I've prayed to God to help me with numerous burdens throughout my life and I've never been let down yet.

[@theresponsibility3425]

@Dave Kendall to share burdens with God, then continuing to walk with him is to walk with all your pains. Using your pain as discipline and motivation instead of your pain using you for distraction. I refer to this process as wrestling with God.

[@theresponsibility3425]

It surprises me sometimes how an old pain can be felt in new ways. And how disciplined it makes/keeps me.

[@dustyandsneezing]

@@davekendall1338 same

[@nothingness55]

my wife has taken on 5 additional jobs at her workplace the 5 positions have all been eliminated and she wasn't compensated for any of the additional responsibilities, all of those eliminated positions that she does the work for, all were making more money than she does/did. And when she tried to vouch for more money, paper work was lost or the president of the college claimed that there isn't enough money. She never missed a day and others at her workplace constantly break the rules and the laws... yes legal laws.

[@markmusic1808]

Sadly it happens. I've had similar situations with a workplace. Then moved on to great success other places. Everything doesn't work out golden, but the creme does rise to the top eventually.

[@RajBeats]

What a damn good question. Well thought out.

[@jasoncrump1886]

It would really be awesome to hear Sevan Bomar and Jordan on a podcast together.

[@jasoncrump1886]

Great podcast . I really appreciate Jordan Peterson . Check out Sevan Bomar too if you haven't yet.

[@beaujones5124]

How do you stop seeing everything as a zero sum game? I grew up in an intensely competitive household. I see life through a lens of winners and losers and I want to be more team oriented and collectively minded when appropriate

[@santosniwpanne8694]

Can somebody please let me know what is the conclusion of this conversation? What if we over responsible?

[@selasimensah9136]

Are there some key attitudes in becoming a good manager? Time 3:25- ... 🤔

[@binangel5192]

All i want is redemption .my identity.my health.on my hands over other heads for realistic day.or my medication. My love.from me...love.

[@holyrolypoly]

I struggle very very much with the idea 'if you want something done right, you've got to do it yourself.' And it's absolutely exhausting and stressful, but, unfortunately, it seems like every time I do try to delegate, I end up just wishing I'd taken care of it myself.

[@aj6365]

You need new people around you

[@Dr.BenDejoMD]

Same, Another issue I run into being a double edged sword is that others don't WANT to do anymore than necessary. Also being the go to reliable, work horse, others quickly try to take advantage of you. Even just by them working half as hard, knowing you'll work twice as hard to cover the slack.

[@holyrolypoly]

@@Dr.BenDejoMD It's pretty funny you say that because you sound exactly like Boxer from the book Animal Farm. He was literally a work horse that was essentially worked to death because he was so dedicated and would constantly push himself to take on more and more responsibility.

[@Dr.BenDejoMD]

@@holyrolypoly I've actually joked around at work, this is what will kill me, because I'll work myself to death. Personally I have a complex to no matter what I do I'll only be seen for my faults and short comings. That no matter how hard I work it'll never be good enough. But I tend to keep to myself, aside from a select few, knowing I'm playing the long game to where my efforts will truly shine in decades to come. Work longer and harder today than others won't, so you can live tomorrow like others can't.

[@redbear4027]

I have been accused of overthinking but I'm the smartest person I know. Young men especially come to me for answers, that is the burden of being very smart in a mostly dumb world.

[@L.I.T.H.I.U.M]

Hey Chris why don't you upload clips of other guests? It'll be interesting

[@imconfused9992]

He's such a deep thinker. I feel less dumb when I listen to people like him

[@davidbeddoe6670]

At first I read the title as "The Danger of Talking Too Much", then I realized it said "...Taking Too Much...", and now I see that none of this applies to me, at all.

[@chrisjansson4540]

THE DISTANCE BETWEEN ONE FOOT AND THE OTHERS, AND THE MANIPULATORS OF TIME. SPACE AND TIME!

[@jmk527]

🙏 🤲

[@Trollioli]

I like JP's suit. It's very "professorly"

[@dustyandsneezing]

I feel like this was recommended to me

[@NoOneLikesVegans]

I know I'm going to sound like a loser or something when I say this but Marijuana edibles are the only thing I've found that help me collect and order my thoughts. I never used it when I was a teen or anything and I don't use it for the physical high now (or even that often). But I've found that my brain is so convoluted with thoughts (and then negativity that comes from not being able to order them) but when it becomes overwhelming I take a sativa edible and it allows me to really focus on and work through each one by itself. But when I tell someone that they just look at me like I'm a stoner looking for an escape. Does anyone else have this experience? It's difficult for me to describe but it allows me to work through certain thoughts and gain some clarity and perspective about what to do moving forward. I've been told that weed doesn't really do that for most people though so maybe I'm just a weirdo. Anyway, just curious if this is the case for anyone else because my experience doesn't seem to jive with the experience of the people I know personally.

[@salesmanagernow18]

Make yourself irrelevant! Love it. We shall pursue this.

[@liam..2790]

When I try to level up, do a degree for example the stress overwhelms me and I crash, any tips to help me?

[@paulazinz9182]

Give your best for a while (for example work really hard to pursue your degree for a month or even 6 months) if after that time you do not think you can do it, drop it. Try something else. Not everything fits everybody. You worked really hard but it is just not the thing you should keep doing. But you learned something along the way and can find a new and better fitting goal. Worked for me. I tried getting a degree in mathematics and was always stressed and didn't understand a thing. So i tried something less theoretical (computer science) and got that degree easily :) Hope you find your way

[@jojipoji2322]

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[@marielarsson6718]

Well, there is no opposition between human reduction and the responsibility of changing habits. Human reduction includes valuing ALL life, not only humans.

[@TenTenJ]

I would ask shorter questions in front a man like this. The more time I let him take, the better. But it’s a great question.

[@morganfrye3075]

Oh Jordan. You just have a way of putting things. You will never know just how many people you have helped.

[@bsiegel001]

Common sense set to poetic cadence. I heart Mr. Peterson or wtvr the kids say.

[@N0Xa880iUL]

What a way to say that!

[@doomtext]

"The kids" haven't said that in a very long time lmao

[@TheHubertShow]

Jed McKenna👍🏾

[@88Umy]

Working as a manager trying to delegate got me only problems with unhappy clients because the people under me are just not as motivated to deliver their best to the clients and I have to (it’s my job) to cover for them, even though I agree with the client. That makes me a liar and puts me in a position where I have to defend everything I actually hate. Solution: I do it myself but am still angry because I have to do other’s job. Eather way I am not satisfied. People say I need to change myself before trying to change others but am I really that wrong if I want things done properly? Why should I change myself? Please persuade me somehow. I really need it to be wrong in this one but I just don’t see it. 😂 If ignorance is a bliss, how to achieve it?

[@wanderingnomad1]

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. You’ll only create more stress and demotivate yourself.

[@HumanMechanism]

the 0 sum game is never gonna go away because it is how life began. Selection and causation based off of that selection for good or ill is how molecular life functions. Just because we are walking meat things with complex thought in our brains doesn't change what we came from. Life as a human can be very easy from a survival sense, but our species evolved for muuuuuch longer just trying to survive than it has trying to live a good life. It is good to suppress the 0 sum game when possible, but untap the primal survivalist mentality when it actually is a matter of survival, such as Peterson said with reference to climbing employment cultures for your family's well being.

[@chty101]

I realize how taking on too much. Now I don't feel like a lazy piece of shit anymore 😂 I can now focus on important responsibilities and attend to the others later. Thanks god