Jordan Peterson: What you do when you love someone

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[@ConnorDRyan]

Still blows my mind that the Mainstream media tries to destroy this man. He’s filled with so much greatness. Then again, Jesus was condemned by public opinion too (not saying Dr Peterson is equal to Jesus)

[@noadlor]

Sure he says some good things. But nothing that has never been said before. There has been great minds all throughout history. You only need to pick up a book and read them. The only difference being is that Peterson knows psychology and how to get attention onto himself. Since you are starting to enlighten yourself, may I suggest taking a look at Dr. Wayne Dyer. A very humble man who has helped countless people. I think you'd like it.

[@ConnorDRyan]

noadlor ill be sure to check him out.

[@noadlor]

I am aware of that. Maybe you should remind those followers who consider him some kind of prophet.

[@josebl1197]

He’s far from being Jesus... he’s going to hurt people in the end.

[@josebl1197]

He says nothing new actually just talks for ages about common things that take a few sentences to explain. Trying to start a cult in Toronto has officially made him less credible. He’s not a philosopher. Just read the Toronto star about the church he was going to buy

[@joeschlotthauer840]

If you love someone, you accept their fragility... EPIC

[@amandajtycer2887]

joe Schlotthauer I love your comment the most. So simple but powerful, just like The Peterson.

[@anamericanman]

Try finding women who accept your fragility. Good luck.

[@Max-xf1mw]

@@anamericanman It is true that strength in many forms is integrally, the main attraction, women have for men. However, women have to and will always accept a level of fragility because after all it's only human. All that Jordon means by this, is limitation. There is a difference between appearing weak and having fragility.

[@elijahlashley8871]

If only my ex felt this way. She took advantage of my vulnerability and betrayed my trust.

[@joeschlotthauer840]

@@elijahlashley8871 It should be "fragility and imperfections" We're all not perfect and easily wounded...

[@Calidore1]

The longer I watch this man the more I feel in the presence of intellectual greatness.

[@Calidore1]

And I mean in the presence of THE TRUTH.

[@kierangolombowski2068]

The more i watch this man, the more i realise how complicated life is and that makes me realise how complicated my problems are to the point that i dont even knoe who i am as a person as i wouldnt exist without a purpose i probably will never know

[@skinflaver]

He has figured something out. The alphabet of being.

[@tonirawila5449]

Same with me

[@amberfahr5992]

He is definitely touched with brilliance, full of emotional empathy, and always thinks before he speaks his thoughts. Light in a dark age with Tolle and Gabor M

[@MGTOWPsyche]

When you love someone you tell them the truths others avoid telling them because they seek to use that person instead of caring about their evolution and growth even if that means risking making them angry. True love fosters a safe space where anger can be expressed without fear of being abandoned or being rejected.

[@nemurenainda8848]

This is amazing. It feels more true than other descriptions of love, though there are many different types.

[@Max-xf1mw]

@@nemurenainda8848 I like the biblical definition of love because it's the idea of prospering someone, without selfish intent. The evidence for just someone's subjective "feelings", if it is love or not.

[@nishanthk5306]

@@Max-xf1mw damn, I gotta get back to reading the Bible then :)

[@Max-xf1mw]

@@nishanthk5306 Yeah at the very least it's full of amazing philosophy to guide your life. Have you checked out stoicism ("Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius)? I highly recommend it. Like Jesus, he didn't play the hypocrite, he walked the walk. Besides the value contained within the bible, I would say it would be the most valuable thing you would ever read.

[@nishanthk5306]

@@Max-xf1mw I'll try reading it too, thank you.

[@OfficiallyLost]

When he said "You are going to be betrayed, it is going to happen" That hit me. In some ways it gave me a reason to let some things go that I was holding back. Thank you Dr. Jordan B. Peterson.

[@MasterJTLS]

"The thing about darkness is it makes the light stand out" Truer words have never been spoken.

[@such_a_delight9748]

I love that I discovered Jordan Peterson through my brilliant 22 year old son. He was watching a man on KZbin who was speaking intelligently and brilliantly. I asked who was that man and my son said Jordan Peterson.

[@pedrojurado7987]

That phrase is so powerful to change: Just say: “bring it on”

[@magdalenamaria3416]

Choosing love over resentment even when we have every reason to is called mercy. This is beautiful! Thanks Mr Peterson

[@atli126]

So good!

[@sonias9722]

But should we have mercy is another thing

[@atli126]

@@sonias9722 yes but but you do it for you not them. Forgiving is good for you.

[@sonias9722]

@@atli126 Forgiving is different than mercy. I wasn't talking about forgiveness. Mufasa had mercy on Scar the first time - perhaps he shouldn't have. His enemy gathered his forces and attacked again. It’s better to destroy them at once than to give them another opportunity to ruin you. The price of it is you don’t get to think yourself as a merciful person but the upside is you protect yourself and your family.

[@HowDidIGet3700Subs]

what if the person you love keeps abusing you? think carefully before you generalise hun. X

[@rosekopelowitz5069]

I love that Dr Peterson doesn't force his opinions. He says "I think" or "I believe". Most people will try to sell their beliefs as truth, but this is a man who is humble enough to say, This is what I absolutely believe is true and understanding it will make your life better. You don't have to believe it but here it is.

[@bbdass4598]

He's bought clarity in my head

[@Kerrviii]

It’s the ultimate truth.

[@calob3927]

The wisest man on earth. I really want to go and see him live. I’m a young man and what this man has done for me mentally and pulled me out of absolute chaos, and for so many other young men. This man is an international treasure. Thank you professor Peterson.

[@enigma2477]

Am so glad you have come across his content. He is a rare gem and a real champion for you young men. Go ahead, be the awesome person you were created to be!

[@calob3927]

@@enigma2477 bless up mate 🤍🙏🏼

[@Grriabear]

Have you read the Bible yet?

[@amandajtycer2887]

I like this video because it makes me feel like I'm actually there.

[@amandajtycer2887]

John Forbes Well said. I agree.

[@KingCoCo]

In the past couple months of consuming Dr Peterson’s content and book, I feel like a stronger, assertive and more competent human being.

[@brianlove1943]

Its always a pleasure listening to Jordan Peterson talk

[@evil-scotsman335]

brian love I second that emotion 🕺🏻👌

[@evil-scotsman335]

I just noticed have a cousin with the exact same name as you

[@brianlove1943]

evil- Scotsman that's pretty funny lol I'm Scottish also

[@evil-scotsman335]

brian love where are u from in our beautiful land?

[@inquisitorfederov5470]

Mr. Peterson is going places with his newfound talent of pubpic speaking. I love this man, such a rare and brilliant mind.

[@noadlor]

Justin Ferguson. Not rare. You may also like Dr Wayne Dyer.

[@ronotju1637]

Dr*

[@shawnellemartineaux6212]

Not new found. He's been a lecturer for decades.

[@YoungSimba4040]

As shawnelle mentioned ‘not new found’ this man is the example of living your purpose .

[@noadlor]

@Philosophy Apparently you do if you need to react to a 3 year old comment. Get a life.

[@deejayjuicebox7623]

I needed to hear this. As cliche as this sounds. He has saved my life.

[@marcosscorzoni3465]

He's one of the most important person of our generation.

[@ilovejettrooper5922]

Love the spontaneous clapping when he says "Bring it on!"

[@gyrospace2]

His lectures, appearances, debates, etc are good mind food. I grow everytime. Thank you Jordan

[@supergirlwithnoname]

If you love someone, you accept their fragility.... WOW

[@Johny40Se7en]

When you get engulfed in absolute darkness, it adjusts your eyes so that you're able see light in things which many people can't. You can't overcome darkness, you adjust have to learn an understanding and appreciation of it 😉😊 "Love changes everything" - Climie Fisher 😜

[@maricamaas5555]

There is hidden light in darkness... Read Isaiah 45

[@chuckolator1859]

I've started to learn about some of these concepts lately, just in my own experiences. Then he lays it out so eloquently and concisely. God bless you, sir.

[@robertpillowjr.1672]

America needs to hear this man. God bless him. I pray he gets back to 100%. Its clear to me why evil attacked him body and mind. He is danger to evil! I love Jordan Peterson and all he stands for!

[@luelue5514]

Stand up! Speak the truth! Make the world a better place!

[@mario9133]

I loved someone once before. I mean... I really, really loved him. Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, Psychologically, even Spiritually it was all wrong but, I loved him anyway. But then you have to ask yourself... "How do you know it was love and not something else?" Well... The answer would be.... "I don't know". Thus, as a first step, I had to define love. Something some of the greatest Thinkers, Philosophers, Poets, Writers, and even Scientists have been trying to do for centuries, even longer. So how could I, a simple man, define something undefinable? It is not like trying to define the Infinity of the Cosmos? What is "Infinite"? Something without an end, the common mind would reason. But what does that mean? "Having no end". Endless! Without limits, or borders, or fences, or walls, or anything that divides and sets limits... Endless. What is to Love? What is Endless? What is Infinite? Concepts, one would say. But that is too broad of an answer. Concepts are abstract. Abstract is good, you could say. Abstract is also Infinite. But we don't live in Infinite terms. We have schedules, and planners, and we program our lives, our daily activities, and we do it daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly. Those are limits. We can't avoid them because we ourselves are Finite. So we don't really know what Infinite is. And that makes it impossible to define Love. I can tell you why I loved my friend. His name was Alexandre. I loved him because he made me feel good about myself. Because being with him was being happy, feeling as if the Infinite Universe had somehow conspired, unbeknownst to us, to me, to him. But a simpler way of saying it would be to say that I loved him because he was always happy. Because he was pure, and innocent. Because every time he had something to say, he made it easier for me to listen, and to understand what he was saying. Because he always said what he meant, and always had the best intention regarding his opinions. Because the way he looked at me, and the way I could, sometimes, see myself reflected in his huge dilated pupils. I could see my smile in his eyes. Because every time we were together time went by too fast, and when apart, time crawled like molasses. It was hard to be apart. It was hard having to wait. It was hard to imagine life without him. To imagine myself being, without being with him. So... "What do you do when you love someone?" You hurry! You hurry every second of every hour of everyday because you know that soon, the moment will come when you will be together. So first you hurry, and they you hope. And them you hope that the time you are together, is Infinite. You hope it never ends. And you don't build walls, or fences, or dig an abyss, unless the abyss is also an Infinite Abyss, and you hope to fall together into it. That is what you do. Anyway... Enough talking.

[@rosekopelowitz5069]

That is beautiful

[@claudiapost-schultzke7216]

True love Always tell the truth to each other. And it scares you to death.

[@sachapratt8331]

Love you JP. your so valuable. I cant express how much you've helped me. Your voice is so needed, despite the people trying to take you down. We love you!

[@divyanshujadon9789]

There's something special about Mr. Jordan Peterson

[@sazzcool]

Thank You!!! Jordan Peterson !!! I really appreciate you!!! May God Bless you!!!

[@deborrastrom8559]

Speak the truth, & make the world a better place. Telling the truth is loving well & living fully. " I believe People are embodied miracles."

[@MishelMAK]

BRING IT ON!

[@chuckolator1859]

As hard as it is... amen to that.

[@boatmermaid6732]

Thank you for being your best self Jordan Peterson....and thank you for not being perfect,because that would be obnoxious. You are a light in this world ,thank you for showing up in this time and space .🙏💙🙏

[@michaelt2582]

Great Speech!

[@Misterbumm]

Amen. One who shares his thoughts and wisdom so openly shares the world, shaping it to a better place.

[@BrotherTree1]

Started to get more and more emotional as the video progressed. It got deeper and deeper.

[@juanbigstoner3413]

Looking back on my last breakup, it was the best thing to happen. Felt destroyed because I got cheated on but I picked up those pieces and moved on and it brought me to a better place I probably wouldn’t be at unless that had happened.

[@veritevraie4433]

Love (when initial interest has grown up and become deep) is the most divine and inspiring feeling anyone can experiment. ❤️ I wish you all to meet or keep your beloved.

[@letom.359]

Sir Peterson...I respect you deeply...

[@evalinevanderwiel826]

Love this guy.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you!

[@divya-13]

Thanks a lot sir👍

[@mixmaster09777]

Thank You Dr Peterson. ❤️

[@joshuahunter2825]

Thanks for saying stuff. 👍

[@amberfahr5992]

Makes me want to say..AMEN

[@lalalad4536]

Bring it on!!!

[@yustianp9708]

"Bring it on." That HITS me

[@lizzysmith6728]

This is beautiful

[@kathrynkastner6064]

I have looked deeply at darkness, too. Thanks for the optimism that we are embodied miracles. I like this idea. Our lives are meaningful. Very encouraging.

[@thesoundpurist]

0:45. That's weird cause it's the moment I had a mystical experience on amphetamines. Realizing it's the mental limitation I impose to myself that prevent me to access to infinite source of the being. I reshaped my personality as infinite, I am never finished... Thinking of Bruce Lee, athletes... etc I started training in the same week, stop smoking weed and eating well only in the aim of performing more. Love Jordan Peterson a lot, he's a great asset to anyone who want to bring it to another level. Why so much hate toward him? It's beyond my understanding.

[@YoungSimba4040]

Well done my man, keep pushing on ... the future belongs to those who push on ...

[@teop7887]

Dr. JP is an international treasure 🙏👍

[@josibrito7225]

You have made me stronger, wiser l am so greatful for your existence.

[@mahnoormahmood4243]

Just Amazing

[@maricamaas5555]

"... we should dispense with our resentment and our bitterness; despite the fact that we have every reason for it; and stand up, and face things forthrightly, and speak the truth, and make the world a better place."

[@maricamaas5555]

Arrogance and bitter resentment - rooted in pride - lie at the root of humanity's 'pathological individualism'... Bending the knee and glorifying God as Creator, and being thankful towards Him - rooted in humility - is the antidote.

[@jaylopez4172]

Bring it on.

[@natural9743]

When you love someone you don't need to analyse why and what

[@5Fabiop]

You don't need it, but you can.

[@workinprogress0123]

Bring it on

[@evgeniyakovaleva6804]

Every JP's speech is so magic that I somehow without great skills in English can understand everything he says in images, despite the fact that there are many unknown words. Hello from Russia:)

[@charmainemiles4089]

A humble great man 🥰

[@teefrankenstein4340]

He’s correct the best way to deal with life is say bring it on!

[@tangpiseth8416]

"The thing about light is that it makes the darkness stand out." After he said that, I could see him as a light, a beacon of hope, opposed to the dark background...

[@dynamitecity9667]

What I would give to even have a 5 minute discussion with the man.

[@Jaze2022]

I know how you feel. I want half an hour. But at the same time, I feel like I already know how he'll answer my questions. Can't you get this by attending his talks? He has a fan photo session after the talks. I'm sure you can at least have 10-30s of face time to potentially setup a 5 minute discussion with him?

[@TRUYORK718]

Them cheeks

[@allisong.4280]

*What I would NOT give

[@krukrok5218]

Climb up the dominance heirarchy

[@declanmacmanus9367]

Shut up, lunch bucket.

[@krescent9439]

"I've looked at dark things, and it definitely had hurt me. But the thing about the darkness is that it make the light stands out. As i've looked into deep deep dark things I realize there's something amazing about human beings.

[@kstepk5003]

He’s an incredible miracle

[@Kumarrr9]

I don't know why I am crying.

[@DNA350ppm]

Yes, learn the truth and speak the truth to the best of your ability - and make the world a better place, with each of your actions. I really make efforts to live according to that advice, and I am immensely grateful for JBP to spread it so effectively to the young generation of our times. I feel he is the greatest possible ally, though we might have some differing opinions, but that is superficial. First task: fix myself and strive to be the best possible version of me, next task: let me give support to others for doing their share in making the world a better place - not to be envious, jealous, but the opposite: generous. Third task: speak my truth and let my actions speak louder than my words, and make the world a better place. Fourth task: it is in my power to educate myself about what the planet and humanity need to be a better place, safer place, kinder place, with more good order, better opportunities to make a positive impact, and more freedom of choice for everyone. Don't you agree when you notice how learned JBP is, how he shares is knowledge freely, and how much he cares about those who despair.

[@manuelag2128]

Amen. May our Papa in heaven Bless you and your House 🏡 with everything you need ♥️✨🙏

[@brayneab5185]

JP is special.

[@SmilingClipperButterfly-uz8px]

Subjective love vs objective. Love

[@mrnezbitt]

We all have the capacity ro make our immediate environment a better place ... but doing so is complex! Sometimes it takes someone like Jordan Peterson to break this meaning down so that it is comprehendible. A clear, simple and powerful metaphorical message "stand up straight with your shoulders back" ... oh, and tell the truth for God's sake!

[@Michael-ur4gd]

Someone needs to make a shirt of Jordan with his arms stretch out saying bring it on

[@patrickcusworth8111]

I had to stop at the end of this film and re-watch/listen - I've never heard anything that confirms so clearly everything I feel deep down but haven't managed to articulate.

[@sharpatite4684]

Keep listening and u may find that happens again and again

[@NAJErEa91]

***yells at the tippy top of my lungs*** BRING IT ON !!!!!!! THANK Q MR. PETERSON FOR BEING THE BINOCULARS TO HELP US PEER INTO THE ABUNDANT LIFE

[@sdunned7842]

I dont disagree with Jordan, I think he's right in his own way, but i am a pessimist, Maybe I just haven't seen enough darkness to understand the light, but I've seen an awful lot of darkness, and I kept wondering when I'd see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I realized after while of wondering around blindly that, I AM THE LIGHT, no ones coming to save me from the darkness, I have to light my own path. And some people will try to convince you that their little shimmer of light will help you through this darkness, but they dont want out, they just enjoy impressing people with the little bit of light that they have, and they say "noooo, dont go forward, stay here a little longer, in the darkness, I have enough light to sit here and be content...you won't make it on your own." And this has held me back from everything positive that I want in life... I'm not a pessimist because of the dark, im a pessimist because of what I see in the light... lucifer, the angel of light, will try to convince you to stay put, or follow him, I will do neither, and if it means wondering around in the darkness for 20 more years than so be it.

[@shaneyy__]

You’re absolutely right. No one is coming to save you. We live in a dehumanized world. People react very selfishly to just about everything. Those of us that do genuinely care about the wellbeing of others are stuck in seemingly endless cycles of betrayal and pain. This is the modern struggle; navigating through a frivolous time with no big bad to push us to greatness. No reward is greater than knowing you became a good person through willpower and conscious effort, rather than being called to by some external force.

[@KOOzoh222]

DAMNIT we need to clone this man - he's so rare... 👏Standing ovation speech ❤️ _I LOVE YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOUL JORDAN THANK YOU_

[@shrodingerscat4191]

I would love a counseling appointment with Mr Peterson

[@adrianusstenri6363]

Losing someone you love is tough, well I just did. I thought everything will go the way I want, well it's not, it's hard, im trying so hard to stand alone. Will I be able to find someone like her?

[@spikeboy101]

The fact that you can bare making a question, means you have hope in yourself and the world. Keep going

[@chuckolator1859]

@@spikeboy101 True. Keep going, buddy.

[@ernestocalzone1171]

I’ve just found myself in the same place. I hope you found some better times

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

You will find a different better🤗❤

[@sonias9722]

If it didn't work out its better if you don’t find another someone like her

[@Trumpet222]

Regardless of what nasty comments may say about Jordan Peterson I think the fact he openly speaks about Jesus Christ is commendable and he is a great man with an intelligent and interesting mind

[@peterlloyd5457]

I agree. A lot of what he speaks about is just plain biblical sense. I love the Bible and I enjoy listening to JP, he can turn the diamond of scripture to everyday principles like interpreting Solomon's wisdom in the book of Proverbs to everyday lives. He's not saying anything new. There is nothing new under the sun. I love how he basically explains and points out the giant elephants often seen but ignored in todays society. It's fascinating!

[@sheppy001]

My girlfriend broke up with me after 6 years for no reason except for “I’m not sure if I have feelings anymore”....What a mess

[@who_theme]

Me and my ex broke up 2 years ago, ( it was completely my fault) and all of a sudden I keep having constant dreams about her…..

[@nice2173]

Nice ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mikebravo3858]

LETS! HECKING! GOOOOOO!!!!

[@mphat10]

Bring it on. Itadaikumasu

[@XaviXVI]

MinhP Nguyen いただきます！！

[@ScholasticChad]

Gah - this is so good

[@aconfusedshoe6240]

Watching this after watching videos about the unspeakable evil of Unit 731 during WW2. This man is giving literally the most positive message of all time and people in this comment section still find ways to hate, downplay, or criticize him. This man is a hero, if you spend your time trying to downplay him instead of being grateful that the dude is trying his best to save humanity from itself, all I can say is I'm extremely grateful I'm not you and don't have your life. Because something must've went terribly wrong.

[@jeremywininger694]

Right and wrong are constructs. Everything is the way it is supposed to be

[@jc8258]

Friday February 26th 2021 12:27 a. M.

[@Keqing420]

Whoever choose pink and blue for the lights is a genius. Perfect for jordan peterson. Cute and sweet while being harsh and real, and also female and male symbolism in the colors

[@IronWil]

#truthbomb! EPIC!!!

[@junevandermark952]

From the book … The Mother Tongue … English and How It Got That Way … Author bill Bryson. … At a conference of sociologists in 1977, love was defined as “the cognitive-affective state characterized by intrusive and obsessive fantasizing concerning reciprocity of amorant feelings by the object of the amorance.”

[@arnoldhernandez1910]

Can someone help me w the full lecture please

[@kalidar8215]

source?

[@PharmDNader]

where is this clip taken from

[@saratres]

I only just think If I leave this world right know for example, I never felt in my life that somebody loved me like I deserve, only G-d. That is very sad

[@fardeenpathan8762]

THIS GUY

[@vinzenzs2805]

which talk is this from?

[@MilesQuickster]

I wonder if there's more of this speech..

[@peterking7165]

Dose anyone know where this speach is from?

[@johnnyteeter9486]

Never noticed how much he touches the wedding ring. Can’t imagine what he went thru, thinking he was going to lose his wife to cancer

[@gwho]

what full even is this from?

[@toddjohnson8493]

Dr. Peterson were have you been all my life?

[@Somewhere-In-AZ]

I'm not a Christian, but I love the Bible. There is so much wisdom contained there. I take much of what it says to heart and practice in my daily life. I don't "pray" for anyone, I believe that is "code" when people say they will pray for you. They mean that they aren't going to do squat for you, but they'll ask God to help you. No, if you need help, I'll actually help you. I think that's what Jesus was trying to teach people. Wouldn't that be a great world to live in?

[@kellenfletcher7177]

I disagree. When A Christian prays it is an acknowledgement of power beyond the perception and capabilities of rationality and skill. It is the will of one being put to use in a divine manner in order to have a supernatural impact on the event in question.

[@yelloe]

There are some help humans can't do but only God can do. Only God can change someone heart. Like changing someone's mindset