Ask These Calibrated Questions to Get a Raise

[@callum7081]

Peterson about to explain the metaphysics and ethics of drip with that thumbnail 🔥🔥🔥

[@kokoskokso]

Beautiful profile pic 😎🤣👌

[@PsychologyDeepDive]

😂😂😂😂

[@IMResident_IMG_Indian]

😂😂😂

[@henrymadethat]

I’m a simple man. I see JP in sunglasses. I click the video.

[@iamchangingmychannelsname5931]

1,000💯 for real😎

[@YagoIsJustDreaming]

Man, I couldn't resist as well : D

[@iamchangingmychannelsname5931]

@@YagoIsJustDreaming 💕💯

[@TheFarmhouseMom]

Hell yes.

[@danielbradstreet7731]

Yo sames

[@ejiroigbesoko]

"How can I be guaranteed to be involved in projects that are critical to the strategic future of this organisation?" Just brilliant; love it!!!❤

[@missreia]

That shot is gold, sir!

[@HelloWorld-lv4we]

Your production team deserves a raise lol

[@marcosnz19ify]

I was all that in the conversation, did everything the right way without really knowing but landed in a bad company that drained all my best qualities. Currently trying to work myself back to who I was. Thank you for all this content.

[@PsychologyDeepDive]

You’ll get there. Some of these companies are parasites that attract unethical parasites as managers

[@TheZeroLatitud]

Shitty companies tend to burn out their best talent. Hopefully all you need is a place that shows appreciation so your old qualities can make a comeback.

[@FranciscoSalazar-q5q]

So did I

[@Wodenson5150]

I may be in that company your looking for. They exist, so keep faith. Be sure to shop your employer for how their values align with yours. Wishing you luck.

[@raphaelfeneje486]

Badass thumbnail 😌

[@mikedav178]

never i'd expect Mr.Peterson wearing aviator glasses for a thumbnail lol

[@PsychologyDeepDive]

The thumbnail is absolute fire 🔥😂

[@josephhefley1829]

Dr.* Peterson

[@santiagocastillo5697]

¡Gracias!

[@howardmoon1234]

I followed every step of this (before seeing this video). Started the conversation last summer. Heard a lot of lip service about my contribution, but no firm commitment for anything to change. Crucial part was at the very beginning: be ready to leave if you can’t come to a mutual agreement. I’m starting a new job in the coming months, at over 20% more than I’m currently paid. My bosses said they were gutted I was leaving. Go figure

[@Bikameral]

JP, more courses like this one please !

[@paularodrigues5136]

I am not hostage anymore. I have lost all fear, and I have no alternative. I am very feed up of seeing all that I have seen over the years. However I have 47 years, they don’t call me like they use to for interviews. Its meetings all the time, and they always ask me to do the chores that are unimportant. Sick of it!

[@BoBoZoBo]

I first discovered Jordan over 10 years ago. My wife was in a point of her career of taking the next step it didn't really have the tools to negotiate. One morning I'm listening to npr, when the new station was still worth anything, and there is Jordan Peterson talking to the reporter about his experience with powerful female executives, and the disparity with most negotiation advice which is written by men for men and how women need to recontextualization. It was an aha moment that my wife used to her advantage and has been using ever since in her career. Here we are a decade later and the same very news organization is one of the many idiots calling Jordan Peterson a woman hater. I'm sorry to see this happen to you Dr Peterson. Just know that your advice continues to help millions.

[@agusrusso6087]

I couldnt resist to JP with glasses I had to click

[@claytonkramer7234]

The thumbnail 👌😂

[@Philipruss]

“The fact that you don’t have alternatives doesn’t change your value to the company” - more people need to hear this

[@MrJabbothehut]

That's true but having an alternative gives you the ability to walk away whilst still having an income. It's part of having a solid BATNA (best alternative to negotiated agreement).

[@offchan]

​@@MrJabbothehut BATNA is like a fallback self-protection mechanism. It's cool to have it. But BATNA is mostly useful when you don't know how to build rapport. If you know how to build rapport and know how to convey your value, the other side won't sabotage themselves just to hurt you. It's illogical to sabotage the deal simply because you know the other person lose more than you do. People only sabotage if they see unfriendly actions.

[@MrJabbothehut]

@@offchan thats some S tier advice, appreciate it brother

[@offchan]

​@@MrJabbothehut To add to that, an example of an unfriendly action is when you throw ultimatum like "If you don't raise, I'll leave" or "If you don't accept me, I have no where to go". This is because you are focusing on your needs. A better thing to do is to focus on what they need. Probe their perspective and see how you can give them what they need. Ask calibrated questions. Label their negative feelings. Be mindful of their worries. Preemptively disarm their accusations. It's all about being curious about their perspective. If you care mostly about your needs and what you are losing, you are showing desperate energy and they will reject you.

[@Purplethoughts8]

That last 2 min such great info 👊🏻

[@randyscorner9434]

Excellent advice. In particular your boss often does not know what you're really doing. A key milestone in any career is the first change of job after starting your real career. One has to know that their value is what they contribute, not what someone else thinks of them. I love the term "don't take yourself hostage".

[@dewdusmaximus7692]

The timing of this appearing in my feed is impeccable. Fantastic content as always, JP!

[@1FrenchConnection1]

Great to see Chris Voss! Love this negotiation skills!

[@FedeManBCN]

Epic. Just epic conversation, material, advice... Call it what you want, for me this response is epic. Thanks for sharing.

[@GrooveSchoolRecs]

GOLD. Appreciated, thank you.🙏🏽

[@JoyAdebambo]

Lol I know Mikhaila is behind that photo caption

[@Dude0000]

Probably the title, too.

[@fathuzakysetyawan1703]

for sure...

[@Razear]

"If you don't give me a raise, I'll leave." The irony is that most employees are too timid to ask their boss for a raise precisely because they're afraid of souring the mood at work and risk being let go. In today's job market, people are more concerned about retaining their job than increasing their salary. Very few actually have the optionality to leave for a different employer without having to risk economic precarity.

[@brando3342]

@Razear Exactly what I was thinking, and am experiencing. Another point is, employers risk very little by letting you go, even if you are in an "important" position, because there are SO many people who will take over the same position, and do just enough that the employer can consider hiring them. The threat to leave has absolutely no teeth at all. You could be the hardest, most competent worker, and it wouldn't matter. If they don't want to pay you more, you might as well just leave if somewhere else will pay better, or stay and not poke the bear.

[@susanstewart1402]

@@brando3342 I agree. You don't have that conversation unless you already have something else lined up and are willing to leave. You can ask nicely as in, I really like working here, the team and the work are great, etc. but I am getting offers and the difference in pay is substantial .. can you consider matching in or coming closer? However, at the end of the day, if they don't value you enough to consider these possibilities ahead of time and pay appropriately, then they are either uninformed, stupid, arrogant, greedy or something else equally unflattering. Such behaviour doesn't bode well for their future success. The only reason to stay would be seniority connected to a pension or other benefits, and that would be compensation that needs to be taken into your calculations.

[@Monaleenian]

⁠@@susanstewart1402They might not be uninformed, stupid arrogant or greedy. It might just be the case that your job is only worth a certain amount to them and they’re not willing to pay more than that amount. Just like a very expensive restaurant might produce a fantastic meal but most people would probably not be willing to pay for that meal every day of the week, despite its great quality. They might be happy with a microwave dinner or something equally cheap but sufficient. It’s not because the person is stupid, greedy, arrogant or uninformed that they choose to forgo the meal in the expensive restaurant.

[@randyscorner9434]

I disagree. The key is knowing what you can contribute and you don't know that until you look at other job openings. People who are open about wanting higher salary and working toward it are easy to work with. I've often been able to find a next career path for an employee to keep them in the company as good performers. There are always those who will go elsewhere, but the cost to the employer of training and integrating a new employee is very high. Certainly not true for burger flipping, but very true for any skilled position. That's why you always need to be improving skills.

[@dadadadave9652]

Sorry, I gotta point it out to those who don't know; that's Chris Voss, ex-FBI #1 hostage negotiator! Check out his book, Never Split the Difference! 2 of my favorite intellectuals having a discussion, it's absolutely magic!

[@TheXxxeeelll]

Love the pen in the hand. If it’s a psychological “trick”, it works 🔥

[@ericscott5895]

Thank you for another positive and insightful discussion. 🙏

[@michaeledgell8789]

Two of my favorite people.

[@lovegodfirst654]

What I hate to say is this idea of starting with shit with promise of future incentive is a ploy that everywhere that has nurses does. Nurses almost never get these incentives at a later time. Includes sign on bonuses, promises of yearly raises, all sorts of stuff. The market is saturated with broken promises. I've learned, start me out with what I'm worth or learn to deal with crap I signed on for. Had nurses working for 20 years at places making more than $10 less per hour or worse than brand new grads. Only way you get raise is if at least 3 conditions are met. 1. You let em know you are walking. 2. You are invaluable to them. 3. They can't find a replacement. That's it. To say you lack motivation unless you make more are firing words. That's how cutthroat nursing is and that's why a lot leave.

[@g.m.5590]

Great timing, thank you for this 🙏

[@AaronButler66]

I saw the thumbnail and immediately had to double-take and break out laughing 😂😂😂

[@doasthouwilt543]

My favorite thing about Jp is his ability to let people shine, he knows when to interject and when to let who he’s talking with talk.

[@IchorousLIVE]

Jordan Peterson in aviator glasses? He’s got suits already, bros aboutta have a monopoly on drip.

[@ShaneSchimpf]

Great video. Being successful in any negotiation requires first knowing the value you bring to the table. Funny how something so simple doesn't just resonate in you until you realize it. I especially liked the analogy of being held hostage by your wage, skills, etc. I'd call it being hostage to comfort which is something I think everyday people tend to struggle with. Contention isn't something I'm personally happy with, but to each's own.

[@marioskomnos4661]

Jordan Peterson discussing with Chris Voss.. man! You have my full attention!

[@alexwalpole4202]

Jordan Peterson is Mr Rogers for adults. Love him ❤ 😊

[@tomasalexandrugrigore5770]

Rapper Peterson Thumbnail 😂

[@Anonymous_Whisper]

I want him to drop an album. Hip Hop . 😅

[@Anonymous_Whisper]

Dr.P should drop an album.

[@MiyuruPathum]

Jordy B be slayin ❤

[@radomone]

Thank god my coworkers at my new job completely accurately show the work I have been doing and its value.

[@RawrLadyfingers]

The thing that Ive experienced with negotiating move up opportunities is that recruiters will tell you just about anything you want to hear when it comes to your future in the company. And when sitting down for the employment contract theyll tell you that theyre not able to make adjustments to the contract as everyone gets the same. Especially for larger companies. You have to take what theyre telling you at face value most of the time.

[@munyumbamutwale2985]

1. Tell Your Boss What Value You Currently Bring 2. Tell Your Boss What the Organization Stands to gain from your raise

[@parasocialbondsmetaswvoits9078]

this thumbnail is fire

[@gmurtaza]

Chris Voss ❤ the master negotiator! This guy is amazing.

[@Batmancontingencyplans]

That Professional shoot was lit Mr.J

[@silvioricob]

The video discusses strategies for negotiating a raise, emphasizing the importance of being in a position to say no, understanding one’s market value, and presenting a case to the boss. 1. Negotiating a raise requires being in a position to say no and understanding one’s market value. 2. It’s important to ensure that the boss knows the value of your work and what you can offer. 3. Presenting a case for advancement or a raise should also consider the boss’s perspective and what’s in it for them. 4. Instead of taking oneself hostage by feeling limited to one job option, ask calibrated questions to create thoughts in the employer’s mind. 5. Prioritize needs and wants, and consider alternative ways to negotiate for better financial returns.

[@hartekunst554]

Didn't expect to see Voss!

[@Lwrfriday9195]

Great advise

[@ThrashPanda.95]

What a 👑

[@alexeidragunov4534]

Couldn’t resist the sunglasses😂

[@ikinubrian]

Love the thumbnail 🔥🔥🔥😂❤️❤️

[@MicMan123456789]

All this sounds great until you actually get an offer from a company and it’s just a letter from some corporate HR person, and all communication is though email. They have no power and can just answer questions and maybe forward requests to someone you’ll never see. This whole thing ignores that this process has purposefully become less personal.

[@KaiGuyGD]

YOOOO THAT THUMBNAIL FIRE AS FUCK 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@MichaelSkinner-e9j]

Beware of cyber criminals that will manipulate online. Don’t ever negotiate online or over a phone

[@Supreme_Lobster]

hes talking about negotiating a salary

[@yakalb93]

Thumbnail 10/10 💯🔥🔥

[@ty63t0]

Maybe these tips work in the US, but here in Europe, the only way I've ever gotten a raise is to find a better workplace first, then tell my current employer. They then instantly promote me to whatever position the competition offers

[@hendy24]

I love how the thumbnail is JBPs Shadow coming put

[@AbelAk-yn7zr]

The glass were interesting, I didn't even see the video title 😂

[@bigwex1805]

Thumbnail drip 💀

[@jamshedfbc]

Reminds me of Derryl asking for raise from Michael in THE OFFICE 😂

[@RubberTag]

Yo, that thumbnail though. Fire mr J! 😤🔥🔥💯

[@jaaguitar]

In corporations you often can't have these conversations with a human. You're sat across from a bureaucrat who has been told by HR what they can and can't offer. We're not all in Wall St.

[@ChristianSoschner]

Excellent content

[@cpt.tryhard6554]

Oh it's Chris Voss! TBSG are absolute legends!

[@northwestWW]

If people weren’t in debt, aka hostages, they wouldn’t be so fearful to negotiate for themselves.

[@flashwashington2735]

Thanks gentlemen.

[@aidenmarshall6478]

I’ve never been more influenced by a thumbnail in my life

[@turbanheadless]

Did he just get off his motorcycle? 😂

[@Wodenson5150]

"Go into the negotiation with the 'i'll quit if you don't etc' card in your back pocket for the confidence of it" only works if you've proven your asset value to your employer either directly or indirectly(i.e. through supervisors, coworkers, clients, etc.). You need to prove that you've affected the bottom line in a positive way somehow.

[@spitalhelles3380]

You'll either get a raise out of them or you'll get a raise out of them.

[@dmitriypushkin8895]

In my view if you are truly professional the salary is the least aspect of the negotiation as you would know what you worth by that time. I would try to learn if 1. core business model is viable 2. the team is professional and motivated 3. internal processes are organized effeciently. These factors will have most impact on whether work experience will be rewarding. I guess if you are professional you already know that. Peace and prosperity to everyone ✌

[@paradiseisland786]

No matter what you, or one must make some significant meeting with you're supervisor, or CEO, and then go beyond the 100% level, unfortunately far too many super's, of bosses will take advantage of your state of mind. Far too many corporation's people think everyone in replaceable, that's utterly insane, no one is replaceable.

[@lopes-x9e]

Thumbnail goes hard 🔥

[@damianh9747]

He’s like Mike from Breaking Bad

[@christiantexeira1262]

JP looking like he about to drop the hardest album of the year with that thumbnail.

[@elizabethdelatorre9019]

The picture would make a fabulous phone case.

[@PsychologyDeepDive]

There are many potential products to make with it 😂

[@williamkroll7928]

The best peterson thumbnail of all time 😆

[@owena3896]

"Suck up to the right people". That is the only lesson you are qualified to teach

[@Tom111Tom]

Based Shades ! Based Suit ! 😎

[@Pcoxproductions]

11:20 how can I be guaranteed to be involved in projects that are critical to the strategic future of this company?

[@sandoncrowder7839]

I was not prepared for the Willy Wonka sunglasses JP 😂😂

[@PsychologyDeepDive]

New Jordan Peterson album dropping: Aviators and Metaphysics (the psychology of cool)

[@weLiveInSociety]

*Damn, that thumbnail goes hard. Didn't expect it.*

[@nicholascameron6603]

Guy's we need to be careful here... most people in an organization are not planning for the next steps are in their career path or what the weight of an increased salary will take on their daily duties and workload responsibilities. I'm sorry if you're reading this thinking I'm not talking about you but I am. Companies are not just going to wake up one day and recognize your brilliance and give you a raise. JP said in another interview that you need to chart the path and come prepared with solutions on how to get there. It's not the responsibility of your manager or organization to constantly show you the way. You need to figure that out on your own.

[@RadiantLight]

Nice save on the “or her” Jordan! You’ve learned that one the hard way 😅 Great Advice 😇

[@TiagoRamosVideos]

👌

[@theocsilver]

The thumbnail 😂🎉🎉🎉

[@christopher2206]

Great advice if you are interviewing with a leader and not a gatekeeper. Most companies are a wreck these days.

[@jamesbrodie2307]

2d course or more kinda like my side gigs 😅enough idea inception. Maybe a certain math 🧮 oversight.

[@xzjulius]

That thumbnail was fire lmao

[@anytayatyta]

Couldn't resist the shades...

[@schlussmitschiss]

I’m a simple woman. I see JP in sunglasses. I think: Oh man, is he vain! I click the video.

[@DarrenAllatt]

If you published via video all of the business stuff that you did that would elevate you to the next level That would get you doing “Coaching, mentoring, consulting” with some of the biggest corporations You should also put all of this stuff into Online video courses with written components they would fly off the shelves

[@Mike__G]

We assume that we’re negotiating with reasonable people and good will. I discovered early that good employers care about you but only to a point. If you “screw up in reverse” by getting into something highly useful to the employer that they will not promote you beyond, often the only way up is out.

[@Christ_on_the_River]

How similar are calibrated questions in negotiation with interpretive questions in conversation-based learning?

[@CarsAndBasss]

That fuckin thumb nail 😂😂😎😎🙌

[@Wadmd]

I'm seeking a demotion. There was a handshake for two expectations. I've satisfied the first expectation, and the second has been hindered due to those above me. I negotiated, and the deal is not complete, yet the expectations exist. So I defer to half of the expectation as I have received half of of the expectation with the responsibility. Travel on light feet with documentation my friends.

[@0nan-Son-of-Juda-Brother-of-Er]

I outperformed everyone on the job for about 6 months straight and after getting commendations from upper management I e-mailed a letter of resignation stating that I had found gainful employment elsewhere

[@ahwass4989]

the thumbnail is a great callback to the old JP Fan Channel days

[@Justamanhere-w4r]

Dr Peterson can you make a video on how to keep society progressive

[@csibesz07]

They know you are replaceable especially in huge companies, you can only negotiate collectively as union.

[@bregsma]

casually chris voss popping out in the middle of

[@janelleg597]

Here for the thumbnails