Reading Strangers' Wrong Decisions in Relationships

[@ymn5201]

Wow regret is truly the worst emotion

[@cccorn835]

yeah it really is 🥺🥺🥺

[@alivegirl7830]

Bcs the only solution is dealing with urself

[@TheWinningNadz]

Man!

[@Manvir.]

to me it's invalidation. but we all have different opinions.

[@atahz006]

Definitely. Just the thought of, "Oh I could've done this" or "I sould've done this instead" is sjckckeowmdnco.

[@anpxnmannn1733]

If you killed my pet, all hell is gonna break out

[@Henry-bh2hs]

anpxnmannn Stan twice periodt ✨

[@anpxnmannn1733]

ltalio periodt

[@arilikesbread1218]

You got back up sis.

[@peppermint1349]

@Niranjan Rajesh How does that have to do with anything?

[@tedtheracoon]

@@peppermint1349 because it's kinda fucked up to eat animals that were raised in small pens and then get mad when someone kills a cat

[@kamilaedits8977]

“It’s okay to outgrow people.”

[@akagrimreaper6702]

/r im14andthatsdeep

[@annonymous6827]

A wise beet farmer once said: "Well, I outgrew all my friends in 3 hours."

[@cherubzbaby]

that hits home

[@sandyruitenberg2928]

I read it just as he said it. And I have outgrown many people. It happened to me mainly with friendships, and most of them just bled out, there were no fights or anger. We just slowly stopped speaking with each other and lost interest in each others lives. And then you just stop hanging out and texting and that's it. Sometimes people get in another stage of life, they outgrow people or it does not feel comfortable talking anymore. Now I still have a few close friends and I like it that way!

[@moodswing_whiskey]

Source of Randomness 🤣🤣

[@umairarshad7463]

Idk why but I wasn’t expecting this to be so depressing

[@MA-bf6le]

I mean they definitely said “wrong decisions” lol...I didn’t have much hope 😂

[@EspritsFantomes]

It’s always depressing

[@evastood4539]

You have to change the genre of it and make it comedic

[@dakotac180]

These are always depressing

[@dantdt4693]

Um looks like you’ve never watched these

[@hurrrmmhmmmhmghh8912]

I think animal cruelty warrants much greater punishment than a restraining order

[@samanthaepps6365]

Same. I'm surprised she didn't press for animal abuse

That guy needs his ass beat to a bloody pulp and I usually don’t condone violence but he’s the definition of pure evil

[@therachellllcat4444]

They called the cops, not much you can do if you're terrified of a person

[@melissam597]

Draedon Apotheosis cats are actually more intelligent than farm animals, and there’s a difference between a psycho murdering cats and someone eating a steak. Don’t be self-righteous.

[@Cr0ssmyheart96]

@@draedon_ I don't want to get too into this debate but I think there is a huge difference between killing an animal for food, and killing somebody's pets just to "punish" them. It is scary that his anger lead him to a senseless killing, and killing animals in the manner he did usually leads to crimes that are much more heinous. I hope that girl is safe. Even if those were pet cows and not cats, killing them for no reason and just out of frustration, to traumatize your partner, is scary.

[@melissa41]

Okay but can we just talk about how her boyfriend didn’t want her to go to an IVY LEAGUE!! Dark...

[@user-kl9dq7um7k]

People are bad it's sickening

[@galaxybrain97]

I think people are taking this at face value to easily. It wasn't that he wanted her to not go, he was afraid he was gonna lose her because he believed that she would become too good for him. And that sucks for him because it shows that he has low self esteem but also shows that he loves the girl and wants to continue to be with her. It's a very grey area, not black and white.

[@hj45-s9k]

@GalaxyGaming to really love someone is to want the best for them and to see them be the best they can be so it doesn’t matter how that dude views himself. Fuck that guy cause he obviously cares more about his future happiness than hers and wants her to stay down on the ground with him and that isn’t love.

[@nadine3419]

@@galaxybrain97 No, I had an ex like that. It wasn't love. It was control. Probably a narcissist.

[@stephi6792]

Who is that guy, what? What? WHAT? She should have been gone sooo fast. Like Casper. Disappear.

[@CraftedTomLion]

The asian guy with the green coat speaks so much sense

[@shreyashaji1066]

I want him to be my therapist

[@saraA-cx5gk]

He is the CEO for jubilee

[@bolugnese]

sara A no he isn’t. The Asian guy in the black empathy sweatshirt is the ceo

[@kimikokimi]

I thought they’re both co-founder

[@soarazak992]

Riiiight? " it s okay to outgrow people" damn right it is!

[@thehamtori3115]

*If someone killed my pet I would do much more than a restraining order oml*

[@fionafiona1146]

That's not necessarily safe, but might very well have happened.

[@NealD]

Pretty easy to say, if the person killed your cats, they were about to attack you, and that’s why you emptied a 9mm into them. Not a good idea to hurt animals. Afterall, animals are better than people.

[@fionafiona1146]

@@NealD If they aren't the only people in your household with a fire arm.

[@Cosmo_Samoyed]

John Wick

[@joeschmo9348]

I agree entirely

[@finnyoungman2674]

“jealousy is the worst emotion” regret: you might want to rethink that

[@sadafm764]

Guilt : well hello

[@sum_random_artist9542]

I feel like guilt and regret are very close(at least in my mind)

[@maria-mc9ey]

I think the worst is remorse

[@lenc99]

Tbh I still think jealousy is worse emotional as its what push people to do sth that they may regret later

[@blkbarbie2671]

Jealousy can change who you are and what you act like (IMO) the things it does to people is crazy. But regret is so sad and can change the whole course of your life :(

[@tobi7559]

Ladies, changing a man is not your job. You are not his mum. Take care, be safe and God bless xx

[@spiritblood1100]

not mum’s job either, it’s the man’s job

[@aj3706]

Some people cannot be changed even though the parents were loving and did everything right.

[@aj3706]

@@spiritblood1100 It can either be both it depends

[@elizabethschrader1600]

It's not a man's job to change a woman either

[@tashatoddman7492]

Neither is it a man's job to change a woman. You are not their father.

[@lydianelson2235]

So. My mom left my dad for killing our dog, he claimed it attacked the cat, the cat was also dead but had non-dog related wounds so my mom just nodded and said she was going back to the car because she forgot something, she grabbed me and my brother and hightailed it to the next town. She knew he was psycho, my uncle then went to our house (he's an officer) and found he was planning on killing me and my brother. So yeah, thank god for my mother. (I'm not looking for sympathy just thought this went with the theme of the video) Edit: I didn’t expect this to get seen by so many but thank you, I’ve read to my mom everything polite being said, she appreciates it! Thank you all!

[@spring7643]

That is insane. I'm so glad your mom trusted her instincts and acted fast. She probably saw many red flags and that was the final straw.

[@hamousaa]

Wow you're mom is so brave.

[@user-ve5hr4pi7e]

This sounds pretty sketchy.....

[@memekookie8785]

Tell your mom I said thank you for being a great mother:)

[@ashtinwalker6102]

She was smart with how she played it

[@stellarsana4993]

*Once a decision is made,you know it's gonna have a huge impact even if it is wrong or right.*

[@los5039-l9c]

Mic dropped

[@los5039-l9c]

@@cookiecookie9072 but if u eat that mayo egg sandwich ur breath is going to smell like ass so that's a huge impact.

[@hihihiyo12]

I’m 11 and this is deep

[@Luis-zc5ld]

@Carlos j Otero that is the deepest most sadest and truest thing I’ve heard all day.

[@britneyherrera6972]

Well duh

[@theuchiha7]

she made love to her husband, while imagining he was her ex... nah the audacity to get married to someone and still be in *love* with someone else is messed up.

[@aa-cx8nc]

happens more often than you think

[@bouteldjachamssedine798]

Bruh thats so messed up, im disgusted. poor husband tho..

[@alysbaah-danso5278]

Tbh it's sad, cause shes wasting not only her time but someone else's which is what makes it harder. If she really loved him she wouldn't be loving someone else, she shouldn't of gotten married and really I do believe she might of gotten married cause she believed itll help her move on cause really the most intermate moments sometimes really show what they really mean to you and if he's expressing himself and being vulnerable to her by making love to her and allowing her to see all his faults and see him truly and is thinking about someone else it's not good. She wasting his time when he could be vulnerable with someone else who appreciates him and thinks of him in the moment. She probably does appreciate him, but clearly her heart is still in for her ex and really she shouldn't of gotten married if she had unresolved issues feelings with her ex. And plus, this is hurts not just her but him. It really will, itll build up insecurities within him when he enters another relationship and will have intimate moments such as making love, or sitting down in a restaurant or just having heart to heart moments and that's the most selfish decision anyone can make on their part by hurting and wasting another person's time when having unresolved feelings and issues. Tbh I dont rate her

[@morganraymond828]

While I understand where you are coming from, I am still in love with my first love but we broke up because our paths didn’t quite match (he was Mormon, I wasn’t and wasn’t interested and he wanted to get married and I didn’t want to right away). Now he’s married and it’s been 4 years and now I’m in another relationship. I love my current boyfriend but sometimes I spend time imagining what it would be like to have not broken up with my first boyfriend. Maybe her ex is married now too and it’s not so easy? She will get through it.

[@imarockstarification]

Don't be so quick to judge. Maybe she really do love their husband. Maybe she can't be with her first love. Maybe her husband knows this and still wants to be with her. Maybe they've discussed this together but she can't move past the remorse. Would you still judge her as much if she said her first love died young?

[@TheKittymix]

Wtf kind of sociopath kills cats

[@Opium474]

Luka Magnotta

[@mastermonke1177]

Shane Dawson

[@lukecortez3861]

A dog person. (Not me)

[@Luffy-Taro]

Over an few monts logan paul i geass

[@ThePegasiPony]

@@lukecortez3861 bro wtf

[@annika2963]

How did the guy that KILLED those cats not get in trouble at all?

[@brooklyncurry1660]

Sadly it’s not illegal

[@calista8706]

So you’re telling me animal abuse is not a crime in America ? (I’m assuming these confessions are from Americans)

[@samanthaepps6365]

@@brooklyncurry1660 that's animal abuse. She could've and should've pressed charges. Depending on the judge they could've gotten time and or fined

[@parentpatrol2752]

@@calista8706 No, it is a crime.

[@parentpatrol2752]

@@brooklyncurry1660 You're wrong.

[@kholofelom6308]

Why would you deny your own kids? For a dude!

[@Tina-jf3xf]

Women are simps too

[@BexMcInulty]

Maybe she has had experienced being judged for having kids before. This world is not very welcoming to mothers, especially in the workspace and especially single mothers. It was probably due to bad experiences and her own insecurity and made her feel like a burden. My mom was a single mother and although she never had troubles getting into a relationship it often felt like I was a burden and unwanted.

[@kurtd0naldc0bain]

Rebecca M. Please stop making excuses for bad people. It’s one thing for you to feel like a burden through your point of view as a child, and another for a mother to lie about not having kids right in front of them. It’s disgusting and I pity the poor children.

[@razone4317]

@@kurtd0naldc0bain I'm not sure why you decided to assassinate her entire character based on a snippet of information. Yes, what she did was awful, but the point of this video is to try and empathize and offer support or encouragement to be better. We don't know these people.

[@galaxybrain97]

@@kurtd0naldc0bain jeez not everything is black and white. The problem with people today is they are basically witch hunting only looking for the bad! Analyze the damn situation and think about how a real human acts. Not every "bad" person is truly bad. Ever heard of the phrase "good people make bad decisions"?

[@lailaes802]

The father-in-law's suicide is heartbreaking

[@madalynnsantiago2900]

Made me shed a few tears

[@cleoa6006]

Everybody listen up: YOU CANT CHANGE SOMEONE WHO ISN'T OPEN TO CHANGING

[@khayil]

You can’t change ppl at all tbh. They can only change themselves

[@usermania340]

@@khayil Would it help if they go to a Psychiartrist? Only, If they are comfortable with the Idea though. Just curious.

[@victoriapowers576]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏻

[@acsahkulasingham8017]

@@khayil You sure on that?

[@fakeaccount5433]

@@usermania340 Therapy is the only solution. You can't love people's trauma away they need professional help.

[@rosex5418]

The guy only dating the girl because he felt bad for her... PLEASE that just spiked my anxiety. I'm not gonna get into a relationship if something like this can happen

[@Petrichorus-]

Yeah, the last thing an insecure person wants is pity kindness/love. If he'd left her alone then maybe her first experience could've been genuine 😔

[@AK-ee6rf]

It's so sad I can only Imagine how much more insecure the girl felt afterwards as if only guys would date her out of pity not for her true self.

[@spring7643]

You don't need to worry, just communicate well and you will see if they really like you or not. It's only a mystery if things are left unspoken.

[@GiaTheSweetPotato]

I have been on the receiving end of that several times and it sucks, but I think it's a stretch to say it's the guy's fault she hasn't dated for 9 years afterwards. At some point you have to take responsibility for your life and move on.

[@mariadona5813]

It's been five years since that situation also happened to me. How I wish it's easier to move on and to erase trust issues... I'm still trying even if it's hard.

[@thehamtori3115]

these are so personal it makes me think It might be me but then I realize I've never had a boyfriend or a pet so nvm

[@evodevlo2500]

HAHAHAH me

[@dutchik5107]

I've had one for 6 weeks. It sucks. Pets however. Get one!

[@criticaltaba-nus1499]

I'll be your boyfriend

[@katk7505]

@@dutchik5107 if it sucks you're with the wrong person, lol.

[@dutchik5107]

@@katk7505 that's why it lasted 6 weeks yes

[@thomaslikesplanes5773]

He.... He.... He.... *KILLED....* three.... INNOCENT.... CATS.... because a girl... Was ... away.... Weekend... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA *_internal screaming_*

[@XQFangs]

者衛央 【N e p t u n e】 aaaaaaaa

[@HawkUnleashed]

I find it funny when people are outraged about cats when there are tons of murders that go on every day *shrug* people are more vocal about animals

[@lukecortez3861]

True

[@sleepysnorlax9384]

That screaming was very external

[@frostmusicofficial]

Hawk Unleashed yeah it’s weird but that’s just how most people feel, mainly because the animals are helpless, ya know they couldn’t do anything about it, they just had to go through that pain, same thing with young children and babies. If you look it up you can find more info on that topic it’s interesting.

[@shitakichan4606]

I just found out that i have a 4th sister, who is also my cousin. My mom and dad have been married for 18 years and for 9 years of that marriage my dad was cheating on my mom with her sister. Today my dad told me that he loved my aunt more than he has ever loved my mom, and that he loves his daughter with my aunt more than he loves me and my siblings. It hurts so much to know that I will never look at them the same and that i will never have a good relationship with my half sister. It really sucks but I am about to have really good nap.

[@lacrossienne2708]

I hope you are okay

[@shitakichan4606]

@@lacrossienne2708 thank you I'm ok❤

[@namjoonluv539]

Sending you love and hugs

[@samihatasnim2684]

I feel so sorry for you and your mother. The irony is that your father doesn’t feel any remorses. I'm really moved by your comment. Be strong!

[@sindujalythy2001]

You don't have to look at them the same. Enjoy your nap and life.

[@mooselove]

3:15 I just need to say to you Anon... “red flags just look like flags when you are wear rose tinted glasses”. Don’t beat yourself up for not leaving sooner, sometimes we choose not to see the bad in people... sometimes we ignore the signs. We are only human.

[@itsanoformethanks6277]

Bojack horseman

[@ReginaPhelangee]

From bojack ✌🏾😁

[@hannahmontoya2355]

The guy who killed the three cats is a textbook psycho

[@davidphillips8564]

He just got hungry animals are just natural hot pockets

[@Istrianprincess]

david phillips still a psycho

[@t1m3l0rd]

Damn, and Im here single with my amazing puppie.

[@thatasiangirl0_039]

@@davidphillips8564 Welp found the psycho!

[@maxwellmediainc]

The girl who didn’t date for 9 years after getting dumped imma say that it was as tenth grade we all make mistakes and the guy did the right thing breaking it off . I’ll be generous and say the first year was his “falut “ but the other 8 years thats on her and it’s her responsibility to work through that .

[@wickedloonuh89]

I agree, I also think it turned into 9 years because she probably had also self-esteem issues that collided with the trust issues and that probably sent her into some sort of depression, and once you're on this path for a few years it becomes harder and harder to change. I'm just speculating, of course...

[@LiveConcertJunkie]

Maxwell meida Inc. Exactly you can’t even put the blame on the guy. He broke it off because he saw what was wrong with the relationship but he can’t be blamed for her not dating for almost a whole decade.

[@spring7643]

Maybe she prefers to not date now, not everyone has to date.

[@hyrunnisa997]

She probably has an underlying mental health issue that she isnt getting help for. I dont think the relationship triggered it. It was probably always there

[@Gloomysushiroll]

Pablo Rivas Maybe heregrets datibg her at all

[@dayllily]

The last one, the girl with the college reminds me of me. I was in an abusive relationship & I missed out ON SSOOOOO MUCH, my biggest regrets are not going to Germany and Paris on separate occasions because I was scared he’d think I would cheat on him or something. Another one, I wanted to apply at my local library, it was one of my dream jobs at the time, I was younger, and he said “you wont get the job” so I didn’t even bother looking it up. I regret that so much.

[@lo-ym8cr]

@Miguel Hernandez rude

[@drniravkumar9891]

@Say my Name how can you assume shes from USA. Plus stating your sorrows doesn't cut off hers

[@dayllily]

@M U I’m so glad you didn’t go through what I did (:

[@lovebite4486]

@M U It's not fair that he said those things, though. He should have been encouraging her/him/them/xir to take all these opportunities. But since he was "afraid" they/she/he/xe felt like they/she/he/xe had to stay.

[@bangtwitterandtwicetagram830]

I have no sympathy or empathy for the woman who is married and still in love with her ex. I feel so sorry for he husband, and the worst part is that he will probably never know he is her 2nd place in her mind Edit: For those of you trying to defend her because ”we don't know the full story” knowing the full story is not necessary. Unless you can come up with a scenario where the definition of emotional cheating no longer falls onto her situation, cheating is cheating. How complex her feelings may be is irrelevant.

[@spring7643]

Yeah I don't understand that, like why marry them if they aren't your number 1? Makes no sense 🤦‍♀️

[@alysbaah-danso5278]

It's very sad cause shes wasting time and years of him not being married to someone else who will give them their all and their soul unconditionally. It's not right and its selfish, she should seriously divorce him or at least tell him and he can decide for himself. Give him the opportunity, if he moves on from her. It's no fault but her own. Its selfish to keep him there.

[@sincord1]

@@spring7643 Ex fawks, husband $$

[@morganraymond828]

While I understand where you are coming from, I am still in love with my first love but we broke up because our paths didn’t quite match (he was Mormon, I wasn’t and wasn’t interested and he wanted to get married and I didn’t want to right away). Now he’s married and it’s been 4 years and now I’m in another relationship. I love my current boyfriend but sometimes I spend time imagining what it would be like to have not broken up with my first boyfriend. Maybe her ex is married now too and it’s not so easy. She will probably get through it over time. She probably loved her current boyfriend enough to get married and maybe her ex was out of the picture and she thought it would be fine, then she still reminisces about it. If so then that is hard but she will get over him.

[@aj3706]

Dont marry someone if you still like other men PERIOD. Idk why these women try to get attached so fast and then fuck it up because they apparently found something better. Some women are just like that and it is disgusting how they think it is okay to keep doing it and continue the cycle.

[@hayleyk2363]

The one about the father committing suicide really hit hard for me. In October 2018 my father and I had a huge fight. I was only 16 and I lived with my grandparents so I decided I wouldn’t talk to him or see him for a while because I was so upset at him and wanted him to know that his alcohol problem affected us. In February of 2019 I reached out to him and we talked for a little while but then not even a week later I got a call from my Nana that he had shot himself and when I got to the hospital he was already gone... I started to blame myself and regret not seeing him. It’s a very hard thing to deal with.

[@CELERITAS-BONITAS]

This was not your fault. I hope you can find peace and can move forward without guilt or regret.

[@von6413]

sorry to hear. This is why we have to try to see things from other’s perspective especially in an argument.

[@pangkoulee7648]

It's not your fault. And I know that your father will understand. *hugs* and *kiss*

[@user-tx4mc4pz3s]

you got this sweetheart

[@schrutefarmzz7950]

The last words I told my father was f*ck you before he died unexpectedly at 45. We were very close until about a year before his death. It haunts me till this day, time helps I guess.

[@flaneur2476]

A three some for 7 hours no break??? Well damn

[@wildoatling]

Weird flex

[@bangtwitterandtwicetagram830]

m sharp that's not how that works dear :)

[@justonetime6179]

m sharp maybe physically, but not mentally.

[@spring7643]

@@justonetime6179 and maybe neither physically nor mentally, some people have a hard time saying no. I used to be a people pleaser to the point of not caring about my own needs and I still struggle with it occasionally.

[@hyrunnisa997]

@@spring7643 I have to agree with you there. As a person who used to do this a lot, I let myself be pressured into having sex when I didn't want to. Never felt good mentally or physically. At some point you just cut yourself off from your body because of how traumatic the whole thing can be. I'm definitely getting better at saying no now that I have a partner who doesn't pressure me...but it's still hard. And this is true for many many MANY women. More than you realize.

[@LiveConcertJunkie]

If you have a parent that goes through a divorce, don’t wait for them to call you first and reach out to them. Your parents are people too and after divorce is some of the darkest times for them. Don’t wait around for them to call you because “it’s their job”

[@kenziewilson1413]

Well I mean they are the parent they are supposed to be the bigger person. Think of what their kid is going through also.

[@katherinefrd]

@@kenziewilson1413 that applies when their kid is literally still a kid. when their "kid" is an adult already it's kinda immature to wait for the parent to contact you first when you know they're going through something tough. divorce can affect kids but if you're grown already AND even have your own family I'm pretty sure it's gonna affect your parents more than it's gonna affect you

[@LiveConcertJunkie]

Kenzie Wilson There’s no “bigger person” when there isn’t an argument between the kid and parent. Them being a parent doesn’t lessen the pain of losing someone that you thought you were gonna be with your whole life. I would argue as their child, you should definitely check up on them and see how they’re doing. Divorce isn’t an easy thing to go through and led that person to suicide.

[@akabaneaki]

That story makes me wonder how his mother side is holding on... like does she blame herself too? Or? :(

[@alayra007]

that story broke my heart

[@awitchunderwater]

I had an old friend I moved in with, and she kinda did the same. Purposely killed my Iguana (my baby, such a gentle giant) after I was gone for 3 days longer than we agreed upon. I was visiting my mother out of state, and wasn’t able to control the situation. But she didn’t care. I didn’t realize just how toxic she was until that moment. In our 6 yrs of friendship she was always extremely possessive. Every friend is made she’d either disapprove of immediately or slowly draw a wedge in between. We lived together 3 years. In that time I didn’t have any relationships, and rarely left the house. If I did she was with me. I didn’t go to college bc of her. She spent all my savings. Sure she was nice sober & bought me a lot of things, and housed me.....but it came at a price. And I wish I allowed myself to outgrow her sooner. I wish it wasn’t my baby’s death that finally allowed to to see.

[@katieseverson3744]

i'm really sorry you went through that. i think sometimes we forget that friendships can be as toxic or harming as romantic relationships

[@wildoatling]

4:17 hit home hard for me. I understand the guilt around “what if’s” a little too well. Although I can’t seem to believe this myself, I tell people all the time that we’re not responsible for anyone else’s choices. His death is not yours to feel guilt over.

[@abduljabbar-ex3zr]

@I'MDEprEssEdaNDqUIrkY YOU CAN'T TELL, there could be thousand other reasons that father killed himself for

[@spring7643]

@I'MDEprEssEdaNDqUIrkY that's not true at all, even if the son did stay in contact with his dad the same outcome could have happened.

[@kathybear5818]

I'MDEprEssEdaNDqUIrkY you know some parents block off their children at times because they are suffering so much that they don’t want their kids to worry over them. So who’s to say what really happened no one is at fault she made a suggestion and he took it she never forced him to do it. Life happens and things happen for a reason.

[@sethwood1676]

It’s no ones fault except for the dads at the end of the day it was his decision. No matter what was done if it was in his mind to do it he was going to do it. I’ve talked several of my Marines out of suicide and a few still committed it. You can’t stop the ones that want to do it no matter how close or how much you talk to them.

[@noposguau447]

I was in a verbal and emotionally abusive relationship. It was the first time I've ever been manipulated. To defend myself, I mirrored it back to my partner at the time. It turned me into the same manipulative person as they were. Since then I have found therapy. I have grown. And I won't incite the same abuse that was imposed upon me ever. Love doesn't justify abuse.

[@thatasiangirl0_039]

That's not love. If he actually loves you, he wouldn't abuse you. In this case, he probably likes you, but its not love.

[@camrynd9127]

I love this series, it really shows that everyone is going through something and we should never judge people when we don’t know their situation

[@bangtwitterandtwicetagram830]

1:52 That's a whole lot of emotional cheating 👀 People, if you're still in love with someone else, do people a favor and just not get into a relationship

[@greennumberthree]

Or get over them. How can you still be in love with a person who doesn’t think of you at all?! Come on! This annoys me so much.

[@bangtwitterandtwicetagram830]

greennumberthree yo facts

[@daniala1703]

greennumberthree can’t control ur feelings man

[@LaCrownedGamer]

I think it is an infatuation about the idea of "what if" My first love died very young in high school. We went out for a year beforehand. 8 years later I have a fiance now, and I told him about my past love life to start off on a clean slate. We worked it out and realized my feelings are not of still being in love but rather guilt and regret over not being there in his last moments. When we leave relationships we tend to hold onto the positives versus when we are in a relationship we can tend to harp on the negatives, so I think a lot of people go through a sense of rose colored glasses when thinking about their firsts loves especially. I know for a fact that my first love and I would not have worked out because we had major trust issues due to myself being insecure about my weight and him being unsupportive emotionally. Once I realized that it became so much easier to let go and move on with a person who wants to grow with me and I am deeply in love with.

[@oksanarose6879]

@@greennumberthree exactly! especially if so much time has passed! it’s like the person you were in love with is probably EXTREMELY different now! people grow and change you can’t get stuck on a version of someone that no longer exists

[@JasonWilliams89]

Imagine killing sentient beings to punish a person.

[@JasonWilliams89]

@m sharp Yes...yes they are

[@ellenriggs8117]

m sharp the definition of sentience is the ability to perceive and feel things... you’re telling me cats can’t do those things?

[@JasonWilliams89]

@m sharp It's objective fact, look up the definition of sentience, or even better, look at the definition provided to you by Ellen. There's no vegan conspiracy theory here, these things aren't even debatable.

[@ellenriggs8117]

m sharp bro, your definition was from Wikipedia 🥴

[@ellenriggs8117]

Animals* not only cats

[@PeppaBlairToys]

My ex boyfriend said he hate his dad for leaving them. He grew up just with his mom. He promised me that he will never be like him.. But now after having our first child, he left me with another woman. I should have listened to my guts.

[@mansipandey7944]

the fact that she chose a local college over an Ivy League that could've promised her a brighter future proves just how much control abusive boyfriends have over everything in your life

[@PoetryRainDrops]

If someone killed my pet, I’d go full on John Wick

[@ANONYMOUS-fl5pn]

When your partner gets accepted into their dream college, you should be happy for them. You shouldn't manipulate them into choosing a different college just so they can be close to you

[@plrth]

guys, stop saying "plot twist: they read their own secrets". it's disrespectful, even insulting to those who shared them

[@mitzymoomoo6658]

disagree. If the people submitted their secrets then they're obviously gonna be okay with it. Like I'm sure they were told before hand about it

[@Toinkity]

I guess humor isn't a thing now

[@naylisyazwina6836]

@@Toinkity it is but why would you joke about something serious that already happened. Would you really be fine if someone joked about your girlfriend's suicide?

[@milkbread394]

@@Toinkity you mean like dark humor kind of thing? humor are supposed to be funny and this is not funny btw

[@Toinkity]

@@milkbread394 You can personally find something funny or not but you have no say in whether if something is objectively funny or not because humor is subjective, you're not the arbiter of comedy, you're just an individual with a different taste and the same goes for all of us.

[@Joshua-uo1lt]

I DESPISE that cat story. I have a HUGE love for my 2 cats, any cats actually. Killing innocent creatures, because somebody left for 2 days.. They are a phychopath. I hope they get punished properly. Imagine how scared you would be to come home and see your pets murdered by somebody you trusted. Absolutely DISGUSTING human.

[@phoebeeliza3855]

you can’t get punished sadly. it’s not illegal which is disgusting

[@ahdmahfoud2292]

That mom story gave me chills

[@tereasdownes9793]

One regret i have When i was thirteen i had my first crush in 2 year his name was Bryce Everytime he tried to talk to me i was too shy then hurried away I had to sit beside him in class once GOD HE WAS SO GOOD LOOKING But i was too shy to hang out with him or ask him out I was the School out cast he was popular

[@tereasdownes9793]

Oh by the way my class mates and most of the people in the school tried to get me to talk to him Even the girl who was doing a romeo and juliet play with him wanted me to talk to him but i chickened out

[@quinnnguyen1632]

The last guy has such a kind heart and he is so humble, I wish the best for him

[@ladypeace8912]

It breaks my heart to see that at least 3 of these stories are about a relationship with a malignant narcissist (the abusive and controling husbands/boyfriends). What an accomplishment it is to be able to escape such a relationship in one piece.

[@mayrose9387]

It's sad how useless restraining orders can be cops take 30mins or more to show up in the mean time that person can be outside your door inside your house. It's a step

[@lindsey56]

To anyone who needs to hear this. You have a purpose in life, you’re loved and if you’re going through something right now just know that eventually this storm will pass and you will see the rainbow on the other side.

[@irinawaldo9872]

Tysm kind stranger! *hugs tightly *

[@khalesi9469]

Why is the storm taking so long to pass

[@exspencivve]

Amen periodt...Come to Christ today...he'll ease all the pain the world has ever given you and he'll make you new

[@josiekendall]

"It's ok to outgrow people" love it, Advice that needs to be plastered everywhere!

[@salfadel]

These sound and feel like reddit submissions

[@ken-yo2hz]

Miguel Hernandez lmaooo. Feels like AskReddit and OffMyChest

[@Msptomb]

"AITA for getting a restraining order on my ex after he killed our three cats?"

[@jeep..]

true

[@breadsrights6824]

Right

[@tiegan7158]

All I can say is to be nice. Compliments go a long way. Especially from someone you wouldn't expect. You can say the same for insults. What you say can make or break someone's entire week. You never know what they're going through so be nice ALWAYS. Even if it has no impact because it will make you feel better at least. Being silent is better than being mean but being nice is so so much better than being silent. Compliment something they may be insecure about randomly. You'll get a better reputation and people can trust you to lean on during tough times. This can prevent bad thoughts or at least help. Like I said, a single compliment can go so far

[@von6413]

I used to be like this. But I soon realized people take advantage of your kindness and then you end up being left with nothing after being used. This world is fucked up

[@Butterfly-mk9pj]

@@von6413 ikr!

[@tizbit_vrc]

Trying to grow away from my old party days and alot of my friends at this moment are walking away. It honestly feels empowering to make this choice just knowing that better intentions are out there waiting.

[@von6413]

Dam. And here I am trying to get into those party days 🤣

[@tizbit_vrc]

@@von6413 I started early when I was 17 ran with a scene til I was 23. 3 years for recovery.

[@rulazu98]

“The most loving thing u can do to them is actually being honest with them”

[@kateduran2118]

If Jubilee made a 20 or 30 minute long video like this I would definitely watch it

[@caitlynmartin4020]

The lady that’s in love with her first boyfriend when she’s married to someone else is a big fear I have. Entering a relationship with another guy when I know I’m not over my ex but also not wanting to wait around for my ex either.

[@alysbaah-danso5278]

I get you, just wanna say I appreciate you not getting into a relationship with someone before you're not over your ex. You really saved yourself and someone else the heart break and the emotional turmoil! But maybe, for you to move on from your ex, you need to address things. I dont know your situation at all but if you have unfinished business, you really should address that to them and say to them how you really feel and then leave them to their life. Block em if you have to. Cause you shouldn't let that eat away at you and shouldn't stop you from getting into a relationship with someone who will bring you better things than your ex but also allows you to go into your next relationship with an open heart. You'll probably will love your ex, they'll always be apart of your past but you'll learn and begin to love your next boyfriend or husband more than you did your ex and well you deserve that, 100%

[@caitlynmartin4020]

Alys Baah-danso I really needed to hear that, thank you!

[@rowanbrearley4483]

Worst mistake I ever made was messaging someone when they clearly didn’t want me to. I was always supportive. Never said a bad word. But I was naive and looking back I just should have left it alone a few of months and waited for a good time. Sounds like something pretty little, but that on top of other things, ruined my mental health. I’m not over her yet. I still love her. But fortunately, I’m starting to get a little bit better recently.

[@justonetime6179]

Good for you. There’s someone else out there who’ll actually care about you.

[@LiveConcertJunkie]

Rowan Brearley As someone that’s been there, you don’t love her. You love a version of her that loves you back but that isn’t the reality of it. Don’t try to chase and go after her, just focus on you and a loving relationship will find you. There’s no rush to date, learn to appreciate yourself and get yourself in order first

[@rowanbrearley4483]

Pablo Rivas obviously I love the version of her that I knew, but even if she’s changed, I still love her. It’s completely unconditional and should I be in contact at any point in the future, I’d care and support her, whoever she was.

[@spring7643]

@@rowanbrearley4483 put yourself first though, it will help you more and everyone else as well. You might be incompatible with her in some way/s, so it's no guarantee that caring for and supporting her unconditionally would be in anyone's favor. Also all healthy romantic relationships have conditions and boundaries.

[@rowanbrearley4483]

gremlins 347 yeah I get what you’re saying. But it’s been so long that I understand the situation I’m in and want to make decisions that make sense to me. Because at the end of the day, no one else knows how I feel or is inside my mind. It’s a really complicated and unusual situation though, and under different circumstances, it does still have potential to work. And until that time, I’m not going to dwell on it too much.

[@anniesutliff5572]

these are so weirdly intimate. freaky.

[@marisabel5500]

It's about relationships..

[@jessicaponce6754]

What the dude said at 5:35 made me burst out crying because I’m currently in a relationship where I realized that I don’t love this person as much as they love me and it makes me feel so guilty and when he said that he phrased it so beautifully that I made me realize he said what I’ve been trying to say for the last few weeks

[@dhann2x]

That last dude gave the most direct and relatable advice. You are awesome!

[@FinemanSays]

It’s amazing to me...the world is so different and filled with such beautiful people but we all share the same problems with love...everyone deserves someone that makes them feel like a king/queen

[@jahmed8611]

The lady who stayed to try and help her ex really hits home to me. The huge relief I feel now that I’ve left my ex is unreal. I am a single mother now to a 6 year old and life is hard but when I go to sleep I am free. I am so free!

[@AM73773]

If a partner killed my cat they’d disappear...

[@loveswintertrees]

I'd plan the end of their life in a horrible way

[@von6413]

You call them psycho but you’re also sounding like one too. Chill.

[@loveswintertrees]

@@von6413 exacting revenge and removing an abuser from society doesnt make you a psycho. Saying they're even close to equal shows your own psychological issues or inability to defend and value innocent victims..

[@von6413]

Vansh_K then that literally make you no different from them

[@twoshakesofaratsass4748]

@@von6413 It does. Its like a cleaning a virus

[@MegaBullfrog09]

If someone killed my pets, I would have to be restrained or sedated because I would break someone in half for that. If they got away, they would be looking over their shoulder for the rest of their life.

[@von6413]

You’re against a psycho by being a psycho? Relax.

[@giovannaagnelli6752]

just because you're dying doesn't mean you're forgiven, means that you are too late to become better and now have to face the aftermath of what's done

[@nellllll488]

"its okay to outgrow someone" that really hit

[@noelani5469]

*looks at thumbnail* *immediately thinks of Dwight and Angela from The Office*

[@KeepCalmAndCarrieOn1]

The Asian man was so profound and eloquent in his words

[@ミアロモピチ]

I would never change anyone just like I wouldn’t want anyone to change me, so I drop them from my life. There’s not point in being in a relationship or friendship if you can’t be who you are. At the end people should change for themselves not for others.

[@cherubzbaby]

this made me cry, also the strangers comments on the secrets were so precious and heartwarming

[@ninasa8100]

“ when people stop you from being your best self, it’s okay to outgrow them”. I needed to hear this

[@somethingtoignore7071]

I never thought that these kind of things happened. I thought everyone was doing alright because I haven't met anyone nor took the time to hear these stories. It makes me sad that this happens to people. I saw these situations in movies. I trust a lot of people. This just makes me think about what my life could have been or how someone close to me could just ruin me. I wish that I could do something but I know I would just sit on my bed and ignore it. I know that makes me look bad. But I thought that it wasn't serious and never understood depression or anxiety since I was confident and considered myself brave. So I expected those traits in others. Now I know that people are not like me and they do not live the same life. I'll try

[@squiddysquad]

my ex boyfriend was cheating on me with my bestfriend for the 2 years we were together. it’s been 3-4 years and it still affects me everyday and my current relationship.

[@clm4N]

"Sometimes the most loving thing we can do to someone else , is be honest with them"

[@ghadamamdouheskarous]

The most loving thing you can do to someone is to be honest .. love that

[@althea9909]

"- but I stayed with him for six years because I was sure I could change him." Girl, NO! The only thing that can change him is himself. I see this too damn often when someone thinks they can change the other person. If you want to change, you have to start with yourself 'cause if you're not willing to make a change, then no one else will be able to help you too.

[@ge0rgialiv]

Mine is I regret staying in contact after my old friend/ex told me she was asexual bc she ripped my heart open again after I started to heal knowing we could never be. I wish I said I accept you but I need to get out for my own well being, she did a lot of messed up things. Who knew you could regret doing something you thought was right and nice.

[@ge0rgialiv]

Dexter I mean that makes sense she ripped my heart twice so after the first time I shoulda put myself first

[@rev-ns8ze]

"The best way to show someone you love them is to be honest with them"

[@robin.3697]

The compassionate and understanding responses from these people is honestly refreshing

[@remedyphillips1922]

listening to the cat story, WHILE petting my own cat, breaks my heart so much. im also so greatful that my fiancé is as loving as he is. He pets my cat, and looks at her with as much love and care as i do.

[@UniqueAngel711]

The advice everyone shared was beautiful, thoughtful and generous 💜

[@sharismad]

For the person who’s in love with their first boyfriend, I completely relate where you’re coming from. The love you experience when you’re innocent is something.. We broke up because he was shifting to a new city and it broke my heart and I cried for a year. I loved him. I really did. It’s been 2 years now. Sometimes I wish it would have ended badly. When I’m at my worst, I think of him and it feels so good but it hurts. I can’t talk to him about it, nor my family.

[@RafaelCabreraAzrael]

wtf is wrong with the guy who kills cats

[@melissam597]

He’s batshit crazy and needs to be sectioned

[@andie_912]

I know y’all are saying his crazy, but imagine if he were so anxious for her and stresses, angry and the cats were right there. They were right there, the anger and anxiety building up he felt like he needed to hurt something and there they were an easy release. IM NOT SAYING ITS OKAY BECAUSE ITS DEFINITELY NOT! but we only got one side of the story, everyone’s a villain in someone else’s book 🤪

[@ahm.774]

@@andie_912 dude- dont even

[@juliaregalado]

I want to just take the time to acknowledge the readers. They not only read other people’s dark truths but also reciprocated their feelings and made those anonymous people feel heard and seen. Kudos to them and gratitude for those who shared. Videos like these can really help people.

[@Elis_Nagar]

I manipulated a person for months without realising and after he told me that ,i realised how toxic I have become i felt guilty after doing it and when he asked me to get back i said no because I don't want him to have any hopes or we can say false hope . I don't want him to deal with my toxicity again ... i did a right thing?

[@Elis_Nagar]

@Amarjit Solanki in these two year I had to deal with many things because of covid pandemic financially and in the terms of studies and a lot of things and I used him to take all my frustrations out I apologized but still has some sort of guilt which I can't get over with and I have started to get some anxiety issue not only because of him and I but there are other factors I had a panic attack last night which I first thought was a heart attack I am messed up I think I need help

[@jessp8238]

Hope things are going better for you.

[@nyixxo8139]

Y’all, stop all the negativity. People tell these secrets out of free will. This is a place for positivity to help people with their regrets. Just because they did something bad, doesn’t mean they are a bad person, they just made a bad decision. :(

[@rainbow9987]

Yeah but your actions when there really bad hurting others that makes you not so good person. We are control our actions and thoughts.

[@nyixxo8139]

Rainbow99 yes but you can come back from that. most of the time, people need help controlling themselves because a lot of people can’t. they might have mental illnesses or a condition.

[@speedygonzalez6824]

7 hours!!!!! how's that even possible?

[@sistersnapped9974]

m sharp yeah no 😜😁😋😋🧚‍♂️🧚‍♂️

[@DrArthurCGarp]

It's possible but you've gotta use a lot of lubricants and probably switch out every once in a while. She didn't say whether it was MMF or FFM.

[@qwertyasf]

Chill'n Krillian good point also they could have been drugs involved 🤷‍♀️

[@Shenruss]

Violence in a relationship, physical, emotional or spiritual, should not be tolerated. Human instances of anger or mistakes can be forgiven, but _Anything_ that *a.* causing lasting damage, *b.* comes from a place of cruelty, *c.* shows a possibility of habitual repeat.... those are not things which should be ignored. Trust someone who has been there.

[@cindynguyen8982]

they’re all so well-spoken. I very much enjoyed watching this!

[@mayaflipjovic661]

" you don't need that validation . it has to come from yourself , not a man." This was so powerful . This is something we all need to remember.

[@abigailofori5867]

Darm,the last part got me,my ex m wanted to do the same to me ,I remember I got a scholarship to study at Russia, they course I was reading ,I realized I wasn't into it ,so my first real love, Russian guy I was dating .I told him I don't like the course I'm into accounting, so I'm going back to my country to achieve my goal,I was about to turn 22 and was in my final year,he was tryna talk me out that he can't do distance relationship blah blah blah ,I should choose between my dream or him.I chose my dream ,it was a difficult decision but I will Never let a man who will leave me with a blink of an eye tell me wat to do.I'm 25 in my 3rd,majoring accounting and planning to write ACCA.He still check up on and also motivate me ,never let people make decision for you this life is 100% your responsibility. Thank God for always guiding me through it all.

[@thaliacovers2908]

6:27 I love this guy. *L O V E* him.

[@IA-om3my]

The Asian guy (don't know his name) is sooooo good at giving advice 👌🏽👌🏽

[@ericwilliams8371]

1:43 Wow. That is something so many people need to hear. Idk if she will ever seen this, but she deserves a lot of good for saying that!

[@Celinemoonstone]

I saw it! 💕

[@midnitest0rm]

In regards to that person’s father-in-law who killed himself after he divorced, even had their husband reached out to his dad, he still would have killed himself. I’ve known people who committed suicide and I can say without uncertainty, once their mind is made up, there is nothing you can do or say to change their mind.

[@Reluctant.Idealist]

In a non-creepy way, the girl has a really calming voice.

[@adambenceracz4082]

Doesn't anyone find it weird that they read the secrets and then they're like instantly "lmao relatable"

[@actualblueberry]

They are probably the ones that wrote them and was like "omg sAmE"

[@spring7643]

Not really, since people in the comments can relate to this also. It's common stuff.

[@rayraygaleva9493]

Only so many things can be unique

[@mannatsingh5519]

HER : My boyfriend killed my cats when I was away ME : DWIGHT???

[@M1n1naTV]

Yessid

[@kingagondek6024]

SAME

[@dominiquepitts9125]

I knew I wasn't the only one who was thinking that

[@mimineko1019]

I really like the last sentence that was said about how she was amazing and it's okay to outgrow people.

[@juhithakkar307]

The mother that neglected to call her kids her own and that too for a guy she barely knew.. I don't know what was going through her mind or what her situation was, but that probably had a huge impact on the kids. They probably still think about it to this day.

[@jinaeasmr4196]

I love the girl who wore a denim jacket. Her words touched me, give her a raise

[@lib.777]

I'm a shy person and I never date people but someone asked me out and I said yes, we dated for like a couple of weeks and I got left for a close friend. 😐

[@majl9585]

That really sucks! Hope you'll find someone later on who appreciates you