7 Subtle Signs You're Too Controlling

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Having the strong urge to control other people is something many people struggle with and is rooted in either fear or anxiety. Being too controlling can have a negative impact on both your own mental health and on the health of your relationships. You may not realize the things you're doing regularly are an attempt to control others, so we're going to talk about theme here today because when awareness is the first step toward positive change.
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[@joncaradies3155]

" The antidote to anxiety is not control , the antidote to anxiety is TRUST " ..... That pretty much nailed it for me . Such a great video . Thank you from my heart .....

[@cup_o_TMarie]

Amen!!👏👏 Trust in ourselves that we are at the helm of our own ship & can ride with the storms or the calm seas & find peace either way🛳️☮️🙏🥰👏💫

[@TakeBackYourMind997]

A well intentioned form of this is the person that always tries to force their help on people when it's not wanted. If you find people getting annoyed with you a lot and your response is 'I was just trying to help', you might be a bit too controlling. It's well intentioned, but can be pretty destructive. That's my opinion from experience anyway.

[@Rebecca-fh3pe]

I see this a lot!

[@josephinewalker5194]

Amen

[@KTB77777]

If we ask “is this a listening moment or a fixing moment.?” This helps stop the “control” urge. Also saves time!!

[@TakeBackYourMind997]

@@KTB77777 Love that!

[@cup_o_TMarie]

@@KTB77777 Yes👏👏I really had to be mindful as I was an awful unsolicited advice giver😬🙄🫣😹🙊🙉🙈

[@clint120]

This video is a good reminder. Keep your mouth closed and your opinions to yourself when you see people behave, perform, act differently than how you would. Unless it’s some immediate safety concern, just let others be who they are.

[@hajjataiwo7544]

I just realized i am controlling and really have to start to let go,thank you Julia

[@chrisdigitalartist]

HI Coach Julia! Senior Sifter here! BTW - I personally love having these videos come out on Friday now. =) And yes - If I am understanding you right, I agree with you! Dishes should be rinsed off before loading the dishwasher🤣 Wow - this was a deep one! I think before I could see how I may have acted in some behavior before the Shift Society but I never was the type to actually want to control anybody, but I can see in the subtle ways it could have crept up. Here are my notes: 7 Subtle Signs You're Too Controlling What controlling is: Controlling is an antidote to anxiety. Control is an illusion. 7 Signs: 1. Using guilt to get what you want. 2. Getting jealous and feeling left out. 3. Overly criticize people for not doing exactly what you want them to do. 4. Get mad at people who don't meet your expectations (And you don't even tell them what those expectations are.) 5. Coerce people into seeing things your way. 6. Try to solve other people's problems for them and get upset and punish them if they don't follow your advice. 7. If you are laying your emotions on to somebody else for their choices. To those who are reading this, I want to remind you and encourage you if you ever question your worth and value, that you truly are a worthy and valued person. You do matter. ❤

[@sarahk3164]

6:35 1.) Do you use guilt to get people to do what you want them to do? 7:46 2.) Do you get jealous or feel threatened if people you're close to (partner/sibling/best friend) want to do things with other people? 9:58 3.) Do you nitpick or overtly criticize people for not doing/seeing things your way? 12:30 4.) Do you punish people for not meeting your expectations, particularly unspoken ones, by withholding your love/words/time? 14:54 5.) Do you try to coerce (ridicule/guilt) people into seeing things your way? 16:56 6.) Do you try to solve people's problems for them and get upset when they don't follow through on your solution? 22:48 7.) Do you project your emotions on to others for their choices? Do you expect other people to make you feel better/fix it?

[@danibessette]

this is great! as someone who has suffered from narcissistic abuse, and domestic violence, etc...I realize that I developed a pattern of control in order to cope. it made sense in toxic relationships (it was stemming from self defense or just having to do everything because they couldn't do the bare minimum, and they never listened to my needs even when I told them clearly). so in new (healthier) relationships, I find these control issues come up, but I realize that im having a trauma response based on PAST experiences. my DV relationship drove me crazy because he tried to control every aspect of my life. he isolated me. he accused me of cheating (when I never even thought of other guys), and I remember feeling so sad that he didn't trust me. yet...I struggle to trust healthy people! the thing that helps me the most...is remembering how invisible I felt when I was faithful and committed and dedicated, but I was treated like I was the most selfish, cheating, "whorish", person when I was nothing of the sort. his insecurities were the reason why he couldn't feel EVERYTHING I was willing to give him. although admittedly, staying in domestic violence came from the belief that my love could help them. now thats controlling. let people show them who they are, step by step, and over time.

[@FrederickRuss]

Holy cow! I cannot think of something more synchronous to exactly what I’m going through at the moment than your delivery here. Control is absolutely an illusion. Lovely to hear my own bs exposed by another mind than my own particularly guilting. Enjoyed as usual.

[@noora7872]

I watch this video every week. And every time I remember something new about my past behavior.

[@CindyBear914]

Thank you for this video! I'm the (F) child of an abusive alcoholic father. Heft when I was 13. Not surprisingly I have struggled with OCD all my life. Since I've gone through therapy most of my life; I am much better than ever. I say all this just to give you some background. But the reason for my writing this was simply to say thank you for your videos and this one in particular. ❤

[@myebrockington9373]

Oh my GAWD!!! At first I was petrified, to watch this video (only because I could feel it speaking to me). You are sooooooo right about being controlling and how it is tied to anxiety. As a chronic suffering person I can honestly testify to your examples of how trying to keep it all together can drive you up a wall! I've only recently, discovered the art of "letting it go...or be". While I am ONLY on day two (lol) I feel happy. Being or feeling happy is something I haven't felt in a decade. Xo

[@carlahamman1391]

I really needed to hear this this morning! I do alot of these, taking a good, long, honest look at myself. Thank you 🥰

[@shenedadenney8649]

Me too

[@ladyp5828]

I think so many of us do these things without realising they are controlling habits. Often comes from a place of trauma and being unhealed from it. The good news is we can heal! We can retrain our brains to think and feel differently. The first step is being aware of our behaviour. Taking accountability for it. Then seeking the reasons why and doing the hard work to heal and adopt healthier behaviours.

[@tayeishanunezbatres5413]

I love myself but I don’t always like myself because of some of these things, I’m so fed up with it. So happy I found you.

[@Higheaglebirb]

Forcing people to apologize comes across as controlling. Same with guilt and silent treatment

[@darciee.7337]

What about asking for forgiveness in a tone that means if you don't then I will be mad at you? And if I don't offer forgiveness then comes either groveling for forgiveness or anger.

[@babyblue_-of3eb]

well this is the perfect online therapy session for me😂I am the controlling one and I don't want to hear my friend and girlfriend talking about hanging out with other people other than me and although I try to control myself I still feel sad and left out and I make sure they feel guilty about this. And also I get very upset and frustrated if a friend came to me talking about her feelings n asking for advice then doesn't follow my advice. One time I got so angry at my friend when she came to me again talking about the same problem, I said something harsh and hurt her feelings a lot. Thank you Julia for making this one, I've always wanted to change but haven't got any ideas on how to do it.

[@captaindan1000]

"Trust no one." It's a phrase I just got reminded of. There's truth to it but I think it has loopholes. I just found another.

[@lilycat1694]

I struggle with anxiety & depression, and am guilty of being too controlling, much of the time. It is on the verge of destroying the few relationships I have. Your videos are very helpful! Many of the points made in this video resonate with me. Goodness, I need to change and it will be a challenge.

[@perryh.5306]

I would totally give you full control of everything! It would definitely not destroy anything!

[@Eduardado]

I'm really controlling, this video was like a very very very grounding

[@Nina-ur3ld]

And how do we handle controlling people ? Would be awesome if you can talk about this as well

[@kurisuchiinu1206]

I can relate to this with my old self. I realize that I was too controlling of the situation - there was one time that I was volunteering to help a friend solve their problems but then get anxious when my solution wasn't chosen. I'm no longer doing this and letting them handle things on their own and just listen to them. Everything you said was on spot and I'm quite surprised myself that this is one way of escaping or dealing with anxiety. Because I couldn't control what other people what say or do, I end up being controlling of my situation when the only thing I can control is my reaction to people's actions.

[@anita_benz90]

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[@mapleleaf902]

This explains the narc I am married to and need to step back. I see how I am trying to control his contempt towards me and him using his kids against me. I cannot control them. I can only control myself.

[@Tamara-ju3lh]

This is great for people who have left a cult or high-control group. It's basically all we've seen/been taught. It's difficult to unlearn as an adult but still possible!

[@lesliengo8347]

I have a father who struggle with insecurity and anxiety and is trying to control us and feeling stressed, angry, and overwhelmed while doing so. I also have a mother who is most impacted by this feel generally shame and resentment. As much as I want to take control of things to make it better for them because I feel stressed and anxious when they are unhappy, I remind myself that they are allowed to have and continue with their problems, and I am allowed to set a boundary by not engaging with them when they get into a conflict.

[@zendog8888]

Well, this was an eye-opener for me. I feel like a complete jerk now. A girl I am (was) dating. Told me she needed space. And of course. I didn't take that on well. She blocked all contact with me. When I tried to take control. The thing that pushed to this break. Was over a simple suggestion I made. We argued before. After every suggestion. I always thought. Well, she is not taking criticism well. And I guess she was right. I am too controlling. I wasn't doing it to shape her. But to help her. So she doesn't make the mistakes I do. Not to manipulate her. But after watching this. I guess that's what I was doing. I wish I can tell her this and apologize. But I'm blocked. So...

[@ldavis7250]

OMG!! I have so much work to do!! I've gotten better but you mentioned some things that I did not connect to controlling.

[@shawnhwarner]

I would say this is one of the most impactful, random KZbin videos that popped up in quite a long time for me. Thank you!

[@TheLove2surf]

So… I had this friend… who would cry on my shoulder about her new boyfriend… she would ask for lots of advice… the guy by all accounts was pretty much a womanizer, narcissistic and unkind to my friend. I advised to be more assertive and not just tell him what she was unhappy about but leave if he wasn’t acting on her pleas. I used a lot of my very little time to listen to her and console her… lots of my time… and when she finally left him (after a year of being her support person) I advised her to look after herself for at least a month before rushing into anything or back to anything… but the separation lasted a week… and she was gaslighting herself to me justifying it. I told her.,. Fine.,. Totally your decision but I really do not have all the time in the world to be the one trying to sort out your relationship problems any more.. go back to him … all good and blessings and all but I am not going to be the one to pick up the pieces for you. She cut me off…

[@chrismcevoy2503]

It’s not easy living with a mother who is a perfectionist Julia.

[@terriwhalen3618]

Always great! THANKS!

[@kailanewyork7484]

I have been listening to you and under your tutelage for a very long time. 1st I wanna say thank you for all the training and all the understanding you have brought to my life. You are one of the top people I listen to and model with my coaching endeavors at The Paradigm Shifts. I also wanna say thank you for just being you; you seem like a really cool chick. Now, all I have to say is wow, wow for me. I listened to this video and everything on the list I do not do which means I am not only learning but actually putting in the work to heal and evolve. A lot if not all the stuff on the list I used to do but I don't do it anymore. Thank you for being my teacher on my journey I appreciate you and all that you do. Stay up and Stay blessed. Peace and love Kaila New York!

[@dkdawe1]

Ooooh, this one is a raw one but a good one! Thank you for taking this head on! I appreciate you!

[@babylove3885]

I'm new thank you for posting this video 💫

[@rocmon]

she has a great warm energy about her, so glad i got into the bus drivers seat

[@LadyofSharlot]

This is so true about anxiety and control .

[@melcox8993]

Wow this came at a good time. Having issues with my mum and this video realised that this is her to me.

[@thenebraskan6977]

Thanks so much for the awesome video Julia. Lots of great information for navigating life in relationships. I’ve been somewhat of a loner for the last twenty plus years. If I ever would decide to try another relationship there is lots of good advice. All the best of everything to you and your family. 🙏 stay safe out there.

[@ashleywessel780]

Be never before thought to link my tendency to control with having anxiety. This is so true, wow. Great video, very insightful & helpful advice. Thank you(:

[@sheldajacques2562]

Thank you for sharing 😇😇🙏🙏🙏😇🙏

[@glennavelilla156]

Yes! Jesus Christ can take the wheel and can be trusted 🙏🏻✝️

[@izzieisoken]

When she mentioned Trust that was the first thing I thought - Trusting Jesus and realising that I thought I did but didn’t fully. And the scripture “Be anxious for nothing…”

[@littlemule1]

Just discovered you, been binge watching your videos. Very helpful thank you. Edmonton AB Canada

[@karennovosat5435]

This video hit home to me 💯 %

[@malaymondal280]

Just very very helpful........

[@user-kx2is3md1n]

just thank you for your content

[@anita_benz90]

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[@Neo-Reloaded]

I need a video about forgetting the past.

[@dylannicks1146]

Isn’t that part of control in a way

[@Neo-Reloaded]

@@dylannicks1146 you're right! 😁

[@uglystupidloser]

why do you want to forget about the past? i think thats what we should be asking instead. and maybe we can grow stronger little by little, and eventually outgrow what our past was... or, at least, try to. little by little. it would help if we knew the why though. and even that is a process of discovery and impermanence. ... i think we often live in fear of our past. it claims us. it chains us. we learn to let it be a part of us. and we might be acting out or trying to run away from the past... in a roundabout effort to lay claim on it back. but it is a reaction... that doesnt seem to be satisfied so easily. sorry. this is long. and ranty.

[@Neo-Reloaded]

@@uglystupidloser I want to forget the past because it hurts. It's painful. The memories keep coming back, and they make me feel bad and weak.

[@Dezzyyx]

​@@Neo-Reloaded that's because you identify what you experience with what you are. The real self is not a fixed idea, it's fluid consciousness. Social conditioning and the development of the ego teaches us to assign things to ourselves to create the idea of a "ego self", a fixed idea of self, when there really is no such thing. It starts out early in life by getting a name, now every time you do something "wrong" people can assign values to you, "Neo did this, Neo is this". Over time you do the same to yourself, you collect experiences and things that you did and make this your value, as if these things you did are fixed things and not just fluid states that disappear once they happen.Technically, you did them yes, but aside from conditioning and the ego, there is no reason why this should stay with you, or rather, stay assigned to you. You can keep the memories of what happened, but do not identify with them. A tree wouldn't care that it "once blew a little weirdly" and keep that with it, it just goes with all the changing states of existing, which are reborn every moment. Humans are no different, being part of nature, it is just that we learned to identify our ever-changing fluid consciousness with the idea of a fixed "self", with a name and values. This might seem naive because yes civilized living and the ego makes it almost impossible to avoid this, but do not mistake that fact for this being anything else than a shared deception. There is no "you", not in that sense anyway, you are as fluid and ever-changing as every moment, any state, and anything else in nature. We've just learned to "fix" onto things, ironically trying to control things by fixing them in place, defining them. But anything that stops dies, what lives grows always. For that reason the older we get, the more we experiences we connect with ourselves and identify with, the more baggage we carry on ourselves, the more fixed we become, and the less we are able to renew. All these things we associate with ourselves, where are they? surely if they are real they must be found somewhere. You could say that you are a kind person for example, but if you are at any moment capable from being kind, unkind, and anything in between, where does this fixed idea of "kind" exist, that you claim to be "who you are"? Isn't this merely a set of relative, fluid states? like angry, sad, and so on. How then can a person BE angry? You experience the emotional state of angry sure, but how can this be you? It passes at some point. Yet you would describe yourself this way if you have a tendency to experience the emotional state of anger. The issue here is not the anger, but assigning the experience of the anger to some fixed idea of "you". In actuality nothing clings to us, and when any state or experience passes it leaves us clear, and it will pass unless your ego clings onto it, making us essentially renewed or reborn at any moment.

[@carolineeccel5387]

I might add wanting to have the last word. I had to laugh a little because I saw so much of myself. It's like trying to pull a tough weed with your hands to change. Thank you for sharing. I just came across your channel.

[@danielquinonez4673]

This video could literally not have come at a better time. Thank you so much for this. I find that I struggle a lot with anxiety and always feeling like I can help it by controlling my environment and my partner. It's a very difficult thing to let go of, but I fully intend to get there. One day at a time. Thank you Julia! Love your content

[@deanne7718]

I try to control people, and my environment; in an effort to manage my anxiety. It does not work. I feel exhausted, resentful, and unappreciated.

[@anita_benz90]

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[@Franc029]

GOLD content 👏👏👏

[@izzieisoken]

When you mentioned Trust that was the first thing I thought - Trusting Jesus and realising that I thought I did but didn’t fully. And the scripture “Be anxious for nothing…” Thank you so much for this video. It’s really been an eye opener for me.

[@thomas4857]

Good luck to you great pidcast

[@thomas4857]

Thank you I'm a natural beta to alpha women

[@jamespowell-yp9sc]

james liked the video id like to no more. going to keep watching

[@CindyBear914]

I saved this video to watch when I need reminders 😉

[@Thisisnttravis]

I don’t know that I’m controlling but I am very codependent. I think my mom or family members were plus narcissism and emotional immaturity

[@anita_benz90]

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[@uglystupidloser]

guilt trip. check. jealousy. check. overtly criticize. double check. punish for unspoken expectations. double check. coercing personal ideals on others. double check. punishing people for not following your advice or accepting your help. check. 😂😅 the mom story is chefs kiss. projecting personal fear and anxiety onto others than prioritizing and respecting their opinion/ choice. check. wait, no. triple check. super relatable, all of them, vut this last one in particular. either carrying other peoples emotional burden AND also expecting others to do the same. its like im spending my entire life realizing why i do things. and that itself from trying to gain more control. well, this one was fun.

[@sugashel7565]

I’m controlling! I need to let go and start making changes

[@raiderlove5923]

My mother was very much like this. Lord rest her soul. She passed away from cancer almost 4 years ago. I don't want to be like that. As I have witnessed it causes people not to want to be around you.

[@josephinewalker5194]

There are clean people and there are nasty people in the world. I believe our focus should be on doing God's will and not our own. Otherwise we will have chaos. I also believe that God is with me, therefore I can remain sane in my focus on him. People are just temporary, our Heavenly Father is eternal!

[@josephinewalker5194]

It is possible to love people with out being their fool!

[@s.mendez7160]

How do you (any of us) know what God's will is? Is that not us putting a human attribute (Will) upon something that is beyond manifestation, comprehension? It's a Rhetorical question. No need to respond.

[@ctibaga]

If a person complains and isn't seeking a solution, ask them to pipe it. That is a bad use of time,

[@sandyharold9033]

I did all of these things

[@ivylin8103]

this is me right now..

[@cup_o_TMarie]

Whew😹I was a massive Dishwasher Nazi😖🙈🙉🙊 I’m really LOLing because ALL of this was me until I went through trauma informed therapy & personal growth work & learned to FORGIVE myself for being asleep 💪💫👏✌️🙏🥰 Your work is a total gift to the world💝🙏

[@marion6015]

I find that people attack me when they don't agree with me. I deal a lot with the public and when they don't like my video they attack me in the comments. So I ask you, which one of us is controlling?

[@poetensalvador5849]

Control is interesting, I control myself too much as a habit. As I see the chain: anger -> pain -> fear -> control -> stress -> illness

[@chanwaiming29]

My closed friend is exactly controlling me as one of the signs you are describing. She has been getting angry with me when I have opinions which don't have any impact on her and I have never imposed my opinions on her. Now I am hestitated to express my views, thinking and perspectives to her . I'm feeling quite tired with her and I don't feel like replying to her text message anymore because she might get upset again. If she will blow up again, I am done.

[@Mistymegaccinomoments]

Same

[@chanwaiming29]

​@@Mistymegaccinomoments I have been keeping my distance from this friend and it is the best step I have taken.

[@WESTSIDECALI916]

And the United States a lot of people suffer from these issues.When an environment is ruled by selfishness, and consideration, lack of morals, mix with a whole lot of self entitlement✍🏽Most don’t know these things are unhealthy.When there are so many people doing negative things around them it becomes the norm.When this type of behavior is condoned in the United States a lot of people from the United States suffer from these issues by default👈🏽How can people know that most things are wrong when there’s so much wrong spread out in chaos ALL around them🎯We are a nation that breeds thinking that we are better than everyone else.And when we have a nation that thinks like this it trickles down in our families in ourselves in our homes because it is our norm.This is why we have so much crime than any other country.We are a falling nation with falling WAYS.Everyone stay blessed proud of being you and try to do the right things in life and everything should work out fine👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽Because in reality no one is perfect.The most hardest thing to change is learned behaviors📚📖

[@s.mendez7160]

Look how the United States Govt. treated the American Indians. Talk about Controlling. American has a deep history of needing to be in control, the leader, etc.

[@thomas4857]

If I don't do things the way she wants then it's my fault not her fault I should pay better attention. It's her way or no way that's how it should be I believe that strongly for many years

[@karenaboutyou]

Back again

[@nesha22nw]

I'm so ashamed!!! Just about everyone you mentioned is me😫.

[@anita_benz90]

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[@sandyharold9033]

How can I join the shift society?

[@shaymay2892]

🔥🔥

[@leonardomosqueda1508]

@juliakristian Hello how can I get a one one session with you?

[@jaz.s2k2]

Is it bad that after someone has loaded the dishwasher and I go to put something in it, I rearrange it how I like it? Same for rearranging the cupboards? 😅

[@anita_benz90]

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[@p.palmerpaints]

💙

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My ex friend Becky Keena would project her anxiety on to me Julia.

[@WESTSIDECALI916]

Sounds like a full summary of Óscar the Grouch from Sesame Street👈🏽

[@lesliengo8347]

LOL, true. I love Sesame Street

[@WESTSIDECALI916]

@@lesliengo8347 Me too I love Elmo😁

[@thomas4857]

As was said if I agree to clean the bathroom. I believe I have an obligation to do it an please her everyday it's my purpose to serve the controlling females purpose. It's fulfilling

[@user-me9be3mk4p]

Guilty

[@thomas4857]

I'm 110percent inside outside thourough submissive to the female....I could never be controlling I belong to the female as property an happy about it. I wished I lived in a matriarch society as a worker servent. I've been this way since my early teens. Please keep me

[@aliyaaliya3866]

Im very controlling and im not ashamed of it as you are trying to make it a cherry on a cake i just hate when someone steal my life like elena alexsandrova that is it nothing more to talk about honestly

[@perryh.5306]

You shouldn't be ashamed of being controlling.....I love that about you!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My ex friend Becky Keena wanted me to solve her problems for her.

[@anita_benz90]

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[@stevecatanio8532]

You're something....

[@thomas4857]

I signed up to join a matriarch as a servent of course hope to be accepted...I need female authority

[@thomas4857]

Thank you for replying I'm pro feminist il practice anything you teach me ownr

[@thomas4857]

Ownr it's an honor to speak to you I like fem I'm a feminist

[@thomas4857]

Please keep an own me ownr respectfully speaking

[@bethanyg153]

Is thinking of your mother-in-law through the whole video also a sign of controlling?

[@anita_benz90]

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[@Marekcatholic]

Nice to hear you mentioning the name of Jesus

[@thomas4857]

It's my nature to be 200percent submissive an I commit an submit to you an always say yes always an my yes is written in stone

[@Thisisnttravis]

Could be codependency

[@Thisisnttravis]

Thomas needs help

[@anita_benz90]

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[@thomas4857]

I'm the one who is use to being controlled by the female for many years. Now I need to be controlled honest I'm a submissive. I hope to find an owner not bds but just a real owner . I need to be under the discipline an authority of an owner female.. thank you for this post owner maam

[@thomas4857]

Adopting her views is fine by me sorry her means ownr

[@Catscalligraphy]

As someone who is controlling, I was hoping for more strategies (actually in this video) on how to combat this.

[@perryh.5306]

Why? A female being controlling is super attractive!

[@ladyp5828]

I think the best way to combat this behaviour is to do inner healing and working on yourself. Learning new ways to handle things. Becoming the master of your emotions. Because all of this behaviour usually Comes from some form of trauma. Don’t be hard on yourself. We are only human after all. So many people do these things subconsciously. Just being self aware is the best first step to getting to where you want to be.