So much of this spoke to me. Last minute changes hit hard.. I have struggled with spontaneity or last minute changes since I was a small child. It would cause me to completely meltdown. I still struggle to this day, it's a huge hurdle for me.
@jessicap18323 жыл бұрын
I see myself in almost all of those situations!😳 Sometimes my HFA comes in waves but with everything happening in the world, work, ect, I feel like I've been riding the high anxiety wave for awhile & I'm going to come crashing down any minute! I feel overwhelmed, out of control & struggle with simple tasks. Something's got to give! I need to find my center/balance bc it's affecting every area of my life, especially my attitude🥺
@CM-sf9bc3 жыл бұрын
All of it.
@kamifearlessoul1223 жыл бұрын
Hello Julia Kristina ,how I can get to your program ?
@ThatAwkwardMom3 жыл бұрын
Ive had anxiety my whole life. Even when I was just a kid, 10 years old. I used to wonder why everyone else seemed so normal but I was always so nervous. In elementary school i would literally get a bathroom pass so that I could clear my throat because the idea of clearing my throat in front of the class was so daunting. Anxiety wasn't talked about much when I was growing up so I used to just say, "I'm socially awkward." I never understood why I struggled so much and everyone else seemed to be OK. It's nice to know that I'm not alone, I'm not the only one. Thank you for your wise counseling Julia 🥰
@jamisonlamkin55763 жыл бұрын
Ohh yes I remember similar feelings.
@Mel.H_3 жыл бұрын
Me too! Always wondering "why is this only happening to me" now I know I'm not alone. Hugs!
@ThatAwkwardMom3 жыл бұрын
@@Mel.H_ ❤️❤️
@taracrader44943 жыл бұрын
This was me!
@scottwexlin6456 Жыл бұрын
Me as well. I’m 59… my whole life
@nicoleonfeels3 жыл бұрын
Just because you seem ok to everyone, doesn’t mean you truly are. Definitely noting these down 📝
@megse94373 жыл бұрын
I feel like you were talking to me directly, everything is spot on. You just described all of the things about myself that I couldn't understand. Thank you - I know I am not alone now.
@jessieprescott15353 жыл бұрын
The lack of confidence resonated with me. Fear of failure. I also spend an immense amount of time preparing for things and want to make sure everything goes PERFECTLY. I also feel the need to be in control because if I’m not, things won’t turn out the way I want them to.
@ileanagarcia14923 жыл бұрын
Just listening to this helped me realized that I had anxiety pretty much all my life and didn't know it. Thanks for the clarity
@robertclose19223 жыл бұрын
Hi. I feel stressed and overwhelmed. I have a fear of failure. Performance anxiety
@PracticalInspiration3 жыл бұрын
I'm very much aware of my anxiety, but wasn't in the past. Really valuable share
@antonboludo88863 жыл бұрын
Anxiety in the abscence of any threat is a horrible feeling.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
I hear you Anton.
@natashadefoe70353 жыл бұрын
Horrible, but i'm the best in a critical moment... I had a family emergency about three years ago that shut everyone down but me, got the situation in control and even went to the hospital with them.... I work better under stress...
@antonboludo88863 жыл бұрын
@@natashadefoe7035 Yes, you are a very valuable person for this. You do not crack under pressure. The world needs people like you.
@chrishorbatt35043 жыл бұрын
Last minute changes effect me drastically!
@mamabear54883 жыл бұрын
My husband and I both have this. His extent actually makes him vomit! I worry so about him which makes my anxiety worse! We are both getting through it together!💞🙏
@Dundasdavid3 жыл бұрын
This video describes me exactly! Chilling really...and comforting at the same time. I have struggled with the "stigma" of not being 100% myself...that self that was high functioning with "ease" - by now a little less high functioning with unease. Stigma - be gone...now to find the right work to do to find more ease with this challenge!
@admirbarucija20183 жыл бұрын
I was recently diagnosed with GAD and really appreciate this!
@leeclarke89933 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I’m the one that continuously prepares and never does.
@jeffreypollan3083 жыл бұрын
Wow, is that what's going on with me?! In the past year, I've taken up meditation, which has been very helpful. However, leaving comments on social media can sometimes hurt my ability to sleep.
@lynnscorner65873 жыл бұрын
So appreciated this video my anxiety can be hard to manage-I didn’t realize that it had a lot to do with sleepless nites because the brain won’t shut down , but like many other issues I am definitely working on it. Thanks again for continually sharing these great videos and it’s good to know that I’m not the only one struggling with these issues.🙂
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Really glad you found it helpful Lynn. And yes, we are never as alone as we think we are.
@kizzyrock3 жыл бұрын
SAME!!!
@StartXpert3 жыл бұрын
@@juliakristinamah change this black and white background from your video this is also too depressing, humble request
@edwardboyle13812 жыл бұрын
61 yo w male finnish. My anxiety stems from my parents, brothers , sister have it, impossible to get along. I am a perfectionist. Julia describes me in all videos and shines the light I need, Thanks
@clairebear29753 жыл бұрын
Can this also relate to the fear of success, because then you DO have to show up and keep doing things to that same level when you know you aren't consistent, and for that reason, don't? I.e, don't start doing things, joining things etc. I've felt anxious since a child. I'm now nearly 47. I've tried so many things but I just feel like it's never really going to go away. I'm so fed up and exhausted with it. My social life is now small because of it ( feeling more comfortable in company of my pets) and some days I have trouble taking the rubbish out ( after having worked a full "normal" day)for fear of bumping into some neighbour. It is indeed my own prison. Thanks for sharing this video. My thoughts go to others feeling the same.
@booklover09243 жыл бұрын
I have had anxiety my entire life. They didn’t call it that back then. I would wake my mom up in the middle of the night scared with random questions I was spinning about at like 9 years old. Most describe me except the success exterior stuff. It used to but I think I’ve passed that to giving up. I try hard at work but at home I have to push to do anything so my house has been showing it. I’ve been working at getting into routines but it’s still crazy. Thank you
@chizkiyahukabas70783 жыл бұрын
I have been clinically diagnosed with high functioning autism with savant syndrome, and yet this video explains the reasons behind the struggle. Thank you for being here on KZbin.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Really glad you're here - thanks for watching.
@RoadRunnergarage85703 жыл бұрын
I feel this all of the time....
@michellestone82383 жыл бұрын
as i listened it was like you was flipping the pages of my life ! the only 1 i see different is that when i get the chance to get away from life . i love not knowing not have it in black and white. i love taking a right to see whats there . I see whats going on in me , but others around don't really care . All they see is that mom is doing it at the wrong time whole other book .. but thank you for this, i think i needed your words today .
@lylahboling63833 жыл бұрын
Just in case I didn't say it, THANK YOU!
@psycheread32583 жыл бұрын
This is why I joined the shift society. I was so worried about a work project that I've made into a MONSTER 💀 It was killing me. I got hypertension! I'm still working on it but when I get it done, I will have the time to work in earnest on the shift!
@riccardogniw72703 жыл бұрын
Hi. I am a reasonably new subscriber to your channel. I subscribed as a few of your discussion topics resonated with me. Especially this one. I recognise many of the signs you mention throughout your presentation in me. One that stands out to me is the duck analogy. People have often described me as being calm and collected. Even stoic (not sure how I feel about that). The biggest issues I have are an inability to switch my mind off as I relive epxeriences and interactions with people over and over. This in turn means that I struggle to get to sleep. If I'm honest, I've probably been surviving on about 4 hours sleep for about 20 years. I have sought medical help, but have never been diagnosed with HFA. At times I feel pretty defeated.
@kwgluvna3 жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed with ADD with Anxiety. Many of these symptoms belong to both categories.
@kizzyrock3 жыл бұрын
Oh my!!! "You try to control things around you when you can't control what's inside you" Oh my!!!!! O always call my self a control freak and now I know WHY! I just found this channel and I'm a kid in a candy store! Thank you!!!
@kizzyrock3 жыл бұрын
Ughhh as great as this message is, I still can't sit still. I have to intentionally keep bringing my mind back. 😩
@lylahboling63833 жыл бұрын
You always hit the nail on the head 😂
@bushidoanis13293 жыл бұрын
miss Julia is my Life coach.. she’s helping me a lot , respect ✊
@kaylaalvarado19753 жыл бұрын
I never realized how much anxiety effects every part of my life.
@blurglide3 жыл бұрын
Wow- this describes me perfectly. I think that's why I like to drink- it makes all these symptoms go away, and I'm much more likable. Is there any other way out of this?
@bhaskarchatterjee52493 жыл бұрын
Just an advice , try running or jogging and working out whenever you feel that way or treating yourself to a good movie and try to shut off or ignore the triggers ( these helped me atleast)
@alphaomega37663 жыл бұрын
Smoke a joint?
@blurglide3 жыл бұрын
@@alphaomega3766 I get tested at work
@edwinromilly46453 жыл бұрын
Hi i can relate to how you feel-but in reality some self assessment is needed and try centre yourself-Calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace. It’s never too late to change your attitude about something you can’t change. Just decide to make the best of it. Take life day by day and be grateful for the little things. No excuses. Let go of all the purposeless drama, aimless time-wasters, and mental clutter that keeps getting in your way. Mental strength is incredibly important. Take care of your mind and the way you speak to yourself. Don’t let negative self-talk weaken you. Talk like you are blessed. Walk like you are blessed. Think like you are blessed. Work like you are blessed. And you will be, one way or another. Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change (or when it’s time to recalibrate your expectations). That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient, and remind yourself that you will never have to force anything that’s truly meant to be. Just do your best, then adopt a “whatever happens, happens” mindset. Don’t try to force things-let go and allow the right blessings to flow.And lastly find a compelling future and go after what ‘lights you up’.Find personal growth in what ever happens to you,also emotions are stronger than thoughts so if you can build the emotions you want you will govern your mind..but also don’t fight your thoughts always,allow them as you are not your mind. If you exercise that helps Physiologically as you release endorphins,epinephrine etc dopamine and it will lift you. These things help me along with reading,hobbies,exercise or socialising good luck peace😉
@lesliengo83473 жыл бұрын
The quote "don't judge a book by its cover" really applies to high functioning anxiety. I think it is important to know someone more before making judgments because you may not know what they may be going through. When I am looking at a menu in a place like Starbucks, on the outside I look like I am really looking forward for my order but I am actually worried if people are making assumptions about me on the inside.
@AccountingFan20083 жыл бұрын
Found the channel a few days back- Been watching many of the videos all day- many have resinated with me- but just about every sign here can describe to a “T” reasons for my behaviours and actions at work and in life
@davidvitale93383 жыл бұрын
Good Morning Julia - glad to be back and watching one of your new sources of help for us all ☺️ Always useful and usable.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Glad you're here David.
@cardinalrev3 жыл бұрын
I am a pastor, and I thought I was dealing with burnout, but then after listening to this it sounds like I have high functioning anxiety. Are they related? Every single sign applied to me in some way. It seemed like you were speaking to me one-on-one. I realize more of what’s going on with me. Thank you for your videos!
@CM-sf9bc3 жыл бұрын
I refused to stop moving during the day. Overcommitting and not being able to sleep is yet another issue. I kind of figured I had high functioning anxiety. I have internal body anxiety (I can feel it in my legs, back, buttocks, lady parts, and stomach. I hate it and it's uncomfortable) I'm a pro at hiding it all my anxiety. Shared this video on FB, although would love to share personally, but then accused of judging so...
@SweetandSassyRedhead Жыл бұрын
Wow, never thinking I am doing enough really hit my heart. I recognize I have felt and thought this way in my 25 year career and it is more acute now. I believe it is a great and hard lesson to learn. I am willing.
@shelleyjohnson23813 жыл бұрын
So informative Julia. Thank you for your content. xoxo
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Glad you found it helpful Shelley
@mamabear54883 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Needed this!💖🙏
@PurelyChasXO3 жыл бұрын
Definitely me especially over the past couple of days. I’m trying to figure out how to manage it because I am super stressed
@erinwiebe70263 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate these videos. Thank you Julia.
@glenmisha2 жыл бұрын
I've never been an anxious person but since my 21 year old son took his life, my world came crashing down. It all began under a selfish mom & controlling dad. Then it continued for 24 years after college in Christian pastor & missionary work, pure exhaustion! Finally, I walked away from my lifelong religion right before my son took his life. Could my troubles be from PTSD or just as likely HFA? Thank you for a great video ❤️🩹 I also subscribed to your channel 💝
@lylahboling63833 жыл бұрын
Hello Julia I'm so happy to hear more from you always. You always seem to enlighten me with new and useful material for my life.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
I'm really glad you're here Lylah - thanks for watching.
@alisiajennings8613 жыл бұрын
OMG this is so me...nowonder I get burnt-out!
@sarahzottl49403 жыл бұрын
This is me to a tee. I am just so discouraged that after years of treatment, that this is my life. Controlled on the outside and a mess inside. It is so heavy!
@rsnsol24903 жыл бұрын
Yep, been dealing with this mu whole life. I know now im not the only one but for years I didn't know what this was and felt like I was going crazy. I know so many people that have this issue its almost epidemic.
@JohnB1872 Жыл бұрын
So good, I watched this twice. Pity I could only like it once, tremendous video. Thank you.
@nhile86033 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Julia
@johnpool56293 жыл бұрын
Hello Julie love your video it helps me a lot every day, have a great day.
@mikelaradesigns2 жыл бұрын
Hello just watched the video and its helped me alot. Ive been struggling since the age of 8 with sleep im now 38. If i get something wrong even the smallest thing i feel the need to appologise constantly i feel like a failure and my patients gets short. I start to doubt myself any knock back puts me on a path of doubt and fear. I never conected the dots but it makes alot of sence now. Thankyou
@emberlyn52253 жыл бұрын
My parents always ask "what's wrong" if I ever look sad and I always say that nothing is wrong even tho my thoughts are racing 25/8. I always considered it "overthinking" but I've noticed i can relate to ppl with anxiety, I'm constantly worried Abt what other people think, I overthink everything, I feel like I have to be perfect, etc. My mom, little sister and brother have it and I always said I did not but like....I just make it look like it don't.
@solaramazin37043 жыл бұрын
This makes me wonder what a "not mentally ill" person looks like, all these are forms of anxiety, so who is the calm person whose confident and not hesitant
@tommyharris59293 жыл бұрын
Thank you very kindly for this. Explains so much. Homecoming King projection on the outside dealing with massive imposter syndrome on the inside.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
I hear you. You really never can judge a book by its cover which is why it tends to work better when we have compassion for everyone.
@randoms1553 Жыл бұрын
I’m not sure if she was nervous or what but the sense that she couldn’t catch her breath constantly - indirectly gave me anxiety. Ironic I know. But every time she sighed, I needed to as well. Great content though! Just please take pauses and breathe so it doesn’t catch up with you.
@AnusiaLA2 жыл бұрын
I recently realized how anxious I really am. I don’t even have a couch in my house cause I rarely sit down. My living room is a full gym. I have to be productive or I start feeling annoyed and agitated. I hike over 100miles a month, weigh all my food, win competitions, don’t like anyone in my space or messing up my routine. Since my divorce I don’t want any man touching me or getting close to me. Was thinking about using better help but how is some random person going to help me fix this in 30min a week?
@gordonr.francisco51303 жыл бұрын
I love every session I have Heard...but I’m not sure what todo to sign up for your course...and how to retrieve the lists you often post. Keep up the great work, and Take good care.
@jamespowell-qw1hy2 жыл бұрын
i enjoy it. very intuitive and informative. tell me more!
@SenseiM012 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this information. You are such a blessing. I never thought I am suffering from such anxiety.
@fonsilvers3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!! I’ve been trying to figure out what is the sense of fear and dread I’ve been living with. You explained it! Thank you for sharing this info.
@stillready64053 жыл бұрын
It's hard hearing being described pretty accurate for the first time. I know I have anxiety which I think came from being traumatized as a child or it's just the way I was born. I'm not sure if I'm depressed but it's possible, maybe I just got used to it. So even I try to improve myself, I don't see much improvment. On the outside you would image I'm doing pretty well, but on the inside I'm only focused on my flaws and struggle to overcome that point of view. However I think I'm much better now than it was some years ago. I don't want to go to any therapy because I don't think anybody else could help me, it's all on me. Also who said that life has to be pleasant?
@clairebear29753 жыл бұрын
I add, the points here are so true... x
@jilldickson43523 жыл бұрын
I hide everything that wallows in the background of my thinking, I want people to understand but I can’t explain. Yes, yes yes. Incredible fear of failure. Yes caught up in my own thoughts. Oh boy perhaps I should switch off. I constantly change what I’m saying. One thing to another. Racing thoughts.
@amina0013 жыл бұрын
Thank you Julia for the amazing videos, they are incredibly helpful. I'm new to the channel and just learned I have high functioning anxiety. I'm looking forward to learning how to give my brain a break.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Amina, I'm really glad you found this helpful. Welcome here.
@ronaldnollet14613 жыл бұрын
awesome Julia this is me ...
@michaelbateson86362 жыл бұрын
It's first thing in the morning for me. I wake up especially on a day off when I've not got the kids, and the thought's and worries flood in. I wake up and the first thing I do I weep. It's horrible.
@r9i8c7k3 жыл бұрын
She has great insights.
@cesmith11713 жыл бұрын
This is a fantastic video. I felt like so much resonated with me and I will definitely be sharing this with friends! 😇
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad it connected - and thank you Chloe.
@RoadRunnergarage85703 жыл бұрын
I struggle with not being able to shut my brain off and being able to sleep well....
@MIZ02173 жыл бұрын
Hey hows everyones doing. I feel like the signs described me as well. Im able to do whatever I want but sometimes I do get overwhelmed which prevents me from being peaceful within.
@suehiro1073 жыл бұрын
Good Morning. Thank you for all your work. Ptsd the big D and I don’t mean Dallas & agoraphobia. I was Superman and the fall from the pedestal was horrible for everyone. The tune out. The duck feet, need to make everything perfect... it is exhausting. All these things and a few more well not dealing with all these things. The damn broke and here I am. But thank you for all content is truly helpful
@zzdipsetanazz3 жыл бұрын
When I tell people I know I have really bad anxiety they don't believe me because around them I'm fine and show 0 signs It's only under certain social situations that I freeze up Trying to work on it! Thank you!
@cesarcampos49913 жыл бұрын
Awesome video,Thanks for the therapy session :) I learned a lot about myself
@unconversantcallowincandes15403 жыл бұрын
One of the things I've been able to learn was the difference between panic attacks vs anxiety attack. To my understanding a panic attack happens randomly without reason and source. Anxiety attacks are when there is a specific that is the source of your anxiety, ie going to work, giving a presentation, going on a date.
@fabianamaria37343 жыл бұрын
Yes Inside is the real story
@ciarakouao-bile99203 жыл бұрын
On the uncomfortableness with spontaneity one-I embrace change because it seems to give me an excuse to detach from the outcome of an event that goes wrong 😑 due to my own over anxiousness because I feel like all I have available to me in those circumstances is to do my best living in the moment when things outside my control flip the script-so in a weird way I look forward to getting out of all my elaborately designed plans.
@ciarakouao-bile99203 жыл бұрын
Oh and also-as a tip I have learned that consistent cardio 🏃♀️ 🏊♀️ exercise can make a huge difference in helping me turn my brain off- Not encouraging any extremes or anything here but just pushing myself to the point where my brain is so ´in motion’ that it can’t think about anything else but the task at hand is a great relief. 😅 Plus it makes it easier to NOT be so hard on myself when I feel like I at least did one thing right and good for me that/each day. Cheers!🥂😊
@doug71692 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with 100 % of this video. I nail everything description except one . She git the list that describes me to a T !!! Tha k you for this video and it has opened my mind to sooooo many things that describe me and give me insight as to wtf is going on in my head. Thank you
@robertaborovicka13213 жыл бұрын
Bobbyjo thanks for the books
@RighteousDay3 жыл бұрын
Perhaps this could be a symptom of Complex PTSD for some people. Anna Runkle on here, KZbin, shares great videos about CPTSD 💜
@NThorn3 жыл бұрын
Any tips on how to stop overthinking about overthinking? Since I've become aware of how non-present I am, I try to be present but it's like I'm still aware that I'm trying to be present and not truly enjoying the moment
@ErinLAnderson3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Julia!
@rabina11003 жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊
@alia9573 жыл бұрын
Most of what you mentioned apply to me. I go thru these struggles on a daily basis
@_cr8ive_ Жыл бұрын
When you feel like dying 24/7 . . . . you know you have high functioning anxiety ...🤦🏼♂️😖🥴 🏃🏼💨💨💨💨💨💨💨💨 . . . Although listening to you explain and talk about it does give me a slight bit of hope and prevent me from going over the edge. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥴🥴😖😖😪😪😪
@medicalanimation3353 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@robertaborovicka13213 жыл бұрын
I can't find your video that you were talking about on relaxing can you please send me the website how do you make things get better or are you at night
@dolcevita89963 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️♥️
@lisaswords15823 жыл бұрын
Hi, Julia! Great video, as always! I have tried and tried to get the mindfulness exercise and it never gets sent to my email when I enter this. I really need this, can you advise what I need to do or an alternative, please!
@702gwlv63 жыл бұрын
This was very helpful in understanding my partner
@toaststrudel40473 жыл бұрын
Just found you today! Thank you so much for doing this. Alot of people will benefit from your knowledge 🥰
@chrishorbatt35043 жыл бұрын
Another good video, Julia! Ducts feet are palmate feet
@kimplansky5313 жыл бұрын
Everyone has Anxiety; Most just don't EVER ACCEPT (life,) & who they are, & "maintain" balance/ SMILE 😃!!!!! BE REAL/ YOU MATTER
@tgrsparrow3 жыл бұрын
Listening to the "super productive" point as I'm jumping from three different projects. 😅
@katsthoughts81713 жыл бұрын
I find myself wheezing when I'm at a very high anxiety level. Is this something that is common??
@yousefalobaidy43443 жыл бұрын
I was tuning out through out the whole video lol
@globalcat3 ай бұрын
tbh this made me feel anxious. You should put your meditation on KZbin. I don't really want to hand over my contact info.
@monkiram3 жыл бұрын
I clicked on this video to see if I have high-functioning anxiety, but now I'm just convinced I have low-functioning anxiety 😬
@patriciadyer29423 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@britx2132 жыл бұрын
What about over actively productive? And trouble sleeping/ resting. Always energized…And then a vibrating sensation inside along with ringing of the ears at times…? Please help I don’t have health insurance I did go in and got prescribed anxiety meds but I stopped because of side effects I feel mentally better but I have to stay busy all the time
@emilily19912 жыл бұрын
I've had anxiety most of my life I did have it better managed for a few years then I was involved in a fender bender at the beginning of March and its been a down hill slope. I've thought about going on medication for it but I really want to manage it on my own because getting off medication is difficult. but if my panic attacks continue or get worse I might have to face defeat only time will tell.