10 Sneaky Things Anxiety Causes You To Do

[@gurudra]

Learn to be in this present moment, there is no anxiety in this present moment🙏

[@juliakristinamah]

amen to this.

[@hannahnovak1071]

“I’m going to commit to trusting that I can cope with the outcome.” I have been sober just over a year now and this literally sums up my new reality. Instead of turning to alcohol/cigarettes/drugs to deal with my anxiety and feelings. Thank you!!

[@elipz6405]

One day at a time. Congratulations on your sobriety sister🎉‼️ I’m at 128 days sober today😇🤩‼️ Remember ☝🏼 is too many, (breaking sobriety), then many are never enough‼️

[@reagalbeagle1]

I know not all people are people of faith but I put everything into God. I was semi-anxious about an opportunity I was going to take. I prayed and let go and said- "I will go this direction because this is what God wants me to do." The next day a different opportunity came up that was way better. I put faith in God and in the process of life that good things can happen. Just because you made a decision you weren't sure of doesn't mean something better could happen. People always fixate that a big decision can always lead to doom and a lot of the time it can lead to something really good.

[@adamdenard7573]

This is soooo me.. 1. Putting too much on the line for the "right" decision 2. High Expectations 3. Perfection problem solving having to have it all figured out. 4. Being highly self critical 5. Taking responsibility for others feelings..wife, parents, kids, colleagues, bosses... people pleasing Glad I'm on waiting list to join the shift society 🙏😊❤️

[@nicoleonfeels]

Anxiety is definitely a vicious cycle. Hoping that everyone feeling this gets the help that they need 💗

[@ruwi5683]

Miss u ♥️

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks Nicole.

[@nayebarepraise9429]

@@ruwi5683 RSS Was a2z

[@color2066]

One of the things I appreciate so much about you is your humbleness and modesty. Most KZbinrs instruct others to like their video, but you suggest us to like it only if we really like it. That’s just genuine. Thanks for always sharing such incredible information and life wisdom with us! Cheers to you!

[@psycheread3258]

One thing:. The last mentioned making myself responsible for someone else's feelings. Contorting myself. Great thanks for that.

[@Lauren-gs1eh]

You should watch her videos on codependency if that resonates with you.

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad that connected - it's not always easy to do, but makes a huge difference to our wellbeing when we do.

[@sheilaw.1416]

I could totally relate when you said some of us go around trying to “edit” and be responsible for other people’s feelings. If we are secure with ourselves, we will not feel that our security and happiness depends on how others feel.

[@jaynepictures9846]

Thank you. "Overthinking is trying to avoid vulnerability" yep!

[@ct3975]

This is simply forgiveness for ourselves, some days it is a minute to minute thing. Other days we forgive once and it’s done, but it is really a constant thing to forgive ourselves and others.

[@juliakristinamah]

I hear you Chuck - sometimes we do have offer ourselves grace, compassion and forgiveness every few minutes until it starts to stick.

[@christina6103]

There are no words I can use to express the amount of gratitude I have for your helpful channel. I am always anxious.., mindfulness has been helping me strive after what I want most.

[@veronicabruce2078]

I love the way you break it down so easily. Ashtanga Yoga helped me at first but then I found Lesley Fightmaster who taught me how to be kind & gentle to myself & have self-compassion as well as your teachings that helped me turn the corner. I'm living my best life at 67 & hope I have another 20 years of this life. I got the best nursing job ever, moved to the beach, can ask for time off to travel anytime, am falling in love with my hubby of 36 years, my grown kids, my precious grand child. You are a motivator Julia & I love sharing you. Thanks!!

[@meaghan8740]

I saw myself in practically every single one of these!

[@stephenkaiser9780]

Listening to you is a bright spot in my day. Thank you. 😊 I am a major procrastinator. Hard to believe that so many others also struggle with distorted thinking.

[@juliakristinamah]

yup! These human brains of ours take a lot to manage - you are so not alone.

[@TheEarthycrunchy]

I definitely overcommit in order to control the narrative about myself. That I’m generous, nice, and worthy. Boundaries I work on constantly. Consumerism to be like other people. Not only does it make me feel more anxious, but it clutters my house and THAT also makes me anxious and it makes me busier trying to get rid of stuff constantly. (Boundaries) People try to give me things all the time and that’s a boundary issue and also a way to take responsibility for other people’s consumerism problem. I’m also very hard on myself. This video is so good. I was furiously jotting down notes in my journal. Thank you🙏🏼❤️

[@annrice2405]

Self trust and being 'good enough and not being unable to do anything because of it, then feeling even worse. Thanks for the giveaways in the description

[@rhondakorber3660]

Wow this is me!! Everyday just trying to get done, get thru the day then the week! and never enjoy life because I repeat the same process everyday!

[@codenamebravo2212]

I am comittedt to helping my anxiety and depression, and with watching your amazing videos i really think i can help myself get better.

[@starlitweaver]

I didn’t realize how much I needed this video until today. Thank you for making it.

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely. Really glad it connected.

[@nikkimckay860]

Hello everyone here in the comments I still consider myself new to this channel and these video s because I haven't watched many videos on this channel or followed for long but I want to share how important and helpful this video is I have suffered from anxiety for over 2 year s and just when you think it gets easier and manageable it doesn't my anxiety gets triggered when I go outside and stay out for a long time and worse when to meny people are around me if they stand close to me or talk to me in public places are a trigger sometimes I freeze on the spot or iv had panic attacks due to my anxiety just shareing this with others who have anxiety or understand s about anxiety we all deal with it differently take care people

[@KaciCreates]

Julia, you have done the impossible - you somehow are able to communicate these things that I know with my head in such a way that it finally gets my heart to understand them, too. Everything you've said in this video applies to me, but especially the part about pushing through. I live with chronic illness. I keep looking for other people to give me permission to be less productive, but I know only I can give myself that permission and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It's so difficult but I'm at least understanding now that I can support myself through this instead of looking for other people's approval. Thank you SO MUCH for all your videos, I feel like I'm finally starting to heal from all the years of emotional abuse I inflicted upon myself.

[@admirbarucija2018]

As someone recently diagnosed with GAD, I really appreciate this video!! Hope you’re having a great week so far ❤️

[@juliakristinamah]

You too Admir.

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@juliakristinamah Thank you so much!

[@nikkimckay860]

Admir Barucija. Hello been some time not seen you in the comments over on other channel glad to see your name here I clicked the video because completely related to me suffering from anxiety hope you are ok and your coping best you can with everything sorry to hear you was recently diagnosed with GAD Take care my friend keep staying safe and strong x

[@shaynalee]

You are awesome Julia!! Listening to you every morning puts me on the right track. A very warm thank you to you ❤️

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for letting me be a part of your day ❤️ .

[@standufrene93]

I do the same thing

[@yvonnebernadettehardy9752]

Hello Julia. I enjoy your help full videos very much. You speak so clear and slow, for someone like me who has ADHD. What I want to do for today is not let my narcissist husband think for me. I love your videos, thank you for taking the time to make them. I am Yvonne at 68.

[@jamifranklin7571]

I identify with a lot of the behaviors described in this video. Especially having unmet expectations and anxiety around it, overthinking, being very self critical and being afraid of not knowing everything/maintaining image that I know and can’t ask questions. That’s a lot to unpack and move through.

[@temerawhyte2942]

Wow , I’m happy I am now aware of my actions and how I’ve been doing things all wrong wow !

[@GokBenkpln]

Hi 👋🏻 I’m Gökben from Turkey. You are doing a great work. I really appreciate your support and effort. I’m becoming more and more mindful, kinder and grace to me. 😊

[@juliakristinamah]

Hey Gokben! So good to have you here. Welcome.

[@tammylarson6022]

Definitely an over thinker and judging myself! Didn’t realize the connections to self-trust. I will check out link.

[@dawnsimmons3426]

I do all of these things...I didn’t really know I had anxiety 😟 I’ve been working on setting a boundary, but I realized I get caught up in the moment and I before you know it... I took on someone else’s chore or job... instead of guiding, suggesting I’m doing it. So I’m applying a new skill .. of becoming aware 😉..

[@carolinehathaway4388]

Julia - you are an angel to me. I'm going through a really hard time and trying to heal and understand why I've been in a codependent relationship for 2.5 years. It's so raw and real and I'm so relieved there's people who understand. I can't thank you enough God bless you

[@michaelfisher5909]

Just discovered you. 47 year old guy. You are life changing.

[@mikesgroi21]

Wow this is powerful stuff! The part about having feeling “if I just get to here..” is totally me.

[@adelearmour1564]

I have done all of these and still do some and some to a certain extent but I am much better at catching myself when I feel this way and changing it. Another great video. Glad I have these videos to watch when I need some guidance.

[@kendrabond7647]

My husband found your channel and suggested I watch your videos. I am so glad that I did. I would say all of these points apply to me, no wonder I am anxious. Thank you Julia.

[@adamdenard7573]

I'm going to trust myself and back myself more ✌️💪

[@ErinLAnderson]

Thank YOU!!! Trusting myself would be incredibly helpful with what I have coming up.

[@MyFaith2012]

Agree, enjoy the journey.🙏🏼

[@standufrene93]

Awesome. thank you. Your messages are causing me to more self aware. Each day i practice what your teaching i feel better and im am getting better. Thanks.

[@MissDoreen]

Dear Julia I am new to The Shift Network and your KZbin channel. I suffer from anxiety and being in menopause for a full year now and really going through perimenopause. My anxiety issues POPPED back up again! 🤯😬I truly enjoy all of your inspiring lessons and life messages and wisdom. I am so happy to have found your channe.I feel grateful and blessed. Happy Saint Patrick's Day 🍀❤ Doreen Doe 🤙

[@gloriaainey4259]

I’m new here and I love your teachings. I have all of this which has brought me to full panic attacks!!!! Thank you!

[@juliakristinamah]

Gloria! Welcome. I'm so glad you've joined us here.

[@danaharmon5630]

I am so grateful for your videos! I am amazed at how I’m growing emotionally! Thank you!!

[@lylahboling6383]

Thanks Julia

[@Someonekindaspecial]

New subscriber here! You’re heaven sent. Thank you so much for sharing your light 💚

[@maryfeiten884]

Hello from Milwaukee WI area. Thank you for reaching out to help. ❤️

[@MartianGod1968]

You have the balance of empathy intellect and neutrality. So very Rare. Thankful to have discovered your Videos

[@Helen-ym3md]

I didn’t realise that over planning and listing jobs I need to do was also working against my anxiety. I am taking from this that I can write the list, but I don’t have to feel guilty or like I have failed if I don’t get it all done right away. Thank you for this, it’s only the second I have listened to but I will definitely listen to more of your talks.

[@mandiraroy7125]

All of them actually. But what helped me " u don't have to get everything figured out"❤️

[@Apartmentswithtracy]

Very eye opening. Over thinking for sure. And so many more of them.

[@shellyl2929]

Being responsible for everyone’s feelings, overthinking and being needing to be kind to myself were the ones that most struck me But really, everything you said was exactly me. No wonder I’m always on the edge! Thank you for this video!!

[@alexej6080]

Thanks for teaching and reminding us to be kind and forgiving towards ourselves, to not be a perfectionist with too high expectations... Like someone else said, some days it comes almost natural, other days well... I come here.

[@ComunidadSE]

I suffer of them all, which is really sad... but something that concerns me a lot (and causes more anxiety on me, tbh) is that in this era, in which the cancel culture is so strong and you have to say sorry almost for everything you say and do if it's something that doesn't align with others, it's kind of difficult to not 'try to please everyone'. I don't know what to think about that, honestly.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I love all your videos Julia you’re very insightful.

[@RoadRunnergarage8570]

Dealing with all of my traumas-( Being molested by a "friend" at age 12, Traumatic Brain Injury from a bad car accident at age 26,and the deaths of one friend that was murdered by her fiance and another that dies due to drug issues.)...

[@ettakelly933]

I do definitely get a lot from your talks. So real and sincere. Have learned a lot of things I did not know. Keep up the good work!

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for your message Etta - really glad you're here.

[@seanwhitford1537]

My entire life. I am "woke", so I own it and see it clearly now. Doesn't stop the anxiety, but I understand it and recognize now. Freeing.......ty for this vid.

[@christopher22859]

I've been doing dbt for the last year and what you say is so true, I suffer from a debilitating anxiety and I fall into all of these. The info you are giving has changed my life.

[@tgrsparrow]

My motto for when anxiety was preventing me from doing anything was "half a$s is better than no a$s." Meaning, it's okay if it isn't perfect or complete. Work as much as you're able, you can come back to this when you're ready. A crude phrase, but it got me through the worst bits.

[@aparajita1in]

Can relate to each and everything. Never knew anxiety can take over so strongly

[@deepanair5691]

Thank you so much for this. It could not have come at a better time, where I am have not been able to sleep because of overthinking. I am going to try your techniques and appreciate your teachings 😀

[@itsriggedJS]

You are amazing! Julia You hit on a lot of certain points as to how and what I am going through. I am my own worst critic I can be having a good day and totally lose it on myself. Sometimes I love to hate myself because of anxiety. Thanks for the video and keep up the good work you are doing

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

Thank you so much, Julia. I enjoy your content very much and find it to be so very helpful. For anyone out there who feels sick with anxiety or depression please remember YOU ARE LOVED and we accept you just as you are! Good vibes to all!

[@victoriastallard]

Thank You & you are loved as well & We all Love You & accept you for who you are too.

[@victoriastallard]

Oh & good vibes to you as well

[@TheStealthwalker]

I feel being a perfectionist comes from obsessive compulsive behaviour which comes from anxiety.

[@alisonpetersen3933]

I feel seen! 😳

[@ceciliaarnold1461]

My name is Cecilia. Hello. Could one of your videos be about PTSD and how to possibly control it? Raised voices makes me shut down because it brings up the past and I shut down. My fiancé is getting frustrated but I don't even know how to deal with myself. Really appreciate the videos you've made.

[@danielraypickrel4316]

One way for me to reduce the pressure the desire to always immediately be present to get it (write it, edit later) is to expect I will often replay the video. Sometimes when this talk goes from monologue to dialogue (in my mind) I fail to pause your words. I also am cumbersome (becoming less) in navigating dialogues in real time conversations.

[@connielittle7214]

Thank you for video I'm feeling all these things I really need help. Thank you

[@juliakristinamah]

Connie - come join us in The Shift Society. We open registration on Thursday. here's the link to the waitlist: courses.juliakristina.com/shift-society-waitlist I'd love to have you.

[@birdgirl1516]

This was helpful. However I admit.. I got an anxious feeling when you said (paraphrasing here) “this is it, there’s only one end /destination, we can’t do this again”... not sure why I have anxiety about death. I’ve had it since childhood & I’m in my 30’s. The thoughts about it come & go. I have had visions of traumatic deaths & car accident stories can horrify me. I have done EMDR for that & it helped somewhat. I was in a bad accident at 21 and the counselor thought my fixation on accidents or being hit by a train was connected to that. It’s crazy how many years later it was still a thing for me. The surprising thing, I was a trauma surgery nurse for 13 years and loved it. I saw deaths, sad outcomes but it didn’t bother me in the moment but caused me adrenaline rush & focus to help save the patient. I left due to burn out and I have struggled off & on with seeing their faces in my mind when I ruminate under stressful times. I think of the people who died & their stories. I wish this would go away permanently. I get the cycles a few times a year.

[@alissha16]

I’m 42 and that is my biggest fear also! But it really is the only life we have and she is here to help us enjoy every single minute. This pandemic has put my anxiety over the edge and now on light anxiety meds. But yes death is my biggest fear and worsened after having a child 😭

[@birdgirl1516]

@alissha KING : I feel you ❤️ it’s so nice to know we are NOT alone. I have been trying to get closer to The Lord and his word these days. I find it helpful when I hear a good sermon or homily. Best to you , my friend 🌟

[@ct3975]

Just have to treat myself like I would a good friend. Cut myself a break. I have learned to do that more since becoming a shifter. Thank you

[@kirstenvzumba9246]

Yes!!! Hello fellow Shifter!!😄👍

[@nikkimckay860]

@Julia Kristina Counselling thank you for sharing this important and helpful advice video I suffer from anxiety mostly everytime I go out somewhere and I'm around a lot of people and I'm out for a long time sometimes my body freezes up or iv had a panic attack due to my anxiety your video was much needed and appreciated we all needed this you are calming again thank you

[@alia957]

Being hard on myself regarding how I perform professionally (my own assumptions)has brought so much anxiety in my life and it continues :-(

[@jovendelosreyesroxas5377]

All I want to say is THANK YOU!!

[@AbdullahArRafi]

Thanks a ton for this one! Please make a video on Learned Helplessness

[@johnpaonessa5527]

Hello Julia, I've been listening from time to time. This video shines the light for me. It's my hamster wheel that I've acknowledged. I would like to become a member of the shift society. Please instruct me. Thank you.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Stunning as always thank you!! I breathed so deeply so many times during this ! I feel so safe and reassured and I am not an anxious person!

[@mccorn75]

Thank you for your videos and tools! There is a lot for me to unpack from this video. I know how these behaviors started in my childhood living with an alcoholic mother. Never expected as a middle-aged adult the impact would be so pronounced. I thought I had dealt with the behaviors by removing myself from the situation. I have a lot of work to do and appreciate the help in understanding and providing a path forward.

[@jcfischetti]

Thank you for this great tool!

[@gegealthani4636]

Your very good, and I’d love you to do videos about being prejudice or ignorance we need that nowadays

[@paulinewhalen6761]

Thanks for the good advice 👍

[@jeanniebarnard8136]

Thanks for your wonderful wisdom! I appreciate your down to earth advice and wisdom. You have a way of making me not feel like I’m weird or a mess, but these feeling I have are normal for many people. Thank you

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for a great video. Super helpful

[@lyndsiixo]

I do most of these 😕 thank you for your content

[@carbenyos]

I liked 14:17 Anxiety is the process of making ourselves terribly uncomfortable, in our attempts to prevent ourselves from maybe, might or possibly becoming uncomfortable. I've thankfully pretty much recovered from overscheduling/overcommitting and I used to feel pressured by other people expecting me to participate in their events. I've learned not to commit to these. Also 15:38

[@viella9887]

So many of these resonated with me. Especially the first and the last one. I'm so glad I found your videos, there's so much wisdom in them, thank you. ❤

[@geauxtama]

I only counted 7 sneaky things. My anxiety is off the charts right now. (mostly j/k). Again, as always, highly valuable and grounding.

[@mamabear5488]

Wow my partner said you read his mind! Thank you so much!💞

[@juliakristinamah]

Tell him 'hi' from me!

[@JennB]

I just want to thank you so much Julia for making these videos. They have helped me more than you know. I've been studying Psychology since June of last year and applying healthy self-talk/healthy thinking into my life and it's been an amazing journey. A good and healthy relationship with ourselves and trusting ourselves, like you say, is the foundation to success.

[@flyingrhinofilms]

Your really good. Only been following your videos a little while. Love the content. Thank you 🙏

[@kelseywestergaard1372]

I can honestly relate to all of theses

[@sylviasday4498]

Which expectation is useful was really helpful to think about cause I want things just cause other people seem to be happier with them and I often feel not enough for not having those things and that I'm waisting potential to be that happy and guilty for not trying hard enough but maybe having those things really isn't what I need or would make me happy. Maybe some expectations of happiness I've just got to drop. Dwelling on having something that obviously is not happening right now is waisting time. Instead I could be happy for that I have and only accept expectations that I feel like are important to me

[@valeriarossi7357]

Omg, you are so right Julia. It's me!!:(

[@kristenalbert2012]

I get so many take a ways from your videos and left with less anxiety. I'm one of the perfectionist and always working toward not needing to feel that way. It's a work in progress.

[@juliakristinamah]

Our growth is a journey - not a destination. Thanks for letting me help guide you on this part of yours Kristen.

[@marquisstarks9471]

Thank you Julia for this video, you are always so precise and self-effacing. Thank you.

[@НаталіяЛаврик-м6е]

Thanks!

[@tianamelton4901]

This was so good. Thank you!

[@marshahaneyhenderson6657]

Hello this video couldn't of come at a better time

[@katerinathompson1003]

Oh gosh... all of the above!

[@Babygirl_29]

I have a question. What do I do if my parents are toxic? And how do I deal with it?

[@medinac7618]

Hellooooooo Girl you’re a blessing Thank you very very much for your videos 🥰

[@juliakristinamah]

Hey! Thanks Medina - really glad you're here.

[@TheEunoiaProject]

Really helpful info! Hopefully we can make positive content just like you! 💜

[@debbiesnowett6747]

Love your channels x

[@Mike-cm1vt]

Worst 5 years of my life things still ain’t great stuck I feel in the biggest decision of my life do I or don’t I scenario, but it could be unrealistic expectation I place on some people the problem could be me but when I make the decision and stick with it the next day I see something that changes my mind, I feel my life depends on it that’s how bad it’s got but I know you know whatever happens it will be ok I will be ok as it does start with you ultimately thank you Julia, :)