How To Get Your Confidence Back... (Don't Ignore This)

[@JulienHimself]

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[@jeffknott1975]

I live by the saying "the less you give a shit, the happier you'll be" I suffered with social anxiety, it was debilitating, for years I was constantly worrying about how I was perceived, my breakthrough was realising I'm not that important, certainly not to strangers so why was I worrying about what they thought!? This realisation released me from anxiety altogether and I'm so much happier, less stressed and hopefully its gone forever!!

[@envivo1138]

Wouldn't it make you feel even worse? I mean, if your realization is that you're just any other ant in the sand. Wouldn't it feel like you're just worthless? To me, it's like everything in life. What's liberating can also be deteriorating.

[@ENTPhilosopher]

@@envivo1138nothing matters it’s a beautiful thing analytical idealism is the key

[@jeffknott1975]

​@@envivo1138 No, certainly not for me, letting go of your ego that you're something special is so freeing! My anxiety was caused by me wanting to give other people the impression I wasn't anxious, which caused more anxiety, as soon as I realised I shouldn't care about how others see me my anxiety evaporated, I hardly left the house coz it was easier than put myself through the torture of going out, I'm free from this now and the results speak for themselves

[@localpoliceman]

''my breakthrough was realising I'm not that important'' I already know this, but that does not decrease my anxiety one bit. The only way for me to overcome it, is by taking action. Which comes down to confronting all of my fears. It sucks. I know it's all in my head, but the emotion/feeling just takes over.

[@jeffknott1975]

​@@localpoliceman there's no real set way mate everyone is different and respond to different techniques very differently, it also depends on the type of anxiety, mine was constantly worrying about not looking anxious, trying to hide how I felt from everyone else, this fakeness made it 1000x worse, I wouldn't go out for weeks at a time coz it's was such an ordeal each time, then someone said to me one day "why do you care if you look anxious" I realised caring about anxiety caused my anxiety as mad as that sounds. But I feel for you man, I hope you figure it out it's mental torture living with it I don't think most people realise how debilitating it can be...Good luck to you pal 🫡

[@Sigma77-n2u]

We are all afraid of what others think and we want to be accepted. Once you don’t give a fuck it’s very freeing but it’s not easy 😊

[@Since-80s]

I saw it when she stepped into herself for the first time, it was beautiful. bravo for the courage of the participant

[@habagun737]

Julien, for almost 30 years I struggled with social anxiety and for the first time in my life I'm starting to conquer it. Thank you so much.

[@mrdeath4446]

😲😲😲😲😲

[@emilyfyffe458]

When the pandemic hit and we had to mask to go into stores, I put on a black morph suit and went into a bunch of stores with it on. You couldn't see a single inch of me and I was totally anonymous. I felt so incredibly free because no one would ever know who I was. I skipped around the grocery store, danced down the aisles, got a bunch of selfies with people, and even got hit on my both men and women. It was the highlight of all that darkness for me.

[@zenostrixster]

Ive actually tested these thoughts that pop up inside my head about what others think of me and realized that they are compeltely inaccurate. I tried apologizing to this girl my mind was racing with how negatively she would react but to my surprise she took it so well and even told me to relax and take it easy. At that point i realized that all this prediction is simply not accurate and reliable and most of it will never happen. I also realized that these thoughts are a mere reflection of my own thoughts about myself and i can not possibly read minds.

[@julianoz777]

I noticed this during the pandemic, I would be way more open while wearing a mask haha

[@JulienHimself]

Yep... Fortunately, you can make that feeling permanent by learning how to LET GO! 👌

[@Sigma77-n2u]

I noticed now there’s still people wearing masks 😷 and it’s most likely insecurity! Your right about feeling more comfortable in it

[@Kathy-g3i]

First time I felt better about me.spent my entire savings for dental work and had nothing left to get dentures.i would have died without surgery... Now I'm lucky to afford masks

[@BrotherBadger123]

Man, You are One of the Rare People Who Actually gets it. It's Hard to just be Yourself and not feel like You need Permission to do so. It took Me a LONG Time to just NOT Care what others Think. As Long as I'm not doing anything Illegal, Potential Self Harm, or Putting My Job at Risk, Why should I Care What Others Think about Me ?!? You Video is Mind Blowing and Presented in a Humorous Way. 🤯🤣

[@jalisky]

The part where you said if someone else becomes you suddenly, they would do better as you because they didn't have the same conditioning was very good

[@vivek9chavan]

I was there! Thanks for the event, Julien & Co :)

[@donniman5532]

Hey Julian, I’ve been following your content for almost one year and it has been really impactful for me. There’s a part I’m struggling which is I get a lot of anxiety and feel insecure when I’m getting into a relationship with someone. It’s like a part of mind says she’s the one and other part says it's not gonna work.she’s not the one.

[@Doct0rGonZo]

Your mind is trying to keep you safe from hurt. Don't listen!

[@o0MELLY0o]

I see the problem in the fact that you are strangling yourself by this concept of "THE ONE". This causes huuuuuuuge problems cause it ignores the natural flow of life. Stop letting go of that "the one" concept and you will we be more chilled on the spot. Cause there is probably 345345 "tho ones" out there for you. Just chill don't cling on too much to the one Disney fantasy. If it doesnt work out with this one, then on tho the next. And the pressure is off. Enojy

[@m.h.1159]

I absolutely love watching her growth and personality. Shes such a badass.

[@konceptuzari]

Her? 😂😭

[@mroberts5978]

This is one of the best video in the internet lol. Ur rocking that outfit btw. this helped me so so much, your very wise and I needed to hear this very much at this point in my life. with your immense knowledge and skills and how well you can convey yourself, you have been and are going to help so many people. I can’t thank u enough keep helping people✌️

[@PetDKK]

Oh my gosh Julien you're such a breath of fresh air! You explain things so they are SO easy to understand and you make me understand myself and my behaviour so well! Thank you!

[@GroundbreakGames]

Watching this I went from being uncomfortable, to laughter tears, to literal crying tears, back to laughter tears, and so on. Simple but powerful.

[@crzyboproductions]

This video brought massive change in my life all thanks to you Julien and me for putting in the work to let go....thank you

[@dameanvil]

00:00 💊 Developing a pill to help humanity: A pill to stop caring excessively about what others think is identified as one of the top barriers holding people back. 02:05 🎭 The power of anonymity: Anonymity, like wearing a mask, can remove social repercussions, allowing for greater risk-taking and freedom of expression. 03:32 🗣 Overcoming fear of judgment: Reflecting on how fear of others' opinions can hinder goals and actions, encouraging freedom and confidence. 06:17 📢 Embracing vocal expression: Encouragement to express oneself boldly, challenging self-imposed limitations, and resisting internal resistance. 10:57 🗝 Breaking free from limitations: Removing mental barriers and embracing opportunities, emphasizing the importance of choice and self-belief. 15:37 🌅 Shifting perspective on success: Highlighting the continuation of life beyond perceived "happy endings," encouraging a mindset of continual growth and exploration. 17:36 ❓ Confronting discomfort: Addressing discomfort with visibility and trust, suggesting introspection and release of past traumas for personal growth.

[@bookofglory]

To me it's not so much that people won't like you... it's that people are resorting to violence, commenting vile things and attacking you when they don't like you. That is more the problem for me. I can easily move away from a video or a person I don't like, they won't ever even know but most people can't do that. That is what bothers me.

[@dorsaabbasnia9665]

I don’t know how can I say thank you…you are amazing sir…

[@eklavyasingh8143]

You got nothing to loose or gain , this line is going to be with me for a long long time now.

[@JulienHimself]

This is the way... 🙏

[@KTKDJ]

What does this mean

[@eklavyasingh8143]

@@KTKDJ u can't loose anything if you understand that nothing actually belongs to you at the first place , it's just a character who have few equipments here and there and a few abilities.. nothing belong to "you" bcz in reality there is no true "you"

[@yann54katatonia]

00:02 Confidence in not caring about other's opinions is key to success 02:15 Taking risks without social repercussions 04:34 Believe in yourself and take up space. 07:13 True confidence is unaffected by external opinions or events. 09:44 Overcome resistance and regain confidence. 12:37 Try the Toothpick Challenge for self-discovery. 14:42 Let go of conditioning for success 16:50 Let go of the fear and discomfort of being seen

[@meh.7640]

every time i'm in public i keep telling myself nobody cares about me. what i do, who i am. i don't care about them, why would it be different the other way around? i keep telling myself that because it's not what i feel inside. what i feel is that people judge me. i have to talk myself out of that. but i think i'm making good progress. i learned that in school. i learned people always judge me. the things i do seem weird to others. they look at me weird. they talk about me behind my back. i learned to distrust everyone and i stopped talking to anyone. it broke me. deeply. it took me literal decades to crawl back out of that headspace. and yes, distrust is very much a sign of insecurity. if you think you can't talk freely to someone because they'll say something mean, that's literally you not trusting yourself to seem normal to others. or not being able to handle a mean comment.

[@cowboyyehaw6985]

Julien!!! I would love for you to come to Cyprus. This would help me so much with my anxiety. Would you consider coming? Having people inside a room with similar issues would help me so much.

[@jasonz9902]

WOW awesome you're so good at this. Very enjoyable and informative.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it! 👊

[@TahitiSkeez]

I loved the ending!

[@shadkhel4306]

Reminds me of the headless way. Its a concept which frees one worring how they look in front of people.

[@andyhowden7655]

Thing is, its not the sounds what more what you think people are thinking about. First impressions are important for certain situations

[@itgirl959]

Hey Julien, I’ve always observed it and as a Musician I’m sure you’ll understand this: when people sing a Song to you, even voluntarily, they always sing it off. A specific amount of off. You can just tell that it’s purposely off if you listen closely. It’s a way of hiding. Ive Shared This Observation with so many people and no one agrees with me, they Always Argue that people just can’t sing in tune. Which might be true, but this specific amount of offness is unnatural. Even kids do this, and you can tell when they are still trying to be in tune, and suddenly they are also singing off on purpose. Another observation I made is that the same effect does not occur with whistling. Maybe some people whistle off pitch but no one tries to whistle slightly off. And why? I strongly believe that it’s because whistling is not as much of an individual sound. There’s not so much you personally to be heard in the pure sound of a whistle. In the quality and musical interpretation maybe, but not in the sound itself. You could hardly recognise your friends by them all whistling the same note. Very different from the voice…

[@johndtwaldron]

He’s absolutely right here

[@stanleyhochrein9136]

Ngl she is drop dead GORGEOUS.

[@peakytinplate2577]

This has been very healing for me🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@JulienHimself]

Glad to hear it! 🙏

[@StopLive]

Thanks for the event in Prague🔥❤️

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome! Thanks for making it out to the event!

[@YoungMattyP]

Thanks!

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏🙏

[@rue.h05]

🌟👐"life keeps life-ing" 👐🌟

[@reforma720]

I like her, she’s cool. By the way this video was incredible! Julian if you are reading this, thank you for posting these videos and the work you do, it has helped me tremendously!

[@hypatch8014]

Julien when I do action trigger release repeat I just try to feel the anxiety, I don't sit down and listen to the meditation, and that basically removes the fear the next time, do you think I'm missing out by not doing it?

[@JulienHimself]

You’re just scratching the surface if you’re doing that… You have to combine it with a specific themed guided meditation as well as other tools of introspection if you want to get to the cause.

[@arianrezaei4520]

I don't do anything at all, it comes out and goes out by itself I have no say about it I can't even stop it if I want to, I'm letting go while shitting, eating, sleeping, wanking it's just on 😂

[@steve00alt70]

I think powerlifting can boost your self esteem and confidence, you never picture a shy person lifting 1100lbs ever. But People with chronic blushing fear of blushing (which you have yet to bring on the stage) may have more confidence issues there than the normal person.

[@beags9995]

i don’t think that’s a super common issue that people have

[@NoahArk-xy2nb]

Bro .. I'm a huuuuuge blusher. It fucks me up so bad because that spotlight effect gets amplified even more... I literally turn into a tomatoe 🍅 I start stuttering. Argh! I havent had a job because of this and i am fucking 31.. It's killing me.

[@almadawarrior]

freedom of outcome

[@Tae-Joon-Park]

Hey man you accualy helped me quite a bit in my life thanks

[@nithitdolorfino9010]

Hello from Thailand 🇹🇭

[@JulienHimself]

👋

[@msunknown8875]

Right video at the right time

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this one resonated with you!

[@user-js9gn2hw9s]

My hubby totally doesn't care what people think and I am opposite. I always say," you can't wear that,"" you are going out like that""why did you say that" etc... He always plays jokes and wants people to laugh. He walked down the street in a banna costume, showing his face lol...waving and yelling to the people.That's just one example. He has done many. It's totally not me lol

[@arianrezaei4520]

Maybe he just had a healthy childhood and good relationships throughout his life so he never lost his confidence, he maybe doesn't even know what others think about me means😅

[@user-js9gn2hw9s]

@@arianrezaei4520 You are absolutely correct. He doesn't care what anyone thinks lol

[@arianrezaei4520]

@@user-js9gn2hw9s lucky guy takes a lifetime to be like that again for me

[@MrJamesshipman]

I think that's why Mardi Gras masks are so great. It's the extra layer of not caring.

[@RockyBoltzano]

Thank you Julien. Amazing content.👍

[@protectyourretirement1823]

Guys if you keep watching these videos you are just wasting your time and money, the secret is dominate your thoughts, as soon as you catch a negative thought turn into a positive, if you keep doing this you will be FREE, everything will align you will be more present, no anxiety, more confident, your task now is fight your negative thoughts and that little voice turn into your friend by stopping negativity and embracing powering thoughts, if you do this you will gain the confidence you have always dreamed about, I used to watch these videos now I just laugh at them because while I learned a thing or two but you need to fix your self from the core, I was fighting to get here and I just shared with you the secret, if you need help I can help for free, I know how is it like for a man to suffer from anxiety and low confidence its literally HELL on earth that you would wish to even your worst enemies…

[@TrueMG]

She has a good smooth energy, instantly charismatic ✨👌

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, MASSIVE respect to her! 🔥👊

[@Keichoula]

Collapse, don't enhance your confidence or self-esteem or self-worth; you're invincible. Let that land. - Julien Blanc

[@NikolayGanovski]

Julien, how do I actually determine if I need help or not? For example I suspect childhood trauma but not sure.

[@teaacustardcream2868]

When the lady said she doesn’t trust people because of trauma, Juliens body language sort if changed and he moved on quickly lol I guess he can’t let things get too personal on stage as theres an audience and ppl might use him as a counsellor. Also no matter the story the work you have to do is still the same.

[@brutalalexa]

i heard so much bullshit in past couple of years and now i got so bad anger issues, even my family hates me now i dont know how to get better anymore

[@perrycoffey5410]

Sorry too hear this bro, hope you can fix it somehow

[@marionelson888]

Go your way dawgg😊

[@JuanManuel12345]

Hi Julien! How can I find your friend with the mask? Got really curious

[@joshuajayasinghe7788]

Are you talking about boy with uke?

[@indepth_theatre]

Julien I am too feeling confident I am from India And to be like you

[@rajdwipdutta4585]

18:24 julien like : why didn't you tell me before😂

[@leopepi834]

Amazing stuff!

[@jaspergabriels8933]

I got very insecure because i start balding so much like crazy . Hear about hair systems but scary if People could see

[@lxn7404]

That happy ending rhing in movies has been a source of anxiety all my life lol😅

[@PopsiclesInMyCellar]

2:00 deadmau5! Woo hoo!

[@aliylmaz4867]

Masterpiece

[@GameOn0-d6d]

I like your outfit 😮

[@liferendering2769]

Pick It From A Guy who's high Rn, That means The Power of the brain is Unlimited I Can Judge🔥 Why don't you Get Bored of That Bs And don't Get offended I'm just Saying that it's a buiness and you know it , Other dark motives I think you know Yourself More Than everybody else and you don't need to answer I know The role of the Alpha

[@alonshlider4881]

Where is the pants from?

[@spectralstreamer]

Your outfit again 🤣🤣🤣. Not my taste but I love it though.

[@avalon.rising]

Same. It's not my taste either, but I love it because it's a unique and genuine expression of Julien.

[@MincaNyan]

I always love his outfits. Feels like he randomly goes through a thrift store, but it works because he doesn't care. I kinda wish I had pieces like that in my closet, just to run around as funky as this and practice confidence ❤😂

[@lukeclaydon6670]

You are great and

[@matimoi]

19:02

[@Meehaly]

loveee it

[@JulienHimself]

🙌

[@shallowwatersoriginal]

On my way to make everyone who I was anxious to see hate me

[@KaeLayne-j6l]

Hi!

[@stanislavkody8796]

I was shy wear glasses when I was 7-8 years old so it was moment i remember it was around this years I started care about others ...29 now and what say 😂

[@JulianY2K12]

I wish I could just be myself and that be worth something. Putting some wierd fake confident persona just doesn't work for me. Why pretend I don't care when I actually do? I don't want what I am to be considered ugly and inferior. I don't want to die alone

[@simchaehrman6529]

aske why?

[@toniathanasiou9701]

Berlin City 🔥💥

[@multivox_musik]

A mask to unmask. It works.

[@mateicosmin1989]

Sry Julien, but my problem is that I do not give a F, no matter who it is, and it gets me in trouble sometimes... especially when I start yelling at cops and public employees.

[@JulienHimself]

Sounds like you need to learn about empathy and social calibration... Check out High Vibe Communication: www.highvibecommunication.com/hvc

[@swapandebnath7124]

That's something I was looking for, thanks ​@@JulienHimself

[@mateicosmin1989]

@@JulienHimself My step dad beat the empathy out of me, I revert to being empathic and self regulated when I break contact with him more than 2 years from what I have seen. From what I know it's CPTSD caused by narcissistic abuse from my dad, that caused me psychological trauma. That's life I guess.

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

Tim Fletcher is another KZbin channel and Julian's material. You aren't the only one unfortunately with similar experiences. Do the work for you ❤​@@mateicosmin1989

[@AC-fi8ge]

Don't swing the pendulum too hard, lest you abandon the Middle way. 🌊

[@Bomberman64x]

Where there clients this hasn’t worked on? What where you doin in those cases?

[@wigwamproductions134]

Eric $&?!s Ariel’s sister !😂

[@Aleks_Mechanics]

Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥

[@JulienHimself]

Booyah! 🔥

[@sentient_part]

Will you do an event in Belgium one day ?

[@JulienHimself]

Maybe, but not anytime soon... I suggest trying to make it out to another European event!

[@Kathy-g3i]

Xanax

[@lukeclaydon6670]

Funny too

[@timmybroadshaw2322]

don't ignore this

[@LouisLuzuka]

😮

[@amensoul1242]

Yooo

[@NorbieSimon]

U should do this more often, ask people to scream loud, then put a shirt in front of their faces and make them scream again.

[@Aidan_Stroud]

I have so much false confidence. I feel behind and immature in life. Wish I could come to one of these and be on stage with you… I don’t think I’m ready though. Maybe one day

[@JulienHimself]

You can also apply for online coaching here: application.julienhimself.com

[@Psyche_Up]

How old are you

[@Aidan_Stroud]

@@Psyche_Up I just turned 25 ten days ago

[@nazart7830]

come to fcking mexico dude

[@djebarazidan103]

+

[@ADONISEDITZ]

First here❤

[@JulienHimself]

Nice! Be sure to report back with your top takeaway! 👌

[@Rodwill18]

She’s a cutie..