June Q&A | Surgery, Cars, Dating & Travel

[@buffalosoldier19d42]

John, let me help you out with the, "Who's going to come and visit me when I'm 95?" The #1 concern for nursing home workers is the lack of visitors for most of their guests. Even when they have people who are able to visit, that just don't come by. As a man with no kids I know that that concern is a waste of time.

[@40OverFashion]

Interesting and sad.

[@SteveC-y9W]

My theory why family members don’t visit as much as we should, is it reminds them of their future.

[@jameswoodard6271]

I had surgery to repair an inguinal hernia in 2011. I still have occasional "tenderness" at the incision site (which is where the hernia presented) and i still don't do any heavy lifting in my workouts. In general, any time i pick up/carry anything that's 50+ lbs, I feel slight weakness in that area and am always guarded/cautious because of that.

[@alwayspooh1588]

John, I am with you on the "who is going to come. and visit me" idea. I fear getting old(er) and having no-one. No-one to talk to, no-one to ask how I am, no-one to care for me or about me. It wakes me up at night. It is a scary thought.

[@40OverFashion]

Yes, it can be scary.

[@omarcortes5754]

Glad to know everything is going well after the surgery.

[@SarcoidosisWarrior]

I had hernia surgery back in 1985 I had mesh implanted and I assume it was the right type as I haven't had any problems since. Glad you're back and starting to recover John !

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate that, thank you!

[@DaveDolphinOK]

Whether it’s clothing or wine, you’ve put the work in to understand it and what you like. So it becomes less about trying to impress someone else and more about learning how to use it to express yourself and enjoy life. Go ahead and put an ice cube in your glass… you know why you do it and why it makes your life more enjoyable!

[@40OverFashion]

Ha! Appreciate you Dave! Nice new truck!

[@skadooodle]

I had the two little holes, mesh on both sides- was working later that day at my desk, but soon figured out, very hard to sit for long, for about a month. Standing, walking or laying down was best

[@CaptainRon956]

Hey John, I’m 55yrs old and I had that same surgery back in 2014. I remember that first two weeks sucked and when i made darn sure to eat high fiber foods that helped #2 go smoothly. It took about two yrs for the numbness & pins n needles feeling to go away in that area. I had the mesh

[@40OverFashion]

2 years?! Yikes!

[@TechnoLawyer]

Euro trip advice - if you’re planning on showing up without much of a plan and just exploring, I highly recommend Italy over France. Much easier if you’re going to do it this way. Simple reason - English. Everything in Italy is in both Italian and English. Pretty much every sign, every menu, etc. And Italy has a high degree of English fluency (and moreover, they tend to avoid putting people who don’t speak English in customer facing positions; you’re probably not going to find a waiter or bartender who doesn’t speak English, etc). Obviously if you plan things in advance, doesn’t matter. But for random exploring, this makes things way easier. You can rent a car and drive through little towns, and won’t have an issue taking to people where you stop. That kind of thing. France is not like that. Not uncommon for nothing to be in English, to stop somewhere on a road trip and be unable to find anyone who can speak to you. I’m not being an ignorant American. It’s their country. I’m the asshole showing up and not knowing French. Just saying, Italy is easier. Both have incredible wine though. For CHEAP. Some things are more expensive there, but quality wine is like 1/3 the price it is here!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you! Very helpful!

[@cy4194]

The “who’s going to visit me when I’m 95” question is a tough one, but, as someone else pointed out in the comments, having kids is no guarantee. Maybe a better way to approach it is to aim to be someone whom people will want to visit, irrespective of age differences or relation. One of my favorite writers is Evan S. Connell, who never had kids. When he was in his 80s in a retirement home, he had close younger friends who visited him, and even made close friends with some of the staff. And that’s despite him being a taciturn man, famous (when younger) for going through entire dinner parties without saying a word. He was an interesting, charismatic person who formed relationships that didn’t need the (often neglected) ties of blood.

[@Newbill17]

I’m sort of amazed at how similar our fitness journeys have been. But I’m older than you. I started with a trainer two times a week in January and made tremendous progress. Developed some muscle and dropped about 20 pounds of fat. Then developed a right Inguinal hernia from lifting weights. I had laparoscopic surgery on June 11th. My surgeon says I’ll heal just like a 30 year old which is obviously absurd since I’m a decent looking 65 year-old. So, I’ll take the full six weeks before returning to the gym. Then probably work on upper extremities only for two weeks before returning to legs. A couple of things with age, even at 50 you should not be training every day. Recovery and building muscle at this age requires breaks. Lifting every day is counterproductive. What you eat is critical and rest/sleep also. Best wishes on your recovery. I listen for the fashion advice and the old money look has always been my thing, only more minimalist.

[@40OverFashion]

That’s good advice! Appreciate it!

[@vnmfitnesslittleedpt]

I'm glad you're okay i had the surgery in 1992 but I was in the same location as the picture. it was painful and hard to sit down stand up I needed to sleep on my back. But I'm happy you're okay.

[@andrewwetton9219]

Hi John I’m an older guy but I’ve been following you for months and love your videos. You have a complete honesty about you on all things you talk about. My own style is becoming better thanks to your videos. I live in Singapore so when you do start to travel do also think about Thailand, the Philippines, Bali, Hong Kong & Singapore. You would love it.

[@40OverFashion]

I appreciate that!

[@tendraftsdeep]

Great update! I've become a happily married hermit over the last few years but still keep my wardrobe sharp and always appreciate your honesty and style. Congrats on successful surgery, Have a great Cabo and keep on rockin!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@chrisb3902]

These are always my favorite videos you do. Second favorite are the outfit critiques 😅 Look forward to the upcoming one. Glad surgery went well and praying for a speedy recovery! I have the same conflicting thoughts on kids. I’m 49 and don’t have any - not sure I will at this point. Anyways, thank for sharing and being candid as always! Glad you are enjoying the new car - looks slick!

[@lesliekistanministry191]

Take care Sir. Glad that all went well. Hope your trip goes well. Take care. Leslie and family

[@garyjones5947]

Glad to know all went well with the surgery. Wishing you a full and speedy recovery.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@Check_your_head]

Nice video John...public service announcement for you...the sun in Mexico is crazy intense(family friend was just down there and got burned bad enough to go to the hospital/physically sick for a week. BRING A GOOD SUNSCREEN! Have a good time!

[@40OverFashion]

Thanks for the info!

[@johnward4557]

Very much enjoyed this random-topic video + glad to hear of your recovery from surgery. As a lover of wine, you owe yourself a visit to Saint-Emilion in southwestern France when you eventually travel: It's a picturesque, well-heeled medieval town smack in the middle of the Bordeaux region.

[@40OverFashion]

Very nice! Thank you!

[@searlearnold2867]

Euro trip - Pitti Uomo January 2025 Florence Italy. Mens fashion, Italy, travel on a tax write off. Can't beat that !

[@DesertMav]

Great video John. A few of my family members have had hernia surgeries recently as well. Most of them tend to be in the lower abdomen like you said. I'm glad to see the C8 Corvette getting some attention and it looks great with the matte PPF on it.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@canadianpatriot1387]

Glad to hear that your surgery went well. Had a colonoscopy two weeks ago….clean as a whistle. Keep being an advocate for mens health.

[@paulstaples8089]

Great video John good to hear that you’re on the mend! If you do ever make it down under it would be great to have a get together with as many of your Aussie viewers as possible. How about it? 🍹😎

[@40OverFashion]

That would be cool!

[@smjohnson1970]

Wishing you a speedy recovery. I dig Express and I'm bummed about them going out of business. Thanks for answering the questions! Stay cool in Temecula!

[@40OverFashion]

Much appreciated! Thank you!

[@dessert_foxxx]

Hello John. I am an avid fan of yours from Saudi Arabia. I am originally from Philippines but am working here in the Middle east for quite some time now. I am inspired by your videos and you helped me a lot on dealing with my self confidence issues. I honestly find your contents directly speak to me. Keep up the good work and more power.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you very much!

[@Check_your_head]

John...would be very cool if you could do a video on tailoring...maybe a field trip to your personal tailor and show the process of what all that entails???

[@BrandonGolets]

Nomad Capitalist did that recently and it was pretty cool!

[@Check_your_head]

@@BrandonGolets I'll check it out...thanks!

[@kenhowell8403]

So happy the surgery went well. Good Luck.

[@bh7984]

Glad the surgery went well.

[@wallyg77]

Hey brotha glad you're recovering nicely from your surgery, good thing is that you work from home so be grateful! I'm working but trying to transition to remote 🤞🏻

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@wallyg77]

@@40OverFashion Anytime, get well!!!

[@Check_your_head]

How about a packing video of what you're taking to Mexico??? Would be interesting to see what you're bringing.

[@40OverFashion]

Interesting…

[@adamloake]

A wine video would be great John! Maybe take us on a trip to one of the wineries and talk us through a few of your favourites

[@40OverFashion]

Sounds great! Not a bad idea!

[@chuckcribbs3398]

The Corvette is great, but I would have went GT4. It’s mid-engine, different, light, boxer engine that will scream to 8000, can get it in a manual, but that’s me. Is the Nurburgring on your bucket list?? It’s on mine! I have a racing set up with wheel and pedals for my PS4, running Gran Turismo 7. I’ve done the ‘Ring hundreds of times. Got to do it for real. Glad your surgery went well! Health is what matters. You’re still inspiring me. I’m down 44 pounds, about ten left. I feel great, I started running again and I’m doing three miles a day, three days a week. Heavy elliptical the other three days. Gotta keep moving! Merlot is where it’s at…😁

[@40OverFashion]

Congratulations! Love it!

[@steveowens913]

I don't know anyone with a Corvette who doesn't love it! You owe no apologies! Well, unless you had bought a C4...'84 thru '96.....No, everyone DOESN'T!!

[@TheRealRoscoe]

Bro. Gut punch on the MFI. That's hard. For me, was super hard to come back from. Thank you for sharing that, and I'm glad you're okay.

[@paolosacco9731]

You always keep coming up with these great Q&A,love what you've done with the car,have a good recovery, vacation and on the dating something will happen when you least expect it. All the best❤.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@jproog41]

So glad to hear your recovery is going well.

[@dale4557]

Great to hear your surgery went well and you are doing good.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@jcj68]

Hi John, Nicaragua is beautiful specially Granada, you will love it. My wife and I just visited in April and also spent a week in Little Corn Island, the place is beautiful and calm/relaxing. We were looking to just relax and it was perfect for that, at least try it for a couple of days if you can.

[@40OverFashion]

Sounds great! Thank you!

[@ronm6585]

Thanks John. Speedy recovery.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you Ron!

[@Theo-ul8qm]

Love these videos, John! One question about your car: since it's a placeholder for another car, you probably expect to sell it within a few years. If so, are you worried that the modifications you do to it would hurt its value? Also, if you come to Europe, please let us know if you wanna do a meetup. I'd love to join if you do it!

[@40OverFashion]

Not worried at all. In fact, the PPF installation is more valuable since it's protecting the original paint.

[@andrewdenny5571]

Gday John. Your Aussie fans would love to see you creating content 'down under'. I absolutely loved San Diego when I visited in 2012 and just like SD, and we have a great vibe and spectacular wines going on. I hope that you can make it so one day. Cheers, mate

[@40OverFashion]

Hopefully one day soon!

[@URAGoodGuyCharlieBrown]

John, ask Logan his experience with the clothing he has seen in the gym. What is good, acceptable, trendy, unacceptable, etc? Is the clothing that Richard Simmons wore appropriate? How about over the calf tube socks with stripes? Shorts over sweat pants?

[@ericpatterson5050]

So Glad you are Feeling Better!! Hopefully we will finally meet up?!🤔😊🙌🏿🕺🏽💪🏾💙💚🐲

[@tonydeneri501]

Great video, John. Glad to hear your recovery is going well. My vote for ultimate driving song is "Road King" by Mercurial Percussionists... I especially like the line, "Cruising Fast, Neon nights. wrinkled face, wild nights." Sorry, folks - that's an inside joke. I will await the sharp, incisive ridicule. haha.

[@40OverFashion]

Hahaha! “Ladies Swoon”!

[@RScottBell]

“Road King” 😂

[@bobnewby9129]

Slaughter is my 1991 guilty pleasure. I wasn't big into hair metal (Rush was my favorite band) but I have fond memories of Slaughter's debut album.

[@40OverFashion]

Yes!!

[@dougdavidson3260]

RUSH is my favorite band as well. Smart music.

[@aquicktake]

That satin PPF looks bad ass. Still planning a summer GTG? Haven't heard anything else about it.

[@40OverFashion]

Yeah, everything got put on hold because of the surgery. I’ll have to take a look at the calendar and see what I can do. I would love to do it.

[@joehoffrage]

John, indulge me please regarding a couple of questions I have regarding a new suit I’m seeking; it’s sky blue or ink blue, so not the common dark navy, and I’m wondering if cuffs on suit pants are still the trend? Also, can I wear dark brown shoes or do I have to spend more money on the tan or bourbon colored shoes?

[@40OverFashion]

Cuffs are a personal preference, but I tend to go without cuffs. If it’s the color blue, I’m thinking of, dark brown shoes would totally work.

[@joehoffrage]

Excellent!!!

[@stanislas4990]

Great Q&A. I wish you a quick recovery.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@matthewcormier8744]

From One Good person to another congratulations on the video

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@jackfoland1]

Great Q and A. You're an awsome guy and glad you are healing fine!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@bcwrangler]

I thought you were going to get the surgery done last month, either way, I hope you have a speedy recovery and good time in Cabo. thanks for the update John and the song referral! Google the band Helix.. great Canadian band from the same era.

[@40OverFashion]

Yes! I remember Helix.

[@johntoth6506]

John ….mate come to Australia man so many wineries and golf courses here you could spend a hole year and you will won’t see it Thank you for the content you are creating … lm in the 50s you have been a inspiration to me with the sense of fashion and how one should actually feel and look. Keep up the great work

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you very much!

[@justinmc722]

We all love you John, feel it baby !!

[@jongurn00]

If ever you’re at a loss for a style topic in a video I would watch the hell out of a music discussion! (Love slaughter!). I know you’ve said you were a musician in a previous life, I’m still loosely holding onto that too and it’s my other favorite KZbin topic! Great video and get well soon! Side note: I’m 100% on board with the funky Pinot! Barnyard, mushroom, manure shouldn’t describe something I want to consume but it definitely does!

[@40OverFashion]

Haha! Appreciate that!

[@Barizmo]

My question wasn't answered 😢 Wish you speedy recovery. Thanks for the video

[@40OverFashion]

Sorry, I couldn’t get to every one or the video would’ve been too long. Next time!

[@paulstone6591]

Hey John, I am new to the Temecula area and I am looking for a good tailor in the area. I already had one screw up two of my nice dress shirts.

[@40OverFashion]

Try Murrieta Tailoring off Sky Canyon Dr.

[@frankmartinez4856]

Legend: want to go to Europe 😁two Rockabilly shows in the U.K., two in Spain 😳🥰😬

[@greggmelissawindrim6783]

Great video, as always !!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you! Cheers!

[@WanderlustmanC]

Females (and males), do not exhibit insecure behavior, have self-respect, and have class. For those that don't know, class is not something that you can wear, drive, or purchase. That's what to look for, now let me step down from this soapbox.

[@40OverFashion]

Ha! Well said!

[@fitone8852]

It would be great if you did a wine video.

[@40OverFashion]

Thanks! I’ll make one!

[@Pault3788]

I'm glad i avoided relationships, nice car by the way!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@andreleverettejr3747]

"Never let anything in life grab you by the balls" -not John's hernia

[@40OverFashion]

Haha!

[@jonwilkinson7695]

The Corvette is a better performance car than the R8. Looks are subjective. The Corvette will be way cheaper to track. You're a good-looking guy you don't need a flex car

[@BrianAndreini]

Nice shorts in workout clip, where are they from?

[@40OverFashion]

I just searched for workout shorts on Amazon and they came up.

[@paulbeasley3892]

John your heart ❤❤❤

[@RScottBell]

Called out by Natalia! 😂

[@40OverFashion]

Haha, Yep!!

[@joebagodonutssummertime8267]

Bowel movements 3 times a day.. Damn, Glad your surgery was successful

[@40OverFashion]

Ha, thanks! Magnesium oxide before bed.

[@davidgarcia9308]

Happy you had a successful surgery!👍 @16:19-:21....😂😂😂

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@dr.dealgood2690]

I just thought of an idea for what could be a fun topic for a video. Do a top ten things that women wear that is an instant turn off. We could have some fun with that and make contributions.... Here's mine. Spandex. Skin tight fitting clothes on women emphasizing their most unflattering features makes me run for the hills. Crazy colored hair. Instant rejection. Strong, overpowering perfumes. I'm allergic to most perfumes. I'll immediately go into a coughing and sneezing fit. There are more but you get the idea. We could have some fun with this.

[@40OverFashion]

Interesting….

[@TechnoLawyer]

I’m 45, have three kids. I’ll provide simple yet unhelpful advice on whether you should have kids 😆 You can’t know whether it’s for you until you actually have kids. It’s like a closed door that you have no idea what’s behind, and you’ll only know what’s behind the door if you open it. But once you open it, it’s open. I was always the type who thought I’d never want kids. Yeah turns out, once I opened that door, I’m actually totally the dad type. Pretty unhelpful I know. But at least it’s some perspective. I have all girls. My oldest is 13, for perspective.

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate you! Thanks for sharing!

[@childfreesingleandatheist8899]

I really disagree. Being straight and almost 54, I knew I never wanted to get married or have children since I was very young. I just felt it and knew it. I wanted to live alone. Marriage or having children is just not for everyone. Having a girlfriend is okay. The problem is that people buy into it, because it's a cultural thing and their friends or many people get into it. And yes, if I had a child, I would love him/her. To this day, I have zero regrets, I live alone and I would do it all over again.

[@TechnoLawyer]

@@childfreesingleandatheist8899 hey, not a damn thing wrong with knowing the life you want and sticking with it. More people should do the same (and be so lucky as to actually know what they want).

[@Apollo_Blaze]

@@childfreesingleandatheist8899 Good for you that you followed what you felt and knew was right for You. Too many people in this world never even ask themselves if they even really a person who would be good for marriage or would even be good parents or if they even want to be a parent. They just follow "The Program". I am like you.

[@SuperSebastian213]

looking fit bro

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate it! Trying.

[@DougHardy541]

John, sorry to break the news, but that first date didn’t roll into a second one, because it was too long … you ended up revealing too much too quickly and the sense of mystery was lost. Don’t ask how I know this.

[@40OverFashion]

I really don’t think that’s it, but thanks.

[@noName-kn1lx]

If you have kids you can’t imagine not having them. If you knew the cost the effort the sacrifices etc. no one in their right mind would have kids.

[@shawndennstedt5898]

Fuck yeah!!

[@40OverFashion]

We’ll see!

[@D2222]

I don’t have kids either, never wanted. I have a friend who works in nursing homes and guess what? Most people do not have family that visit or visit often. They are older, have their own kids, work, life, moved away. Etc. the people I know with kids, the world we live in today they have issues with the kids or issues with their kids lives, issues with schools and just the way things are, I will pass. Unfortunately “most” women over 35+ are damaged goods 🤷‍♂️

[@taib]

30mins just for a blah Q&A video is asking too much of your viewers time. 🏃💨

[@40OverFashion]

Sorry you feel that way.

[@mikesmith6543]

I disagree. It was interesting. 30 mins is A-ok.

[@niacal4nia]

Tattoos are like wearing the same clothing or driving the same car for the rest of your life.

[@40OverFashion]

… And unprovoked rude comments are always rude. Hope your comment made you feel better about yourself.

[@angellondian7628]

Too much info. lol thanks