Survivor Reacts To Groomer's Confession Video... | Kat Blaque

[@KatBlaque]

This is a video where I speak about how I was groomed by a man, in depth. It's also a video where I'm listening to a man, speaking to other men about how they can groom and abuse young girls. Can women be predators? Yes. Can they groom/abuse and assault men/boys? Absolutely. Was that my experience? No. Is that the experience being discussed in this video? No. If you NEED to hear me give a "not all men" disclaimer, you can find it at 58:08. Just so you know, I will always see someone who listens to me discuss my own trauma to derail it with a comment that amounts to "can you please flatter MY ego in this discussion" as a person who would get along much better with the men that have harmed me than they would me.

[@taureanmundell6578]

In your video you keep talking about your experience with men and I don't understand if you thought at any moment how you could have done anything different to not get in your situation it seems like some women like to just blame men but it takes to to get in most of the situations women get them self into or is it just easier to blame men or anything thing else for your DECISION and again YOUR decision than play victim

[@Tabbiimarie]

@@taureanmundell6578 did. Did you read at all. Do you understand the words that were written? Take that victim blaming garbage out of here. Be better.

[@lee5439]

@@taureanmundell6578 It was her decision but it was for the adult to say NO. She was at least 10 years younger then the men probably, and men shouldn't be looking at an underage girl like that. If they do, that's on them not her. underage people are not mature enough, your brain doesn't fully develop until your 25. She isn't playing victim she was the victim she just didn't realize in the moment. And just because she sought them out doesn't put her at blame, its still the men. They should've said no because she's too young. That's why its illegal to have sex with someone over 18 when your not 18. 15 year olds have sex with other 14,15 or 16 year olds because they should have the same maturity. Stop victim blaming

[@alicemeliksetian7981]

Am so sorry for what’s happened to u honey.

[@Lemoncakelover678]

Im so sorry about what you and the girl that he r*ped went through, i hope both of you are doing well away from them

[@rananapier8424]

This man literally said: “I personally don’t think R Kelly is a predator because he did what I did and I don’t see myself as a predator.”

[@raraavis7782]

That's it, in a nutshell. It always amazes me, when rather intelligent and eloquent people like that guy, at the same time have a complete lack of self reflection. I'm sure he makes total sense - to himself.

[@suigeneris2663]

No way! He’s just being PRO traaayed as a predator, y’all!

[@BlueYellowGreenVc]

@@raraavis7782 intelligent and eloquent? That guy? Intelligent?

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

@@raraavis7782 Then why isn't he in jail?

[@squirrelsinmykoolaid]

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 because many sex offenders dont spend very long sentences or get caught. Most victims of sexual violence dont report what happened either. The justice system doesn't do much for them but traumatize them and question the legitimacy of their story

[@rilesfomiles8662]

This is a really long winded way to say “I’m a pedophile and I do not respect women”

[@SapphicKnits]

THIS!! Literally such a disgusting human being. Imagine lacking self awareness and human decency enough to say even half of this shit. Such a triggering monologue to listen to.

[@rilesfomiles8662]

@@SapphicKnits it’s so outrageous it almost feels like satire

[@alexgrey7972]

And he’s “not ashamed” which is the most disgusting part to me

[@gctechs]

Pedos can go to hell, but nobody should be obliged to respect women in the supposedly equal society. Since you never ever head that the other way around.

[@Broeckchen]

@@gctechs it ain't that deep. When we say "women deserve respect/should be respected" there is a quiet "too" at the end. We already operate from the standpoint that non-women should also be respected, we just don't see reasons to mention that in situations like this when women are excluded from the already existing respect. OP never implied the need or want for any privileges with their statement, I think you just read a bit too much into that tbh.

[@hacktplanet450]

Every time he says “appetite” I feel a bit of my soul die. He’s talking to her like he’s hunting prey, which is exactly how he views young girls. As prey.

[@ShinningCrys]

As a female minor myself, it terrifies and disgusts me to be potentially described as "appetite satiating"

[@Romanticoutlaw]

glad someone pointed that out, my skin crawled every time he said that. Nasty

[@jackr2500]

He could have used another word like “preference” or something. But the fact that he chose to say it in the way he did says a lot about him as a person

[@PumaArg]

It's so disgusting. That is not sex, that is not pleasure, that is VIOLENCE

[@ArtisanAsteroid]

Literally the definition of predator but that word hurts his feelings so he’s going to say it in other terms.

[@ericafox5098]

"You're mature for your age" can only mean two things: "You've had a really hard life and it will be easier for me to take advantage of you." "You're a child, and I recognize this, but I want to lie to myself to make it easier to justify taking advantage of you." Usually they mean both.

[@christianlima987]

Or it could mean you had a hard life and see things more adult for your age. Like lying about being overage. And I’m not a complete monster so i need to feel ok with my actions. Both did bad and are at fault.

[@PopBunny8899]

@@christianlima987 nah

[@fiery_scream]

@@christianlima987 What part of "underage child purposely taken advantage of by an adult" do you not understand? As someone who was groomed, I can't tell you enough how damaging your "both did bad and are at fault" bs is. People who are abused already tell themselves that. It's your job to acknowledge they were a victim, not fuel their survivor bias.

[@mostlyghostly5148]

i was groomed my coach. he was 21, i was 17. when we first became friends, he always said "youre not like the rest of the kids on team. youre mature for your age. i dont see you as a student. i see you as my peer."

[@christianlima987]

@@fiery_scream this is the problem the victim in the video lied about being 21 to her abuser. And had him in a position of reject my craziness and go to jail. You can only see her as the victim because cuz shes a girl you put yourself into her brain. And also see him as your abuser cuz hes a creepy man.

[@phrenicForensic]

"I'm not a predator, I just choose vulnerable people on purpose so that no one can challenge my behavior." Sir. Are you hearing the words coming out of your mouth.

[@_goopho]

seriously. *seriously*. unbelievable.

[@lesliesmart4595]

Glory 🙌🏾

[@IOU88]

I know, right!! Like, hello!!

[@jeb284]

The fucking disconnection within his mind . I hope one day these types of men are punished and shun and he is a predator.

[@kimmykool-aid7782]

They was a website where they would exchange tips talk about it etc the guy who made the website was arrested after kidnapping a 10 year old a few months ago. Only reason he wasn’t arrested before was because his mom worked in government. He ha a huge following and it gets super weird.

[@freezedriedzombi8242]

Notice how he says “this kind of appetite can ruin a mans life”. He only cares about how it will affect HIM, not the victim. They all do this

[@ericabelcher8760]

And he was basically saying it like he's the one who's the victim! Smdh

[@kitty-7896]

@@ericabelcher8760 Mhm

[@mysticalbtch]

Fucking seriously it's disgusting.

[@user-wb3wt8dw6r]

EMBRACE SATAN!

[@toomessy]

Also, referring to women, especially underage girls as "appetite" is extremely nasty and uncomfortable. Grooming and r*ping someone is not an "appetite" wtf. He's talking about this as if we're a piece of clothing, and not actually human beings.

[@42Wolfie42]

"How is she a victim if she 'wanted it'?" Same way a child is a victim if they touch a hot stove even if they want to. Same way its the parents fault for letting their child touch the hot stove. Any adults in the situation are the negligent ones responsible

[@sunflowersgacha4081]

Perfect way to explain that ! Even if a kid wanted it it’s not what they want like ? Stfu

[@sunflowersgacha4081]

I’m not saying stfu to you lmao-)

[@soursnoball1497]

I had a hard time explaining this in a way others could understand, you explained it perfectly, so, thank you, I'll be using this

[@sarahbarabe8470]

Right like someone so young doesn't understand what the hell they want. They might act in a certain way but that does not mean they are mentally developed enough to have a full big picture of their feelings and of the situation to actually understand. It is always the adults responsibility to say no

[@inmypjs1426]

Agreed, but sometimes/most of the time It’s not the parents fault

[@Bbymarise]

'I'm not a predator, I just strategically go after young girls who have no support system and have no experience therefore have no boundaries and would let me do whatever I want to them even if it hurts.' Wow. I also think a part of this is the way rape is generally discussed. A lot of people only see rape as 'strange man breaks into virgin's house or snatches her off the streets and violates her', especially people who are rapists themselves. So it's shocking and insulting to them to be placed in the same category as people like that, because what they're doing isn't that bad (to them). I'm from a very conservative country (Nigeria) and I've seen and heard a lot of guys say this exact thing, especially when the topic is consent. Most men in this country refuse to believe there's such a thing as marital rape for this exact reason

[@flowers.n.felonies]

The way that he kept extremely explicitly and sexually described her body AFTER the fact he acknowledged she was a minor is absolutely insane, he acknowledged what he was doing was wrong and kept doing it. This man is a danger to women.

[@keyboardcockatoo4567]

women and children* :’) it’s vile

[@iamnotreal0717]

@@keyboardcockatoo4567 I think he’s a danger to everyone

[@keyboardcockatoo4567]

@@iamnotreal0717 honesty yeah

[@yuiopajeipotatoes85]

I feel so gross when he was literally describing the girl's body; she was a child! ICKY!

[@KDCade]

Yeaaaaahhh really creeped me tf out

[@rissiuniverse2072]

i’m in a psychology class and i love psychology, let me just say this: his body language is not of shame. it is of openness. he doesn’t care that he hurt this girl.

[@rissiuniverse2072]

to elaborate i mean he is expressing arrogance, confidence, etc.

[@beelieboo]

it really does feel like he likes talking about this

[@johnd9519]

He feels calm like he did nothing wrong.

[@itsyaboi_skinnypen15_]

PERIODT !! Thank you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 he gave zero fucks about her

[@UnderscoreKikimo]

I'm hoping to study psychology and fully agree, it's really obvious and disgusting, the way he's talking about it makes me feel nauseous....

[@goosemcgoose5196]

Ignoring literally everything else about this man- the fact he refers to liking a certain type of woman as "appetite" is enough to paint him as a predator. If you're looking to "consume" women, whether underage or not, I'm going to assume you want power over women rather than physical intimacy. And that's just shady as fuck.

[@canela.v2836]

It's disgusting, clearly no mutual respect

[@RosenrotRtLiebchen87]

@@cedar4539 well, consensual power play between adults, that's entirely different than abusive power dynamics

[@pixlbunni]

@@RosenrotRtLiebchen87 Exactly. What he has isn't a kink that he wants to consentually share with someone. What he has is a fetish, and it's gross. This man HAS to take advantage of someone in order to feel satisfied, and it's extremely predatory.

[@miss_chelles1338]

Exactly.

[@miss_chelles1338]

@@cedar4539 ikr?!

[@3ngelhardt]

damn im a male but when i was 15 for like two years i was like passed around this group of 18 yr old girls and idk they like made me feel like i was a player so this video just blew my fucking mind. and when you said the thing about no boundaries... it really clicked. thanks for this videe, youve really made me feel like someone understands or at least relates in some way.

[@abcdmefgh2843]

I'm so sorry it happened to you! I hope you can talk about this with a therapist and heal

[@lilscenechick1995]

I'm sorry that happened to you. They took advantage of you and that's not okay

[@mxdbnowhdf8dsu9f8uf7]

you are not a player you were a victim. Im glad you were able to find something that made it all make sense.

[@MayflowerLac]

women sexually abuse men often. There is a huge double standard and mens bodies are very much objectified. A good example of this is are in toxic relationships as women can’t comprehend how a man would not ever want to have sex “if he is attracted to me” or “I am generally attractive”. The double standard is very real. That is not okay that happened to you- I am sorry.

[@3ngelhardt]

@@mxdbnowhdf8dsu9f8uf7 thank you this is still so new to me i never even interpreted my situation as something that wasnt ok. but looking back on it, i just get uncomfortable. thanks for the kind messages.

[@suncraftherbfarm6693]

I'll never forget the first man who said "no". I'll always remember him as the man who gave me back my self respect.

[@softpixels8145]

Yep, as a victim of abuse and assault for several years my instinct is still that I have to sexually please every man in my life and I have a best friend who time and time turns me down and I appreciate him for never ever taking advantage of my vulnerability when he so easily could.

[@bloomph]

@@softpixels8145 keep that friend forever. he seems like such an amazing guy

[@axusuvitieoliveira]

@@softpixels8145 im really sorry this i a very ignorant question on my part. And a sensitive one on your part. But first man that said no. Does it mean like chose to not be one of the bad men. Or like turned one of your advance down. And you were like 'oh right this was an option' Again i appologize im not trying to be dumb, i just... Well am

[@fatfirebender]

I was already 19 by the time someone way too old for me, told me no. I wish it had been 5+ years sooner.

[@fatfirebender]

I was 22 almost 23 by the time I realized it was self harm/retraumatization. I even still refer to it as "assault" or "perhaps not consensual" rather than straight up assault

[@carolinea3899]

His argument is literally that you’re not a predator unless you get caught??? What??? Sir, if someone kills someone else and gets away with it they’re still a murderer, it’s still wrong! His thought process is alarming, illogical, and disgusting.

[@jenniferlincoln1323]

I'm a trauma therapist, and see the survivors of monsters like this every day. I am sitting here with steam coming out of my ears. They cause horrific damage that can last a lifetime. "Mommy, it hurts!?!?" YEAH, YOU'RE R---ING HER!!! Somebody get a broom and a dust pan, I'm about to combust, Need someone to sweep up the ashes in 3...2...1...

[@SisterKnight]

Yes, every sentence he spoke made me sick to my stomach.

[@yms4355]

YES!!!! But get the ashpan after I maul him to bone dust.

[@Nova_Devi]

@@yms4355 this is what I'm saying

[@Janeway1269]

I have to hope the story is completely fake like Kat is guessing, so that this didn't actually happen to some poor kid. It probably is BS, but then again there are some really screwed up people out there, so anything is possible, however improbable. If it IS real he needs to go to jail NOW.

[@shutupjetta]

I'm probably gonna need to see a trauma therapist since things related to abuse and r--e have occurred in my short life.

[@UrMumsFavoriteBoyToy]

This video honestly helped me accept that I was groomed and it isn’t normal for a 12 year old to be with a 45 year old.

[@SpecialBlanket]

It's not normal. Every adult man knows the extreme stigma that would induce. The fact that he was willing to be with you anyone already flags him as highly risk tolerant which is a correlate of a lot of bad stuff.

[@tatiana4050]

I look in retrospect at when i was 15 and my bf was 18. And how manipulative that was, and that i at 18 would never do the same.

[@joshme5177]

I feel ya, I'm 43 and adults started sleeping with me when I was 12 as well. It's weird looking back because at the time it seemed normal.

[@NoName12344o]

It's crazy to me, how some adults want young people. I'm 26 and people who are 20 look too young for me, mentally and physically.

[@pru8097]

I'm so sorry that never should've happened to you, please report that monster ❤

[@duckymdear]

The way he’s able to confess to this horrible shit while SEXUALIZING HIS DESCRIPTIONS OF ASSUALT is legitimately one of the most disgusting things I’ve heard in a long time. I feel like my skin is sloughing off my body

[@trinalenay3525]

he should be in prison. he’s admitting to a crime.

[@oaklandmade007]

I'm nauseous and I'm only half way in.....I can't believe this shit 💯

[@petyreyvind9963]

I know. It's honestly unbelievable and it makes me feel sick 🤢

[@colemarie9262]

"I feel like my skin is sloughing off my body" is the best description I've ever heard of the intense cringing disgust I feel at stuff like this.

[@crystaltbeautylove4820]

I’m trying to finish this to give her her coins but 10 minutes in and I’m already nauseous hearing speak about young women like that. So imma just leave a comment instead.🤢🤢🤢

[@Samlovescornbread]

When he starts ranting about avoiding girls who are “half way close to their parents”, that’s terrifying. That proves he is aware that what he’s doing is WRONG. If you have to HIDE from a child’s parents then maybe you shouldn’t be having sx with them. 🙃🙃🙃

[@addictiveillusions5667]

❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗❗

[@addictiveillusions5667]

It should be legal to castrate these sick mfs

[@sandrila9371]

@@addictiveillusions5667 forreal! Lock them behind bars and never come out! They are a danger to society and children & teenagers overall

[@TrueAce2146]

@@addictiveillusions5667 fr and why he is calling it appetite like he eating then eww!

[@angelhellokitti]

That’s exactly what groomers/predators do to sexually abuse their victims they will go after children that don’t have good parents in general because they know their parents don’t give a fuck about them but then. the abuser will do that while simultaneously bashing your parents for not caring to get you away from them.. it’s gaslighting it’s manipulation.

[@Jeanniez5]

Wow Kat! You just spoke to my 13 year old self and made me realize something that gave me peace after nearly 40 years. Thank you!

[@SuzanneDeniseB]

I feel the same. Ive never told anyone about the abuse i suffered. Although Kat telling her story has allowed me to work through some of my trauma . Sending healing energy your way ✨

[@angelidez13]

When she said 'from the outside looking in, you might have thought I wanted it'... that made me tear up. It's so sad that something that happened so long ago, something that was a blip in the 80+ years you're alive for, can literally ruin you, and your mindset, for your entire life. That man being turned on cost you SO much...

[@clsisman]

I feel exactly the same way. She said exactly how it feels. Hello my sisters, I hope you are doing better now ❤️🌱

[@0bserver44]

Me too.

[@peeeen8475]

I’m not a victim, but hearing him talk about it was difficult even for me. The way he described the women was absolutely disgusting.

[@SacrificingNothing]

“She doesn’t have a lot of miles on her.” He talks about women like a used Honda he’s buying for his kid’s 16th birthday 🤮

[@forgetfulstranger]

Yeah, the way he speaks about women is so disgusting, idk how he thinks that's okay

[@syren4731]

I haven't watched the video. This a very triggering topic for me and I am hesitant to go all in even though I'm aware of the basic gist of it. But when you quoted him using the word "mileage" it reminded me of something Dave Chappelle talked about in The Bird Revelation. Dave was using a book called Pimp by Iceberg Slim as a metaphor for why he left Hollywood. It's a book about how men break women so that they will give him to money that they made with their own bodies. "Mileage" is in reference to the phrase "mileage on a hoe", it means their is a finite amount of horrific things that a woman can endure before she loses her mind.

[@apdurn]

IT IS THE ADULTS RESPONSIBILITY TO SAY NO. Again for the people in the BACK. Also the adults responsibility to MAKE SURE THE PERSON YOU’RE HAVING SEX WITH IS OF AGE/ IN A FULLY CONSENSUAL STATE.

[@apdurn]

I’m so angry I feel like Im on fire. You know this dude ditched her when she was too old for him.

[@NynNahh]

I always say, you SHOULD check someone's ID before anything else. Like, I don't freaking know, make a joke about your ID picture being awful and ask the other person to see their ID too. It's not that hard. If they do look of legal age, they are not and they are faking an ID, then it's another issue. But you should be able to verify that with other simple information, like "what do you do in your life?". An adult will likely say they work or study, and if they say they study it's quite easy to notice if they are talking about high-school or college. Saying 'ohh she lied her age to meee, boo-hoo' is SUCH a poor excuse.

[@Iron678Maiden]

This is a sad world this should be the bare minimum but it’s not met

[@Vicky_Hyenas]

Agree

[@Vicky_Hyenas]

@@NynNahh I agree. You never know if they look old or they seem more mature and are lying.

[@krabiat]

There's no way he thought she was 21. Even if a 17 year-old looks older, it becomes immediately apparent that they are 17 once you have a conversation. Someone who's 21 doesn't sound at ALL like a 17 year-old, both in cadence, vocabulary, and what they choose to talk about.

[@q0dis]

Literally. I am 23 but time ago I notices a guy was replying to my stories and he seemed cute and did not looked under age but something in the way he texted told me he was probably, so I asked his age before reciprocating but found out he was 17 so I just delete it him from my fb lol. Man who say they did not notice either lie to themselves or there is 1% chance they genuinely don't know. Still, when you are meeting someone as a relationship/dating 99% of times you ask for their age because that is what you do when you first meet someone, unless he avoided questioning bc he knew and wanted to use the ''better say sorry than ask for permission'' thing

[@kimmykool-aid7782]

Mhmmm, the way one speaks is so obvious how old that person is

[@virginiaarthur5]

When you’ve been abused and lived a rough life Not always I even had a fake ID that showed 18 when I was 16 when they asked to see my ID it was nice. I used to sleep with way older guys then hit them with I’m underage and make them stay in relationships with me

[@diamondstar583]

A lot of times people mistake me for looking like I'm 13 but I'm only 17. One time a lady honestly thought I was 12 even though at that time I was 16. That honestly kinda scares me now.

[@ItsMe-qd4gy]

@@diamondstar583 I woman thought I was 11 when I was 18

[@megalodon_meg]

I legitimately puked a little in my mouth the second he started degrading this CHILD talking about her body. You're a strong woman and I'm so thankful for survivors like you being able to speak for all of us.

[@sindraxo9249]

You CANNOT say "you are so mature for your age" without implying you see and acknowledge this person as a child, but you're gonna treat them like an adult anyways. It's admitting they feel what they're doing is wrong but they will do it anyways. The way this guy describes his situation would frankly be disgusting even if she was an adult. I was genuinely shocked someone could speak so publicly like this and think that was something to be proud of.

[@shy2infinity]

whenever a groomer says something like that I'm just-- "Well guess what. Biologically, legally, emotionally; IN EVERY WHICH WAY, they're still a child." God, I can't even imagine myself (a person in my mid twenties) being friends with teens;;;;

[@christianlima987]

and you dont tell men your age if you gonna stop participating in something you shouldnt

[@BinaBecker]

@@christianlima987 And you don't get to tell women how to act lest they be blamed for what a man did to them, capisce?

[@christianlima987]

@@BinaBecker cool you cant tell men how to act and we cant tell women how to act. lets keep that same energy. 👍🏽

[@sandrila9371]

@@christianlima987 Found the predator apologist!

[@sarahperkins6421]

"Everything you do to her is fun. It's all brand new." No, Glen. That's how you describe an object, not a person. It's also very telling how one-sided the sex was when he phrases it as doing it _to_ her instead of _with_ her.

[@suzanneh708]

'she did everything I wanted' bragging, not confessing

[@dierdriu]

"She doesn't have a lot of miles on her" as if he's speaking of a sports car and not a little girl.

[@sophon238]

There is some truth to his statements. Women with lots of mileage are harder to please

[@dierdriu]

@@sophon238 Women don't have mileage. They aren't cars. But thank you for broadcasting your backwards views.

[@dierdriu]

@@sophon238 Also "women" is quite a stretch. These men are talking about children.

[@stagnificence]

Your disgusted faces and searing commentary are the only things that make listening to this guy remotely bearable.

[@warricklow3155]

Oh no its gonna be a hard one to watch. I assumed when clicking on the video that it was going to be him apologizing not justifying his actions..

[@lindsay6518]

SIR. SIR!!! sir.

[@melanatedcutie748]

🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@liszst]

Same, the dude gave such bad vibes especially when he started talking in detail about his sexual encounter with the teenager ;-; ugh it was so gross

[@jaelmao2214]

@@liszst the way he talked about her disgusted me. rlly shows how he thinks about women

[@theangryhealer6885]

Girl I surprisingly made it through 22 entire minutes of this before I had to clock out. The way he brags about his desire for this BABY because of the fact that she’s a BABY had me grinding my teeth. This is gross. Thank you for sharing your story and how pervasive sexual violence can be. I appreciate you so, so much.

[@nazaninsoltanpour6254]

Your pfp looks really pretty:)

[@theangryhealer6885]

@@nazaninsoltanpour6254 awww! Thank you so much! 🥰

[@nazaninsoltanpour6254]

@@theangryhealer6885 welcomes♡ !

[@christianlima987]

A 17 year old that lied about her age. And admitted it if confidence isn’t a baby. She is lost tho.

[@chimichanga2698]

@@christianlima987 And he kept messing with her. He is always going to be in the wrong.

[@crystalm0mmie]

him: "I'm not a predator" also him: referring to clearly underage and easily-malleable victim targets ("preference" in his eyes) as APPETITE is this guy serious????

[@bbth667]

RIGHT! this man genuinely needs help

[@CatEyeGem]

Very serious

[@toomessy]

Not only THAT, but also describing the underage girl's body in extreme (and nasty) details while KNOWING at the time that she was underage. Which just tells you that he never truly cared about her being a minor at all.

[@redrinn105]

I think he's lying, What guy says "I have safety parameters" and then proceeded to tell the whole world that he fucked kids. Nah

[@gorillaball_mama]

And the fact that he compared himself to R Kelly like it was a good thing

[@AceOfSevens]

He gives multiple explanations to why he didn't get in trouble: He avoided underage girls, he screened them for relationships with parents, he's not rich enough to attract attention & he avoided involving 3rd parties. If they weren't underage, what are all these other steps for?

[@alexlesbean8739]

I thought he liked underage girls

[@kinleymarie7x]

He tried to make himself sound smarter than other predators while making a video basically admitting to multiple crimes. Like wtf.... dumbass smh 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@TiffyVella1]

Good point. All the extra steps were to avoid him being caught for having sex with children. If he actually did the first step, all other steps would be unnecessary and there would be no need to mention them.

[@ArtisanAsteroid]

@@alexlesbean8739 He does. That’s his “appetite” as he says repeatedly.

[@TT-xz5sy]

The age of consent in the states he did it in, he technically didn’t have sex with an underage girl. I forget what state it is but the raise the age of consent from 14 to 16. It was one of the Carolina’s lol

[@Janeway1269]

My mother was groomed by a man she called her "Uncle." He wasn't related to us. He cheated on his wife with her when she was 20 + years younger than his wife. One day when I was 12, we visited and the same guy licked my teeth as he gave me a kiss, in front of my mom and the guy's wife, who were all laughing, thinking it was funny. They were so brainwashed by this guy, but I knew then this was wrong. And as much as I loved my mom, I resented her for being so gullible as to leave me in that position. Thankfully nothing else happened. The guy died of a heart attack. Thank you for keeping the conversations going around this subject Kat and exposing these scumbags. They deserve so much worse.

[@ivet6032]

I hope you are ok so sorry you had to experience that 🫂🫂hugs!

[@TeaTheBee]

Jesus, I'm so sorry you had to experience that! I hope you're doing okay now...

[@drealuvxx2414]

@virtu deserved.

[@AHippieFrom1969]

I would have thrown up in my mouth if I were in that position. Yikes! I’m sorry you went through that. Thankfully he can’t hurt anyone else anymore.

[@jofawkes]

That's fucked up, I'm sorry. But he dead 🦀

[@facroeyreset]

My father watches this man, and I'm deeply upset about it Prompts to you Kat for sitting through this

[@masseiy]

Big YIKES so is your father a predator too?

[@ollieno971]

Oh my god what the fuck???? Does he know about this video he made?

[@veronikapoliakova7603]

Wait...HE STILL HAS A PLATFORM?

[@fluffycloud3529]

Man, sorry about your dad. Nice Dan vs. profile picture though! I'm still hoping we can bring the show back, it's awesome!

[@sp3357]

Unfortunately he does I just watched one of his video and it’s one video that I watched he talks about screwing a girl it was disgusting and I’m very upset now I see why he’s not married

[@seroquelz]

The way he talks about sex 🤢, the way he talks about young girls and women 🤮. Like no, absolutely not. The amount of bragging he did is almost unbelievable. The audacity to sit there grinning about being an entire predator.

[@brielletaylor_]

I KNOW like the way he talks about women at 6:08 and 27:45 im not sure if i should feel sick the way people describe women like "oh she had a nice rack, delicious tight pussy" but i do maybe that's a normal thing and i should just accept that girls are described that way but like 😬

[@Vicky_Hyenas]

Yeah he describes it as a great time. I thought you were supposed to be apologizing bro doesn’t he have a script or something lol.

[@SLYKM]

People who talk about sex like this dont have or give good sex and they don't care to. This is the kind of sex people should shame.

[@Gxylord]

@@brielletaylor_ no you should feel sick, it's disgusting objectification, turning the girl into a sexual object with his description I felt sickened listening to him describing the girl, who he now knew was 17, like that...

[@seroquelz]

@@brielletaylor_ it is not normal, it's incredibly objectifying and dehumanizing.

[@neptunemilk]

The story may be fake, but it genuinely horrifies me that this man could have ACTUALLY taken part in the long term sexual abuse of the two daughters of a woman- a woman who was ALSO abusing and conditioning her two daughters for her own sexual pleasure. And if this story is actually true, that abuse and sexual grooming happened since those daughters were extremely young and honestly, they probably weren't virgins. I personally know people who have sold their children into sex, it's real and it's horrifying and could happen to anyone.

[@drasco61084]

Even if it is it's just disgusting the way he talks about it, clearly at the very least he fantasizes about young girls and he openly admits to it.

[@sierrasierra2595]

even if its fake the story itself being told as if it's real and an okay thing for a man to do is absolutely disgusting! It is not okay, it's evil

[@Carlie_flower]

I hate when people use the term virgin when speaking about children who can't consent. Can I just say y'all if anyone out there was/is in a situation where there was SA and you were a victim... You're still a virgin. You're still pure. You are not less than or unclean or less pure because someone else did something to you... Virginity is not a physical condition imo it's a social concept and I personally believe you are no longer a virgin when you decide to have safe, consensual sex with a partner of the appropriate age... a young girl having "sex" with a much older man who manipulated her into doing so... That's not ok. I had a friend who was assaulted and just heart broken because she "wasn't a virgin anymore" So messed up. I wish society would stop acting like virginity matters in cases of sexual abuse...

[@austincde]

I think it's fake too but then I remember the man who brought his 4 year old son to the"Catch a predator"house in order to make sure he wouldn't "become gay".

[@drasco61084]

@@Carlie_flower it doesn't matter period, it's fake we're taught to see ourselves and others value based on arbitrary BS that is all connected to that physical harm. All these notions of "purity" are harmful and that shouldn't be the lesson that you're still pure, as opposed to some other tainted person.

[@zehel368]

This "appetite" is so fucking disgusting. It is rape. It is assault. It is trauma that takes years of heartache to heal from. And he does not care. It sickens me on such a deep, raw level of my humanity. I am so sorry to any person that had to experience this. I hope any person that has a broken inner child can heal one day. It will be okay. 💚

[@Broeckchen]

Even the framing as "appetite" is so gross. It makes it sound like those young women are something he wants to literally consume. There's a reason why usually people use words like urge, drive or impulse for stuff like this, as opposed to such a food metaphor. And also, it's not "hunger". It's "appetite". Not a need, just a want. A want others have to suffer for him to fulfill. Makes me feel so sick.

[@octoberzephyr9263]

so, i went to college with a guy who had a similar 'appetite'. that guy was half eaten by a shark in Australia and died in the most violent, painful way. he was conscious through the majority of his flesh being ripped from him. that keeps me warm at night and i just smile when i think of it. i can only hope the same for this guy.

[@auberry9900]

@@octoberzephyr9263 Wow, may the rest like him see the same

[@AndromedaChace]

@@octoberzephyr9263 thanks for sharing this. It is a comfort, however fleeting.

[@fangsabre]

@@octoberzephyr9263 fate, it seems, is not without a sense of irony. Rather sharp one too

[@melmanhattan]

I paused to write this right after he blames the parents for not being involved enough. There are plenty of girls out there (self included) who were loved extremely well and had protective parents…. Who still were taken advantage of by an older man. Mine was a middle aged man when I was a teenager. He was my boss…. These men make u feel like saying something is wrong and that it’s meant to be “your little secret “ and that being honest with anyone about it means you’re not as mature as they thought you were. It’s a possession thing to them. I wish I would have said something .

[@KwakyWacky]

This “man” is really hard to watch. Just seeing how, true or not, he brags about taking advantage of minors, fixating on how alluring these children were, is disturbing. As someone who has the displeasure of sharing a gender with this “man”, I feel revolted that I have to associate with these kinds of predators. Thank you for bringing this person to light to myself and many others, and also for being brave enough to share your own experiences.

[@timescale9326]

Why doesn’t anyone show this to the police!

[@homosexualamphibian359]

Survivor here. I appreciate your empathy and mindfulness on the topic, and relate to what you mean in regards to sharing traits with a group of people you hate despite not being like said people. Whenever I witness things like white supremacy for example, I recoil and wanna barf cause I'm white, despite the fact I don't share their views. At the end of the day, you're above them. I always joke around with friends and say that there are men and there are m*n, the latter being people like this foul predator. I'm kinda off track rn but what I'm trynna say is that you don't have to associate yourself with predators cause of one trait you have in common. You seem like a decent, self aware person that cares about others, and that makes you a man, not a m*n. People like me are happy that people like you are around. Thank you for coming to my TED talk and have a lovely day

[@sweetch3rrycola]

Whats crazy is that he’s claiming to have been “clout chasing” in this video but everything he did was still true kinda fucked up 😐

[@user-wb3wt8dw6r]

EMBRACE SATAN!

[@inacatt]

@@timescale9326 Probably because of Statue of Limitations Laws, which basically means that a r*pist can face no legal or criminal consequences for ab*sing someone if it's been a certain period of time. Because the legal system seems to think that permanent damaging another human being is okay if it happened a while ago. I'm sure the victim is fine even though it can scar them for the rest of their life.

[@bigmomma3265]

It was enough when he first started talking about the 17 year old, but then he started talking about incest??? In no way would any teenager or adult want to have sexual experiences with their mother, without some sort of abuse. This man has no morals. Deplorable.

[@cutietae247]

The thing about girls approaching him. Especially the two teens with the "mom". Im suspecting they were probably being trafficked. New girls are often "trained" by older women to do things. I am not sure if you make the same point ,but that's something that seemed bizarre. Two girls wanting to do things with their own mother ? They must have had many years of grooming and manipulation. And he's contributing

[@KatBlaque]

Yep! That was my thought as well. They were definitely being trafficked. She was presenting a fantasy (if that story is even true).

[@Dave102693]

Probably

[@cutietae247]

@@KatBlaque I'm at 28:21 as we speak . You're too funny, that line he said about the mom sounded like something that would be written by a middle aged erotica author ..with no experience in the genre. Too forced. I also hate how he says *appetite* 😷

[@cutietae247]

@@KatBlaque it's crazy to me how people don't understand that things are called "too good to be true" for a reason. That sounds like a nasty thing to want people to do IRL but he did say it was fake.. I think the first one was real

[@cutietae247]

@@Dave102693 right, like who wants to lose their virginity with their mom and sister. Most people don't want it to be a family affair . But men like this are either too dense or don't care about what's going on... He claimed it was fake but it doesn't add up what he says

[@Sincald]

This guy literally said "HOW DARE YOU be rich & powerful enough to get away with as much pedophilia as I want to do but can't" holy shit. There was nothing subtle about how he feels about doing this, everything came from a place of pride and predation, and "here's how to r--- young women and children without getting caught. None of this _surprises_ me, but it always continues to disgust me.

[@boyroy4u]

I will never forget turning 18, and the world around me changing, but only in the way that it perceived ME changing. My age was no longer a safe guard for me against men in public, something was magical about the age 18 that made me entirely different than the underage child I was not one day earlier. It was terrifying, and being 19, 20, and now 21, I am still baffled by the amount of older (40+) men feel like I am a suitable match for them simply because I'm "technically legal". Like I still feel like a kid, I just started understanding taxes and taking care of my car and paying rent, my life experience is so low and no older guy should find me viable when they go off on their vacation homes and pension plans..

[@Slow11ferrets]

This is exactly how I felt when I turned 18 too. It was such a confusing and sudden change that I didn't feel prepared for; why was I a child yesterday but not today? What changed, really? Was I supposed to have a sexual awakening overnight? Did I just need the right 'teacher'? So of course, I felt like it was my fault that I didn't feel ready, even after experiencing some abuses as a minor. But that's a perfect opportunity for grooming/ abuse to creep in and thrive if the wrong type of person enters into your life. And it can mess up your whole sexual identity. My partner was much older compared to my 20 year old self. Technically legal? Yes. Totally appropriate? Looking back... no. They were obviously trying to mold me and project their fantasies onto me. A lot of men (I say men only because of the content and subject matter of this video, though I know 1. Not all men, and 2. Other genders can/do abuse as well) get wrapped up in the physical technicalities of consent and the law, but I rarely hear much discussion/considration about mental and emotional maturity when it comes to choosing a sexual partner. Just because the law says someone is allowed to it doesn't automatically they are physically, emotionally and mentally ready to begin that part of their life. It's mutually infuriating and comforting to read the comment section. I feel so validated in others' shared experiences, but so angry for all the pain that abusers like this individual have caused for so many

[@cassette_tape]

Seriously. I had a guy trying to get with me who's almost 29 and I'm 21, and I tried to tell him he was too old for me and he was insisting he wasn't. Like...dude, do you realize how much more experience that 9 years has on me? Dude was almost in middle school when I was born. Just because we're both in our 20s doesn't mean we're even in the same generation. I can only imagine if he was in his mid 30s, in his 40's, 50's, etc.. I couldn't even fathom dating someone with so much more life experience than me; so like what the hell is going on on their end to be like, "oh you're 18/19/20/21? Well that's perfect!" 🤮🤮🤮 Even if you're a legal adult it's still mega predatory imo

[@thediaryofnunu]

and they are very clearly predators . thats what hurts seeing that they think they can make me a victim it’s disgusting. and its like im only 4’11 and i have a baby face now i have tattoos but i usually cover them w my jacket so u can never see them so to many ppl i get told i look YOUNGER so to see these nasty ass men come up to me and try to “u so mature “ me its like thats not fucking flattering . i had to take a stand and raise myself thats why im mature. and here u go mr.trifling sir tryna fwm . and its like they deadass do see anything wrong but its made me grow such a deep and firing hate towards men like this like somebody really need to go see abt him

[@alissa3053]

yes thats how i felt exactly, i just turned 18 in august and i immediately thought that i cant use my age as an excuse anymore bc im "legal" now. I also noticed how many men approached me that are 25+ and even when I told them i just turned 18 they dont care about that, its sick.

[@Jeltea]

See this is what makes me nervous to turn 18, I'm actually gonna be turning 18 on the 6th of January and I'm scared shitless. Especially because I've been through stuff like gr00mimg and already have a hard time with much older men around me, hopefully and thankfully tho I'll have my bf with me a lot to help. But being alone in public always worries me as I'm very small (barley 5'1") and honestly not very strong so much bigger and older guys just make me wanna die on the spot

[@serenity6831]

What probably saddens me the most is how often the young girls are painted as the one in the wrong in these situations

[@MEOWMIX3DS]

young boys as well :(

[@serenity6831]

@@MEOWMIX3DS yup

[@annabeinglazy5580]

It's what Always gets me. These adults (and im including women grooming Boys in that, even though this Video focuses on men grooming Girls) are usually well into adulthood and Go on about how somehow they got "tricked" by a 17 year old (im 10 min into the Video). And the takeaway is "this Girl/Boy tricked me" Sorry but if you are in your 30s or 40s and a 17 year old "Tricks" you, then that is Not the 17 year old being an evil Genius. Thats you being an utter moron. And thats me being charitable. Seriously, i dont understand how this blame game works. To me it's obvious that the much more experienced adult should know better and If they dont it reflects Incredibly poorly on them. In any other Situation you would say "you got tricked by a Kid? Wow youre a dumbass". But Not in grooming cases?

[@ChristmasCarolyn]

Victim blaming at its finest

[@villapulla]

He really suggested to other men to go after girls who come from unstable, neglecting homes... Made me sick to my stomach. I mean yeah, it's no secret that that's precisely what happens but hearing an adult confidently say that is something else.

[@lacey892]

That's what got me. I always knew these things are appealing to abusers, but I at least hoped it was an unconscious motivator and not a literal formula for 'how to assault minors and get away with it.'

[@neptunegrl3425]

@@lacey892 it was but by posting all there strategies he's ruining his chances of ever getting sex again. He still had a responsibility to date women that are adults not barely out of high school teenagers. I think the age of consent should actually be 18 everywhere, 21 and out of the home if you want to date older men or women. Even if there skin is smoother or prettier that's no reason to get with them. An older woman his own age could have pretty smooth skin to if she takes care of it. I can't see an 19 year old even wanting to date him now especially if she knows were he's been he made this up maybe the 17 year old was his only chance and he hasn't had a healthy relationship sense those are just his fantasies. At first glance he is not somebody I'd want to take home anyways.

[@good4ubella894]

That disturbing video perfectly shows that these predators/p-words know exactly what they're doing. So thankful for people like Kat for spreading awareness. Hope ya'll stay safe and keep children safe from these disgusting p-words. Praying and sending love to all the victims!

[@j.b.aw.6968]

p-words?

[@TheActualJeffery]

@@j.b.aw.6968 youtube commonly deletes comments using the word ’P€dophile’

[@KatBlaque]

Something I just read somewhere that makes this all more disturbing. This guy is in his 50's but Faceook was only around since like 2007ish. So he was likely much older when he did this stuff

[@niani8359]

I believe he was in his mid 30s

[@DeeCee84]

Yup! He said in an interview that he mixed up the stories and changed his age and the time frames. So he was clearly OLD enough to know WTH he was doing.

[@serenity6831]

Horrible...

[@the_newt_nest]

Thank you so much for bringing this guy to light, def gonna report his channel. I couldn't get more than 25 minutes through this video, what he's saying makes me so sick.

[@Dave102693]

@@the_newt_nest what’s the name of the channel. I want to report it to the FBI.

[@jaclynrawlins2796]

I’m a clinician who works with children and teenagers in Miami, FL. “You are mature for your age” is a phrase that I’ve heard used by manipulators and predators countless times. Scream, shout, announce your wisdom from the rooftops, Kat. Thank you. Kat, you are amazing. He… I have no words for… so I’m going to stop watching for now. But I want to say this. If he knows to do a social media search to find out more information and PROTECT HIMSELF from legal consequences of having sex with a minor, he could have done it BEFORE they had sex. He made the choice to violate the law and is 100% responsible for his actions.

[@uncertain_zee]

Thank you so much for the work you do ❤️

[@jaclynrawlins2796]

@@uncertain_zee Oh, thank you. I have a great job with great people and clients but I appreciate the recognition.

[@nevramind]

". If he knows to do a social media search to find out more information and PROTECT HIMSELF from legal consequences of having sex with a minor, he could have done it BEFORE they had sex" THIS...THISS!!!!!!!! Holy crap, I missed that part.

[@jaclynrawlins2796]

@@nevramind It’s not your responsibility to know his actions and motivations to prevent him from doing them. You’re a person, a human. However, predators depend on other people to not know their actions and motivations until after they have acted and gotten what they desired. It is never wrong of you to require accountability, safety, and protection especially of the vulnerable including minors.

[@min_nad]

whenever someone tells me someone said that to them I just go "RUN AND NEVER COME BACK, BLOCK HIM AND REPORT HIM"

[@magickgeminid2944]

"'I"m not a predator...I just have a appetite for young flesh :D" literally the definition of a predator. Then he goes on to describe how he knows which girls to go for particularly girls who don't have a saftey net? That way, the likelihood of him being caught is lower. Has anyone turned him in because this is evidence and admission of a crime.

[@sowhatphie]

Says he's not a predator Uses terms like "appetite" and "tasty" to describe the children he goes after

[@WackySlaughter]

16:31 This really hit hard for me, as a boy I was assaulted and has a very similar experience. Despite being asexual I started to not even try to say no anymore and forced myself to be sexual because I thought that's all I was good for. While I never once said yes (I wasn't even asked to be fair) I never tried to stop what was happening to me and for years convinced myself that I wanted it. Kids/teens have no fucking clue what they want sexually, and adults (or even just older teens) male or female or whatever should not be taking advantage of that.

[@WackySlaughter]

20:06 If I just waited like 4 more minutes I would've said how I STILL struggle with that same exact thought, that I'm worthless to my partner if I can't give them sexual satisfaction

[@harper._.]

You are not worthless if you can’t give that to your partner, if there was something you wanted from them that would hurt them you probably wouldn’t press it. It has to go both ways. No gender, ethnicity, or trait inherently makes you ‘good’ or ‘bad’ so don’t feel that because you are a boy that you owe anyone anything. At the end of the day you must give yourself care. It took me a years to realize this because it doesn’t happen overnight yet I know you can do this! Healing takes time, I hope you find self love soon!

[@gagmelkonian2387]

I’m a 20yo guy who was privileged enough to never experience sexual abuse and violence myself. I’m still young and exploring my sexuality, as it was obvious from my age. But the way this grown man talks about having sex with minors and unexperienced young women and how he PROUDLY announces how he USED and took ADVANTAGE off of them upsets me. I don’t how how a person can be this monstrous. My heart goes to everybody who experienced this kind of horrific behavior.

[@owentwo982]

I would be careful using "triggers" loosely, as it does refer to a negative response induced because of something that reminds someone of trauma they went through. Though it is very valid to be very upset! And I'm glad for you taking a stance on how gross this guy really is. Just be careful with that word, as being triggered by things is genuinely an awful experience for trauma survivors 💘 fully lighthearted, wish you the best

[@gagmelkonian2387]

@@owentwo982 hey! Thank you for your answer! I really appreciate it. English is not my first language, so I tried to use the word that I know would describe my feelings best. But it isn’t an excuse tho. I will change it immediately!

[@owentwo982]

@@gagmelkonian2387 Thank you so much, no worries :>

[@colemarie9262]

@@gagmelkonian2387 that was kind of you to pay attention to the input, thank you for being a good human being!

[@user-wb3wt8dw6r]

EMBRACE SATAN!

[@slykele547]

“I’m sorry for pausing again” Gorge, I cannot stand this dude’s bullshit for more than a minute. so you pausing is a blessing tbh.

[@maryagreen]

Someone sent me his video because they wanted my opinion. I couldn’t make it past the first couple of minutes. That dude needs help and we need him to leave our children alone.

[@audreyagbodjan5338]

Right after she started going too long between pauses I needed to pause for myself to collect and calm myself

[@AnonPanOn]

I like how his danger zone is "Are her parents involved in her life" and yet thinks this behavior is ok??? WTF is this garbage?????

[@sonnenblume6474]

Exactly. "If her parents don't protect her from me then...I will take their child in every way I can manipulate it to be taken advantage of"

[@xxromanovaxx6682]

And there's gonna be no consequences for this dude. This is why men are so brave with stuff like this.

[@maybemay2507]

As uncomfortable as it is to listen to this, I really appreciate your commentary on it. I was never directly sexually abused, but when I was about 14-15 I was pretty significantly manipulated online by someone I thought was a friend. In reality, I felt obligated to respond to him because he somehow convinced me that if I ignored him or refused him, my name would end up on a s*icide note and that I would somehow be guilty for his death. I struggled for a long time to establish boundaries. We would go back and forth with me blocking him, only to be dragged back after he begged for my forgiveness through other mutuals (who were being manipulated the same way) all while he publicly insulted and bashed me. He would try and try to get me to participate in sexual stuff with him, most of which I played along with (but I thankfully never sent any sexual pictures). He would beg me to draw his online persona character having sexual relations with mine, and while I said I would, I always stalled and thankfully never followed through. Long story short, I eventually blocked him and left all social circles that he was a part of. He briefly stalked and harassed me online before going to jail for separate reasons. Still, it took me about 3-4 years to fully realize what he had done to me and why I felt so trapped and distressed at the time. I'm glad there are people like you talking about this stuff, because I likely would have never understood what he was doing to me until much much later. It is this kind of discourse that finally allowed me to realize that situation for what it was. Hopefully the trauma eventually starts to heal, and the repeated nightmares of him getting out of jail to come find me go away soon. Now that I'm aware at least, I can really start healing. Thank you again

[@Naranylla]

The fact that he's trying to justify it IN A PUBLIC VIDEO means: a. He KNOWS and society KNOWS that this is wrong b. He couldn't give less of a shit about his victims c. He needs other equally disgusting men to relate and validate him and his fragile ego

[@rozinamouz9286]

Yeah, like, when you say you only do stuff you can “get away with” you acknowledge that what you’re doing is wrong but because of circumstances you wont get caught

[@Liloldliz]

@@rozinamouz9286 when he brags about "not getting caught" that pissed me off to high heaven

[@Katie-ul4dg]

All of the above?

[@brendaleelydon-carpenter1554]

You said when you told men you were underage, they didn't care; what's even worse is some of them are EXCITED when we're underage.

[@DDD2323-z5i]

45:13 At this quote I started crying. That just puts everything into perspective of how incredibly messed up and disgusting these people are.

[@princessbonnie44]

Understandable

[@jupitertheplanet.]

"i didnt know you were a minor" "youre mature for your age" "you should have known it was wrong" etc. are just a few things ive heard way too many times. they always use the same arguments

[@SquidneyLuvsYou]

This man really said "gEt oN uR kNeEs" in the LEAST dominating way. In all seriousness, as infuriating as his video is, your commentary really hit home for me. As someone who is still struggling with not putting the blame on myself for my past experiences, some of the things you said really helped me.

[@ellamae8785]

I struggle with blame too I completely agree with this! He is so disgusting

[@TheLalacream]

(For context, my abuser was my mom's boyfriend. Also note that my mom believed me and took immediate action when I told her what was happening) I wasn't even aware of what grooming was for so long, and I still doubted myself when I did. But earlier this year, I was talking to my younger sister about it. And I mentioned how I thought my abuser might have been a good guy personality wise. And what helped me shutdown my doubts was when she responded that both her and our older sister HATED him. It really helped me look at the past from a different perspective, and I can finally see the bastard as the piece of shit he was.

[@sky__591]

As a grown woman I've had teenage boys and girls flirt with me after I told them my age being in my 20s its no excuses as adult, we are fully responsible and capable telling them No. It's so easy to detected children from grown adults from a real mature conversation. I don't care how much makeup or how they dress it's no excuses these pervert men try to come up with

[@user-wb3wt8dw6r]

EMBRACE SATAN!

[@soulgazer11]

I was 17, he was 42. He was just 8 months younger than my own father. My father who I now resent so much for not saving me from this situation. I'm so glad that I could realise in how much danger I was and gtfo of there.

[@nehagali8914]

im so sorry :/

[@cabin_quilt]

dude straight up explains with his full chest that he specifically seeks out young girls who have unstable relationships with their parents because they're less "dangerous" (i.e. he's less likely to get caught abusing her). Disgusting.

[@Jasmine-ph4fs]

The part that’s disturbing as well with what he is talking about is he isn’t even ashamed. He is bragging about it and making it seem like he is doing great things by doing this. He should be locked up and kept away from people who are vulnerable.

[@TiffyVella1]

Imagine being this mans victim, and listening to this, and hearing the part where he calls your relationship with him "his circus". This man has no respect for anyone, and no idea how to give any pleasure to anyone apart from himself.

[@luiysia]

i think sometimes a man will do something so evil it even surprises himself. and so he'll talk about it openly, TOO openly, so that he can feel better about it. and when other men, and even women, don't punish him, or disapprove of him - or just lightly disapprove as if it's a mild issue - it validates him. that's what this video is for

[@krenee984]

This is A WORD!

[@stimmedervernunft4871]

Interesting thought. I saw it from another perspective. He comes across to me as that he is kind of showing it off, that he's proud and wants people to know about his 'conquests' 🤢🤢 that's why he mentions their age so much and is sure to describe how beautiful they were. Like 'look at these beautiful women who are drooling after me'

[@CharlieApples]

Agreed 💯

[@kdennis2461]

On point

[@UkuleleAversion]

@@stimmedervernunft4871 This is the read I got on him. Dude is just bragging.

[@catattack7639]

I actually gasped when he said what he did to that girl. I can't believe that these people justify this so much in their minds. Well, clearly I have to believe it, it's right in front of me, but...It's hard to process. I feel like I'm gonna throw up. People like you speaking out are what lead to me blocking the person who hurt me for years. So thank you.

[@christianlima987]

Humans dont like being the bad guy in there minds. Like justifying cheating on men with i have daddy issues.

[@tfox285]

I was mature for my age, in part because I was damaged by abuse. That damage made me vulnerable as well as mature due to my life experience. If an adult takes advantage of a kid they are predators. Abuse lowers your barriers for what is acceptable. It is like there is a conspiracy of abuse, it just feeds more abuse and boy do predators have excellent radar to spot someone who can be abused.

[@siobhans]

You summed it up so perfectly.

[@KSangel180]

This is so true!

[@JaneDoe-cv5th]

Kids should just be allowed to be kids, they shouldn't have to know about the terrors adults can be. I am sorry you had to go through that.

[@iciajay6891]

As a survivor of generational sa abuse, this is facts. Abusers look for those in vulnerable, unstable situations. My biological father sa me from infancy to age 5. He and all his brothers were sa by there mother from infancy to age 16. He was able to abuse me that long because his brothers were so desensitised to the abuse. And one of them was a cop at the time. Generational child sa has hiding it but in. The only reason it stopped in my family was me telling a babysitter. She and I litterly stopped it. At 36, I'm still trying to bring all the abusers ( standing by and covering it up make you as culpable as the abuse in my cuntry). It took me 35 years to get well enough. That goodness The statues for child sa never run out in my country.

[@iciajay6891]

@@JaneDoe-cv5th child abuse of every form is so common. In my country (Canada) 1 out of 3 girls and 1 out of 5 boys will be sa as children. That is not even counting a the other types of abuse. Child abuse is the hidden epidemic of the world. It is at the root of so much trauma and pain. And it is universal the cuase world wide.

[@trajancaesar2662]

This guy's argument is "sexual violence is ok so long as you don't get caught." Which isn't even an argument by any definition of the word.

[@ooostarb3rryooo]

I became hypersexual after my sexual abuse too. I still am and I've accepted that part of me, but it took me YEARS to get to that point because of sexual trauma. And grown men DEFINITELY can identify traumatized women and will create a facade of safety. The only difference is that they'll isolate you from people who will point it out. They'll play on your vulnerabilities too. So if you're looking for validation they'll give you that. If you're looking for love they'll give you a warped understanding of it because it's all to serve them. Everything they do is to serve them and their desires, and you're the collateral damage. This man needs to be investigated. He's too comfortable with doing this and I GUARANTEE you, he's done this to a lot of young people. People who are related to him better listen to his dog whistles and keep their children close to them. He's a predator and the worse thing about it, is how he's RATIONALIZING it. No guilt at all. It's abusive men like this who damage girls in ways that will trickle into adulthood. And as a person who's 23 and my abuse happened when I was 5, I'm STILL healing from my abuse and it's the hardest thing to heal from spiritually. I'm tired of this shit being normalized, and black women getting swept under the rug about this situation. I'm tired.

[@gmc5618]

You've worded what I'm experiencing perfectly. Huge help, now I know how to phrase it at therapy 💖 thank you

[@fionakeenan7885]

I escaped my abuser in May. My response while being groomed and abused was to be hypersexual even though that's not me at all, but I was desperate to cope somehow.

[@bluraine7739]

I guess my comments are deleting themselves. Seriously into the void

[@lamoomyguuy4123]

I was assaulted back in June, I blamed myself every day since, i have night terrors, i cant look at a man without thinking about what scenarios might be going through his head. I'm 15. Hearing somebody actually sympathize with an underaged victim without blaming them brought me to tears. People like this scare me so much... 😭

[@harper._.]

I am so sorry for that happening to you, it is not your fault. Healing takes time, but I believe in you, stay strong and remember, you are worth so much!

[@maramoon333]

Sweet child I’m so sorry this happened to you. It doesn’t matter what you think you could’ve done differently; it wasn’t your fault. I hope you are able to receive the support and healing you need and DESERVE. If you are not receiving that at home or able to receive REAL therapy (Not some useless school guidance counselor or someone that’s going to report back to your parents) there are many online communities of survivors that are waiting for you with love and open arms until you are an adult and able to seek out help for yourself. My heart aches for you. I am sending you my unconditional love dear one. Wishing you peace🤍

[@breebb]

I genuinely hate how people view age difference as objective age difference and not relative age difference. If you’re 25 dating someone who is 17 yes that’s 8 years. But relative age difference is almost 1.5x that person’s age. Compared to a 40 year old and a 32 year old who would have a relative age difference of 1.25x their age, or 60 and 52 who would have a relative age difference of 1.15x your age. It really is not that hard to understand. I have to constantly explain this to my family members to help them understand why their relationships are not appropriate.

[@smfreij]

THIS! thank you for a concise and well defined explanation. Once you have fully developed (around 25 years old) age gaps don’t matter as much because generally you’re a fully realized human being. But a 40 year old man dating an 18 year old is gross to me even if it is “legal”.

[@AlyssaTaylor9]

Yep! I'm 26 and my fiance is 32. 6 year age difference. We're both adults with fully developed frontal lobes, so it's fine. If we were 16 and 22, it would've been super, super, SUPER not okay even with technically the same age difference.

[@deadlymelody27]

Also once you are past like 25, you are a bit more sure of yourself, your brain is fully developed etc, so any age gap after that is not quite as bad. Can still be creepy if someone like leo dicaprio doesnt date anyone over like 27 or something.. but yeah, when there is an age gap when you are 60, chances are you have gone through enough of life to be sure of yourself

[@BabyFungus]

YES THIS!! I had a friend who is 17 and she had a crushed with a single father who have a daughter, she’s toddler and she send inappropriate stuff to him that was so bad for her age. She met him when she’s only 16 and he let it happen, i called him a g……roomer because he tried justify his action by saying “she’s not a kid” “she’s mature” “she wanted it” “I can’t do anything about it” and it’s obvious that he enjoyed what she send to him

[@A__Mina]

Damn, frustrating right? You put into words what decent humans already know. There is a huge difference between 10 and 18 & 50 and 58.

[@UrbanwarriorTheSOV]

You're so right. I found a photo of myself at 18 and I looked like a little girl. There is no way I looked older when I was 13. I would have looked like a baby then. I was messed up like you. The mother in me now, sees the truth. Sending you hugs & love Kat. You look super cute today. I love your hair & the lipstick is gorgeous xxx

[@katrinascarlet5637]

I’m 23 and I still get IDed every time I get an r rated movie. If a cashier doesn’t feel I look old enough for a movie I don’t understand how predators think “She looked 18” is an excuse.

[@CheesenMac123]

@@katrinascarlet5637 Especially considering that 18 year olds are still teens.

[@katrinascarlet5637]

@@CheesenMac123 At 18 the only difference was I was attending college instead of high school. Still did everything I was doing the year before, just at a campus two blocks to the right of the high school.

[@pollywritespoems]

The "age of consent" conversation is what my groomers used to make me think it was okay. I would assume that a lot of groomers use that type of language to justify their actions.

[@luna.crystals]

“It’s not my fault these teenagers were so tempting! If anything I’M the victim here!” Absolutely revolting. Thank you Kat for speaking about this!

[@VonPatzy]

Realized at the end that he actually doesn’t think predators exist - it’s just a label you are victimized with when caught doing what the law has unfairly criminalized. Like he talks about it the way some of us might talk about sex work or marijuana - that there is absolutely nothing wrong with those things until you are thrown in a police car and called a felon. What an absolute POS. He’s not even bright enough to argue with. He can’t imagine the concept of empathy.

[@queenken2073]

As much as he thinks he’s under the radar, him basically ADMITTING to being predator has literally put all eyes on him. This is disgusting beyond belief.

[@irisl4498]

Looking for teenagers with bad family relationships is also looking for people who are very likely traumatized, which often means that they will not have learnt healthy relationship patterns aka setting boundaries. This is literally what pedophiles look for. I also hope that his second story was a lie, because if that happened, that is so damn fucked up.

[@Komachichuu]

"there's something special about-" I don't want to hear it. This man is disgusting and better be in prison by now. I'm very sorry for what happened to you, know that it makes you stronger in the situation

[@killawattz9773]

The age of consent was built off the basis of men feeling entitled to women’s bodies, hinting why the age of sexual consents falls along the lines of being “barely legal”. It’s crazy when men try to use the patriarchy to justify their behavior as if that makes it look any better.

[@strictnine5684]

The age of consent is arbitrary and is built around draft age for men. It has nothing to do with women.

[@franksaddiction]

@@strictnine5684 okay

[@kittywithachoppa]

@@strictnine5684 how

[@aleysacampbell8709]

@@kittywithachoppa men created the law

[@goblin3359]

What is so disgusting is that he is only talking about wrongdoing in terms of how R Kelly was 'reckless'. Nothing about how he exploited and hurt young women and girls. But that he got caught. Urgh. What a creep. I really appreciate you taking the time to make this video - as hideous as the content is, and as triggering as it is, your perspective is so important. I hope you can take some time to look after yourself after this.

[@toomessy]

This! Like, he's literally saying that R-kelly wasn't smart enough to not get caught. Do you know how SICK you have to be to say something like that, and not immediately see anything wrong with that sentence? That man literally confessed to being a predator on one of the biggest streaming sites in the world, and yet-- nothing has been done. Not even with his channel. It's still up and running.

[@dance2wiithkniive278]

"There are a lot of men who are interested in underage girls" as a child, I watched a single Sherly Temple movie at my aunts as a kid and never wanted to go back. Adult men fawning over a prepubescent girl made me so hyper aware of everything it's still the only birthday I remember. Other than that I just have "things that happened" but this one's still vivid and palpable

[@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic]

That’s so horrible… and then I think Sherly was actually abused wasn’t she? I’m not sure I just remember a channel talked about her. But that must’ve been the most disgusting thing. I hope things are better now.

[@dance2wiithkniive278]

@@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic Oh she very much got abused. To the point she had to leave acting before getting out of "child star" status. But if I remember right she's in politics now, so she must feel better!

[@lahasainaypayaso3386]

Brooke Shields' film "Pretty Baby" is so damn disgusting. she was only like 12 or 14 at that time.

[@brttejacqueline5372]

I love Shirley Temple movies however I noticed how the older she got the shorter her dresses and shirts got. At a young age I knew she was being sexually exploited. Sad

[@kendallr5470]

I don’t feel attraction to 15 olds and I’m almost 18. I can’t understand how people who are older go for people that age. It’s fucking gross. I’m open minded and empathetic for victims but you gave a different perspective that only victims can share and it’s sobering. I didn’t really think about how saying “you’re mature for your age” could be seen as analyzing a sign of vulnerability. My friend was a victim to a 23 year old when she was 16. I don’t care what anyone says, the maturity difference is there and even if she was 18, I still wouldn’t like him. My friend doesn’t really talk about what happened other than that she hates that he manipulated her through “empathizing” with her insecurities. I hate him, truly. It makes me sick and he’s fucked up. I hope he stays homeless and keeps livin in airbnbs like the troll he is. Hopefully he gets jail time soon though. Also this guy (the creep in the vid) makes me sick, he’s full of selfishness. He only looks for what helps HIM and and it’s fucking gross. Like dude, it’s not a meal that YOU enjoy, both parties are supposed to enjoy it so stfu about an “appetite.” Gawwddd this makes me so mad. P.S. I know this is off topic but I love your voice, it gives off “the cool cousin that you feel comfortable around” vibe.

[@CheesenMac123]

I’m 18 and yeah you’re right. It doesn’t matter. A teenager is a teenager. If you are a grown adult, a teenager is in a completely different life stage than you. Even if they are legal, you both need different things.

[@songbird6414]

I’m 18, and I recently had a crush on a girl in the grade below me, but NOT because she was younger than me. Thinking about her age made me uncomfortable. I liked her because I felt like we were on even footing - that we WERE at the same stage from what I saw, at a surface level. I don’t like her anymore, but I think back to this and can relax about it because honestly it wasn’t her youth that got me it was everything else. If that makes sense. Then again, we were two students in high school in the same class vying for the same position in choir. It’s a little different when you aren’t around the person doing the same things.

[@guytrashgurtdog]

@@songbird6414 dw, a year difference at that age is not a big deal. I’ve dated people a year older then me at that age, and even someone two years older then me. and when I was 18 I started dating my fiancé and he’s like two years older then me. I think for an 18 year old, you probably shouldn’t date anyone under 16. I wouldn’t feel guilty about that at all. Especially since y’all were in high school and at the same stage in life and it wasn’t the fact that she’s younger then you that made you attracted to her. And even then there’s nothing wrong with being attracted to people slightly younger then you, it’s only a problem if you were attracted to like a 14 year old or younger or something. Most people agree a 17 and an 18 year old is perfectly fine, you did nothing wrong, no need to feel guilty! You’re not a creep at all

[@robertothetaco9156]

When you said your hypersexuality was a form of self-harm I started tearing up because I did the same thing too because of the SA that happened to me when I was a kid. In the moment, I thought I was "taking charge" of my body when in actuality I was giving it away to all these older men because I felt that is what I deserved. It took YEARS of therapy for me to understand that what happened to me wasn't my fault. Thank you for sharing your own experiences in this video it really helped me feel less alone

[@JadetheGoober]

If you ever heard of the TV show Skins (TW: it’s basically Degrassi) theres a character in the first cast, named Cassie, that does this and thats what made me realize what I was doing. On the outside, looking in is usually the best view.

[@mayonnaiseandbaloney6642]

@Benign Username the one with the girl with the booty whole mouth)

[@JadetheGoober]

@@mayonnaiseandbaloney6642 no that’s kaya scondelario 😂😂😂

[@johnnyc.1878]

Yup.. me too

[@introvertedmermaid]

Same

[@Captainn4t]

"Who cares about the age of consent, you're clearly older then that" Yes, queen, again for the creeps in the back! I am so tired of this age of consent argument that all these predators keep falling back on. Just because something is "legal" doesn't mean it's ok.

[@ratb4st4rd30]

JUST BECAUSE SOMETHING IS LEGAL DOESNT MEAN ITS OKAY. precisely

[@megansmith5993]

THANK YOU for expressing that hypersexuality can be a form of self-harm. Yes yes a thousand times yes. Engaging in risky behavior can be self harm no matter how "fun" it seems or how "enthusiastic" the person or "intentional" the actions. I see you 💗

[@alicemeliksetian7981]

God this is so triggering. But, factual.

[@bluejay9425]

i fully agree with this but unfortunately didn't realize how i could relate to it ( IDK what happened to me when I was a small child but the effects of a traumatic event definitely showed up in my life, including hypersexuality.. Thank you OP and thank you Kat Blaque for helping this be seen! 💚

[@suitov]

@@bluejay9425 I'm sorry you've been dealing with that. It gets better. It won't last forever. Hang in there.

[@transgoddess31]

It took me forever to see my hypersexuality as self harm. But it definitely is

[@Katrawrina]

As a victim of these things, it is so refreshing to hear you stand up for the truth and word things in a way that I couldn't formulate myself. Thank you so much for this, I think more people need to hear this kind of thing.

[@Gimpinalong]

“I did the mother with her girls in the room and….had me ____ her daughter…..she said mom it hurts…” So what he’s saying is (if it’s true) the mother was abusive and exploitive to her kids if not human trafficking, and he was in on it too. Smdh. Thank you for your content. It’s in the discussion victims find lessons, nuggets of wisdom, strength and growth. 💞💗

[@TheDreamingMyriad]

That was exactly my thoughts. It sounds fake as fuck, but if it were true, as a fucking adult, you encounter a situation like that and you call the fucking police. At the bare minimum, you do not go over to a house where you think a mother is forcing her minor children to engage in sex acts. Like....how in the fuck can he say something like that and then say he wasn't in the wrong?!

[@inihilisme1511]

@@TheDreamingMyriad and he said he isn't a predator XD wtf

[@jackr2500]

I really hope he made that story up because i really don’t want that to be real

[@clsisman]

Literally this! At minimum it’s failure to report a felony. Luckily I agree with kat & do not believe this part.

[@kelseybarahona7320]

This made me so uncomfortable to hear but I know some weird people from work whod do shit with their family😕

[@Yorokobi224]

You just gotta be there. My daughter is 9. She went through precocious puberty and we had put her on hormone blockers for a year when she started to develop breasts at 6yrs old. She always seemed mature. She is not allowed to join "social media" until she is 13 but I do give chat ability on Roblox. I monitor her activity through family link and I love that she ran to me last year to tell me all the curse words she learned. All we can do as parents is provide, listen and learn together or teach

[@amari8971]

That’s really good. Just try not to be too protective bc that hold can also create an unwanted response.

[@youraristrocatmom4108]

What are harmone blockers ?

[@janahijoori5719]

@@youraristrocatmom4108 Puberty blockers, also called hormone blockers, help delay unwanted physical changes that don't match someone's gender identity. Delaying these changes can be an important step in a young person's transition. It can also give your child more time to explore their options before deciding whether or how to transition.

[@skellie4580]

@@youraristrocatmom4108 They block hormones commonly released during puberty to avoid unwanted changes. This can be for kids who are experiencing puberty extremely early on in life or for kids interested in exploring changing their gender in the future.

[@ContentMadame]

I can relate! I worry constantly about whether this is the day some m@n decides to try and use my daughter for his amusement. She hit puberty running at 9 and is now 12 going on 20, physically speaking, and has already experienced gross sexual objectification. As a mom, it's terrifying to watch your little girl walking around with the body of a dancer and know what men are thinking about her. What's worse is that I studied criminal psychology, sexual crimes and gender dynamics in college, so when I say I know, I mean... I KNOW how evil men can be. Our criminal investigations professor was also the city police chief, so when we got to the unit on CP... HE MADE US WITNESS A SLIDESHOW. An actual brain-scarring, faith killing, seizure inducing (yes, really) SLIDESHOW OF CP. I've never seen so many nauseous people in one room before.

[@JJBlitz626]

Ugh. Not only is he bragging, he is encouraging this disgusting behavior in other men! Furthermore, he is doing his damndest to absolve himself of all the things he did, because I'm sure it was more than the one he mentioned.

[@cottonballbats]

Not only that, but as a way to defend himself he places the blame in the young girls because "they are throwing themselves onto him" and as another commenter pointed out, that grooming just leads to the girls growing up thinking they need to be sexual and can't have purely platonic relationships. This shit is just so disgusting

[@ripsnip5336]

And also blaming the victim

[@ionova3265]

The way he describes a child's body so graphically just... like it actually makes me sick to my stomach.

[@ryanphoenix2460]

Honestly never apologize for pausing because so many people who subscribe, including me, want to hear your thoughts and opinions on these subjects

[@quincyquincy4764]

Honestly it was annoying at times. This video might have been too much to do right now

[@sarahperkins6421]

I appreciate the breaks from listening to that creep brag about sinking low enough to prey on underage people.

[@melvv18]

For the content the she was reacting too, pausing was needed, cause it was a lot grossness to take in.

[@FaithOriginalisme]

I wouldn't have been able to stomach it without the frequent breaks

[@starkid4299]

AGREED!

[@brigonetta]

The fact this guy felt comfortable enough to show his face and confess to shit like this is insane. How can someone so predatory and vile feel so comfortable announcing this to the world? (Also feel the need to say his 'stories' sound like porn comments honestly, just people writing out their sexual fantasies in an effort to convince people it actually happened)

[@andym9115]

One of the worst parts is that as Kat says, he isnt confessing, he is bragging.

[@halimaahmed494]

You're right also him mentioning r-kelly and how he thinks that he is like him....he wanted to get the views and it was all about bragging.

[@asterv843]

"Show his face" is somewhat innacurate as he is in a dark shadowy location like when they're trying to protect someone's identity in a tv interview. Not to mention the fact that the stories are so unbelievable probably makes it easy for him to say "oh uh I made that shit up lol" if he gets into hot water

[@sooosuss7154]

This is soooo disgusting!!! And the victim blaming"she tricked me", " they are complicit" nooo they are children and you took advantages of them!!!! ....come on!!! How can this man be so delusional???

[@mlorencetti1]

I'm in my early thirties and I'm able to teach high school kids. I always noticed my male colleagues talk about young girls like they have this "dangerous allure", like they can barely resist how "mature" they look and all. My female colleagues see their teenage students as kids. You can't interact with them and NOT notice they are still boys and seek the same validation as any child and must be treated as such. You can't talk to a kid and NOT notice it's a kid. Of COURSE men know the "oh it wasn't on purpose it was a trap" argument is bullshit. But it's SO culturally ingrained, talking about how young girls are "trying to trap" them is some kind of pervasive part of male "bro" socialization. I know many guys that would never prey on children, but they still won't speak up against their bros that do, or stop "jokes" about young girls. This is why the guy on the video is bragging about it, "mainstream bro culture" has a huge pedo problem.

[@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic]

That’s terrifying…. That’s terrifying to know how many men have access to teaching young girls and think this way. Especially when I came across a teacher who was scarily comfortable with putting his arms around my shoulders and stuff when I didn’t even know who he was… this is scary…

[@SpaceandGoats]

@koko-in-red2599 except most predatory teachers are women "female teachers see them as boys" and then they screw em

[@sperry8399]

ya it s total r word culture

[@Cakepiecookies]

I drove a school bus for years (now I'm going for my teaching degree), and SO many of the older drivers (60 and over) would say the most disgustingly predatory things about the high school girls.. for example, " I can't wait until the weather warms up to look at all the girls with how they dress themselves these days"... and without even stopping for a breath he follows up with " it's no wonder they get attacked all the time". I reported the guy and what do they tell me? " Well, it's hearsay right now and there isn't much we can do about it."

[@Pinocicci]

My own dad has 6 daughters and I’m amazed at the shit that tumbles out of his mouth when it comes to predatory behaviours in pedophile men (in the news etc). The disconnect is so real and terrifying

[@bellaapple2166]

Men that grew up around a lot of women have been the worst predators in my experience. My first "love" was 5yrs older than me. I remember when I met his family. It was his mom, his grandma, his two sisters and 2 nieces. I thought he would treat me so good since he was raised around so many women. I was so wrong. He was the biggest womanizer. He used women for money, sex, clothes everything. He was extremely disrespectful to women and was doing this all this while in a "relationship" with me. I couldn't believe the women in his life raised him to be that type of man and allowed him to bring different girls to the house night after night knowing I was his girlfriend. It's so sad when other women raise these predators and enable their behavior.

[@SuzanneDeniseB]

He may have to hide after this. Many people go after people that abuse children. And now it is forever on the interwebs....

[@JaneTheMessage]

@@SuzanneDeniseB to be fair, the person that posted the comment has a username that is a bunny emoji. They haven’t exactly doxxed themselves and people aren’t going to go through that much effort to Catch A Predator™️. You are concern trolling a bit right now.

[@JadetheGoober]

Same. Tbh I don’t know what a “good man” is. Not a clue. If they aren’t doing predatory things, then they tend not feel like those things are wrong.

[@Vicky_Hyenas]

@@SuzanneDeniseB pretty sure 🐰 was saying he’s the opposite of that .

[@discord20]

I remember reading "Why Does He Do that," which is a great book on the psychology of abusers (with a disclaimer that the author definitely has a blind spot with regards to male victims), and the big mind blowing take away of that book was that abusers know what they are doing. What makes an abuser different from the average person is not mental illness, or addiction. They do not abuse because they are overcome with "anger issues" that they cannot control, they are not helpless to their emotional mood swings or their own issues or whatever else. That's just stuff they say to get away with the things they do. There is one thing that distinguishes an abuser from a non-abuser: the abuser believes he has the right to abuse. That's it. They're not helpless to some "appetite," or "anger issues," or addiction or mental illness or whatever else. They decide to abuse people because they think they have the right to abuse people. And abusing people gets them things - it gets their partners to do whatever they want, it gets them sex from compliant people that never expect to be treated well, it gets them in a position where they have control over another person's life and finances. They want these things, they believe they have the right to these things, they take these things. So of course they take to the internet and show their ass. They don't think they have anything to be ashamed of. They might pretend to be remorseful in a situation where showing remorse might get them out of trouble. They might hide their actions to avoid getting in trouble. They might make a big show of crying and apologising if they think it'll make their victim take them back. But they do NOT feel sorry and they do NOT believe they have done anything wrong. They don't think your feelings are important or even really real. They don't think you have any rights that are more important than them getting what they want. End of story, .

[@Samson16436]

This is the hardest part of having to accept when an abuser is someone close to you.

[@toonybooper]

I read that book as a teenager, and it was life-changing. Honestly, every woman needs to read it, and hell, men need to read it too. Everything they do is conscious and calculated.

[@seanceknowles2911]

About the blind spot regarding male victims, if I recall correctly doesn’t the author make a disclaimer that this book is about Women victims as that’s what he does specifically but can also be applied to male victims and even lgbt+ victims? I read this book every so often because it is very helpful to understand and also because it’s important to break the cycle of abuse and to learn to read red flags because things get serious with a potential relationship. I had to learn the hard way about what the author was so true. My abuser going through DV programs and mandatory classes and at the same time actively abusing me, of course it wasn’t physical at that time but the emotional, mental and financial abuse was there. They don’t care and they will just take and take take till you are nothing but a shell of yourself.

[@1ElenaL]

This was super helpful. Thank you!

[@Iron678Maiden]

Why do they believe they have the right? They must be a psychopath to me

[@Indiegirl007]

I'm 22 minutes in and I'm going to have to pass on finishing this one. This is so triggering for me. I'm literally getting nauseous listening to this 'individual' speak. I have thumbsed up the video, I'm already subscribed, and I'm posting this comment. Keep doing what you're doing, girl.

[@cherelled6419]

Same x

[@feralsapphic4272]

take care of yourself

[@ashesfalldown492]

I am about there as well. I really wanted to make it through this video because she is, but man, I feel so ill.

[@TheSReaction]

This is extremely triggering for me as someone who was groomed and sexually abused as a child into my teens. The man was my mom’s bf and he even said he would take me from my mom because he was basically making me into the “perfect woman” for him. I’m so thankful my mom finally realized something was wrong, but we never reported him/pressed charges and he went on to abuse someone else. He got with another single mother and started abusing HER child. I will never be okay with being so afraid of him that I didn’t do something to make sure he didn’t hurt anyone else.

[@shanicesm6208]

He did the same thing my child’s father did. I was in my teens and he was OLD. Come to found out he’s been doing this for year(s) to other young women!!

[@angelaszul9662]

Oh my…I’m so so sorry that happened to you. Especially at such a young age. That happened to me once, and I was 31 years old. I know how it made me feel at 31, so I can’t even imagine how horrifying it would have been to my 15 year old self. Despite the things you’ve been through, you seemed to have come through it, and managed to thrive regardless of what was done to you. You’re an amazing woman, and absolutely gorgeous. I admire you for becoming who you are despite everything you’ve experienced. This is the first time watching your show, and I most definitely will be watching every chance I get. Thank you for advocating for these young women, and showing the world who these predators are. We could use more women like you in the world.

[@rilesfomiles8662]

As a survivor you always think you can stomach these types of things and stories and I couldn’t help but break down when you told your story. I wish I could give baby Kat a warm safe place to stay and a hug.

[@twebster179]

I know.What Kat does is so, so important.

[@zoegovopoulos9032]

I feel exactly the same way. I thought I would be able to watch through this video but started crying immediately after that.

[@VainHarmony]

I made it 22:29 in and even reading the comments makes me want to vomit.

[@Wazeltauf]

It’s always unnerving to hear how some men don’t see girls and women, or anyone outside of themselves, really, as people. Hearing him talk and discredit his own point(?) was nauseating. Thank you for your commentary Kat, This is important to see. I really hope his stories are fake AND he faces repercussions🤮

[@pink_florets]

Please don’t apologise for pausing, we are here for it! Everything you said was very affirming for some of the thoughts I’ve had. Fortunately, I am blessed to not have experienced such things but I just wanted to say as an 18-year old I learned a lot from this. Thank you for making this video

[@d4ni.dec4y]

It's crazy that this guy says that sexual assault is common but doesn't recognize that just because it is common makes it okay. Just because it is common does NOT at all mean that it is okay. It's just sick.