Katey's Story: Survivor’s Guilt

Katey and Kendra were running buddies, roommates, and best friends. They had that special bond friends share that unites them for a lifetime. But a terrible, wintry car accident changed that. Kendra was killed on impact, but Katey was left with not only difficult physical trauma but also the emotional scars that she survived the same accident that killed her best friend. Friends and family rejoiced in Katey’s physical progress, but all she could think about was “every step reminds you that she died, and you lived.” As she processed the grief, Katey realized that all she could do was trust God as He walked with her through it.

[@jennymk01]

You are a gorgeous person. Never think you aren't worth it, you are definitely worth life. She is always with you, she never died in your heart.

[@maureenjackson7038]

I understand survivor's guilt. I've had it since May 29, 1983. Rest in Peace Ricky D Colburn. You are missed

[@ourdailybread]

We are sorry for the deep sadness and survivor's guilt you feel, Maureen. Praying you are filled with His love and comfort each day💖Psalm 33:22 - May your unfailing love be with us, LORD, even as we put our hope in you.

[@marlenmuller]

​@@ourdailybreadWieso sollten Überlebende Schuld am Tot/Tod anderer sein?Diese sind doch keine Täter

[@marlenmuller]

​@@ourdailybreadUnd ehrlich,wieso sollte gerade ihre Liebe(die für ihre Familie oder so ist)wieso sollte diese für euch sein?

[@Susanarylander]

You are the most beautiful human being. I had chills watching it because I felt that in 5 minutes you taught me more than I’ve learned from anyone in my 52 years. I’m so very sorry for what happened and for your grief. But, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

[@dondressel452]

We all seem to go through this when we are young I lost a good friend who died at 17 He was drinking and driving He saw his parents at a gas station Then he drove home and hit a woman head on He died instantly and the woman died four hours later My other friend only had a cut lip The saddest part of this was his parents drove up to the scene of the accident His father got out of his car and lifted up the sheet covering him His mother then passed out from shock I was so angry at him for drinking and driving He not only died but he took another human beings life I think of him every day He was killed the day after thanksgiving in 1975 RIP Ray Caldwell

[@ourdailybread]

Such a heartbreaking story, praying for you and these families 💗

[@GamblingGal]

I'm sorry. You are right! Most of us have a similar story. 💔😢

[@princevonny]

Kendra lives through you. Now, not only are you living for yourself but also for Kendra.

[@DefiantAngel87]

Such touching words

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

We lose people in so many ways, but they remain in our hearts forever. My husband died 12 years ago and I miss him every bit as much as my mom who just died on January 15th this year. We are changed but never "get over" them. I still celebrate my wedding anniversaries and always will. My heart is very much still married to him, as much as I will always be moms first born daughter. Let us be glad we are alive. One day we will see our lived ones again. God bless you all. 😭💝😳😢👍👼👼👼👼

[@ourdailybread]

We truly appreciate you sharing your insights Cpmf. Thanks so much.

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

@@ourdailybread gladly. Hope it helps even 1 person. 🇨🇦😇

[@deepstariaenigmatica2601]

To all my friends out there suffering from survivor's guilt, I understand it can get hard like that but life & the universe is unreasonable like that, the best you can do is try continuing living happily because your departed friend would want the same for you.

[@deepstariaenigmatica2601]

@Laureen Mwangi The universe is not a "new age terminology". This is a channel for everybody. Not just for christians which is why it's on KZbin for everybody to watch, not on a christian website.

[@marlenmuller]

​@@deepstariaenigmatica2601Was hat das mit Deinem Christentum zutun?Das trifft jeden.Und da braucht man nicht Christ,oder sonst was sein

[@lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241]

I’m so sorry for your loss of your Best Friend! Sending prayers!

[@jolenehauck7019]

You are an earth angel! You will continue to spread love &h light and sharing your story will help so many! God has a great plan for you! Big hugs & be safe!

[@tiarnat5554]

This is a very touching story

[@amberf3599]

God bless you and keep you always. Kendra will always be a part of you...a part of your heart.💖

[@ncredbird3998]

My nephew is going through this very thing. His best friend was driving and the car left the road and hit a tree then a light pole. His friends seat belt broke from the impact and he was thrown out and killed on impact. My before had to be cut out from the car, his injuries although very bad but not life threatening. We didn't hear until hours later that Kyle didn't make it. Now we are trying to support my nephew through the stages of his grief. Kyle's mother has been a huge support and cheerleader for my nephews recovery and mental struggle. She has such a giving heart, her faith strong even during her own grief of losing her only son two days before mothers day 2019. I thank you for sharing your story, your help in knowing how to better help my nephew and our grief of losing Kyle. He was family to us. Sorry for your loss and the pain you've came through but I'm thankful you are here and doing well. You are an inspiration to those like my family that are going through similar pain. Pray you have safe travels and remain healthy and finding joy of the life you were blessed with

[@ourdailybread]

It can be so devastating to be the survivor. We appreciate you sharing so we can be praying for you, Kyle, and the whole family. Please accept this free recourse. discoveryseries.org/courses/life-after-loss/

[@cwboeck1]

Thank you for sharing “Your Story”. I can’t imagine the heartache, physical pain, sadness of losing your best friend & the difficulties of recovery & moving forward at such a dark time in your life. But you DID IT WITH THE HELP OF GOD IN YOUR LIFE!! And I’m sure it’s taken so much courage to share the darkest time of your life with the world. But you did it & I truly believe that people should respect “your story” & the way you told it. For those that didn’t want to hear God or had other distasteful comments, it seems like you could rise to the place of respect & just not comment. I praise you for your courage, strength & purpose to continue your life to share your story. May God continue to bless you & know that she is your angel & you will be in my prayers as will her family.

[@goose7574]

Kendra's with you... She wants you to go forward. I promise you she's there with you. Your own guardian angel. It's okay to be sad, just know that "YOUR" life IS worth it. Hugs to you 💝

[@madenewministries]

Praise God! This really helped me. God is my anchor. 🙏🏽

[@ourdailybread]

May He receive all the glory!

[@jennyfurr]

You and Kendra looked so much alike! Beauties! I’m very sorry for your loss. I hope you’re finding peace with this. ❤️

[@emiliasoliz8713]

Wow! What a testimony of surviving and coming to know the Lord you are beautiful and may the LOrd bless you.

[@Bonstergirl1]

I never understood survivors guilt. Ive lost ppl very close to me too but never thought for a moment, why them, how come I am still here, its not fair. We're only here for a short time and I feel that angels come into our lives, teach us things they have to learn and then leave..I'm grateful for having the ones I lost even for a short time. we can never get them back but we can remember them and accidents happen, Kendra would not want you to spend your life feeling sad and guilty. You never stop missing them but the pain does go enough to live your life ..I remember my boyfriend fondly and never think about what might have been. But I was happy to have him for short time and it was a very happy time.. I smile now when I think of him. You should too when you think of your wonderful friend ..

[@chantelcuddemi7646]

I'm so sorry for your loss! She's watching over you, from above! The Lord is with you, always! He loves you more than you know! Blessings!

[@ourdailybread]

Thank you for sharing this note of sympathy.

[@donnacaraballo618]

Sorry your friend passed,but you shouldn't feel guilty,your life is just as important,you couldn't have prevent that accident yourself...may god bless you and continue to give you inner peace and strength to move forward step by step...god bless and don't give up...rip😇🌹🙏💙❤️💜💖💗💛💚💛💗💖💜❤️💙🙏🌹😇

[@catfishslayer100]

I was in a wreck back in 1998 a friend of mine died and two others that were hurt. I was the oldest so I feIt responsible and thought it was my fault I that I didn't save him. I didn't know survivors guilt was a thing until years later. That night replays in my head still to this day.

[@ourdailybread]

Catfishslayer100, we are sorry to hear of your accident and hope this video was an encouragement to you. Praying that the Lord will fill your heart with His peace. 💗

[@catfishslayer100]

@@ourdailybread thank you for your kind words.

[@kingdomperspectivesmindset5595]

God Bless you fo rsharign your testimony. Our Heavenly Father knows best 🙏🏾🕊🕊🕊

[@neophantomyt1435]

I hate survival guilt. Every story I hear the survivors always say that same sentence. She should have lived, she had more going for her. You are not less important because you have less going on in your life. Every one matters. I know they can’t help but feel that way. But no body can control the outcome of a terrible accident. You are a beautiful lady with so much going for you. I’m sorry you lost your best friend.

[@ourdailybread]

Good word Shawna! Thank you.

[@melissaivy5199]

Wow love this touching story so sorry r.i.p. Kendra!!!! And good luck with every step moven on🙏💜

[@GLAMAFROMNYC]

Beautiful

[@kkdoc7864]

When God calls you home, that is not something you can change. You are in control of nothing, and all of the “if only’s” survivors torture themselves with are fruitless. Even if you were driving or even distracted and driving, she would have lived if God had wanted it that way. It doesn’t seem fair, and it hurts to the very core of your being, but you are not being called home yet, so you have huge purpose. Knowing that death can come at any moment has given you a unique insight into the importance of every single day you have here. Most of the rest of us treat that reality much too cavalierly. Thank you for sharing your faith!!!

[@ourdailybread]

We appreciate your feedback kk doc.

[@TinFoilCat90]

This is how my bf died. I feel it every single day. 10 years later. I went through the same things. I still take antidepressants and can't drive. Rip Preston Kerns.

[@ourdailybread]

We're so sorry to hear this, Zombiecakes 90. Praying for the Lord's comfort, mercy and grace over your heart and mind. 🙏🏻

[@vincentchua5194]

Kendra would have want you to live

[@martyreking5487]

Was gonna post a sincere hearth full comment but no way I can beat that beautiful true comment ...bravo Vincent .

[@Angus-hc1cf]

Awsum comment!! Semper Fi!!

[@monicaduncan9454]

Very touching God is awesome hes using you in a great way

[@ourdailybread]

💗💗💗

[@Carlos-wx2tc]

He's so awesome he killed her best friend. Only brainwashed people can be OK with that logic.

[@jeraleewood5969]

Some people come into our lives and quickly leave. Others put "FOOTPRINTS" on our hearts 💕 and we are Never the same!!! I lost my Best Friend to Cancer in 1980. I miss her ALL the time. Listen to Ed Sheeran's song, "Super Market Flowers." He wrote it for his Gran. The lyrics say, "A heart that is missed is a life that was loved!" "Calling All Angels," by KD Lang and Jane, "LET IT Be," by Paul McCartney. His mother, Mary, died unexpectedly, came to him in a dream, and she told him, "Let it be, there will be an answer, and "Cissy's Song," by Alan Jackson help me with my grief. Love and prayers from Oregon.

[@debbiedarrah6518]

God Bless

[@derrickridge6725]

Amen

[@Christian-girl21]

I can understand why you feel this way. Evidently there is a reason you survived. God had s reason. Your work isn't done. You are right. God will always be there, and Kendra will always be in your heart.

[@Aurochhunter]

You're a good woman Katey, you believe that Kendra should have been the one to live, that shows that you also deserve to live, and the good Lord saw fit to allow you to do so.

[@sheholdsontillmay462]

R.i.p ❤️

[@eugeniadoubanenko5231]

My girl 🙏 you are strong

[@BigLisaFan]

It just wasn't your time. He will come for you in due time when it's time to go. Live every day like it is your last.

[@ourdailybread]

💕💕

[@elainebird58]

You have something to live for too

[@ourdailybread]

So true Elaine!

[@sarinaedwards6705]

Amen... I just love how you talk about GOD, because it's true only GOD can see you through, he gives life and he takes it, he has the last say

[@LWoodworth95]

You’re so strong. Last October I was driving my boyfriend and I home from a long weekend trip late at night. I was tired but didn’t feel that tired and was only 10 minutes from my house (after a 3 hour drive). I fell asleep while driving on the highway (probably going around 70-80mph). We flipped multiple times. My boyfriend wasn’t wearing his seatbelt. But we both climbed out of the car, completely uninjured. I haven’t been able to get over it and I’m approaching a year. I can’t imagine where I’d be or what I’d feel if my partner had died because of me. Stay strong

[@ourdailybread]

We are praising our loving God that you both walked away from this accident unharmed. May you continue to seek Him and feel His presence around you💗 Romans 15:13 - May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit

[@nickyfarrell3024]

So sorry for the loss of your friend. But your life is worthwhile too.🙏🏾

[@ourdailybread]

Nicky, thanks for your encouraging words. 💜

[@saraspires1000]

You Ask why, that's something that we'll never know the answer to. Only God can answer that question. But there is a reason as to why God let you live, your time here on Earth isn't finished and there are still things you need to full fill before going to our true home. Your friend is gone, that's painful and sad but she's in a much better place than we are. Go on with your life, I'm sure that's what she would have wanted you to do. Share your story with as many as you can and remember when doing so, not only will she be by your side, but so will God.

[@corybowman9155]

Only God can answer the question of why he chose to kill her friend instead of her? It's amusing how a baby falls off a roof and lands on grass and survives it's a "miracle" but when a whole building of thousands of people crumbles down killing everyone he "works in mysterious ways".

[@greyberet1]

Cory Bowman The réal mystery is why, considering all the contradictions in the idea of a caring god even existing, let alone working in “mysterious” ways, anyone still exists who actually believes that such an imaginary person exists 😂!

[@smittysmeee]

@@greyberet1 The real mystery is why atheists continually feel the deep seeded need to troll religious commenters on the internet to the point that they deliberately seek out religious videos like this one on overtly religious channels just to shove their judgmental, angry, angsty 8th grade-level philosophical opinions in everyone's face. "But-but-but God can't be real because there's BAD in the world!!! You're STOOOPID!!" We know that it's hard for atheists to muster, but try a little kindness and respect for others, Larry.

[@greyberet1]

@@smittysmeee Your post motivated me to reread my own post; I saw nothing unkind or disrespectful about it, unless you’re of the opinion that expressing disbelief in a “god” and surprise that humans still believe in such an entity, or whatever, is unkind and disrespectful. So as, far as you’re concerned, only persons who are believers are okay with expressing their opinions, all others must remain silent. Got it 😆!

[@DefiantAngel87]

I'm so deeply sorry

[@grandmapamm]

God has a reason for everything even if we can’t always understand. Trust in him and everything will work out.

[@ourdailybread]

☝✝

[@GamblingGal]

I feel this every day, losing family to natural causes is rough enough. Shoulda been ME instead of my brothers, shoulda been ME instead of Mom and Dad. I haven't felt "worthy to be alive" since 1998 SHOULDA BEEN ME! I'm sorry Brothers Len💔 and Gary💔, Mom💔 and Dad💔. SHOULDA BEEN ME. You should be here NOT ME. If there is a heaven, you are there, pls wait for me. I miss you. I love you. Please be here. I'm ready to go in exchange for all of you. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 In 1967, we were 16 years old, a friend died in an auto accident. I'm 71 years old now. Sandy Newton....I still remember you, your natural beauty, VERY beautiful, our happy -go -lucky outlook on life during our teenage years now tainted. We had to say goodbye to you with a "closed casket". 😥😢😭💔 Still love you kiddo! I watched your Mom break down at the hospital when she was told: "You didn't make it, you died at the scene of your accident" Your head was "crushed into nothing"! My heart STILL hurts for your parents. I'm sure your parents are with you now, able to hold you close, at long last. 💕

[@ourdailybread]

💗🙏

[@roseswolves9212]

Yes you are Gorgeous women and I loved this story I be praying too that your still okay you can find me on KZbin thx you so much for reading things girl you are strong 💪 and awesome

[@ourdailybread]

Thanks so much for your prayers Roses! 🙏🏻 Blessings.

[@TheFossil999]

This was so sad. It was just a sad accident. She shouldn't feel bad. I'm sure her friend wouldn't want her to feel like this. She's been given a second chance at life. It wasn't her time to go.

[@davidswan1282]

that's sad to hear about.

[@margeknight4189]

It's been almost 17 years since my accident. I didn't know the person who died, but the survivors guilt is too real. I thought this would never get better, but through God, i have learned to forgive myself. The family, to the best of my knowledge, has not forgiven me. God bless you and everyone else like us.

[@ourdailybread]

Thank you for sharing your difficult experience, so thankful to hear that the Lord has helped you over the years💛

[@jesush.christ3003]

I almost thought god had nothing to do with this video for a min lol... we are completely alone. Prayers go unanswered and life goes on uncared for.

[@peacelovesophia482]

❤️

[@melindagardner1093]

Jesus is the way the truth and the Life 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️

[@WhiteGuysMadder]

If it was you driving it would feel much worse. I’m very sure she would want you to live!

[@bsoz9759]

Footsteps... when there was one set of footsteps, that was when He carried you. I am so saddened for you that you lost someone who was your best friend in a sudden, horrible way. Perhaps, someday, you will meet someone else who will be your best friend. could be a woman or a man. Either way, that person will help you come to terms with your survival and will help you to "accept" Katey's death and move forward in your own life. I wish you emotional and spiritual healing now and for the future.

[@davidglover5255]

For me my survivor's guilt lasted over 40 years. My mom committed suicide. I always remember the day, because I came home drunk that night & went straight to bed. She was waiting for me to come home. I remember her coming out of her room & going downstairs. She soon after that went to the car & closed the garage door & died inhaling carbon monoxide. For 40 years I blamed myself, because I did not check on her seeing what she was doing. When I finally came to grips with it, I realized how could I know. The Lord blessed me with peace. I love & miss her, but He took that burden so I would be able to bear the guilt I had for this tragedy in my life.

[@hippychic7546]

while i dont share her views on a god, i am being happy for her to find her "reason" to live. whatever it is, it is good. such a hard story. i was like this in school. one bestie, 2 people but really only 1. we were always 100% on each others side. we always were there for eachother. i miss that. we lost eachother later in life due to many things, but omg at the highs school level if i had lost her i would have just rolled over and died. she kept me going, and i did the same for her. i know how much this hurts this girl. i am just so sorry....

[@ourdailybread]

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story. Praying for your continued healing.

[@nicole14355]

Oww hunny you diserve to live. You are special. And there are plans for you.

[@ourdailybread]

🙂

[@professorgomezbolt1083]

Who got touched?

[@terryashton5999]

I hope you ok

[@rhondahoward8025]

_Why am I still alive?_ _Why didn't I die with the others?_ _Why was I the only one?_ _Why?_

[@breigemurphy1305]

💕💕💕😇😇🙏🙏

[@dovileca915]

My best friend died in a car accident. I was not with her at the time of the tragedy. But I feel guilty. She loved life, had a lot of plans, was building a future, while I wasn't. For a long time I thought that I should have died and she should have lived. I blamed everyone and the whole world for her death, including god.

[@ourdailybread]

@dovileca915 that is such a heartbreaking amount of emotion to carry and we are so sorry for the hurt you have experienced. We pray you have been able to connect with a counselor or someone you trust to help you with these thoughts. 💔2 Corinthians 1:7 - And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.

[@SisterSunshineTV]

The Bible says it is appointed unto man once to die then the judgement. We all stand in the same line we just don’t know where we are in the line. If it isn’t your day to die don’t feel guilty about it

[@nikkinikki1616]

Super weird how she's smiling extra hard throughout this...

[@meloneemurray7547]

Nikki Nikki I have met people throughout my life that cover their sadness by smiling. Also, keep in mind that the accident happened in 2008 and this message was posted in 2016. Time does heal but she went through a big valley to get to this point.

[@doggiestylepetresort]

Yeah she is smiling so she doesn't cry!!! I try to do that at really really really hard times in my life too!!! Poor young lady, so devastating!!!

[@JohnnyZmanJoshua]

wow judgemental much. Jesus aint hiring alright so lets let him do the judging, after all it is HIS job not ours.

[@mommabear8332]

Smiling is the brains defense mechanism during stressful events. Some people laugh and smile while others scream and cry. I'm sure she isn't smiling to be intentionally cruel it's just her brains way of coping through reliving such a tragic event.

[@RockStar_Love]

I know everyone handles things and tells stories differently but what is so damn funny about all of this, I just don't get it.

[@normanhowell3994]

Jesus says, cast your cares on me.. For my yoke is very light.

[@ourdailybread]

Amen, what a blessing. Thank you Jesus.

[@DrOaxaca]

La papaya tapatia

[@alicemichaelis9468]

If god was with me both of my parents would be alive. God doesn’t care.

[@ourdailybread]

Our hearts hurt with you for the loss of your parents, so very sorry 😢 May you be wrapped with encouragement with those around you💓 Romans 15:13 - May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

[@angelnavarro4110]

O poposota

[@DrOaxaca]

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[@DrOaxaca]

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[@grantboi116]

Fucking creepy you smile and laugh through this.

[@Babybluu]

G Joe it’s just the way some people handle anxiety or an awkward situation. Cameras in your face talking about a touchy subject with strangers, makes some act that way.

[@kaylanoller8661]

Her grinning telling the story is a bit weird.

[@JohnnyZmanJoshua]

Kayla Noller its Probably a coping mechanism stop being so judgey

[@allmachtigenallergroter5298]

Try being more empathetic... you can tell she's trying to hide the pain she feels inside.

[@TheResistance8969]

@@JohnnyZmanJoshua when Im telling someone something sad or when I want to cry, I start smiling just like her. Just to hide my pain..

[@RockStar_Love]

Ok so it isn't just me who thought that

[@neithanm]

aaand here we come with religion again. "god" this, "god" that. I've been through a very similar experience and... this god thing won't do anything for you.

[@allmachtigenallergroter5298]

Religion does help some people cope with mental trauma.

[@golightly5121]

Neithan : Why you have to be such a hater?

[@TonyTorzido]

Yeah. Just drug up lmao.

[@corybowman9155]

Was a great story until God got injected into it. How about you realize that YOU as a person was responsible for over coming that terrible situation in your life. That YOU over came all the hardships and struggles because your a strong willed individual. God did nothing, you did everything!

[@Jill.McGlothlin42]

Cory Bowman Seriously! God gave her the strength to overcome it. Humans aren’t capable of doing anything. Smdh!!!!

[@RockStar_Love]

Maybe she got through because of her faith. Without it she may have felt so hopeless that she would have died

[@mikeyg6631]

Amen