How Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” Theory Can Help You Take Control of Your Life

[@bbcerise]

It's also a very beautiful poem by Cassie Philips “Just Let them. If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM. If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM. If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM. If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM. If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM. If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM. If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM. If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM. If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM. Let them lose you. You were never theirs, because you were always your own. So let them.”

[@GK-yi1nm]

Nice, thank you!

[@2ndChanceAtLife]

OMG 1:10:52 My dysfunctional mother used to say about my annoying siblings, "Just ignore them, they'll go away." It worked. I am estranged from my family and getting emotionally healthier every day due to a 12-step group and podcasts like this.

[@deelankford1180]

I put this podcast on pause, got my ass up and did my walk!!!! I was making excuses that it was cold. thank you!!!

[@AMCNolan]

Love things for what they are, not for what you'd like them to be. Loved this chat.

[@sueveleke455]

I learned this from your TV show. thank you so much. I am elderly and use it when unpleasant memories pop in my head, remembering shameful things that people did to me, etc. I picture my favorite tree, and count backwards as many times as I need to until the memory goes away. I am lucky, getting up has never been a problem for me. This was a very one-sided episode.

[@elizabethdaniels51]

Thank you so much for sharing your life with us, Mel! You help so many people. I believe the sign of maturity is someone who can step away and create space. Creating space between yourself and the situation is a long standing practice. It is not really a theory. But it helps that you call it “Let Them”, but I would suggest it as a METHOD to peace or a PRACTICE.

[@carolhefner6353]

Exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you Katie and Mel!

[@sandramarchman1084]

Mel. I am so proud of you. You have now been invited by Oprah and Katie. Where were they years ago? Just let them!!!so happy for you!!! Much 💕

[@edwardlulofs444]

Yes, I think that it is the same for autism. I know a woman who was medicated all her life for anxiety. But now I see that her whole family is autistic. I think that she is too. Now a senior, I just learned that I am autistic. And I see the medical community calling it a disorder. I don’t think it is a disorder. But anxiety and depression are definitely disorders. When you get the correct diagnosis, it makes all the difference in the world.

[@sueveleke455]

I found out I was on the Spectrum when my son was diagnosed in the 80's. My whole life could have been better but in those days no one tested for it. It definitely runs in our family.

[@cathyellis767]

Let go and Let God, Serenity Prayer, Al-Anon, Wayne Dyer, Melody Beattie all have taught us many of this, but Mel shares her own life and makes it so relatable! Enjoyed all 10 hours of LET THEM on Audible! I do want to acknowledge Cassie Phillips who wrote the original poem! Congratulations Mel, you have hit the big time! First Oprah and now Katie Couric! ✨️🩷🙏🏼😃

[@gabrielaortiz9969]

I love you Mel!

[@elainewest2948]

Great interview

[@t.breeze8659]

This message comes right on time. But I’m not sold on employing Let Them theory when in conflict with an ex who impedes or complicates access to children. But the theory is useful in other spaces.

[@davidmundy1878]

Read the book - it is not just "Let Them" it only works but when used with "Let Me"

[@courtneybrubaker9738]

Accept how people are.. let them be who they are and let me decide how to handle it. I feel for you.

[@Earlybit]

I found this out many many years ago when someone said to me" you can never make it right for everybody, you will always step on someone's feet". That started a lifelong collecting of little lives sayings and wisdoms. You will find out "let them" has already been said in many ways, for example the serenity prayer is one of them. Right now I am dealing with an unreasonable elderly mother where I have to remind myself, that I cannot change her and simply have to "let her". The ubsurdity of not following this saying comes in the form of another live's wisdom /proverb:" Do not argue with a fool (ignrant person etc.). They drag you down to their level and beat you with experience." or humorously said: "is like playing playing chess with a pigeon"...(look up the rest...lol. .

[@JohnLyons-s2l]

Responsibility is something you have to accept.

[@CAEO416]

This reminds me of Byron Katie’s philosophy. “Loving what is”.

[@jeffwoodwhat]

Love YOU KD!!!❤

[@courtneybrubaker9738]

Al anon and coda teaches the fullness of let them.

[@talaeastern6773]

🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀“Just let them POEM🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀 If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM. If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM. If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM. If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM. If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM. If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM. If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM. If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM. If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM. Let them lose you. You were never theirs because you were always your own. So let them.”🥀

[@cathyellis767]

Original poem by Cassie Phillips

[@roseannes2967]

Responsibility is the ability to respond? Responsibility is acceptance and accountability.

[@frankhildebrand6131]

We need to let them song. Lol.

[@rosanneseiler3825]

Honestly this is not new information, we have just become such a self serving society - we have to stop thinking of "me, me, me" all the time, to the point where we need to buy books to change how "I think about me".... more time thinking / caring for others will naturally put you in a better place, volunteer, help your neighbor, get to know your local cashier, etc... build relationships not based on how it will serve "me"... of course, this is just my opinion.

[@marlenee7035]

Interesting interview. WAY too many commercial interruptions.

[@raevalverde7757]

Very buddhist philosophy❤

[@janpolletta1115]

Let Them Go - Turns to Let Them.....................

[@lisettespek8950]

❤

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

Nothing new here. “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”? Just rehashed self-help and presented as something remarkable. Kind of irritating.

[@davidboreham]

Nothing is really new: most Psychology goes back to Buddhism. Yet most people don't have much insight into their brain's operation. So the more people trying different ways to promote such education the better inho.

[@cjtitmouse]

Plagiarism. In classic self-proclaimed guru fashion, no recognition for its true source. Shame on you Mel. You had the opportunity to give someone the credit they deserved, but you wanted it ALL for yourself.

[@annaunger9328]

It's not right But it's okay I'm gonna make it anyway (Make it anyway) Pack your bags up and leave (Get up and leave)

[@eriksyring]

Mel still has a lot of stress in her. This has to be reflected in, i.e., her sex. Build a rich adult relationship life and navigating all other areas becomes vastly easier.