I was invisible to her for 3months.Am I someone else's daughter?[Hello Counselor/ENG,THA/2018.11.12]

[@uwkhj9836]

s-she straight up said ‘it’s because I don’t like her anymore’ I-

[@idk27212]

Exactly. That's messed up. I would have moved out.

[@lampsenpai4325]

@@idk27212 and then right after:"it's because i want her to be strong" bish what. you want the daughter you like to be weak?

[@gracechang4074]

My dad is like this.. ugh smh cant wait until i move out 2 more frkn yrs that im legally able to..🤞🏻😖🤧

[@splotyz]

I don't get how any mother could say that to her own daughter that's just wrong 😕 I feel bad for the her (daughter)

[@mariririris_]

What part is it?

[@thesoonyoungtohoshi0615]

The reason real why the mum is so upset about her younger daughter is because the younger daughter is fierce enough to say no to her and contradict her. The dad and the older daughter are her slaves who follow her blindly that's why she loves them. The younger daughter is her own person and that is something the mum couldn't take. If I were the younger daughter, since I am already earning money on my own, though it'll be hard, I'd definitely move out of the house.

[@ashleyjohn7738]

I dont think she has enough money to move out

[@thesoonyoungtohoshi0615]

@@ashleyjohn7738 That's maybe true but living alone in an apartment than with a mum that is so toxic is much better. She doesn't need to rent a gorgeous apartment. For as long as it's safe and gives a roof over her head at night, then I think, it's better enough.

[@taemako8099]

The Soonyoung to Hoshi maybe she should live with a room mate so it wouldnt cost as much :(

[@mandiriwahyu1186]

People like that exist. If everyone always follow her order she will getting more and more abusive and feeling powerful

[@ashleyjohn7738]

@GIT GUD Yup, that's probably a wise thing to do to avoid unnecessary friction. When she is independent she can live as she wants

[@ramyeonwithchips8747]

"You speak in a cute way, but you text your daughter cruelly." does the mother realizes she got roasted by sarcasm?

[@Sodaliciouspop]

She got roasted a lot tho. Idk if she realized it or nah

[@elaineoh3984]

Yeongja was so over her right from the start lol

[@kokuhakuqiun4215]

@@elaineoh3984 you could tell Yeongja was over this lady from the start! I’m over her too!

[@kokuhakuqiun4215]

Mom’s playing Favoritism. The moment my suspicions are confirmed, i would move out and disown her even if I’m a minor. Her mom is so toxic!

[@kokuhakuqiun4215]

Yeongja is the best at roasting! Also the daughter comes home late because her school is far away! If my kid came home late because their school was far away, i would let them eat dinner (because abuse is UNACCEPTABLE NO MATTER WHAT) and then send them to bed. I would let them get breakfast early and then leave, with some money.

[@gonkgonk6928]

I'm pissed at the people who didn't think this was a concern

[@Slenderman63323]

I think sometimes the button presses don't register because of interference. They should give a few more seconds to register presses.

[@alexjia6214]

'' something terrible happened to her in 9th grade'' and then she started smoking and coming home late... the daugther most likely suffered a lot and didn't know how to cope, and instead of helping, the mom dragged her further down.

[@PrinceDuCiel7]

This! The Minute I heard that I knew it was a trauma response. The mother needs to fuck all the way off and I hope the daughter gets counseling so she doesn’t need validation from that witch.

[@liastorm795]

Exactly 🤦🏽‍♀

[@samiraalam3186]

Correct

[@vishnuk1840]

True but Asian households don't do counseling n stuff!! They just wanna bury n move on like nothing happened... 😭

[@kal_theradish1892]

@@vishnuk1840 that is why lot of teens spend their time all on their phone or sleep

[@adiahtaylor7173]

First time being a parent? Lady you have an older daughter and both of your children are pretty much grown. You have had years to learn and treat your child way better than what you are doing. This is just an excuse for treating her daughter like crap

[@88ひびき]

lol ikr, so lame. "i'm just an inexperienced mom" like... bitch i'd understand if you were talking about being a mom with only 5 or less years of experience but both her daughters are grown

[@GaaraFan01]

I’ve never even been a parent, I’m a fucking orphan myself and even I have more maternal instincts than this lmao

[@bambi325]

Ikr this is so crappy ... like what do you mean by first time being a parent? This isn’t like a job change or anything

[@pri2028]

"inexperienced mother" my ass is all I can say

[@jannahr]

im not even a mother but i think i know more of how to treat my children than her. who the fuck seeks revenge on their children. she made mistakes but instead of disciplining her she made the daughter struggle even living. she took money from the daughter when she couldn't even eat

[@Jana_7]

If I had a mom like this I would find a way to move out. She is so cruel. If she treats her own flesh and blood daughter like this I feel sorry for her enemies.

[@Yx6583]

Yea I bet she wish to do so but right now she struggles to even pay for transport and proper meal. So moving out is not a choice

[@ScarrVett]

She had to either choose 2 of 3 things: college, food, or housing to pay for

[@strawberrie6491]

uhhh she makes money and doesnt pay any bills she can move to a small place......maybe she doesn't want to have to pay rent.

[@n.masrdbh8820]

Wlc to my life 😂

[@raisachoudhury4071]

If the mother doesn't change I can imagine the daughter never speaking to her again after building her own life and becoming financially stable. I have a really big issue with the dad though, he doesn't do anything despite seeing what his wife was doing and his only excuse was that he would not receive any spending money if he interfered. I'm assuming he works and his wife is in charge of the finances like every other traditional Korean family. If he sees what his wife is doing and understands the emotional abuse she's throwing on their child, then he should just wrestle the purse strings from her. With that kind of immaturity, how is she able to properly manage the family finances? Being a bystander makes you just as guilty as the perpetrator.

[@heleneo.7525]

Did anyone else think that the mom sounded like a 10 year old throwing a tantrum rather than a woman with two full grown children? Her reasoning was so immature and she expects her children to act like adults while she acts like a child. Even before finding out that the daughter went through something traumatic when she was a child, the way the mother treats her was deplorable. After learning that, the fact the mother still withholds affection and support is simply unfathomable. Kid's are not supposed to be perfect. They're supposed to be loved even though they make mistakes, because they're kids.

[@roxylipz2672]

She's sick. Like schizophrenic

[@artemisa1523]

@@roxylipz2672 She is a psychopath, a schizophrenic person has visuals and auditives hallucinations, schizophrenics can manipulate but never as much as that woman because they are being haunted for his own mind. Consider that a schizophrenic can't have a totally normal life, just by talking with one o them you can sense that there's something off. A psychopath is the master of manipulation, know what to say and when to do it, and for the society, he/she is a model citizen. A schizophrenic is more likely to believe that is being haunted by a sect, the aliens, a man in white clothes or whatever other creation of their mind, the person would be nervous, with tics and with their eyes fully open, they can wall windows and doors of their house due to the paranoia and even don't recognize his own family or believe they were somewhat substituted by someone else or something else. I'm not a psychiatrist doctor, and it can be mistakes in my comment, my knowledge, if it can be called that, comes from my own experience with my schizophrenic mother.

[@maryamaabukar8094]

@Diana calm down bro but dad tru

[@aleemahyasir7184]

But as you know, she's and inexperienced mother, so that's why it may be hard for her

[@inchi8353]

Well said...

[@genderwizard]

It's called abuse not a 'worry' this entire family is trapped by the whims and moods of one member.

[@onceaitrooperreveluv8917]

Exactlyyyy

[@mahoufairu6437]

The likes are 666 whoah

[@armyblinkweeb5142]

Lool

[@hyejinbang3061]

Yeah, they aren't being considerate and understanding but listen to their miods and current emotions

[@Lee-hp7qt]

This show close like my boyfriend happened his life make me feel so sad anyway this right !!😔😪

[@mimi_riley]

Everyone’s talking about the mother, which is understandable because that was a huge problem with the way she’s parenting, but no ones talking about how sweet the boyfriend is. He was so sweet when he answered about how much he loves her, and how he nursed her when she was sick. That’s what a good boyfriend does💛💛

[@shreyapatnaik2629]

touchwood! for him to come to this show for his girlfriend, to sit with her family even though it's awkward. He's a keeper!

[@handeali5095]

I was looking for this comment

[@Saiki_Jelly]

This literally broke my heart. The mom should've never sought out revenge in such an immature way, especially knowing your daughter had experienced something traumatic in her life. But the ending really broke my heart. The daughter really put on a lot and is finally able to breathe. I'm more happy for her than I am for the mother.

[@Saiki_Jelly]

BTSRainbows Saranghae exactly what I thought, it's a real shame. Parents are supposed to teach us the right way to deal with problems, this definitely was it.

[@MeiYingLim]

the mother is a narcissist.

[@brachiorawrxd]

Bread Genie that depends if they're good or bad at auditioning and dont bring them up please

[@akutagawasneck4046]

Stray Kids this is random but ur profile picture is BEAUTIFUL!

[@osteikaBLACKSWANjoseph]

@@alexaplaybtsbts463 i'm an army but this is really irrelevant.

[@secondtime885]

What Lee Young Ja said brought tears to my eyes 😭😭 she's right that the mother have been acting immature and way too harsh to the daughter. It's kinda strange to me because the mother isn't like any other parents. Most parents would be upset too if their child does something bad but to take revenge on them?? Most parents wouldn't bear seeing their child suffer. Lee Young Ja is like an angel!! Suzy, Yoona and other celebrities are pretty by Korean standard but Young Ja is charming and wise and fun all at the same time, I can feel her presence lights up the studio and it's not something we can often find in someone 😍😍😍 I hope she finds the best love in this world

[@shuhadiaryy]

Ikr.. She always makes me cry with her wise words You can definitely feel her honesty when she speaks her mind. After all these years, imo she is still one of their best female MCs and comedians idk I really love her so much. I feel like I've learned a lot from her and this program to be a better me. I really want her to meet someone who really knows how to appreciate her and makes her happy. 💕

[@secondtime885]

@@shuhadiaryy yes!! She deserves so much love!! I think she should marry a foreigner because her personality suits it and foreign people tend to be more free and careless about what people think.

[@Izumi70V3Naruto]

I agree with you Mostly when things get so worse the one will step up is yeongja or dongyup I think if yeongja quit this show will have a big loss...

[@NEjerMaquillaje]

I have met a lot of women's that are like this.... women that grew up in a difficult environment either way they become a lovely mother that doesn't want their kids to suffer what she did, or she would have the mindset of "I suffer this and my kids will to" when I cross with the second type of mother I always told them how stupid they are even if they are older way older than me. Maybe I didn't grew up in their same environment, but I did live my hell in a different way when I was a kid and still in fighting with it today and If I ever become a mom I'm going to make my best to make my kids never feel the way I felt and sometimes feel.

[@MariahBunni]

So love and support Young Ja so much :( People always make fun of her weight but I think she is the most beautiful because of her heart and humility :(

[@mahimahayat4698]

the mother literally said "its my first time being a parent... im an inexperienced mother" when she has a 20 year old and a 22 year old. i can't find it in my heart to understand where the mother is coming from, i just can't. edit: thank you guys sooo much for the likes anywaysssss praying for this mom and daughter because *sigh* yikes, am i right? ok ty bye

[@orsonsadler]

HAYAT 1998 lots of parents feel that way even when their kids are young adults. having kids that are young adults can be even more stressful because there is so much more that can go wrong and more potential for clashes especially if they are still living with you. there's not a magical age where you suddenly think "now i know everything about parenting". it's different for everyone

[@MariahBunni]

Yeah inexperienced my ass, people don't have to be a mother to realize how bad this lady treats her kid.

[@emeralddust1998]

Yeah.. she's too weird to be a parent...

[@SheConspiracyPlotter]

@@xiaogyoza that tactic rarely works, she would have just become more defensive. i think the way they did it was ideal

[@mahimahayat4698]

@@SheConspiracyPlotter I personally feel like they should have done it like good cop bad cap with some of them being straightforward and aggressive with the others being calm and reasonable.

[@radhwaashraf2067]

mom: "she didn't study at all during middle and high school" daughter: **literally had to work part-time jobs throughout her middle and high school years just to survive**

[@iyc-hhusupremacist492]

Honestly, I was on the verge of crying because of Youngja. Can she be my mom? 😭

[@blueraineee]

Youngja basically raised her niece/nephew but yet they didnt even invite her to his/her wedding. She has gone through a lot and learnt from the mistakes that she made.

[@ydn289]

@@blueraineee Ikr.. Youngja is seriously a victim. I still remember that episode, she said she spends so much time and money in raising her nieces and nephews, but when her nephew got married, everyone else in the family got customized clothes made for them for the wedding, except for her.. I mean that was a really hard blows. I also remembered where in an episode, she broke down because all her life, her parents never ever once said that they are thankful and grateful for having her as a daughter.. She also explained how her mothers always loved and cared for her brothers much more than her, she always felt left out and unloved. Whereas imo I think she contribute the most for her family. I guess thats what made her so tough and understanding. I just hope that she will be happy with her life and hope that nobody would ever have to go through the same pain and suffering.

[@jul2447]

@@blueraineee why😢😢😢

[@jul2447]

@@ydn289 I think there are still a lot of stories about her mother's love. Btw do you know what ep about her niece?

[@blueraineee]

@@jul2447 I can only think that because the way she brought them up might not have been favourable to them? from what she has told, they were kind of rebellious somewhat and she had gone through drastic measures to get them to their senses. That might have been the reason for estrangement.

[@bosbosloo780]

This mother don’t be suprised one day suddenly u find u are alone.your daughter won’t bother to even see n take care of you because u treat her this way.she is one fierce lady just by her face

[@oscaka0073]

Wanna know the sad thing is ? She will probably be the one who will take care of her mother the most when she's ill someday . Talking from experiences .

[@minseokie5120]

If youngja says something, she really mean it. Just sometimes she thinks she has to be professional bec she's one of the panels that she cant cry in front of the audience.

[@meganwilliams7129]

This mother is giving me so much anxiety. How can she treat her child like that. Yea the daughter might not have been the best when she was in High school, but you can tell she's changed. If I was the daughter I would just stop talking to the mom and when I get the chance, I would move out. She would never hear from me again. The fact that she's ignoring her daughter for revenge shows what kinda of person she is. I would honestly ask her, "If you are just going to treat me like this, you shouldn't have given birth to me." I really hope this mother changes her ways. Edit: Every time YoungJa gives a emotional speech I always start to tear up.

[@AyAReI00]

@@hittaledigtnamntack narcissict mother, as simple as that ... Everything is about them , HER feelings, HER revenge, HER Money , HER rules, obviously la k of empathy is what narcissict people is all about, no one care but them, is a spectrum of the behevorial disorders (antisocial disorders)

[@AyAReI00]

@@hittaledigtnamntack also the cold shoulder treatment is psycological manipulation

[@hittaledigtnamntack]

​@@AyAReI00 Yes, that seems likely. I wish the mom would get a psychiatric evaluation. At least the daughter would get some answers that way.

[@NEjerMaquillaje]

I have met a lot of women's that are like this.... women that grew up in a difficult environment either way they become a lovely mother that doesn't want their kids to suffer what she did, or she would have the mindset of "I suffer this and my kids will to" when I cross with the second type of mother I always told them how stupid they are even if they are older way older than me. Maybe I didn't grew up in their same environment, but I did live my hell in a different way when I was a kid and still in fighting with it today and If I ever become a mom I'm going to make my best to make my kids never feel the way I felt and sometimes feel.

[@AyAReI00]

@@NEjerMaquillaje of course you learn that, my mom learn It from her even MORE narcissict cruel mom that was even worse cus she was also mysoginist ... She is a less terrible versión of my grandma

[@densilhmay8262]

"I don't like her anymore".....and then she is like: "Of course I love my daughter" ......yikes The scariest thing to me (other than the not specified horrible event in high school....) was that the sister and father didn't respond to her texts in the group chat and that they went to eat without her. It's like the mother dictates who to exile and the family follows her orders. That's just creepy and really sad as well.

[@pragnya_mati]

“This is my first time being a parent”....no one is a parent twice is she a fool

[@NeonnaCh]

Ikr???!! It's everyone else's first time too but she FAILS AT IT TERRIBLY

[@otaku5865]

We share the same name I'm Pragnya too😀

[@pragnya_mati]

@@otaku5865 omg lol HIII♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

[@nanatinkey5290]

Yeah,and it’s also her daughter’s first time of being a teenager back then,so the things she did should be forgiven,especially that her mother also did some those things in the past

[@mirimartinez1946]

Her mom is so frustrating, and the way that she was like "all I wanted to here was an apology from you" even tho the daughter had already apologized before omg I'm Just so mad and sad rn

[@kpopfans7284]

she didnt even apologized to her daughter...

[@Leizlabaya]

she’s asking for her daughter to apologize even tho the mom herself needs to apologize

[@ogunyemiaisha98]

The mother isn't the only one at fault the whole family was ignoring what was happening I don't blame the mother alone I also blame her sister and the dad. The dad might have said he helped her but the help he gave was too little

[@CROAiva]

you need to understand this household, i have a friend whos mother is similar to this one, if the father gave too much money to her she would notice and make his stop completely, thats why he could only give her little but frequently

[@booaspirit9139]

ivy I think they may have not just meant money wise since he didn’t even help her when sick either although it’s kinda understandable given the situation but it’s definitely beyond just financially

[@carolinevasconcelos3634]

@@booaspirit9139 The fact that they didn't even responded in the group chat when she was sick it's disturbing. Neither of them really like her, they're protecting their own ass all the time.

[@gabbyparker4782]

I think the others were just too scared for themselves in that environment, it’s sad and upsetting but it happens. They both did somewhat try helping in different ways, even though it wasn’t much help.

[@nya5934]

Actually you are wrong @ivy. So what if she stops giving him money? If she’s the money maker then he should find a job and get a backbone. Instead of giving into her way, he needs to try to change her. If he can’t do that, he should threaten her with divorce and help out his daughter instead. I am Asian so I know the taboo behind divorcing however, if my daughter had as disgusting a father as this mother, I would not think twice before standing up against him.

[@armybts1943]

Who else cried??? Actually I can't hold my tears... This video make me feel how much my mother love me and treat me so good.... The only thing that I can do is hoping that the relationship between them won't be as awkward as it is in this video and will be more comfortable....

[@nazhifatruly9694]

i cried. now im way more grateful for my mother's love too

[@1412bd]

I cried knowing how hurtful it is when your mom talks about exacting revenge on National TV. I had my fair share of run-in and conflicts with my mom when I was in my teens to late 20's, but I was never deprived of food, lodging or care from her. As soon as I was married, I loved my mom even more.

[@alvenlim6803]

Same here, feeling like my mother was the best mother in the world

[@cinnamountain]

I'm glad you had a mother like that. I cried too, but because I relate to the story a lot. My mom has never gone as far as asking for money to live in my own house but she is very cold and I've felt like she hates me more times than those I've felt she loves me...

[@kookoojeon9722]

I tried to held my tears, but then BAAAAMMM I read ur comment. Guess who sobbing in the corner.

[@heyitsvick]

i just realized how manipulative her older sister is. "if you will speak in a soft way or act cute when she is in good mood, then she will give you everything", also that fact that she is making wounds bleed again, and then acting like nothing happened, or even saying that she helped her out. everything makes it into manipulation.

[@sophiaharalson6137]

I totally agree with you, but I also think that the mother is the puppet master in all of this!

[@RiRi-ku6xz]

Idk I sometimes do same things like act nice and adjust to other ppl And i advice ppl to do the same when they find it hard with some kind of ppl …..like don’t be a stiff head Idk how usually ppl deal with things like that…i find that if u don’t adjust to some ppl type of joking or talking or taste and opinion or whatever..u wouldn’t be able to set together and u would eventually dislike and tire each other…that’s important for ppl that u wanna do this for and u like..like family …u don’t wanna always dislike your family and not set with them bcuz u have different taste or way of joking…u r nit always gonna grow the same as ur parents…and I don’t want to not be able to set with them or to grow apart…so i adjust I don’t consider that manipulation..it just what it is And I’m not hurting anybody

[@RiRi-ku6xz]

@Remake it’s not always ppl who force me to be nice Like for example with my grandma…I’m a completely different person when i set with her…bcuz i know what she likes and what makes her happy so i act a certain way She’s not forcing me…if i want i can just ignore her like i did for the longest time…but then i wanted to get closer and i do it willingly bcuz it makes her happy

[@Crazygirl123xD]

Yesss I don’t know why they didn’t bring that up because the mom even said that her youngest daughter was a yes man! Her oldest definitely knows that as long as her younger sister is in her moms bad side than she can stay on her good side. 🙄

[@jineadelisha]

she should’ve said “she’s not raising me to be strong” *”she’s not raising me at all”*

[@AineeChoi]

I have never been so frustrated before. I watched many episodes of Hello counselor and this one is the most frustrating for me although for other viewers there are worse concerns. How can the mom act so immature? If I was the daughter I would not be thinking if I was 'someone else's daughter' but more of like 'WHY DID YOU GIVE BIRTH TO ME IF YOU ARE GOING TO TREAT ME THIS WAY' Something like that.

[@ittybittymouthful]

I am 100% certain the mother grew up as an orphan. It's the only thing that explains her behavior and attitude towards her own child, and not to mention the lack of empathy as a mother is astounding

[@AineeChoi]

R C I never thought of that. It could be that she is an orphan. That is a reasonable thought! They never asked about that mom's parents or family when she was young.

[@lokesux7692]

i would have probably ran away from home or dropped out, i would never be able to bear all that weight 😫

[@cinnamountain]

My mom is kind of like that too, and she wasn't an orphan, but her mother wasn't very affectionate towards her either. I sometimes get scared I'll carry on that characteristic of her if I ever become a parent and for that reason as well I don't want to be a mother...

[@flowerthinking6206]

Nah the most annoying one is the dad who doesnt care about his children and only cares about his car

[@elepeneleven5464]

my brother even had been a drug addicts, but my family never once abandoned him (really need a lot of patience and efforts,believes me its not easy)...and now he back on the right route,even have a family of his own. True love can really change someone. never set a revenge on your own family just because they make mistakes, give them as many chances as you can (also guide them).

[@LydiaALau]

Exactly the same situation with my younger sister as a teenager she became addicted to drugs and all the troubles that come with it but my family never gave up on her, and now shes doing much better, she went back to school, stop doing drugs and even stop smoking and is living on her own, I am a witness that family love, support and patience can transform someone for the better

[@Izumi70V3Naruto]

Agree.. You can punish but then love and guide that person is the most important thing Cause only love can change people heart Not a harsh world to live in Maybe the person will change like only adapting but the heart never understand what the true meaning of life

[@dalilahdali6970]

Elepen Eleven im happy for your family !!

[@h.a7688]

Elepen Eleven.... happy for your brother, he must have been struggling a lot, your family is just amazing and rare in nowadays .. GOD bless you and them

[@pearlyseine8957]

Beautiful family❤

[@jonacial8803]

You can clearly see that the daughter wanted to cry just from the beginning but tried to hide it with a smile. I was so upset and sad about this the whole time

[@ririafril5974]

When kim jeong ja speak slowly..i cried so hard... Please be happy girl..you deserve it... And thanks to God that i have a mother who love me... I love you mom

[@Tanax13]

When Somyi said: "I want you to love her.. simply because she's your daughter" Hit me right in the feels ..

[@mirroruniverse9331]

That was a very small statement but very deep

[@user-bt4jo8qu7i]

That woman sounds like a narcissistic mother. She break her own rules but reprimands her daughter for breaking them. She can't even see her own flaws. She "punishes" her daughter so she gets her way. This is abuse, starving your child as punishment smh. I hope she moves out so she doesn't have to endure anymore abuse. The mother is never going to change. I find it hard to believe that breaking your rules has caused her to "hurt". When the daughter leaves, her mother is forced to face the fact the she is a miserable empty shell.

[@mei_xiao6478]

Yes premmtty sure she’s narcissistic the bad kind

[@Hosigie]

I wish that girl moves away from home and finds a new place and good friends who will take care of her. That mom is horrible. I also think Youngja would make a great mom.

[@roxylipz2672]

She might follow her. That is so sad

[@ichigogogracie3371]

She honestly would XD

[@StellaKouevi-uu3se]

Yeah more people need to realize cutting off toxic people is valid even if it’s family

[@pikachuthunderbolt3919]

I don't think these types of kids ever want to have family or responsibility in their life. They are already too depressed in their life that they just don't want to bound and break again

[@KimSooYun94]

your second daughter is already 20 years old, WTF you mean by inexperienced first parenting!? including your first born, you already have 20+ years experience!

[@ginnyl7208]

Lee Young-ja was amazing. She really hit the mark and I could feel her emotions. I feel so bad for the youngest daughter. I have no idea what happened in 9th grade, but you could see that when she mentioned it, that the whole family started crying. She was just a teenager who was trying to find a way to deal with her feelings. She really is trying to change and I hope she and her family can resolve this issue and be more loving towards each other.

[@하얀들꽃-z6s]

난 살다살다 이런 엄마는 처음이네요 자식때문에 속썩고 썩어도 조금만 잘하면 다 잊어버리는게 엄마인데 너도아파봐라 복수한거라니 엄마가 무섭네요

[@seorae806]

When the 'mother' sighed at 8:51 I fcking lost it Like seriously, WOMAN, if you're gonna treat your daughter like that then you shouldn't have had kids in the first fcking place

[@ΜαριαΓερογιαννη-σ7δ]

Agree

[@kabibgoingtokickblondirish5398]

Maybe she didn't want the kid abortion isn't legal in korea

[@netizen1622]

AGREED

[@mundanemonday46]

Kabib going to kick blond Irish ass why did she have two kids or so then?

[@Janiella89]

Showed her true self hehe.. she was trying to be sweet and doing aegyo and stuff then this.. 😪

[@RhubarbPlantz]

Oo boy. This has got me feeling all sorts of things. Mother aside, the callousness from her sister and father must of also been heartbreaking. The fact that a whole family has to conform and "play" to be on someone's good side is very telling for how toxic the mother is. Good on the girl for not becoming spiteful, but she probably has a ditch of doubts about her place and importance in the family.

[@ghostofmisao.]

She doesn't deserve these freaks, putting on masks for people. I hope she will find some peace and get to cut these toxic people out of her life.

[@adele2952]

Well, I hope that the tables turn, and the mother spends her old days all alone, because she truly does not deserve her daughter's care.

[@asangi6850]

Imagine being able to watch your own daughter starve herself because she was too broke just because she didn't apologise for finding not the best way to relieve stress that you most probably caused smh

[@Lolvity0610]

Can we just appreciate how sweet and kind Yeongja is? Like dude, when she was speaking I cried so hard because of how relatable she was and how sincere she felt towards the mother and the daughter, and when she was getting teary when the daughter was speaking to her mum I was about to cry again-

[@unknownuser4676]

Me: liking every single blaming comments about the mother (and the family as well)

[@maryh1603]

Ahahahahahh samee

[@xiaoli_jiang]

Same

[@urmom7866]

how do you like a comment twice?

[@lunabtxt]

Same lol

[@mars2101]

The mother is one acting like a child in this relationship. Yes, she may have been rebellious in her teens, but how can you just hold such a long-term grudge over something like that

[@marumaro2012]

She said that ofc sbe would love her daughter but at the beginning when they asked her if she liked her daughter she said no, wknclalcpa she KEEPS CHANGING HER STORIES

[@apriliapptr]

We literally can see her mom try to make a fake story. She said that they are happy familiy. I can't BELIEVE

[@kaisooforlife1232]

aprilia pangestu putri I know that this is not related but I read your last sentence in Chen's voice accidentally 😅😂

[@apriliapptr]

@@kaisooforlife1232 i can't believe 😂 /Chen🙌

[@kpoploverskimeunrin9531]

I cried about their story...I'm so lucky to have a loving and caring mom...I think my mom is the best mom in the whole world she do everything to give what I want and always here by my side and always comfort me when I have a problem...My mom is very proud of me and makes me feel special..so in order to make her happy I study hard and give my award to her...I don't have a true friend so my mom is like my best friend too...I'm very happy and grateful to have a parent like her..and I'm also grateful to have a loving and caring dad too...

[@Bro-tl1ev]

Youngja is the best. Her parents didn’t show her much love by growing up. She turned into such an amazing person and always knows how to touch peoples hearts. I love her

[@ciarat8813]

She’s not a real mom what mom even thinks about getting revenge on her own child over something so small. Just thinking about it is wrong and so immature

[@jayal5771]

hi hi it's hate. She hates her daughter.

[@ittybittymouthful]

99% of Korean mothers are not like this. She is a very unusual "mother." My only assumption is that she must've grown up without a mother figure or any parental love herself to have become the kind of mother that she is. Revenge and spite to her own child? Honestly, I clash with my mom and get into arguments cuz she nags me but after watching this I just want to run and hug her and THANK her for unconditional love!

[@flanaggenwaters]

Nah. I bet more want to do this but don't because of how they will be viewed by society. Indian families are like that too. "Log kya kahenge?". "What will other people think?" My parents told my sister if she doesn't follow the rules she can go live on her own. She did the same in high school as this girl: smoking, drinking, lying, hanging out late at night with boys (you know how asians are with boys), getting tattoos, not dressing "modestly", taking birth control ( we don't know if she had sex or not in high school but we are also Catholic and according to the Vatican Council you shouldn't take birth control because it's a contraceptive). Parents are like: Living under my house, then obey my rules. Which is something I agree with (although from time to time I'm like "Ughhh why?!?!") My sister was able to move out because she joined the military after high school so she was getting money and a place to live, however my parents and her have been on bad terms since her junior year of high school till now - 6 years later. Their relationship has gotten much better since my sister is doing okay living on her own and she sometimes gives them money and stays more in contact with them then she used to. My sister is still probably doing a lot of the things my parents don't approve of, but since they are not actively seeing her doing it, it has become more of a out-of-sight, out-of-mind thing. And my parents have said that they were hurt by her actions. But they never stopped loving her. Which I believe this Korean mom did as well. She never stopped loving her daughter, but she was probably too proud to make up with her daughter. She probably wanted the daughter to do something first. I'm glad that the daughter brought the concern to this show because this was a much needed wake-up call for the mom.

[@grujose551]

@@flanaggenwaters it's the mother's ego that kills the family. You could literally see that every single member of the family have to tiptoe around her.

[@minoriruba1828]

But what about controlling the husband's money??????

[@snehachoudhury5721]

@@flanaggenwaters I guess I don't belong to an Indian family since my parents are very liberal 😂 Yeah the dating, drinking, smoking and pre marital sex is a rule. But let's not deny how it's an untold rule almost all over the world except for some countries. Under age drinking and smoking is really bad for health and it's perfectly fine for parents to object that. But even if I happen to break any of these rules, my parents won't treat me like this. Heck 90% of families won't treat their children like this. They'll be really angry and probably won't talk to me for a week or two. But they'll forgive me in the end. I'm really really sorry for your family. It's sad when parent's ego comes in between a child and a parent's relationship. May your sister remain happy and may your mother's and her relationship heals again.

[@sanjanasriv]

@@flanaggenwaters My parents would be extraordinarily mad. _My_ parents, personally, wouldn't ignore me but I do understand that others might. But this mom, I understand that she's trying to teach her daughter a lesson but is she so blind that she can't see that it's ripping her apart? That daughter is clearly so hurt! If your daughter is breaking down and it's because of you, no matter what she's done, a mother should try to _help_ her and not punish her furthur.

[@adlinazulkifli7187]

And she didn't even talk much on how her mother treats her sister differently. If i were her, i would have put all the faults on my mother, thinking on how she loves my sister more than she do to me.

[@mozorellastick2583]

faaz yea, she seemed so mature and ready to forget all of it. She just seemed so desperate to reconnect with her family again that she was ready to forgive all of their faults :( i feel so sorry for her

[@gabrielleflores4354]

you're getting revenge just because she did'nt apologized to you? omg

[@jul2447]

RIGHT, not providing basic needs to her child and making them work like a slave

[@milkyyy3720]

Not even that- she’s mad cuz she felt that her apology wasn’t “sincere” enough

[@neonsshi5080]

Yeongja seems really a beautiful person, she always gives good advice. I like the way she empathise with other people!

[@bestassianforyou4184]

Lee young ja is soo sweet! It’s sad seeing her cry

[@sesegood]

The mother is a psychopath.

[@りの-l9c]

I feel like there's too much transactions going on within the family. They pay each other for their work as if they're in a workplace. The mother should not hold onto one mistake and constantly think that her daughter should receive punishment for what she suffered. She should talk with her daughter about it and not keep it inside

[@jkwanyn]

A person like that should not be made to control the finances of the household. Blackmailing your husband with money that he has worked for helping his own daughter is not acceptable.

[@geminaeii]

Lady, It not right for your OWN children to pay you for the things your supposed to do as a mom. Like is this ur first time being a mom? Even Im not a mom and I know that..

[@vanessabriseno6877]

I'm laughing at how everyone is exposing the mom and she is pissed😅

[@arinanamjin2622]

Vanessa Briseno How am I the only one liking this comment?

[@DannyBoo242]

Young Ja is one of the best. I really wish her noting but a great life

[@UniqueMusicxAddictz]

She wasnt teaching her daughter anything by being that mean to her. It could cause resentment and hate in the end and make her not want to take care of her family when they are older. And just by looking at the daughter's face u can see how upset she is. Even though i don't condone smoking( at all )and drinking at a young age, I would rather ask why and teach her why she shouldn't do those things for her own benefit

[@atp9771]

So instead of showing her love and guidance to help make her daughter a better person, the mother decides to neglect her daughter and do cruel and immature things that cause her daughter more stress ~ I hope that the daughter is able to prevail and escape from her cruel mother

[@atp9771]

I mean, I understand that the mother may be disappointed in her daughter or frustrated with her daughter, but nonetheless leaving your daughter to her own means to the point that she can’t afford to eat or go to school is not the right way to go about things ~ the mother is too much of a tyrant and has too much pride to ever be a “happy family”

[@annais6391]

절대로 엄마는 자식 상대로 복수같은거 안합니다. 길을 잘못들면 바른 길로 가기만을 기도하는것이 엄마이지 잘못 길을갔다고. 복술를 한다는건 엄마가 아니다

[@hilaholo6822]

I still don't understand why no one proposed youngja? She's beautiful outside and inside

[@Lulu-jb1st]

It seems like whatever happened to her in 9th grade was the cause of the drinking and all, I have a feeling in what it is. The way she couldn't talk about it and broke down says a lot... I get she caused trouble but she was struggling and I am sure it was frustrating for the mother but your child went through something and it obviously damaged her in a way. I hope that the young receives help from whatever it was and now because her mother punishing her just makes it harder. I grew up with a very abusive mother not even close to what this mother is, we are not in speaking terms any longer and I was recently diagnosed with PTSD and Major depressive disorder. I tried to take my own life and I ended up in the hospital. Due to the on going abuse and other trauma.....I get flashbacks, nightmares, panic/anxiety attacks, and certain things I have to avoid in order not to be triggered. It can and will cause harm to a child. I am the outcome of it.

[@dream_candy2173]

Lulu omg I’m so sorry.. I recently found out that I suffer from PTSD too. I grew up in an emotionally abusive home. So I can relate. I hope things get better for you

[@Lulu-jb1st]

@@dream_candy2173 I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you're getting the help you need! Much love💚

[@tikaarefiani1419]

I hope you get better..fighting @ lulu @savewinwin2k18

[@meszmesz]

I hope you will get better, dear. You can get through it ❤️

[@AkiraAlexisSoyra]

Much love heading that way. 😁

[@misha745]

I hope they do an update with this family. I hope things improve between them cause this was just sad.

[@assia1068]

I honestly don't think anything will improuve ! The mother is just so toxic she sould have never got married ! My mother is just like that and belive me it will never improuve !

[@jaejaeshroom]

@@assia1068 same

[@apriliapptr]

@@assia1068 yeah same like my mom. I still can believe i have my like this

[@nermine1851]

My mom is like her too. No matter how much I try with her nothing changes

[@ivyyz_7285]

@@nermine1851 try having a good chat with her first. if that doesn't work do all the little things that will make her happy and hopefully she would feel your sincerity and forgives you. hang in there :)

[@firaskhoirunnisa]

Youngja is the best. She is always saying something great and touched

[@mallang11.11]

아.. 진짜 이런 엄마면 절연하거나 자살했을거 같아요... 진짜 모성애는 만들어지는거라고 생각하는데 그래도 자식한테 저러는게 맞는건지

[@brishawn996]

When the lady asked the mom if she loves her daughter I started crying because I cant imagine if my mom would said no straight to my face with all those people and national television, would be hurtful.

[@sophiaharalson6137]

THAT WOULD BE THE WORST FEELING IN THE WORLD!

[@mozorellastick2583]

The daughter said she experienced something terrible when she was only in 9th grade, Whatever that mightve been, and by the last two years of highschool, korean students get really stressed because of entance exams and are put under a lot of pressure. I can only guess that her drinking and smoking habit came from the immense pain and pressure she was under, while only being a kid. If her parents and family provided a healthy and supportive environment, she mightve not "gone awry". I dont want to speculate but those habits seem to be coping mechanisms for the pain she was feeling. If not, it still doesnt excuse her mum treating her like that. I hope they can patch things up, she caused her daughter so much pain but I hope her daughter can still forgive her, it seems like she wants nothing but to reconcile anyway. I cant imagine what it must feel like to not have that sort of parental support, knowing that no matter what u do, ur parents will always be there to love u unconditionally. If I found out my kid had developed unhealthy habits, I wouldn't turn it into something that has shamed me and hurt me, but try to figure out the root cause, and help my child, instead of isolating them for years

[@hoeseokjung2158]

Niloo Shams EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT! Plus the friend even said that they didn’t influence her to do those things despite what her mum thought.

[@AWEsome3GIRl3sam]

Same, when she said smth awful happened in 9th grade i was like thats probably why she started smoking and drinking

[@rachel8538]

So true.

[@purplemushishi2129]

When they ask whether they like her, the mother said no. Then when they ask the mother again at the end, if she loves her daughter then she said yes. Now, do I miss sth here or the mother keep twisting her words and the stories? Also I think this family revolve everything around money. ' I pay them for their labor' . I don't know if this is normal if your child is already 20. But it's normal in young child to encourage them to help imo.

[@saviralarasati9514]

I cried watching this. I hope this girl find her happiness.

[@krezachan7309]

worst mother i've ever found!! i'm so glad that my mom love me unconditionally..

[@ucantparkjiminheaintevenac1616]

My mom is like this she make me pay for living in her house when i was 13 lol so i need to find ways to make money so i started doing labors

[@mickietaylor2202]

This mom is straight up abusive. She whines like a child when she doesn't get her way. Then psychologically abuses her own child. That's so messed up. That mom needs to grow tf up.

[@lailaa.82_a]

This story stresses me out so much. No mother is experienced. Your child will go through ups and downs, but for you to “seek revenge” is never an answer. You don’t make other ppl suffer just because you suffered. Being a mother means always being there for your child and being their back bone. If your child does something wrong you start from scratch and work on becoming better ppl together

[@Multibiatcheyy]

So I guess the mom doesn't love her daughter unconditionally. I just can't believe she was treating her daughter so brutally in the name of revenge for so long like until when would she be happy... Until she completely killed her relationship with her kid?!.. It seems like the mom is power tripping and the fact that she gets satisfied when she's harsh/cruel to her daughter like good you deserve this you deserve to not eat well or travel to school you deserve to struggle, how twisted is that smh. I'm so glad she has a loving devoted bf he seems to love her unconditionally. if I was her I would've moved out and rent a shared room and not tell anyone I was gone because they all ignore her when she has a fight with the mom. If the mom doesn't improve than the daughter will soon turn cold towards her as well and just leave and never look back.

[@AlphineWolf]

She should just move in with the BF if she can.

[@girafster9198]

She's no mother but a spiteful witch. I hope the daughter get a good job and leave the house asap

[@delphinea.2848]

The mother is the type of person who mistreats her daughter only to then years later wonder why her child cut her out of her life and wants absolutely nothing to do with her.

[@줄게내갤럭시-c8f]

우리는 이런걸 가정폭력이라고 합니다

[@Grizzlebearify]

Poor girl.... what young ja said was so accurate. Parents are suppose to give and love their child but this mother is simply out to seek revenge just cause she’s hurt . Sigh. This girl must hurt a lot :( wish her all the best :)

[@melissa-wx6se]

MAYBE SHE WAS CAUGHT SMOKING AND DRINKING BECAUSE SHE FELT ALONE AND UNLOVED, WHY CANT THE MOM GRASP THAT

[@Sneha-jj7pr]

Yes exactly!

[@taylorfields3919]

that’s exactly wut i thought

[@dearme5043]

Her mom should apologize too.. I have a very stubborn mom too. I yield too her on everything. Apologize for something I dont even start. Yet I still love and respect my mom. But, sometimes when things getting hard every hurt thing that my mom did come back. It's frightening how it make you lose your emotion. I hope her mom can own her mistake and apologize to her daughter for both sake really. Relationship need a balance from both sides so neither love won't be exhausted.

[@thlee3]

Dear Me idk how old you are, but i hope this doesnt haunt you later in life. i hope you can make those critical life decisions for You and not them.

[@vann640]

I started to cry near the end and I still haven't stopped, I related to the girl so much...all I wanted to hear was a sincere "I love you" from my parents but they haven't done it in years...

[@베리조이까미]

딸이 미성년자때 술담배는 나쁘지만 이 엄마의 방법은 지혜롭지 못하고, 사악함까지 느껴진다.. 그저 딸에 대한 복수심 밖에 느껴지지 않는다

[@liiya5334]

Awh this was by far the most emotional and relatable episode I've watched

[@PastelFeathers]

My heart hurts for her. How could a parent ever think of taking revenge on their own child? She keeps saying that she does not feel sinceriety from her child but her child has done nothing but try to make amends for her wrong doings. She's always the one reaching out. Traits of bad parents from this video; Learning that your child is sick and ignoring her wellbeing? Making your child pay for you to do laundry, wash dishes and clean rooms? Not supporting her wellfare and her studies? Silently encouraging the rest of the family to ignore your child because you are mad at them? No matter how angry a parent is, they will never have the heart to ignore his/her sick child when they are ill; not unless they've given up on him/her entirely. I've never heard of a relationship between parent and child this bad. Its usually either; They recieve love but cant recieve much financial help or they recieve financial help with not much love. In this case Eunjoo receive none, which is heartbreaking.

[@rachaelmin4234]

*SHE DOESN'T SEE THAT,SHE SEES MY FAULTS ONLY* yup I could relate to that on a personal level 😔😔😔😔😔😔

[@junkoenoshima6561]

I got tired after watching the supposed "mother" venting her frustrations on her daughter. It's like having a manipulative gold digger as a mother. I felt sorry for the daughter as it caused a deep scar on her emotionally.

[@ucantparkjiminheaintevenac1616]

My mom is like this she make me pay for living in her house when i was 13 lol so i need to find ways to make money so i started doing labors

[@yeuyeu-d4q]

nothing is more precious than the love of a mother.

[@ummmhyeahhh3090]

I’m not the only one who gets a lot of life advice from this, right?

[@chocolateramen6653]

When I hear them saying parents should hug their children after hitting them, I remember when I was young, I hate it when my parents hit me then comfort me, saying they hit me because they love me, they want me to be better, and that they are hurt when hitting me as well. I always question in my mind why would they hit me if they are going to feel sorry about that, isn't it better for everyone if they just dont hit me. Since Ive grown up, Im now able to understand that; however, I still think its hard for a child to understand. So I believe not hurting your children is still a better way to educate them.

[@papaboove5997]

chocolate ramen Finally someone thinks this also. Why hit a young child because “you love them”. That isn’t a way to justify hitting a child to calm your own attitude

[@udiana2887]

Mostly moms who came out from this show show love to their children. But this mother... Yeongja is true to me. Yeongja rarely cries in the show, and never this serious.

[@sunooluvr7570]

i just cried a river watching this since i relate so much

[@san_shine0768]

😭😭 I want to give the daughter a warm hug

[@burntcrackers1838]

Wait wait wait she said it’s my first time being a parent if it’s your first then WHY DOES SHE HAVE AN OLDER SISTER THIS WOMAN MAN

[@natalie949821]

The rules her mom set are totally ridiculous. Why would you make your child feel like they are living with a loan shark? It's no wonder she became a rebellious teenager. Instead of trying to solve the problem properly, she go ballistic on her daughter and take revenge because of her tarnished 'good' image. Everyone made mistakes in their live but that doesn't mean they will never change. The saddest part for me is, this reminds me of my situation so much. I became rebellious because of my parent's bullshit rules, fat shaming, and having to look as perfect as possible in front of others. When I tried to change myself to a better me, instead of helping me they downgrade me even more and make me feel useless. My mom even go as far as bad mouthing me in front of my siblings with the intention of making them hate me and stay away from me. It's tiring you know..when you tried to change but those who are the closest to you keep on bringing up your past mistake again and again. I really hope her mom will change for good before she become mentally unstable and suicidal like me

[@apriliapptr]

She will never change. Bcs my mom just like this

[@sweatyhands4045]

I will pray for you GUYS that a miracle will COME to you GUYS! C: and fighting

[@vittorianasc]

I'm sorry but your mom sucks, don't listen to her, being fat doesn't mean being ugly, you're beautiful and amazing just the way you are, you keep doing you... Unfortunately you can't choose your blood family but you can choose your other family: surround yourself with friends who love, lift you up and support you just like a family should, just like you deserve! Also, don't be afraid to seek for professional psychological help... And remember to love yourself first, don't give up on yourself, you're worth it 💜 FIGHTING!

[@pikabiga]

Manipulation and abuse tactics my mother also used against me and my siblings. She turned my family against me, but then I stopped caring and soon my siblings were the ones in my shoes against her. They cry to me now that they see her true colors. I don’t understand how a mother can do this to her children.

[@helinkaya5442]

The way eunji looked, when her mum said 'bad' stuff about her, I had the feeling that she can cry any seconds. I seriously wanna hug her rn. :(

[@wandernaddy4252]

I got teary easily when it comes to a cruel mom to her own kid. u must provide everything because your kid doesn’t asked to be born. you’re the one who asked.

[@Daisy-zb1bl]

This absolutely broke my heart and made me so thankful for my mom raising me with so much love.

[@allygonz]

I really started crying in anger, how can someone be like that? If I were her, I would not even like to call her my mother for the simple fact that I would not feel like I have a mother

[@katyfong3503]

I watched this episode cause everything the mother said was so similar to my story.... I gave up trying to have a relationship with my mother now. My mother still seeking her revenge on me.

[@NeonnaCh]

Stay strong, buddy. My bf has a similar story and he moved out. The witch never tried to care. We have cut contact and she tries to seek revenge and was caught stalking me and my bf. Instantly blocked her. Abusive people are miserable when they realize they're alone.

[@EXO_and_ENHYPEN_GaveMeBirth]

Stay strong ,sis ! i hope everything in your life gets better !

[@totally_a_spy]

My mum is similar to this but not in the same ways. I see the same mentality tho. I think it comes down to narcissism

[@ibelieveinwoozisupremacy8681]

"this is my first time being parent" BUT YOU HAVE ANOTHER DAUGHTER WHO'S OLDER THAN HER MA'AM. CAN I SLAP YOU NOW?

[@승진유-k1j]

그냥 나가서 따로살아야...가출하는게...진짜걱정근심느껴봐야 정신차릴 에미네요. 보다욕나와서 댓글다는중...

[@lilalily9173]

나와도 버리고 갔다고 할 x 걍 멀어지는게 답

[@kristinenicolenayal9674]

My mom sometimes failed to give us what we want but I'm so thankful that she never failed to love us unconditionally 😭💙