My husband hates our first son. [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.04.01]

[@bleachbag1590]

the husband looks like every bully ever seen in a k-drama

[@okokoklalala844]

got the track suit, piercings, and buzzcut lol the starter kit to a kdrama bully

[@EllieShinKnight]

🤣

[@moodtrbl_]

is that joana ceddia i see

[@dance4ever940]

maybe he should look into acting !

[@chrollosnoseoil9053]

I KNOW RIGHT THAT WAS MY FIRST THOUGHT BOUT HIM

[@TaiJ-Aird]

That second kid is sneaky he is already lying soo much and taking advantage of the power play. They need to watch out for him as he grows older. Edit: I am just saying they need to pay more attention to him because if these behaviors aren't reprimanded at young age it could go into his adulthood. Effect relationships, jobs etc.

[@karinaddict]

Tai J i though so too. he was already manipulative since kid.

[@AnAn-pj9ik]

he is only 9 and he already knows how to talk things around to make it looks good for him

[@lilah3051]

i thought the same too lol

[@intreoo]

Seems like the second observed the eldest sons interviewing and then proceeded to match the same concern. He's actually is pretty sneaky

[@Lin-sx3if]

He's like my younger sister and she's only 7

[@shjns_]

I am glad they were able to properly express how they feel in the end. Having a shitty childhood doesn’t give you the right to project your trauma on your kids. It is also not an excuse to treat you kids like trash.

[@JamConcerned]

Exactly, he seems to be repeating his family dynamic, with no clue how to deal with his emotions.

[@TuxedoMasc]

It's sad but this is often the case when it comes to childhood traumas inflicted upon us when we're young. I thought it was ironic how he said he dislikes his son because he's just like him and he doesn't think profoundly. Like the dad is soo "introspective" himself. What a joke. A lot of times on this show I think people could really fix their problems by trying to take a step back and really analyze the situation properly and fairly.

[@realestjelly]

exactly

[@elfryeorin]

There's many effects of abuse. Some ppl decides that they wanted to be a better person than their abuser, while some other people that was abused becomes easily intimidated. But there's also not so little the amount that do also turned out to be worse or exactly the same just like who had caused the trauma on them.

[@pvreex]

Tbh if I had a bad childhood I would make sure my kids didn't

[@uwuskyeee385]

In the first concern the father said that he was never shown that love when he was younger but he shows it to his youngest son .......... WTF

[@20cmangel]

I don't know if this will help but with that I thought since he was the youngest he got no love so this leads him to love the youngest and scold the oldest unlike his family did it doesn't make what he is doing right but I think that is what he is doing

[@vexu7366]

He is literally imitating his own father's behavior. This is completely normal and actually common. He is treating his eldest as he was treated when he was a child and the youngest as his younger brother was treated and he can't even explain why he's doing it. He is simply subconsciously imitating his own father's actions because that is all he knows.

[@contradictingtroll3765]

I know right, "I was never shown love so its hard to do it" Doesn't seem hard to show it to that one and pop out a third.

[@CypressKing]

He directed his hate for his older sibling towards his eldest son. Since the eldest was treated better when he was young, he wanted the opposite for his eldest child. "The eldest should suffer now because the eldest never suffered back then". Hope that makes sense.

[@durr2740]

ikrr and he said he doesn’t know to show affection but he shows it to his second son like wtf man?!?

[@sihanssi6608]

This case is so typical in hello counselor omg to all korean parents, just treat ur children equally!

[@JessyXi]

Really

[@songmoonlee3127]

Dont narrow it down like that. Youre generalizing korean parents with those that youve seen from the show only. its wrong to say its so typical of korean parents. it happens not just with korean parents or korean families, it happens not just in korea.

[@minaom5253]

Not just Koreans a lot of Asian families

[@carolemerle9995]

@@songmoonlee3127 Heck, it happens here also a lot in the US

[@minaom5253]

@Rene S yeah I agree with you. Quite saddening tho the fact that it is an issue ... anywhere for that matter 🍃

[@juniclee3511]

Being a first child hurts in many ways, especially when parents really don't know how to love their kids. The dad is a good guy, he's just immature. Lee Rae fighting!!!!

[@juliawu8710]

Nomawethu Ncube being the middle child sucks too , in many instances the eldest gets it good

[@JamConcerned]

He needs to know he is setting him up to get bullied. I wonder if the first child was the reason they got married, or does his child mirror his behavior.

[@janada_gamer]

I can't relate to that because I'm the youngest one and my elder brother is the favourite one so I am despised the most.

[@unknownalt5845]

@@juliawu8710 I understand that lol. They usually forget you when you are middle child. My father worried about my elder sibling's career and since my elder sibling shared his interest, they got along better. and my mother doted and had to care for my younger sibling and they also shared the same interest. I wasn't into sports or shopping so I was like the black sheep of the family and the middle child ^^

[@user-pm2zv9fs5r]

@@unknownalt5845 wow. 😥 I feel bad. I'm the oldest but I feel like my parents hate me. When my brother was born, they forgot all about me and I was left to do everything. It hurts me when they say I never do anything because I do. My parents always said it was cuz I was a "big girl" now but when my brother became a "big boy" he never had to do anything I did. Why? Because there was no reason to since I was the one already doing it. Recently my parents get frustrated because they realized my brother couldn't do anything for himself. They blamed it on me and said it was because I was always yelling at him and never a good sister when in truth it was because he didn't know something I had taught him thousands of times already and he always forgot afterwards. I always get mad at him and then my parents always blame me. I've always thought that the oldest was always the one having it the worst but I see that's not always the case. I hope I have another sibling. Right now, I'm older so if I have another sibling, it's my brother who'll take care of him/her. I always try to tell my brother that he gets it easy but he never understands. Another child in the picture would make him so furious since he's used to getting all the attention. I can't wait until I move out. I hope you're doing well. It's sad to see so many people going through the same thing. There's so many of us, so how come no one notices? They should have a parenting class.

[@angelinab.7590]

This makes me feel sad i hope i can be a good mother to all my children in the future

[@alexa-pw6ti]

Angelina B i’ll pray for you to be a great mother! 💕

[@nokasasmr2702]

Same

[@beautifulafricaqueen143]

Same

[@Undiluted_Liquid]

same

[@contradictingtroll3765]

If you are not even sure you will do remotly ok and can only hope on it maybe kids aren't for you

[@madeinbusanjkjm]

It's not the son's fault that he takes after his father, how can he blame him for that? I really don't understand the mentality of some parents...if you can't find it in your heart to love your son then you should at least act like you do even though you don't. He's a grown ass man, he should find enough maturity to realize he is harming an innocent kid with this childish behaviour. If you don't want to pass your traits to your kids then maybe you shoudln't have kids!

[@myshiteu4934]

Made in Busan u think he change after this show??

[@susu_m]

The father said that the eldest son is like him, what if he is like the fathers older brother. Rae is good at everything like his uncle, that would explain the treatment more to me then the father not liking his son cause he is just like me.

[@youtapilote]

Omg Senpai what are you doing here xD (a loyal fan of your videos ;) )

[@loudjinacharleron4634]

OMG hi didn't suspect you here I watch your videos

[@nooraqueen2716]

The oldest look exactly like him the youngest is a replica of his mom , you would think he would gravitate toward the one that resembles him the most

[@JustSoRandomRandom]

everyone's all talking about lee rae and how great he is but no one talking about the 2nd son and how freaking MANIPULATIVE he is at such a young age?? like wtf that's scary. but i'll admit, lee rae rly is super cute. like he's the type of guy i would have a crush on in school cause he's good looking AND athletic HAHAHA

[@erinwhite8456]

Have you ever worked with kids? Kids can be extremely manipulative, even from a very young age. Heck, I used to work with pre-schoolers, they're like literal monsters. Kids are not the innocent little angels that the movies make them out to be.

[@megalines3461]

that's real kids for you lol. sneaky, they are humans after all haha. but you love them all the same.

[@julil.1320]

My youngest brother is 6 and he even knows how to fake cry with actual tears

[@niikocil4006]

i think his father will start change how he treat 2nd son after this, since he already know that his 2nd son can lying

[@yeppoheera]

I dont think much about the 2nd son because he is so young. but I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU. he is the type of evry girl would has crush on lol

[@daisys1616]

Also I think it’s so wrong to talk about the dad “hating” his son in front of the sons that’s just not okay, imagine hearing ur dad say that he used to hate u wtf

[@michellekercy4430]

I think it's better to be honest though because as a kid you can feel the people around you and how they really feel about you. And so making it clear the reasons and everything yes now it'll be tough for him. But as he gets older he'll understand and appreciate the fact that he wasn't lied to because everything eventually comes out.

[@daisys1616]

Eunhyuk_B.I._Mark_V EUNHAE that’s so fucked up.

@@daisys1616 Yeah same they could take the kids in an other room while the father speaks

[@rockiistarz]

@@michellekercy4430 I don't think so. Things like these are just best to not know. Y'know like lying for a good reason. I'd hate to be that kid, seriously.

[@onyeenoma]

I think his son already knew that to begin with anyways. No surprise.

[@fazsaid]

When he put lotion on someone else's back than his pregnant wife in her presence that was just pure disgusting I'm not a wife but can imagine how she felt in the situation Glad things worked out with Lee rae and his dad thou Lee seems quite uncomfortable hope they get more closer together Fighting! Lee rae

[@moonlightpaw5868]

I wouldn't be comfortable with my friend's husband putting lotion on my back. If your friend's husband is not your brother or cousin, you should let him do that. That just shows how much her friend doesn't have respect for her.

[@chimcham6762]

You can tell he wasn’t ready to be a dad, got married too young and treated his kid the way he was treated which is unfair but I hope that he starts treating all his children equally cause this kind of situation leaves a lot of scars.

[@contradictingtroll3765]

I dont think 25 is that young an age to get married at, but he was definitely inmature

[@whotf7666]

not really. yes he's immature but it's not because of his age. he's just straight up immature like-

[@contradictingtroll3765]

@trix o The hell, I thought it was just 1 year but how did the second jump? 😂😂

[@contradictingtroll3765]

@trix o So on the first birthday they are already 3?

[@sky-kj2gj]

@@contradictingtroll3765 late but if you wanna know how Korean ages work just add 1 to it since Korean people count the day they were born as their 1st year

[@janAUpd]

Yul, the second son told lies and said the things that he knows what is acceptable in society. I hope they corrected him after the show.

[@federicaxx9452]

How said so? My father preferred me to my brother and it was always very painful for me because I saw my brother sad about it.

[@camilaminano4043]

@@federicaxx9452 If that hurts him he wouldnt hit his brother and tell his dad to give money only to him and pretend that he's innocent kid who never done that. He definitely knows what it's wrong and what is right.

[@tubatuwariwari99]

This is just sad. The oldest son is so adorable he doesn't deserve that 😢 Poor baby, I'll adopt you!

[@amaliaazizah5621]

No way... her mother loves him.

[@QWERTY-bd9qy]

His mother still loves him, don’t forget that

[@tubatuwariwari99]

@@QWERTY-bd9qy oh I totally forgot abt my comment lol but I didn't mean literally😑

[@QWERTY-bd9qy]

Yumiko Anime ik you didn’t literally mean it

[@angelgwynetriego1563]

But really i want to adopt him too

[@marygrace6764]

Lee Rae, you are loved 😘 you are handsome, cute, smart and kind boy 🤗

[@y_3lle]

mary grace Rae is going to probably grow up and look like Nam Joo Hyuk

[@nouje]

Lee Rae is honestly such a nice kid. You could tell how happy he was when his dad was interacting with him, even if it was awkward and he was trying to hide his smile. I hope the brothers don’t grow up to hate each other and the parents can love all three the same and equally

[@nicxi8629]

Wow, treating the kids differently one thing but being immature especially after his wife's mother died? This is unbelievable, putting sunscreen on other women's backs and going on trips with them. What kind of husband is he? At least if he isn't going to work he should be there for his wife.

[@imanjabrane2072]

Omg I cried.. I know the older son is lying by saying he's ok, he loves his dad etc... he looks so shy and not confident and he speaks quietly.. when he said he loves his dad even tho his dad never really gave him love made me cry so hard

[@trancd822]

Lee Rae is cute. I just love his eyes.

[@zhi_alice_60]

Big true, maybe he will look a like hwang in yeop

[@charissawongyilin747]

pls i’m trying to find him 😭😭😭

[@zhi_alice_60]

@@charissawongyilin747 the kid with blue jacket

[@20cmangel]

I was dissapointed at first but when it was time for the oldest kid to talk and he was scared to say something I almost cried I was so mad how could you be like that to your own son I understand you weren't treated but that is no reason to take out on your kids I really hope when Lee Rae grow up and have children he will never do what his father did to him. 😢😡

[@danielbrusche251]

What the hell is with fathers hating their kids

[@deborahm.6764]

love me honestlyyy, I remember the last time and it made me so pissed

[@shakyadilshani5475]

he's just like my dad

[@abigailk369]

Sha Joy if this is really happening to you then please seek the help or aid of a professional or a responsible adult you trust because it this could have a very negative impact on your mental health and that’s not ok. So please take care.💜

[@minoriruba1828]

I see in west, some fathers are complaining about their kids being taken away from them.....while in Asia (where it's not that common to divorce) I see how these "traditional" father figures treating their kids and I guess this the same reason why some western women divorce their husbands prefer being a single mother.

[@roxylipz2672]

My uncle is like that to my cousin. He beats him a Lot.

[@Tensi1126]

The older boy is so lovable.... so sorry that you were born with wrong dad, but life teaches lot of lessons as years goes by.... you will mature sooner and will know how to live life diligently, GOD BLESS you!

[@dirk9060]

"I Don't Know How To Express Love" How do you d it with your other son then?!?!

[@inthestars94]

I'd like to see an actual resident psychologist there to give them a professional opinion and some knowledge to close down each case after the hosts and guests have all shared opinions... that'd be nice too.

[@Mbeepyd]

For sure

[@630AS]

And then some parents wonder why their kids don't talk to them once they are grown enough Edit : what I've learned about this Check how deep somebody's bagage/trauma is before committing For ladies:don't marry a young immature dude

[@samanthaong7222]

just like my dad, he expect me to treat him like a real dad when he abandoned me and my sisters in the first place.. All he does is just violence...

[@Black_Heart71]

This is really the first time where I like it to see a father´s crying. Such a cute son. He should be proud of him. Damn!

[@amazingstar831]

Not being mean but in these type of cases it's usually the oldest that's the cutest lmao so I find it funny one of the reason's they give for loving one more than the other is cuteness.

[@niadaniels1044]

i was thinking the same shit lmao

[@namratagogoi2763]

I have noticed this thing that the youngest are always born with cute antics, the parents always show more love to them for this reason. I am a middle child I am not very much loved but all the children around me who are they youngest are loved so much

[@rosellasonline1083]

When the dad began to tear up I couldn’t help but smile. The whole time I thought he was awful to his son but him crying just proved he must love him ❤️

[@thangvuong9196]

She married him because he's hot, what she got was an overgrown boy who treats his son as competition for her attention.

[@percycat213]

Accurate!

[@contradictingtroll3765]

I dont see the hot tho, I see on her and she is older but I dont see it on him.

[@biellabiel9902]

He's not even hot

[@roxylipz2672]

She wants a handsome and ripped guy. But an immature one

[@loneranger6549]

rae is so mature and he seems like a good kid, not to mention he also has a goodlooking face. i hope this family reconnected

[@Sunny-di4qb]

Titles like these always break my heart even before seeing the actual video😢💔

[@alkadsingh]

I actually started crying watching this. Its so similar to the treatment I get. I'm the first child and my father doesn't even acknowledge my existence but loves my sister and openly shows it.

[@So.yo11179]

Its really sad to hear what the eldest suffered..I hope from now on the dad can show more respect and love for him. I think the dad childhood influenced his behaviour a lot, but he needs to stop this chain and dont make his kids grow up and become the same way.

[@fathindalila6852]

When the dad lists out the sports rae won and the kid being all happy with it yet still understands that the dad still loves him despite his harsh attitude (for a kid that young, that's maturity) and the mom being touched seeing the father admitting he loves his son, i was already in tears

[@cinnarenaroll1292]

IT'S SO FRUSTRATING HIS SON IS JUST 11 BUT HE EXPECTS HIM TO LEARN FROM AND FIX MISTAKES ON HIS OWN???

[@vexu7366]

I loved this one. I cried. I think the dad finally realized that he was imitating his own father's behavior towards him when he was a kid and by listening to his kids express how it made them feel he was able to actually take a step back and realize what he was doing. I truly believe the dad was hurt when he realized what he's done and I do believe he's remorseful. Sometimes people react without thinking and while they know what they are doing is wrong they don't know how to suck up their pride and say sorry. He was definitely in denial about the impact his actions had on his children. Let's just hope they dont fall back into bad habits!

[@LafaelNaim]

The oldest one is literally me, but my parents didn't think it is. Even now I'm 28, when we eat together noone would even look at me or talk to me and only to my little sister. I got very top on my studies, other people often compliment me, saying I'm going to become someone great and I got promoted at work, and again, noone really compliment me. Everyone keep adoring my sister, telling her she is smart but for me, I never received any of that. I understand them tho, because I was such an active kid in their hard time but I can't help feeling sad. Even I tried hard to live my life on positivity, I lack communication skills. Even I'm good at many things, I still unable to feel happy. Depression is so destructive, don't judge other and be kind because you don't know their's stories.

[@qtp9920]

i feel you

[@sune6708]

At 28, it’s time to move on. Stop worrying so much about your families approval. You’re successful, skillful and I’m sure a great person. So if your parents can’t see that, don’t show them anymore and move on.

[@sugakookieislifeu311]

I CAN RELATE BRUH 😭

[@madhubhashinisavindi9338]

Same for me

[@moniesworld8468]

I hope you and others will find their own happiness 💚💜

[@pineapplegummybears728]

Excuse. Me. He said that he doesn't know how to show love since he never was given it. Then how does he dote on his younger son.

[@exoislegend9291]

Omggg the older son is soooo handsome please he needs loveee, i imagine him as a handsome athlete

[@wwl-ikw]

Damn the first child is freaking handsome. Give it to me if u dont want to love him dad.

[@QWERTY-bd9qy]

Don’t forget that his mother still loves him Also, it would seem as if you see him as an object if you call him an “it”

[@MS-kq3dr]

@@QWERTY-bd9qy that's what i was gonna say - but yes, i agree

[@sofialalala5159]

someone give lee rae a modelling contract already, hes gonna be so handsome when he grows up

[@lisaoppa5784]

The dad is obviously not ready for marriage. He’s very immature and inconsiderate. But i hope after hearing what his son said he will change and treat his wife and elder son better. 🤧

[@goldenbaby6531]

Can i just say the older child is sooooooooo handsome and mature for his age, and he has so much charm. I hate it that his dad doesn't appreciate him😤

[@olivialee3181]

No one: Literally no one: The couple on the farthest right: Holding hands for the entire show🤣🤣🤣

[@waniyahya4255]

Unacceptable reason.. just because the 2nd greet him with love when he get back from work.. the flaws is from u.. the attitude is from u.. he learn it from u.. he see it from u.. u urself is selfish but u confidently say he is selfish?? Ur eldest love to yell coz u yell it to him.. ur 2nd show a love coz u show a love to him.. he admit the younger is worse but he hate the eldest.. im so pissed of..

[@lavinder11]

The younger brother looks bad as hell.

[@ujung-ahujung-hae7503]

he’s a kid

[@vaneet566]

anastasia so is the older one

[@ujung-ahujung-hae7503]

林彦俊 ᴖᴥᴖ yeah i know

[@cut_lery6852]

lavinder11 Omg I agree he screams bad like not kiddy bad but BAD.

[@shotabdi4868]

Bro chill you don't have to bash the younger one to praise the older one. They're kids. Don't judge.

[@13diamondboyscarat87]

Parents love towards children should be above anything in this world. If a child feels his/her parent is treating or loving him/her less than other siblings, it's a failure of that parent.

[@Anna-tm8qs]

I just I want to tsay how charismatic is the oldest kid. He'll be a regular heartbreaker when he grows up. 😍❤️. Also I wish everything will be okay and with the oldest but and with the no2 kid 😉❤️.

[@ekap.1946]

How can you hate such a talented son? Every son grow while watching his father's back. Do not wait to express your love, or you'll sorry. He seems a kind, cute, talented son. Give him love that he deserves!

[@lucisventusnoctis]

He's nice to the younger one because he actually sees himself in the younger one since he used to be the younger unloved sibling. but he's being manipulative and saying it's because of seeing "bad qualities". Hmm no. Guess who else is manipulative the younger son.

[@clala5793]

The dad has a sad backstory but that shouldn't be the reason to do something the same to his child. He should try to do better

[@jesssmily8599]

The moment the father cried he realized his son is not like him after all, he has a kinder heart

[@13diamondboyscarat87]

'In my heart I'm proud of him.' What's going in your heart, you should show it in action dad. Hearts are treasured when actions touch another heart.

[@hyperactivegenie]

I hope that the parents will get marital counseling, Lee Rae and Dad get individual therapy, and the whole family goes to family counseling soon. They all seem to have real feelings toward one another, but the affection is buried in wounds. This is a legitimate concern. Even if everyone is exposed/confronted and promises to be good to each other, on going support is helpful. May everyone who grew up/is growing up in this type of household find healing.

[@e.a.1548]

Thank you for always upload with English subtitles staff ❤️❤️👏👏

[@omq_papix2479]

rae is so mature, it was so touching how he knew his father loved him even though he never expressed it 😕❤️

[@reallyadawn4869]

I love how the dad actually saw how wrong he was and genuinely apologized to his son and wife.

[@Lilyrose23]

I took vacation from hello counselor because of people like him. How does he expect his son to love him when all he does is be hateful to him? He’s the parent, he’s the one who teaches his kids how to feel, express love and be kind. His son is going to repeat the same abuses, and will use him as an excuse 😏

[@leeabe3932]

I am so glad that a show like this exists in Korea, where pain and hurt in people's relationships can be talked about and worked toward healing. What a great show. If we had something like this in the US, I wonder if it would not get crazy like the Geraldo Show - but it could be useful if helpful celebrities helped talk about pain in people's lives on TV so people can become more attuned to addressing emotional pain and suffering.

[@taslucky1439]

my heart goes out to the eldest son.. every child deserves to be loved unconditionally

[@saiyanveg]

It's amazing how kids can sense these types disparity in their parent's attention towards their siblings and themselves. I myself experienced this as a kid, mum cared more about my younger brother than myself. I asked my mum then, and she told me that it was because he was a "weakling". I guess I understood what she meant. The end.

[@kalyaniwengappulli4933]

I want to know do you think it's ok or not ... is it ok to treat like that bcz you are talented than them ....

[@saiyanveg]

​@@kalyaniwengappulli4933 Kids are very observant and sensitive contrary to what general Asian adults say "kids are dumb". If parents treat siblings differently, the one receiving lesser affection will start feeling insecure and probably screw with his/her mental well state. So no. Some people just aren't ready and shouldn't be parents but it is what it is.

[@serenas.9560]

I STARTED CRYING WHEN THE ELDEST WAS TALKING, HE LOOKS SO SAD😭 POOR BABY. On a side note, when the father was talking about his eldest son’s proudest moments you could see the son trying to fight back a smile. I feel like he doesn’t want to show his emotions in front of his father because he has pent up anger and fear so instead he tries to cover it up. Anyways I’m still crying and I’ve never watched this show before so now I think I’m hooked

[@ukhtiiiii]

I love love LOVE how he dodges the questions. It’s not hard to love your own son!!

[@ChristianCLawas]

The eldest is such a mature person ❤️

[@irene-yb8dh]

The boy is so lovable and cute i just wanna hold him tight and give him all the love he deserves

[@estthapovself]

Out of all of the videos I've seen from this show so far, this one actually made me cry in tears. A few made me want to cry, but this one just made me let them all out.

[@aleemahyasir7184]

I was worried and frustrated at the beginning of the video but soon it all went away when they resolved their problem. It was really nice to see his dad realizing that he had done something bad and apologizing for it.

[@yeonjuni3087]

One year later, I hope everything’s okay now, I’m surprised the wife hadn’t divorced and took the kids away in the first place,she believed in her husband. I hope the son is getting better treatment and love.

[@Najmi107]

Patience and hard work always bear sweetest fruits. Love you Rae, stay strong plz

[@apriltunu]

The first son is just too good for them. I feel so bad for the son. No parents should ever do that to their child

[@sabinav.6127]

Lee Rae looks like such a sweet child (and I bet he will be really handsome when he grows up)...Any child doesn't deserve this treatment. My heart breaks for him. I hope his irresponsible father won't be a huge scar for him later on...I would probably divorce my husband if he treated our child like that.

[@diya4116]

Being the oldest can suck sometimes. My dad thought I would be a boy and since it was his first child he was so happy that he would have a son but after I was born my dad realized I was a girl and he was disappointed and upset so....life's great I swear we don't even make eye contact even though we live in the same house

[@dianal8793]

god i am too sensitive to watch hello counselor i cry everytime

[@razonjoanify]

Rae is such a sweetheart... poor boy, his too young to take the emotional responsibility of his parents. His an amazing young boy, I hope you keep building your resilience, your heart and mind is golden. Sometimes it takes dads more time to learn to be fathers... hopeful that yours will change for the betterment of your family.

[@sunshinelove4576]

omg the first son is so cute and the way he smiles is just heaven his parents are bless to have him😭😁

[@kyannenicole]

i was in the same situation, my sister was the older one and i was the youngest one. i was favored by my dad and everyone knew it. my dad said that he favored me more because i show love to him while my sister “cold” to him and stuff like that. when she would get yelled at i would try and run away from my dad and comfort her. it really sucked:(( but the 2nd one is really manipulative. their parents should watch out for him as he grows older

[@goodrose4734]

To hear that your father hates you must be the worst feeling ever. I feel for this kid and his future if the father doesn't check his act.

[@winniethepooh8353]

I think it helps that their mom is at least older than their dad. So that way the eldest can have a little ease knowing he still has her

[@megalines3461]

he is one of the nicest dads (by the end) i have seen on this show. he loves his son, but he sees his mistakes, genuinely feels bad over them and seems to want to make a chance. Lee Rae you have a cool dad 👍

[@nurulhafifah2092]

Lee Rae is so strong, did you guys see he didn't even cry 😢 it just something inside him that can't be explained. I hope their relationship are going strong 🥰

[@KaminoTenshiGel]

WHY PEOPLE KEEP PASSING CHILD ABUSE AS PART OF THEIR CULTURE??.... WHY??? THAT FAMILY SHOULD´VE BEEN INVESTIGATED, AND THE KID NEEDS PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPPORT....

[@mazolegario]

Dang, didn't think I'd cry. I feel really bad for Rae. He's a bright kid. He has a big future ahead. And for the mother, hands down for keeping the family connected. 👏👏

[@seoulbeat943]

26:35 - "You should've been a jerk to the end." My thought exactly. (ㅠ_ㅠ)

[@anthyavila9726]

Don't worry, the jerk is doing that to save face. I don't trust man-babies like this idiot. He's going to go right back to being mean to his eldest son and enabling the manipulations of that sociopathic younger child

[@ichikawaalice814]

I'm watching drama Kill It, and I think that 11 y.o boy looks like Jang ki yong 😁 I hope Rae can be actor too someday or a handsome athlete 😊

[@salma31000]

i'm also watching that ...

[@adorerene5633]

He’s going through soo much at such a young age,ugh I cried at the end I couldn’t help it

[@NhiNguyen98]

I thought that if his childhood was that worse, he would not repeat the same mistake on his kids. But in most cases, it turns out the bad way. This Dad isn’t so bad, he expresses his feelings towards his oldest son, too. Unlike the previous same case of bad Dad, the Dad treated Jian - his oldest son like trash and even worse that he couldn’t hug his son sincerely like what this Dad did here. I hope that this Dad will treat his sons equally after the show, and try to teach them manners well but still express love to them after punishment

[@heyyitsai]

I’m tearing up because it’s so sad that this is such a popular concern in Korea..I hope the next generation of Parents will love their kids no matter if they’re first born or the youngest!!

[@Codenameprada]

I was literally crying watching this it’s too emotional for me cos I can relate to it when ur dad favors ur younger one to u it’s still happening to me well am strong I no am special in my own ways too

[@monicevangelista3514]

I was crying a lot as I relate the part where sometimes the father hit his eldest son. I grew up with strict parents and I have a younger brother. Sometimes when he got angry at either of us, he hit us pretty hard that sometimes it left a bruise the next day. I sometimes told my friends how strict they are and how they sometimes hit me when they're mad and they said that their parents have never done those kind of things such as hitting them or punch them. Relating the eldest son with me and my brother made me flashback to the times where our parents were so strict and violent. I'm just glad that during the time I got stronger, my brother also got stronger with joining some kind of self-defense activities and as soon as it started, my parents hit us much lesser than before.

[@MissSabzSays]

I've watched 8 episodes of this and I have been boohoo crying all night 💔💔 i LOVE this show

[@ikonthegreat6472]

y’know this is straight outta kdrama and u know. it won’t end well! the older brother will be successful in the future and the little one will surely be jealous!

[@shaunbang]

My father was tougher on my older brother and also had severe anger issues but just like we see hints of the older son succeeding in sports helping the relationship, my brother becoming a very good wrestler helped my dad find a common hobby by always going to my brothers matches to take photos and really helped my dad become a better father. Those four years were the best times for my family as my dad was involved and instead of being scary and unapproachable he became one that rooted for my brother and was proud of his success. My brother even gave my dad his championship ring. I wish those days continued but I truly hope this father learns his lesson before it’s too late like my father whom took his own life after things went south after my brother went off to college.

[@amirahf]

rae is so matured even though his father treats him differently from his brother

[@zoralhingkhanthemkipgen2652]

Just looking at rae makes me tear up,he's so handsome.He's smile when his dad talks about his achievement are so precious.Five years have passed I hope they continue their good relationship.God bless your family ❤

[@J_U_N]

My dad is the same way, he favors my younger sister and my older sisters and I just deal with it. He did the same thing and scolded us when we fell instead of asking if we were ok. Eventually I just always put on a face and never admitted when I was injured. I really could relate when the first son he didn’t really care that his dad loved his younger brother more. Obviously it hurts, but at some point you just give up. They’re never going to change or love you the way they are supposed to, so why keep your hopes up? I have given up on my father completely, I have no love for him at all. And I have no problem with that, I am very strong believer in care over genetics, genetics doesn’t mean shit if you don’t actually treat people right. Stop letting your family control you with the idea that you can’t cut off family. Toxic people are toxic people no matter what the relation, and toxic people need to be cut out of your life. Don’t let your family guilt trip you into think that you can’t cut them off. They are not worth it and you are worth more.

[@dancemask10]

Yeah that used to happend with the middle kid .......i understand that

[@Poukette_]

I have the same history, i blamed myself for so long time until i realized it was not my fault.

[@monicaant.1422]

Whenever it comes to family topics I tend to cry and I get emotional 😢 I'm glad they both love each other.

[@Juny0304]

Their eldest son is so handsome ! So sad that he needed to hear all that stuff tho❤️

[@cypidez]

I felt happy when the father and the son started bonding bc when I was young I never got to feel any comfort or love from my father bc he was always out a lot and wouldn't come back for days, he might've gone through a lot but his bond with his father made me cry, ever since my parents divorced 6 years ago it hasn't been the same but his bond with his father made my day. I never really got to bond with my father since he didn't really care about us, 6 years later and i've grown up without a father to look up to. It was recently fathers day and everyone spent time with their fathers and having a great day however I couldn't do that and celebrated it with my mom instead, it hurts to see other kids who still have a father but I've come to accept that sometimes families don't work out and I'm sure there's lots of other people who are also going through the same thing so it's good to know that i'm not alone :')

[@lunali7209]

its always the first child that gets the most shit from the family. i can relate bc i am the oldest child too...

[@ale-hh7yl]

Its norm the middle

[@R4ckstar]

stopn33ding 0xygen I agree I feel like the middle is overlooked and the youngest gets more attention while the oldest had the most care since it was the first born but that’s just me

[@wilmamommae6573]

Well in my case it's the opposite

[@niikocil4006]

i feels like watching drama 😭😭😭😭, my heart so touched when his son say he know he love him, and the father instantly surprised and crying, the feels is like watching thug playing with kitty in the middle of rain 😭😭😭