Why are you always mean to me, grandma? [Hello Counselor / 2017.02.13]

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[@merlinscult]

I really liked when the male guest said 'the older one should put more effort' when people were basically telling the little girl to act nicer and try to get closer to her grandma. She's a child and she shouldn't have to bear the responsibility of maintaining a healthy relationship with adults. When you're the adult, it's YOUR responsibility to care for the children around you and make them feel loved and safe.

[@dee-wc2hd]

marie09 Very true! Super duper agree with you! 100%! They shouldn't blame the child because her action is the reflection of how she feels because of the way an adult treat her (and her own grandmother!).

[@emimiwimi]

THIS

[@ipin358]

marie09 so true!!!!! urgh im so pissed wtf

[@larasih876]

I agree with you.. for my experience it works two ways. I remember that my mother giving me heart to heart talk since i don't want to go to my grandmothers houses. she didn't blame me for it, instead she made me think from my grandmothers point of view. but my mother also talk to both of them, about somethings that make me uncomfortable around them. But, as you get older you'll understand them even more (it still depends on how your parent makes you understand) :)

[@magicdance7462]

marie09 i agree too, the older one have to start it, it her also Who create the wall between them. Hope They Can be fine.

[@afinasaleha]

i dont think her grandmother took this seriously enough tho......her grandma also said stuff like "you shouldve been a boy" "you burden your father" srsly why is she blaming Gahye? Grandma, do you know why is Gahye is bad tempered? Its because u mistreated her

[@quriOusmOOn]

pinanana tuna she seems to lack empathy. Like she has none, so I guess that explains her demeanour.

[@afinasaleha]

Querinna Obi shes so unfair, she did not remember what bad things she does but remember her love towards the older sister. i cant believe she even said to the mother "you didnt do your job well" like wtf....

[@afinasaleha]

Janna Angeles yeah myb that explains her half ass answers. Gahye is just a kid. I dont think her grandma knows what impact she'll give on gahye when she gets older.

[@redvelvetjoy4968]

i hate how the old generations think that boy is more important that girls.

[@nadia2883]

shes not korean because chinese favor boys over girls and thats a fucking fact the adoption places are litterd with girl babies

[@schizophwenia]

i can’t speak for all asians, but i’m chinese and in china boys are definitely more favorable because they’ll carry the family last name, so your family last name will be carried through generation after generation etc.

[@auroraclarke2204]

yup my mom basically train me to become a housewife while my brothers are raised like princes. They don't need to do any house chores and my mom said its because I'm a girl and my brothers are boys. "Your brothers will meet their wives and they will take care of them when the time comes" Now that I'm all grown up fuck all the traditions welp now my moms complaining because I ain't helping my brother to clean his dishes anymore so she gotta do that now

[@viviakabob964]

@@schizophwenia i feel you but thats only my dads side my moms side loves me more and i look more similar

[@yyy8963]

@@auroraclarke2204 siz same in our community boys are favoured too

[@leouskim549]

When Gahye gets older "I don't have a grandma in my father's side or 'I don't remember that I have one'

[@SEMI99]

Yuri Kim Thats me....Literally...

[@ethelkaye9731]

Yuri Kim Oh... this is me. ha..ha... 😁

[@hyuniesr]

same

[@belstar4455]

that's me but my grandma from my mother's side

[@rainafzaman2786]

I feel like she'll grow up self-harming herself since she's already done it before

[@Kaikaixoxo]

what worries me is what happens after the show.for all we know the grandma might be scolding her and giving her slaps for putting her on blast

[@silvervixen007]

Kailee Filipo-Galeng Yeah and the mother seemed to scared of her to intervene

[@santosalexandrajhean9898]

Kailee Filipo-Galeng I agree.... what if the grandma does something bad to her after the show

[@adrianihermawan]

omg then her grandma will treat her worse than before 😐

[@alinearellano3008]

Kailee Filipo-Galeng that's exactly what I thought...

[@elliet6914]

i also thought about that and i feel bad for that little girl

[@faestreya]

So, skipping past the abhorrent treatment of Ga Hye, I'm also very concerned how they merrily skipped past how obviously terrified the mother is of the grandmother. It's obvious that the grandmother is at least emotionally abusive towards her, and that shouldn't be explained away as a "mother in law" thing. The mom obviously couldn't even defend her daughter well because she knew hellfire would be rained on her if she did. Jesus. Ga Hye self-harming just to get attention really should've concerned them more. Once they heard that, they should've stopped letting the grandmother make excuses and actually call her on her bullshit and blame her the way she needs to be blamed. Going that far just so that you feel loved already indicates severe trauma, and I hate how they only told her that was bad, instead of looking at the adults and saying "look what you're doing to this poor girl, this is your fault." They're so lucky I'm not on this show, I swear.

[@jinnieplays905]

bon tbh if I was on this show, I would have yelled at some people with problems like this. A child shouldn’t have to hurt themselves or feel unloved by their parents, it only hurts them and makes them lose connections with their family in the future.

[@nk3378]

If this was a western show people would be calling bullshit at the grandma and openly criticizing without need for politeness

[@user-nf3hh8kn5r]

Ikr the self harming thing shocked me too

[@ixiiifaie1249]

I don't know where u guys come from but in Korea the culture give mother in law authority over the family. Secondly there is very strict rule of seniority that seems like respect is an excuse for the older generation to abuse their power. Being raised in such community for decades, I don't think single voice is worth their attention. In the mother case, she suffered even greater when her guilty of having child before marriage (which is a shame to grandma family) made her voice less worthy to be heard. It's their deep rooted culture which is at faults.. I understood why they behave certain way after I knew this fact.. it's very sad.

[@parnianjeiroodi1513]

IXIIIFAIE , thank you so much for pointing this out. Now people can actually get it! ❤️

[@leenuhh_]

Wow, the sister is saying she admitted her mistakes but the grandma goes "I didn't see her doing it, so I blamed Gahye.", are you fcking serious? Does that not sound weird at all? I don't know if the mcs are saying she's cute just so they wouldn't sound disrespectful and was sounding sarcastic or were really saying that and was laughing about it, cause it's not cute at all. The sister got sneakers from the grandmother and Gahye didn't get any so she asked her mother; but when she got it the sister goes to tell the grandmother about it to scold the mother. That's a bit unfair there. The little girl went that length to get attention by cutting herself which should be concerned and it'll become much more dangerous. It feels as if it wasn't only the grandmother and nobody is saying anything [ her mom or sister ]. I feel that Gahye is bottling it up but she still isn't getting answers from the grandmother. It's getting upsetting and frustrating. I hope Gahye can grow to love herself rather than letting people affect her; but she still so young and I hope it doesn't stick with her with that feeling. I know the feeling of being mistreated and feel unequally loved; which made me though about suicide at a very young age as her. I hope she can smile brightly and find her happiness. She's too cute.

[@paulamitchell206]

I agree with the "I didn't see her doing it, so I blamed Gahye," statement. Did you see the first part?In that one, she was asked about the same thing, yet she said that she didn't remember what happened since it had happened a while ago. Yet here, she says something completely different. What a liar.

[@ohhthehorror3278]

and I thought grandmas had a heart of gold

[@pocasu]

+o.daisy grandmas are either an angel or the devil incarnate there's no in between

[@imaninerrr]

Wh0aLena , :(

[@kintokisa]

Everytime the old ppl re the one at fault, they like to play the card 'I don't remember'

[@RanggaAlamPurnama]

kintokisa true

[@ouo5059]

kintokisa makes me so angry

[@arasibi1926]

they should say yolo instead I am joking

[@ouo5059]

Ara Sibi lol true Then the kid could slap her and say yolo too lolll

[@H3LLOxKiMCHi]

She just doesn't want to admit that she's wrong when someone catches her off guard. Maybe since she's older, she feels that she's wiser and always right, so if she's caught off guard and in the wrong, she doesn't want to admit it because it might make her lose "face" or make her think she might lose respect? That's how I think of it because my mom is kind of like this too :T The thing is that it's really hard to get older people to change since they're used to living the way they do and most likely are set in their ways.

[@lovefangirlingpurple6004]

Gahye: I took a little knife and cut my finger. Everyone: oh no...... *then moves on* Like seriously r u not the bit concerned that she purposely hurts herself just for attention she’s only 11 and as she grows up she could do worse things. She needs to go to an actual counselor and talk about that part.

[@meowseki]

En. And as a young child, having the courage to do it must've meant that she really felt that no one cares abt her. Even thinking abt the idea of self harm should've been a signal that she needs proper attention. If it weren't for her family situation, why would she have that thought in the first place? As a young girl growing up, it is understandable that she gets jealous at times, and seeks attention... But harming herself so that she can get her mom to care abt her? She must've really felt desperate. Personally, I feel that the way how the comedians ended the girl's issue was quite underwhelming, and her grandmother might not even change her ways. (Although I do also understand that they r not professionals, it's just my opinion, with no means of harming or disdaining them in any way.)

[@tiaislam645]

Ikrrr I was so shocked when she said “I got a small knife” like bro. That’s just crazy 🙁😯 all to just get noticed. Like..omg. And they keep laughing and saying that, that bitch is so adorable and cute. JUST CUZ SHES AVOIDING THE BLOODY QUESTIONS AGHHHH STOP SAYING SHES CUTE, SHES NOT. UGH THEY ANNOY ME SO MUCH. I WANNA PUNCH THAT OLD LADY SO BAD 😤😤😤🤬🤬

[@naschtixx9332]

I dont understand how people say that the grandma is adorable and laugh because I really hate her personality because shes not nice at all ...

[@diwaiji9270]

i believe everyone in the studio are feeling the same as you do but since the koreans respect their elderly so much so this is like their way to properly handle their frustration, esp. when they're recording for a tv program. we cant expect them to swear at the elderly right

[@miwookie]

i agree, they're just being nice since she's an elder. and the caption about her seeing a doctor because she said she forgot too many times and youngja telling her to stay healthy were basically mocking her.

[@honeybutterpotatochips]

Naschti xx they were sarcasticaly saying those lol

[@rainafzaman2786]

I feel the same way. This was my first time ever that i actually cursed at an elderly

[@withhui2721]

Naschti xx ikr

[@morthoton7789]

Gahye looks so cute and adorable ♡ I honestly understand how it feels to be discriminated and mistreated and i hope grandma will see that words can emotionally scar someone. I wish all the best to them !

[@justpureregret]

This entire video makes me so mad, let me list a few things: 1. How tf does the grandma oh so conveniently forget everything she’s done wrong in the past few years, but remembers perfectly what happened 40 years back? 2. The sister should be more understanding of Gahye. I understand that the Korean culture is very different from Britain, but surely this is taking it way too far? To me this seems like a typical bullying older sibling, and even her grandma joined in. 3. Even the hosts! Gahye should not be expected to be nicer to her grandma - again I understand that in Korea you should respect your elders - but that’s unacceptable! That’s like telling a traumatised victim to take the place of the serial killer in prison. It’s not fair, whichever way you look at it.

[@cocolemon9933]

About the no. 1 thing, its a common experience old people experience when aging (I'm not an expert when it comes to these things so I'm sorry for any mistakes.) My grandma could remember her life back then vividly, (she remembers the time she was in school, and even her teachers) but she could hardly remember what pills to take. I'd also like to add up on the last part. They shouldve told her to avoid interacting with her grandma. Verbal abuse aint cool and talking to someone who you know verbally abuses you. Ranting to her grandma that what her grandma's doing wont really help cuz she's either going to forget it anyway OR she'll hate Gahye even more since it was Gahye who reported her.

[@gladiolush7010]

Yo I'm korean and there is so such thing like this in Korean culture.. I'm honestly so worried for the girl because she might get personality disorders. Both grandma and the sister should change.

[@namelessuseless1431]

Trashy Akemi Agreed. My grandma can remember vividly of her child life but she can’t remember my name or my age or when I visit her even though I visit her daily.

[@yonder07]

4. Gahye hurt herself just to get her parent's attention... that seems messed up to me. It's a serious problem.

[@itachiwife1156]

YES THE GRANDMA MAKES ME PISS OFF

[@aeviiv]

The grandma pretends that she doesn't remember anything and the older sister is pretending to be sad/crying. I'm so mad omfg

[@fiona-id3xc]

Grandpa Min I KNOW RIGHT!!! HHH😤😤😤😤😤

[@Claudiaflrnct]

Grandpa Min IKR! i hate it that the sister kept on looking down HHH so frustrating😬😡😤

[@jub1121]

tiara786 The fact that you keep taking up space here with the same exact thing on everyone's comments means you should check to see if narcissism is genetic.

[@user-ex7ur3xj1y]

my thoughts exactly😬

[@kellyvivien5569]

I thought the same at the beginning...but then I saw what she did...I mean I understand that she wants more attention but if I have a brother or sis doing stuff like that...I would be pissed off...I can see that her mother knows her pain and actually it's only her grandmother having preferences. So why exactly did she do such things?

[@JKsGirl9798]

Gahye will grow up more independent and more successful in life than her sister... I've been there... When you know that no one got your back, you tend to be more stronger than others.. Because if you don't , who would cover for you? Nobody but yourself..

[@silvervixen007]

Lily1083 Or she will feel the need to prove herself all the time, to do everything just to get peoples attention. To be over critical abour herself and never satisfied with her work. If people treat you like a failure, you will see yourself as such. Or, you will become like you described it

[@JKsGirl9798]

silvervixen007 i guess when the time comes for gahye, she'll realize that it's tiresome to wait for other people to care for her... I feel bad for her right now but hopefully she'll choose the right path when that time comes..

[@SEMI99]

Lily1083 I totally agree with your statement..

[@fykamairaumaira831]

Lily1083 i agree with u cause im in same situation with gahye

[@gzbty929]

she could also easily get mentally exhausted... i feel bad for her bcs sometimes i feel the same as her!

[@beansprout2347]

The grandmother has... "memory problems." And the sister is "weak."

[@moupiya9041]

inTeReSTiNg

[@TolerateDaMilk]

Im glad that dude(sorry i dont know his name) called out the grandma that she remembered something 40 years ago but she doesnt remember something that happened probably a year or two ago. Pathetic

[@heeheenats]

his name is Choi Tae Joon and yeah I loved that he called out on the grandma. I hate that old lady

[@istanbighitfamily8963]

Yep!her grandma is too much!>

[@waeioug]

she probably faking it, but i think people tend to remember days from their youth a lot better, memories from a young age stay with you forever, forming new memories as you get older is harder

[@hinatabesboy6880]

She obviously lied that she doesn’t remember, because first she said she doesn’t remember about the soup incident, but when the eldest sister spoke about it she admitted she blamed it on the younger sister. THISSS MEAAANNN she does remember 😤😤

[@aoreansangalang8329]

same✊🏻

[@uhh8161]

"so you remember stuff from 30,40 years ago" SAVAGE!😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥😏😏😏

[@beasantos8395]

They don't understand the situation... How sad... That's what you call favoritism...

[@vickyhu6604]

I don't understand... Why does Gahye need to do something to make herself appeal to these older people??? She's only so little and she DESERVES to be loved. It horrified me when she said she'd cut her own fingers and cause herself injuries just to get some love and attention. Having those kinds of thoughts go through the mind of a girl so little is incredibly damaging, and could really escalate to much more harmful situations if it's ignored.

[@linda_pham]

It’s all because people love one child and express that more outwardly, and love the other probably a little less and not express it as much, be it in words or in actions. Knowing how to express your love towards children is an extremely important thing that many don’t realize, and it causes so much misunderstanding between family members. Everyone please hug your kids and say you love them as frequently as possible - they need constant reaffirmation of your love for them. Please don’t express more physical love towards one and forget the other(s)!

[@darkvoid8512]

Well the grandma has litteratly become attached to the older child, she has loved her more since she as i said became really attached since her illness, and she really adores her, unlike the younger granddaughter she makes a mess, etc. For attention, but the grandmother doesnt know that, she only thinks she missbehaves, thats not a good way to express yourself if you want someone else to like you, i didnt have a great time with my mother, but i knew she has worked her whole life, since she was a child with a strict grandma she made her do everything, because of that she didnt want to do that to me then i became a spoiled child, but i began to realise it and i helped my mother, since she didnt have anyone to help, my 18yr old brother does nothing and neither does my 23yr old sister, i guess she couldv just used that time to help her grandma since she cant do much nowadays, and she will die at some point.. and she wont have good memorys with her grandma and she'll regret that...

[@angiet7380]

Vicky Hu Because in Korea, you have to change yourself in order to change others. You can't just make people do what you want, esprcially not elders

[@aaliyahwells3663]

Angie T that's true, and it's so problematic it makes me sick. The fact that older people are always the most problematic people in any culture, and yet Korea decides to make their opinions the priority... If that were the case in my house, I would not be on my phone watching a Korean tv show, who tf cares about those puffy faced bat clones anyways? It's honestly so ridiculous for them to allow this to happen to themselves, and then when they get old enough to do something they prefer it the way it is as they are now on the recieving end and it's just "something they have to go through". It's atrocious really.

[@Lala168-love]

一人だDarkVoid don't you see the whole video how could you said that the older is good when grandma sick 😪 don't u watch the part that grandma tell the little to massage her rather than tell older. Is it ok if ur mon or grandma buy ur sister with two coat 1 cost 257$ and another one 50$ but u get only 3 pairs of socks. I accept that little one want attention but we should find the reason why she do like that first and as this story that happens because her grandma ignore her and she is the kid so if she doesn't go to visit her grandma her grandma can't do that to her because she is elder why she want to behave like kid 😏 moreover, if the little really wrong why grandma always say she can't remember anything. Oh please look at her older sister when she talk or her gesture if u have studied psychology u will know that she is a kind of person that always think about her own interests, want to be the best one and full of jealousy.

[@khyngrl.5275]

the granny keep avoids the questions and its proof very well that she treat gahye unfairly by keep telling ppl that she doesnt remember thats thing. poor our gahye. hope she has a better life n get more n more love, attention in future. 😊😊

[@xxunipandapotatoxx5448]

wow the grandma couldn't remember what happened to the little one just a couple of months ago on the sea saw and got hospitalized for the stomach but she could remember the older one damaging her toenail? this grandma pisses me off

[@jayofthedeadd]

Is no one else concerned that Gahye said she purposely injured herself to get attention from her parents?? That’s a serious concern.

[@cassandraandres]

@Time is Important Asian parents hate it when they're child shows that they get upset because most of them think they know better just because they're older

[@jeans6808]

Well..... I have done that before🤚🏻🤚🏻🤚🏻 I purposefully injured my hand and went to the hospital just to get my parents attention.

[@srsly6682]

Time stamp please

[@srsly6682]

@짱미1 kamsksmsNOClwkwlwlwlwkwkwdidndneiwns

[@fatimahrehan4468]

@짱미1 there will always be people who care. Tbh as a person who's gone through the same thing I can tell you that the people you injure yourself for will never care and I feel angry when I think back on the things I did, because literally all I did was waste a lot of blood, tears and energy. I really hope you understand that you are one of a kind and don't need someone's attention to grow and glow. Live your life with confidence and I'm absolutely certain that you'll find people that actually care about you.

[@nyangjuniez]

What really upsets me that most people tell Gahye “Gahye, you should try harder.” instead of saying “Gahye, just be yourself and let the others do the work.” She’s a fourth grader and she deserves more love and attention. That grandma is really inconsiderate towards Gahye’s feelings.

[@paulinerose2623]

multifandom af true too much pressure on doind stuff just to satisfy others is really a challenging thing to do especially for a child that needs to learn more and she is only a fourth grader that really needs more attention.

[@kwonjiyong73]

multifandom af true

[@jesfelliatan5697]

Well, in my opinion, in this kind of situation like her grandma's sort of bad attitude ( or as the red sweater woman said about the old people thought) , it was something that can't be controlled, but Gahye could control herself for being better. It's somewhat more efficient way to do.

[@tula__]

That old hag did get some bashing (insults) in the public eye. I think they did it quite diplomatically so it would look good in the public eye. Although it's too obvious: adults are at fault while a kid is just a kid.

[@franm.3931]

The guy in red tried to tell this. But it was quickly shut it down by his wife. Cuz maybe she knows that old people won't change.

[@shinnzhin7708]

The woman in the red sweater is giving unneeded advice.. the grandma is at fault here not her

[@melovemilk5538]

Technically her to (just a little bit)

[@butter7170]

shinn zhin ?? unneed advice?

[@sarahwannizam7026]

She was trying to console her, and make her feel a lil bit better

[@mhi1238]

I bet in future the woman in red will be like this grandma. Favor to 1 grandchild from another. And want her another grandchild be nicer to her yet that woman still not treat her grandchild well

[@mhi1238]

All her comments always ask gahye act cuter to her grandma. What the heck is that

[@barbara88197268]

Gahye is so freaking cute, she deserves tangerines too

[@saranghae7508]

Barbaracord 😂😂😂 only tangerines. ... 👌

[@rmekaningtyas7007]

Noor Kashmiry tangerines and love, of course. soooo much love.

[@angelicbin1713]

I asked myself "when did I comment this" Cuz we have the same profile pic lmao AND YES SHES SO CUTE She also deserves the love she deserves too XD

[@mindyli4984]

I really hate how Ester(women in red) kept on telling gahye to try harder to approach the granny. and thank god for the man in red next to her argued that the granny should try harder. it's sad how and 11 year old has to cut her finger to gain attention from the adults.

[@berrylovely7535]

mindy li Esther wasnt the only saying that tho... the grandmother put out those conditions first anyway. And besides even if she did she sort of made up for it when she was giving Gahye an analogy that made her feel so much better of herself.

[@mindyli4984]

TYM Alegria I know she wasn't the only one, but her tone made it seemed like the was the little girl's fault. Maybe its just me.

[@radindak7]

+mindy li yep... I definitely disagree with her...

[@elisenguyen4477]

Ikr! Also when the 11 year old had to cut herself, I feel like it could get worse in the future by her getting suicidal for her not feeling loved (if the stupid grandma keeps treating her like that)

[@BtsArmy-pc1gs]

mindy li I seriously hate ester so much right now.

[@jeneden3492]

i don't know why, but everytime i look at the older sister, her expressions and her non-stop fidgeting, i don't know, there's something weird, i get the feeling she was hiding something. The mom, geez, she's scared as hell by her mother in law

[@user-ob8gs9zb5m]

I think she’s rlly shy and introverted...

[@jaelynloh18]

I hate how her grandmother uses the " I don't remember " excuse just because she's old and all. I'm so upset bc the older sister is obviously smug and she stills pretend to be sad and all. I really hope Ga Hye gets treated better in the future.

[@AkiraAlexisSoyra]

Yes. 😏

[@meiro3428]

Or karma gets them and see that Gahye will be so successful when she's older

[@anamira2908]

This grandmother is a bully.

[@SeLviCretz]

I believe she wouldn't treat Gahye any better, there is only one reason, she was not born as a boy like she was expected. Typical patriarchy.

[@annabelle1671]

No, what you don't understand is that since she is a woman born from a different generation, with different standards. Of course she wouldn't have liked to have a granddaughter as much as she expected a grandson but I think her intentions were just misunderstood. My grandmother also has a stern look on her face all the time and says things in a harsh way towards me, she praises my older 'male' cousin but I know that doesn't mean she hates me. Even though she doesn't visit us often we go out to eat pastries together when she does. When an elder complains to you, instead of feeling offended, learn from it and use others as a model to improve yourself. Perhaps that grandmother saw room for improvement in her granddaughter. Not everything is about you.

[@justanatalyy8697]

@@annabelle1671 wtf? If an elder complains to you you should listen no matter what? What if the elder was an asshole since birth and continuously being an asshole until they get older how do you explain that? Grandma is a freaking adult, why is she harassing the kid?

[@nfar1288]

her older sister too

[@PlatinumDagger]

@@annabelle1671 you have been sadly conditioned my dear. How come you are the only one who needs improvement. It's a bunch of be wake up and get real. You're being conditioned to be OK with being abused if you continue you will suffer. It's up to you if you want play being a toy for them the moment I get the opportunity to leave I'm gone and cutting them off. Stand up for yourself.

[@shinnzhin7708]

That grandma's probably just there like "yes my child... Defend me in front of all these people.. we'll give her a lecture later"

[@glasscoffin3048]

"I don't remember".......... Yeah, you don't remember, for sure....... She really pisses me off... Her face is really annoying me. I think that she won't change... I wonder what happened to girl later... What if it's worse now... That old woman is really narrow-minded and stubborn. I don't think she understood and she will probably continue to treat her that way. Poor child... It must be very upsetting...

[@yoongoboongo9350]

Oliwia Mikołajczak i dont agree with the grandmother but i find her face cute? (Idk how to say it without my mind thinking its weird)

[@aleena158]

The worst thing Is that she remembers everytime the older one was sick but when it comes to her, she's like *i don't remember*

[@skaesmitten9660]

Oliwia Mikołajczak AGREE YOUNFET GIRL NAME GAHYE desreve to be love shes adorable and loving she cares ad smart i like her i would love her to be my ypunger sis bc i am the older one sometimes i feel her my grand ma like me too but she like my little si too

[@vanessapedrosa7996]

elizabeth oceane *savage* 😂

[@paupau8565]

Lol

[@dimmedsnowflake]

I HONESTLY LOVE TAE JOON IN THIS SHOW, HE'S SO STRAIGHTFORWARD AND DOESN'T HIDE WHAT HE WANTS TO SAY LIKE YES BOY YOU DO YOU

[@nuradriana2811]

A[nna].R.M.Y me too... 😊😊

[@sitisarah2946]

I feel so thankful for her mother for stood up for Gahye. Thank you mother!

[@fullmetalgaara2]

The sister saying that Gahye can be nicer to the grandma really irked me. I wouldn't want to visit my grandma either if all she did was make me feel less than my sibling and run errands. It's the grandma's responsibility to make her grandchildren feel welcome and loved, the burden shouldn't be placed on the child.

[@angiet7380]

WWLD well, if the child wants to be adored by the grandma enough to go to Hello Counselor about it, then the burden is on the child. You can't make people do what they don't want to do unless you change something about yourself (that is, if you care what they think). Imo, the little girl should've never gone to the show and should've just given up on her grandma because you shouldn't have to beg someone to like you

[@ujung-ahujung-hae7503]

Angie T but she came on hello counselor to get her grandma to see that she’s suffering but if the grandma won’t change then the little girl don’t have to

[@ibylin]

WWLD WWLD My grandma hates me because I am a child of a woman she didn't chose. I tried my best to get her love. Visit her, clean her house, shop for her, baking with her. She still gave 50-60 pounds for the other family's daughters (she choses the wife of father's younger brother) when she give me 3-4 pound everytime(if she don't forget my birthday) to me. She speaks bad about my mother who cared about her that much she moved we moved in to grandma, she did clean the house every morning, cooked 3 meal, washed for her, but what did she do???? She went to the other family, and she was crying to them my mother treats her bad. Then she proceed to lie to her sister(who is treating us good, I would say she is more like my grandmother) that my mother treats her good. What about the other family? They visit her only when she can give them money, holidays. They speak to her like to an idiot or a dog. They don't respect her. They stole everything from her hour.They it's completely empty now. They even stole the jewelry my father supposed to get. When my father told my mother it's enough, we moved back and he told the other family should care about grandmother since the other family's wife and daughters spreading rumors how they cares about my grandmother all the time. The wife didn't do anything. My grandmother for months was wearing the same clothes, she wasn't washed, she was dirty, her house was so filthy, they collected 2 times more money for food she sometimes didn't even get. Now she is scared of them and she crying for my mother to go back and tor care of her. She have a nurse to visit her daily. She have the other family to "take care of her", we don't care anymore. I was always sad why grandmother don't love me even I tried everything... She is naturally selfish person who only look for her own benefits. My father is a kind person who see the good in everyone he is so naive. He was so upset everyday because when lived there to take care of grandmother she everyday was rude and shouting to mother. Father was so upset he took to his heart. He is that kind of person he takes to his heart and squeeze everything. Then one day he died 3 times. He was in coma, thankfully he is fine now. Everything happened because he was frustrated everyday because of.grandmother treating mother like a shit. When he got better and they returned grandmother at the door stopped them.yelling at mother "It's all your fault! My son died because of you!" . She literally blamed my mother while we were living at home nothing bad happened to father only when we moved to grandmother. Then father realized everything and he started tto hate grandmother and he said it's enough. My family is no longer give a shit about her. Maybe it's sounds cruel, but she is cruel too. She deserve it. I can totally understand this situation.

[@everydaydreamer1]

Kozutan OMG that was deep and totally agree

[@kaylajernigan-stier475]

WWLD I was in the same boat Gahye was in with my moms mother, the difference is I’m the oldest sibling. It was so bad, she didn’t stop things from happening to me from her husband (cancer killed him- good riddance the world is better without him, and I can stop looking over my shoulder) and blamed me for what happened. After that I haven’t spoken to her, I’m 21 now and haven’t spoken to her for 13 years. She’s dead to me, my mom always asks me why I hate her, but she would never believe me if I told her. Even though she went through the same things I did when she was a kid, she likes to “forgive and forget” the past, but I just can’t do it. My moms piece of shit mother can die today and I would feel nothing but joy.

[@crystaltaec1996]

I can understand her feeling. Not that it is her fault of trying hard to get attention from her parents and grandma but the adults' fault of not realizing her daughter 's feeling. She even cut her finger which shows that she really wants to get some attention and love from them.

[@keycla4752]

Crystal Teoh 5

[@duhitzkuuipoxx7308]

Did you see how her sister looked at Gahye kind of lik a shut up vibe.

[@satanggukie3456]

Crystal Teoh IKR, what if the girl suicides then what happens to the grandma? She is already then, how can you show love to her...

[@erona.5443]

When her mother said, “Gahye asked me if I wasn’t happy with her being a daughter.”, I FLIPPED, THAT HURTS GURL.

[@hawraamahdi1385]

the grandma doesn't remember the younger girl being hospitalised but she remembers the older girl being hospitalised

[@ThanamasLuv]

This makes me so mad! First off, the "I don't remember" card isn't even cute. It made me even more mad and they need to treat her better. I understand her b/c I grew up with my parents, grandparents and older siblings favoring certain siblings and it can make you really upset and not want to do anything they ask sometimes.

[@elisenguyen4477]

ThanamasLuv - same!! I completely understand gahye bc i am always mistreated so I don't feel loved and I always feel like I'm useless and I'm a disappointment to the fam so I cut myself a lot (I'm suicidal but fam doesn't know and the don't see the cuts)

[@fatimahghaffar1860]

I always wonder and worry for what happens to to the victim wen they get home🤔😬😔

[@bwingbwinggwiyomi]

Honestly, Gahye looks so bright and cheerful and is clearly active and adorable asf so I don't even know why she's being so under treated by her elders and grandma.. Her older sister looks so gloomy and miserable asf, why on earth is she the treasured one by grandma? If anything, everyone loves Gahye more since she's adorable and pretty and I can't believe she purposely cut her finger..... that's pretty serious, her elders should really show her more love and attention especially she's at that young attention seeking for love type age

[@itsngschannel]

I hope Gahye will continue as cheerful and bright girls even thou She treated like that by her grandma... She look has so many potential to be a great person. in the future:)

[@leenuhh_]

Yes, it started to seem pretty serious to that great length as well for a little girl to do that. Sometimes people who are usually cheerful are sometimes hurt. You can see her smile yet a bit distant as if she's trying to hold it in. The sister may just feel guilty at that moment but who knows what they're really like, but all I know that the grandmother reason was because the older sister was unwell before and had surgery at a young age so she's more worried about her more. Yet, I think it's still wrong to treat her other grandchild unequally. It's really upsetting and a waste as well to do that to Gahye. She'll be the one hurt and ruined even though she still so damn young, yet again the grandmother would say she's lying when she's really sick. smh. I hope this doesn't make her become damaged as she grows up, cause I know that feeling before and I hope she finds herself happiness and understand that she can love herself and not let anyone bring her down.

[@rinalee8720]

i think the main reason that the grandma is more protective of the elder sister is because she thinks that the younger sister is more loved in a way. stereotypically in families, the youngest is always given the most attention and love because they are cute and they don't have any responsibilities or expectations that they need to bear, therefore usually parents are lenient towards them. on the other hand, the eldest siblings are always raised strictly by their parents because their parents have the biggest expectations towards them and they also bear the responsibilities of looking after the younger ones. therefore it does happen in many cases where the elder sibling is gloomy while the younger one is bright (and mostly spoilt). esp, since they are both girls the difference that can be seen is even bigger. and plus since the elder sister has a history of being sick, the grandma can't help but feel more protective of her and be strict towards. just saying -> im just pointing out a reason why the grandma prefers to be protective of the elder sister and be stricter towards the younger one. this does not justify (and i cant understand) why the grandma has a huge huge huge gap between how she treats the older sister and how she treats the younger sister personally i would be able to understand her if she was more like: protective of the elder sister while being a tad bit stricter towards the younger one. but the whole : why were you born female, and swearing at her, being mean to the mom, and etc? NO. not cool

[@Mslovepencil]

The two girls should be loved and treated equally, either they're bright and adorable or gloomy and miserable. We shouldn't tell which girl should be loved more or treated more badly. It's just the same for both, we don't want to see a gloomy girl cuts her finger either

[@dimmedsnowflake]

Yes. Sometimes the ones who are outgoing and cheerful are the ones who feel hurt the most. I know because I'm exactly the same as her. I always act that I'm happy, cheerful, lively when I'm around people even though I was hurting. I take in every single hurtful and offensive words people say to me and keep it to myself. I cry alone and wipe my tears before going out of my room pretending nothing was wrong while everything was. But that's how I am. Maybe that's why people tend to throw hurtful words to me without realizing they hurt my feelings. Same goes to this girl, everyone around her thought she could handle a little mistreatment but that's what actually hurts the most.

[@lexxxmns_4082]

so at this point where her sister say that "... and she didnt visit grandma." *HOW CAN SHE VISIT WHEN HER OWN GRANDMA DOESNT WANT HER TO VISIT?! BOI STOHB ME*

[@cyra2755]

lexxxmns_ Lol AAARRRMMMYYY 😂

[@fifiliu24]

I was thinking the same thing hun, i was like b*tch don't try me, my head is already hurting because of your grandmother.

[@Reemi.__]

I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING LIKE BOI WTF

[@fallinlight3944]

EXACTLY

[@Maltcandyxp]

She's older but she's still a child, clearly the grandmother THE ADULT is at fault, she literally breathed toxic mentalities into both kids all of their lives. Now one has the wrong thinking and another has low self esteem :-( As we know kids are really easily influenced and won't easily think things are wrong if an adult they love or trust does it/tells them something :/ I wish their mother will let them spend a little less time with the grandmother, they're still young so it's not too late to change their thinking yet

[@xinxchan6518]

Ok that poor girls face was like she was going to cry i felt sorry for her i think i am being mean but that grandma's going to die and go to hell

[@shawty2983]

wish 345 i agreed with you until the end i mean cmon that’s a bit too harsh ( remove that part before people go crazy on u )

[@emlay3078]

I genuinely think that grandma needs a slap to recover her memory. I need a convenient selective memory too 🤔

[@gabrielazempulski1952]

Em Lay I honestly feel that just the slap isn't enough

[@invisible8126]

Gabriela Zempulski someone needs to electric shock that grandmas brain.

[@kenampheiree6536]

hannah waltz 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@rebeccayin5832]

I feel so bad for Gahye. The main reason why she is like this and cutting her own fingers is because she didn't receive enough attention and love. And honestly, the grandma was making me a little angry. Like what do you mean "I forgot"? Jeez.

[@elisenguyen4477]

Rebecca Yin - ikr! Like it's the same thing for me but my sister, mom, and my brother treat me badly. Like I cut myself all the time bc I feel useless and a disappointment to the family so I cut myself (not where my family can see the cut) so I'm suicidal for that and my family doesn't even know so it suckss. So I completely understand how to little girl feels and it makes my mad/sad

[@BtsArmy-pc1gs]

Rebecca Yin Such a fake excuse. .-.

[@alphaelement8990]

Love from family is unconditional. It shouldn’t be earned by merits.

[@MiniMoniHime]

I can't believe the old lady just savagely exposed her daughter-in-law like that... she was trying to shame her for "calling her out"

[@arlinaali5777]

mochi-pyon I can't believe that too. How can u do that? It's public tv old lady! And I swear, the girl is going thru puberty so she will get hurt more easily. She's the same age as me and I have no problems with family except judgements from parents. That girl will become beautiful and independent when she grows up.(Sorry for long text)

[@a.ashley5292]

yep, she's horrible for bringing that up, but it backfired on her because it made her look bad for mentioning it. even that guy said she's talking about stuff they didn't even ask her about. all she's doing is making herself look bad and showing how ugly her personality is. wow, imagine what she's like with the little girl when no one else is watching. what a snake.

[@daxingli8882]

Scars children get when they're young stay with them their whole lives. It's the period of the time when they learn the most and change the most. 30, 40 years later they're going to remember it. Anyone who does something hurtful to children doesn't have a heart.

[@quriOusmOOn]

Daxing Li Agreed!

[@SereneJazz]

Or they are a victim of one. Sadly they just follow the cycle instead of stopping it. I know cause my parents do and I used to loath them a lot for it. Nowadays I just don't give a shit and brush it off, but one thing I learnt is to never educate my future children their way.

[@MM__6]

i think the older daughter is jealous because her younger sister is a lot prettier than she is but can someone tell me why everyone keeps defending the grandmother?

[@sophieni2931]

In a lot of Asian countries, they believe in respecting elders

[@rubayedkhan8547]

Not about the Asian ,always respect your elders

[@rubayedkhan8547]

and show kind to little kid

[@martinaavona]

I dont care about culture and respect the elders in this case. If my mother in law is treating and traumatizing my child like that i will punch her in the face. And not once

[@mariee__123]

The lady in the red keep supporting the grandmother which is really annoying. Also, it's not the her fault in the first place. She's a kid and the way her grandmothers treated her was totally not fair. It makes me angry that they Don't take this seriously

[@maevealthea2621]

Annoying and stupid by making that sick goldfish and healthy goldfish conditionings, when her sister is healthy now and no longer sick

[@suganparasaraman7696]

I hate that lady . She's making it worse . She is just supporting the grandma . It's freaking annoying and it makes me go crazy

[@carlosvalencia8222]

It’s about the culture in South Korea, they respect the elders a lot and most of the time they give them preference.

[@beisun4599]

Are yall crazy lmao, shes bringing light to both situations and shes not siding with the grandmother but making the girl feel better, shes trying to make them understand eachother. Yall blind or sumtin lmao?

[@shadokat6858]

This is as bad as my mom straight up comparing which of her grand daughters is prettier in front of their faces and they're only 7 years old....😤

[@glorianaelizondoz.2373]

7:30 I'm so satisfied at how her mother first said the good features of the girl before saying one single bad one. It really looks her mom loves her, both of them.

[@riehsclavero9318]

the fact that they didn't take this concern seriously is just messed up

[@awaa69]

HOW CAN THE GRANDMA REMEMBER THE SISTER GETTING FRACTURED BUT WHEN GAHYE GOT HOSPITALIZED,SHE FORGETS IT.THAT IS CALLED LIES GRANDMA.L.I.E.S.AND ALSO GRANDMA,THE SISTER WAS BORN FIRST AND YOU REMEMBERED THAT.#TEAMGAHYE

[@rainej.3897]

was actually thinking this...

[@susy_jh4760]

Omg I just noticed that as well #TEAMGAHYE

[@wl-dn6xy]

Azwa Khaliesah lmao

[@senaitgoshutekleyesus3009]

Oh, the grandma remembers alright (she is just some old woman who has nothing a backwarded mentality) but she just favors the eldest one more, and for Gahye to go to extreme extents to gain attention is really sad and concerning!!!!

[@irsairfan9456]

I'm sure the grandma used that excuse since she's old and probably having alzheimers or something

[@mariaagnes3083]

Kpop Michyeo I think of that too, I sometimes get mad when the older use that, cause it's so cliche

[@itachiwife1156]

The younger sibling is WAYYYY prettier than the older one

[@akaribae7727]

Ikr

[@shah5824]

Thats not the point

[@sausanrajulisman4501]

Maybe that's the reason

[@ilostmymochi2435]

Hey u don't need to put either of them down like that....that's beside the point

[@pastthe.expirationdate]

Both of the girls are pretty, the grandma is the problem.

[@idabforgot7450]

i dont get it why they always laugh if the grandma said "i dont remember". its so irritating tho

[@marshalll.8920]

idab for got7 Korea is big on respevting your elder, that's the only way they could scold her basically, if they did anything too rude they'd get major backlash

[@hangkhanh4982]

They can't do nothing cause the grandma is much older than them. The MC said "You can't avoid our questions like that" and I bet everyone else on the show was feeling exactly the same, but they just don't want to be disrespectful to the grandma.

[@clementchiu6620]

they have to.... its still an entertainment show despite the seriousness of the issue

[@angelachoi942]

that older sister is ticking me off...

[@silvervixen007]

Angela Choi she looked so mischievous..but maybe it's just me

[@pearlsugar662]

silvervixen007 she looked so bitchy to me even the way she speaks

[@milkytae7604]

Vanessa Lai Lmao, Also me, And her face, she looks like heaven and hell fell on her, she keeps doing a poker face

[@angelachoi942]

also she was just sitting and like putting her head down. like she had no interest in anything

[@WJihan]

Angela Choi me too..the older sister obviously doesnt want to get blamed. From the way she answers question, it seems like she thinks it's the kid fault for getting treated badly by her grandmother. It's not that she did the whole issue, but for her to let the grandma giving that treatment...

[@Ryusgem]

WHY DOES THE GRANDMA SAY: I dOnT rEmEmbEr tHaT EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. boi just say you are lying because you don't wanna be embarrassed

[@kaiyin3842]

They probably should have told Gahye to not remember that she has her as a grandma either.

[@FediaBean]

So whatever happened to unconditional love? Why does she have to work to get her grandmother's attention.

[@quriOusmOOn]

Fe Bean that grandma does not know love and is bitter as hell. It's better that she stays away from such a horrid woman and stays in the company of her parents and others that love her and don't use her as some punching bag. That grandma has issues and she's projecting them onto the poor girl and straight up bullying her. She has full knowledge of what she doing to the girl but doesn't care. That's disgusting imo.

[@stakiez]

The older sister didn't do anything to gain the affection of the grandma but the younger has to? Smh

[@aikaterineillt9876]

The grandmother isn’t an idiot, she sees that the older one will be more disadvantaged in life, and also already had issues when she was younger..surgery on her face and a weak body. The grandmother is likely trying to give the older one more love because outside of the grandmother’s home, the older one will suffer dearly by being compared to her younger sister. All these disgusting comments about her looks prove that point.

[@Vinofied]

@@aikaterineillt9876 Well just because someone is obliviously sick (literal), it doesn't mean that the grandma can't show at least some affection to the youngest. Like what kind of grandma came in and said: "wHY dId yOU bUY hEr nEw pAIr oF sNEAkErs!?" like literally.

[@renjunsdaintyhands3868]

@@aikaterineillt9876 just because you favour one person doesn't mean you HAVE to bully other. It is torally understandable if she loves the older one more but why hate the younger one? Every child is lovable in their own way. What that grandmother is doing is very much wrong. It isn't Gahye's fault that she was born later or her sister used to be ill.

[@Maltcandyxp]

@@aikaterineillt9876 she may not be an idiot but the WAY she's doing this is wrong. Because of her, both gahye and the older sister are being affected negatively- one in terms of self-esteem and one in terms of what's acceptable... it's sad that there are people asking gahye to try harder and people insulting the older sister's face and personality, when the root of the problem is the grandma, a fully grown adult.

[@jojustpokedyouhehe1351]

@@aikaterineillt9876 lmfao so you're saying that the kid has to get injured and THEN she'll be treated as well as her sister? It's literally obvious that the grandmother just hates Gahye in some way, and not because the older sister is suffering from some sort of way. I mean, the kid got hospitalized wtf and her grandmother didn't even bother to visit. So what is this? The kid has to do more self-harm just so she can finally get the love she's been wanting from her grandmother? Absolutely sickening. And if that's how the kOreAn cULtuRe works, don't you think that if the grandmother was actually considerate enough, she'd be able to accept Gahye the way she is? Exactly.

[@alkadsingh]

This same situation is there in my house and I'm the elder one but I ALWAYS defend my sister when she's being treated unfairly by my grandma. Her sister is equally guilty in this matter. Do not go on her innocent looking face. She's just pretending and making up facial expressions.

[@TeresaMonteiro444]

The grandma said to her that her parents were struggling because of her AND that she should have been a boy?! And her mother didn't say a thing?! Wow. I find it very frustrating because if my grandma (or anyone) said that to me (she would never) my mom would tell them to shup up, and she would get really angry if someone said that. And if I had daughters I would do the same. Why are you tellig her that?! What's the point? It's not like she could turn in to a boy if she wants -.- This makes a little sad. Now she's little, she's trying to get her grandma love, but if this keep going, she will turn her back on her grandma complety. She doesn't like to go to grandma house already and (I didn't finish the video yet, so I may be wrong) but her grandma doesn't really seem to care?

[@ShivaWings]

BellaRingo Sadly her grandma is of the old generation. She believes boys are better than girls because they carry the family name and status. The mother cannot talk back to her mother-in-law because it's considered disrespectful and is a sign that she doesn't respect her husband and elders. It's very backwards but also some would say she should be humble and not talk back because she got pregnant before marriage, even though it takes two people to make a baby. It's very fustrating but that's how some families are still run. My Grandma is very similar to this one. My dad is the eldest son but he has no boys so grandma blames my mom, but genetics fault dad since he's the only one with the Y chromosome. She even said in front of the whole extended family that she should send my dad to China and find him a wife that can birth him a son. :( It's just how some old school ideals are. I am jealous your mother is out spoken. :) Sorry for the weird wordings, I'm writing this on my phone.

[@JamConcerned]

Wow, I hope grandma at least treats you well. I understand grandma's frustration because they make like very hard for you if you don't fit the ideal. Yet there is no reason why they need to take it out on others. It just brings down the mood in the whole family. The saying is you get children who are here to teach something. It's not all about control but about accepting and embracing.

[@TeresaMonteiro444]

I guess it's a cultural thing :/ If that situatio would happen in my family (I have to say it would never, my grandma was really kind) my father would step in, and if he didn't, my mom would just tell my gradma "Sent him then" (she wouldn't stand that kind of disrespect from anyone) or something... here, although in the older (real older) generations having a boy would be consider better because they would "work", most grandmothers and grandfathers don't say does things. I'm sad that your mom was to hear that :( give her lots of love and support, she doesn't need a son, she has you

[@dimmedsnowflake]

so true! i'm the eldest among my siblings and we are all girls. and my relatives even blame me because if i would have been a boy, my mom won't be getting all daughters. as they have this kind of stupid belief that the next kids will have the same gender with the first-born (if you are unlucky). when people say that, my mom didn't stay silent and hear them talking shit. she said "i'm more than grateful to have my daughters and not having a boy in my family doesn't affect me at all. i love all my kids despite their genders. people should stop pressuring me and keep saying that i need to have a baby boy. my daughters are more than enough and i'm not planning to have a baby again, for good"

[@ShivaWings]

@Cherish Adventure LOL no I'm the one my grandma dislikes the most :D She likes white skin and round faced girls and I'm none of those. But it's OK I like my tan and long face. But I agree, I hope the grandmother will be more far now that it was broadcasted all over so everyone knows. @BellaRingo Thank you! My mom says she is happy she didn't have a son, she says she's pretty sure he would have been spoiled by dad and grandma so he'd probably be a high school drop out chasing girls LOL. Oh I do speak out, another thing to add to her list why my physical appearance isn't to her liking, my attitude is 'bad' too according to her. My mom sometimes scolds me saying I'm too rude, she's just too nice. :( @A[nna].R.M.Y I know right? My older sister was the first girl in the family so she had it OK, not too bad. But grandma said she had a dream that I was a boy, so that kind of ruined it. xD I'm glad your mom didn't take their crap! None of us are royalty so I don't see the point in boys over girls thing in 2017. :)

[@archerridz1935]

i seriously hate this grandma pretend to forget everything..... and the face of her older sister

[@gotwicestan672]

archer ridz same gurl 😂😂😂😂

[@nurumirazak3488]

💯

[@illumixkillua4787]

Grandma:i didnt see her(the older sister) doing it(the mess in the sink) Me: what the hell?! (Im sorry if im being rude) did you see gahye do it?!... No right?! You didnt see her but you still scolded her.. What?!

[@shawty2983]

Sunmi Min FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT

[@Ryusgem]

I WAS WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO SAY THAT. Like she didn't even see gahye do it why would you blame her????

[@husnaliyana8393]

Grandma: I dOn'T rEmEmBeR

[@esmeray2831]

That grandma is just too much.She really accuse gahye for everything bad and call the (older sister) my lovely puppy bullshit it's

[@mattys2260]

This is late but I feel like Gahye is gonna be more successful than her older sister. Its seems that she is more mature and understanding instead of the older sister who is alway relying on her grandmother. Karma is definitely gonna come back to her when she is an adult and needs to be independent. Gahye will become a beautiful lady one day and the grandma will regret not caring for Gahye more. I hope the older sister changes though.

[@aikaterineillt9876]

She shouldn’t care for her because she’s beautiful and the older sister should not have to suffer because of her looks either. What you are saying is near-sighted and cruel. This is probably the only advantage the older one gets over the younger one, she probably suffers greatly outside of her grandmother’s love.

[@aikaterineillt9876]

Nicole Tran that’s all you care about huh

[@Maltcandyxp]

I don't understand why everyone's trying to fault the kids... the true evil is the grandmother, the older sister grew up with this toxic influence her whole life, it's hard for a child to discern wrong things when she probably attaches her grandmother with the feeling of love...

[@rianimb2822]

Stupid comment

[@bhavs398]

Bro the older sister is a bitch and the grandma vibes with a bitch, because of course, Gahye is damn chill, I hope she does better than her sister in life, like, much better

[@leenah1287]

The girl is so cute. But favoring a child can do more negative than good.

[@YattaAD]

The thing where they talked about goldfish bothers me. Like yeah I’m gonna focus on the sick one more but I wouldn’t hate the other one.

[@lilycoralie3768]

I've never been so angry watching a video before. I'm usually really respectful of elders (maybe because I have no grandparents and I suffered a lot) but I want to slap that grandma so bad. How can she treat her own granddaughter like this? She doesn't realize how lucky she is to have such a cute little girl by her side, when so many elders are left alone. If I were Gahye's grandma, I would hold her everytime she comes and tell her I love her... Poor baby.

[@a.ashley5292]

she is a miserable old lady. if she were actually happy and having a good life, she would never dream of hurting her grandchild. but since she's full of venom, her life must be pretty sh*tty.

[@cloudie1564]

I am a huge fan of psychology so I have a good base on it. If you look at 1:57 you can see the old hag- erm, I mean grandma, touch her ear, just for that one second. It might seem like she was just fixing her hair, but psychology says that if you touch your ear/ears, even for a quick moment, it actually means that you refuse to listen. It's like you're subconsciously saying "I don't want to listen." Or "I don't like to listen to this."

[@cloudie1564]

I mean at 1:53

[@shibaginu]

Hana Silvern omg i was thinking about that too when i saw she touched her ears

[@paulamitchell206]

Psychology also shows that if you lie, you have a tendency of hiding your hands to not show fidgeting. You can clearly see the grandma hiding her left hand under what appears to be a jacket.

[@may0392]

I know right. It has proven by science

[@janetjuarez2406]

That's a bit rude calling her old hag I don't disagree with what you said but that's disrespectful you may not know her but she is still an elderly person

[@chrollopleaserailme6678]

Now THIS is what you call having a favorite

[@Irgoe]

The mother knows what the grandmother is like. You can see her face, lmao. She is another generation, wishing a daughter was a son and taking it out on a child. She's just not with it. It's very sad. This is the bad side of Korean's respecting elders, to a fault. Nobody will call her out on it, because she's 'old'.

[@celestezodiac9991]

the older sister takes advantage of the situation and the grandma honestly. dont say it much but it's about time for her to kneel over baiiii 👋

[@Poteito_png]

Watching this was super painful to me and I feel like the generation gap may also be one of the reasons why the grandma treats her so horribly. This also happens in my own home because my mother treats my second older sister with a lot of love and when I confronted her about it, she would respond, "No, I love you all equally," but it's super visible. She doesn't let her cook and yells at my other sisters and me for not cooking FOR her as she is lazing the day away. My mom often lectures and rants at me and my older sister, but now that my older sister moved away, I get super stressed out dealing with my mom. My mom especially makes me run tons of errands for her (since middle school) and thinking back...NOT ONCE was I able to actually catch a break. Spring break? NAH, gotta run errands and help family matters. Summer break? Pretty much the same. I remember doing super badly one semester in college because my mom was yelling at me to discontinue my education and get married to a "rich guy," while I was literally in the middle of an errand. She has even called out to me in front of my friends and I was so embarrassed. Long story short, I hope Gahye is being treated better and that the grandma did not revert back to her old ways/go back on her words...

[@Coliflowermusic88]

the granny can remember that the older sister fell and injured her toenail but claims to have forgotten every single wrong she's done to the younger child???? Edit: the hell she could even remember how her husband mistreats her back 50 years ago...lady u need help

[@desipurple11]

That grandma remembers..Mhm, I see you boo

[@yii_n]

7:09 she look like she is going to cry

[@bri12345ification]

Grandma basically exposed herself by avoiding every question

[@pjmsar2763]

the younger one will grow up to be prettier than the older one tho lol ops

[@journl5]

pjmsar she's already prettier than the older one. no wonder why she won't quit bitching about gahye to her grandma. sorry but also not sorry. 🙄

[@diannaanggraeni6638]

yeah you could tell

[@nicoleangeliquetancorral4400]

She kinda look like hoshi of seventeen

[@nicolereanlozada7978]

I'm weirded out that hoshi is mentioned in an unexpected way

[@AnhNguyen-vh8cw]

pjmsar that true

[@muslimachowdhury6639]

Can we just take a moment to appreciate the younger sisters beauty, like she is so pretty!!

[@anamira2908]

Ugh the grandmas proud face. She is so mean. I hate how Koreans justify these behaviors, to extent of laughing and calling the grandmother adorable. All because she is an "elder". It doesn't matter. A piece of shit is a piece of shit no matter how old they are. If they didn't go on this show the granddaughter would probably resent her grandma for the rest of her life. That is if everything goes well after this, or maybe the grandma will go back to the same behavior.

[@merve4661]

Ana Mira exactly

[@thankyou8806]

if it were in other countries the granma would get whooped by the hosts

[@jekkeelim]

But in asian countries or for our culture at least, it’s called filial piety. It’s necessary to respect the elderly no matter how fked up they are

[@ljcool399]

JK Lim That doesn't make it right though. If a person is rude, no matter the age, they should be held responsible for their rude actions.

[@jekkeelim]

Lauren Johnson hahaha true true but growing up in a country with a more conservative culture that’s the way it is

[@Ikaa1324_]

Those lady in a red sweater give a useless advices. No need for gahye to act nice to her grandma. It's her grandma's fault. Sometimes the elder must treat the youngest very well.

[@maride95]

When you go to terapy they dont teach the world to treat you better, they teach you to deal with the world. Even if I agree the adult should be responsible for the child, she is a senior. She lived in another time so she has different values, also she may soon have dementia and starts to act like a child a throw tatums. Its safer to make gahye learn to deal with her grandmother (and whoever makes she thinks she needs to hurt herself for attention) than try to deconstruct her grandmother, especially when she may soon not be sane enough to stand for her own values.

[@phuonganhtran7850]

Mariana i actually thinks that adults should be responsible for a child’s behavior since they are grown up, they should know how to handle it smartly. Gahye is a child, she hasn’t fully developed yet, both mental and physic, she should be cherished not filled with hate. I really think that yhe grandmother is this case is problematic. She’s sexist, treat Gahye badly or at least not as good as the older one. She told Gahye things that can hurt her mentally which may lead to crooked manners. Thats not how an adult should act

[@zy5992]

@@phuonganhtran7850 Remember the grandmother is probably in her 70s-90s, and was born in a time that is different than now, where cultures and mannerisms would be different, especially in Korea where nearly everyone is very conservative. In another video, she mentioned she was often abused by her husband for not having a son. She may have been taught a certain way too to have that mentality. It's a vicious cycle, and I'm glad that they raised the issue so hopefully she would change for the better. If not, at least the young girl knows how to treat her future grandkids.

[@imsunshine20]

I actually love her advice. She gives comfort to gahye as well making her all smile. She spread positivity.

[@kpopsicle9119]

In Korea you are supposed to respect the elders even though they say something horrible to you. In which, I hate it so much 😠.

[@marieb.6680]

Just watched the first part, now I get here and what's the first thing I hear grandma say?? "I don't remember".......dear god granny don't use your age as an excuse for everything Edit: How is the youngest daughter supposed to express love for her granny if the granny treats her this way?

[@raraMakup]

What the actual fuck ?? The grandmother is not "Adorable " and no she didn't forget she just have nothing to say. The mother of that pretty little one should really be more hard on her mother like no, what the heck , if you can't treat my daughter well then just don't come near her. Talk to her with respect of course but she's wrong and she needs to know that.

[@jhopesmoans4343]

Nany BP exactly

[@annienguyen8369]

My grandma is exactly the same. She favors my youngest uncle's children and it's driving the rest of us insane, especially my other uncle's son. U all know how Asian grandparents always favor grandsons.

[@dee-wc2hd]

Annie Nguyen Same here. My grandma favors my elder sister because she's the first grandchild. That's why I grew up with my dad instead of with my mom because my grandma wanted my mom to give me to my dad. And they didn't even buy me any clothes when I was passed to my dad (my sister's clothes are always new). Bias people in the family.

[@amachi2101]

Same here! my grandma is prefer to all of my uncle and auntie's children except me. even i treat her nicely, she just gave me cold shoulder.

[@Frankie1603]

Annie Nguyen this is so me lol my grandma treats my uncle's daughters nicely because they are kids of her son it is so annoying not to mention that they didn't give anything from their inheritence to my mom or aunts split it all between my 2 uncle although they were 7 siblings it is such a joke even this day i'm so annoyed

[@stefxicilicitici6592]

I'll share my grandma with you guys

[@iryurai9307]

Annie Nguyen same here

[@syamz_._x2-017]

I feel like crying.. She's still young.. I literally understand her feelings..

[@oomelette]

The older sister's face pisses me off in ways I cannot explain.

[@a1ree3]

shenshei ikr

[@anamira2908]

shenshei she's ugly as opposed to the younger sister.

[@angiet7380]

Ana Mira Ugly faces piss you off? Better avoid mirrors or you'll be eternally angry

[@anamira2908]

Angie T Oh so you're ugly? lol Is that why you're so upset over a random comment.

[@simrankaur-er3kh]

it's really rude to attack the older sister for her appearance, it has nothing to do with this situation

[@skippyhippo]

Choi Tae Joon is so cute. He really defends the girl well

[@radindak7]

Yasss

[@addreefur]

I friggin hate the older sister HAHAHA

[@user-ob8gs9zb5m]

Dude why

[@lalnunnemiralte9830]

@@user-ob8gs9zb5m it seems to me that she doesn't really care about her younger sister suffering bc she is benefiting from it and she herself probably would fall out of her grandmother's favor if she says something against the hag

[@ochtaphy7054]

@@lalnunnemiralte9830 Also note that shes still a kid herself. Im also my grannys fav and my lil bro got it worst. I didnt think much bout it back then ig, but i with all my heart cant love my grandma much coz i can see how my brother is still suffering

[@kaiyin3842]

She is still a child just like the younger sister. Both need to be taught and guided by adults. I bet you are an adult too now, so you shouldn’t behave like her granny.

[@arigatoman4160]

since grandma doesnt give gahye attention she wanted her parent's even more to the point she even injured herself and still the grandma wasnt even worried or at least said something to her, i really hope grandmas words dont affect gahye in the future and everything turns out well for her, shes a really smart little girl and omg shes a cutie, i wonder what happened when they got home, i hope the old lady didnt scold gahye and her mom for doing this

[@sugarjimin1057]

I feel like the granny is lying when she says "I forgot" or "I don't remember that" because she kept touching her ears and I think that's a sign of lying. The granny makes me go mad every time she says those things. Ok, the older sister *WAS* sick and weak and she may still be but I just hope the granny can just look at both sides of the story.

[@v_kee]

i feel so bad for the girl and i want to smacked that granny for a moment she keeps avoiding QUESTIONSS

[@ilifadilah8813]

When will old people & parents are gonna stop being bias. Even though the first child is sick, she shouldn't use her authotity to do whatever she likes. She already get the attention from the grandmother and she wants attention from her parents as well. So what does that make her? A selfless eldest sister. And the eldest sis told the grandmother that her mom bought shoes for Ester. Is it wrong for Ester to ask her mom to buy a pair of shoes? Using the reason on why she's sick and got to go operation and stuff is just absurd. As a eldest sis, she didn't do a good job as an elder sister. She didn't take on Ester side when the grandmother scolds Ester. Its not fair for Ester too. And the grandmother too. So old yet the words coming out from her mouth is like a kid. At a very young age, I still DO NOT get why parent biasing their own children. Like hell, is your childhood so miserable that you have to do it to your OWN kids?

[@labanoso]

Yeah, but she never did use the excuse of getting hospitalized tough. Also, it isn't wrong for Ester to ask for a pair of shoes but it also isn't wrong to tell other people about it either. Like if my sister got something, it isn't a crime for me to talk about, isn't it? Also, did you mean "selfish" or "selfless"?

[@ilifadilah8813]

Uri Pe its not wrong for her sister to tell her grandmother. But why does she have to? If she didn't tell her grandmother that her mom bought Ester a pair of shoes will she get hurt if she didn't? Of course she doesn't use the excuse of having sugery as and excuse. She don't even side Ester side when she know that she is wrong! She doesn't even look sorry when the mc ask her how she felt about her grandmother mistreating Ester.

[@labanoso]

Well, people don't necessarily need a reason to bring up a topic. She could have just used it as a topic of conversation. I don't think the elder sister would have known that their grandma would scold her mom about it. She also did mention admitting and insisting her mistake with the messy sink or soup incident. It ain't her fault if her crazy ass grandma doesn't listen to her. And beside, most kids with siblings would probably be like that too. Feeling relieved instead of sorry if you aren't the one who gets scolded by your parents or guardians

[@ilifadilah8813]

-c- so that her grandmother favours her more. Geez. She know she does something wrong and yet kept quiet about it and let the grandmother scolds Ester. So what does make her(her older sis)? A selfless person?

[@labanoso]

No, I'm not sure about you but I also normally keep quiet if my siblings are getting scolded. This is pretty common with families around me. Also, I think you mean she's a selfish person. Selfish means someone who cared only about themselves and selfless means cares about others too

[@nezh6826]

Hold the fuck up. She just said openly she had cut herself a "little" to receive love!! What happens if she goes further? She's super young to have even thought about cutting herself! This girl is neglected! How the hell was that ignored? Her grandma is rude! She remembers what happens years back yet "pretends" to not remember any mishaps she's had with Gahye! Also Gayhe's mum needs to stand her fucken ground like if my partners mum treated my daughters like this I'd speak the hell up! Poor girl!

[@noratikah7983]

I'm asian too. But in my country, i noticed this culture gradually change where they focus on mutual respect. Even the government held a campaign called "Yang tua dihormati, yang muda disayangi - The elders is respected, the young is loved "

[@mooncatshipyj4788]

Seriously when people have the thought to harm themselves that means they possibly have mental problems, and they should be physically and mentally treated with any kind of medical treatment from professionals.

[@gellybeansannet.5136]

Gahye's so pretty tho. Very cute and adorable. Liked her from the moment I saw her 😊👍and yea, I agree with the comments on how the old ppl always play the *I can't rmb a shit thing* when being asked questions like these which could affect the child both psychologically and physically as stated on how she pretended to cut her finger 🙁 it's infuriating on how the sister acts so pitiful and the favoritism being played here 😡

[@GIGI_XG]

Gahye' stories are relatable for me. My father has 2 other siblings and they are the most favored by my grandma. Including my two cousins. My mom was a countryside woman and that probably makes it even worse coz my grandma was against their marriage. My mom and I received unfair treatment ever since i was born. My mom had to work 9-5 and i was left with a baby sitter who cared about me so much. I grew up remember all the moments i wasnt treated nicely and unfair, whether its about food, love or nice words the least. 2 years ago when i turned 30, that baby sitter, she came to visit me, and she told a story that i cant forget. I was only 6mos old when i cried so loud one afternoon, she had a lot of chores to do. My uncle's wife came to see me crying and didnt even bother to calm me, she even got angry coz it was summer and the weather was hot. When my baby sitter tried to calm me, the aunt said dont, just do the chores, let her cry. My mom was there to listen to this untold story and there was a silence, she was speechless and questioned what did she do wrong to have her daughter unloved like that? My grandma only carried me once, and that was when i was born. She never bathed me or fed me. But she does care and does all of that for my cousins. She is now almost 90, and cant walk by herself. When she received a bone surgery, my mom and i took care of her even when she pooped on the bed. There was none in the house willing to do that, so my mom asked me lets do this, and forget all the things she hasnt done for you as a grandma. I personally forgave my grandma, but as a human, im still lacking in everything. I cant forget what she had done to me and my mom. It always stays in my memories until i die.

[@renjunisalegend5155]

the hosts saying the grandma favours the older one more just bcs she was once sick is nonsense. i like the girl's statement saying she understand the grandma loving her sister but she doesnt understand why the grandma hates her. i mean, the grandma can love the older more without hating or cursing the younger one right? is it rlly necessary for the grandma to always yells at her and saying she should've been born as a boy? it shows that the grandma is literally being biased w the elder one.

[@renjunisalegend5155]

and am i the only one who's not laughing or smiling at all? the grandma is not cute at all, she just avoid the questions and i somehow sense something fake reaction of the grandma when the younger one pours her water and kiss her. the older one doesnt help at all.

[@strongestpower]

jiminn parkbts I believe that they were just as frustrated as the viewers (if not more) with the grandmother because they could tell she was lying. Plus, I don't think they actually found her cute (it seemed more like a replacement of a swear word) and were just being sarcastic

[@renjunisalegend5155]

Strong Power yeah they should've solve this problem better imo

[@mengmeng1379]

WHY DOESN'T ANY BODY NOTICE GRANDMA HERE REMEMBERS EVERYTHING ABOUT THE OLDER SISTER AND NOT THE YOUNGER SISTER ( #harsh life )

[@vanessamumu1968]

its not like she didnt remember. its becoz what the younger sayings were all true and she had to back up herself so she used her age and oldies symptoms to get away from the questions cz she got nothing to say. if she said anything about it, those must be a lie OR she would expose herself

[@zainabriizwan]

I also used to pretend to be asleep so my dad would carry me out of the car

[@anak4600]

I'd do that everyhwere not only car sjfjfbdh.

[@mutiaracindy3772]

I hope gahye grow as a brave and successful girl so she can defeat her sister. I hate her omg I see that she smirk a lot. no offence.

[@elisenguyen4477]

Mutiara Cindy - ikr! I can already imagine gahye being famous or VERY successful in the future than the stupid sister. I'm pretty sure the sister is gonna be super jealous and Unsuccessful In the future.

[@a.ashley5292]

yep, the older sister is going to be very unsuccessful just for the fact that she has a bad heart/personality. that's going to cause many doors to shut in her face.