8-year-old sister is scared of her mother! [Hello Counselor / 2017.07.24]

[@favforsue]

So ignorant. She makes them go to the bathroom less so they won't get bladder infections? It is actually the opposite.

[@jeongyeonshighnote3795]

favforsue true

[@fartyyy979]

Ikr

[@Chanhee]

That's the type of thing that's widely believed in Korea but its recently been being debunked and more people are finding out the trutu

[@ibrahimesther]

Yes it’s the opposite. Lol 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@linasbubble]

yea exactly, so dumb

[@kaneberries.2947]

This is an example of an unhealthy parenting. The children will get depressed because of the way their mother treats them. There's a rightful way to discipline children. She's just way overboard.

[@emiliawilson4378]

Kane Berries The teenage girl already seem like she has depression

[@kaneberries.2947]

Sujuelf Emy yeah I agree. I can see it in her facial expressions. I hope it'll be resolved though. This is a very serious concern. :/

[@Mori1000]

That's my situation too. Honestly since the bottom of my heart, I don't wanna know anything about my parents and family once I get out of the house. I'm really destroyed. Family is said to be the best we have and as far as you count with your family everything has hope, but when it is the opposite, an unhealthy parenting..the pain is, the pain in your heart, I can just say is like an internal open wound, you feel something piercing you, it's heavy. And everytime I see my parents, or hear them (especially my mother) this feeling gets stronger.

[@cl03cl]

Kane Berries yeah

[@uniqnme5080]

kaneberries. Just like me.

[@LydiaALau]

Theres a difference between discipline and oppression

[@Alllooclov]

ChildofTheHeavenlyKing abuse*

[@veryhermosa]

that’s not oppression

[@AlexS-oj8qf]

Edit: Wow I'm so speechless for the comments everyone leave, I read every single of then and I'm glad that we can be here together. Always remember that you're not alone and that things will get better, eventually! Love you all 🤗 As a child of strict parent, I will tell you that these are the things that will happen to your child if you're overly strict to them. 1. Your child become a good liar. 2. Didn't get motivated over things because them doing great is an exoectation and doing poor is unacceotable, which could result in children prefer not being anything at all instead of being a dissapointment. 3. Avoid telling you stories about their life, which is critical for their mental development, because you won't know anything about your children, like if your child have problem or struggle in certain things, that might affected them in the future. 4. Emotionally drained kids, because you expect them to behave, so they learned to wear a 'mask' instead of properly expressing themselves. 5. Grudges after obtaining their "freedom", possibly resulting in your child ignoring your advice in the future because you've "talked enough" over their lives. 6. Turned out to be bad parents because the trauma endured that they often didn't want repeat the cycle, so they tends to loosen up a lot. Discipline is okay, but know when to praise, when to let go, when to see things from the child's perspective, when to trust, and when to scold them. Trust me you'll get more benefits from co-operating with the child than control the child. After all, we don't ask to be born into this world.

[@xKimmy_05x]

So that's why me and my sister is so good at lying

[@xKimmy_05x]

But luckily, my mother isn't *that* strict

[@idkmamsure9209]

I think they turn into better parents because they want to give their kids a better life than they had.

[@outsider3783]

It's scary how much your comment resonates with I have experienced

[@cutesweettea]

this is vvvv true

[@mahoganyhickman4097]

Watching this, I noticed that the girl was so lifeless. It may be from stage fright, but she just seemed so dull and stoic. There was little to no emotion in her words or actions. I think a big portion of that is from her being repressed to such a huge degree. Her mom took away a lot of chances for social development and I'm already seeing the issues behind it. She's already in middle school, I pray that by the time she gets to high school she will have more of an ability to express her emotions, thoughts, and ideas.

[@alexandragulko8135]

Survival requires stoicism, abusers feed off of your reactions.

[@violetgirl1996]

Did you see the way her eyes became watery as the hosts spoke to the mother about taking away her child's social development? Tsk

[@AnonningAnon]

People are missing key signs here, the girl said her mom beats her and now she's saying her mom drinks A LOT...

[@hooman6758]

exactly, they need an actual professional there

[@jayrabah8064]

hoo man dr Phil to the rescue

[@jayrabah8064]

Cristina Sousa if everybody does it that doesn’t mean it’s right

[@jayrabah8064]

Cristina Sousa but from a health aspect , it’s not that great

[@harinim6589]

Cristina Sousa Looking at a health perspective, it’s not good...

[@catlady8717]

Parents that are too strict with their children risk their children going wild when their children finally have freedom away from home. Having tasted freedom for the very first time, they might be so overwhelmed with the freedom and really act out. I honestly think this has nothing to do with being Asian. My family was strict too, but they stoped being controlling once I turntable 15, somewhere around there, because they understand that I'm a teenager and need my own space. And they trust me too. And I don't break their trust. My parents were pretty lenient on me and that's why I have such a good relationship with them, because I can tell them anything

[@moomoomilu8428]

Joyce Ong l

[@rifaemilda1021]

yes! my parents do the same as your parents

[@a_lost_staysider]

its more common to find asians who have gone through it tho cuz how asian countries bring kids up are like this because that is the culture. they grew up in a strict, competitive country that supported it, not all parents but most. every asian person i know has gone through it. kids these days are fighting back because society is changing and its becoming different from the society our parents grew up in

[@ilmahasanbegovic7760]

Joyce Ong omg same! My parents did that too when I turned 15 (5 months ago😅) and they know that they can trust me. Btw, Her mom is just to much and maybe was born as a parent and never experienced how to be a teenager.

[@chunmee8734]

not only that but also will the children accept abusive relationships with possessive partners because they learned violence&obsession=love

[@gameblouses139]

Did the mom really say she wants them to go to the bathroom less because she's afraid they will get bladder infections?? I'm pretty sure not going when you need to and holding it in does more harm than good.

[@hidayaht3457]

game blouses I

[@namjuice8086]

_Uh....she was talking about the kids eating sweets and junk food..._

[@aileenvillanueva2567]

i hope she’s not timing them that is worst than boot camps

[@heythere9475]

Probably just lies to save her face

[@EvelynZaneta]

U can tell her she struggles to say i love you to her mom. This is a wrong perception, you don't have to love someone that abuses you just because it's a family member. Being in a family with someone is like being assigned to group projects with random people, you don't get to choose them.

[@blinkieblah5138]

exactly

[@jacquelinequintero19]

These are the words I've been looking for, Jesus Christ. The excuse that I don't have the right to hate a parent because they're related to me is absurd

[@winkywinky7310]

Sometimes I actually wish my dad to die

[@chikinnaggeto9032]

from personal experience you will always love your parent deep down even if you wont admit it and even if they are abusive because there is a built in love for your parents... just because you love them doesn’t mean you like them and they are a good person though. you may hate them but then again you can only hate someone if there is love involved. love can happen even with hate or dislike.

[@pikabiga]

Yes!! Thank you for calling out the abuse. I’ve grown up in a similar household with a strict mother and an alcoholic father. They took away my freedom, and being home and “spending time” with them made me depressed bc of all the mental, physical, and verbal abuse I endured. I was housebound and nearly went crazy under their control. I have never once told them I loved them bc... honestly I don’t. Why would I when they’ve told me they’ve always told me they hate me and reject me. You don’t have to love your parents. There are shorty parents. It is their duty as they had a choice in having children to provide for you, but I have never once received any love from them. All they’ve ever been is overbearing and selfish. In my heart, at a young age, I understood this and accepted it. Not everyone has a healthy relationship with their parents. That’s fine. We must keep living.

[@wonhaebunny454]

i'm a little scared tbh... honestly these shows can help but in this case i feel like sujin is just going to get a bigger punishment when she gets home for exposing such things about her mother on tv...

[@bettysh23]

omg this was my thought the entire time. like in my family (I probs have a kinda toxic fam too which is why I can kinda relate) its "fam info stays with the fam" and if we tell other ppl whats going on, you get ready to get punished when you get back home. and there's a specific look the parents give you when you know u fcked up, and I kinda saw that face on her moms face. i hope shes gonna be okay tho :( I'm also someone who was restricted a lot when I was younger and although I didn't go CRAZY CRAZY after getting "freedom", I did do some crazy things that probs would've gotten me in so much trouble. til this day I still haven't told my parents.... :/

[@2ne1kpopfxpowaa]

Ok, the real problem here is just that the mom is obsessed with others's opinions but she doesn't really care about the well being of her daughter, once her daughter will stop being associated with her (when she will graduates high school and become an adult) , her mom will not care anymore about her life I really observed that korean people give a lot of importance to others opinions and to society view on them

[@hamdanur9565]

Ksr L it isn’t restricted to Koreans but to many other cultures

[@crystaledson]

yes i agree

[@7891-l3w]

I'm sorry bt I don't think that's he point. The point is that she drinks a lot, beat her children and abuse them so much that her children are afraid and struggle to say they love their mom

[@hanam4345]

​@@7891-l3w that is the point though, it's what causes her to mistreat her children in the first place. of course the abuse is a problem but it stems from her obsession with the opinions of others in their town. she's restricting her daughter because she doesn't want anything to potentially reflect poorly upon herself but doesn't care at all that it may cause her daughter to have issues when she can finally experience freedom. not caring about your child's wellbeing and the development of their social skills is a very big problem that has lasting effects

[@matokibunny12]

KBS YOU NEED AN ACTUAL PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR ON THE SHOW

[@eleonora4076]

roshie ᄒᄒᄒ ARMY

[@moonchildhyun]

True. I feel like a real counselor will explain further and get a better solution for each worries.

[@flowerings]

if they were professional, then there wouldn't be much comedy.

[@MyNguyen-zi8wm]

From the perspective of a psychiatry graduate, yes, I think they should hire a pro along with entertainers, to keep the show deep and fun

[@oa1815]

maybe dr. Phil...

[@crona5350]

I can relate to the daughter because my dad used to be like that. I ended up having depression because of him and felt such resentment/hatred towards him as well. Even the younger daughter is scared of her mom to where she flinches. I truly believe if this continues, both her daughter's are gonna become depressed and start rebelling when they get older. Also, they'll feel hella resentment.

[@cl03cl]

sammi love same but with my mother

[@mrsmaimay4918]

sammi love my dad too 😓😓😓

[@hahahaha-yp2dx]

my dad is like this, when im 18 i never want to see him or his side of the family again

[@ftiouu]

Same with my mom

[@lilmariquita3117]

Same with my mom 😔

[@nurulain814]

Gotta admit that my mom have nothing to do with me when i go out but my dad did, my dad exactly like her mom. Very strict. But growing up as asian with a strict parents, you'll realise how they taught you to be a person who you're in the future. BUT HER MOM ARE TOO OVERBOARD TOWARDS HER DAUGHTER ITS LIKE ITS NOT FAIR AT ALL

[@MyBloodyLips]

Nurul Ain honestly my dad was the strict one on me as a 15yr(at the time) old going out , I asked my mom permission if I could go out to the movies and she'd agreed but my dad when I got home like at 6pm got pissed and spanked me saying that I needed boths permission 😠

[@merinikoghosyan4745]

EmiCrimsonLips You cutted yourself in the wrist?! That's horrible!! I hope you're doing better now

[@MyBloodyLips]

Meri Nikoghosyan 😌 I only did it once, one line 😱 Thank got I didn't go really deep 😥 I have a light scar there, Idk if it's visible to others but I see it every time and yes I'm better ☺️

[@emerald442]

+EmiCrimsonLips love urself dear ! Dont feel demotivated or useless alright omg im so worried

[@nurfatihahbtmohdfarizan4186]

Nurul Ain I feel u, girl.. Growing up as an asian is a little bit difficult because we have rules, cultures to follow.. I understand why her mom did tht.. She must be really worried about her daughter but I'm seriously thought that her mother should be open minded regarding this issue.. Otherwise her daughter might end up holding a grudge and resentment towards her mother..

[@aalexx7165]

If the mom keeps restricting the oldest daughter then men would think that she probably isn't worth it. The daughter could end up falling into depression because of this! She'll also have some type of grudge against her and it'll break the relationship between them.

[@cloudcadet5889]

Alexis Baby It would be a really funny plot twist if shes lesbian😂

[@angilile5384]

Nah, she will go wild as the panel suggested. My friend did just that. She had an insanely strict mother..restricted her for simply talking to a male friend from school that lived in the yard behind her with a fence in between them. I was there and it shocked me. Once we graduated at 17 and into our mid 20s she literally went wild and turned into a freak...the freaks come out at night what what what... But she pulled it out all the time!!

[@choohah5604]

Poor girl. Shes really scared. Looks at the way she sit. Shes playing with her fingers. Not even looking straight to her mom's eyes. Shes looks anxious. Someones please save this poor girl. Jaebal 😭😭

[@LonesomeKingdom]

My mum was a lot like her when I was her age. I wasn't allowed to invite friends over, I wasn't allowed out 'roaming the streets' and I live in a small town so there's not much else to do except walk around. When I was allowed out, I had to be home before the street lights turned on. I honestly think these kind of restrictions are a big reason why I have such social anxiety now as an adult and can't even do simple things in society because I never built up my confidence or independence. I really hope her mother changes her ways and realises she could be doing more harm than good.

[@nadiar.4638]

Elly I have the opposite, like the guest in the video said, I went wild. Still not totally calmed down. But slowly getting there as my confidence builds, not with any help from my parents though....

[@pikabiga]

Looks like the damage is already done for the daughter-resentment-wise anyway. The look in her eyes says she doesn’t love her mother. When she gets away, she won’t be coming back. She smiles at her sister though, but with her mother, she’s already made her decision. It is the mother’s fault entirely.

[@nini_l2609]

Same here, 😔

[@uzuitengens4thwife960]

"what if your daughter graduates and becomes too wild??" "it's fine i won't be seeing it anyways" yup all this woman cares about is her reputation in the neighborhood

[@dontgiveup4701]

my parents think the same way. they said once i leave their house i can do anything, i did and it left me so much scars, i can even talk to them nowadays

[@zainebhidoussi1498]

ikr so messed up

[@cardboardclub]

Im just wondering if its linked with whether her mother has a distrust in men and how she doesn't want her daughter to feel the same pain, perhaps she's been through? I'm not justifying how controlling she is but it might explain why shes so obsessive in ending the daughters relationship with boys?

[@melancholy_joy]

I wouldn't be surprised. Parents usually project their own experiences onto their kids, whether knowingly or unknowingly. In hopes of their kids learning from their mistakes. She probably wants the best outcomes for her daughter that she (the mom) probably didn't have. But this mindset can have negative results, because she's living vicariously through her daughter.

[@reedahuda2298]

i mean from what i've understood, her mother doesn't quite care about her daughter's wellbeing. she kept mentioning how people would talk about the daughter having a boyfriend and how it doesn't concern her if the daughter rebels later because she won't have to see it. i think the mother's main concern here is to uphold a good image about their family in front of others, and after she passes high school, her daughter isn't her responsibility anymore.

[@Hmsdddffff]

There will be blood spilled on the carpet that night I don't like how easy going the mother acted It was scary

[@PeyloBeauty]

WHAT ME SHOCKED THE MOST IT THAT HER CHILDREN LITERALLY ASK FOR THEIR MOTHER PERMISSION TO GO TO THE BATHROOM- OR IF THEY CAN EAT SOMETHING?? THIS MUST BE A FUCKING SCARY MOTHER. AND I CAN'T STAND PARENTS THAT DRINK MUCH IN FRONT OF TEIR CHILDREN. THIS IS ABSURD AND IT CAN AFFECT THEM.

[@mintdolly7323]

FUCKING RIGHT IF YOUR 6 AND 8 YEAR OLD CHILDREN ARE SO TERRIFIED TO DRINK WATER WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION THAT IS FUCKING MESSED UP. THEY ARE YOUNG AND SMOL AND WILL BE SCARED OF THEIR MOTHER FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES.

[@PeyloBeauty]

mintdolly THIS IS SO SAD?!? Just imagne being them. Like I sometimes feel I'm in a cage at home but seeing this makes me realize how much better it is for me. Hope the mother will change & tell their child's the don't have to ask.

[@rinchi3]

she is the same as my mom exactly the same even tho I'm not Korean I'm Vietnamese I can't go anywhere I have to be at home 24/7 and I'm 14 but I get use to it but I kinda want my mom to change a bit

[@hxdxr7001]

you still young i think when you get to hight school she'll be more opened don't worry ;)

[@mari13ssaTheStrange]

My mom is still like that and I'm 22 and Mexican lol

[@MyBloodyLips]

Yup just wate a little more maybe 15-17 my mom let me go out at 15 but my friends weren't the let's go Wild we just hanged out and played ._. I'm 20 and I can go out and probably stay out but with heads up to my mom 🙂

[@jie5126]

same! my mom is the same but even worse

[@beachbitchbeachbitchhollai294]

My mom tried to hold me home and told me to stay home and if I go somewhere with my friends at 5pm she will only let me stay until 6pm,that was until I made 14,then I told her that if she will continue with that I will go and live with my grandparents and from then she let me to do whatever I want,I made 17 this year and now I don't want to go somewhere and just to stay home,now my mom tells me to go out with friends

[@parkhana40]

aww she and her friend is so cute theyre both pretty!

[@astercinellidae1198]

Actually you get an infection if you hold it that was stupid of the mom 😒

[@F.N.M.G.]

Apart from what people are saying in the comment section,think about when the girl grows up and is either unable to get a guy/person,or doesn't want to. Her mother is gonna flip out.

[@Mejichu]

I could hear the sadness in the girls voice and I feel so bad for her. Honestly I live in a semi-nice bad place & My mom lets me stay out till 9-10 pm if I text her where I'm at twice for example if I go somewhere at 2pm I text her at 4pm & 7pm.

[@eleonora4076]

Bree Kim ARMY

[@M-123kh]

Ok just keep treating ur daughters like that and I can asure u that u will stay all alone after they graduate from high school and they will leave u with carrying all the hate feelings towards u so congrats

[@THE-gd6qn]

The girl seems so close with her sisters ...her beautiful face lights up every time something related to her sisters come up ....😍😍😍 Her sisters must make up for her rough mom🤗🤗

[@sunnygirly2k4]

I used to be smacked as a child (arm/leg/bottom), but *never* hit round the head! That looks abusive. It seems the mum's outlet for her stress in binge drinking and behaving in an overly domineering, despotic manner. There's better ways to handle it and she seriously needs anger management and counselling. The kids don't seem to like her very much (understandably) and both eldest and younger daughters have a flat, exasperated voices, conveying their emotions apropos her harmful parenting.

[@benidax3712]

conflicts like these only make me think *She's/He's is gonna move out one day and live their own life and you can't do anything anymore because they'll be grown*

[@mari13ssaTheStrange]

my life story! lol I'm out and free to watch anything I want on my laptop past 9pm :D Now, I'm so wild, sometimes, I even eat in bed and watch dramas well into midnight ;P

[@miyoungahchoi4098]

when I was younger my mother was exactly like that. I had only 1 hour to go out with my friends while they had like 4-5; I was always forces to stay at home and don't go anywhere without her, and before going out she always questioned me about who I'm going out with and she forced me to write to her my friends' phone number. I really hated that so I started to run away, I hide from her after school, lied that I have more lessons just to go out, I didn't respond the her calls and when I did that she started calling my friends and it was frustrating. Now I live with my dad and my mom doesn't act like that anymore, whenever I go to her house and want to go out I just say to her that I'll be going and at what time I will come home. The thing that I want to say is that you can prohibit your child to go out, it will cause a big damage to the relationship that a parent and child have, it is ok to worry, but everything has a border, and you cannot cross it. The more you say "don't do it " to your child the more he/she will do it.

[@dark.forest]

11:07 just look at this expression, I'm afraid for the poor girl No-one knows what happened after the show

[@zia2279]

My entire family is exactly like her mom. I cant go anywhere with my friends, I cant go to concerts, I cant do anything for my self. I feel so bad for the girl because I relate to her on a spiritual level.

[@christycoma5975]

Parents act exactly like this, I never go out with friends without an adult or a perfectly planned out schedule, I'm already loosing social skills, and I'm a year younger. I thought it was normal for parents to usually be this strict but I noticed my friends go out and do whatever they want when we started getting into middle school ourselves. She's not alone, I feel you sister.

[@EJK-wy3eb]

Did you notice that disgusted/despising look Youngja had?

[@bubbles02010]

the mother, despite her best intentions, is ruining her relationship with her daughters... a lot of parents don't realize that everything they do from the moment kids are born will affect them for the REST OF THEIR LIVES.

[@rikarahmadhania1539]

Strict parent raise great liars

[@getmeouttahere3595]

This is kind of like my mom, only my mom plays with my sister and I psychologically. We can hang out with friends (although she is nit picky with our friends, and she doesn't want us hanging out with 'poor' people). But she's very controlling when it comes to how we live our life. When I posted photos on Facebook from our trip to Japan, all she did the whole time was criticize my pictures. When I wore red lipstick, she made fun of me and said it doesn't suit me. Even when I wore this denin oversized jacket, she got mad at me and told me to quickly change because I looked fat. And I was already 21 when all of that happened - I'm a fucking adult! She even forced me to go to nursing school (even though I hate it so much), and she knows how much I struggle, but she doesn't understand. I even fell into depression and gained weight from all the stress, but she didn't understand and told me "how could you be depressed? You have everything! Others have it worse than you!" It made me feel so inadequate that something was wrong with me. And growing up, she was just as bad where my sister and I would always fear her. She always said, "I'm not your friend." And when we didn't do things her way, or got a grade of C+ in a subject, she would criticize us and say things like "I'm wish I never met your dad." And she still says that line today!! And she would physically hurt us (especially as kids). Like when I didnt finish my snacks at school, she slapped me so hard on the head that my ears rang for the whole day. She would kick, pinch, slap us. And when my sister struggled with her homework, she got a dust pan and struck my sister where she actually got a big cut that bled. And I remember my sister developed an eating disorder where she wouldn't eat (because she was fucking bullied for her weight at school), my mom only criticized her instead of helping her. She even stabbed my sister with a fork when she refused to eat. And the worst part is, after she does those things, she starts treating us so nice and buys as things. She's the reason why I'm the way I am today, and it's nothing good. Heck, even my grandma (my mom's mom) hates her and says "I'm going to move out. I don't like that attitude of your mom." And don't even get me started on what she does to my grandmother. It's heartbreaking. She got all of my grandma's money, and lands, and left nothing for her. My mom is jobless, and she dares take money from her mom who worked hard for it!!

[@0o0_27]

A omg..... that is terrible 😭😭😭 Gurl I hope you move out with your sis and grandma asap cause your mother is the kind a person that should live alone.... I am so sorry you and your sister went through that

[@salomeabdaladze989]

you are 21 . If she slaps you or hurts you again file for physical abuse at police and take pictures for proof. Sue her for psychological damage as well . If you don't want to, hit her back. How dare she stab your sister? disgusting.

[@disha6947]

Hey I hope you're doing well right now.❤

[@kennyalloyo3244]

She is just same as my mom & because of her I lost all my friends and my self confidence...I’m going to graduate soon & now she wants me to go out socialise with people & find a job but now it’s so hard for me as I’m always doubting myself

[@tieaferguson6310]

Her mom is really mad inside but embarrassed on the outside

[@okiemokie3357]

I dont understand the mother at all. As a parent dont you want to see your kids happy? If they are healthy and happy what else do you need? Do some people only have kids to release anger and have a slave? Its as if they think they arent human. Your kid has feelings too. Your kid wants to live normally too. Kids in situations like this get scared of their parents, rebel, get depressed, lose all their friends, so on. I dont understand how some people think.

[@ohmylordy_lord]

I can't believe she has to be home at 4 I mean seriously at 4 I'm still walking home let alone being out with friends

[@Rochelle_Ballah]

All the daughters are so beautiful, so sad that they have to put up with that woman

[@natd2572]

I’m in the 8th grade and I can stay with my friends at a party until like 9. Other days when I’m at their house just to hangout, I stay until 7:30/8. I understand her moms concern for her safety but what’s she doing because of it isn’t healthy for their relationship.

[@sugalova894]

Us Asians know what will happen after they get home

[@shyramohsin]

when she mentioned everyone knows everyone in the town and “i won’t be seeing it.”, i realized all she cared about was her own image in town, not her daughter.

[@anavalente8817]

If this was in Portugal this woman wasn't able to have her children anymore!! It shocks me how the babies have to ask for something, like drink water, WTF?!!! go to bathroom, WTTTFFFF???!?!?!?! Excuse me Mrs. you're commiting a crime, and for the good of your children, learn how to be a mother. That 15 year old girl is a teenager, she has to have her space, her freedom, with that she will form who she his, her personality and who she will be, if you stop her she will never be a mentally, socially and personal healthy woman, and thats for the little ones too. Your actions are not protecting them but are doing even worse...

[@emiwyisd3ad]

there is something so unsettling about the way she almost slurs her words and it seems so emotionless. it’s almost as if she’s on the brink of death. her mom’s behavior towards the children is so brutal.

[@kaiseizer]

I was brought up in a strict environment, especially my dad always had me focusing in academics more. If i dropped down from keeping my No 1 or top 2 at least in my batch, i'll be neglected and resented....I really struggled at those time to keep up with the expectation.. My sister was given more freedom compared to me though...Last time, very seldom i managed to hang out with my friends... I started to have a bit of freedom after graduated from high school, but somehow it really made me like a 'home' person..i dont really have that excitement to meet up with my friends until my mom thought i dont really have a friend or antisocial....

[@omegasage777]

@1:59 watch Joy and Wendy's reaction to this...lmao Honestly though I had the same reaction as Joy. It's ridiculous how this mother doesn't trust her kid at all.

[@TinaLiaNguyen]

The daughters so prettytyyyy

[@satan8443]

11:08 After that expression, I'm worried about what happened when they went home

[@lanadelreysvape]

When I saw the girl in the beginning she looked like Eunha from GFRIEND 0:17

[@eleonora4076]

Love Manu Rios ARMY

[@akkum1322]

@@eleonora4076 Why bring that up right now?

[@eleonora4076]

@@akkum1322 i posted that comment like 3 years ago, I was going through my cringe phase to which now I can just look back and laugh at it

[@akkum1322]

@@eleonora4076 Ah okay. Just making sure.

[@Roseholic10]

I love the way the cast of this show discuss the problem and trying to figure out a solution ! In simple way but so efficient

[@vampfiee]

This woman is an exact duplicate of my mom???? I relate to this girl :C

[@z._z3077]

Sekai OMG , same . I live the worst life any teenager could possibly have . I am thinking seriously about self-harm now , because my life sucks :(

[@headlinesheadlines1178]

OMG same my mom is the same and won’t let me hang out with my friends even if they’re the same gender as me!!!

[@katta7562]

Wow I feel so sorry for you :(( That's definitely too strict in my opinion

[@headlinesheadlines1178]

Kata 19 yeah it really is but i think she’s changing since she let me hang put with my friends for 4 hours at her house so maybe she’s changing

[@phoebelam5761]

Sekai actually this mom is pretty nice......compared to my mom.......

[@haruwu2]

I have a dad like her and it got really horrible when I was at her age...he would always steal my phone, wouldn't let me out, would beat me up if he thought I was rude when I wasn't.. I started to selfharm myself and just got really depressed. I didn't have freedom and was bullied by my own father. I'm feeling so sorry for the poor girl...

[@hibahaboosh5362]

woah so moms like that still live in this world

[@melancholy_joy]

Hiba Haboosh lool this comment is gold 😂 same tho

[@chiara9767]

trust me, there's more than you think there are...

[@jonathanchen5508]

Hiba Haboosh pshh mom, more like a prison guard

[@enid0993]

yessss

[@hibahaboosh5362]

@@chiara9767 feels sorry for their kids

[@kitty_janellie3268]

2:53 the right girl's face tho 😂

[@cassandrac976]

is it just me because the way i look at it, sujin seems like she's very very sad and unhappy

[@xKimmy_05x]

My mother isn't *that* strict but sometimes she says "If you aren't going to do the anything at home and just be on your phone, go live in an orphanage" or "if you don't listen to me i can send you back to Thailand so you can live whit your grandparents" in Thailand you can beat kids and my grandma gets mad pretty easily i haven't got beaten up by her because i moved to Sweden when i was 2 but my older sister (by 6 years) spent a lot of time with them when our mom was at work, but at least she got our grandfather and he never hit her our dad left us before i was born and our he is like a father to my sister

[@ThePoopywonjo]

Once shes in college i can see her going wild.

[@kowkiiii4047]

4:13 y'all look at how she's looking at her

[@mari-fl5cb]

There should be a thing where maybe in almost the end of the show a professional counselor would show up and give them professional advice.

[@yeahidk3914]

"She seems satisfied" for ruining some of the most important and developmental/learning years in her daughter's life. Regardless of intention, she needs to think about the consequences this will have on her daughter's life and how it will affect her.

[@bubsbubsoohlalaa]

its true that when you control someone too much they will tend to go wild or experiment with many things when they get the freedom...happened to me but thankfully my wildness was towards travelling

[@rimun5235]

I guess Asian parents are like African parents but all it ever gave me was resentment and a strong wish to leave home. I at one point vowed not to see my parent again, but I had a melt down before that and just completely let it all out. My mom changed for the better and now we get along a lot, but there were moments growing up that felt like hell. I remember writing in my diary "Is there such a thing as family or are we just strangers who share the same blood."

[@vyycats]

Low key feel like when the girl and mom came home the girl got scolded and nothing helped 💀💀

[@enid0993]

yeah poor girl :(

[@beno7581]

This young girl can be a. Model or an actor or something she's a beauty 😻

[@rooowtwx]

In Asian cultures, this is pretty much the norm, actually. I'm in my 20s and this is commonplace. I can see what her mum is concerned with; what with teen pregnancy and pre-marital, underage sex being rather common too... and she might also be a single mum (as there was no mention of their dad?) thus her over-protective stance. though, pretending to text her friends as the daughter and checking everything is a bit...too much. learning to draw a line would be crucial to their relationship

[@LanaBellaVargas]

actually she does have a dad. in a different video the mom mentions that her dad is a farmer.

[@nadiar.4638]

Rtyx if she is scared of her daughter getting pregnant, she should talk about it with her. As many studies show telling teens to not have sex doesnt work. What does work is educate them on how to have safe sex...

[@itschoechoe]

If you saw in the other half of this video the girl has so much love for her sisters just from a genuine smile. I know for a fact her younger sisters look up to her as the mom majority of the time but for a 15 year old to have that sort of responsibility already, i cant imagine how much she has to deal with. My mom was once like this on my older sister, which she turned into the rebel that many people would think of. Growing up I only knew what freedom was because of my older sister. She was like my second mom, she would always take care of me. But because of the parenting my sister had to go through first, in the end she built resentment towards the family, and she barely talks to any of us. My mom learned that mistake and realized it was best to trust. She tried that for me and now me and my mom are inseparable. The results could be different for anyone when it comes to giving your children freedom but one thing i know is that it never ends well when youre this painfully strict.

[@btsskyler4000]

Any one else thing she(mother)seemed quite angry when she saw the count?

[@i.v60]

1:35 ━❍──────── 11:17 Playing-Hello Counselor 　　↻ ⊲ Ⅱ ⊳ ↺ VOLUME: ▁▂▃▄▅▆▇ 10000%

[@maharanient6636]

Even from Asian perspective (In addition, I grew up in more religious society than Korea) Mom is too overprotective.

[@happyjong-t7s]

걱정은 되겠지....시골이면 더더욱 7시면 껌껌해지지않나.... 요즘 무서운데...제 사촌동생도 이번에 누가 뒤따라와서 다이소 들어갔다가 택시타고 후다닥 들어왔는데...사람도 많이 없는 시골이라면 그것도 걱정일듯

[@jaena88]

One of my friend have similar relationship w her mother at that age..now she's older and her mom is not as severe but the psychological wound stays that my friend got easily depressed and have suicidal tendencies.. if she has even slightest triggered by her mother,she'll try to suicide.. using drugs, sometimes slits her wrist or thigh.. this can lead to serious mental problems to both the daughter n mother..

[@urmum2886]

I'm 12, I get home at 4:30 and if I'm really late, all my mum says is "It doesn't matter if you're late, take your time when you cross roads and don't rush"

[@yoomkku2839]

우리 엄마랑 즁말 반대라서 보는내내 서러웠네요ㅠ 그나저나 저 언니 진짜 너무 이쁜ㅠ💜

[@m00ny93]

11:09 she looks sooooo scaary 😲😲

[@gokarnachaudhary846]

I remember when I was so intimidated by my mum's strictness that I would ask my younger brother to let my mum know that I need something ie stationary, pocket money for lunch etc etc

[@delanie_black]

6:30 Offtopic,The girl in the black shirt is really cute and Pretty

[@sufifeifeyfy]

Her mum intentions are good but comes too overboard. There's always 2 outcome, she become rebellious or she become a discipline young teen. Her mum probably too stress and as the eldest daughter, she want the best from her. Her siblings will have it easier.

[@ladyluck2534]

Sufi Lipshaw make that 3...if she keeps it up the daughter might end her life

[@noodlersoft]

What te heck here methods are not good intentions.

[@cl03cl]

My mother is the reason for my depression. This girl looks depressed and I can relate to her so much

[@grande8153]

And here I am 19 turning 20 still not allowed to go anywhere 😏😑arghhh our fate of growing up with strict parents and trust me I'll get a hiding if I ever try going out 😑 I'm happy this little girl gets to go out now coz I see myself in her the only difference is I've never been allowed out to my friends houses whether its daytime or nighttime 🙂

[@imhumda]

Im 20 and I relate to your comment

[@04ngelica]

aww she seems like a teenager that wants to be young and free.. she's so pretty and gives that cool aura i wanna be her friend lmao and if i were her friend i wouldnt stop being her friend even if her mom is scary

[@uffdmgmahi]

This is how my dad was. It coz lot of trouble in our family.

[@littlemasiadiangelo9886]

I just hope it's changing for better. As a person who's only 2 years older and had a similar situation, I feel really bad for her. My mother never went as far as taking away my phone but she was always checking who I'm friends with and where i am. She's a teacher at a school i attended. She made opinions about people around me based on their grades... And no matter how well i did she would go 'when your sister was your age...' i just felt like she didn't care that much about my feelings, so i stopped telling her about my problems. It took her a year to realize that my boyfriend broke up with me. And she still doesn't know that I got bullied for 4 years at her workplace. Now I'm socially awkward and sometimes scared of being around people. My friends whom i've known for less than a year have seen me cry more times than my own mother. And they show way more acceptance.

[@latte8760]

In Malaysia every parents did what the mother did actually. Her curfew was on 5 pm,right? Well I cant even get out from my house except for study purpose and i cant date boys,if my parents know I date someone they would kick me outta the house.

[@Amii-dw7jd]

Both my parents hit me and my siblings when we were younger to discipline us. They didn't do it with an intent to mentally intimidate us, but in order to teach us that actions come with consequences. They always made sure that we knew they love us. That's really important. We knew not to make the same mistakes, but we weren't scared of our mother. Your child can be disciplined physically and still be happy and comfortable around you. If you hit your child with an intent to really hurt them, then just don't.

[@marijayme6627]

Why there's no Hello Consuelor in my country?

[@Daisy-fs9if]

You can see that she resents her mom. I can understand that feeling because my father always beat us and threatened us to discipline and now that we are adults none of us love him. We always had a relationship of fear with him and the trace of love we had for him disappeared long time ago.

[@jeeewhyyypheee]

On my country she considered pretty. For me she's very attractive, pretty, tall, and she look alike Oh My Girl Yooa with short hair. I had quite strict mother back then, when I was junior high school. But it still normal like any other parents having their child at that stage. I can feel her worries. Now I'm last year college student and about to graduate, and I really miss my mother strict. T_T

[@tala3041]

from where are you?

[@shockedpikachuface7376]

My mom and dad are EXACTLY like that and I grew up with them raising me like that since childhood , today I'm 17 and I have social anxiety , panic attack disorder and am very shy to talk to people in public

[@ductruong4724]

If I was involved in this program and I tell the truth in front of everyone what happens next when I go home I'm dead

[@geraldinecassidy7358]

My mom was like that too when i was younger. She would cut my phone line whenever i did "something wrong" and would go through my texts in my sleep. She would also pick me up straight after school and i had tuition almost every day. One day i had enough and ran away from home lol. Didn't go to school for an entire term. After that whole saga she kind of understood that the person causing this suffocation and urge to run away is her, and she was much more lenient after that. But my mom loves me, i'm not sure this mother does at all. There's a fine line between concern and over-control. I'm 21 now and have an acceptable relationship with my mom, this "mother" is actually gonna regret it when her daughter disregards her in the future. You ain't gna stay young forever woman.

[@littlebigkicker]

hmm 😱

[@hafiezah7324]

I also have the same problem that she had. the thing that her mom have done to her are really bad. my mom also been like her mother. since im 11 years old, my mom always scolded me, yelling at me even hit me on my head until bleeding. i had been facing this phase until im 16 years old. the day i went through full with trauma, depressed and nightmare. i even cant tells everything that i had through at school even i had been bullied to my mom. my mom too strict. it really tough to me. but now, im gratefully because i dont need to face all of that things anymore. my mom also have been regret for all the things that she had done to me. To all mothers out there, PLEASE dont ever do this to your daughter or son. something bad might be happen if the same thing that i've been through happen to other child.

[@뽀-m2g]

저 아줌마 늙어서 외롭겠다...

[@navyasanthosh6331]

I can relate to her but even more since my parents are more strict. I'm not allowed to date EVER in my life and I can't have a lot of guy friends. I have never hung out with my friends EVER since I have never been allowed to go for group hangouts. I have never been allowed to go out of my house by myself even just to walk in the park! I don't have any accounts in social media at all which gets me bullied a bit. Even though they don't exactly TAKE away my phone, I'm always suspected about having a boyfriend behind their back or having secrets. I'm barely allowed to use any gadgets or do anything leisurely as they want me to sit and study all day. I do feel very controlled and I get shouting for even the slightest thing like not washing the dishes. I can't sleep a lot too. Even in the weekends and vacations, they wake me up at 7:00am. So this video probably relates to my life the most and a lot more. P.S-Couldn't stop looking at Taejoon oppa, if I was that girl, I would be the same (not look at his face).

[@jesielgica7223]

Maybe they should step up the level high, i mean they should accept some SERIOUS problem. I mean a wife who's husband always going for another woman you know problems like that. Im not hattin tho im just sayin.

[@crona5350]

Jeya Momo this is a serious problem

[@eastherkyaw]

There are not always that serious problems *every* episode. They may be popular *but not that popular*, to get a serious problem like that every episode. This is actually a pretty serious problem

[@rhennafenty7829]

How is a cheater more serious than a child suffering? At least the wife can divorce her husband, this girl can't do anything even her siblings are scared of their mother, the lack of trust is insane, just imagining being in her place I felt like I couldn't breathe.

[@ohrenata]

nobody will eve expose their family like that, ever. what woman will be prout to bring her family to attention on TV with personal matters such as a cheating husband? exposing not only herself but her husband, kids, her family, his family, their friends etc. very serious matter are taken to the police district not to TV

[@khadijazahid9127]

this show is mostly for the viewers entertainment, very rarely does it actually change the lives of the people asking for help. no one there is a trained professional so helping people with severe problems isn't a good idea

[@minsu0307]

1:55 ok. Anyone just wtf at that. Like seriously. First i thought she stricts cuz she might just over cares for her daughter. Now this just make no sense. Wth is wrong with this women. Hope she understands little bit after this.