what it's like being nonbinary (for me)

[@robertmorvay]

I found listening to you talk about your identity deeply relatable and yet it highlighted so many of the distinct differences between what gender one's assigned affects one's non-binary identity. As an amab agender person, things like the whole "non-binary is often seen as a skinny, androgenous, white afab" you had mentioned a few times is something that regardless of my age (also mid-late 20s) continues to rock me pretty hard, because I look pretty masculine. Like it's rough to want to look really pretty but also have a mustache that I really like, you know? Either way, lovely video I love your perspective and you've helped me have a night where I'm going to look more introspectively about my identity in a positive and productive way, thank you!

[@bobjeezorham7658]

This sort of thing is interesting to watch as a cis white guy that pretty much never sees LGBTQ+ people around where I live. I do have a gay friend that I learned a bit from but that's about it, nonbinary is really something I am not knowledgeable on at all and I think watching videos like this helps me understand it better. Also wow you have a nice singing voice

[@jjthepikazard212]

that talk to yr younger self really hit for me. thank u

[@kayleepapp6286]

Ur the most comforting person ever and I love to hear u talk

[@offbeatkiki]

This is so sweet 🥹💕 thanks for hanging out

[@offbeatkiki]

OMG Odin just told me who this was 😭 can't wait to meet you

[@treetheoak8313]

I'm so happy to hear you managed to overcome your eating disorder! 🙏🙏

[@bpmm0171]

Bring the raw chaos!

[@mathieuleader8601]

I appreicate the lengths of colour cordinination especially with the pastel purple/mauve microphone

[@kenn_k]

You mention so many things that I've also been dealing with recently, it's wild. Super happy to hear you're feeling better!! Self-care is more important than anything

[@treetheoak8313]

Finally got around to finishing this video after class. I am very happy I waited until then because some of your answers had me very teary eyed. Thank you so much for making this video! On a personal note my brothers stepchild just came out as nonbinary and my brothers been struggling to get his head around the idea of nonbinary and for lack of a better word been too "embarrassed" to talk about it with them. As far as my nibling has told me, my brother hasn't crossed any lines and has been trying his best to use the proper pronouns and accommodate them as best as he can. But, has been for lack of a better word "confused" and concerned it's just a "phase". Thank you for making this video, this and negative legends video a really good and simple jumping off points for my brother. I think my brother needs to hear it from his child most but maybe these videos can help him bridge that subject. Thank you for your video again Kiki and I hope you have a great rest of your day!

[@marclmf]

I’m really happy that you made this video. We all have our own issues and I think it’s very brave that you are very open with us about your own. Thank you so much for this video I really enjoyed it ❤️

[@Eknashik]

I'm so glad to hear you made those many little, but important, changes in your life. Those things that we sometimes like to neglect really do make a big difference and are usually hard but worth it. And in general I'm super thankful that you can be an admirable presence for younger(or perhaps not) non-binary folks as they try to navigate the complexities of their own self-discovery and actualization. Have a good day and thank you for being!

[@noalgreene8762]

I'm a bi-racial black/white non-binary mas presenting person. Thank you for this

[@giangeegibb]

Really lovely video. I was tearing up at your talk to your younger self; I'm glad that you've come so far since then.

[@CamelJam]

upload whenever u want - we will be here regardless

[@tylerlzr7554]

I love this video. I love that you're working on being healthy, and happy, and as someone who recently came out as non-binary this video helped me coming to terms with dysphoria that i experienced before i knew how to qualify it. I just resonate with the stuff you talked about and im so happy to hear you're starting to love your body and your gender as you come to understand them both. This random internet stranger is proud of you. p.s. I will now exclusively refer to myself as non-hetero, that was super funny

[@DigiRangerScott]

Being on Twitter and Instagram it was like you never left

[@offbeatkiki]

i've loved connecting with the hovercraft on both of those the past few months!!

[@5Detective]

I'm glad you're doing better.

[@liquidmeme6019]

Fellow Enby but I'm not your perfect friend match. Thank you for talking about the isolating feeling, the feeling like you're a pioneer in your social circles, and the feeling like you have to come out forever. Paradoxically it made me feel less alone in my own experience that overlaps in many ways with yours. thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@HexyRuiz]

This was a wonderful video, I can't wait for more content to come!

[@FriendlyNeighborhoodGeek99]

Love your content Kiki💕 always look foward to your content glad your doing better!

[@sunsinger970]

Thank you for being here and for being real Kiki.

[@gmandub5190]

Glad to see you’re doing well. My favorite LGBT characters are Terry and Korvo from the Solar Opposites.

[@finchcarvingadiamond]

They're my fave too! So glad the show got renewed

[@riceytwundle]

you're killing it Kiki proud of ya (is that weird to say? idk)

[@9aracna.]

Well I'm non-binary bi-racial, so hi, lol. I don't have the Tweeter though. I did post a picture of a spoon once on it in 2011, but that was the only thing I ever posted

[@arielruby13]

i think you spoke so well in this video, it felt genuine and relatable. i am now subscribing as i type this your voice was really good during your singing of iris, are you a singer? i related too much the clothing thing, in the end the pieces of fabric dont have gender, humans gendered stuff. i am agender af and i dont relly care about how my clothes are perceived at all

[@ryancarless7921]

Loved your video, nice to hear you are doing well

[@Yeoffrey]

Proud of you, my gentleperson

[@actuallyimapuppy]

that's so how i feel about gender

[@PlaceHolder994]

Ok so, I'm writing this on July 8th 2024. I realized I was non-binary literally three weeks ago. The way I explained it to friends is that I was never really all that excited about being a man. I didn't straight up hate it, but it was more of a "it is what it is" kind of thing. Like yeah, I liked certain things that were associated to boys, but it was more so just me doing my thing, what I liked. And since I grew up alongside an older brother, we were treated as boys, My parents never pushed the idea of being a man for any of us. I see gender as an spectrum, and I have had things for one section of it my whole life, and they've been ok for the most part.I wanna explore more stuff, regardless of the gender they've become associated with.

[@Heloom8]

You should probably make a video on "What's it like being an amazing person ?😍 " Cause I'm curious 🤔😁

[@9aracna.]

Congrats on overcoming your eating disorder, I need to work on that myself as well

[@ethansloan]

So happy I found your channel. I've recently started opening up with how not-entirely-cis I am, and this video really makes me feel seen. Also, totally digging the movie reviews. Kind of a random questions, but are there any youtubers/video esayists that have inspired you, either in form or content?

[@pneumaticpterodactyl4015]

In terms of KZbin hiatuses, two months is pretty tame. The biggest fans are sticking with you

[@9aracna.]

So I'm like 9 minutes in so far, but wanted to comment before I made food at which a different video may be on when I'm done. Personally for my experience as non-binary, I started openly identifying as it very young, way back in 2003 when I was 8 years old. Even after all that time though, absolutely no one in my life offline will refer to me as they/them, and while I at times may be slightly annoyed at it, for me it's just a "I know who I am that's all that really matters" kind of thing. I should say I mostly only get annoyed when my mom or someone gets mad at me for insisting against he/him or otherwise. I've never struggled with the "how non-binary am I" thing, and I think it's interesting hearing about it, as I've never thought about it before. To me, feminine and masculine don't exist. That's just for me personally, I don't find anything as girly or boyish, they're just normal things to me and I know some people don't like that I think like that, and I understand because it would probably feel invalidating to others, but it's not intended as such, so I'm sorry. So I don't actually know what queer means, I THINK it's a sexuality or something? I'm not really sure, but if it is then I guess on that subject I was more confused about it and originally when I was 11, I went by pansexual with an asterisk, as it never truly fit, but was the closest I knew. But then when I was 16 I learned what demisexual is and have gone by that since, as it's exactly what I felt. Hmm...sorry for typing a bit, meow

[@TheTiredPotato]

I just want to point out the difference between bisexual and pansexual isnt of you include or not trans people or you are trans (it's a common misconception) The difference is bisexual people feel attraction for more than one gender, sometimes the same as them and the opposite, and sometimes all genders, but gender does play a factor in attraction Pansexual folks can be attracted to all genders BUT the difference is gender doesn't play a factor in the attraction. That means a set of characteristics different to gender can trigger the attraction and that's why they could be attracted to any gender but doesn't mean they are, not all the time So, whatever label you like is fine, i just get annoyed by the whole "they are interchangeable" they aren't, there is s difference between the terms, even if many bisexuals ignore they are actually pan because they have history and connection to the bi term and vice versa Great video, is lovely to know more about you

[@LCCWPresents]

On another channel the guy put it like this the clothes I wear are my clothes not man clothing or woman clothing.

[@sherristeinbach7250]

What u truly think and what's truly in your soul relates to gender.

[@KennyFrierson]

"And I went to college". That'll do it.

[@chaosspawn5491]

Happy pride month!

[@phantasticgrump]

Yees Jenny is Trans!! The exoskeleton is a good point. Danny Phantom is Trans fuck whatever the creator says. Thank you for responding to my question ! :)

[@ReviewYaLife]

You're epic

[@kimberlybogert7031]

Happy to hear your doing much better in life and being yourself ^^im Still figuring myself out on where I stand with my gender especially but it take some time for me at least. Anyways take care🌸🌺💖💫

[@simeondawkins6358]

Im not gay yet my best frind is and so is me sis I don't see it as special its all normal to me gay not gay whatever

[@simeondawkins6358]

The true me is nonbonary yet im not gay so being in a mans body works well for me also I tend to hate pronouns its just confusing to me very lol don't mind being called a man

[@9aracna.]

Meow

[@fraser7530]

W

[@sherristeinbach7250]

What do you think about Amber Lynn Reed a morbibtly obease 32 year old who started a weight loss channel at 22 years old .She was 370 then and now at 32 ranges 500 pluss pounds at times...She does also gives advice mostly miss information on weight loss,health,mental health etc...She has had years to lose weight but nomatter if she does or not she gets paid and says KZbin is her job.

[@arithegreat3328]

Thanks for this. I’m so glad I found you’re channel ❤