High School Teen & Rodeo Star Murdered By Her Ex: The Case Of Ashley Doolittle

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[@KF-cx8bm]

Never EVER feed a toxic partner, do NOT reply to messages no matter what they say. Block there number and get a new number. They want acknowledgement even if its negative

[@CaliHarris2798]

Yes this

[@jessy7796]

and don’t keep going and hanging out with someone if you’re trying to set boundaries! some people don’t take no for an answer and distancing yourself is the only way

[@meliss9536]

Jeez thanks what a revelations. It’s almost as if they don’t brainwash people or anything and that is nearly impossible for people in that situation.

[@CaliHarris2798]

@meliss9536 that's why awareness beforehand is key

[@Raraking4796]

Yes! I wish someone would have told Ashley to stop going places alone with him. She didn’t deserve for this to happen. I’m sure she trusted him and felt safe with him. Absolutely terrifying.

[@ashweee722]

If you ever break up with someone abusive like this and they try meeting up with you after the fact - DO NOT GO. And if you feel like you absolutely must, bring someone else with you. But above all, just avoid it altogether if you can. This is such a sad case.. breaks my heart. I'm from Colorado too, and I don't remember hearing about this one. Rest in peace, Ashley. ❤️

[@Sara-pw1gy]

Meet them in the police parking lot if you must.

[@PicklesSputts_2C]

Make it in public too, never go somewhere secluded

[@jbak485]

Public place with cameras + friend + protection! 🔫

[@lisaonofrey6947]

Yes, and learn the valuable art of saying NO! Make your parents and friends aware of texts, calls, behaviors. Police if need be when it gets that overwhelming

[@rebeccachapman7827]

And also, if you’re not familiar, read and try to learn as much as you can about narcissism the more you know the better you can react

[@pinkyfrosted6769]

Ugh, my ex choked me, slammed me into a window and kicked me causing me to lose my baby at 3 months pregnant. I was in the process of moving out due to his violence. He was arrested and continues to stalk me after for 6 months. I finally moved out of NY, years later met a good man and am happily married💕 My heart breaks for anyone who didn’t get away, the ones still going through it and the ones whose loved one is going through it. Sadly my ex is free now and I can no longer have babies due to that brutal miscarriage.

[@Ami13236]

So sorry that happened to you 😢💔

[@jemmlizzerz7823]

Thank you so much for sharing. I am sorry to hear that you went through that, but I'm so glad you're okay now and happy!! Xx hugs

[@amyy801]

I am so sorry that happened to you 😢 I hope you can continue to heal ❤

[@libbybarnard86]

I'm so so sorry you had to experience such horrible things and that it has affected your entire life, my love and prayers are with you.

[@laurenskee2665]

I dont know how NY is but when I went to the police about my ex bf stalking me, the police told me that wasn't a crime.

[@TheMaddyallen]

In the UK we’ve very recently seen a breakup violence case in the news where a guy killed his ex, her sister and her mum in their house with a crossbow. Absolutely horrendous and so sad - apparently he tortured them beforehand and one of them managed to dial for help and mention his name before they died. It happens far too often and we need to feel safe!

[@lauriefaithprescott]

I heard about that!!!

[@clashwithwords]

ugh, that poor family!

[@sarahbeckmann2294]

That is so awful 💔

[@danioconnor9080]

This case is playing on my mind 24/7 rn 😢 that poor family 💔

[@sfcitygirl88]

I heard about that as well. Sadly, it's even similar to another case just like it.

[@castironskilletgranny]

It is frightening. I have a 16 yr old granddaughter who was attacked 2 months ago by someone she was not interested in dating. There had been no dates, she refused, and yet at the little annual town carnival this twisted sob started beating her as she exited a ride. The aggressor was arrested, but only 15, so looking at a juvenile slap on the wrist. ... so you can imagine what this makes a granny with cast iron skillets want to do.

[@weirddd469]

this is a girls worst nightmare omg

[@Raraking4796]

That’s absolutely terrifying. As a Mom and an auntie I can definitely relate to what I would want to do for the my daughter, my nieces and my nephews as well. When my first nephew was in grade school I once threaten to have someone push another kid off their bike if they didn’t learn to watch what they said to my nephew and about him.( in my defense he was the first kid that stole my heart in a protective way aside from my siblings because I’d protect them too but if you’ve had siblings you know that siblings often tend to also be annoying and trouble some sometimes but nieces, nephews, children and grandkids literally makes you want to do the most. Because I’m pretty sure the kid was like around 10 I wouldn’t have been the one to push him off his bike but atleast one of my cousins or younger siblings were still technically under 18 at the time so I could have pulled some strings. Definitely not as serious as what happened to your granddaughter. The passion and urge of which I feel the need to protect the people I love as a sister, auntie and Mom is intense and so I could only imagine that it would be intensified as a grandma. I hope that boy learned from the mistakes that he made and I hope that your granddaughter has healed mentally, emotionally and physically from that terrible situation. I’m sending my best wishes to you and your family. ❤️

[@castironskilletgranny]

Thank y'all for listening, and sharing compassion. My daughter and son-in-law are having to be so much more watchful now. They were already what many now would say is over protective but that kind of raising is also why my granddaughter knew she did not want to date this child. My son-in-law was right at the fair waiting for the kids to get off the ride but it happened so fast! Son-in-law was 20 yards away talking with a friend of his who is a fire fighter. The men waded in, but my granddaughter and another of her female friends had already been beaten pretty bad. The girls were caught while the metal rail was still down holding them in the seat of the ride. Both girls were just pummeled against the metal cage material of the ride seat.

[@sharonhutton3605]

This just horrific. That kid is is clearly psychotic. Thank goodness your Grand daughter is okay but it will forever change how she views the world 😢

[@meowmew444]

It's horrendous that the justice system treats crimes like this with such little importance, especially when the offender is underage. Being a teenager means you make dumb decisions like trespassing or getting drunk, not committing violence against innocent people. These are early warning signs of far worse behavior. People like that should simply not be allowed to live free in our society.

[@stefanie9072]

The amount of nonsense that gets put on women is ridiculous- men and boys need to regulate their emotions and actions! (And yes, anger is an emotion)

[@OLALALA1019]

Not enough are held accountable and we unfortunately live under a patriarchal society so.

[@clashwithwords]

@@OLALALA1019totally. patriarchal standards hurt men, women, everyone.

[@blueboozle774]

@@clashwithwordspatriarchy doesn’t hurt men, that’s like saying yt supremacy hurts yet people

[@Savannah_Caruso]

​@OLALALA1019 You can't be serious, lol. I wish we lived in a patriarchy. We're living in a feminist hellhole.

[@whitneyanders5945]

Indeed. Us women are stereotypically portrayed as overly emotional but that’s just extreme gaslighting from men. Men are clearly the way more emotional sex seeing as they are so emotionally fragile.

[@CarpeNutella]

Kendall makes a great point that she owed her ex nothing. But if you're in this situation and decide to talk, bring a friend. At the very minimum, go someplace populated. Not a park or reservoir or forest.

[@alexiafrizzell6846]

People need to understand that NO means NO. The phrase "If I can't have you, no one can" is not a reason to end someone's life. I pray for the Dolittle family, and what they do to help prevent break-up violence is inspiring since we need to know more about the topic. Ashley did not deserve this. May she rest in peace. Side note: Hooray! Kendall posted on my birthday!

[@ryanbayer1012]

happy birthday!

[@abbeyball6890]

🎉 happy birthday!

[@jpmackey1607]

Happy birthday!

[@caripeck21]

You’re right, people do need to understand NO. However, that word gets twisted a lot. How many times have we all said no to something but turned around and did it anyways? The word no should be powerful and have meaning.

[@theredqveen]

Men*

[@lilvirgo7]

I wish people would just realize that setting boundaries and sticking to them isn’t being mean. Rip Ashley , you didn’t deserve this. He took advantage of your kindness

[@renb6133]

True. Her only fault was being too kind & trying to ease his pain re: the breakup. It’s not selfish to be self preserving but she was too young to understand that. I truly admire her parents for using the tragedy of her death to spread awareness. No wonder she was such an amazing girl.

[@wednesday3561]

Don't EVER go "on a hike" or anywhere with someone you have broken up with recently! Meet somewhere public! Be very careful if your ex is possessive, jealous, controlling and doesn't respect your boundaries! No is a comolete sentence! So many red flags here 😢 If you have to meet up with your ex, make sure that you meet them somewhere very public, be sure to let loved ones know where you are going! Better yet take someone with you! Please be safe out there and PLEASE, never ignore you gut instincts! 🙏

[@marmarf90]

It is SO hard to get someone to STOP talking to you. That happened with my ex- and I was 32-33 years old. I cannot imagine going through that at 18.

[@dante6985]

Especially when you go to the same high school and see each other every day, as was the case here.

[@Alejojojo6]

If you have been with someone for years sudden abrupt stop of communication is EXTREMELY hard. It takes time to stop talking to the person that you loved and dump you. First idea is you want to ammend things and try to fix it, understand why the break up happened, etc... to be back or to move on in a healthy way. its not easy.

[@jpage813]

They go through SICK measures! It’s not necessarily hard to stop talking to them but to get them to stop trying to talk to you. I had a stalker in college who, even after things boiled over to the point he got kicked off campus, continued to cyber stalk me. No matter how many times I blocked and reported him he just made new profiles with a slight variation on his name.

[@KamalasFakePolls]

​@@jpage813That's because men have no standards.

[@KamalasFakePolls]

​@@jpage813He's the best you can do.

[@elexisolivares2176]

Hi Kendall- my cousin was recently murdered by her husband this past December and unfortunately he’s still out living his life instead of being in prison. She really loved your channel and I just wanted to say thank you for covering topics like this. It’s such a devastating experience for the family of victims and I appreciate how respectful you always are when you cover these cases

[@aubreyleonae4108]

My thoughts are with your family, ❤ I hope there is justice very soon.

[@farfallinaazzorra3493]

Why is he still walking free

[@geigergyrl08]

Prayers 😢

[@elexisolivares2176]

@@aubreyleonae4108 thank you ❤️

[@elexisolivares2176]

@@farfallinaazzorra3493 unfortunately your guess is as good as mine.

[@skyjoy07]

This is why, as a woman, I value safety. If I’m uncomfortable I’m leaving a situation. I’m not meeting up with you or texting you. I feel so terrible for people like Ashley. She didn’t deserve this. Prayers for her and her family ❤

[@kiyabrouhard2848]

As a boy mom, I will strive to make sure my son will NEVER do anything to make a woman uncomfortable. I will make sure he completely understands break up violence. So thank you be aware and doing videos like this cause before I watched Lauren's video, I didn't even think about break up violence, even though I went through it for 3 years after a break up, an ex almost unalived me because of me breaking up with him. I promise to at least teach my son all the important things.

[@nicoley8491]

💯!!!! I have 4 boys and I second this!!!!

[@linda-louiseanthony9802]

❤ to both of you and your boys! 💙 from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺

[@Ambular_Amber05]

I’m glad you got away from him! How terrifying!

[@kiyabrouhard2848]

@@Ambular_Amber05 he beat me to the point I miscarried by daughter at 5 months. It was terrible. I'm so glad I got away

[@Maya-Hayden]

Thank you for your service, we love you

[@Milliesyd]

Her parents are such strong people…turning their tragedy into something to help others. I hope they are able to find healing.

[@alexandriaNicolee1]

It’s so important to teach tweens, teens and even young adults that a break up is not the end of the world. His actions ruined so many peoples lives. RIP Ashley.

[@divinevalentineyt]

When I was 18 I broke up with my boyfriend because of emotional abuse/cheating, and he spent weeks stalking me. It angered me at the time but now that I'm older I realise how scary and messed up that truly was. I'm genuinely relieved that it didn't escalate

[@teddypeony185]

Dear Ashley's Family, My condolences for your lose with Ashley she is a wonderful person and we have lost a gem. I can see from the picture the bright light and amazing person that she is. I am glad that Ashley got justice. Thank you for creating this foundation and bring awareness to break up violence. You are so strong and kind. I wish you all the best with your foundation. Sincerly Teddy Thank you Kendall for doing this video and helping to spreading awareness.

[@abbeyball6890]

❤❤❤❤

[@adysoncornejo]

I was/am Ashley’s cousin, thank you for the kind comment.

[@teddypeony185]

@@adysoncornejo Oh my, I wasn't expecting you to see this. You're welcome. Even though I haven't met her I am honoured to be able to hear those wonderful stories about her and get a small glimpse of the Star she was. I send prayer and hugs. I wish you and the family the best. I know that no words can really heal your wounds but I hope it can give you all some small comfort.

[@paris_light]

I was in a relationship for eleven years that was extremely toxic, mentally/emotionally abusive that eventually (the last few years) turned physically abusive. I was fortunate to finally leave but it took a really long time for me to do so. I forgave when I shouldn't have, I allowed him to come back into my life countless times because I was convinced that I loved him, that he was the best I could have/deserved and honestly, a part of me became addicted to the chaos; to his overwhelming love-bombing after he verbally beat me down or physically beat me up. I've been out of that relationship now for almost five years (it'll make five years this September) over these past few years, people have asked me: "why did you stay so long?- why did you put up with that for so many years?" the only explanation I have is because I truly thought he'd eventually change; that he'd finally come to his senses and start treating me/loving me the way he knew he should, but what I failed to realize and accept is that we can't change people and the second someone hurts you at that level there's no excusing/forgiving it and it's not worth desperately trying to hold on/to continue to make it work. To anyone who is within an abusive relationship that maybe reading this right now: please get out (if possible) if it isn't please, please, please allow yourself to trust in a friend/family member/loved one enough to share in confidence with them exactly what's going on. You are worthy of respect, understanding, love and most of all happiness. He/She/They will never change, and it isn't your burden to change them.

[@jesilynmc]

5 years this month for me. We were together for 9 years and the last few years I desperately wanted out. It never made it to the point of him laying hands on me but I have no doubt he was capable of it. I'm so thankful I made it out

[@bethaniefrank7775]

This was my marriage. He was sexually abusive rather than physically though. I am not sure I would have left. He left me for his young mistress.

[@Claudia_Crimson_585]

When i was like 10-11 ( i don't remember what age i was but i was a child at the time) I was strangled by a boy a year younger than me because i didn't want to date him. It's not only just breakup violence, it's violence over rejection.

[@RyanWilliamss]

What ?? You were strangled by a 9 year old ? That sucks sorry that happened😢 I hope that kid got some help & didn’t end up unaliving someone when he got older. Do you know how that kid is doing now in life ?

[@Claudia_Crimson_585]

@@RyanWilliamss He was very arrogant that he was threatening the leader of a town gang...

[@YeshuaDisciple916]

​@@Claudia_Crimson_585A 9 year old was threatening the leader of a gang? What kind of 9 year old does that?!​

[@Claudia_Crimson_585]

@@YeshuaDisciple916 no, it happened years later and I just don't know the exact details of it.

[@Claudia_Crimson_585]

Sorry for the weird censorship lol KZbin is very sensitive and it protects abusers.

[@savannahwarner9694]

As an FFA officer with similar aspirations as Ashley, when putting on the jacket you vow to practice brotherhood and honor agricultural opportunities. My thoughts and prayers to the family 💙💛

[@Appellonia]

Her kindness got her killed. How absolutely disgusting of him. She was wanting to be compassionate and kind to him still.And that's what he did ...took something that beautiful...and he just completely crushed it. It's heartbreaking. I've always said the biggest monster is somebody that takes the love you have for them and uses it against you. I personally experienced this as well for 24 years. At times I believe my soul had literally been stolen from me. All that constant evil surrounding ypu. Suffocating. There is no bigger boogie man than that. Thoughts and love to her family and friends. 🧡 ❤

[@VioletDoolittle]

Thank you for doing this video about Ashley! She is my cousin and as her family, we appreciate you continuing to spread awareness of teen dating violence. She truly was the most genuine and caring woman I have ever met and we miss her dearly. If any other people are looking for resources "One Love Foundation" has great information about dating violence.

[@Ann64]

I'm so deeply sorry for your loss 💔🙏

[@Clo_Dub]

I said this on Lauren’s video and I 100% stand by it: toxic masculinity is insidious; parents need to raise their sons better. Fair enough if that makes some people uncomfortable, but I’d rather that than more women keep having to go through this shit.

[@bryandavis5656]

1000000000000000000000%

[@SprinkledSpice]

LOUDDEER📢📢📢📢

[@morganc0]

I was just talking to a friend today about how so many self-proclaimed “BoY mOmS” are raising them into toxic men. It’s sad and terrifying as a mom of two daughters (for now, anyway. They can tell me who they are or aren’t as they grow up. But for now, they’re girls. And I’m scared for them bc of the world we live in as women).

[@nicoley8491]

I have 4 sons and them knowing boundaries and that no means no is something I've put a lot of focus on!!! I don't want to raise no boys like this kid!!!

[@Clo_Dub]

@@nicoley8491 I just wish everyone had your attitude. I really do believe that 99% of the “men” who are like this get their disgusting behaviour from how they were brought up.

[@kcdabizness11]

If you are asking yourself “is this abuse?” It IS abuse. Your experience is valid. Your experience doesn’t have to look like someone else’s in order to be considered abuse. Trust your gut. ❤

[@madhattie2952]

💯 thanks for pointing it out Greetings from Austria

[@jenniferharrelson7218]

This is an excellent point. I would constantly make mental excuses for my ex calling me the b word. I knew that wasn’t right the first time it happened but I stayed another 20 yrs.

[@brttejacqueline5372]

This hits home so well. If you have to ask is it abuse, it is. Gives me chills, I have been . 😢 RIH ASHLEY. RIP TO EVER LIFE LOSS TO DOMESTIC AND BREAK UP ABUSE. SENDING LOVE, COMPASSION, STRENGTH & HOPE TO EVERYONE DEALING WITH ABUSE AND THE SURVIVORS .

[@glowinthedarktvwizard]

it’s so beautiful to see how the community came together to carry her legacy and educate other little girls to know her name. you can really tell that she was such a loved person and made a huge impact

[@MyHeartIsTheWind]

I had a stalker in high school that was obsessed with me. I went to prom with him to be nice and as friends but he couldn’t understand that. Even after so many no or I’m not interested, he reached out to my family and friends. I was so mean to him the last time we talked but it was absolutely necessary to get him to leave me alone. Don’t be afraid to be mean to a man that won’t take no for an answer. That guy could have killed me

[@JustAGirlWhoLovesCats]

As a high school teacher, I want to thank you for this story. I've always wanted to schedule some sort of presentation on this issue, but I always seem to get too bogged down during the school year to seek out an organization to come speak with my students. Thanks to you and the timing of this video, I paused towards the end and emailed a local organization about coming to speak with my students. This video might very well be responsible for preventing another tragedy like this. Thanks!❤

[@kcross3494]

This was local to me. The whole community was so devasted. She was a very very loved girl.

[@Anabee3]

Ah manoman 😢. I know it hits even harsher when it's close to home. My heart goes out to all her loved ones- which was obviously your entire town whether distantly aquainted or up- close & personal. Kinda feels like the whole world is dimmer, though, so how much dimmer for YOU. ❤ from gma Ana in Washington State.

[@lovelifelaugh2727]

My community recently lost Raychel Sharidan. It’s so heartbreaking.

[@sfcitygirl88]

I lost a girl friend to breakup violence. RIP Alessandra Barlas 🤍

[@ShimmerynightsASMR]

Sorry for your loss ❤️

[@racheljackson4428]

sorry for your loss. heartshattering.

[@rebeccacrash9272]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my cousin the same way last year. *hugs*

[@sfcitygirl88]

@@rebeccacrash9272 I'm so sorry for your loss too 🤍

[@kirstycat]

I left an abusive ex 9 years ago and I’m so grateful my parents were there when I went to collect my things. Please ladies! Always meet in public, take a friend/family member when leaving an abusive ex or going to collect possessions!

[@-alyssa-marie-]

This case hit me so hard. I was a victim of teen violence from an abusive ex. He’s now dating a 15 year old. I recently just ended the relationship with my bff and she won’t leave her abusive boyfriend of 2+ years. She has cut everyone off from her life and she doesn’t speak to her family about it. Some people aren’t as brave as Ashley. Some people don’t leave and destroy all of their other relationships, including their family. If you think he/she loves you, but they treat you horribly sometimes, please know that they don’t love you. Someone who treats you like that doesn’t love you. It’s small red flags that you don’t notice at first, until it becomes unbearable. They make you feel like you need them. It’s time to stand up for yourself, your bodily autonomy, your mental health, and your healthy relationships with your other loved ones.

[@LauraLanny]

As a DV survivor and someone who has always wanted to have a foundation to help others, this has given me the idea to start a foundation related to creating awareness about DV and helping victims. It's definitely something that I will look into a put into progress once the legal battle against my abuser is settled. Much love to the Doolittle family-

[@caseyw.6550]

There are few things scarier to me than an immature, insecure man. My high school bf was like this. Never wanted me to wear makeup because he "thinks I'm beautiful without it." NO. He didn't want me feeling beautiful and/or getting another man's attention. Of course that relationship ended with a gun, a suicide threat, and a call to 911. The boys are NOT ok (and haven't been for a while...my situation happened 15+ years ago). Yall be so SO careful.

[@hbrunet72]

My heart goes out to Ashley's family. We lost our youngest daughter at 18 as well. She had been in a relationship that was very abusive - which she hid from us. She was living with her boyfriend, and ultimately took her own life because of the pain she was in as a result of this relationship ... Such a sad story.

[@docsmctink]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter .

[@ShimmerynightsASMR]

Ashley’s parents are so strong. They turned this tragedy into a topic that really needs to be addressed, discussed and keep the conversation going. RIP Ashley 💜🐎

[@JB-cb7dx]

I have an ex from high school/ college who was just like this. It wasnt until i started hearing more and more of these cases that I understood how fortunate I was to escape unharmed (physically, at least). I fully agree that we need all the education possible. Breakups at a young age can truly feel like your world is ending and I hope the next generations know there's help out there. 💜

[@candybelll3327]

I just broke up with my toxic boyfriend yesterday. So this video hit hard for me. I’m kind of scared. He has pointed a gun at me a couple times. He mentally exhausted me. But I remembered a quote from bojack, when you look at someone with rose colored glasses. All the red flags just look like flags. I wish everyone dealing with this the best

[@astrid8433]

Great quote. I wish you safety and peace ❤

[@Findpepperbridge]

I had an ex who was extremely controlling. I’m glad I’m not in that relationship. If you see red flags 🚩 please run far away.

[@happytrails699]

you cannot stay friends with a guy like this... you have to learn to be rude to this kind of guy or he will keep coming back... girls are too nice sometimes

[@dante6985]

Too much is expected of women and girls post-breakup too, tbh. In the case of Lauren Astley, the mother of her killer (Nathaniel Fujita) came to her after the break up and asked for Lauren to speak with him in person because he was having a hard time with the break-up. That's no longer Lauren's problem (and wildly inappropriate for a mother to do.)

[@d.awdreygore]

I had a boyfriend in high school who just refused to acknowledge me breaking up with him. He just wouldn't accept it and it wore me down. I stayed with him for another two years!! Thank goodness that all ended peacefully because he was too high to care much by then.

[@JessicaCrowell-h4j]

Well you pick em well eh 😑

[@nikki-yl8bx]

@@JessicaCrowell-h4jhow was she supposed to know he was like that

[@d.awdreygore]

@@JessicaCrowell-h4j I was 14 when we met. Subsequent relationships have been very healthy, I learnt what I don't want.

[@phoenixdavida8987]

​@@JessicaCrowell-h4jwe ALL live and learn, dont we?

[@citlalymor8276]

35:1 35: 35:18

[@ashleybartels5179]

You always think “that’ll never be me” or “I would never stay with a person like that”. But in reality, it can happen to anyone. I was in a past relationship where he would stalk me and show up unannounced both before and after it ended. He was slowly isolating me from friends and family. I’m very grateful I got out and away from him. Thank you for sharing the signs and things to look out for. Sometimes when you’re too close to the situation it is hard to see the signs and even harder to admit the truth to yourself. Thank you Kendall for all you do ❤

[@BillionaireForever]

I feel bad for the two boys she had texted… they were just being teens and suddenly the cute girl they were flirting with gets murdered by her jealous ex…. You can’t help but feel guilt

[@kathrinestrand3198]

The fact that Ashley did her best to be civil about not only their breakup but just the situation in general really shows that at the very least she wasn’t trying to hurt him. I think that especially nowadays we’re not just people but social media itself is trying to bring others down just proves that in a world of hate there is still good in this world. RIP Ashley you didn’t deserve what happened to you.

[@ventatech3027]

Mental abuse is another issue I wish there was more talk about. It's not easy getting out of a relationship where you've been mentally and emotionally abused. 😢

[@OctJean]

I was in a relationship where there was a variety of different kinds of violence. When I got pregnant at 18 years old I knew I had to break up with him, he never followed through with it but he told me quite a few times that he was going to kill me for breaking up with him. My daughter is 19 years old now and he’s in prison for domestic violence in other relationships, he’s never met our daughter and that’s perfectly fine with both of us (she had an incredible father figure in my dad all throughout her childhood until he passed away days before her 19th birthday).

[@crystalbrent5956]

4H is basically a club that fosters literally almost every interest. I was in 4H as a kid and went to camp one year. They have programs for swimming, fishing, canoeing, art, cooking, woodworking, archery, sharp shooting, etc.

[@beccaedgar9556]

My son is a well known chef in Nashville, working towards marijuana legalization to incorporate into his desserts, he cooks several varieties of foods but prefers desserts that are infused with CBD or THC, I'm so, so proud 😊😊😊 sorry, edited to add, he was very active in 4H, several camps and 2nd place in 4th grade county competition for cooking, he submitted a cookie recipe for oatmeal chocolate chip, instead of oatmeal raisin cause his momma, me, doesnt eat raisins, EVER!!!! ❤❤❤ Love my boy ❤

[@gabrielaartistry]

I also want to add that I lived up the block from Saint John’s and I remember our street being full of cars for her funeral. I am so proud of our community rallying around her family and being there to support them. I never met her personally, but this case hit me really hard.

[@victoriastang]

It made me very sad when you were talking about how accomplished she was and how she knew what her purpose was and it made me think of my sister whose name is also Ashley. She passed away too soon but her murderer was cancer. She spent her whole life working hard towards her goals and then cancer took her away before she could finish. It's always tragic when someone dies too soon.

[@cherlindreaadolph3945]

I think this is very important topic. My niece was murdered by her ex boyfriend that she broke up with after years of abuse. Her story is very heartbreaking and he still hasn’t gone to court for what he did yet even though it has been two years.

[@susiep3782]

My sister managed to get away from her long time boyfriend last year, he was controlling, manipulative, and quite charismatic. She’s much better off now, and I’m so happy for her. Hearing about Ashley saddens me; she deserves to still be here with us.

[@GinaHarmeyer]

While listening to Ashely's parents, I started to remember that my daughter was once in a situation that I feel could have become dangerous had she not gotten out of the relationship. He was showing many signs of possessiveness, manipulations, jealousy, control, emotional abuse, etc. She never really wanted to be in the relationship, he just declared one day that they were. She is very kind hearted and doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But her mental health seriously declined over time to the point she was throwing up every time she was with him and she's always end up crying (and that was very unlike her). She was 19 when this started. She is now 21 and has been out of the relationship for quite a while, but I think she has PTSD from it. It's amazing how we just don't know people. He seemed like a nice guy, until they were in this one-sided relationship. She has learned a lot from all of this and it makes me sad to know that it happened to her, of all people, literally one of the sweetest, kindest people I know (not to sound biased).

[@Nocturnal_beauty]

The irony of an abusive ex messaging me while watching this. Not today satan.

[@Shadow-jn9yv]

Gross, but also, good for you.

[@m2hnj]

My heart breaks for Ashley and her family. What a wonderful legacy for her to leave. When I was 18, I met a guy and started a relationship with him. His controlling side started to slowly emerge after about 5 months. By the time I was 23, we had two children and he was abusive to me in every way. I was making plans to leave him and he shot me in the back and nearly killed me. I’ve been a paraplegic ever since. That was 20 years ago. He went to jail and has been out of my and my kids lives ever since. I hope that I’ve raised my kids to recognize controlling partner behavior and I hope that I’ve raised my son to know how to properly treat a romantic partner.

[@astrid8433]

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You’re very strong and I’m sure you’ve taught your kids well. God bless you ❤

[@Alex-ey5qc]

My cousin was shot and killed suddenly when he was 18, and as awful as it was, the amount of stories people shared of how he had positively impacted their lives and the ways that people have kept his memory alive are so beautiful. Clearly it is the same for Ashley -- she will not be forgotten.

[@AdelaaMarie]

I had to get a restraining order and run away to start over . 3 years later I’m having such a good life . As hard as things may seem , things always do get better when you do the hard work to put yourself first 😭💓

[@serpenthesINK]

I think its super important to talk about how girls and women are raised to put the comfort and feelings of men above our own safety. Breakup violence is a branch of overall misogynistic violence and culture. Thank you for covering this case xo

[@biancahidalgo6448]

I was in a very toxic relationship in high school. He was very controlling and jealous and when we broke up he started stalking me, but since I was 17 and he was 19 I threatened to get police involved and he left me alone. It’s very sad things get to that point.

[@K-Mariposa]

You got married on my birthday! Happy belated anniversary. RIP Ashley. Thanks for bringing attention to these sorts of crime. I’m a high school teacher and I think we should be so much more intentional about educating teens (and parents of teens) about dealing with complex feelings when a relationship ends. Educating about red flags, managing emotions, entitlement, narcissistic abuse, coercive control, setting and maintaining boundaries etc. so we can make steps towards preventing tragedies like Ashley’s in the future. This beautiful girl. She lived such an impressive life. Unfair that her amazing future was stolen from her. My heart breaks for her and her family 💔

[@madisonb3810]

I was in a DV relationship for almost 2 years, almost killed me on one occasion, and I only got out because he had a warrant out and got locked back up. If it wasn't for that, I would probably still be with him or no longer here. Please continue making videos raising awareness and showing the signs of these things. I consider myself extremely lucky, but not everyone can get out alive or safe. RIP Ashley, your kindness shouldn't have been taken for granted. 💜

[@moonflower9403]

I went through the most brutal time when I left my ex husband. It was bad with him but I had no idea how much worse it was going to get. I ended up with a neck fracture at c2-c3, fractured orbital on both side, 4 broken ribs. It’s hard to leave and although it’s been over 10yrs the pain doesn’t stop. I’ve had 5 surgeries to try and repair my neck. I needed a safe exit plan with my 2 small children and didn’t have one. I completely agree with the mom’s warning signs.

[@denisebenedict6102]

Such an awful thing to go thru! My heart breaks for you. Hope you are safe now, and healing.

[@moonflower9403]

@@denisebenedict6102 ty. I am healing every day although some parts of me will never physically heal. I appreciate your kind words 💜

[@AllysonOConnell-lf6sc]

So sorry to hear of ur experience my heart hurts for u. Sending love and light xx

[@victoriayoung5512]

I dated a guy about 3 weeks in college and after I told him I didn't think it was working out between us he ended up stalking me. There was red flags that is why I wanted to end it He was possessive and started to treat me like I had no say in what we did, etc. You never think people will be this drastic. It does open your eyes.

[@KatelynGuzman-x5z]

I graduated from Berthoud high school in 2023 we still talk about Ashley to this day. Thank you for telling her story.

[@cyndit9208]

My daughter was in her first relationship and it turned toxic. Fast. He did the controlling and abusive behavior. He texted her incessantly and the lost his mind when she didn’t respond even while in class or cheer practice. It took us some intervention to finally get her away from him and I’ve always been so grateful. My heart to her family and friends. No breakup should ever be taken to this extreme. They can be hard but never this hard. So sad.

[@victoriastang]

This one also makes me think of the girl Emma Walker whose boyfriend shot through her house at night right through her bedroom, successfully hitting and killing her. That poor girl couldn't do a thing to prevent her murder. She kept her distance but it didn't matter. As well as that girl named Yeardley Love who was attacked when her ex broke into her bedroom, kicking the door down and proceeding to kill her through blunt force trauma. You gotta watch the interrogation on that one. He too tried to put the blame on her. Claimed she was hitting her own head against the wall. It was absolutely ridiculous.

[@christybray1096]

Last year Lily Silva-Lopez in Greeley, Colorado was killed by her ex-boyfriend while her little brother was nearby calling 911. It's a sad and frustrating case

[@louisefindlay2594]

It is so important to let children and teens know that these warning signs are not acceptable. My ex husband used coercive control and emotional abuse when we were in our late teens. I married him even though I didn't love him because he controlled me. (I was already vulnerable due to childhood SA) 25 years I lived through that marriage, I didn't know how to get out especially with 2 kids. I was gaslit, psychologically and emotionally abused throughout that marriage, in the last year it became physically abusive too. I got out in 2009 and have spent the years healing from the abuse. I'm happy now with a lovely hubby. If only I had been taught about control, psychology abuse and DV within relationships I could have been spared the trauma

[@Emrose93]

I had honestly not even thought of breakup violence until your last video on this. It’s just so scary and we need to bring up more awareness.

[@starryadventure8922]

I understand nobody wins, but if they want to see their son, they go to the jail. If they want to see their daughter, they have to speak to a stone😢

[@jenn-un1lq]

i have to add to the echo chamber because it's SO IMPORTANT. I'm 33, I'm "too nice" and over the years have gotten so much more clear and firm and mean about things when i need to set boundaries. people from all walks of life, all ages, love to test those boundaries. if you're not crystal clear about them, if you're not FIRM about them, they WILL take advantage. sadly, especially men. please, please, pleaaasseee remember that you can be rude, you can say no, and you can be called whatever, but it's better than being put in danger because you were too nice and left a door open.

[@deedeefarago7134]

Ashley’s memory lives in the hearts of all of us in NOCO. She still influences young women to this day. Her dedication to the agriculture community has enabled girls to strive for better. ❤

[@Health-Wealth-Hope]

This is so tragic!!! I was married to my Abuser. It's so difficult to talk to someone about your situation. It's so IMPORTANT TO SPEAK TO SOMEONE!!! DON'T KEEP SILENT!!! Prayers to Ashley's Family and Friends 🙏 ♥️

[@ghostieXbec]

I live in the UK, we had a triple murder this week, grandmother, mother and daughter killed by ex boyfriend due to breaking up. It’s disgusting.

[@Appellonia]

Love you Kendall!! You have such a kind empathetic heart and really make a difference in so many areas. Just wanted to take the time out to say YOU ARE APPRECIATED!!! The world needs more Kendalls and it would be a far better place to be. Thanks so much for all your hard work and great content. Much love to you, your hubby and little one. Beautiful family.❤❤❤❤

[@tooblessed8815]

What stood out to me was that she helped another person get away from their abuser and she knew the signs with Tanner but she was such a good human that she gave him grace. She didn’t get back with him but she also didn’t taunt him nor was she mean about it. She stayed her genuine and kind self. The thing about this, it doesn’t even have to be a boyfriend. My daughter lost a great friend who had just gotten engaged. They were out in a club celebrating and a guy asked her friend for her number and she politely turned him down showing her engagement ring. This POS waited outside the club and shot her and her fiance. She died and the fiancé is still broken over it. That’s been 7 years. She turned him down politely! He was such a POS manbaby and killed her because she didn’t want to give him her number. What signs could she have looked for? Please keep Ashley’s family in prayer and if you have a moment, please keep Amber’s (my daughter’s friend) family in prayer as well. It’s hard when you lose a child to gun violence. Be safe everyone.

[@sadiemcellis]

that is absolutely horrible… i am so so sorry. this world sickens me more and more each day.

[@vanessab48]

Reading these comments made my heart break, and also listening to Ashley’s case as well. I truly wish Ashley is somewhere comfortable and safe now after she passed, and the rest of you guys too🫶🏼

[@destinysmith3545]

The two most important things you can teach a child is what love is supposed to look like and how to say no. If I had the confidence to say "no," so many situations that have left me traumatized and taken me years to process would've never happened. If I knew what love looked like, I wouldn't have allowed myself to be treated in the ways that sat those situations up. I don't have kids, but parents PLEASE allow your kids to tell you no without fear of punishment, retaliation, or disappointment. Choose your child's future safety over your current comfort. We dont need more people pleasers 🖤

[@aubreyleonae4108]

I would only add that sometimes they can really model that love until the honeymoon and then you meet who they really are and it's so confusing. Especially if you are young and naive. If it's real it's always there. If it is conditional it's merely a control device having nothing whatsoever to do with love. Just a shackle to bind you. If I had been taught what I taught my child, I would have seen the signs and been able to talk to a parent. Though my parents modeled a loving relationship, they were as naive as I was in my situation. So important to talk about these things and have channels like this. So long this evil stayed in the shadows, not to be discussed in polite company. There was nothing like this in the 60s.

[@sarahserenity3872]

Does anyone know if Kendall has a schedule? Some weeks there are vids on Tuesdays and then other weeks, she takes off and doesn't put up a vid. I'm just asking if anyone knows if there's a set schedule or how to be notified that there is no vid this week?

[@jenee2395]

When I broke up with my ex he was so intoxicated and threatened me many times. I agree with the tip that Kendal gave about not seeing them after breaking up. The night we broke up is the last time I saw him (5 years ago) and I remember he had threatened to kill me and my future husband if it wasn’t him. I’m now 2 years married and that comment still comes to mind once in a while. Thankful he doesn’t know where we live/ last I heard he had gotten help. Even then I would never meet up with him again if he were to ask.

[@nicholedacherry]

I sent this to my sister hoping she’d get the memo. One of these times she goes back and tries to leave it might be the last thing she does and she has two kids.. I love my niece and nephew but I want their mom to raise them not me. They need their mom and I need my sister. He’s already shot a gun and hit her during a break up period and I fear one day he won’t miss. She doesn’t seem to care honestly. It really has been eating away at me. I try to live my life but I can’t watch true crime without picturing her face and thinking how much that would absolutely suck. I lost a friend years ago to a car accident and my world is just not the same; to think of my sister being removed from my life, I just can’t even fathom what darkness would set over me. And what a waste of her potentially beautiful life that would be.

[@jennriedy6626]

Post-relationship abuse is a real thing!

[@hayleywilkinson6990]

Before I met the love of my life I was married to an alcoholic so with the help of family and friends I got out but that didn't stop him trying to ring me leaving me voicemails at one point he tried to strangle me in the town centre in front of loads of people when I told him to leave me alone but we divorced which he did nothing to contribute too but what I went through with him still haunts me to this day I'm with someone now that I love with all my heart rest in peace Ashley my heart goes out to her family and friends.thank you Kendall for everything you do .

[@Natmom16]

My ex husband was extremely abusive. Luckily for me, when I ended up in the hospital, my parents (who knew nothing of the abuse up until this point) came to get me. They drove 4 his and would not leave until I agreed to leave with them. They probably saved my life. I am now happily married with a man who spent 10 years showing me he would never hurt me and I am eternal grateful and blessed. Stay safe out there ladies.. there's ALWAYS light at the end of that tunnel ❤

[@emmaleeharper5824]

I knew Ashley. Not well, but I was in her year in Elementary and Middle school. I remember doing a book report with her, or how she emceed our talent show in fifth grade. She was so cute and funny up on that stage. Later, I became acquainted with some people who knew her more than I did, and when speaking of her, it’s clear the profound sadness and impact this loss had on them. Ashley was clearly such a lovely light. Ashley’s story is one that has stayed with me. I know through the foundation, their goal is to prevent just one more incident like this from happening, and I believe they have achieved their goal several times over. For me, this goal was achieved when I realized that my friend was in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was our freshman year of college - less than a year after Ashley’s passing - and I became educated on warning signs of physical, emotional and sexual abuse. All of our friends hated my friend’s boyfriend, and would vocalize, “I don’t like him”, “I don’t think he’s good for you” and “you should break up with him.” But, like Ashley, my friend was kind to a man who was dangerous to her. It took looking in her eyes and saying, “I think he’s emotionally abusive” for her to be able to put words to what she was truly enduring. My friend was so gaslit that it was hard for her to see the abuse for what it was, and she needed that conversation. My friend then bravely ended the relationship in a public setting and cut contact. Without the education I received, I would not have liked the boyfriend, but I also would not have recognized him for the danger he posed to my friend. While I cannot say whether he would have ended my friend’s life the way Ashley’s was ended, it was extremely important she got out safely. There’s no reason for Ashley’s family to remember me from all those years ago, but I remember her. And because I remembered her, someone I love was able to get out of a really bad situation. It in no way makes up for her loss - but it is a bit more of her light that’s in the world.

[@vilmasimkute5427]

💯 agree. The word exhausting is so on point. I was in a situation once. I broke up with a man and he just wouldn't let go. I changed my number, moved to different place (landlord sold property) and he still wouldn't leave me alone. He send me emails, came to my work. At the end, I was very rude and personal. Literally I was awful to him just to leave me alone, offended his manhood and called him disgusting and he still wouldn't let go. It was so exhausting. At the end I called non emergency police to record the situation. And contacted his brother and explained that he will be charged with stalking if he won't stop. Thank God it worked.

[@Shazzzz807]

If being rude or unkind means saving your own life, then it’s worth it to be rude to people like this guy who cannot take a hint. I wish that she wouldn’t have kept responding to him, agreeing to meet up with him. He just liked that attention from her and kept feeding off of it. He was extremely controlling. I just wish this story ended differently

[@jendermer7793]

I suffer from the effects of a spinal injury that almost left me paralyzed. This was the result of me breaking up with an abusive fiancé after he wouldn’t take no for an answer and broke into my house while I was asleep. I was in my late 30’s and it took a sheriff explaining to me that I was a victim of domestic violence for me to understand. I was a single mother to a young 4 year old and had to learn how to walk and swallow again. I’m educated but even as an adult, I didn’t see the warning signs. It needs to be talked about more. It took many years for me to understand that there are people who hurt others knowingly. I still can’t fathom why.

[@leximusprim3]

I love the fact that your covering this topic so many people think if your not being hit then you are being abused and that is just not the case.

[@meljstephan]

Cases like this prove that it isn't as easy as "just leave." Rest in peace to every woman lost to intimate partner violence

[@thatveganpunk13]

Reminder to everyone in the comments to not victim blame Ashley for staying in her relationship as long as she did/her behavior afterwards. We don’t condone victim blaming in this community 🖤 What happened to her wasn’t her fault.

[@brookemurray6799]

omg shes a 4H sister!! i havent heard anyone else talk about 4H in years, i got awards for both my guinea pig(yes guinea pigs), nd also bow nd arrow in 4H growing up. honestly it was a huge part of my upbringing, everyone in 4H no matter the age was so kind nd fun nd i can assume she was just as much. i wish i couldve been her friend, just from what ive found out throught this video i can tell she was a beautiful, kind, passionate soul♥️

[@LetsBeCivilShallWe]

My sister (a single parent) and myself, their aunt, have had to take the reins with my nephews about being the owner of your feelings and no one else’s, respecting whomever they date, and, most importantly, the word “No.”. My sister was young and our parents gone before she really learned the lessons our parents had always taught us, that you don’t own anyone, even if they marry you, and if they don’t want to stay, then all you can do is wish them well and step away and continue to live your best life.

[@foxleaf9245]

My friend was in a toxic relationship. She cut everybody out, so I told her family I was worried. She basically told me she hated me.. they broke up a few months after and her and I haven't been friends or talked since. This was 4 years ago. I don't feel bad.

[@erinpeakovic1]

Sending love and prayers to Ashley’s friends and family. Please cover the Lauren McClusky case. That is a breakup violence case that has always stuck with me. It was also handled horribly and needs to be talked about more.

[@juliafraizer359]

What you do on this channel is so important, Kendall. You are able to spread so much awareness. Thank you for always being such a warm space for the families who experience these tragedies 🥺

[@lydiajackson8171]

Thank you for spreading awareness of this topic. I was in a very toxic relationship as a 14-18 year old..those 10 signs, every box was checked but maybe 1 or 2. I'm truly so lucky to be here today. He actually has quite the rap sheet now, with domestic abuse amongst other scary things. In an odd way, I'm glad I know first hand what it’s like to be in that type of relationship, so I am able to teach my kids about it. Thank you again Kendall for all you do♥

[@angelastreeter2734]

This case is very similar to the Lauren Kidd case in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma. Her ex was convicted of her murder but her body has never been found.

[@JessicaCrowell-h4j]

Her family is incredible. God bless them for all their doing after such a tragic loss

[@tinaballash7687]

After watching this, I texted my daughter is college and said.... please never meet an "ex-partner" alone! So sad...

[@kerrapeebles9674]

you have the most beautiful way of honoring the memory of others in these videos and telling their stories. You are very respectful and very kind ❤