Overcoming Gender Disappointment During Pregnancy | The Spill |

[@fabiolaarauz4439]

Just found out two days ago that I am having my third boy and when one lady says that you are in "mourning", she is so right! I have not stopped crying and my husband doesn't know what to do.

[@sarabethmattis6099]

17 minutes in. Thank you for sharing, raising awareness, and giving gender disappointment a voice. I am, unfortunately, a mom without a happy ending. I didn't find out the gender until birth the second time around because I thought I couldn't be disappointed holding a perfect baby in my arms, but he wasn't perfect. He has a birth injury. I was disappointed and because of the injury and my birthing history now, he will be our last. I'm not okay. I'm seeking professional help, but I just wanted to say, not everyone is okay. It doesn't always disappear after the baby is born. 10 months post-partum.

[@elenasal1652]

Sara Beth Mattis hugs

[@queenshorty6878]

i have two boys and the second time around I wanted a girl, I was so upset but than I got over it. he was handsome when he was born and holding him in my arms healthy as he can be. i over come it and accept what GOD gave me

[@katelyn9009]

I also would like to hear from women whose gender disappointments didn’t go away after birth. After having my second son it didn’t go away. I still loved him but as soon as I got home from the hospital I was already planning another pregnancy and looking up sway techniques and making a new baby registry with all the girl items I wanted. Even now a year and a half after my last little boy was born I feel extremely disappointed when a friend or family member announce they are having a girl. One cousin I have cut out of my life completely for the sole reason that she is having a girl and I can’t deal with it. Gender disappointment does not always go away with birth.

[@pattysolisramirez5361]

Kiara Jackson how are you feeling now?

[@kimlibrisk9968]

Mine went away soon as i had my son

[@jessicab331]

I’m having my 3rd boy and I’m scared this will be the case… tbh i never even expected a girl… I feel cursed… my partner is of course excited and I have to watch him gloat. I don’t even care what he names it. With my second boy I didn’t find out because I was like oooh… Well if I just have a healthy baby I’ll be happy… i know this will be my last pregnancy so I just wanted to find out as soon as possible so I could try and deal with it. I have a long way to go and I don’t think I’ll ever get over it. I’m not even excited to tell ppl what this baby is cuz wooow another boy!! And being a BW this is not a blessing.

[@jessicab331]

I didn’t find out with my second son b/c I didn’t want to deal with the disappointment… I just wanted oh the joy of just having a healthy baby… but with the 3rd I couldn’t wait to find out… it’s the ONLY reason I got an NIPT done. Glad I did… I get a lot of time to hopefully get over the fact that I’ll never have a daughter. Hopefully. And at least I got to check the results alone away from other ppl.

[@mydogpaco16]

Thank you so much for posting this! I'm currently pregnant with my second child, my first is a boy and I desperately want a baby girl we know this one is our last baby. We are finding out in 4 days the gender and I'm extremely anxious to find out, I already feel if it's not a girl I will be very disappointed. Thank you for publicity talking about gender disappointment I now know that I'm not alone.

[@mdledford413]

jessica moore was it a boy or girl

[@mydogpaco16]

We are having a baby girl!! We are so excited!! Madison Marie will be here December 21st 😊❤️

[@mdledford413]

Awww Congrats!!! 😊😊

[@mdledford413]

I find out what I'm having Nov. 4th. Can't wait

[@ivelisserodriguez8600]

I know this is an old video but I have a 4yr old boy and 9yr old boy my only girl is 13yrs old so we decided to try one last time for another girl I literally just got home from my gender reveal and I’m balling my eyes out I just started crying I’m still crying I don’t know how I feel anymore I’m extremely disappointed the ultrasound girl felt my pain and my disappointment my daughter was with me and my husband and I feel horrible I’m mad upset disappointed I’m inconsolable right now

[@jessicab331]

Imagine never having a daughter

[@agueva05]

thank you for sharing this. many words I needed to hear

[@Anitas112]

I can't get over it I am in tears and 6 months pregnant no motivation at all

[@maneselles1451]

I’m 15 weeks pregnant - I have two girls already - I am praying to god this ones a boy - I feel no shame that I feel this way - I will be devastates if it’s a girl - And its okay cause I know for a fact that if it is a girl I will love her more than life!

[@benishehtesham6414]

What did u get?

[@AmyAutrey]

This was so helpful. Thank you all so much and sending love a your ways

[@LovelyMunchkinsx3]

I just found out im pregnant with my 3rd girl 😢 idk how to feel ..

[@wednesdayaddams1473]

be happy. I'm sure she's wonderful...

[@wanderlovesus7777]

I feel you..😥 boys are better

[@jessicab331]

@@wanderlovesus7777no tf they aren’t. I have 3 boys and would much rather have 3 daughters!

[@rachaelkirby3467]

We are trying for our girl. I have two wonderful boys. I'm 46 and very healthy. I'm following the diet and timing and positions all for a girl so am hopeful it may work. Get the Ashley spencer book. Choosing the gender of your child.

[@benishehtesham6414]

Did u get ur girl?

[@shaniquabarnes5632]

I love this video .. there are a lot of women who get gender disappointments.. and too concerned what someone opinion..

[@ritakelly5925]

This was great to hear. Many gender disappointment resources are for women. Can you recommend anything to relate to the fathers that experience this? My husband and I both thought we were having a girl. We are having a boy. I was able to adjust pretty quickly, but he’s still very sad, like some said, mourning the girl. If you have any thoughts on anything I can share with him, it would be greatly appreciated.

[@SimplyElegant29]

just find out am having my third girl, I don't know what to do .hubby wanted a boy. am scared of my marriage 😅

[@markrobson5614]

I would be worried about having a boy in this current climate girl gender bias is in everything especially in education.and job opportunity’s.Boys left behind.

[@jessicab331]

@@markrobson5614i have 3… and we are black! Even worse!

[@annacristinaespinos8601]

I am dissapointed as well i just found out for days ago i am having a boy i really want a girl

[@AllNickiMinajSongs]

+Milo the bunny did it get better?

[@markrobson5614]

Why do mothers always smirk and take the piss out of baby boys bit’s annoying !

[@jessicab331]

@@markrobson5614because most men are not good ppl. No matter how hard ppl try to raise them well!

[@ningh2118]

Thank you for sharing this. I am currently suffering from this. I cried, felt sad but guilty, not excited. I know these are all terrible and ungrateful feelings. I don’t know how long it takes for me to process this, or whether i will be able to handle it at all. I know i should be all excited and happy and feeling lucky about my pregnancy like i have been feeling before knowing the gender. Please will this be passed? I’m very sick.

[@elenasal1652]

I thought i was having a boy i was over the moon until ob pointed out it was the umbilical cord. He said dont put money on it but he is sure its a girl. My heart sank. My husband just sat in the seat. I was in tears. I have been crying non stop. I really really wanted a boy. Its my last pregnancy i wanted a girl and a boy. Now i cant enjoy this pregnancy. I stopped touching my belly. I have made the decision not to breast feed anymore. I wanted a hungry boy. As far as im concerned hubby can have the first hold, hubby can feed it. I don’t even want to mention gender of this one. I don’t have a name only boys names. I have boys clothes that i have brought. I don’t want to buy pink. I don’t want to do frills again. I actually don’t want to buy baby clothes period. It will just have to put up with the blue things I already have. Am i proud of feeling this way? Nope. I am trying my best to work through this on my own. Hubby and i have had a huge fight over this.

[@gimmethetea9101]

elena Sal you don’t want to breastfeed just because it’s a girl? You don’t want to be the first to hold your baby just because it’s a girl? You only want your husband to feed her just because she is a girl and not a boy? Why does gender matter so much to you? There are people out there who would give an arm just to get pregnant and you are throwing a fit over not having a boy

[@nansm3672]

I hope things got better for you and baby girl.

[@lemyzapreciado]

Pathetic

[@disnic2]

@Lymza, Be nice!!! The little girl is probably 2yrs already now and am sure she is loved. The all reason for this is show awareness that this kind of disappointment exists and its ok to feel emotions and share them. Yes people are struggling to even get pregnant but that does not mean that her emotions are not valid simply because she can!!!

[@kandialexis]

Kandi 7213866

[@YAHSHAYA777]

Girls BOYS ARE BETTER I PRAYED TO HAVE 2 BOYS AND AND GOD GRANTED my wishes!!THANK U JESUS! My parents never wanted boys and God gave them 3 girls. I was the eldest and i always wanted a brother. I'm BLESS with my 2 little machos! JUST PRAY TO God and his son jesus with faith!!

[@wanderlovesus7777]

Good for you 😒 i hate girls..

[@benishehtesham6414]

What made u think boys are better? Its ok to have a preference but hate is a big solid word. Whats wrong with you

[@jessicab331]

Oh stfu! I have 3 boys and I wanted girls! Nothing about boys are better especially BM! This comment is a joke!