Khan Academy - What is Asperger Syndrome?

[@valkyrieakeso5173]

I feel a sense of urgency about writing to Khan Academy and telling them that this "educational" but is absurdly offensive to it's subject matter. Its sad how grotesque the misunderstanding is. No wonder people think we have no empathy.

[@KerryLynn-qr5ju]

My thoughts, exactly. This is quite inaccurate.

[@ericgrim6849]

Yes, quite disappointing.

[@katekolstad9820]

Are you aware that Aspergers exhibits itself differently in women than in men? A lot of women are diagnosed later in life or not at all because their symptoms are compared to the male-based criteria and don't quite match up.

[@danwork1149]

I'm so confused. My doctor says I have's Aspergers but none of these traits describe my personality.

[@izzydianaa]

That's how I felt too. But your doctor wouldn't diagnose you if she/he didn't see any symptoms or behaviours . A trait of Aspergers is poor self reflection/awareness. You're probably not completely aware of your behaviours.

[@MidniteGem]

Please don't listen to this video. Look elsewhere for Asperger's descriptions and information. I'm only 3 minutes into it and this video is pissing me off. It's very clear that the speaker has no intimate experience with Aspies. I am certain I have Asperger's, and so far this has been a list of ignorant misconceptions about Asperger's. Basically if you look at their written bulletpoints, that's pretty on point, but their descriptions of what those things mean are totally inaccurate. For example, they assume "lack of sharing" implies that Aspies lack the urge to share, whereas I think it's a lot more likely that they don't know how to share or were conditioned to stop trying because sharing doesn't usually go very well - particularly our "special interests". I also know that I'm "supposed to" say "good morning", but I choose not to because I resent fucking bullshit compulsory greetings, etc. Social interaction isn't impossible, and it isn't always that I "don't want to" interact; it's just exhausting. This video reeks of an uneducated neurotypical that is ignorantly guessing what Asperger's is, based on dry, outdated notes of observed behavior of admittedly non-neurotypical people...

[@danwork1149]

@@MidniteGem haha thank you for the response. I was 13 when I watched this video and was very confused about what aspergers was. You are correct though, this video doesn't seem quite right.

[@Sveltdre]

Did you buy their drugs anyway?

[@tylerscott2116]

Yeah she just said aspies wouldn't share something they're interested in with another in the rainbow example, this is a hard generalization because a aspie can easily be the exact opposite and feel as tho they want to share but overshare in a way that's lopsided and they feel rejected when they notice after the fact.

[@davegunner49]

As an aspie I have no trouble pointing out things. I do it rather excessively like a child as I am seeing the world with every detail. Restrictive interests are way of coping with high levels of anxiety in everyday life due to structural problems in the amygdala. I am not happy with the DSM criteria. I would definitely include sensory processing disorder with hypersensitivities. These coupled with anxiety is one of the most inhibiting characteristics.

[@Sveltdre]

The illusion of happiness is begot with a frown. I’ve seen smiles be used to mask deception, very standard practice in sales and politics. The meaning of “a smile” or “frown”.

[@user-lu6yg3vk9z]

How do you get tested for this?

[@KerryLynn-qr5ju]

This is grossly inaccurate information

[@eskenden]

Ok stop. Im tired of this, every Non-Apsie makes it so different from what it really is. I feel like every Non-Aspie is only looking at it very Flattly and from what they preceive it as. I feel disconnected and upset when I found out I had Aspergers because I have only stubbled across videos like this one. If you wanna inform people have someonr who has Aspergers explain it please.

[@thefckigaveflewawaywithu6904]

This creator is notorious for providing inaccurate information that doesn't reflect the reality of the person with the disorder as much as how NTs view them (or in this case, us)

[@globuspallidus2457]

Well explained 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@jrock5582]

Are people with asperger's genetic dead end? I like women but for some reason when I was younger they always went for the bad guy. Now in my thirties women choose the men that have are financially stable. For me it's no win. I may have to read some evolutionary psychology books to understand why people with aspergers may never know what it is to have someone attracted to them. It is proven that life expectancy is shorter for people who live alone.

[@daniellebrowne4211]

You need to meet better people is all..

[@MidniteGem]

It's easier dating as an Aspie girl, for many reasons. Guys have it more difficult, but you might actually benefit from reading a book on male & female dynamics in dating. A good friend of mine has told me about some book(s) he read that helped him learn to have charisma with the opposite sex. I apologize I don't know what book(s) he was referencing. I know many books on the subject can be quite unethical, but I know from my friend that at least some "techniques" can be done with integrity. I think the way "dating manuals" break down human behavior could be very useful for Aspies, based on my friend relaying the concepts to me. There are logical explanations for why women seem to choose the "bad guy" or the "financially stable" guy, that women themselves aren't consciously aware of. Make yourself aware of the intersex "rules of engagement" and with a little practice you may surprise yourself.

[@codingsingh4156]

PUA is the answer buddy

[@thefckigaveflewawaywithu6904]

​​@@MidniteGemthat's some solid advice. The best thing i ever did for my growth was not let embarrassment or negative experiences in social situations intimidate me into not learning. I feel a lot of autistic ppl get embarassed and want to hide or avoid feeling that way again, so they avoid repeating the situation and by extention, they also avoid learning to overcome it.

[@thefckigaveflewawaywithu6904]

@jrock5582, short answer? No, but physical health issues or disabilities are common comorbid issues with autism and we don't know why, scientifically. I think it's more a problem of unhealthy behavioral pattern reinforcement than a physiological issue of the body or mind. The only way out is though, and the longer ppl put it off the harder it gets. The reason most autistic people that don't figure it out end up alone is... well, think of Adrian Monk. Ocd/autism comorbid symptoms, alone romantically with very few friends because he can't work through his grief until he avenges his wife's d3ath. But the unfiltered truth is, he's too scared and anxious and grief striken to allow himself to engage with the world. For like over a decade. Without his emotional support person, the discomfort of growing pains are too much. And every time he felt the ache, he goes back to his comfort zone. The only thing that ever got him out of it was after he got what he needed to heal (trying to be vague, don't wanna spoil it if someone hasn't seen it). I heard a tip that if you pretend you're in the fear hole from rick and morty it can help the feelings of pressure in social situations for autistic ppl. Learning to unmask was my first step to not being so scared all the time to take chances. Honestly, low risk situations are really great practice. When i was working on eye contact, I'd practice on people i knew I'd never see again, strangers at the bus stop and all that. Anyway. I don't think the reason many autistic ppl end up alone is because they're autistic, so much as afraid to take risks and experience rejection. Historically, there was more reason to be afraid for your safety from the fear mongering or persecution than today. Avoidance is just easier, especially if someone has comorbidity issues in addition to autism, like trauma or ocd or adhd. Speaking of trauma, constant rejection creates psychological distress that leads to attachment issues and extreme fear of connection; even if its a thing people need or want, it can feel impossible to overcome without the motivation and with fear and anxiety clouding the judgment. And how we feel about things we experience dictates our reality as humans. That's what i think anyway.