Korean Girls React to 'Coming Out' TikToks

[@CrunchyTofu]

"We're doing this out of love" I hate that excuse when they're being completely hurtful.

[@thegracklepeck]

Yeah that one was really hard to watch.

[@handsomeinosuke3628]

its just a way of manipulation.

[@jinslif8188]

yeah when I hear that all I think about is "I love you (conditionally)"

[@gillyscozybuilds]

Yeah :(

[@uncrnsprklfrts5720]

I grew up in an ultra conservative Christian home, and I heard that phrase a lot. That poor young woman having a family like that, I hope they find a family of the heart. 💖

[@angel-nv7jk]

Imagine raising and loving a child only to hear, "I'm Gay" and suddenly they're the devil. If you treat your kid like that because of sexual orientation, you never actually loved them in the first place.

[@crunchybread3548]

Exactly, if you truely even care about your child then their sexuality/gender won't matter. Parents shouldn't care about any of that cuz its their life and their choices.

[@PerishersChamber]

the parents knew them before they came out that information was just withheld from them but the parents knew them before they came out. they're still same the person they were before they came out, nothing changes how they are and how they were before coming out.

[@puppetlover6334]

i think they should care so they have a better future, and what all of u say it is acctually twisted, if u lve ur son/dauther u should tell them no because thats not right, that means they care for their child and want them to have a good future. if their parents accept it, it actually means that they dont care about their child

[@crunchybread3548]

@@puppetlover6334 PLEASE WHAT STFU- loving the opposite gender is normal and it aint gonna affect ur job opportunities.

[@PerishersChamber]

@@puppetlover6334 ??? most of the time, at least. it usually means that they actually care for the happiness and well-being of their child/children, that they would do so many things to make them feel valid and happy, definitely not because they don't care. it would mean so much to their kid to see that they care and they know that love is not something you can easily control. like i said in the other comment, if wont severely affect who they are. *they are who they are* and *they always have been* . do understand, that loving someone in a way that is "not considered the norm" is not going to damage their skill in anything.

[@dwunkii]

I told my mom I was BI- and all she said was "So?" And she was so supportive and nothing in my life changed, it just continued and I'm absolutely thankful that I was born in such a supportive famoly

[@suzypilled]

You have the best mom!

[@dwunkii]

@@suzypilled I can indeed agree with that.

[@xiao1695]

My mom found I am bi and said I was a embarrassment :( Pretending to be straight is kinda hard but that's wt I'll have to do for 10 years more (not sure) My big sister supports me and doesn't tell my mom she knows that I am bi, she is the best haha, love you bis sis ♥

[@onceitzy2259]

Lol I just hoped that I was in a supportive fam too!! I haven't done that and uhhmm... Well I already know the outcome anyways I just need to wait a couple more yearsssss lol

[@LiterallyN1adventurinefan]

If I come out to my parents they would definitely disown me or say its just a phase or blame it on my phone

[@izzyshyperfixations]

What she said at the end is so true. When a parent doesn’t accept an LGBT child, it usually has to do with them not respecting their kid as a person in general.

[@casluvs]

Yes! A real parent would support and love their child no MATTER what gender they are attracted to.. period.

[@bribread]

yes... it always rubbed me the wrong way.. not just because of their homophobic views but because some parents immediately deny their child expressing themselves and finally being themselves like the parent wants all control of their child :( shows that that parent never really respected their child.

[@masonmori8669]

Yeah I came out to my mom recently and she literally thinks I’m just confused, she doesn’t respect my feelings or what I say at all and she treats me like a 5 year old or something, I’m 16 LMAO

[@izzyshyperfixations]

@@masonmori8669 I’m sorry to hear that. Hopefully she’ll change with time. If she doesn’t, you’ll make friends over the years that’ll become like family to you. And eventually you’ll make your own family with someone.

[@misojimo2154]

@@masonmori8669 I’m so sorry. Just please remember (I know it’s easy to forget this sometimes) there’s a whole community of us lgbt+ folks out here who totally get how you feel. sending you love and support, and hoping that your mom will eventually understand you. Sometimes it takes time for parents too.

[@feareyn2258]

I always found out a bit narcissistic how parents don't support their children's sexuality. It's not your choice, body, or relationship so why make it such a big deal? Your child is opening and just wanted to have your support, be nice to them.

[@domdom9349]

Because they want grandchildren. Thats the only reason

[@lingyingli1563]

@@domdom9349 true,so that they could continue their bloodline passing down from generation to generation,but the other reason also can be that they want them to be normal and don't want them to bring shame to their family

[@casluvs]

@@domdom9349 it still shouldn’t be a reason not to support your kids.. adoption is a real thing too. I’d support my kids no matter what sexuality they are and wether I’m gonna have grandchildren or not, because there’s nothing more amazing than seeing people around you happy. I could never in a million years not support my children just because they like boys or girls. Love is love. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@lingyingli1563]

@@casluvs still,in reality there is parents like that...and there nothing we can do,not all parents will support their child,you can take me as a example,my family want grandchildren and want me to be normal,not some gay son,so yeah just from their behavior I can tell that I should never came out but to kept it to myself until I found the one I like and told them after that,if they don't supp me I can just break my ties with my family so they don't need to felt ashame to have this kind of son,is my life my choice,I live who I want at least I love the right person and decent one

[@kidneytransplant2843]

@@casluvs Theres also sperm donors out there who are happy to help people start a family if it's what they want.

[@emmadj06]

My coming out story: Me: “Mom, I’m lesbian” Mom: “Okay. Please take out the trash”

[@cocacolalover3919]

same

[@unculturedpieceofbutter6919]

I can't tell if I should laugh or no-

[@chessydion207]

Same

[@Girlflourishh]

My mom legit went “i know”

[@711sandwhiches5]

well, congrats ig

[@anchita_s]

When her mom said "we can pray to god and ask to straighten you out' really made me tear up. I'm not a part of lgbtq+ but that felt really backstabbing hurt, no child deserves that kind of response from their own parents :((

[@ericaploof998]

I'm not Christian, but it's been proven that homosexuality isn't a sin and the bible was mistranslated...so no, praying the gay away isn't going to work. They aren't true Christians.

[@awesomesaucepan0e0]

@@ericaploof998 I swear this isn’t a homophobic response but as a Christian that’s not correct and I don’t want any mistranslations and misinformation to be spread. The Bible will obviously be mistranslated from its original meaning due to several factors like language barriers, biases, etc., but a good chunk of it was translated by the Greeks (which is where the letter J is actually introduced because Jesus was not Jesus as J wasn’t even a letter in his timeframe). Now I mention the Greeks because before they decided to go buck wild with the homophobic killings, they were pretty into same sex intercourse (as well as the Romans). They would be the last ones who’d want to make up some random rule about this, and so it’s not a mistranslation or a random sprinkle of someone’s opinion when the Bible explicitly said that marriage is between a man and a woman on multiple occasions, and a man shouldn’t lay with another man, yada yada. But But BUT just in case you didn’t see the first three times BUUUUUT, it also says premarital sex is a no no, judging is a no no, lying is a no no, stealing is a no no, etc., and I’m pretty sure that there’s plenty of straight folks (myself included I have lied way too many times and I’m not proud) who are sinners as well. We all are. The most important thing isn’t any of those things. It’s to love and obey God, and if you are doing that correctly, than you are loving and respecting all of his creatures, us human beings included. A good Christian will evidently make mistakes, mistreat people, and misjudge them because we are human beings after all (and we’re low key trash lol) but the point is to always do your best to abide by His word and His standards. There is a misconception that one sin can be worst than another sin and that’s not true. All sins are equally bad, and while it may seem crazy to think that lying and murder are seen as equals in Gods eyes, that’s just how trash we are compared to Him. However, because he loves all of us, whether gay, straight or bi, lesbian, transgender, he loves all of us equally and the same because we are His and He forgives us for all of our mistakes, flaws, and shortcomings. And if He can accept us as we are even though He’s literally perfect and we sin on a hourly basis, we can accept others even if we have different perspectives or preferences. Sorry for the long message, but I wanted to clear this up. I really hope I didn’t offend, as that was nowhere near my intention, and I’m sorry if I sound like a Bible thumper. I’m just tired of Christians acting like their LGBTQ+ counterparts aren’t as good as them just bc they’re straight when they literally mess up too. We’re all human and if God can love someone who lies to their parents about dropping out of college (ahem me), than He definitely can love someone who just happens to like the same sex as them. Have a nice day/night! Edit: I can’t type for crap sorry

[@Manilove223]

@@ericaploof998 right, many old bibles from out the country say the original translation was no pedophilia, or "lay with a boy" but in america "catholics changed it" and some said "I wonder why that is" with a sarcastic tone

[@violettapn]

As someone with religion issues i really am upset how society is using their believes to prove their stupidity even more

[@monsterpichu8112]

For real I may be straight but that's something you dont ever say to you're child the girls face alone was enough to make my heartbreak I felt so sad and bad for her. I cried at some of these that were not bad like the ones where the guys parents that accepted there sons gay sexuality those made me cry happy tears because its good to know there are parents who are willing to care and are accepting of there kids regardless of sexuality or gender because it can be real hard for the kid or person to come out.

[@dezerickson9338]

Honestly I am glad they included some negative ones as well, I have seen many channels focus on only the positive ones this is a bit more real

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

Hard to see, but it’s reality.

[@offthesidelines]

The negative ones are unfortunately necessary evils because they're like wakeup calls for many. There were (young adult) Korean reactors on another channel that were asked how they'd react if their (future) child came out to them and while they seemed to express support for the lgbtqia+ community, they still said things along the lines of "I'd be shocked and feel awkward for a while" or "I'd be hard for me to hear that from my own child". The negative videos completely changed their minds once they realized how hurtful their initial reactions could be to their children.

[@offthesidelines]

@bowlcut "koreans react to coming out to parents" or something like that on the OSSC channel.

[@heyitsme9378]

Totally.

[@mothspaces]

My coming out story: My family (father, mother, me, and sister) were at the dinner table and had just finished eating. Mom’s going on about how me and my sister’s husbands have to be a silver smith so she can get free turquoise necklaces. Me: “I’m not gettin’ a husband, I’m gettin’ myself a wife!” Sister, “YOU’RE GAY???” Mom: “WELL SHE HAD BETTER BE A SILVER SMITH! I STILL WANT MY FREE JEWELRY! >:D” All: * Fucking laughing our asses off *

[@Lady_of_gloom]

Lol 😂 lucky how it was chill with your family...mine would've been like : Me : Mom...dad...im ...im pansexual ...and non binary Them : **proceeds to pick slipper**

[@EIIy]

I'm a lesbian, and a jeweller 👀

[@mothspaces]

@@EIIy :0 Nice 😎

[@UnfilteredN]

yay for you!

[@alicetheneko7529]

@@Lady_of_gloom lesbian and also fellow non-binary :)

[@dynastygirl2912]

That Mom that said “Okay when we get home we will talk to your father and make it happen” is what so many trans kids need. What a legend

[@aznmochibunny]

I think I heard that that mom is actually not welcoming to her trans son and calls him by birth name and pronouns. If that's true, it's really sad.

[@dynastygirl2912]

@@aznmochibunny geeze. I’m a mother, my son is small now but if he ever told me he was trans I can say with 100% certainty both me AND my husband would embrace our daughter with open arms. That’s part of being a parent, you love your child unconditionally

[@jeongieluv1335]

@Z I also heard the the mom acted nice and accepting because the son was filming, and she could see that and when they got home, I don't remember what happened but I don't think it was nice 😢

[@wiiboiwill]

@@aznmochibunny I've heard that too but nobody seems to have sources or know where that rumor came from. Tbh the mom sounds genuine, and they have a pan flag hanging out their car, so I don't think she's faking support.

[@glcnornes3783]

@@aznmochibunny I think I read that somewhere too, I went looking to see if someone commented this. I seem to remember she hasn’t been supportive & only was supportive cos she was being filmed. @.kichi was it? Need to go verify it myself instead of furthering rumours so don’t take my word for it either.

[@minhhqng]

“Bisexual is good, you get to enjoy best of both worlds. 😏” - some tiktoker’s dad 💁🏻‍♀️

[@aki1676]

"Pan is good, you get to enjoy best of all worlds. 😏" - me lol

[@archanasctoch]

Just like Hannah Montana 😌

[@boribbora]

"Nah, bisexual just means people reject you twice as much" -me

[@ayemen6638]

@@boribbora BAHAHHA

[@jazzellngo1968]

timestamp?

[@hometomars]

Honestly, religious people who still respect their LGBT family don't get enough respect. I know a lot of religious people are kind of against that thing, but I wish people realize that you can be an ally or a person the LGBT community and still be religious...They are going against something so important to them to continuously love their family. I never understood the thing with christians when apparently there's the "love thy neighbor" quote but I'm not a very religious person myself (agnostic, I don't believe in any particular religion but definitely believe there is something) so I could be wrong...

[@v1p3r.b1t3]

It’s the bare minimum

[@LiterallyN1adventurinefan]

In Muslim families tho

[@Jen_TheSnail]

I consider myself a Christian at the moment and I’m lesbian….😚

[@sportedittz1091]

Let’s not bash religions here

[@hometomars]

@@sportedittz1091 I don't think anyone is?

[@eunhastolemyheart6098]

If a parent stops loving their child when they come out, then they've never loved that child in the first place

[@aamu3]

yeah :(

[@yukismith4518]

Truth spoken.

[@Faye-Jane]

Exactly! Parents should love their child/children no matter what. That’s there job as a parent and stop loving them when they came out means they never loved them or respect them.

[@luv3mely]

@@Faye-Jane right like a parents main job is to love and accept their kids and parents who don’t accept who their kids are have failed the most important part of being a parent and if they can’t handle the thought of their kids being themselves than they should’ve never had kids in the first place

[@sleepyclowns]

@@luv3mely I literally couldn't have said it better omg

[@soccertube2889]

Girl: “I’m bi” Dad:*looks over at at mom* “Biracial?”

[@snowdrop118]

Couldn't resist the dad joke

[@sterni95]

🤣

[@squ34ky]

lol

[@emm777-]

LMAO

[@SalamanderMagic]

HAHAHH

[@Topazthesilliest]

Parents act like we choose this. I never really chose to be Bi, it just came to me after I had a crush on a female in third grade, and then a male in 5th.

[@luigisleftballsack9179]

Christian parents say it's Demons I hate that but.. It's just them.

[@xxstrawberry_sugarxx3269]

Wow, third grade!? I didn't figure out until I was in 6th grade

[@mikrokosmos4542]

Me not truly figuring out till 9th grade 😳

[@Beelzebubby91]

@@mikrokosmos4542 oh hunny, I was in 12th grade and didn’t know for sure until like two years later lmfao

[@yusssqueen8183]

my parents know im bisexual😊 what they don't know that i am non binary and like to use they/them😳 tho my mum is not really a fan when it comes to me dressing up in Skirts and dresses🙄✋. She says someone is forcing u to be gay🤣 plus she doesn't believe im bisexual but thinks I'm gay and only believe god created gay and straight😕, my mum is transphobic and she thinks i don't understand what bisexual means🙄 also she said she knows what i like and claims i don't want to dress feminine😒 what is really sad is the fact my mum said do whatever and be happy in life because u only get one life facts😭 i lost hope in her now😢 at least the rest of my family are supporters😔, reading through the comments i should have had and actual mum who supports me💔

[@queendee8809]

I don’t understand how you could love your child their entire life and all of a sudden when it comes to who they like you hate them?

[@ladansemakabre]

if a parent suddenly hates their child when they come out... they never actually loved them.

[@inesdub]

The answer is : they liked the image of you, what they projected on you, what they would like you to be like. And the worst part is that it applies to everything a child can do that is not in the path chosen by the parents that see them as a toy : it can be because of decisions you take for your own life, the clothes you wear, people you love, people you talk to/chose to not talk to, everything can be a reason to hate.

[@X1OMARAA_]

@@inesdub Exactly.

[@diary4268]

KAGAMINE LEN!'NNNN I LOVE YOU

[@saruchizinha]

Maybe they didnt love their children and the "i'm part of the lgbt comunity" was the exactly excuse they needed to actually tell "we always hate you

[@oifelix8678]

The mom who discredited her daughter’s bisexuality because she hasn’t been sexually active with a women is so disrespectful. A bisexual women does not have to be sexually active with another woman for her bisexuality to be valid. It’s so messed up that people can’t except that some women genuinely like both men and women beyond just sexual attraction and as a bisexual woman myself I’m so tired of it.

[@lll.24601]

SHOUT IT OUT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE BACK

[@aikoito3473]

Agree about what you said, BuT CoMe HerE Bro....

[@abby-jg6lr]

ikr! kinda hurt my soul when they thought that was funny and rational

[@aeonbear3307]

I came out as bisexual when I was 12. It was an easy thing for me because my older sister had too. I knew because I generally felt a different attraction to a girl the same way I had for a boy and I knew it was different than friendship. It’s ridiculous that I can’t be seen as bisexual by some because I haven’t had sex with a girl to know.

[@lisarousselet9370]

And did you see as it never apprear for "straightness"?? Like, "you can't say you're straight if you never f***ked with someone from the opposite sex!" 😑 Strange, ain't it??

[@chinmayeesurve7769]

"If you hate to say it, don't say it." Damn, girl just called out everyone on their bs 🤣

[@kattemma]

"We're saying this out of love" no. You're saying it out of fear. When it comes to your own children, you need to put that fear aside and be brave for them.

[@karenjahn9600]

Well said!

[@pretty_fork1907]

Agree💐

[@scholarssolutions6735]

They only love a “different version” of the person in that case, they don’t really love their actual child.

[@PaulLoh]

When my daughter was growing up, I noticed that she was particularly close to a girl friend of hers. I told her that, if she ever had anything that she wanted to talk about in regard to boy problems, girl problems, or anything else in her love life, I would listen. Turns out she's straight, but I was completely ready for anything because I love her.

[@mono_poisoner]

a legend we stan

[@v06261]

That’s awesome, my parents were the same haha. I was just really close to my best friend because she was the first and only friend I made when I immigrated to the US. They definitely were shocked when I came home with a boyfriend and not a girlfriend lol, they also asked me if I was bi, but nope. I just really love dick ig.

[@RatArmyHeart]

You dropped this 👑

[@Moonxsta]

We need more parents like you im proud of u legend

[@jpachu16]

My mom was the same way. During my teen years she would really push the statement “or girls, whatever you like”. I think I was like really close to my female friends. But I think I’m more or less straight.

[@cmcsft]

When one of my daughters came out a few months ago as bisexual, my first reaction was "Finally 🤣 I have known for years!" She cried and laughed and it made her open up and relax way more, since then. I'm proud that she knows who she is and what she wants in life 💪 And I'm so happy that we can share much more now that she feels at ease 🥰🥰🥰🥰 We as parents, do not own our childrens life, we need to show support and help them achieve whatever they want/need. We only need love ❤

[@BerryFoodie]

You're a legend, I'm glad some kids get to have such supportive parents like you

[@casluvs]

That mom saying she’s disgusted with her daughter just because she’s attracted to girls breaks my heart.. a real parent should love and support their children no matter what gender they’re attracted to. I feel so sorry for that poor girl.

[@justgin5381]

believe me in the Asia country they just gonna say "F#@K OFF! GET OFF MY PROPERTY!"

[@rukk444]

@@justgin5381 actually im chinese and i like girls, my parents accepted it even if they were quite uncomfortable at first. They still love me and now it's normal for them

[@gender-fluidARMY]

Seeing those negative reactions made me cry because I got a similar reaction from my mom. The positive ones helped though.

[@psychadelicpotato8580]

Even if the parents didnt lile their sexuality they should still behave with empathy.

[@casluvs]

@@AGATHA13502 i’m sorry :( remember you’re loved

[@achilliesollogy6140]

them: 'a man wont want you' 'We ARe sAYiNg tHiS OUt oF lOvE' me: how loving

[@pumpkinface6621]

sorry, not related at ll, but we have the same pfp :)

[@achilliesollogy6140]

@@pumpkinface6621 yayy !! i am now making you my friend there is no coming back from this /j (but like hi ur super cool

[@vampxst]

Wait no bc this convo is so cute and precious

[@achilliesollogy6140]

@@vampxst hi hi hello hi wait no bc *youre* so cute and precious >:D

[@Nuriyya91]

I know. Its just a narcissistic behaviour to say things like "No one will love you, but I do!" its toxic af. Whenever someone says that to you, who ever it might be, run bitch!

[@idk-mx7kw]

I hope someday if Generation Z becomes a parent, we should wholeheartedly accept what our children's prefer sexuality and gender :)) we know how much it impacts the mental health of a children if he/she can't come out the closet :))

[@keypath5340]

I believe we will be like that

[@golden_leader9227]

I'm childfree, but my younger brother wants to have kids (his girlfriend too, of course) and this topic came up during a conversation that included my best friend (f), who's bi. I asked my brother if one or more kids came out to them, what would they do, to which both my brother and his girlfriend replied "nothing different than usual, if we indeed have kids they are what they are and they're allowed to want what they want since they're their own person/people". Proud of them

[@wildwitchwest]

i think the heartbreaking stuff will be less for sure by the time gen z is adults and having kids, but there are still aggressively homophobic gen z people who will also have kids and treat them that way :/

[@keypath5340]

@@wildwitchwest hopefully there would be less homophobia by that time

[@wildwitchwest]

@@keypath5340 the thing is that's what people said about racism and look at where we are 😔

[@ashexrome7621]

I remember when my cousin came out at a family reunion, his dad literally went “That’s gay.” He walked him down the isle when he married his husband. They named their son after my uncle and he refused to let anyone else hold him when the next family reunion came around. Those are his boys 🥺

[@yunaurluv]

that is adorable aaahfjdgajfg

[@Leah-Stan]

He really said that's gay XD. Father of the year.

[@BossX2243]

How the hell did they have kids?

[@kat9pao]

​@@BossX2243 adoption or a surrogate maybe

[@cmldzab9438]

I was “forced out the closet” by a close friend when I was 15. I had a secret girlfriend. No one knew at all but my BFF at the time found out and told my parents. At the time I couldn’t even make sense of my feelings… I just knew I liked “this one girl”. I couldn’t even think about whether that was gay or not because that was too confusing for me to think about then. I just knew I liked her and I craved this girls company and she felt the same about me but we were both “straight” (lol) so we kept it quiet and just went with the flow…. Anyway, I came home from school and my mom was already sitting waiting for me. I had to come out to my mom 3 different times in my life. I am now 26 and it’s something that still makes me really sad. My mom thinks we have this super close relationship but I don’t feel the same way because I can talk to her about everything except my love life, which makes me really sad. My brother can bring his gf over their house and she can stay for dinners and spend some holidays with us as well but it’s pretty obvious it’s not the same for me. It makes me sad because it makes me feel like my days with my family are on a timer. Because once I find that special someone I want to spend my life with, what am I going to do? I think she still thinks I’ll find “that one guy who will ‘fix’ everything”… It breaks my heart. It really really does. Love is such a beautiful emotion… why deny that to someone?

[@neetudas7834]

I am so sorry for you I wish to god that everything will be fine and u find the perfect person for your life 🙏❤♥💛✨💖

[@choux8372]

That is so sad, you deserve to feel comfortable bringing whoever makes you happy around your family 😢

[@candra9138]

can relate to this so much

[@nadiageorge890]

I really hope and pray they learn acceptance

[@iliterallydontknow7783]

ugh, i’m so sorry you were forced out of the closet. my older sister outed me when i was 15 as well. i had her sister blocked on instagram, but my girlfriend didn’t. she posted a picture of flowers i got her, and my sister saw the post. so she told my parents i’m gay and even accused me of stealing her credit card to buy the flowers, which was just completely false. it made me resent my sister for a very long time and she acted as if i had no reason to be mad at her. also, my sister was 30 years old when she outed me. it’s not like she was just a dumb mean teenager, she was a FULL ASS ADULT exposing me for being gay and accusing me of stealing. i am not as upset about it anymore, we get along better but i will always remember how betrayed and alone i felt.

[@Z0MBI2Z]

When i came out to lesbian to my mom, she was like "okay,i know ive been waiting for you to come out" lmaooo and i was crying cause I was nervous and she hugged me, my aunt was there when i came out and she was just as supportive 🥰

[@MilotusLucifera]

“If you hate to say it, don’t say it” Bro thats what Im sayin

[@idrk1277]

That reply was SAVAGE~~ SO PRETTY PRETTY PRETTY PRETTY~

[@kkochismile5813]

seeing bryan’s whole family cheer him when coming out.. i could only wish .

[@xenniexploring6218]

same my parents are homophobic af and my mom found out that im not straight and she called me whore and she threathed me for kicking me outta house

[@AJ-zq5in]

When i came out to my parents my mum started smiling really awkwardly and my dad just stood there shocked. My mum doesnt believe bi is a thing and thinks i should ‘choose one’ My brother accidentally told my nan i was bi at the mf dinner table and she is a strong catholic and ‘traditional’. If we’re watching tv and someone is gay or trans she doesnt care but ppl tend to act differently when its family coming out

[@janiyah.6653]

Same...my parents arent homophobes but they dont support like what LGBTQ+ people do if that makes sense

[@wodemeineko]

Same every single family member of mine is homophobic :/ bc of my religion my mother would say “no your not your _____ you’re not aloud to be gay”

[@mehmeh3745]

I swear I wish I had a more supportive family like ughhh

[@Cablecue]

I’m so jealous of the supportive parents- but I’m happy for their kids. They get to live a good life with them.

[@NoDoubtItsKenz]

I don’t want my kid to ever have to “come out” to me. I don’t want them going thru the pressure and anxiety thinking I won’t accept them - unless they really want to of course. Also it’s such an unfair thing to do as cis, heteronormative/heterosexual people don’t have to do that. I want them to feel free to do whatever they feel and love whoever they love and not have to give context beforehand or anything. Let them be “normal” doing whatever is in their heart. I hope that makes sense cause idk how to even word what’s going on in my head rn watching this

[@celinemartin-parisot7866]

That s how my family works and that s awesome. I m bi, i never told them but i know if i say i have a girlfriend they ll just be like really?? U didn t told us when will she come ? Like i had a bestfriend but we argued very often so i was crying in my room and my dad came bc my mom told him to do and asked me if i loved her 😂😭 that was so embarrassing and turned out i m just hypersensitive but now it s a running gag

[@lucijan4342]

I have a question, since you said “cis people don’t have to do that” what are you trying to say? I’m not offended or anything but I am cis however I am lesbian so I had the anxiety of coming out to my parents. Does cis also include being straight? Did you just word it wrong? Im sorry if I’m coming off as offensive or angry in anyway, I’m just trying to understand

[@NicoGV]

@@lucijan4342 i think she was talking about straight people

[@NoDoubtItsKenz]

@@lucijan4342 no I totally get where you’re coming from!!! I most definitely meant that cis, HETERONORMATIVE people don’t have to come out. Thank you for correcting me/bringing to my attention because misspoke and worded it wrong. My bad, and thank you again😅😅😅 *I also just edited my comment to reflect that too so thanks🥰

[@v1p3r.b1t3]

Same! My mom never made it seem bad to me and I came out at 9

[@NoBSchannel313]

My parents disowned me for 10 years when I came out to them. Most of my siblings still won't talk to me 40 years later.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

I’m sorry luv. I wish you’d been my younger sibling. I’d have talked and supported you :)

[@TheHellmo]

Oh, I’m sorry

[@marshasimpson7279]

I dont care if your lesbian,bi or gay i love you just the way you are and ill with always support u no matter what

[@Nuriyya91]

I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better. I know it means nothing from a stranger on the internet, but I support you and I hope all the best for you

[@sweariefaerie9621]

Family don't end with blood, luv. I hope you've surrounded yourself with love and support.💖

[@mr.strange2835]

when grandpa said " just make sure to leran how to cook and clean or your husband won't want you" was so sweet , i know it's on the umm.. "bad side" , (knowing the genrartion they were in) , but he wanted to be supportive and inclusive and it just makes it 1000× better.

[@irmarodriguez1390]

My daughter came out to me and said that she's bisexual. I explained to her that I don't love her because of her sexuality I love her because she's my pride and joy.

[@kaye3739]

You are such good mother and you deserve the best in life.

[@kirishima9706]

Adopt me 😀

[@0haluka]

@@kirishima9706 count me in aswell 😃

[@itznick_yeet4745]

U got me in the first half not gonna lie-

[@divi_aint_home]

You won't regret that choice, you are such a good mother!

[@quabquab]

I am christian, but if my child came out to me I would never stop loving them. I would just treat them with the same love and care, that’s all they need.

[@clairbby5436]

see this is what true christianity is, these hateful people are why it has such a bad rep!

[@trix.iebrews]

Same whats the use of rejecting them for being them

[@vampxst]

Ikr. Islam, christianity, etc, its about spreading peace and love. It never told us to hate others. Yes, in islam it says to not get married to the same gender, but it never told us to hurt or hate them or k1ll them.

[@mehmeh3745]

OML PREACH IVE BEEN SAYING THIS As a gay man I grew up in the church and I’ve gathered what a true Christian should act like but these Bible thumpers have literally been running the church’s, a True Christian should accept or not look down upon others despite what the other person is or how they live their own life’s, but these ones walking have the audacity to say god hates this or that but if I’m not mistaken god forgives and loves all so why can’t one person live their life the way they want? Just infuriates me

[@caspopwalsh6209]

Yeah and just because ur Christian doesn’t mean ur homophobe˜!!

[@annmaulana]

"i'm not gonna judge you" ❤ "it didn't gonna change anything" ❤ "i'm so happy for you" ❤

[@yondermileslimpey3892]

My mom screamed at me for being gay in middle school. Dad called me a fggt. I Told me I was going to hell. I wasnt allowed to be gay. A lot of things happened now I'm 28. She has never reassured me or apologized. But goes to pride with her bff now. This bothers me. She only is okay because being tolerant is popular now. I had a lot of bad experiences with men because of her. Man she really messed me up.

[@cv7908]

I am a mom. I can't imagine being this way toward my child. Sending big hugs your way!

[@lemontea6113]

I hope that you will feel much happier in the future. Not everyone thinks the same way like your parents ❤

[@user-jb7tq7ko7e]

Im sorry my darling, you deserve better.

[@karenjahn9600]

So sorry. Wish you the best!

[@rageshrimajumder7877]

I ACCEPT YOU!!! YOU'RE MY BROTHER FROM NOW ON!!

[@NotCait17]

I wish everyone was like you two, you are so accepting and non judgemental and just lovely, such good role models🥺🥰

[@hoshi6423]

@@Yehooni thats kinda a lie

[@hoshi6423]

@@Yehooni everywhere has hatred, don't expect Norway to be nice

[@NotCait17]

@@TwsWithSai247 yes!, cannot forget about that queen 🥰

[@78teili]

@@Yehooni so do you think koreans are more accepting over all then norwegians?

[@hsnrb9959]

@@Yehooni if Koreans accept you for who you are, why do you have hundreds of kpop idols and only one is openly gay? We all know the music industry contains lots of gays but kpop industry is keeping them closeted - because the korean general public won't accept it

[@fatimzahra_q]

“It’s called ‘can’t cry in public syndrome”💀

[@nezzy5360]

People think America is a really opened minded country but in reality it's still very conservative on alot of issues.

[@raededir162]

That is somewhat true but we are still overall more open minded then most other countries.

[@TheJamester74]

@@raededir162 I was just about to say that too we’re not completely open minded but moving towards that and a lot more open than other countries

[@kelkellys]

in terms of the “western world“ the united states is generally more conservative and less open minded than other countries but overall it’s more open minded than many many countries.

[@nezzy5360]

Countries in the East America is deff more open minded than. But EU Canada etc make america look like the most conservative country in the west. I actually had a pretty long reply to one comment but it got deleted I guess because of the wording idk maybe it will get cleared at some point. Mainly talking about why some parents find it or take it so hard that their child is X it's not so much they them selves are bad people but alot of people were raised in a church setting and taught that it is a (s in ) to partake or they see it as a failure on their part. (mainly the generation 45 and up)

[@raededir162]

@@nezzy5360 Depends on the place in America. Such as, in the United States, we are more open minded on the west coast while people in the mid states and south east are less so.

[@missanthropy5687]

oh god i had to pause the video where the sister comes out to her brother with special needs because i started to cry uncontrollably. my oldest brother passed away in 2018 and he was non verbal but he always showed me unconditional love like this womans sweet, beautiful brother. i miss mine so much and its so beautiful to see this because in my heart i know my brother would have done the same thing😭😭

[@sherrill3264]

🤗 hugs

[@kattemma]

I'm so sorry for your loss hun ❤️❤️❤️

[@autumn2111]

❤️❤️❤️ sending love

[@valynambrose]

as a person who’s parents didn’t really understand me when i came out, watching these positive coming out videos always make me feel better knowing someone’s family accepts and loves them and even if they don’t understand they try to

[@Yourlocaltrashgoblin]

*I hate to say this…* “Then don’t 🙂” When I say I *wheeeeeeezed*

[@marchforth3515]

Although the “in the trenches” line is really funny, let’s remember that it is harmful to tell someone they don’t know their sexuality until they’ve had sex with certain people 🙏🏻 sincerely, an asexual who doesn’t desire sex lol

[@bamb3928]

It doesn’t just apply to asexuals, kids/teens have crushes and know they are straight based on those crushes yet we ignore this when they aren’t straight. You don’t need "experience" to know if you like someone as a person and want to be with them.

[@marchforth3515]

@@bamb3928 ya that was my point lol

[@sienna2113]

@@bamb3928 that is quite literally exactly what they were saying??

[@bamb3928]

@@marchforth3515 ah alright, I misunderstood then. I thought you were only taking about it from an asexual view. Welp, hopefully it clarifies it for others.

[@rinpaisys]

Fellow ace, I am in favor of reclaiming that line as another way to describe part of the journey to acceptance. Similar to the closet, the tunnel, all those terms that describe where you are in that journey to acceptance, pride, community, love, happiness, what have you.

[@mjl7214]

i burst into tears when bryan's family cheered for him. never get tired of these compilations.

[@lesliehall675]

When my daughter came out I can’t imagine my first response being degrading and Unaccepting of her. Parents need to love their children. Besides I already knew my child was gay long ago. Parents know. I embraced her told her I loved her and told her I could t wait to meet her gf when she decides she’s wants one. Happy Pride y’all

[@sherrill3264]

🤗 hugs

[@franknstein5376]

Can you adopt me? I have been trying to approach the subject by giving more and more hints, but some of the responses my parents are giving are disappointing: today we ended up arguing because they said they believed in the "sanctity of family" and that gay couples shouldn't adopt :-/

[@lesliehall675]

@@franknstein5376 yes. Your MY child now and there’s absolutely nothing you could do to make me disappointed in you. Be free and enjoy your life. Remember, your not living for anyone but yourself and you are in charge of your happiness. I’m sorry your parents aren’t accepting. Do not stop being you. Keep your head held high and walk proud. One day they’ll come to terms with it. Never give up.

[@iateyourdog617]

Aww my parents aren't very accepting :(

[@franknstein5376]

@@lesliehall675 I legitimately teared up reeading your message. Thank you so much for your kind words, the fact that you are so warm towards someone you just "met" on youtube speaks volume of how you are as a person and a mother: I wish the best to your and your family!

[@9288decide]

“i love babies that have two moms!!” THIS IS TAKING ME OUT

[@PaleNightSnow]

If I ever had a kid that came out to me I would just say.. "I already know, now go clean your room it's a mess"

[@twildabuckingham]

Korea's so fucking trippy. When you go, it's like you're walking into the future. The subway is like a futuristic time machine with full walled edges before getting on, the whole place is like the future. But then the people...it's like going back in time 200 years. Trippiest shit ever

[@b1oom1ng]

Well ignorance is everywhere ig

[@angelaaddison9872]

Hahahaha 🤣 🤣🤣🤣 stop killing me, it's so true like wtf

[@MeanLaQueefa]

Look at the degeneration of America

[@loveloveaii]

i dont get this comment- and this is relevant why…?

[@ren8907]

@@loveloveaii same what was the point of this comment bahaha

[@mandychuu]

I couldn't even imagine coming out at the age some of these kids do. I was raised in a religious household and actively fought against my sexuality until I just couldn't anymore, and then, even after not identifying as religious, I still avoided the conversation until last year. I was legitimately scared my family would disown me, and I'm a grown woman. I cried two hours beforehand and two hours afterward after my parents made sure I was okay after talking about it. These kids are so brave, and their parents are amazing people. It gives me just a little bit more hope that our future will be much better.

[@caleighrosebud]

I hope that you’re in a safe space, much love for you ❤️ I came out in my early 20s. It was an accident and I was moving in with my gf (now fiancée) about 2 weeks from when it happened. I was almost kicked out but they allowed me to stay until the move, didn’t talk to them for 6+ months and now we talk almost everyday. I think they had to take time to process. It was rough but we’re close again ❤️

[@jaeminfoxx]

I came out to my family as trans and bi when I was 15/almost 16 and it was one of the hardest and scariest things for me to do. I also thought I was gonna be disowned/kicked out and just couldn't stop crying. But they accept me being bi more than they do me being trans. It hurts that they won't use my pronouns or preferred name, but I'm hoping that they'll start doing so soon.

[@_Mari_Hari]

@@jaeminfoxx Wishing you luck fellow stranger!!! I'm rooting for you and hope your family starts using your pronouns properly ❤

[@jaeminfoxx]

@@_Mari_Hari thank you!

[@prettylittlegamers1394]

I understand that. I regretting coming out young because it went... Really badly, even if I'm living my life without them now. These kids brave

[@melinoe_9562]

"To think of one's identity as something that needs one's approval is just illogical" that got me so hard, I almost cried. Coming out is a big deal for us no matter how LGBTQ friendly the society is. Why? Because coming out is like showing the most vulnerable part of you as a person. Almost as if your soul being ripped naked for others to see and judge whether you'd be acceptable for society to be with or not. And it never gets easy. When I first came out, a certain someone told me that if it were the only solution to straighten me then they'd almost hoped I'd get raped just so I could be back to "normal". Hurts like hell but fortunately, although it took time, they gradually accepted me seeing that I didn't change despite my sexuality. In fact, I became even more close to God, or so what they said they've noticed. Some close minded people say its the gays/lesbians fault for corrupting our world. But I beg to disagree. Love is love and taking the risk of loving someone despite the world being against you; that's what we call the 'real' unconditional love. Corruption? Human greed is what caused it, not love. And the one thing that hurts the most? When others find out that you're gay/lesbian/bi; a few others say "must be hot" or simply call it as the "plague" and say we're just joking for fun. But being "this", being who we are? It's not a joke and definitely not a walk in the park. The prejudice you get, the judgement, the disrespect, the sexual harassment, the verbal, mental and emotional trauma, physical abuse-I could even say that it's one of the major causes for depression and suicide. And even if same sex marriage IS already almost legalized or no matter how open minded a country is, or the fact that there's a law protecting all the LGBTQ members: it still doesn't change the fact that you're being seen as "different", an "abnormality" or even to go as far as a "sin" despite your great faith in your religion. Not only the gays/lesbians are suffering, but even those who simply support them almost get the same treatment as them. So it's sad that you still have to tell the public your identity and ask for their approval before you can truly be yourself🤧

[@MorganaR9135]

It’s called can’t cry in public syndrome Ooof same…

[@moniqtl]

That's Good

[@maggiebrayton4258]

What is it like? I cry at cute things. And everything is cute. 😭

[@ebiaqua3233]

Same

[@mara_q9979]

Same

[@3lli0]

I'm pale white and when I cry, I go so red. It's embarrassing. I refuse to cry in public.

[@ThanhMaiOFFICIAL]

Hopefully in the future coming out wouldn’t be such a big thing and people can just be who they’re meant to be without any fuss 🧐🤨

[@PookeyWookeyBear]

I agree people should be able to love who they wanna love without restrictions or judgement

[@alofalepua7527]

Amen to that.

[@iateyourdog617]

I agree.

[@BIPPITYBOPPING]

i hope coming out in the future is so uppity, cuz i hope by then it’s normal to EVERYBODY, if you get what i’m saying 😅

[@BIPPITYBOPPING]

@Gray Arklite that’s basically what i wanted to see but i didn’t want ppl to come at me. i just want it to be “normal” enough to where coming out isn’t something that has to be done

[@celinal8215]

I HATE when people say "How can you be bi if you haven't had sex with a girl? You're not bi" Excuse you, then how can you say you're straight if you've never had sex with a boy. Its. The. Same. Thing.

[@brookiebrook7760]

When my best friend of five years told me that the entire time she knew me she was a lesbian and that she tricked me into believing she was straight, I cried. I thought that I made her feel like she couldn't tell me something so important like that, but she repeatedly stated that it wasn't me, she just had to come to terms with it for herself. Her girlfriend Elizabeth is very lovely too! 🌈😊💞

[@shwakoue890]

“Pray the gay away” that hit home. Being raised with those kind of parents altered how I saw myself and how much I devalue myself. That shit hurts and follows you throughout your life.

[@alessiaventura9094]

"I'm gay" "Congratulations" It's the only reaction I'll accept from now on

[@samantharay9116]

I came out as ace (short for “asexual”, and I’m the sex-repulsed kind (there’s more than one kind of asexuality) and aro (short for “aromantic”, meaning I’m not interested in having romantic relationships with anyone (doesn’t matter the gender of the people, I’m just not interested) to my mom two years ago, on my 27th birthday. Me: *tells mom the above info* Mom: Well, this explains a lot. I respect that. Live the way that makes you happy. No, no honey- don’t cry- Me: *tells her about the years I spent thinking I was broken since I didn’t want any of that “normal” stuff and only in the year prior to me coming out did I realize that I’m not broken and started to feel comfortable in my own skin again* Mom: Whoever told you that deserves a kick to the groin. I came out to my dad later that day, and it was much less eventful and quite brief. Me: *tells dad the above info* Dad: Okay. I love you. Now what do you want for dinner?

[@arandomduck131]

AHAAH WOW

[@rizzaaguillon5821]

The dad part tho

[@4rtemis_Anims]

What are the many kind of asexuality

[@s.kieyyyy923]

you have great parents

[@arandomduck131]

@@s.kieyyyy923 agreed

[@pikachuwu143]

The mom who said "Ask God to straighten you out" tho- Boi she ain't hair.

[@imgonnasaytheeword6973]

Bruuh😭😂✨

[@wonderbookk]

feel so bad for them

[@pikachuwu143]

@@wonderbookk ikr me too.

[@CamiWuzHere]

Bruh like God cares about me, he won’t give me 3rd degree burns

[@addisonlewis7936]

11:12. My mom says that she is disgusted in me because I can’t stay focused long enough to clean my room. I have adhd. It is really hard to clean my room and she doesn’t understand how hard it is for me. She just thinks that taking my phone away will make me want to do it more when I’m reality I’ll just go find something to do. I’d rather do all of my homework before I clean my room.

[@RhamanaChan]

I'm 36 and don't have kids or any plans for them but I wanna say anyone who comes out and is treated negatively, you're my kids now. I accept you as whoever you want to be in this world, you're valid and a beautiful person

[@SusanaCanales1]

Dude lol sameeeee!!!

[@-nobody-9520]

:o Really?

[@hptts.arl0650]

you’re awesome

[@MikeRees]

The one thing I don't understand is the people who are like "why are you crying?" I'm envious of a life so relaxed you've never felt the surge of relief of getting something heavy off your chest, metaphorically speaking, and the intense pressure to cry with it.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

I think it comes from the fact they love that person so much, so something as irrelevant as gender and sexuality never seemed a reason to stop loving them. So it’s like. “Why cry? Did you think this would change anything between us?”

[@astra6698]

Exactly, when I came out to my mom she said she was supportive and I was so nervous I started tearing up bc I thoughts she was gonna be like my dad (he’s kinda homophobic I haven’t come out to him yet)

[@bunnyboo888]

I’m lowkey bawling my eyes out rn not because this is wholesome but because I know damn well that if I ever come out as bi to my mom, I will be out the house in a matter of seconds. I won’t be able to ever tell them in my life cuz she won’t love me as a child anymore and that just makes me terrified to slip up my words and tell her by accident cuz she will kick me out without hesitation

[@spacelily8729]

"figure out that I'm more gay?!" That's the best line I've ever heard.

[@idkwhattoputherexc]

when i told my mom i wanted to be a guy she put me in therapy.. it makes me feel better knowing there’s supportive parents out there

[@aeonbear3307]

I hope everything is okay now! You can be whatever you want to be and I hope that you still pursue your dream, if that’s still what you want. Never let another person take away your happiness. That it yours to keep!

[@gothic_ace2037]

I mean depending on what kind of therapist you got this could be a good thing... unless its the kinda that disregard everything you say and try to tell you that everything you feel is wrong then fuck them But if they are the supportive kind then having someone to vent to can be good for you.... Honestly i wish i had any motivation to pick up the phone and make an appointment with one but the amount of fucks i give is in the negatives.....

[@eunzoiaa]

aw i feel so bad for you! My family is prob supportive? I live in a country where same-sex marriage is illegal and there is a website to vote if same-sex marriage should be illegal in my country my sis invite my dad to vote it and both of them vote that same-sex marriage should be legal in my country I haven't come out to them yet because idk if it's just the act they made to look "supportive" so am gonna come out when am 18 hope you're doing okay!

[@godsmackfreak13]

that dude in the red shirt gets me every time ;-; reminds me of when I came out. you get so worried, thinking your family will disown you, hate you for something you cant change, that when theyre ok with it, you just break down.

[@perseph0ne1608]

I’m not bi/gay/pan etc. But I feel like if I was and I told my parents, they would pretend they accept me, but in reality they would try to avoid me and treat me different.

[@broccoligirl9019]

My mom did that my dad he doesn't really support the community because he's conservative and all that but supports me cuz he change it

[@zanzoonYT]

Same but im actually queer

[@rebeccachang1703]

Fr thp

[@anonymousina9210]

My mom and dad would probably just kicked me out of the house but idk, they ever threaten me that when I got a bad score... (they are super religious and think LGBTQ+ is a sin)

[@rebeccachang1703]

@@anonymousina9210 Same! Both my parents are Christians and they think LGBTQ is sinning and disobeying God or something smh

[@sulhwayuk6228]

ok but idk why “my mom said a person whos loved at home gets loved outside too” instantly made me cry 🥺 it’s so true

[@despairwolf]

Made me tear up because I didn't feel loved at home... (not related to sexuality tho)

[@miramoo2199]

Why do I wanna hug the girls for being so kind to the pride community

[@Agaettis]

"You get to enjoy the best if both worlds" 😂

[@aamu3]

best reply ever haha

[@nicoleffion1563]

So funny😂😂

[@Ruby...X]

Lol love this comment

[@dont_know_my_name]

I ADORE this man!!!!

[@bjones2194]

But WHERE was the lie???? 😂

[@aammbbeerrllee]

I was crying throughout most of this video, I’m out to my mom but it was the most scary thing I’ve ever done, I was so afraid she wouldn’t accept me. For the most part she’s okay but sometimes she says things that aren’t okay, or chooses to forget that I like girls, so I’m too afraid to come out to the rest of my family because I don’t want to be told I’m disgusting or that I’m a sinner for who I like. Thank you both for your kind words throughout this video, support always means so much!

[@edenthedwarf]

I hope that you are okay! It must be really frustrating, besides I can relate because my mom told me a lot of mean things that really broke my heart Remember to be safe, okay? Safety comes first Me support you and love you

[@astra6698]

Same, my mom seemed supportive when I told her I was bi, but when I told her I might be lesbian (still not totally sure lol) she got kind of mad and said some things that hurt me a bit. I’m scared to come out to everyone else it’s so nice to see supportive parents. I also cried when she said she was good with me being bi.

[@ghosted_real22]

sammmmeeeeee sorry that happened!

[@EzioAuditoreDaFirenze99]

Here in the UK coming out is really not that bad, I told my mum I'm bi and she's just like 'oh, okay, what do want for dinner?' 🤣 America is on another level though. Some proper religious fundamentalist nonsense.

[@comfortableslug6570]

Told my dad and step mom on Valentine’s Day after they handed me a ‘chocolate boyfriend’ that I was bisexual and then they paused for a second then said ‘oh. Well next hear we will get you a chocolate girlfriend’ 😂

[@UnfilteredN]

awwww thats so nice

[@__Est.her__]

My heart hurts for Maria…Maria if by any chance you ever read this I’m sending you a virtual hug 🫂

[@Yourboricuascorpio]

Viva puerto rico🇵🇷

[@lexvt3551]

@@Yourboricuascorpio 🇵🇷

[@yutanakamoto7069]

🇵🇷🇵🇷

[@a84jdu3uc7d]

i never really needed to come out to my family, they all live so damn far away and my nearest relatives are kinda neglecting. It kinda sucked at first but then i realized how lucky i was for having no one to judge me

[@Nicole_727.]

I'm bi and I haven't come out to my parents yet. I'm mostly scared to come out to my mom more than my dad. My little sister is the only one in the family that knows and I recently turned 15. Update: My mom might be homophobic so I'll probably wait till I move out.

[@Nicole_727.]

@樹昭仁 thank you😊

[@moniqtl]

@@Jnw_nyy my cousin is homophobic but i already came out to my family🤷🏼‍♀️

[@Nicole_727.]

@@moniqtl I have a cousin that is gay and she and her wife are having a baby

[@aebostick4241]

I hope it all goes well for you. Even if it's hards it'll be worth owning up to your own truth🌼

[@LarkspurramayaCT]

If you were to come out and if your mom is homophobic i suggest wait until you turn 18 when you have a stable job and a good place to stay

[@_.3RR0R_]

I wish my family was as accepting as you girls are :( When I came out to my parents my dad was super accepting but my mom told me that I wouldn't go to heaven and I would go to hell. It always hurts to think about that when it was already hard enough to have the courage to tell her. Family should always support each other not bring us down. :)

[@itspattiiii3880]

Hell doesn't exist, in fact my mom always told us it is what we live on because of all the hate and wars that are going on around us. You're still a child of God and you are the way you are for a reason and when the time comes, there is a special place for you in the spirit realm like there is for all of us. Stay strong, it will get better. Some adults just don't know better :(

[@hiHaite]

A whole flex hell looks cooler that heaven in my eyes dw just think about the fact that most people support u !!

[@cutiejungkook5788]

Hope your ok I'm. Bi and my mum was ok with it don't let it get you down

[@jesusssugarbabyuwu78yearsa63]

@@hiHaite SAMEEEEE. LIKE, YA KNOW HOW PEOPLE ILLUSTRATE LIKE HELL AND HEAVEN AND SHIT. HEAVEN LOOKS RLLY PRETTY DONT GET WRONG, BUT I LIVE DEPICTIONS OF HELL SO MUCHHH. LIKE, THE MAGMA, THE FIRE, THE COLOURS ARE SO AMAZING

[@evanvega1647]

My whole family disowned me and now my relationship with all of them is extremely tense. every time i watch the positive coming out videos, i cry bc i wish that was my family :^(

[@yum.food.4446]

don’t worry, there will always be someone who will accept you for who you are:)

[@moss8853]

i always see people laugh about the tiktok with the mom that says “you gotta be in the trenches” but i really can’t shake off the blatant biphobia. why do people have to prove their sexuality with sex? no one says you have to have sex with the opposite gender first before calling yourself straight 😤

[@thegracklepeck]

I know, right? As if having sex with a certain gender or set of genitalia has to be given as proof.

[@julialovesgfriend]

it’s biphobia but the mom probably isn’t aware of that, I don’t think? you can tell if you watch the whole thing that she’s joking around, and that she’s making it clear that she supports her kid being attracted to women, and pursuing relationships with women !! I know it sounds bad but if it was me in that kid’s place, I would feel incredibly relieved that my mom’s a little confused, but she’s got the spirit lol

[@LourdanHazei]

Preach.

[@thecolorjune]

I agree it’s wrong to say you have to have sexual experience to know your sexuality. At least the mom was trying to be supportive even if she was going about it wrong lol, it’s something to correct, then laugh at

[@hbk.abi408]

Exactly! I just recently came out as bi and I know I like woman because I’m attracted to them. You don’t have to be with someone sexually to know you like them

[@_Kay_.]

I remember when I first talked openly with my Grandma about me being bisexual (I had noticed I had never officially come out to her) it was because my cousin was confused on weather she was a lesbian or not. Anyways... I brought it up in the conversation and she was chill about it and told me she fooled around with girls in college-while in a relationship with my grandfather- and I ended up being the one shocked and her just chill as a cucumber lol

[@CheshieD]

Omg 🤣🤣🤣 she said “same child, same”

[@ELmayberry]

@@CheshieD right😂😂

[@yasashiineko9069]

Around 8 or 9 years ago, a friend of mine came out as gay to me and asked if he should leave my apartment (he stayed over the night, cause we went to a club). I looked at him and asked if he were crazy, cause that doesn't change anything. I hugged him, cause he looked like he was about to cry. His parents never accepted him - I'm not sure how his situation is, now, cause we have grown apart (not because of that). But back then I wrote a short story for his birthday - where the boy came out to his parents, he left for a few years, found love and when he came back to introduce his boyfriend, they were more glad he came back and that he was doing fine and was healthy and didn't care about his sexual orientation anymore. - I really hope my friend's parents have accepted him as well. He deserves all the best in the world. Everyone does ❤

[@askrial1743]

you’re so sweet omg thank you for being there for him when he probably needed someone most

[@yasashiineko9069]

@@askrial1743 maybe I should write him again. It's been ages since we last talked. I know he's on Instagram somewhere. For me it's not worth mentioning. I did what I think everyone should do in this situation. Accept them and be supportive. But thank you for telling me that ❤ He actually introduced his partners to me back then. Made me happy - and his partners (one at a time, of course) were quite polite - he got (and surely still has) good taste 😁

[@Strwbrychaee]

I cry when it’s the Christian parents that are accepting bcz as a Christian ally i wish more parents were like that bcz God does love them

[@bunbunchan406]

Same, I'm a bisexual christian and it scares me A LOT to tell my parents-

[@stinkyjoe4720]

Exactly! Jesus said to love others as he had loved us, so I have no idea where the entitlement comes from with these parents sometimes.

[@Knorogna3126]

@SOFIA PEREZ EXACTLY GIRL!!! I'm catholic and I always tell people that. For our religion, it IS a sin to have homosexual practices, but we can NEVER mistreat and disrespect lgbt people. It's just not right, the Vatican ITSELF said that. We have the duty as christians to be kind and open to everyone like Jesus was☺☺☺☺

[@olivejustice1180]

Exactly. Though I wish my parents can think the same..

[@hopemccalley6955]

My mom found out I was bi thought reading a text to the person I was dating at that time. It was before school and I come downstairs to her crying with my phone in her hand. I broke down feeling like I ruined her life. She told she it is just a phase and we would find a “blind pastor so he won’t know who I am”. I have been raised in a very religious household with a pastors kid mom. My dad tried to comfort me before school but, it barely worked. I’m only saying this to say anyone who has any experience like this, it will get better. I know it feels like hell but, stay strong. Please stay strong and I will talk to anyone. ♥️

[@aeonbear3307]

I don’t need anyone to talk to but if you do then I’m always here! ☺️

[@evagarcia8756]

Why do most parents find out their kids are LGBT this way 🤦‍♀️ the same thing happened to me I'm so sorry for you

[@allie1960]

aww, i’m so sorry that happened to you. if it ever feels like no one loves you, know i do ❤️

[@aeonbear3307]

@@evagarcia8756 I’m sorry for you. I hope everything is good for you!

[@ih2246]

THE EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME AT 15 why is that such a common occurrence of kids with homophobic parents? They went through my text messages one night and I got driven out to the middle of nowhere by my dad and we stopped on the side of the road as he cried and asked where his little girl had gone and saying that it was just a pop culture phase and threatened me, I was too terrified to speak and they just ignored that I’m lesbian and they’ve treated me a lot colder since then and made me move out at 17 as soon as I graduated. I’m in college now and I can definitely say that it gets better. It’s not perfect, I can’t expect it to be, but I’m much more comfortable being myself now. Anyway, if anyone has experienced something similar or is afraid that they might I’m here if anyone ever needs to talk/needs advice for the rougher times. Just know that someone loves you, okay? ❤️

[@anilynng7611]

' If you hate to say it don't say it ' YES THANKYOU!

[@mikeshark8869]

Honestly, personally I never felt the need to come out to anyone. What I choose to do with my life is entirely my business as long as I'm not hurting anyone (I'm not) and it shouldn't matter to anyone else who I'm attracted to. If I do decide tell my family and they accept it, cool, if not, ✌✂️

[@jessn.3851]

Right. I never felt the need to explain my sexuality to my family. If the occasion arises where they need to know, then I'll tell them. Otherwise it's my own business.

[@miaa1762]

Same here

[@casualviewer_]

Good way to put it! ✂️✂️🤘🏻

[@leman.h]

Yeah, I like that mindset. Personally, being trans and underage i kind of can't not come out, because of the pronouns and name and all. But I get that!

[@jaiden8529]

@@leman.h Yeah it's more of a matter of sexuality than gender but i get your point cause i am trans myself lol

[@thewomenwiththepearlearrin4127]

I just want to add that while the parents being supportive and all say "ts not a big deal is meant to be comforting,I don't think some of them realize it's treated like a big deal so that's why they were nervous and crying.Sincerely,your friendly neighborhood bisexual.

[@kayleighbyrne5191]

I don’t think they’re saying that their kid’s sexuality/coming out isn’t a big deal. I think they mean that it’s not a big deal to them in the sense that it won’t change how they see their child(ren). They know that, in the wider world because of how LGBT+ people are treated, having a child that is part of that community is a big deal, but they don’t see it that way.

[@platinum_noelle]

@@kayleighbyrne5191 this. They're saying it doesn't change anything regarding how they see their child and what they feel for them. And tbh, it shouldn't be a big deal for anyone, but because of terrible people reacting in such negative ways, it's become a "big deal" for all the wrong reasons. And I think that's awful, and we can eventually get to a point in society where orientation and gender identity isn't such a crisis for some people as a result of warranted fear.

[@lunarycode]

2:29 "if you hate to say don't say it" omg i loved that

[@MutsuReflet]

I really did never understand homophobia. I'm a lesbian, and I never realized I was always a lesbian for as long as I can remember (1st grade). What I don't understand is, your heart cannot control itself. You literally cannot control who you love, right? I think- anyways, you'll see someone, and there's a chance you'll like them. That's how it works, it works the same as anyone with any gender and sexuality. Even if you are dating or married, you might still crush on people, but that isn't a bad thing so long as you aren't cheating, unless you're poly. People liking the same gender or expanding to multiple, why would it bother you? You can't change who they love, because you can't control love in the first place. You'd think even homophobes would understand that. I don't understand what makes it "gross," either, I always tell guys if they can blame me for liking women, and all of them said "you right." Or when they make a big deal out of it by saying "if you're lesbian, you like all girls, therefore you like me right?" Not true either, that's just a dumb saying. Much like anyone, even straights, only a few people stands out in someone's eyes. Just because you're gay, lesbian, straight, etc,. =/= you like everyone, at that point, you're an idiot. I hope the future is better where everyone accepts everyone without questions and degrading people as less than humans.

[@ApoIIo_]

Woah woah woah, good for you and all but in 1ST GRADE?!?! 😦 🤯

[@lisasbanglessforehead3617]

@@ApoIIo_ I knew I was when I was in kindergarten, and on top of that my first kiss was a girl lmaooo

[@ayesteriia]

@@ApoIIo_ yeah that’s pretty normal same way people have crushes on the opposite gender in first grade lol

[@saratorres18]

the first one had me laughing lmfao😭 it was just so random

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

Im laughing and just loving it! Im so glad they opened up to each other :)

[@Jiyosnail]

@@CreativeCreatorCreates its obviously made up

[@WaddleDee_Darling]

this made me cry even though it took no effort to come out bisexual to my mother 😭 bless all who have unsupportive parents! you are loved and you are valid no matter what!

[@YaoZerZ]

Gay, straight, transgender or bisexual. I would and will always love my daughter, if she came out to me one day. Doesn't matter how old they are, they are your child. You have to protect them from the world no matter what. And, if anyone hurts her cause of her life choice like that, I will be going to prison... Hats off to the parents that accepted and supportive of their kids

[@reynakondaveeti8346]

The brother in the Maria clip was so sweet I’m literally crying from that clip

[@Silly_Ah_Girl]

This just made me wanna cry- It reminds me of when I came out as bisexual to my mom, at the first instance she was like "No, you are not Bi, you like boys and what you feel for girls is just friendship, how can you know you love them?", it was so upsetting, I wanted to cry because my mom didn't understood me, but even with that I managed to get a girlfriend, I loved her a lot, so I decided to go talk to my mom again and told her "Mom, I have a girlfriend, I'm dating a girl, I told you I'm bi", then she realized that I was being serious so she hugged me and told me "It's okay, if you really are bi and love both girls and boys then I'll accept you as long as you are happy, I just want you to be happy", I don't remember if I cried or not but I was happy that she accepted me, she even drived me to her home, she became supportive and very loving and in the actuality she's one of the best moms, you can talk to her about everything and is super loving, I'm happy that I have her as my mom 💜💜

[@soda8624]

7:00 I'm so happy that someone mentioned God while also coming out, I owe everything I have and everything I am to God, including my bisexuality, He is the most amazing being in the universe and I feel so happy that it's finally being normalize that we can both love God while being LGBT

[@Margo-pc3nw]

i 100% agree. im not a Christian (im Pagan) but i was raised in the church. i never understood why the preacher would say the "if you are a man who sleeps with man and women who sleeps with women you are doomed to be tortured for eternity" kind of thing. and the bible say everyone was created perfectly in the eyes of god. if thats the truth then why send some to hell just for loving who they love? its crazy tbh!

[@soda8624]

@@Margo-pc3nw definitely! I was not raised in the church, sadly, so I can't speak from that, but those things kept me from reading the Bible for so many years... It's really sad

[@gabbyk2808]

I’ve been openly bisexual all my life and have never received hatred other than being shamed for sometimes presenting more masculine but that is a privilege afforded as a female who is bi and I want to say if anyone is reading this who is bisexual and has experience erasure or you’re a male experiencing hardship for your orientation I love you and there are so many more people in this world that love you happy pride 🏳️‍🌈❤️

[@aeonbear3307]

I came out at bi to my family and they were fine with it. I have always been more of a masculine female however and love more boys style and such, I hate makeup. I always feel really down at the fact that my family is always telling me to buy more dresses and dress up more but in reality I hate dresses... thank you for this comment though, it made me feel more comfortable about how I dress and am 🥺☺️

[@inactivenesses]

“you get to enjoy best of both worlds” HELP I LOVE THIS MAN

[@Rose-ig9jz]

My mom was like the mom in the last video. When I came out at first she was positive it was a phase and when she realized I was serious she always brought up how it would make me go to hell and she treated everyone I dated like shit to the point where they’d break up with me because they didn’t want to deal with her. Now she keeps asking me to get a boyfriend and goes on about how much I must hate her because I never bring guys home for dinner even though we don’t eat dinner as a family. Some people just don’t deserve children. Ps. I hope whoever reads this has a great day

[@karenjahn9600]

Oh no! Maybe it would be more helpful for you to distance yourself from her, how can she even talk about you "not loving her"(or "hating" her, sorry) when she does the same back to you :-(

[@aeonbear3307]

I’m really sorry... I hope that one day you find someone that makes you happiest because YOU love them, not to please someone else! Wishing you the best in life

[@joannazhang8809]

I am so glad Maria’s brother and father were so supportive of her 😭😭😭

[@du0pen0tti9]

I remember when I came out as BI to my old foster parents and my foster mom was like “I already knew it was kind of obvious” and she totally excepted me for who I was but currently I live with different foster parents and they are religious so they don’t except me and it’s really hard for me to just be me and the only way I can really expres myself is through my edits, it’s what’s keeping me going in life.

[@Sonnenanbeterin1991]

Can you not talk to authorities about it ? Do you have a saying i which family you wanna go.. dont know the circumstances bug maby its possible to find another accepting family for you? Wish you all the besg

[@adeleennis2255]

@@Sonnenanbeterin1991 My aunt dealt with the foster system for years as a foster mom. Some places are corrupt as hell, so it’s no good going to authorities. Seriously, the system was going to place one her fosters back with their drug dealing father even though the child was the main witness against him. The child’s uncle had already threatened to make the child disappear, and the family court judge was going to send the child back. My aunt had to write to a higher court judge to ask that the child not be sent back to their father. My aunt took a lot of crap from the system after that, nearly jeopardizing her adoption of a sibling pair in her care. Fortunately, it eventually went through as the girls are now my cousins. Sadly, our foster system moves kids around a lot instead of letting them stay with the same foster for a long time.

[@bryantgallardo3762]

6:14 thank you for sharing my coming out video, i hope this brings a light to parents that dont support the lgbtq community ♥️🌈 Happy pride! Love ya