How to Break the Cycle: Overcoming Unhealthy Patterns + Making Better Decisions

Your decisions determine the direction and quality of your life. While nobody plans to complicate their life with bad decisions, far too many people have no plan to make good decisions. Whether you're battling with procrastination, self-doubt, or indecision, this video offers valuable guidance to help you overcome obstacles and thrive.
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00:00 Intro

[@jjjjm1458]

This is so true. Back in March, I successfully completed a 21 day fast. On day 22, I told myself because I did so well I was going to eat anything I wanted. I remember that I didn’t even have a craving for the foods. I ate, but I wanted to eat them just because I could. And I’ve been eating everything I want to ever since. I haven’t had any energy and I’ve been procrastinating on everything. I’m ashamed and embarrassed. But God😢 He is so amazing because when I think about the overall picture of what he’s trying to do in my life, it’s bigger than food. Although food is my struggle, I realized He’s trying to build in me disciplines that have nothing to do with a meal. But it starts with the small decisions we make daily. God is so good 🙏🏾. Today, I start my fast again. I understand where I went wrong now. He has so much grace for us ❤️

[@She_Is_Toni]

I struggle with this as well. I may also take this approach and practice discipline in other areas of my life before facing the hardest one for me which is food. When I give in to food (excessive amounts) I feel so demoralised and lose motivation for the day.

[@kyliajackson]

He is so good!💙

[@sajdahsamuels4037]

Ooohweeee yes to all of this. My entire struggle right now, ugh! I didn't even look at it as discipline. Now I can push through and ask him for direct guidance w/ this 😊🙌🏾

[@reatlehakhabele3529]

Never tell people you are fasting

[@reatlehakhabele3529]

Read mat 6vs5-18

[@SUZIEandIAMHIGHLYFAVORED]

Generational curses/strongholds cannot be broken with a five minutes prayer 😔😔😔

[@davianamartinez7421]

5:55

[@aliciadiatto2654]

She said stop lying to yourself and stop making excuses, just be quiet and do it! JESUS!!!! This has set a fire ablaze in me, along with two other videos I watched today, to do what I know I need to do!!! Thanks again 🔥

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@SymedaButler]

Man you read me like a book. Grateful for your obedience l, grateful for the Holy Spirit, grateful for conviction and grateful to make better decisions.

[@kyliajackson]

🤍🤍🤍

[@samjose8796]

I said the same thing. I said she is stabbing me. God really gave her a word for us man. 🙏🏽❤️❤️

[@beautifullymommyingrwanda]

“If you are not living like the wise you are living like the fool there is no in between”wow thank you for this im gonna listen to this video everyday.

[@terryntendesha2484]

"There are blessings that need a healed version of yourself" shuu I felt that .I thank God for this, much needed !!🔥 God bless you Kylia

[@alexislamberson1901]

*Sooooo good* 🔥🔥

[@SapioCJ]

The way I did not want to listen at first…. I’m just glad I kept watching and listening and take accountability so I can move forward.

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad it was helpful!

[@rebelwithapurpose]

All I can say is Ouch and Amen. There is no excuse at this point in my life of why I shouldn't make better decisions when I have all the resources and content to help me to get better. It is now time to apply what I have heard to my life. Thanks for sharing Kylia and pouring into us what God has given you.

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@Blessingogianyo]

Are you spying on me or is the Holy Spirit whispering my matters to you😂 You literally appeared without my clicking on your video! You are a good daughter of God.❤

[@kyliajackson]

Thanks so much!

[@sajdahsamuels4037]

😂😂 exactly

[@peacelove35]

I thought she was spying on me too.😩😩😩😩😩 Father continue to help us.

[@rosedaastv]

“we sometimes compromise for comfort “ mannn I needed to hear that.

[@brownbabecc]

I need this because I’ve been putting off working out more, updating my resume, and eating healthier. I always say I have time to make these changes which is true, but I’m tired of being stagnant. I don’t want to regret anything later in my life.

[@BibineBrave]

This video was made purposely for me. The Lord spoke to me using your words. I’m so grateful for this community on KZbin. At times you make poor decisions and fall off track; however, I’m thankful for amazing people like you on KZbin that provide the push to get back on track 😊

[@kyliajackson]

Glad it was helpful!

[@itsalexandriarey]

This was a hard listen yet necessary. I'm constantly trying to break these negative patterns and I fail often. I've made some really bad decisions that have shaped my life but this video gave me hope that I can do this! One day at a time with God's grace 🙏🏾

[@kyliajackson]

You got this! And remember that you cannot transform yourself. It is only God who can transform us and change our habits. The more time we spend with him the more we become like him. It won’t be a quick fix, but as long as we are patient and continue to spend time with God, he can transform us.💙💙

[@SUZIEandIAMHIGHLYFAVORED]

Every decision I make MATTERS!

[@tieshajones8305]

Please stop yelling at me😭 This conviction is a different type of heavy.

[@shaniquemorgan7057]

Sis.. listen.. Everytime I feel tempted to slack in a certain area of my life.. The Holy Spirits sends you my way 😅 I love it. Keep up the good work 👏🏾

[@kyliajackson]

Love that!

[@Eternal_radiance_]

Faith without work is dead 🙂, I need to hear this Thank you Father God and Thank you sister

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@jolajohnson35]

I needed this!!

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@_yamirahh518]

Sister in Christ, you are preaching!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@user-qw4fe1eg5p]

Young Lady... yaaasss... thank you, ❤❤❤ and may the Spirit of the Lord continue to move in your heart and give you boldness for the kingdom

[@bklynbarbie90]

This page has truly blessed me. Feel like my cousin is speaking life into me. Always short & sweet with a sprinkle of tough love! 💕

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad!

[@beth-annblackwood]

First of all!!! The hair is gorgeous and you are just glowing. ❤❤❤ So proud of you Kylia! Thanks for another video!

[@kyliajackson]

Aww thank you sis 🥰 I appreciate you 🤍

[@GodsChosenMekAmoR]

She is GLOWING! Lord continue to bless her.

[@jasminesmith913]

This is some of the best advice I’ve gotten in a long while

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@sharleenbawa]

This is exactly what I needed to hear! God bless you abundantly for sharing🙏🏾❤️ Another area that would be such a blessing to cover is self-sabotage… most of us don’t even realise we do it, until it’s done

[@tarah.t6895]

i had to pause because i was like mam please hold on ..let me catch my Breath 😩😭 but i am so greatful for this wake up call. Thank you

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@lebogangkomape8778]

This was me!! Like why she calling us out like that😭😭love this video so much

[@andisamanaga9838]

Whew! I was not ready. Thank you for this, it was hard to hear but necessary.

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure 🤍

[@pinkprintlipstickbar7430]

Yes I’m so guilty 😅 Thank you for this ❤

[@eboneewebster1483]

You are my virtual accountability partner sis 👏🏾

[@SUZIEandIAMHIGHLYFAVORED]

Suzie stop sowing seeds of delay, if you don't want to reap delay! 😭

[@anaisjohnson1880]

You don't understand how much i needed to here this The Most High brought me here PERIOD. 💪🙏😇🙌

[@kyliajackson]

So glad it was on time for you 🤍

[@Journey.of.francesca]

This has been on my feed for days, I'm glad I watched it today. I needed it. My lack of seeing success in my hard work has been getting to me. idk why.

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@WorthWhole]

I snoozed an alarm this morning and missed two prayer sessions, I was miserable the whole morning😭and didn’t do the rest of what I needed to do. I wish people could see how true what you are saying is 😭❤️

[@kyliajackson]

Of course! Im so glad it was helpful!

[@brittneywill02]

Yes thank you for this word! I will overcome my bad unhealthy habits/ patterns. In the name of Jesus, Amen

[@kyliajackson]

You got this!

[@ajwriter5699]

🗣️ Therapy year #16 here and you are absolutely correct! I continue to wail at God’s feet WHILE working with different therapists/social workers; because my life is always upside down in some way. I’d be dead if it weren’t for either one, Especially without God. Procrastination, disorganization, and delay have been reoccurring themes in my life over the past 40 years. Mental illness diagnosis and symptoms have wrecked HAVOC. Blah, blah, blah. I invest LOTS of energy into improving my behavior and overall personal growth. Heavy emphasis on LOTS because I actually have to be *more* intentional about this than the average person. Why? Let’s just say that ADD, PTSD and Anxiety/Panic are BEASTS to deal with. I can say that I am getting better, slowly, but surely. It’s just a slow And unpredictable process. Great steps, Ma’am!!👣Thank you. 😊

[@triceyXOXO]

Wow, your story is very similar to mine! Look into covenants and contracts with uncleaned spirits. Those are the generational curses that may need to be broken such as the spirit of infirmity, lust, etc. whatever negative patterns you see in your life and your personal life, you might have an unclean/demonic spirit that has legal spiritual authority to cause your life to continue to be upside down and to continue to cause delay. Fasting and prayer and verbally breaking the covenants is the answer. No matter how much you pray and go to God, if there are contracts that our ancestors or we ourselves have made knowingly and unknowingly from sin, witchcraft, etc, then the unclean spirits have legal authority over your life. I hope this helps!

[@eboneewebster1483]

"There"s really no in between" that really hit with such much conviction and revelation.. it's so crazy because I hit snooze 3x this morning but then I snapped out of it & threw the blankets off & immediately started praying to get my day going that is so ironic that I'm hearing this affirmation 🙏🏾

[@ashlenemafokoane7229]

You spoke to me like a big sister and I didn't know I needed that! It's like I know what to do, but have just been pushing it back because I lack discipline, honestly! Grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks Kylia and God bless you!

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@LovethroughAbby]

this ate me right up 😭 now I know I gotta tighten up 😢

[@samitriagailliard]

I have been read & checked! Ouch! I always wanted true freedom and cycles to break. I was being lazy and lying to myself. I’m going on a fast for 30 days. Thank you. ❤

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure! Im so glad this was helpful!

[@rikuuzauana]

Excuses can really get you off the path I can attest to that!! I started working out this year everyday at 5am but for the last month I have been so lazy and had unnecessary excuses. Thank you for your wisdom

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@GrownGirlGlowUp]

These are all good reminders. Years ago I completely transformed my life with many of these small habits. Consistency mixed with a lot of faith = success 🎉

[@kyliajackson]

Amen!

[@ashleyblackberry8523]

This is my first time watching 👀you and I’m a fan 🥰 baby I needed to hear every single thing you said 😁!!!! God give us free will 🙌🏾 I will make better decisions !!!

[@kyliajackson]

Welcome to the channel!

[@breionsdiary]

I needed to hear this. The good thing is spending time with God has showed me this and I literally started the steps but you gave me the extra push to keep going and being consistent with that discipline.

[@kyliajackson]

I'm so glad!

[@jami1295]

Thank you so much for this! You just don’t know what kind of fire this video just ignited in me. Grateful for stumbling across this channel ❤️

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad!

[@chinajb5260]

I'm so glad a came across your page, I pray for a village to assist me to grow and baby you are apart if it. Keep it going, come to to Miami and let's so a ladies night with encouragement and etc.

[@Kingamii__]

👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 not one lie, the honest truth that we gotta start communicating to ourselves

[@kyliajackson]

Facts!

[@lahannah1224]

wow and another video where you are speaking directly to me. Because of this video I am going to get up and start my KZbin channel that God has been putting on my heart for years now.

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@SUZIEandIAMHIGHLYFAVORED]

Suzie, if you don't start living like the WISE, YOU END UP LIVING LIKE A FOOL! 😭

[@TaylorTarver]

Phew!! I needed this. I’m so glad God sent this video to my page, so that I could find you and receive this message. Thank you, sister!🙏🏽

[@kyliajackson]

Of course! Im so glad it was helpful!

[@lacharzeoncropper7275]

Amen I don’t lie to myself because I am hard on myself and too blunt I definitely need a new circle but the most important thing you said was stop entertaining others people lies

[@chikatizyotembo2327]

I have exams in August and I really need to study very hard for these exams because passing these exams for me is like breaking a curse and keeping the promise that I made to myself but sometimes I feel lazy and keep telling myself that I will study later but end up not doing so Thank you for this video and I really believe that God is speaking through you 😩😩

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful! And I'll be praying for you!

[@latanyamc.9199]

Yeah this hit home 🙂‍↕️ I needed to hear this, because I’ve been deceiving myself for so long and I know I should be doing better but I just keep saying “I’ll get it done later” and now it’s been a month…

[@NaturalBaeLocs]

Wow. I really needed this, it is confirmation that I need to fast.

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad it was helpful!

[@mstea4325]

You did this content, Kylia! Very good! Proud, like I know you.....😊Thank you for letting him use you! God Bless you.

[@kyliajackson]

Thank you so much!

[@ConfidentlyJasRenee]

Another banger! Thank you!

[@kyliajackson]

Always!

[@kajandalove2219]

So true ❤

[@Angelface88]

This was so good!! Needed to hear this ❤🙏

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad it was helpful!

[@makeupmonet6967]

So much truth! ✍🏾❤️

[@paigesmith3798]

Wheeeeewww !!!! She just came for my neck , this is honestly my life 😢.

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad this was helpful!

[@SUZIEandIAMHIGHLYFAVORED]

HEAL! 😮😮😮 And surrender to God!

[@sarap.3585]

Whew!! A word!! Thank you for your obedience to share this wisdom!! 🙌🏾

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure!

[@tineshaFranklin4]

Amen I’m here for this message ,Thank you for sharing

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure!

[@BYoung4L]

Whewwwww!!! You really said everything I needed to hear!!

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad it was helpful!

[@rhavenransaw8827]

God is really working through you!!

[@kyliajackson]

❤️

[@SUZIEandIAMHIGHLYFAVORED]

Kylia!! Thank you! Wow!!

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@Lex0328]

I really love how you break down stuff especially in the spiritual way ❤

[@kyliajackson]

Thanks so much!

[@cwaacademy]

Thank you! I needed this!

[@kyliajackson]

Glad it was helpful!

[@thadcroons518]

Thank you for this very timely word !! Blessings to You!! Shalom!!❤

[@alexislamberson1901]

New subscriber! Not even 5 mins in and I’m already tuned in! I know this is going to be a word for me ❤

[@kyliajackson]

Yay! Thank you!

[@astoldbymeek]

This came across my feed at just the right time. Convicting for sure but I needed it. Thank you

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@evainc]

This was so amazing !

[@kyliajackson]

So glad it was helpful 🤍

[@lifewiththisgirlmama]

great message! ✍🏾

[@kyliajackson]

Thanks so much!

[@InstantlyGlam4BreonnaTaylor]

This the second video I’ve watch this week about my daily activities that the Holy Spirit has snatched me blad 😂 the joy of the Lord is my strength I have a lot of work to do and I’m deeply humbled and receive this correction

[@joykangwa5923]

Thank-you so much 🎉❤

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@nellyblack9881]

I really needed this, the example you gave of food and going to the gym has been the issue I had to the point I have gained so much weight and procrastinate everything and it’s been causing delays. Watching this video has really put things into perspective! God bless you ❤

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@annamachuene7648]

I’m glad I found your channel. So encouraging and inspiring. Especially when walking with God. Thank you🙏🏾

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it could be helpful!

[@simphiwesambo2433]

Truth hurts so deeply 😢😢😢

[@shareewilliams6967]

On time message. Praise Yah! Thank you and Blessings and Shalom to you and your family.

[@AudaL]

7:09 oop the snooze *ducks under table *

[@brownbabecc]

I hit mine 4x today 🫣

[@briellemayes6723]

Wow this just slapped me in the face!!!

[@fayevideodiaries]

Love the tips and advice! Thank you for sharing and being a blessing! ❤

[@kyliajackson]

You are so welcome!

[@Zelmesha]

This is good! The heart is truly deceitful! We have to push and do the things even if we don’t feel like it!

[@kyliajackson]

Amen!

[@priscampelo]

This message is accurate, you spoke to my life

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad it was helpful!

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

I so needed this today. It's a miracle you appeared in my feed. Thanl you, Coach K 🙏⭐️🌞

[@kyliajackson]

Of course! Im so glad it was helpful!

[@nikayepez5281]

I needed to hear this girl talk 😮

[@kyliajackson]

Im so glad it was helpful!

[@mis___read]

I really needed this video, thank you girl

[@kyliajackson]

You're so welcome!

[@munachiso937]

Kylia, I heard God's admonishment on several fronts as I listened to this message especially. Thank you for your obedience. You challenge and inspire me all at once. May God bless and keep you. Amen!

[@kyliajackson]

I’m so glad!

[@carinacontreras1906]

This is so inspirational!!!Preach girl 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@AudaL]

10:31 CMON WORD 👏🏾

[@victoriagarcia9527]

Kyla this was so important!

[@kyliajackson]

So glad it was helpful!

[@damarismowatt]

Your scenario is soooo real!! This was a personal attack 😂😂 honestly EVERYTHING you’re saying is like don’t tell my business to the world lol thank you girl 🙏🏽🥹

[@kyliajackson]

Of course!

[@rdking0889]

This was right on time.

[@kyliajackson]

So glad it was in time for you!

[@lizhampton881]

Just came across this and it has blessed me AND confirmed changes I need to make.. thank you for this video

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure!

[@goratileone5813]

I just recently subscribed to your channel, and I'm grateful that God placed your channel while I was scrolling down.

[@Xoxochelsss]

I really needed this video. Thank you ❤

[@kyliajackson]

You're so welcome!

[@fortunebih4570]

Thank you for this sis

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure 😊

[@dorothyayisi3083]

Thank you so much ,something I have been struggling with it really bad

[@kyliajackson]

You are so welcome!

[@mirianvicioso9281]

God continue to bless you, thank you

[@Lizandherstories]

You're always spot on with your videos 😂😅 thanks!

[@kyliajackson]

Glad you like them!

[@carmillafussell548]

Thanks, glad I stumbled accross your channel! God Bless!

[@strategizeme3791]

That was sobering and effective! This was great and on time. We can’t act like we didn’t know from listening to this message. Thank you!! ❤

[@kyliajackson]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lorindaearl33]

Thank u again

[@kyliajackson]

My pleasure!