Labor Nurse Reacts: Rachel's Labor from Friends || Sharing a Room!? Prodromal Labor & More!

[@EMEM663]

I liked hearing you speak about what you would do for your patient in that situation. You sound like a wonderful person to have on a birthing team

[@MummaQuan]

I can’t imagine having to share a room while in labor or postpartum. I am so glad I got to have my own room with my own bathroom & shower. It’s great that things have changed and we get our own rooms now 😂

[@Nurse_zabe]

Yeah, I really enjoyed being alone with just my husband and support during labor as things were getting intense. Same with postpartum!

[@MummaQuan]

@@Nurse_zabe yes! Me too! My husband was the only person there & it was great. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

[@allisonross4622]

Love this!! So many great learning points! Can't wait for part two!

[@Nurse_zabe]

Part 2 got WILD!

[@natashasimpamba7699]

In Zambia, even labour and delivery is done in common labour rooms with lots of beds. So you see each other give birth. Unless you pay extra for a private room. My workplace (a mine) has its own hospital for employees and their family and the have private delivery room but shared postpartum room.

[@amandab6034]

very excited for this new series:) and super helpful

[@Nurse_zabe]

Me too! Let me know if you have any ideas for other shows!

[@meijo206]

Midwife from Germany here. One of my colleagues was called to give advice for birth scenes at different German film sets to make them more realistic. But she said that not once they took her advice because it wasn't "dramatic" enough... 😅

[@cherissemiranda3187]

I could not believe how much just relaxing my face decreased the pain of contractions. Like it literally took them from a 9 to a 5 or 6 sometimes.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Amazing, right??

[@CraneFamilyAdventures]

I love your channel. I wish I would've known all of this when I was in labor.

[@ashleybellerose7104]

My birth song was me just yelling "No no no no no no noooooooo nooooooo nooooooooooo until the contraction ended" lol

[@alyssapaoli8327]

For my first kid last year (second is due Jan 2023), we did end up moving from our first room for L&D. But that's because our room had started to flood. 😅 It had been raining for like three days straight and they had gotten some new A/C units or maybe they were some kind of venting unit that were installed in each room's window. Turns out the room we were in didn't have a very good seal around said unit (I think some other rooms also had this issue but not the one we switched to) and so lots of rain came in. We did have a shared room for postpartum but the hospital was empty enough that we didn't have to share (and we were there for like 5 days)

[@chantellsenekal2641]

In South Africa, most hospitals will have mainly private delivery rooms, but post partum is almost always shared between about 6-8 people. Unless you pay extra for a private recovery/post partum room.

[@Nurse_zabe]

I honestly can appreciate the sisterhood found in shared postpartum rooms! Although I could imagine it might be tough to get any sleep

[@shipse1]

Love this and can’t wait for part two! Question: are cervical checks necessary at 60ish min intervals when labor has been induced? I was induced and my nurse said she needed to check my cervix every so often, even if I wanted to wait a few hours

[@jellybeankisser]

No, they are not "necessary". If you don't want something, in labor or at any time when receiving medical care, all you need to do is speak up and say so... your body your choice!

[@nattyh.6168]

Loved this!!! But question: why would hospitals labor and then deliver in another and then postpartum in another?

[@janellemiller1195]

Oh, my gosh .I had a private room in 1996. All the rooms were private. My room had a full bathroom with shower and a mini fridge. I didn't have an epeasmeotimie either . I didn't have stitches.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Amazing! 🙌🙌

[@maryhardison2840]

Yes I didn’t understand that with my first baby we went in at midnight after 4hr of beginning labor. For them to say I was barely 1cm. And she wanted us to try to sleep, I was too anxious and nervous and excited to sleep but I hardly ever stood up again, maybe once to go to the bathroom.

[@Nurse_zabe]

It can be so hard to rest when you’re excited! 💗

[@amandab6034]

Fun!

[@Nurse_zabe]

💗💗

[@sarahjones5202]

I'm in the uk and I labored until 4cm on a inpatient ward with four other couples. Then had a private delivery room and a different private post partum room but most people were on a joint postpartum room. I was given a private room as I didn't have my baby with me immediately. I can see why a joint labor room can be difficult but I also enjoyed having other people to chat too and we did lots of walking up and down stairs too

[@Nurse_zabe]

I kind of love that sense of camaraderie in early labor! As things get more intense it’s nice to go to a private room. I was picturing actually delivering all together which would be INTENSE!

[@Liriand]

With my second child (born in August this year) I had to share a room postpartum, but at least I was in a private room in labour! Also, I was only 3cm dilated when I came in, but was, i think, fully effaced. I was only 3cm when I came in with my first as well, but was sent home and had a pretty traumatic labour process that ended in C-section, so I was panicking for a second before the nurse said we could stay. 😬

[@Nurse_zabe]

Yes, staying in early labor should be an option if you want it. So glad you were able to!

[@sararay2670]

So with my first baby I delivered at a hospital that had semi private post partum rooms. I had a private room myself. It was a county hospital that I delivered at, so I thought to myself that maybe those that shared a room were not insured. Who knows?

[@mariashchegryaeva4406]

Gave birth in Serbia, we had to wait in line to get washed etc before getting into a room where you are monitored before you give birth. There were 3 women there, no doors and doctors come and go constantly. They move you to a private room when it's time to push which also has no doors. Mine was facing another 'private' room where another woman was laboring so I actually watched her give birth while pushing myself (good I'm okay with seeing blood 😅). You recover in a corridor post delivery for 2 h without your baby as it gets checked out. Then you are moved to a room where you have 1-2 neighbors or in majority of hospitals 4-5. The thing that was the weirdest to me: you can't turn off light or close the door ever. They say it's for safety reasons. Just imagine, just gave birth, baby with you, lights on for 3 days and nights 😵 Partners are allowed only in some hospitals for extra fee only during labour part after they collect docs proving that they are healthy. The good thing is that the whole experience is free though :) and you pray the doctors and nurses would be nice to you (which is hard as their working conditions suck). I still enjoyed my birthing experience a lot ;)

[@Nurse_zabe]

Wow, that sounds really intense. Especially the lights and doors part. 💗

[@mariashchegryaeva4406]

​@@Nurse_zabe yes, in such cases watching content like yours really helps because you realize that in order to get things better for yourself and the baby down the line you need to ignore bad things and focus on staying relaxed and happy 😊

[@Daymickey]

Thank you for this! Unrelated question - do you agree with the recommendation of pelvic rest for complete placenta previa at 26 weeks? Are penetrative sex or orgasm proven to be dangerous for the placenta? There doesn’t seem to be conclusive data on it yet it’s what my doc recommended. Thoughts?

[@Nurse_zabe]

For a complete previa that is the recommendation I have heard for sure. I’m so sorry you’re going through that right now. 💗

[@ashleybellerose7104]

Thankfully my hospital is 4 mins drive from my house. Unfortunately the parking oh my lord. Its terrible. And expensive. I think I will get my man to drop me off, bring the truck home and walk back. Its about a 24 min walk. Hmm. Idk we will cross that bridge when we get there lol. May just end up paying the 15 bucks a day for the parking but he is still dropping me off at the door if I am like laboring hard. If I can walk I will. Will be helpful if I need it lol

[@danielleu4659]

My labour's have gotten longer 3 to 6 hours. I've had 3 children all naturally. Baby #4 on the way

[@ladyliddie7721]

From my experience in Japan, I labored in 1 room, was moved to another room for the birthing part (also they usually make you walk to the birthing room but luckily they let me use a wheelchair. But then I had to climb on the big table/chair like a weirdo), then moved to another room for the postpartum stay. There is an option for shared rooms, but of course I didn't choose that. 😅 Also who wants another crying baby waking you up when you finally get yours to sleep? And there's no way I'd want their visitors seeing me too

[@Nurse_zabe]

I can imagine it could be rough to share a postpartum room with a fussy baby!

[@Nurse_zabe]

That curtain doesn’t provide much privacy!

[@fighttheevilrobots3417]

I never liked Friends or felt the characters were relatable to me in any way, so I'm glad that my experience, in a material sense, will be different. I'm 34 weeks and my biggest fear is people body shaming me or mentioning the faulty science of the BMI chart because I'm not skinny.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Honestly Friends wasn’t my favorite show either. I wasn’t even allowed to watch it when it was on the air. I definitely think most facilities will do a good job of not body shaming you. Have you had a convo with your OB at all?

[@fighttheevilrobots3417]

@@Nurse_zabe the way the hospital works is there is a team so I see a different OB each visit, which I don't like. They all supposedly work under one doctor and I requested to meet with her tomorrow. We'll see how it goes. I have PTSD so it's really important that I not be triggered during labor by talk of weight. I hope they understand. Sometimes it seems doctors have a harder time than nurses understanding that the mind and body are connected.

[@bluarsor]

Great commentary! 😊 I only don't understand why can't we respect women enough to actually call us women rather than "labouring person"

[@GeeslinsNerdRoom]

It's not about disrespect. It's about the fact that trans and nonbinary people exist, so not every laboring person identifies as a woman. If you'd like to be called a woman while laboring, just let your support people know and they'll be more than accommodating. This is about making sure *every* laboring person feels safe and supported on one of the biggest days of their lives. ❤️

[@amy010276]

I don't have mental illness and I really don't appreciate being treated as if I do. I am a Mother and referring to all Mothers as "birthing person" is dehumanizing.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Inclusive language is giving everyone a seat at the table. Emily hit it on the head. It doesnt take away from my motherhood or yours. I want to add that some gestational carriers, like Phoebe in this show, don’t relate to the term mother/mama/etc. When I’m taking care of someone who identifies as a women and a mother, I use those words according. Or, even better yet, I use their name. 💗

[@bluarsor]

A mother and a woman is so much more than a "labouring person", and being reduced to that feels very uncomfortable. Through decades and centuries women's rights were oppressed and silenced. and when we're finally at the stage of being seen and respected as strong nurturing empowering out-of-this-world doing-it-all beings, now a man can be a woman? Sorry, but no. I'm absolutely pro-choice and freedom of expression, but not when we're starting to suppose that any woman has 50/50 chance of wanting to be called as a man/neutral/trans.