Ladies Tell Them what you Want and don't be too nice

[@thelovely961]

Men exploit women all the time, use them, discard them.. lie to them to get what they want and leave them broken hearted. Now she's giving tips, these men wanna get mad.

[@beautylove5940]

Daughter oftheKing Okurrrr... Lol (cardi b.)

[@jamocabrookins1505]

Omg your videos have changed my life ❤️❤️

[@Introvertsan]

Exactly and they always gave excuses for using women often by shifting blame or being like "it's just life"

[@elevatewithkash]

See I’m a very sweet hearted person by nature. But the way men are. It just sucks that I have to be mean someone I’m Not just to not be hurt by dudes.

[@Introvertsan]

@@elevatewithkash Same, I can relate

[@NNCRS]

No wife duties without a ring... got it!!!

[@mariabradshaw4289]

LMFAO right

[@BROOK69BANKS]

Even with a ring still not wife tho

[@justqueenie1480]

You can get a ring and still be cheated on😞

[@crystalswirlzreloaded9350]

F a ring.A ring is a placeholder.A man can waste your time and string u along for years with "a ring".No marriage license...no widely duties.,is what the motto should be.

[@alexiee09]

Unless it’s the 59.60-carat pink diamond ring

[@tgresty]

Women need to understand we can't scare a man off if he really likes us. A man won't stay in a relationship if he doesn't want to, no matter what we do. Also, you can't make a boy a family man, especially if he wasn't raised by one.

[@jacofallshade1270]

This logic doesn't apply to a narcissist.

[@ee528]

I see your point. They name it love but it's not.

[@SkinnyGirl125]

Yup, we need to stop thinking we control them and it is somehow a reflection on uur worth as a huan being

[@camiller958]

tgresty I know you made this comment years ago but that’s facts especially the last part, “you can’t make a boy a family man especially if he wasn’t raised by one. My mom married an asshole who’s father was abusive and left the family. I can see that he isn’t a good dad at all and doesn’t like being around his kids because that’s the way his dad was. History repeats itself

[@elefoundation3703]

@@camiller958 history repeats for those who let it. For us at ele foundation we say Ot used to run in our family until it ran into us

[@Lioness417]

The meaner I am to my guy, the nicer he treats me. Was yelling at him over the telephone yesterday for being only 5 min late to a lunch he invited me to and he talked to me so sweet. "Please don't go home baby I'm almost there, I love you baby". A drastic change from the way he treated me 2 years ago when he told me to "be nice" to him and I obliged - only for him to get crazy on me. Now the tables are turned in my favor and I'm getting everything I want from him.

[@LinguistAmbie]

😍😌

[@kikisbeautyworld5458]

No yelling, never do that

[@victoriaabsalom7362]

i agree with you.lol

[@MsKaren-tb1lx]

Be firm when you need to but don't yell. You got this 👍

[@creeikuko]

Black Sorceress lmao I beat my dude up and he’ll give me $ 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@NNCRS]

I learned very quickly that the sweet submissive woman is not what men want. But when I became mean and told him to hit the road... he didn’t want to leave!!! Pissed me off but I learned I had to continue to be “rough” to get what I wanted.

[@kristenmoonrise]

Yup I had a similar experience! The guy was being ridiculous, knowingly was hurting my feelings but when I snapped him up, he shut up and stayed under me! Men (real men) like and respect women with boundaries.

[@Meedyogre]

Lls....yah slow. This only works on weak betas. A masculine man won't deal with a woman who not submissive. But lucky for you cougars most men are beta...but just know you'll never get a real man. Smh

[@alexjones28]

@@Meedyogre bulllll shiiittt. My step dad been with my mom for 20 years. She just snapped on him and he saying sorry chasing her around the house. I'm just sitting soaking up this game from my queen Shera

[@elefoundation3703]

@@Meedyogre submissive is not stupid. All men fall for feminine women who appear submissive but are really just submissive with boundaries

[@DivineSunPower]

Facts

[@viktoriake8865]

i think a nice woman is not a challenge to a man anymore, thats what makes her too boring

[@SheRaSeven1]

true

[@viktoriake8865]

i think a nice woman is a chasing woman. she is chasing the man by being nice and trying to please him. but its his job to please the woman. she should receive,

[@kcnnanna]

+Viktoria Kußerow Never thought of it that way about the chasing but you are very right. Being too nice is nearly chasing. It's nearly thirst.

[@sherrisolomon8673]

Learned that the hard way.

[@urbanqid9604]

Chi Nnanna Yes. That's what it is. I learn that.

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

When you actually care about your own happiness more than others, this is automatic. Strong boundaries and desires get expressed, as you won't settle for anything less than the best as a companionship.

[@nanomia]

so true!

[@DrBeeSpeaks]

I agree. I told my husband in the beginning that niceness was overrated. 😂😂 So he knows that I'm not having it! He works hard to make sure that I'm pleased. A happy wife equals a happy life! All women have the capacity to really get into their "witchy power" which includes speaking your truth. We set the standard. You teach people how to treat you! If you want to be treated like a queen you better make it known lol. I told my husband while we were dating whatever you start doing in beginning (paying and pulling out chairs exc.. lol)-he has to keep doing! He still does. Women know your power!

[@sabsays4091]

You sound intimidated. I'm sure Netta does wonderful things for her husband to keep him happy as well. And even if she is selfish. So? Maybe her husband likes that, and maybe it'll be his own problem to deal with. So don't worry about it.

[@brockcharz2104]

but then you better stay young and attractive because trust me, he is only doing this because he was attracted to you, its not going to work when your mid 30's losing your attraction, then you are just going to be some old woman who is nagging him lol, so you keep this up, he will leave and find someone younger and attractive to spend his money on, so trust me its better to try and build a relationship then make it about just money, because you setting up for a fall, there will always be younger women who are seductive and sweet and caring etc, know how to attract men, and yes, you can say there are always other men with money, but they will always choose the younger women, so you basically have until the age of 21-27 (maybe early 30's) but thats it, so trust me its better to find something real, like i have seen relationships (where there is no abuse, whatsoever) but they are like best friends, and thats what is going to last, its rare, but that is more real

[@brockcharz2104]

favored one. its the person with the money that has the control, the rich man will have loads of young gold diggers after him, he is not gonna fall for the no sex before marriage shit, like the woman in the video is trying saying, he will just get with another girl, its his decision, just like if the woman is the rich one, its her decision what to do, pick and choose

[@nofybn7794]

Yes, he is gonna fall for it.

[@brockcharz2104]

Samung 7 ....so you think when a woman is 50 she can just get with a rich 70 year old??? ur delusional lol, that 70 year old will be going for women 20 to early 30, not 50, so all im saying is build a real relationship with someone, and you say ''demand more money'' oh pleeeeease lol, the rich man knows there are hundreds of prettier younger, sweet, more caring golddiggers around the corner, ur demand dont mean crap, like i said it the person with the money that hold all the power, so if the women is the rich one then she will hold the power and can make demands, not the golddigger,

[@TheMimosaChronicles]

I have started to operate in your teachings and ladies IT WORKS!!!! Its crazy because everything you say I already knew but I never truly did the work. I NOW DO THE WORK.

[@gloriaagatha3237]

How’s it going 5 years later?

[@tbinyt]

yeah gotta train the dogs

[@Haterzarefans]

TB :😂😂😂

[@diva7141]

💯🤣

[@jahprincessspicy688]

😭😭😭💯

[@queenchica6623]

Lmao🐶🐶🐶

[@Mailinxxxxx]

😂

[@mandisa_shabalala]

A dose of SheRaSeven a day does it for me. Another great video. Love love love.

[@JonJoeTruth]

M Kay - you're the head of your child's fatherless household huh? Go figure.

[@mandisa_shabalala]

JoeJoe1959Truth I don't have a child, you dumb ass!

[@mandisa_shabalala]

Cool Chicka Lol. That's a possibility.😂😂😂Shame.

[@JonJoeTruth]

M Kay - now just why is that Childless Smart-ass? Your shit-broke, or are you a man, meaning your attitude if not literally? Gay perhaps? Oh, that's right, you're waiting until you're Older? I get it. Sorry, My bad.

[@JonJoeTruth]

Cool Chicka - and you're probably a.... Well you already know.

[@cnmuchina00]

Here in 2020. Who else? Like this comment. Shera is so different now. So leveled up!

[@marte1376]

Totally !! This old videos are amazing and shera looks like a goddess

[@fairy9749]

She looks very beautiful here too😻

[@DandyDuh]

2021‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@ithabelengkopo1690]

I'm here in 2022

[@ivyaquila9136]

2023 girl lol

[@dbsk06]

9:43 make sure he’s the one getting butterflies about you, not the other way around … that’s not a connection, that’s your weakness and his way to exploit you

[@mycatsheenacashappid4240]

That one guy got HELLA mad when you said that cooking a meal for a man is considered wifey duties. Girl, you're messing with his meal times. LOL So funny how you are making some men outrageously unhappy. LOL

[@MegaBlueEyezz]

Men hate it when we have boundaries and standards. Too bad!!!

[@asiadp]

@@MegaBlueEyezz they also hate it when we don’t lmao girls are running the streets like them now and they can’t breathe now 🤣

[@maribani]

Can’t believe I’m still learning things from this woman from videos years ago

[@exoticlady3scanines]

I do agree with that theory. The "b*tch mentality/alpha female" definitely goes further. I've been the "too nice", but then when I bucked up, they would be shocked or they'd fall in line and step up.

[@4rmwestcoastmagsonia]

👍yes, they do!

[@N_NSIIMA]

“Let your mind to the thinking and let your heart feel the RESULTS of your LOGICAL choice” *drops 🎤*

[@joannaatkins556]

Say that... I married the the man they couldn't get a ring from...I always had control. The Bible even speaks Ask and you shall Receive.... I 👏👌👍

[@mbxyz987]

yes i totally agree with you ! I ve been too nice with guys my whole life before and i never gained anything from them but problems; they would just take advantage of me and run away ! you re absolutely right ...

[@camiller958]

mimi bouarich I hate the mistakes I make but I’m seriously not gonna lower my standards for any man anymore

[@meika79]

My friend was telling me for years that I was too nice to the guys I dated. She was right

[@helened6896]

I agree to speak the truth but I also believe in respecting a man because I feel men and women have some different gifts and roles that we bring to the table. Men should be respected if they are respectable. If they aren't, we need to choose to depart.

[@SheRaSeven1]

true , men who deserve respect will always have it that is given!

[@JonJoeTruth]

SheRaSeven1 - Don't forget SheDevil, that applies to Women as well. Which you so conveniently, begrudgingly left out.

[@JonJoeTruth]

Cool Chicka - I saw that movie way back when. Now that shits really funny. I have to give you that one. I'm still laughing. But don't forget, it's a movie and you need not apply. It's above your pay grade. Sorry to say child support is your best option. You Go Girl.

[@paperclip6993]

H davies Your a wise woman! Thank you for your comment!

[@Lfavored777]

Be nice but have boundaries!

[@crystalseed.422.4]

I asked for what I wanted and I got it don’t be scared to ask ladies!

[@sademamii6922]

So what do u say when we wants to have sex in order for to get your bills paid or xyz and u don’t want to ?

[@JoannaCubana]

Yes, I wish I would have heard this as I was growing up or even as a younger woman. It would have made a world of difference in my relationships. I always wondered why men got "tired of me", and just ended up leaving me for no reason. Well, now I know. And there was a simple solution. SPEAK UP!!!!! RESPECT YOURSELF! !!#🙆 Thank you for sharing this. 😍

[@nc-mazzistar9750]

Thank you, I always enjoy your talks. I appreciate you not sugar coating things and serving your it straight up. I could of use this channel 2yrs ago but feel the timing is now and I'm able to receive the message.

[@anissaholmes4495]

I was too nice and I reached my last straw and exploded 🌋😡💢☢️. My husband has started to respond differently. I was PISSed and I was normally a sweet submissive wife. I saw I was a doormat. Please ladies, listen to her! Get that stuff out up front!!!!! Even after it’s resolved, I still feel differently. Never the same.

[@drapink9050]

Your advice is worth GOLD, Ashera. I am right now working 2 jobs and leveling up so I can quit soon, I want to look better and improve my mental game so I can have a good partner that provides. I watch your videos in between consultations with my patients 😆. Gonna start advising them to watch too, they need this knowledge in their lives, most women I see are in deplorable emotional situations they don't even need to be in.

[@theurbanistablog]

Girl you need a book!!

[@Sweetlady1916]

Yes, she does😉. An e-book would be great...hint self publish on Amazon.

[@tropicalbohemian9730]

Yes!!!! She said she has a guide on amazon I think.

[@TheClosetRatchet]

Watching all these videos is really helping to learn what I’ve been doing wrong in my 26 years of age! I actually started practicing some of your tips this weekend and a guy bought dinner for me and my friend 🤣

[@kadzo6614]

Just dinner? That's nothing! Smh

[@Glad2BGolden]

Khadija Kenya It’s a start

[@gloriaagatha3237]

@@kadzo6614it’s a start

[@gloriaagatha3237]

How’s it going girl?

[@prillerman]

learning so much about women from your channel like the big sister I never had I love it

[@EgyptParis]

I'm really enjoying your harujuku style!!!!

[@kcnnanna]

From start to finish, this video was excellent. This could not have come at a more opportune time. Thank you!

[@wonhoptoo]

Unconditional love = for animals (and {reluctantly} children) ONLY

[@Queen-ConsciousYa]

Yes😂

[@katasandberg8110]

Yes, definitely!!!!!

[@corinaweber9014]

You should have your own dating site.

[@DiamondEubanks]

I have to give you credit, you are putting this 35 year old on game. I know some of things you mention in the vids I have seen and know, but I am learning a lot as well. Especially the having butterflies for the guy. THAT is so true! That was my last relationship, not saying that he didn't have strong feelings for me too and he did do some things I wanted but for the most part, I was a dumbass when it came to him.

[@asiadp]

Bro im only 21 and had 1 relationship she SET ME UP FOR SUCCESS 🙌🏾

[@lifecoach3]

True loves is for yourself. Thank you for that information

[@lc-il6wr]

Even you can disappoint yourself

[@mlcase]

This is spot on. I literally listened to this video, and within 10 minutes of appealing to his sexual side. I snagged a dude who didn’t want to be tied down into being exclusive.

[@ms.zenabundance8734]

I love this. I was raised the opposite way and now I'm learning to be more defiant.

[@rensii-e8b]

Same

[@krissyaguilar1814]

Saaaaaameeee

[@P.L.M.]

Your videos are great. I know how horrifically horrible it is to be married to a man who is not your equal and have no ambitions.

[@P.L.M.]

Nothing about you comment makes any sense. This is just funny.

[@P.L.M.]

That's just goofy. bye!

[@elizabethakinyi3843]

Am a whole different lady now😍since I subscribed to this channel ❣️ thank you

[@Softpinkbarbie]

Yes! So am I....and I'm married.

[@candy5742]

Conditional vs Unconditional that’s a great example

[@TysVideoDiaries]

I agree with everything you just said. I always say I dont believe in/ aint no such thing as unconditional love with romantic partners. My shit comes with conditions for sure

[@egolovely]

I need to be where the financially stable men are...lol!!!

[@johnbaron2228]

They are in education institutions just like everyone else

[@egolovely]

+Don John if he chooses to raise a grown female, that's his preference. I am a woman who desires a man.I don't desire a grown male who complains about a man spoiling his woman the way he chooses to do so. I don't need to be raised, my parents did that already...lol!!

[@egolovely]

+Don John it's wrong when an adult raises another adult, who is not their child. You have your preference with what you will and will not put up with, I have mine. What he and I choose to do with our money, when it's time, will be our decision. You can't speak for all men and I can't speak for women. Her man feels that her presence and what she does at home is enough. You don't have to turn a situation/discussion you have no control over into a debate just you don't agree. If you don't agree, don't do it. It's that simple.

[@egolovely]

*just because you don't agree.

[@TijuanaK]

Hmmm, late to the party, but tell you what, men who complain about putting out for women, usually put out for single mothers that are struggling and not women who are independent. i'll let that sink in.

[@rachaeleena]

You’re right I spent 5 years in a “relationship” with a man who wasn’t there for me consistently.

[@quenlleb5763]

I usually don't comment, but you really dropped some gems! I needed to hear this:)

[@Champagne__mami]

Just started tuning in & you're speaking my soul rn #SPRINKLE SPRINKLE & YOU CHANGED MY MINDSET ❤

[@Zphi93Carmela]

What an eye-opener! What you said about man/woman love is conditional. I really was the one who was always going for the "butterflies" guy. I'm done with that.

[@_keytruth8287]

I’m so glad I came across this video for years I was always too nice that’s how I was raised and it was to the point dudes thought I was too good they wouldn’t even approach me.

[@michelleserrano1908]

No more miss nice! Got it ✍🏼

[@Queen-ConsciousYa]

Yes I remember telling men that I would not make them a sandwich, they were surprised and they still liked me 😂😂

[@martamanno22]

well mannered and well educated not too nice ! that would be cheap ! thank you Shera ! 👏

[@fantasia243645]

The way that you said "that works though," was so cute. 💚 Thanks for the valuable lessons.

[@nicolmnyandu5656]

"This love is conditional" WORD lol

[@CamilleJenny]

that butterfly thing is so true. I will never get into that kind of a relationship again

[@Stellarstylecrochet]

WOW, it all makes sense now !

[@amethystmaries2567]

Ms Quick You are so pretty!!

[@va8196]

Love SheRa!! Wish I found her channel years ago!!

[@Tluv_1955]

This is correct completely never be the door mat take charge ladies and then they can’t walk all over u and u hold the power

[@hereisayana8207]

can you make a video om what demands a woman should want, because some of us honestly don't know this... thank you, good video

[@aminah761]

Wowww she looks totally different now

[@gloriaagatha3237]

Right

[@iMelanin]

I was thinking the same. Lol.

[@rebel8440]

I think she got her lips done. this definitely don't look like the same person.

[@Moonlvr555]

Thank you Queen 👑 💗🙏. I wished I would have found you in my 30’s. I was young, naive, always trying to see the best in people, but most men are only out for themselves trying to get in between your legs. Many will say and do what they can to get what they want, and then leave you. No husband benefits without being a husband. Don’t clean, don’t cook, don’t do things a wife would do without the tittle.

[@Lyn.isGrey]

I did this and he acted so scorched and tried to guilt me. He said many times that he wants marriage. Well he contacted me again. I barely texted back for a few days. Then he flipped out by inventing drama in texts because he's one of those believers in striking up frustration and converting it to some attachment. At the end of it he said you hate me anyway and I hate you because I hate feeling stuck on you and never can be with you there you go there's the truth. I waited until the next day and said you might be ready to be married but are you ready to be a husband, that is the million dollar question, I don't need an answer, just ruminate on that. No response.

[@sharonqui]

You are like my best friend ! Love your advices

[@lvsweets]

Omg this popped up. Had to rewatch and I can't believe I've been watching you this long. Congrats on your channel. Keep on shinning

[@AVIDONVON]

I’m just finding this video in 2021. So many Gems 💎! I wish I had this sooner! I was in a relationship with a guy that I was so head over heals for, and he walked all over me. Never again.

[@Insightful_Locs]

Your old videos are the best Shera !

[@carriea.2467]

Iam doing what Sheara says i agree with her 100%

[@_keytruth8287]

Damn you a prophet This is what it means when he said nice for what

[@nerrissarichards]

Love the K-pop look! No wife behavior without a ring, conditions need to be in any relationship because otherwise it’s just chaotic.

[@katiewilliams9381]

I love this video u have changed my life thank you I follow your guideline when I'm not sure and it's working thank u

[@chamomile6299]

Shera you're the best! Thank you!

[@kellychee1123]

That looks crazy..but I'm all about giving him that stranger feeling..You go girl..create that fantasy he didn't even know he wanted

[@kimberlyrenae]

This is such a great video! Much needed advice for women 👌🏾

[@basicinfo2022]

You only have to do all of this work if you're with a low quality man. A high quality man appreciates mutual respect and love already without you needing to manipulate or training them into loving and respecting you.

[@GoddessCoCo9]

First Comment!!! Love the makeup (I am subscribed to your makeup channel and I will be looking at the how to) and as always love the advice! I am applying it to my life! And better to be single than to be with a man who is stressing you out and not getting what you want wouldn't you say? Much luv!

[@SheRaSeven1]

yes so true and thank u

[@4rmwestcoastmagsonia]

I watched all your videos this is the last one I didn't wanna watch because I am the nice woman and I am single because I should step up and say what I want I was married 4 8 years and I started do demand better in the middle of the relationship which to no avail he never ever changed he just treated me worse until I couldn't take it anymore so yes it is important to say what you need and want.

[@onweamarachi2222]

2024 who’s there 😊

[@ninah5938]

You are the best thing that has happened to me! 🙌🙌

[@ashkat79]

You're so straightforward. I love it. Haha.

[@PurpleEpicness333]

I wish I had seen this video 6 years ago, when I was in college

[@kcnnanna]

Preach on the cooking and performance of wife duties!

[@gorgeousmone6151]

💯💯💯💯 Love it!! Keep the knowledge coming❤️

[@EccentricKE]

You had everything going on the pink stuff n everything on your head😄 You deffinately leveled up Love you❤

[@madoo199]

Me in 2024 wondering why I didn't know shera before now, but it's Okey I'm gonna update myself. 😂💔

[@SJ-ml1ed]

Omggg she looks amazing now. Two different people wow

[@TheCookie9007]

Thank you for the advise. You are super classy. I am happy that is an old video because all those bows together and with the hello kitty are too much.

[@forevadorable]

i love you your the best!!!! your like trina she has high standards to she wont even kiss a guy without a dentist bill

[@johnbaron2228]

You should be careful as you don't know the persons hygiene in the sense that you could get HPV. Also good to the clinic before you have sex as some people are evil and it will safe you any doubt of you getting any disease.

[@lc-il6wr]

A dentist bill means he's gross

[@linasaidwhat]

I absaloutley love you Leticia! Your advice hits home, I've been through these mistakes but I'm ready to play the game right and learn from it, as a young woman this means a lot to have someone like you share their wisdom. Do you do private counseling ?

[@aachalsilwal]

Can you please do video on abandonment issues in relationships/ marriage. Like men abandoning women n how to deal with it and how to stop it. Thank you.

[@johnbaron2228]

It is different from everyone but look it up on psychological blogs etc they have a pattern or history in their past. Also fear of the future if men don't feel secure in themselves financial emotional etc they will never marry, like myself so they need time to get better

[@aachalsilwal]

+John Baron well thanks !

[@madamechante3518]

Chanel Gurun

[@haitiangal1361]

Aces main reason was probably cheating as well. Who wants to stay married to a broke cheater?

[@moniquewalker358]

I sincerely appreciate you #SheRaSeven1. You are correct and I'm manifesting this. I lived in Houston also. Thank you, Monique

[@ikonka77]

So True! I learned this so late, too late

[@bilingualbaddie529]

Here in 2023 bc I got played for being too nice

[@boi9643]

I love ur look..especially the catsy eye girl ooooh! Shera u are the older sister I never had.

[@rozzeyb.3350]

Thank you SheRaSeven!!! You are so relationship smart. I got to this video at the right time. Watching you from Nairobi, Kenya

[@shelbyerin4469]

I need help, i understand what your saying but i struggle with how exactly to execute it and say it. I am a nice girl, so to me i just find it real hard to come right out and say "hey i expect gifts, flowers, expensive dates". How do i exactly say it to get my way..

[@beeznhoney4323]

It's been 1 year now and I hope you've gotten past your _fear/hesitation_ of being direct in relationships.

[@LiveWithDes]

The history and etymology of the word means "naive".

[@michellefiery739]

I love this! Thank you 💞🌷

[@AngelaShaw-nm8oy]

He cooks for me more than I cook for him

[@salwaazize8228]

الست دي بتقول كلام زي الفل

[@LeilaniAlua]

Girl yes!!!!!!! I agree!

[@kalina407]

Thank you for making this video. This has definitely helped me.

[@oa8463]

Never submit to abuse -financial physical nor emotional. Never be a slave girl. Dont cook clean n sleep for free. Marriage license is a financial contract. Get on the house deed. Get on his life, health, and car insurance. Get on his will, bank, and stocks. If he doesnt have any of that before getting with you he isnt ready. Failure to do so will land you in hell. Its against the bible for you to give to him before he gives to you. Also against the bible for him to play the female role-the receiver.

[@abagsby1408]

Lord I’m doing everything I shouldn’t be doing.. help me fix it

[@paolauwu5594]

Talk with him, if he dont like your new boundaries leave and go with somebody that actually wanna do your boundaries😂