Codependency and Creativity

[@LaurenSapalaINFJ]

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[@aquariusstar7248]

I feel like a lot of my creative self is trapped in my childhood. I was always trying to draw, write, but the heaviness of my mother wound kept that energy from flowing. I could feel her jealousy and i loved to sing and perform in private. I often hid this from my parents. Once seen by my mother it was shut down. Even when taking courses as an adult, i become so self-conscious and i have a hard time enjoying the process. Everything is about proving i am worthy or deserving of doing what i love.

[@cledosliop4175]

After I graduated from college, I started working at a service-oriented job that I disliked. The work didn't require the skills I had learned in school, and it mainly involved serving others daily. Although it was a safe and stable job, it was also very boring and some of my coworkers and bosses had narcissistic traits. I found it exhausting to constantly communicate with them and after two years, I finally decided to make a change. I quit my job, planning to pursue writing, but when I tried, I realized I was suffering from severe creativity blockage. It took me almost three years to heal from this, and that was when I began to learn more about the concept of codependency and how to heal it. Some of the points you mentioned in this video were my true experiences; really spot on.

[@colonelgraff9198]

Codependency is like running a three legged race and the other person won’t move with you.

[@yukio_saito]

Well said.

[@stephanielyn22]

I feel this 😆 thank you for this.

[@namez2a]

And the furthest you can go is in circles.

[@jla8070]

it's like being an energy dispenser

[@reneknecht9785]

Healing from codependency has the biggest potential for personal development for INFJ’s. Because our energy field is in a state of leakage if we are not aware of the toxic patterns. It is a game changer if you start noticing it! If you become aware of the toxic patterns in relationships characterized by codependency and narcissisism a never ending development cycle will be started. I learned a lot of the different courses and books of Lauren and for me it was a point of no return. This program is indeed spot on.

[@barbaracapes8816]

Love you Lauren!❤❤ You are so spot on with this! I enjoy learning from you. Had a wonderful session with you this week in Sage Adderly's Quest back to Self. Thank you for all you do!

[@sharonfuszard8861]

You're spot on Lauren about being the 'Unofficial Counsellor. Back in the day I would have 'Friends' who would only contact me when they needed access to my skill as unpaid counsellor. I've come to realize that to a' friend' who is a narcissist, this access constitutes a form of narcissistic supply.

[@stephanywilkes3598]

Spot on! I decided to count how many such requests I got for "unofficial counseling" this past week: 12! It would have easily been 12 hours out of my week, and my energy. Love Lauren's work - so helpful.

[@yukio_saito]

I door-slammed "friends" who count on my unpaid counseling. 🚪⛔😅

[@sharonfuszard8861]

@@yukio_saito I wish I'd been that wise at the time!😀

[@matiasschmied1156]

I love you Lauren, thank you for all the work you do for us.

[@yukio_saito]

I no longer care about whatever happens to toxic people. I walk away as soon as a chronic talker comes to me. 🚶‍♂💨💨🚩 Even a "paid" counselor has a time limit, so you don't need to keep on listening to those who disrespect your time.