INFJs and Money Problems

[@LaurenSapalaINFJ]

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[@colonelgraff9198]

We don’t feel worthy of our abundance, and when we get it we see our abundance as something that should be given to the rest of our tribe. Then have nothing left for us.

[@Olga915-t1z]

Nailed it

[@aaronpicking4935]

couldn’t have said it better 😊

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes, exactly.

[@auroraaiko]

so true

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

I think INFJs also consider more money to be equated with more external stuff that needs managing i.e. bills, rental property, taxes, banking, accountants, lawyers, and investments, etc. We aren't externally focused and those extra tasks and concerns of managing money really daunt and overwhelm us. Not saying we can't do them, we'd just rather not. And we certainly don't like having to shift back and forth between internal focus and external focus based on a schedule attached to money management.

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

Well said! I have never been very happy that pensions mostly disappeared and were replaced by 401Ks but the good thing that happened was the promotion of mutual funds and especially those that are set up to basically "set it and forget it". If I had to sit down daily and figure out what stocks to buy and sell and a given day I would go bonkers!! Some other types just love that sort of thing!

[@ASMRPlaylistQueen]

What my spiritual teacher has said is that wealth doesn’t change people, it just brings out more of who they already are. Because it allows them to express themselves in a larger way. Hence, it is a superb test for our soul that we will fail in many lifetimes before we finally learn to put money in the right spiritual perspective.❤

[@Queen_Sylvia]

Let’s talk about that amazing sweater! 😍

[@fredv3043]

It's amazing. Discussion over lol

[@MystèreEtBoule2Gomme]

Keeping a low bar in terms of money is a coping mechanism I think. I think asking for a fair share of the pie means first putting into light all the times in the past when we were only given breadcrumbs. And that hurts... Lots of resentment, and disgust come up when you finally raise the bar and start asking for what’s due. They aren’t very pleasant emotions to feel. It’s painful. And also, it looks bad (to the unexperienced eye..). Being angry is still too often equated with being mean. And we don’t wanna pass as the mean one. Hence... tucking the ´ugly’ feelings away and accepting breadcrumbs. Also, personally, I find it very rewarding to share my talents, help in any way, and just practice my passions. It’s so rewarding in and of itself that I usually don’t think about monetizing it. I’m just in the moment. Not anticipating how I’m going to support my future needs... I’ve recently found though, that giving stuff away for free or at a very low cost opens the door to one-sided relationships, where actual respect/love are lacking, cuz you’re taken for granted. Be it in business or personal life. And damn... do I want actually healthy connections and consideration... So, if putting price tags on things instead of being an open bar is what it takes... That’s a real motivator

[@samuelj.rivard]

Omg yes!!!

[@MaxMonsterGaming]

I am fine with managing money, but I am terrible at asking for more of it.

[@earlspencerulunzi5722]

As an INFJ, today, I will register my presence with this comment. Cheers to those who support in quiet presence.

[@abej9790]

The more I learn about INFJ the more it seems like this is like the ideal type to be exploited, the dream person of exploitors 🤣 Thanks for sharing these insights and I thank the community here in the comments too, the more we notice these things about ourselves, the more safely we can be ourselves.

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

THÉ LESS YOU CARE ABOUTH MONEY , The more you need it ‼️⭐️ 8:10

[@sspbrazil]

This is completely me, I am a freelance video editor and there are years that I have made very good money and as in the last two years it’s been really bad in the industry. The money shame is real too. I have always been drawn to the arts and I can’t reality thunk about doing anything else, so it’s been hard all my life.

[@brocklytodd5317]

You know what they say.. Mo Money Mo Problems.

[@ricardowilkins]

Travel is my inspiration.

[@randomoldcrone]

I love myself more having had your clarification, after watching only 2 of your vids this morning. 🙏🏼❣️🌟🤗

[@MystèreEtBoule2Gomme]

That is such a beautiful comment 🥺

[@Wavlance]

That sweater is adorable

[@howaboutno2023]

You are telling the story of my life😶

[@hugmc]

I didn’t like it so when i had it I used too give it away. Now I have learned too be careful with it

[@chrissyuy]

I think some INFJs would spend money on a house if they had it, as we also really care about controlling/making plans for a secure future. But not anything extravagant or for a status symbol. More probable, a tiny home of sorts (possibly even something portable for taking along in travel adventures, ie, an RV, boat, or conversion van.

[@WhammyBamber-wn2jv]

Agreed i have never bought into the money system .. to observe what some people will do to acquire money is heartbreaking.....money is only of use to make our experience more rewarding for travelling... meeting new people etc ..

[@wittymystic7361]

Not buying into the system is largely because the current system doesn't fit with INFJ or INFP values. Check out Sacred Economics by Charles Eisenstein. It lays out a system that is totally in sync with our values.

[@SD-rm5ty]

In my past I always was on top of my finances but this past year idk what happened. Lol 😭😭

[@carolinebrown8965]

I hate having to deal with people. I also can't stand working with tech. My options are limited with jobs. Have had really awful experiences with work which equals money problems.

[@faabl_fabienne]

Thanks for your videos. I feel so seen. Thank you ♥️

[@Seducers]

I love travel! Especially by plane The idea of being in a new state far away from people I know is so refreshing & relaxing to me, I literally work for food water shelter & future travel lol. Big homebody also though!

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

We do want freedom for sure.

[@restistance4387]

Power tends to corrupt and absolutely power corrupts absolutely.

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

I enjoyed this Lauren though it made me cringe since its one of my soft spots! Probably best not to partner up with another INFJ or P if you want to have lots of money laying around! 😋But to be fair I actually did make a good salary for many years but the corporate life did a number on me and I got extremely burned out and physically ill. But my ISFJ partner is now shouldering the lion's share of income making as I transition into whatever comes next for me. I try to support her in other ways and try to think of ways to save and invest. But like you mentioned in another video, we work in seasons and cycles and like you mentioned here, we don't like to focus on money matters too much because they are so grounded in the real world and it is draining to us rather than energizing! For example tax time is almost upon us again and I dread doing taxes!!!

[@linnf4313]

Thank you for this video, nice to understand my self in you❤. Love from Linn in Norway😊

[@saucykitty]

this has really helped me understand myself. I appreciate your content and efforts

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

Can anyone spare some change?

[@debjitbera]

Lauren , Thank you for hitting the bull's eye.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Do ask the deep questions.

[@anneheerdt8701]

Oh my, bumping into things is my life. And how I broke my leg in May, sigh

[@missredumbrella]

My ambition is to live happily without money

[@jenwipf729]

Money just flows to me...but I have the habit of send it right back out into the world. I feel very uncomfortable saving money because it feels very selfish to me (I know logically that isn't true). I'm a business owner and I feel incredibly guilty charging full price...unless I have a customer who I feel is trying to take advantage of me...they get charged full price!

[@ievamartagraudina3639]

Thank you 🌱

[@craigbarrett2278]

It's a hard line. I've told my old boss 'i don't care about money'.....yes we need it. But I've learnt to just cope. Only drawback......no money, no honey. Oh well!

[@Chercheure_Indépendante]

Our life spans as humans is kinda short so we can not excel in everything in this short period of time. Our deepest desires is certainly not money and material. True that the 3D is kind of boring for us. I know we know we're on earth and that's the exchange that was chosen, that's why we have difficulties. True that I had money shame for most of my life but I finally got over it.

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

IN MY MODEST OPINION MONEY IS THE MOST BORING THING INVENTION EVER INVENTED, ‼️ 12:32

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

FURTHERMORE IT IS TIME CONSUMING, ‼️ 13:48

[@Pauladwyer9]

This is so true! I am an INFJ married to an INFP 😢

[@shallowwatersoriginal]

I think the only way is to get famous...but just very famous

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

No matter what I seem to do i have money problems it seems.

[@FodorPupil]

yep!

[@roben9580]

I am not a NUMBERS person...

[@bymdmostafa]

h my, bumping into things is my life. And how I broke my leg in May, sigh

[@Benjaminsmallwood]

If I have what I need, im content and can't see why I should have or want more than that....until i hit 60

[@smolville]

Just try to take our money. A manager who drags his feet with nickel raises won't last around us.

[@somethingclever2]

I just don't feel my skills fit the market place. I am so limited by my introvers/social anxiety

[@urged_soul]

I was an INFP for many years but I am currently reinventing and discovering myself and now my results are INFJ-T . is this common?

[@Purposecomefirst]

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[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

It is not Really ABOUTH thé MONEY ‼️……….. 5:31

[@aditipawale3551]

First.🎉❤

[@MystèreEtBoule2Gomme]

There is some noise pollution in the recordings. Like a crackle. I would love to hear the content even more, without it 😊