INFJs and Chronic Pain

[@LaurenSapalaINFJ]

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[@carolinebrown8965]

It's so hard to live in a world that's geared against you.

[@wittymystic7361]

Exactly! I feel as if I entered a world where everyone has two arms yet keeps one behind their back at all times and goes around looking for artificial ways to acquire a second limb. It drives me nuts!

[@solutions4tenants141]

I used to feel the same way… the world is geared against me… however as I’ve gotten older… I’ve realized it’s my choice to learn about my own behaviors and patterns of…. Co-Dependency. It’s the toxic other side of the narcissist coin. It’s hard to hear that Rescuing type of people are vulnerable Narcissistic. It’s taken me many years of listening and watching videos from Richard Grannon to get this into my thick 62 year old female brain after feeling like a victim my whole childhood and adult life. When we are groomed as a child to care take… then those subconscious beliefs flood out the practical intuition of taking care of ourselves.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes, I agree.

[@cyberstorm696]

My biggest chronic pain is when i wake up to this world, again. I know how it sounds, but i don't care

[@evejames6484]

❤

[@TheWakeUpChannel]

I get it. I'm assuming most of us are in the same personality boat. We feel alone and misunderstood. If you want to talk, let me know and I'll drop you my email.

[@cyberstorm696]

@@TheWakeUpChannel it's ok, thank you. Sometimes it just hits harder

[@karenkuske5567]

Resonates.

[@karenkuske5567]

I’ve been thru the whole enchilada..chronic pain..fibromyalgia…autoimmune…spent2yrs bedridden. Burnout. Healing now. Had to separate from everything and everyone. Hard to stop putting others before myself.

[@djf8619]

I was quite young (17) when I finally realized that I was good as anyone else. But that realization comes with pushback. There will always be those who want you to feel like you are not good as everyone else. They try to manipulate you, order you around, shame you, and generally cause drama around you. And that is a huge energy drain. As Lauren said: "You always have to ask yourself. "Is that true?" "Is this necessary?" "

[@colonelgraff9198]

Chronic pain, anxiety, digestive issues/sensitivities, and insomnia. Had chronic stomach pain because I had an undiagnosed gluten intolerance.

[@KingDomsKingdom85]

I've got chronic abdominal pain and chronic Insomnia, too. Wtf!!! This is insane.

[@pattayaesl7128]

My narcissistic father and his mother who made him her son-husband tortured me since birth. Even got SA by grandma. I had horrible body pains for years. Years and years. Back ache. Shoulders. stomach ache etc. So they both died and the pain went away. Not immediately but almost. Like poof. I feel better than I ever felt in my life. Real story.

[@TheEnglishWhisperer]

I found your videos a few weeks back looking for info about intuitive writing. Now, 30 videos later, I'm convinced you're sneaking into my house at night and making videos specifically about me! 😅😂 I've seen all kinds of MBTI videos but never anything quite as specific - and quite like a handbook-guide as yours. As I watch this, I've just taken my first day off in a few weeks and exhausted myself with driven behaviours. You are doing humanity a wonderful service, thank you Lauren 😊

[@bunchhaus]

I feel the same way! 😂

[@TheWakeUpChannel]

It's easy if you're also an ifnj.

[@KingDomsKingdom85]

Insomnia seems extremely common amongst our personality type. Our brains dont shut off.

[@sanholobeats]

I would like to encourage everyone watching this video to check out a book called "The Mind Body Prescription" by Dr. Sarno. Really helped me understand my pain and it has gotten a lot better over the years! Also "The way out" by Alan Gordon is a great starting point.

[@Candyliz2003]

For me it's the act of taking the step: making the phone call; starting the project; approaching the person I need to talk to. Once I actually take the action -- I'm fine! And I'm usually very happy with my "performance". It's my procrastination/ hesitancy (fear of failure or success?) and once I've completed the task, I feel foolish for not handling it when I originally wanted to do it. Geez, it wears me out!

[@Candyliz2003]

@@evejames6484 Stoicism is one of my tools. Consider this quote from Seneca: "We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality." This is what keeps me from taking that step. And I know it. And I still hold back.😖

[@evejames6484]

@@Candyliz2003 thank you for that very insightful quote! I had to look up the definition of stoicism. I think that is an excellent quality trait, not for the faint of heart. Now, let me think about how I should organize my room and how to be successful in life, without actually doing anything about it. Lol!

[@trulymichiganaerialrandycl4873]

I find your videos quite helpful. I am self employed and work by myself. I find myself exhausted and overwhelmed often. On days I have a lot of energy, I use it to get more work done and find myself exhausted again and no energy to have fun.

[@soulsifting]

Your videos are super helpful as an infj.

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Start day with 15 minutes in the sun. Put your bare feet on the ground or grass. Eat only healthy Whole Foods. Start practicing saying “no”. It’s okay to say no. Every time you say no to someone else you say yes to you.

[@glacey4906]

We love giving... me when wonderful things or opportunities come my way I give them to others and I miss out and actually suffer. So stupid.

[@deelistdaisy]

I didn't know the term "driven behavior" and I just called it productive procrastination. I know it's not the task I need to to do, but I have to do something that seems productive for the exact reason you said: I feel insecure about my productivity

[@deelistdaisy]

While I 100% support resting and not finding self-worth solely in your productivity, I struggle because there are severe and negative consequences for respecting mental and physical needs. Couldn't stay productive enough so I had to drop out of school, too exhausted so I can't maintain regular employment, too tired to work a traditional job so I live with my mom and often have to do chores at the pace she feels is appropriate. My reality tells me that I'm not productive enough to deserve housing, food, autonomy, health care, career and education opportunities, etc

[@murarijha9576]

I most often suffer from back pain and hip pains... sciatica nerve is pressed in hip area most often when I sit on any hard surface for more than even 15 minutes.

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

I loved the description of "driven" behavior that we do to make ourselves feel like we are accomplishing something when in point of fact we are simply exhausting ourselves. I have done this so much in my life. My mom did it as well so not only is it a personality tendency but it was also learned behavior from growing up in her household. She was a traditional stay at home mom but her daily routine of house work was so rigid and scheduled that you would think she was working a high dollar corporate management job. Only after her list of things was completed could she spend a few moments in the evening to relax or to possibly work on a creative outlet like embroidery. I apparently imbibed this deeply because I have lived my life in a similar fashion except I was in a corporate environment where this "busy for busy's sake" ethos was further reinforced. I can't tell you how many times I spent hours making myself look productive after I had actually done the work I was being paid to do. It was exhausting when it really could have simply been time to relax. I am resolving to spend more time in the future simply "being" and having time for creativity and less time just running laps on the hamster wheel for no good reason except to tire myself out. Thank you Lauren!😊

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes, no matter what I do i am in some type of pain it seems.

[@kalinadesseaux8011]

Tbh I grew up in a family like this. But even from an early age, I decided to combine my 'driven behaviors' *with* my creativity. This way I avoided overwhelm, and bought back my energy and time. It's not perfect, but I'll think of a poem or song while doing dishes. It's important to rest and important to keep up on the needs, it's very important to stop and rest. But when you can't because of time constraints, allow yourself a breath, put on your favorite show while you dust. I think I've found that my *stress* levels, emotional, mental and physical, contribute most to my pain

[@jeffreypmitchell]

I believe and experience the accumulation of overwhelm as a dull pain from cognitive dissonance of the world

[@mysticat7652]

All physical pain is rooted in deep emotional pain that manifests in the body.😢

[@highparadise11]

Yea but if there’s something such as an abscess undetected that might need sorting out

[@haklin5650]

I had not understood the connection between sexual abuse and infj before. thanks

[@J23-n9d]

Stop projecting your energy outward, stop viewing things as negative or positive, and just let it be. Also, get you some gi detox, bulletproof charcoal, and innocleane and take those right before bed. Gut health is vital to your bodies wellbeing.

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Have most energy at night because you can sense the negative “rat race” energy is gone for the day.

[@probablypoetic8759]

Oh boy! As I'm walking around today with hip and back pain (recurring), I'm taking in everything you've said!😂 I'm a "must always be productive" kind of person for sure. The boundaries issues have gotten easier as I've gotten older, but they still pop up now and then. Thanks, Lauren! 😊

[@randomtripswithme]

What???!!!!! I thought it was just me!

[@aridmcb]

So affirming - thank you!

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes, it is ingrained from our culture.

[@dennisloska]

To deal with health issues: Cold exposure, cold showers, whole foods diet To deal with insomnia: Lavender, Valerian, Chamomile, no caffeine after 3pm, no screen 2hrs before sleep To deal with the ocean within: Daily routines, sport, having a life mission, Holy Basi/Tulsi, writing, crying (don't cut yourself please)

[@AndrewFlorkowski-hu3vp]

Brilliant clear and precise. 45% Chance of pains in later life, Could result from childhood Trauma. Age overuse and genetics, Diseases to play their role. Being highly sensitive and absorbent to people's dramas and negativity, It's essential to spend time alone. To reconstruct harmony every evening, Resolve emotionally. We all have the ability apparently to resolve emotionally. Put it takes time and effort. All day everyday. Exercise Yoga cycling etc ,self analysis Meditating being creative, Getting out in nature, Gardening , Getting a good night's sleep and having the right diet, et.. Have all played a huge part in habituation of physically Pain and emotionally Pain and spiritually Uplifting. Perseverance is the key, discipline. Self inquiry. Loving yourself. Equaling in postromatic growth. Still have all the aches and pains in the body.But I m not emotionally connected to them.. Sending love blessings and respect, Thank you for your KZbin. Information. Great stuff.. ♥️🙏☀️xx

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Start saying no.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes, not sure how to resolve this driven behavior entirely if i am honest.

[@jansimpson7296]

Sheesh, Lauren, I'd swear you're living in my house watching me... 🙂

[@rupinderh01]

13:15 healing

[@ace280671]

Really excellent observations on why we have pain conditions and the practical solutions for that.

[@marybethforeback9620]

So so good - thank you! ❤

[@katm2975]

Spot on! Thank you for the validation and insight. Your videos are so helpful and I appreciate you so much. THank you!

[@matthewdurkee2070]

Thank you

[@ifrahdirie3273]

I have chronic knees pain almost 8 years it goes up and down the pain I can’t tolerate stress the pain goes up when I’m emotionally stressed. and I get overwhelmed people’s emotions because I collecting peoples emotions very easily it’s so hard for me to shake me off from me the negative emotions and negative energy I’m collecting. Why it’s so hard to be infj.

[@netasil]

Thanks for this Video, I’m INFP and have been struggling with chronic hand pains for 14 years now😢 felt it’s so true the work with boundaries and consuming our energy… it’s all stress and emotional. I succeeded with meditation to reduce the level of pain and yet it’s a daily struggle. I would like to know more details about the course 🙏

[@louisegriffin6672]

IBS anyone?

[@edwardwright886]

Was wondering if many Infj's have medical issues like autoimmune diseases?

[@rupinderh01]

great video! what is the cost of the class please? thank you

[@elainevaughn218]

Thank-you for this 💜💚

[@samiraraman7084]

Ma'am can you make a video about infj and chronic fatigue

[@theprofessor00]

Great video!

[@Daviddaze]

To rest at nite, I'll use sleep tea, banana or even organic oats(pesticides bad). To rest brain in day, a five minute think rest every half hour and horizon view a few times a day🎉

[@jose11032]

Hi Lauren! I have a request for a video but first off, THANK YOU for your amazing content, im learning more about myself from 10 videos from you than in 10 years of useless therapy trying to fit me in the goddamn box! Im a fiction writer, although my adhd and infp personality type (and possibly autism as well) wants to tell me that I cant use that term since i have written on the same story for 10+ years. I finally got out of my comfortzone tgis year and started something new, and I was in love with the story for a brief moment before I went to plotting - and the rules and possibilities of “doing wrong” got me and now im stuck again. ☹️ I cant figure out if im going forward or vackwards in my process, i LOVE writing, but I also love plotting - just not writing that I plotted afterwards. Is that common? I usually write a lot of banter and dialogue and suggestions as I plot, getting ideas, but then I can’t get myself to read and sort my notes out the next day and so I start over, always trying to “hold” the structure in my head, 10+ documents with the story started over from scratch again, searching for the right writing software! I stand between thinking I’m genius in one moment to thinking I’m just a drunk monkey in the next, never finishing anything in the 37 years of my life already. Could you some day make an in-dept video about the info writer and the uncomfortable feeling of unresolved story points - or choosing/finding the right method when you need a bit more guidance (structure) to not be lost in possibilities, but also need the freedom to experience the story first hand? I want to trust the process and I sometimes do, but the problem is that I dont trust myself to find the process that works for me anymore. Im 37 yo. Thank you SO MUCH and already looking forward to more insight.

[@psychikesgefyres]

Then try hypnosis

[@psychikesgefyres]

not auto hypnosis, hypnosis with an ericksonian therapeutist

[@CHSN-1]

Wow the “drivin” behavior hits home. lol oops

[@amerubix185]

The interesting thing is I suffer from hyperacusis / misophonia and your voice is tremendously exhausting for me. I hardly succeed in listening to you. And there are two types of voices that trigger this phenomenon for me: Very high pitched voices (that you have not) and voices that sound as if you were speaking too intensively. Kind of too loud. But it doesn't help to reduce the volume here on YT. It's as if the draining thing was that you put too much energy into speaking. It feels as if you were exhausting yourself too much by "trying too hard". Like a kind of exhaustion after a long-distance run. You know that feeling as if you had run the breath out of your lungs. But on a much more subtle level. Maybe you would like to observe my observation in yourself and try a more relaxing way of speaking. And maybe if you read my comment you would also like to give me some feedback as I am truly interested in your thoughts and if you can resonate with my thoughts.

[@janetleeadams7287]

Interesting. My body is not one hundred percent perfect, but the only pain I sometimes have is when I do something physically new on the 'ranch.' BUT for as long as I remember, I always have thought I was dying of something