learning to enjoy alone time without being lonely

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[@rissamayrox]

Yessss, even when you’re in a loving partnership- it’s still important to carve out time for yourself and take yourself out on dates n such. To be able to enjoy your own company is comforting and empowering.

[@justjoelee]

so important!

[@LeahandLevi]

I really struggle being alone. I never really had my own space because I’ve always lived with roommates or partners. I think I need to work on this…

[@justjoelee]

yes! you're your own person ✌🏼

[@mwaters5134]

@@justjoelee And if not for you, then for who?!

[@lemonjuice6715]

@@mwaters5134 for me ;-;

[@patrickf3119]

For me this has become very hard to do. 2.5 months ago my husband died. We were together for 24 years. It is so painful to be alone and know that he will never be by my side again.

[@justjoelee]

so sorry to hear that Patrick ❤️

[@kathleenaberley8752]

@Patrick F so sorry for your loss. That's a completely different kind of lonely. Hugs to you.

[@hanifah3053]

So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be feeling rn. He has been a more peaceful place right now. Be strong Patrick❤

[@Li-gk7hq]

Almost cry when I saw this comment. I hope you can get over with it smoothly.

[@kathleenaberley8752]

I've been single again for about 3 years after a long term relationship ended. Initially my son (33) and Dilly, (daughter-in-law 41) used to drag me along to outings because they didn't want me to be lonely. I've been more lonely in a room full of people than on my own! It took them a while to realize that I enjoy my own company and have seen by my flourishing hobbies, that I'm okay with being on my own. I do truly appreciate their love & support and now they accept that when I turn down an invitation, it's because I'm okay and not hiding under the duvet in a state of despair 😊

[@joebeck0]

Your videos are insanely refreshing man, I've been struggling a bit recently with overcoming what I guess would be a self diagnosed eating disorder and obsessively tracking macros etc to the point where it was/has controlled my life. Watching your videos and reminding myself the simplicities of life and seeing you just talk and be you has really helped me. I still very much like fitness and am always interested in other peoples routines, but moving away from the mindset of "you have to do this this this when you workout, do this much cardio etc" to just working out and eating healthy (most of the time) helps put my mind at ease.

[@justjoelee]

you've got this ❤️

[@anthonymb6356]

"Most of the time not talking to anybody" Jasper : Am I a joke ? 👁👅👁

[@reeseanderson4432]

Okay but Joe is looking HAWT 🥵 Ryan's a lucky guy.

[@desireandfire]

Both of them hot as hell

[@Madillusionist]

It took me awhile to come to terms with loneliness. It is surprisingly how little we talk about it and because we don't talk about it, we don't know that it is normal to feel lonely. And it is only made worse when we see happy couples on social media. So glad you are talking about this despite being in a relationship.

[@sbjn8862]

I just finished studying for 6 hours, this is exactly what i need yayyy

[@justjoelee]

amazing!

[@meganobrien9520]

I'm a pretty strong introvert, but after having a tough year last year and having to live alone and only see people outside (Canadian winters aren't the most forgiving for that) I'm having to learn not to be afraid of being alone now. It's a long, difficult process, but we're getting there!

[@LaurenMah]

I was just talking about loneliness with my family, this couldn't have come at a better time :) Already looking forward to next week's vlog!!

[@justjoelee]

perfect timing!

[@slvcons7745]

i 100% feel the "parents abhor tattoos" one, i've been wanting at least one for YEARS, but at the same time i want to keep the good relationship i have with them, SIGH

[@slvcons7745]

also, amazing video!

[@kristianaldrin]

The honesty in this video is great Joe 🤓 your videos are inspiring ✌🏽

[@justjoelee]

thanks for the support!

[@terrylampard3892]

You’re right I often have alone time, my housemate works weekends, I can go through the whole day without actually speaking to anyone, but it’s ok it’s my time, but like yourself you get through it and it’s fine, great vlog 👍 have a good weekend you guys.

[@justjoelee]

definitely!

[@kenneythekoala]

I love having ryan around, but getting to see videos of just you doin you is so relaxing and reassuring. i think we are all dealing with being alone so its encouraging that youve found a way to be at peace with it

[@soulpotaetoe2726]

THANK YOU SO MUCH JOE!! ♡ I NEEDED THIS I MEAN WE ALL NEEDED THIS ♡

[@justjoelee]

MY PLEASURE ❤️

[@tjayeperry9597]

Haven't even started and already know it going to be a good one. Coffee, candles lit, and favorite breakfast! Let's go!!!

[@justjoelee]

enjoy!

[@bradleyf3224]

Love the piercings! Good choice. Best line..."What's one more disappointment?" Jasper is THE coolest pooch in the NW.

[@sarahbell7513]

When I feel lonely, I try to imagine or be with the part of me that feels lonely. I find music helps, or if there's music that sort of allows space to be around the loneliness it can be very comforting. Thanks for the vid Joe! Love your dog.

[@chenwater923]

I am 22 and I really like being alone so I have never been in relationship with anyone.

[@lara.genevieve_9416]

Awesome video Joe, I also struggle with being alone and the persistent loneliness, but I've learned how to be comfortable enough to go to movies and restaurants etc by myself, which makes things easier! The independence fosters confidence, I think :) That lunch you had post-haircut looked amazing too, we're coming into Spring here in Australia so definitely wrong food for our weather but damn it looked good! 🍜

[@tanzanable]

Because I pray regularly I'm never alone. I just feel God's presence. I feel it all around me in the beauty of nature and the world. Part of BLS is gratitude for all the gifts we all have.

[@derekkeller3017]

I loved this video, super glad I found your channel. My partner just started med school and we used to spend all our time together, being alone for the first few weeks he was in school was rough but so much better now. Also, digging the new piercings and leg art!

[@jonahfurrer9449]

Starting off with the poetry!! Let’s see what this takes us to next😂

[@justjoelee]

was in a silly goofy artistic mood 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@sussycatto30]

The title : exist Me an introvert : hmm I wonder As an introvert , I appreciate my time alone very very much , not that I hate people , it's just it took a lot of energy to just be 'friendly' and speak to people , so I need to recharge a lot by being alone , that's why I appreciate my time alone.. for me I don't need to go outside and make hundreds of friends just to be complete , for me I just need myself , family , siblings and few close besties

[@matthewmaclellan]

really loved this video. i'm living alone for the first time AND i work as a freelancer from home, so hit all the feels.

[@skyies_angel]

I just got into college at the age of not yet 18, and I’m feeling so lonely. Your video couldn’t come at a better time, thank you!

[@roi_k]

Honestly thank you so much for this video! I’ve always believed you can be alone without being lonely but I oftentimes fail to achieve that myself.

[@justjoelee]

thanks for watching! hope it was helpful

[@HuyLe-sx2fp]

What the :))) dude i was asking for this kind of video and suddenly yours popped up. Thank you!

[@justjoelee]

Hope you enjoyed it!

[@isabelle9004]

loved the video Joe! And honestly, such simple yet good advice in this one! take care:)

[@day2765]

how do you always post the shit i need to hear when i need it the most😐 been feeling alienated being a prairie native in ontario and once againnnn your content has changed my mindset

[@harleybiala]

2:41-2:45 hahahahahahahhaha. You’re so funny, Joe!

[@shadownor]

being alone during the pandemic has changed me. I write software for a living and sometimes in my online meetings my voice is clouded with phlegm because just then I realized that I havent spoken to another human being for days.

[@KhaalidPeters24]

I have that problem still !!! My constant worry on how people perceive me. Something I definitely need to work on. I can definitely relate. Thanks 👍

[@shadownor]

Joe you could never be a disappointment to any parent, but I felt the same way though

[@SR-ji3ip]

I love this video, it really inspires me to take care of myself! 💛

[@yamimana9918]

One of my problems is that reading a lot is part of my job but also my favourite hobby... Seperating the two is really hard. The amount of times I thought exactly what you said "Oh I could do more work"... I feel called out now. I think I might get into drawing. Your pictures look really nice. So does your food. I need to find a store that has veggie dumplings. Anyway, great video! I think it was a really good topic to talk about.

[@KellyLvChai]

Thank you for this video... Needed this today

[@isaacvisoutsy4121]

Thanks for this video Joe💕 working on self love currently and your videos are such a pretty good inspo.

[@luckywaddles]

Great video! I was already a guy who spent a lot of his time alone, but with the job going remote, things got pretty depressing for a while. But therapy helped give me a new perspective and now I'm on my Keanu Reeves shit, taking myself out on dates and being super grateful for the alone time.

[@justjoelee]

that's amazing!

[@lman5637]

What's one more disappointment - be your authentic self we love to see it Joe!!

[@justjoelee]

exactly!

[@soulpotaetoe2726]

Joe is the friend we all need ♡

[@jscraps08]

Learning to be alone was one of the hardest things for me to learn but now I love it!! Now when I’m hoeing around I rather be alone than tied down for now haha

[@KhoaSinclair]

Omg watching you paint was soooo cute

[@duhnelskie9782]

I begun being alone when the pandemic start. I'm starting to love it. It realy does feel like a luxury. Imagine, ll time for yourself.

[@justjoelee]

yes! so much time to focus and work on yourself!

[@sbjn8862]

Oooo that new haircut tho! When i first saw you having a problem with your sideburn sticking out i wondered why you didn't just shave it. I'm glad you did because you look bomb! The earrings and tattoos are nice too 👌

[@justjoelee]

thank you! it's just that keeping it short requires biweekly hair cuts haha

[@youngbossdaily3986]

I love how you give wisdom. Very useful and they really hit a chord in us. More vids like this please ♥️

[@johnley.youtube]

The haircut/perm looks so amazing. Thank you for the amazing tips man!

[@torontovolger3836]

My self I have my own apartment now I do love alone time living in Toronto I can always go out too a coffee shop or pub to be around people ☺️

[@mrislanboii]

I really love winding down to your vlogs... your very inspiring, and your vlogs are relaxing after a long day at working at the hospital.

[@justjoelee]

thanks for the support!

[@cayl0]

Wow this video came out at exactly the right time for me. I was feeling pretty alone this week even though I was going out with friends.

[@alleycat1387]

Great advice and words of wisdom!

[@WillBowers]

needed this one rn Joe, its like you posted a video directly angled at me. also unrelated but what hoodie are you wearing in this video? much love man

[@jkane3048]

Joe , thank you so much for you're content. I'm a new subscriber so I've been watching you're older videos but I love you're overall outlook on life and the positivity that flows from within you. Thanks again for everything you do. I feel inspired to be the best me I can be 🙂

[@miguellehman6951]

Loved this vlog Joe and I appreciate what you say as I live alone but am not lonely..I dont have a jasper either. I find lots to occupy my time and go walking for exercise..we are still in a form of covid lockdown..so my contact with you is important. You are very lucky to have Ryan and Jasper as companions when you are not alone. Lol xxxxx

[@justnmai]

Great look with the earrings Joe! I'm thinking of getting something similar. By any chance would you know the make of your diamond studs? E.g., 0.25 carat in 3-prong martini? Thanks!

[@mariagiuliadavignon]

Loved the new hair and piercings, you go Joe! Great video, loved the snippets of recipes you put there, even though they're simple it motivates me to cook more, seeing how simple it is, if that makes sense? Hahah.😂😂😂

[@kioshekat7931]

I suddenly went from seeing my partner from all the time to every weekend to now not for a while due to work and funds issues. It's weird to adjust to cuz now the cats are at their place. This video was nice help

[@justjoelee]

sorry to hear that, hope this video helped a bit ❤️

[@justinciaramellano6249]

I think the studs looks really good on you! Rock it!

[@NeurospicyTaco]

Hey. Just an FYI. It kinda looks like you got your piercings done with a piercing gun so be very aware of infections if that’s what you did. Hard to tell lol. There’s no real way to clean those and it’s a puncture wound vs an incision like with a tattoo shop needle which is also more sanitary. Just be mindful.

[@NeurospicyTaco]

The studs look great tho!

[@justjoelee]

thanks for the tips!

[@Scottee08]

I’m so proud of myself for learning how to make Korean Soybean paste stew. Thank you Joe😄

[@jahanas22]

I enjoy solitude. I find a don’t get lonely easy. I enjoy my own company.

[@atonba]

Love those studs and tats! Love watching you grow!

[@meangyu9377]

Ive been binge watching ur videos.🤣💓

[@mixterdee]

💙💙💙💙💙 2:42 Live your best life!!!. 👍👍👍👍👍 4:25 For some reason I thought you already had tats. But those are great starting pieces. That hoodie is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 5:55 I’m curious if you could consume junk food for 1 day. What would you eat? ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 14:27 I am here for this new art Joe! I hope you frame and hand some of your art. 17:13 👀👀👀 Giving us Korean Boy Band look! 😁😁😁😁 Great Video!

[@davidwave4]

The earrings and the tattoos are so cute!

[@jamesh7959]

Loving the new ear piercing, hair cut and the lunch looks absolutely delicious! xx

[@anthonymb6356]

The earrings looks amazing !

[@funkypunker159]

Basically, introverts are recharged when alone than being around with people

[@geckoxs1071]

Hahahaha....that one got me like...falling of my bed. "I came out as 💅 so What's one more disappointment 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

[@pantallazopatucaso]

I isolated myself(don't do it plz, sadness and anxiety hit me really hard) last year so I'm OK with it

[@diangelo3329]

Hey man, I loved it, your ear pierced got pretty nice

[@ethan_b]

haircut looks so fresh !!

[@SeanShimamoto]

I got my first tattoo 27 years ago and it was just my last name, 島本, and they were just two 1 inch characters. My grandma saw my tiny tattoo on the lateral aspect of right deltoid and she asked me, “Are you in the yakuza now?!?” It’s probably a good thing she’s gone now ‘cause she’d probably hate that I’m covered in tatts, and my missing finger! LOL. Kidding about the missing finger, if you’ve ever seen a yakuza member, a lot of them are missing a finger as punishment.

[@justjoelee]

haha that's amazing

[@juliendark4208]

Love your content my dude

[@mwaters5134]

Lookin' great, Joe!!! Perfect haircut for you. . .everything is hittin'. :D

[@angeloaguilera1459]

02:44 😂😂😂

[@arellyramirez5443]

You see this video was named for me😤🙌

[@justjoelee]

hope it's helpful!

[@jonathanrios3214]

Is your sweatshirt from your BLS collection? It looks comfortable haha

[@anichi883]

I got my ears pierced and it was a weird confidence boost and idky

[@ndawon1]

The piercings look SOOO good

[@tammy-vl5if]

Honestly, where did y'all both meet for the first time. Like I can die peacefully after this😭😭

[@Carlossvm]

I needed this.

[@justjoelee]

amazing ❤️

[@williamm8240]

Thesaurus: Alone- unattended, unchaperoned, forlorn, friendless, cloistered, insulated, remote, secluded, withdrawn, quarantined, segregated, unattached............etc, etc, etc.

[@blueberl]

oOoOooohhh where is your dining table/chairs from?! have been looking for something similar!!! love the tatts btw

[@andreareyes9256]

Lateral aspect of the quad 😂 You know you studied kin when...

[@Tifferia]

Joe, you look even more handsome with the ear piercings. What do your tattoos mean? Do they have a meaning?

[@justjoelee]

thank you! no meaning, just looks nice haha

[@BaDazai]

Looove the new haircut 👌🏾

[@rumaemaro4526]

And thus, my Sunday is complete.

[@justjoelee]

thanks for watching!

[@yida]

thank you

[@chelinemagsano6185]

Where can i find all the skincare products you use?

[@pamsadino1463]

Hi joe whats the meaning behind your tattoos? Thank you much appreciated.

[@chelinemagsano6185]

Do you wash the kitchenwares right after cooking or while cooking? I don't have a dishwasher and I'm getting tired of washing them all the time 🤧

[@rubenboycst]

Being alone is not easy for me. I hate it. I even tried a polygamous relationship (me having two bfs) to avoid being alone. Little did I know that I am just scared of being myself. Need to work on this!

[@ZrohTempezz]

drop the skin care routine sis

[@tomaszberanczykowski5291]

really nice earrings and tattoo, it really matches you :)

[@nerchithecat]

wow, just wow, Mr. Lee

[@justjoelee]

is this a good wow? haha

[@stephenwallace2748]

Tattoo looks great! Love it! Pierced ears on you are awesome.

[@Gabofele_Nthwane]

Just have to find a way of keeping yourself busy

[@007vicomte]

Looooooooove it