Lessons From a BRUTAL Divorce & Why Men Must Learn When To Surrender.

This video brings several lessons from the divorce grinder that young men should be aware of, and why divorced dads need to surrender to their reality post divorce.
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[@Ricky.Ricardo]

Just bought it, I just graduated from Georgia Tech and I WILL NOT put myself in any position like this.

[@ROMAN-oy5ju]

I read the book today. I highly recommend it. Don't skimp, grab a copy, it can save you years of bullshit.

[@gial8862]

Which video on your channel goes over the 8.3 years marriage stat where only ~3% are still in bliss? I’d love to know more. thanks! 😊

[@deangeloellis6910]

You and Kevin Samuels need to collaborate.

[@muskokamike127]

I read a stat not long ago that sole custody is given to the woman something like 92% of the time. ALTHOUGH in some places in the states, judges are now awarding joint custody and the women are freaking out over it. Even in the UK and that was a shocker. An article was written "whoa is me" all these mothers losing 100% custody of their kids. Even Brad Pitt finally won his suit to get 50/50 with his kids and the article was written "a loss for Angelina"......

[@LivingALifeOfAbundance]

My dad once told me that when you marry a woman she will spend the next 25 years trying to change you into somebody else. Then she will turn around and say you are not the man I married.

[@blazecosko7506]

The burden of performance will always be on men. I’m fine with that though. Imagine your entire value being 95% dependent on how you look if you were a woman, fuck dat.

[@bobmcgehee1749]

Your Dad was right too.

[@adamrocks19]

Who doesn’t want to be with someone who constantly shit tests you every day to prove your worth to her? Never having a moments peace as you constantly have to achieve, achieve, achieve! Does she have to prove herself? Nah, she just shows up and prepares to be catered to. Yea, no thanks.

[@BOG0690]

@@blazecosko7506 Then forget all that equality bull. 95% of the burden - 95% of the say in any and all matters

[@blazecosko7506]

@@BOG0690 Agreed. I genuinely think men can win in the long run, it just requires the work to be put in. It needs to be earned and proven.

[@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC]

I'm a Divorce Attorney, and I can tell you that it is a WILD world out there right now. This pandemic brought out a whole new level of crazy!

[@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC]

@Reaction Diaries I don't know if the laws in Germany are as permissible as the laws in the U.S. when it comes to marriage, property, and children. It's not that they're bad, its just that they're wild. They don't call it the Wild Wild West for nothing! :)

[@TheMainMan364]

@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC what Should men do to protect themselves during a marriage? Do prenups work etc?

[@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC]

@@TheMainMan364 Prenups are helpful to set/deny alimony and confirm the division of property, but are worthless for child support, custody, and visitation. If I had ONE piece of advice to give to Dads, it would be to stay VERY involved in the primary caretaking of the child, and to DOCUMENT the involvement. (selfies of "look at me changing this diaper/feeding/bathing" goes far) This will prevent the Mom from denying that Dad has been involved.

[@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC]

@@johnsmith2221 well, custody decisions involve a lot more than just changing school districts. However, ALL other things being equal, the Courts tend to lean towards routine and stability for children.

[@TheMainMan364]

@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC hey man real question. Why do women get custody more? If it’s for the best interest of the child, shouldn’t father get more custody because of money reasons?

[@grndiesel]

"Not every woman would, but any woman can." I will never stop saying that and neither should any of you.

[@aut3ntik044]

Facts

[@aylix2137]

that's the same thing they say about men and the dreaded 'r' word. It's a generalized statement, and I don't think it helps reconcile the sexes any more than their claim does.

[@stevet6665]

@@aylix2137 - I think the big difference is that a very, very small percentage of men are guilty of the "r" word, but 50% of marriages end in divorce. It's not extremely unlikely that any married man who has kids will end up in a miserable situation. Rich and a lot of other guys who comment here just want other men (especially younger ones) to not have the attitude that, "this is terrible, but it will never happen to me."

[@aylix2137]

@@stevet6665 this is true, and a short, quick statement told to young and/or wary men should reflect that difference. Changing it to say "not all women would, but society and the law is encouraging all women to do so" imo is more representative of the problem. And no one could, without betraying total ignorance or lying through their teeth, say that that is true of how society views the violation of 'r'.

[@stevet6665]

@@aylix2137 - I completely agree.

[@lawsonj39]

After my divorce and my wife started trying to cut off my access to my son, I was glad I'd read Mao Zedong's essay "On Protracted War." I determined to stay in my son's life in spite of really difficult odds. And it worked. I had to spend a lot more hours in court than I ever dreamed I would, but eventually she wore down, and now, 25 years later, my son and I have a wonderful, close relationship. It can be done.

[@sandlerfrancois666]

Thanks John. I needed to read this. Thanks Brother. God Bless.

[@futureisyours3016]

Thanks Sir, Im trying my best to be with my daughters.

[@shadowtail4063]

Doing the same with my daughters

[@felixt1470]

Being of Chinese descent I regard Mao on par with the likes of Stalin and Hitler. Kind of peculiar to think he has anything meaningful to say in this topic.

[@MikoDnst]

@@felixt1470 terrible person still can be objectively good strategist, decent philosopher, or at least can give some useful advice about daily life

[@jasonboughen9542]

Great tip. Don’t sulk. I wasted 5 years of my life in depression. Mind you my kids were being abused and was helpless to do anything about it until the courts had at least 10 police reports documented. Time is precious. Accept your situation. Make the most of it.

[@johne.6547]

Kevin from Sales & Steve from accounting are undefeated. Act accordingly.

[@MR_Wild]

Wonder if they work for Rich🤔

[@mattlofty5884]

Just got back from the boozer after A decent night with the boys ( entry level week day 3/4 pints ) this odd little community makes me laugh the hardest though , such a funny comment

[@stevek3859]

Hi I'm Steve 🍆

[@johne.6547]

@@mattlofty5884 lol Legit no Joke I work in accounting future CPA here but im not Steve. Glad you cracked one

[@ramblincapuchin9075]

What about, Jake from state farms?

[@BamBamBigelow..]

I have had my share of bad breakups but the fear of divorce has kept me from ever getting married. I hope this guy keeps his sanity through all of this.

[@lucascoelho1995]

Same here

[@Ur2ez4me81]

Good don’t do it it is a nightmare

[@boothwodensen4897]

One piece of advice I ignored but now live by - "Never marry someone you wouldn't want go through a divorce with". My ex was a lamb in the beginning, a wolf in sheeps clothing during the marriage, and a rabid, hungry wolf bent on destroying every part of me after she knew I wanted out.

[@HenrySomeone]

But this is the problem - if she was a true lamb in the beginning, you couldn't have possibly seen this coming. Best advice for men today is to never get married at all. Even if they want children, there are better alternatives.

[@georgesontag2192]

All women turn greedy in a divorce. Don't expect her to be fair, she wants 95% of the marital assests.

[@neomacchio4692]

@@HenrySomeonexactly! You’re always dating the “representative” in the beginning. So now I keep it that way… dating eternally. If the wolf comes out, I change the locks… BYE! Easy peasy

[@HenrySomeone]

@@neomacchio4692 Precisely. Sure, if most men started to adopt this approach (which they should for their own good!), it doesn't exactly spell bright future for the society, but we're not to blame here.

[@peteroneil3639]

lol !! funny.

[@MrSmith-on1qz]

I’m divorced with 3 kids. I’ve been through it all. Lawyer bills, CS, alimony. I studied the law extensively and I’m well educated. blah blah blah. At the end of the day, The only thing that men can do to make things better for the future is to teach the young men around you to never marry or have children. Avoid the system entirely.

[@TomNook.]

But you do pay.... Single men have the biggest ratio in paying the most and taking the least in welfare.

[@johnjay6370]

@@TomNook. Good!! Single MEN should never be on welfare!! Single men should be strong, smart, and well educated. They can work any job and can always improve!! 99.9% of single men have no excuse to not be successful!!!! If a single man is not working he is most likely mentally ill, or has a medical condition that makes it so he can not work! Those are the exception not the norm!!!

[@gottspeed3914]

Getting married is ridiculous but not having kids is the biggest bitch move in the world. Don’t let “them” take that from you.

[@MrSmith-on1qz]

@@TomNook. I concur, they will tax single men to pay for everyone else’s mistakes. Get a passport and check out nomad capitalist’s channel.

[@MrSmith-on1qz]

@@gottspeed3914 LOL have you ever had to deal with a child support agency and/or been on the receiving end of the penalties for failure to pay? Be honest.

[@alexacosta2140]

I just wanna say I’m grateful for this channel, I’m 22 years old and never really struggled with women for most of my life, but it’s apparent to me now more than ever that women are literally adult children who bring very little to the table apart from sex and occasionally friendship. Channels like these are a godsend in today’s world where any valid criticism towards women is met with backlash.

[@hardwork2666]

You are very wise for such young age, don't get married unless you have a good prenup!!! Once a new man comes into their life , they will take everything they can from you before they go on to the next!!!

[@mansoor-martyhassan9206]

Good for you.... I wish had someone telling me this when I was 22.. It's just what laws are designed that way... which made woman to go crazy on that cake.. So watch out and be very very careful..

[@HenrySomeone]

@@hardwork2666 No prenup is good enough to make marriage worth it and that's if the wife doesn't manage to get it thrown out in court.

[@-MakeItGood-]

I can give you some tenets to live by when you do find a woman. Never let her talk down to you, when it eventually happens you don’t argue or even say anything just let her be abusive and take a walk. Never I mean NEVER show weakness in emotion, it’s the same as her being masculine it’s a big turn off so save it for make friends. Never invest more in her than yourself because if she sees you not valuing yourself she will see no value in you. And yes I’ve made all these mistakes😂

[@ralphcoccio3799]

Great advice Richard. I went through a divorce 10 years ago at that the time my girls were 8 and 11. They sided with Mom and actually treated me quite badly. I realize they were just kids and going through a hard time. My first Christmas without them I ate dinner in my car outside a convenience store in the cold and snow. I contemplated suicide. Stay strong brother, good times are ahead. I made every decision with their best interest in mind. Now they're 18 and 21 and we have an amazing relationship. They like spending time with me, I'm a big influence in their life. They turned out to be amazing young women. Hang in there do the right thing for your children. When they grow up and can think for themselves things will be different.

[@karlbale3980]

Your story is similar to mine, I've been struggling very much, is now 7months without my family (one boy 5 years old) I am thinking of ending my life, with a hard depression, but now I read your story, I think I have hope for improve, thanks for sharing...💪😇

[@ralphcoccio3799]

Kala Bala, surround yourself with positive like minded people. If you are thinking bad thoughts reach out for support. I will be praying for you.

[@beforethelawstandsadoorkee7904]

My husband is going through this with his young adult daughter. He was domestically abused by the mother- not just his words it’s been verified by everyone even their mutual friends. He’s a massive guy but never hit back because he’s very old fashioned. The train wreck of a mother never took the daughter anywhere, it was always dad going to birthday parties, theme parks and school events. They had a very close bond but when he dared to walk away after the drunken ex clawed his face off she has taken the mother’s side. Both the daughter and mother only ever get in touch to verbally abuse him and demand thousands that he apparently ‘owes’ them. Don’t underestimate how well a woman can manipulate her kids to hate you.

[@ralphcoccio3799]

Destination money I'm sorry your husband is dealing with this situation. it's sad how an ex can poison their children with lies. she's probably mad that he found a better woman. continue to do everything in the best interest of his daughter and someday she will see the truth. God bless the both of you.

[@beforethelawstandsadoorkee7904]

@@ralphcoccio3799 to be honest, I used to encourage a relationship between them, ask if he wanted me to get her gifts etc and encourage him to check up on her. Her last message, however, I don’t even mention her anymore. She threatened to report her dad to the inland revenue (IRS in USA) for ‘fraud’ and tax evasion. He runs his own sawmill and there’s a lot of cash involved but pays his dues. His replies to her are so bloody simpy (hence why I’m on this channel as a woman). He never loses his temper or gives her boundaries just basically begs to be in her life. Hopefully I can get some good advice here and subtly suggest it to him.

[@greatlakes4753]

I just had a buddy ask me to be in his wedding a week ago. I have already been in 10 weddings and 7 ended up in disaster. I'm seriously considering not showing up because this one is gonna be worse than the other ones I've been in.

[@missioncontrol2881]

Well, save him then, nitwit! What's the point of learning the trajectory if us men are going to encourage this behavior?

[@greatlakes4753]

@@missioncontrol2881 Point well taken. I've been trying my ass off to do just that but I can't seem to connect with him.

[@Ryan-ec6gq]

@@missioncontrol2881 save him? Lol good luck with that. If there’s already a wedding date he’s in too deep.

[@missioncontrol2881]

@@greatlakes4753 Respect

[@AbdulKareem-uy6hk]

@@Ryan-ec6gq , lol....

[@UnwanaUdoh]

You're spot on, I relate to this. I was married for 23 years and same thing happened to me. Got divorced 2 years ago, lost everything and starting all over again financially. Thanks for sharing this 🙏

[@AfroMedic]

what did you lose can you put it in numbers if you can? I really want to get a full picture since I understand things in numbers more.

[@rickstevenson267]

If you don't mind me asking did you have a prenup? So sorry to hear that

[@menguardingtheirownwallets6791]

Imagine where it has been the tradition for a young man to run across a field to get to the other side. After doing that, he is classified as a man. In the 1940s, the government starts to place active land mines in that field (family court). Each year more and more mines. Now it is impossible to get across without being blown up. Would you follow 'tradition'?

[@misterk7970]

What a great analogy!

[@OverTaking-Is-Allowed]

Savage analogy lol. Love it.

[@mikerinaldi4836]

This video is gold, hit home on so many levels. 10 yrs marriage, 3 kids and now at the end of this divorce, which I have a pre-nup, thank God. The video tells the FACTS about what happens when you have kids with an X-wife. This women is basically playing the EXACT game leverage with the kids. I am paying full child support according to NY law and she still is trying to restrict my access to my kids. I am in a custody issue where I want to see my kids every other weekend and a couple of nights during the week, which the court will most likely grant, but the kicker is my wife brainwashed my kids (10, 8, and 5) to only want to see me on Saturdays, one night a week. These kids Iam extremely close to from day 1, which I even cut the cord on all of them. I was always a good father, living for my kids and did nothing but good for them always and now this is the only way she can hurt me, is through this manipulation.I recently did exactly what Rich says .. I came to this reality that this is what it is. Its a hard pill to swallow to surrender when you are in this type of situation, but really you have no choice. So now, I see my kids one day out of the week, not even for a sleep over night because this is "what they want". I am not going to force my kids to be with me, she won this battle, but be sure, I will win the war in the end. She is giving me the time to evolve myself past this situation to the point where she won't even know who I am anymore. The new chapter starts now.

[@ruanorafa]

How’s ur new life? Still see ur kids once a week?

[@FWCaptain-kv6sm]

@@ruanorafa no way he's onto the next wife with more kids

[@jasoncummings7052]

Life is hard for both Men and Women. However when you have mountains of legislations shielding women from accountability by rewarding them for their failures marriage becomes a landslide defeat for men.

[@kujo8509]

My almost 32 and never been married, and I have never seen a marriage that made me want to get married. I have saved up a lot of money and I'm free to do what I want and I have time for myself. I have been in relationships in the past and I am glad that I saw the light of how disposable we are to women and how they constantly lie to us. I'm a good guy so the chances of me getting divorce are high. Thinking about the state of men and marriage makes me feel like a runaway fugitive trying to escape the social norms of submitting to the governmental institution of marriage (indentured servitude).

[@someguy53299]

All of this shit honestly makes me wonder what the point of even trying is. I dont want my life to be a repeat of this guys or any of the other countless guys that have suffered through this nightmare.

[@diapersFTMFW11]

You can still have relationships and marriage... just no civil union or legal marriage. Strictly ceremonial with the state uninvolved. If she won't agree to that you know there's an ulterior motive

[@wanderingdoc5075]

@OrganicOrganist No, if you stay in Poland, Taiwan, or Japan, not only are the women traditional, the West laws don't apply should it go south.

[@persona-non-grata]

*This is a tricky situation* . I've seen men marry Asian or Eastern European women and it turns out OK. I've also seen men (particularly in the U.S. Military) bring a 'traditional Asian woman' back to the U.S. with them for marriage after a deployment, and she eventually became fem-in-ized and divorced him after a few years. She got cash, prizes, citizenship, and the kids on the way out -- and all that was left of the husband is a smoking crater. *Bottom line is* -- Don't sign the marriage contract, ever. Commit long term if you want, but make sure to thoroughly vet her by seeing if she consistently exudes traditional values. Do not involve the state.

[@alfredneuman7665]

@@diapersFTMFW11 nope, common law marriage

[@wanderingdoc5075]

@@persona-non-grata Who said anything about marriage and bringing them back to the US. I'm talking about having girlfriends and staying overseas. I have several and they are fiercely loyal. Baby the heck out of me. They are free to cheat but choose not to. As yes, Asian woman are traditional and submit to their man. Not my fault all you guys have access to are masculine overweight entitled American girls.

[@tonyoleary236]

Been through a bad divorce. This is very true what he is saying.. Any young guy who thinks this mess can’t happen to him is delusional.

[@joeplem5329]

I thank God EVERY day I didn't get my ex-wife pregnant, or any other women for that matter. Devastated at the time till I learned about female nature now after being single for almost 5 years now never been happier

[@Mrhdigital3791]

Joe Plem I thank god every single day as well brother. Dated 3 different girls in the past 10 years, and thank GOD a child didn’t come out of it.

[@stevensantana8049]

I'm 50 years old going on 51 never been married nor never had kids thank God 🙏 I don't have to go through that.. been taking pictures and riding my bike 🚲 now that's freedom..

[@markokrasinski8033]

Listen to this man!! I am still living it my son is 42 and blames me for exactly these reasons. Years of her trashing me.

[@Stanthemilkman]

Just had a phone arguement with my ex wife. About money. I'm miserable. Only happened a couple of months ago. Work in the mines. It is difficult. I'm never doing this again.

[@Stanthemilkman]

But was miserable with her so......yeah. luckily didnt buy a house together but do have a daughter together.

[@k-ondoomer]

Lol as a steel worker I can relate to the physical struggle

[@nopalerable]

Thank God I learned the best moment to give up; before proposing. And lately, before dating.

[@jamesd4013]

Should be labeled... “MOST Father’s Divorce Nightmare”

[@TransparentUtoptia]

Cold truth bombs for sure. 8 years now since the split, one daughter in the middle, $200k later at 50/50, settled and no more lawyer (at least for me) and then she attacks again, now back to every other weekend. The lady I was with a year after the split recommended surrendering, and letting my daughter sort things out in her teens and decide who she wants to be with etc. Was at $25k in attorney fee's at that time and thought that was a lot, little did I know. The good news is, new wife, new life, new beautiful baby boy with a wonderful women. Toughest life experience I've had to date, but pales in comparison to other peoples problems, so blessed in that regard. Stay honest to yourself, think before you speak, it all works out in the end, God has a plan eh!

[@TheTradosaurus]

So you didn’t learn your lesson?

[@thomaslandry1215]

People including women judge me for being a 36 year old man who has never been married and has never had any children. After watching this I feel a lot better about myself.

[@antoniobattle2036]

Stay true to your purpose brother and stay away from marriage and family court the experience is overwhelming overrated .

[@guntergd3260]

Me too , this is a blessing indeed👍

[@thomaslandry1215]

I appreciate the comments. It’s kinda lonely

[@chaos4living676]

32 and in the same boat as you and even luckier since I'm also still a virgin, now I am a great wizard.

[@thomaslandry1215]

@@chaos4living676 good for you man I respect that a lot

[@propertypawel3383]

This channel is excellent to a point when I am even feeling that it is even better than a book when book is great as well. Anyone else had this feeling? Thanks for your hard work Rich keep it going, you have saved lots of men.

[@jerichofawkes1911]

Sounds very familiar. I gave up a lot to try and make my ex wife happy and she met some guy at work and starting sleeping with him. Her entire routine and attitude changed towards me and our kids. She made it seem like it was all my fault. I wanted to “work” things out because I loved her. Well, she wanted a divorce and wanted out asap. She ended up marrying the guy and became a terrible mother to our kids (put the guy’s kids first) and did yard work while he was inside watching television. Well, he ended up cheating on her and left her for another woman. Karma right there…

[@Ur2ez4me81]

Good she deserved it

[@peaceandlove8218]

Gave up a lot isn’t even half the story for me, 26 years, more than half my lifetime (I’m 48). I’m currently experiencing the first stages, where the woman meets other men, it’s tough because you love them, hurts bad as hell. I’m toughing out with the help of my daughter and son somehow. All I can say is, pray for me!!! I’m trying!!!

[@dr.manhattan4537]

I wouldn't be shocked either as the kids get older and his ex-wife tells her kids what a horrible man their dad was and is.

[@forthepeoplebythepeople7499]

Yep

[@prrsd4046]

Good friends wife trashed him to the kids for years. Took the kids awhile to realize she was crazy.

[@scotttracy9333]

For sure. But one day when kids are grown enough they will see the reality

[@dustinfrost7160]

You hit the nail on the head! I have a story similar to this, and best thing to do in find yourself again. Kids are more resilient than you think. My best advice I can add is difficult to hear, but never talk bad about your ex. Do not praise her, and do not dog her. Just keep being and improving you and your personal relationship with you child or children. After 7 years of being divorced, my son is starting to see the truth about the situation and is coming to his own, correct, conclusions.

[@carl5438]

Yep. My Son (31) realized his Mom is an irresponsible jerk all by himself.

[@jendrizzyy]

Thank you for covering the point on molestation. More men and women should think about those facts when choosing a partner.

[@g-man2507]

"Simping of biblical proportions" - that nails it.

[@JABINVA]

Many times her listing off your flaws or faults is done to alleviate her guilt and validate her abandoning the marriage and/or cheating.

[@Ur2ez4me81]

100% correct. Mine lashed out on me this one night out of the blue & I was like 😳

[@robertblake9892]

My observation-FWIWis that divorced fathers quickly become ex-fathers, I have seen that studies that show that fully 50% of divorced fathers refuse all contact with the children of their dissolved marriages, a number have told me that turning a hated ex-spouse into a single mother is a quick and easy way of retaliating.

[@ericraber1214]

In the states when you get shared parenting you get equal rights. You still have to pay her child support, child care, alimony, medical.

[@nunyab1836]

Happened to my brother oh, she waited until after he had paid off the house.

[@EmersonBosworthJr]

My ex did a mind cluck, saying that she wasnt trying to take everything. Then knowing the courts back her up, enrolls child into everything knowing that I'll have to cover half of everything. Before you know it, over half my income is going to her direct ly or indirectly with child support, daycare expenses etc, and she makes more than I do! Marriage sucks, not worth it.

[@Stiggsway]

I WOULD JUST ADD..... STAY VIGILANT ABOUT WHO IS AROUND YOUR KIDS, WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG.... NEVER STOP SLEUTHING... BE OVER PROTECTIVE ..TO A FAULT

[@josephabraham4058]

The State of Texas enforced a mandatory minimum in a child support custody hearing against me. Now, the woman that I had a child with didn't notify my until he was 15 years old. I was in the middle of Iraq, and got a notification on MySpace, if remember that. She cheated on her husband, who raised the boy up to that age, and the State didn't levy child support against him. To shorten the story, she was on hard times after they divorced, told the state she thought I was the father, and they came after me. Hard. I got hit with $600 per month and three years of arrears. I've only seen him for 8 hours of his life. And I had to drive 24 hours to see him. I left her in '97, never to speak again, and met my first wife in '99. We had two kids, and she was a ready made family. The State of Texas levied child support against her for 3 kids in the amount of ... $100/month.

[@mokhot]

Problem is what if you want desperately to want a family but the dilemma is everything could go sour

[@mic01]

Im 52 never married or had kids, never wanted in my life. I make 60K at my day job a year but I invested early. I will retire at 55 with my rentals that I purchased I will have a steady 6 figure income and a few million in cash and assets. Looking to buy more real estate and bump my portfolio.

[@grimpr]

Your money wontt follow you to the grave, plan accordingly.

[@keith1689]

Another great vid full of profound insight and knowledge. Keep it up. Not many are speaking on this..

[@artlilly121]

Great solid advice, I don't have this shit going on but this vid has to be one of your best pieces of work. Accept reality, plan the work, work the plan, ignore the noise.

[@ketanmeshram83]

No woman No cry no woman No cry :- Bob Marley

[@inserter400]

Welcome to my world ! Why dont these women work on their marriages ? Its normally when they get in their 40s they get grass is greener or they start getting borde. Why is that ? This story is more or less the same as mine, I have been left 100€ PER MONTH to pay bills run the car and get food and I was told I have to pick my son up and bring him back they live 30 miles away, I have the old car and before she discard me I bought her a new car. Not sure my car will see the year out. I was a great husband and brilliant father. 23 years together and she is about to take our home as all hers and I have got nothing out of this divorce after all the hours and hard work I put into it.

[@adinlucena7047]

This is why say you should never be a friend to an ex-partner or with women in general.

[@VoiceWLogan]

I'd rather be single and lonely than married and miserable

[@j.t.867]

My 16 year old son is already avoiding girls like the plague haha. Good instincts

[@Nina-jc3be]

That's so lovely! Your son is a homosexual! Congratulations 😍🎊🎊💕💕

[@j.t.867]

@@Nina-jc3be i don't think he is, but maybe he should. Nothing but misery with most western women these days. Unless he can find a proper Asian girl, like i did. They may still have some sense of what it is to be a woman and believe in marriage

[@Nina-jc3be]

@@j.t.867 Good luck! I really hope that he is gay!

[@j.t.867]

@@Nina-jc3be everything will be awesome!

[@theparadigmshift74]

Lol at all of this

[@irvin5839]

Dam where was all this knowledge back in the late 90 early 2000s you and Kevin Samuel's are doing a great service keep it up I cross the t's and dotted the I's and it still wasn't good enough when the women get with other unhappy women it will destroy your house I was one of the lucky ones and survived the divorce and living a new life with kids and resources intact .

[@ed209v6]

I spent all the extra time I had alone after my divorce getting in great shape and getting a career. Fast forward, now my kids are grown up and I no longer pay child support. Don’t get married gentlemen.

[@InfoSuperhighway]

“Happy wife happy life” . “Also, our emotions change constantly” got it. So I’ll just do me without sweating that bullshit and you can ride along if you want.

[@joshuadspeer]

Divorce rates are much lower among Catholics (not modernists, but those who attend the Traditional Latin Mass), who didn't have sex or cohabitate together before marriage, and who practice natural family planning. Like.... Divorce is statistically insignificant among that demographic. They key is viewing marriage as a Sacrament rather than a contract, and getting with a woman who come from a family, group of friends, and community which believes divorce is unacceptable.

[@richardlj13]

Rich, excellent video, pragmatic sympathetic advice. Make the best out of it. Try to enjoy the time you have. Have the talk, I tried. We can't do better than that. Be creative. Try to stay away from the rabbit hole, still be the best dad you can be within the limitations that are out of your control. Thankyou.

[@user-vv3zs6en8p]

Fathers need to fight for equality in custody

[@eddyb4]

Accept the fact that a decision you made didn’t turn out the way you wanted. Accept the reality of this world and the people around and act accordingly. Be your own Andy Dufresne (Shawshank Redemption) and don’t make that same mistake again. Build build build. Spend as much time with your kids as possible and never complain in front of them. I am not going to tell you the bullshit that the kids will know who did what because that doesn’t always happen. Remember you only control yourself. Fight the battles you can win defer the rest of it.

[@missioncontrol2881]

Their mom will always always explain to the children that whatever is missing from their lives is because it is denied from their father. Think your financial obligation stops with child support? No. She won't pay for school activities, sports, clothes, any incidentals. Yet, somehow, her nails will be done, her hair dressed, and in the latest fashion if not a new car.

[@bigtrev761]

🇦🇺😎👍In 2000 I left my wife to gain back my sanity. By the time we got divorced I’d lost my daughters, my home , my trade certificate, my birth certificate, pretty much everything and my happiness for about 13 years. In 2007 child support sued me which made it tough but a total of 24 years on I’m still single having nothing to do with women at all..Nothing ! .. Now I’m 60 , I have good health , a dog and a job. . By the time I’d gotten to my age I had to ask myself , would I risk it all again and have another woman in my life and the answer I’m sad to say is NO…Tooo much pain for toooo long will change you forever.

[@catherinevandor9988]

This describes what happened to my late husband, exactly. His ex played games with what little time he had with his daughter during the healthy years, then he developed terminal brain cancer at 48. He died when his daughter was 11. I was not permitted to see her until she turned 18. When we finally saw each other again she blamed me for her own mother's actions. She even was told that I hadn't taken care of him in his dying days. Sadly, she was lost to the lies. I've moved on and have been happilly remarried for years, with 3 great step kids. I don't. miss my ex step- daughter at all, brayer she turned into her mother.

[@lyonosze1josephine122]

My wife divorced me and didn't take anything and no child support. We agreed on what I be giving her monthly, I guess am lucky.

[@brucesmith9144]

That is the exception to the rule.

[@bluecollarnetwork2590]

Thanks for the great content brother

[@MrDynasport]

The thing that gave birth to my children became a psycho and tried to use the kids to destroy me but she ended up destroying herself. I ended up with the kids and raised them, even now I still have a smile thinking what happened to her. 😁😁😁

[@alansjf33]

The only men out there telling the truth about women are this guy , Kevin Samuels and the OG Tom Lyekis. Most of the rest are either lying to keep their jobs or simply simping on some level. I wish I had gotten into this type of content in my 20s.

[@jameshusentoff2953]

My friend was divorce raped and was in a mental institution for a month. His ex wife took him to the cleaners for a green card

[@muskokamike127]

wow three kids......the guy is a sucker for punishment.....I worked with a guy who was complaining about the cost of food. I said "I know it's gone up a bit the last few years but it's not that bad" "You try feeding three kids" WHO THE F TOLD YOU TO HAVE THREE KIDS??? are you nuts?

[@KenHicksJr]

We need to get a list of approved/recommended attorneys for men.

[@mlat3141]

That was me, "A human ATM." I survived, but still have to work. Mike

[@juiceboy-vx3qj]

I made the mistake and learnt from it, never again and never surrender.

[@shanehester5317]

i have an idea,,anyone that does somthing that is justifiable as breaking a marraige contract is against the law and the punishment very severe.i bet that would stop people from getting married so freely.

[@belethal4700]

If you have the funds, hire a family evaluater or PRE to do a family evaluation. They will come into the house of each parent and do a home inspection. They also will do a parent study and interaction study. They will also test for psychological issues such as NPD ect. After taking everything into consideration they will make a recommendation, of the decision making and custody time that should be awarded to each parent. The judge well normally follow their recommendation. This is how you can get 50/50 or more.

[@markdrake2715]

Eleven years of marriage opened my eyes. No children. Wish I knew these things before I got into it.

[@wouteggink96]

Sounds like a brutal divorce. All the best mate

[@DA-ev1jb]

The one with the most money wins always get an attorney and fight for your rights as a father.

[@Clarencebeeks89]

Need to teach this at school

[@prixinc1]

Where is the divorce Playlist link as it does not appear in this video.

[@arminvucic3357]

No date nights, no sex, no fun time? If you don't date your wife/girlfriend someone else eventually will

[@barrierouse]

Who cares.....

[@ShaferHart]

someone else eventually will regardless of what you do lol

[@guntergd3260]

Sounds like a dead end job mate

[@misterk7970]

@@ShaferHart 😂😂😂

[@tonyk4669]

Let em...

[@marcrochefort4483]

You never pay one dime to either her or a lawyer. You use the state/provincial duty counsel/legal aide service and you use them. You never pay to see your kids. Come contempt, come death penalty. You never disclose your income, you never comply. You tell the judge NO.

[@brudweger]

Stoic, man. Stoic.

[@animalsarebeautifulpeople3094]

I helped a friend through his divorce recently. It was a horrendous case where he got suckered into a sociopathic conwoman from china who pretended as if she fell in love with him at first sight. 100% of what she pretended to be turned out to be lies including her age - she was 5 years older than she pretended to be!

[@TheRealJoshW]

I look forward to these videos! once again more solid content: Do not fall in the self pity trap and waste any more good years. Yes the dream is most likely a mirage; however, you can put salve in your wounds and level up by pursuing excellence physically and financially and find a good Bible based church (I like Calvary Chapel) for even more time tested wisdom and discernment. Great content! Thanks Rich 👍🏻

[@DisabilityExams]

Men should lobby to eliminate no-fault divorce.

[@MelkorHimself]

That's like trying to stop a freight train with a BB gun. No-fault divorce became ubiquitous because it was in the interest of women. It won't reverse unless women as a whole clamor for its reversal.

[@forthepeoplebythepeople7499]

I thought no fault divorce just meant you don’t have to justify the divorce by proving adultery or that it is irreconcilable. I don’t think ending “no fault” will do anything to make divorce less biased toward women - I think it will just mean more nasty allegations (and more lawyer fees) on the way to the man getting shafted.

[@michaeldavid6832]

@@zenity6010 It's not only a vote, it's a gigantic bite out of an economy. No babies means no future consumers. No family means a man can scale down tremendously. No wife means no W who's in control of most of your money. When a man scales down his needs he can scale down his labor (labor market is less productive). And if there's no marriage, there's no divorce to funnel money to a W who has no financial restraint and will quickly spend it into the economy. Nope. This isn't just a vote, it's a system destroying act of revolution. A revolution which requires only that men shake their heads "no".

[@RalphRomano2]

We have an Anti-Father Gov't and judicial system. Weak families make weak kids that are easier to control. PERIOD !!!!!!!!!!!

[@marcgrundfest1495]

Men should walk and never come back..its not like marriage is a good idea for men.

[@KeithTingle]

this video should be required viewing for all western men of marrying age

[@DDarkness]

Child support is no joke. I'm 21 and my dad is still paying child support for not paying shit most of my childhood. Hell he even went to jail for that shit.

[@laudableplain4282]

A guy from work, basically a slave to his ex through alimony payments. His check gets to be 50 dollars after a 40hr work week

[@tak7323]

Wish I had this book 20 years ago. Made every mistake in the book ha , but life has balanced itself out and life is good. I’m in a Good Marriage everything could be better but it’s good and I have a totally different view on life and relationships than I used to. I always felt what was in this book but didn’t know it was real what I was thinking and always thought I was the only one going through it. I have 4 kids 3 from my 2nd Marriage and 1 from a relationship I was in that I gained full custody of. The courts tried they’re hardest to give my daughter to the mother even though she lived / moved to FL and never paid any child support. Luckily she was such trash she hung her self. But the courts are a shit show

[@Alaninbroomfield]

52 here. Never married. Never will. No regrets.

[@Jonathan-dl4nb]

If i can give advice to my younger self. It would certainly be DON'T GET MARRIED! 37 now divorced and after losing the house, investment property and going through an expensive family court that has cost me over 150k trying to clear my name from false abuse allegations just to see my daughter and get 50/50 is a very bitter pill to take. Basically broke and struggling to keep myself mentally, emotionally and financially a float. Modern women are toxic asf.

[@mrgregw]

They told me after the family court thing, when wanting more visitation, "Give it some time" Over time, she won't hold on so tightly to the kids for manipulation and she'll want a babysitter. (Some guys end up with the kids when she can't hack being a single parent.) Unlikely, she'll ever willingly want to give up any money the court orders paid to her. Rich is right. Use the free time you get when she has all the custody time to better your life.

[@tekkadan-xtheredpilloutsid39]

@entrepreneursincars Hey Rich, my older brother from another mother, back in 2014, I came across your vids & I became Red Pilled. Over the next 8 years I've become extremely versed in RP knowledge. So much so that I became hated in the Washington, DC area for dropping RP knowledge. I am starting up my own podcast soon & I would be honored to have you on as one of my first guests... Get back to me when you can , no weird shit. I'm proud of you man. Rollo helped you & you helped me... *I'll make you proud, my brother*

[@seangarvey3875]

Do not get married gentlemen. It’s a slaughterhouse

[@chris12carp]

Yup pointless. Just enjoy each other’s company. No contract required

[@robcarley7506]

Either LTR but no co hab or kids or just spin plates safely and be prepared to shoot em off like a clay pigeon once they start throwing up red flags or trying to nail you down.

[@BOG0690]

I've never met any married people that I looked up to. Most were weird losers that had financial issues - both genders

[@chris12carp]

@@BOG0690 my father has 4 other siblings. Between them there have been 8 divorces. Fucking 8!

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

@@BOG0690 I would say yes! You are RIGHT... Again!!! Nice to see you here Sir. !!!!

[@davidsnyder9402]

Remember this...you never truly know a woman until you divorce her.

[@marcgrundfest1495]

Yes you do...just just choose not to belive it

[@saif9amar417]

You need to be the Invisible Man to know women .

[@marcgrundfest1495]

@@saif9amar417 No, you need to know women to be the invisible man.

[@schallrd1]

After you marry they begin to change to their real self which is not what you bargained for.

[@byteresistor]

No, she divorces you.

[@blazecosko7506]

I can’t believe I’m this lucky to be 20 and get access to all this information for free. I’m going to buy some of your Merch, I’ve already bought your book, to support your content. I’ve gotten some immense value from this content.

[@juanjosesegura4585]

Vote with your dollars 👌

[@jgonzales912]

Then she’ll smile and give you the come on, and you’ll be like “What book?”

[@kbruff2010]

Smart.

[@holge2710]

Yeah man, I am so jealous of you...

[@BaveRAWWR]

Yup bro, this guy speaks facts. Kevin Samuel is also a good listen. Because you can hear debates he has with women ,and how much of an air heads they can be.

[@samson9535]

It took me two marriages and two divorces to figure things out. My first wife told me one day she didn't know how to be married and said she was leaving me. I told her, before she walked out the door, if you leave, don't come back. She came back.....with her sister and a U-Haul truck and cleaned out the house while I was at work. The second wife tried to do the same thing, but I had changed the locks after she left. I have been single for the last 22 years and have never been happier!

[@deepanjan.sengupta]

My question, who would be your closest companion in old age.

[@posic3073]

Did you have children?

[@peteroneil3639]

God. @@deepanjan.sengupta

[@jamesholster5323]

​@@deepanjan.senguptamuch better to be alone than with a toxic woman (he's probably not completely alone anyway)

[@la-zrider2749]

​@@jamesholster5323And after a divorce, you end up alone anyway...

[@BryanBalak]

I look back on my marriage after 1 year of separation and 4 years of divorce. The red flags were all there. I'm 47, and what I wouldn't give to have the wisdom I do now. Gentlemen, if you are not good at vetting people, LISTEN to the people around you that aren't looking at the world with your rose colored glasses. If you're going to walk down that aisle, you had better know the risks you are taking. There is very little reward, and if you don't want children, there is absolutely no reason to get married.

[@Handlebar-MustDash]

You wouldn't buy a cow simply because you want a glass of milk 😂. Stay away from marriage until the law becomes fairer to men, the bias to women is ridiculous, they were put in place when employment for women was scarce, today this is not an issue, a case of old laws governing a new society, no longer fit for purpose. Outdated and Outrageous.

[@qman313]

Well said.

[@qman313]

@@Handlebar-MustDash I heard in other countries the governments are trying incentivize marriages and it still isnt enough for men to want to take that risk!

[@fortunateson2]

Why pay full price for something others got for free?

[@benjaminstarks4071]

I just told my mother the other day that marriage is an antiquated institution. She and my father divorced 30+ years ago. It was a brutal ordeal for all of us.

[@jeffjafay6710]

Never sign a contract with a person who is rewarded for breaking it.

[@systemsless]

So simple. So true

[@JohnSmith-kb5ku]

Brilliant.

[@xenobob2773]

Common Law...

[@tmackn6592]

It really is just this plain and simple, but like they say, "there's a sucker born every minute!"

[@bryon5284]

He who creates the contract is the one who benefits

[@mt-nv4jd]

I got divorced in '75 when my son was 18 months old. I got custody, she had to pay child support. I never remarried. I'm now 72 with lots of grandkids, always have been free, do anything I want. Re-marrying would have destroyed my life.

[@Nick-ue9um]

Sounds like you made off pretty well

[@JorgeMartinez-sf8wy]

If you don’t mind me asking, what favored you to win your son!

[@zuhairreza]

@@JorgeMartinez-sf8wyhe does mind! - no reply! 😆

[@Mitzi73]

Remarrying can be very destructive. You chose wisely.

[@AdityaKashyap-mg5cw]

getting full custody of a 18month old as a father can happen only in 70s

[@sweetonrelationships2414]

First mistake....saying he wanted to prove to her he’s the husband she wanted...guys you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. His mindset was already wrong setting the stage for what’s to come next. You are the catch. Never chase.

[@Pastor_Sempa]

you are just chasing your own demise and destruction if you are chasing

[@ricardoh87]

Men must furiously protect their own happiness, a happy wife is a miserable marriage. Happiness and we'll being trickles down from the man

[@prof3ssor178]

Chasing women can lead to depression, death, and losing focus on your life. Think before you react fellas

[@thoughtcriminal5655]

Precisely. Alphas never get divorced by their wives. Every divorce I ever saw I'd predicted beforehand. Nobody who kept her in line amongst my circle of friends ever got divorced.

[@Sketch_Sesh]

I thought the same... he already put himself below her before the marriage started

[@johnjay6370]

Years ago I was doing computer work for a client's house and the dad was away and the mom was talking to her friends about getting a divorce and how nice it would be! They were talking about it like guys talk about Sports!! I was like WTF and just could not believe my ears...

[@dariussmith8406]

When I was growing up in California (early 80’s) I overheard 2 girls talking about what their FIRST husbands would be like. Their second husbands would be rich. This was in high school. Mom taught them well.

[@shmoofgang]

Jesus....just disturbing

[@HenrySomeone]

@@dariussmith8406 That's why Cali is where it is today - in ruins.

[@patrickluchycky1172]

I've heard teen age girls repeating stuff their mothers and others filled their heads with too. I overheard conversations with female coworkers, and even church ladies, and the crazy shit they've said. Lots of women believe this shit and do it. The networking and notes comparing is fantastic.

[@jaybee6505]

No thanks. For the better part of 40 years I've watch friends, family, coworkers repeat a similar scenario. I'm not sponsoring someone else.

[@ThejeffJr8]

@@airheadusmc3821 😂😂 marines man

[@Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard]

@@airheadusmc3821 I'm told being married as a marine is soul-destroying