What Happens to Men After Divorce

[@DUNEATV]

Married almost 25 years and now divorced. My Ex gets half my pension for the rest of her life. DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!

[@andre1987eph]

Marriage never seriously crossed my mind. I'm getting 100% of my pension for the rest of my life. And I was the ruler of my own home for my entire adult life. Even the concept of someone telling me what to do in my own home is complete foreign to me.

[@adam-v7w-w9i]

Warning received loud and clear. Let it save many men out there.

[@tomkrzyt]

Why do you have to share your pension with her? I am asking because I am not the US citizen.

[@JediDarkForce]

⁠probably to maintain her lifestyle prior to the divorce or something like that

[@chrisduhaime5689]

Not signing and passing on with out it so everybody loose's it goes back to the system 😂

[@piobmhor8529]

I have a buddy who went through one of those textbook vicious divorces with an evil ex-wife. She got full custody, generous alimony and child support etc etc… She brought parental alienation to an art form, at age 12 his daughter became completely estranged. My buddy was coming home from work at 2 am and found a strange 16 year old girl in his apartment lobby, crying and in obvious distress. It was his daughter, kicked out of her mother’s place and left to fend for herself. Having nowhere else to go, she went to his place. My buddy didn’t recognize her at first because it had been so long since he had seen her last. His ex didn’t even send him any pictures in that time either. He took her in, made her comfortable for the night and called his ex. He woke her up to tell her that their daughter was safe and with him. She gave him shit for disturbing her. Seems that she kicked her out because she was failing school and was talking back to her. All the daughter was guilty of was being a normal 16 year old girl. She ended up with her dad 100% of the time after that. It wasn’t long before she realized that her dad was not the monster her mother made him out to be. All that alimony and child support went to his ex, but she was told that he was a deadbeat dad. It was like something out of Cinderella, but without the Fairy Godmother and the Prince. He helped her get her grades up, she passed high school with grades good enough to get her into a good university. She studied Education and is now a Middle School Teacher, engaged to a wonderful young man. She has no contact with her mother today except for the odd Christmas or Birthday card. My buddy is one of the kindest, most gentle souls on the planet and didn’t deserve what happened to him, but it looks like everything worked out fine in the end. He’s semi-retired now, renovating an older house to prepare for grandchildren. His ex on the other hand is living in subsidized public housing, surrounded by boxed wine and cats. Karma is a bitch sometimes.

[@Carolina480]

She s got what she deserves after being so evil

[@oscarm.1417]

Nice to hear stories like this but, unfortunately, they are a very rare exception to the rule.

[@shakespeare_hall4788]

sadly she will bever realise how Evil she is or the fact she was the only problem since day 1.

[@johnnyjohnn281]

I’m still waiting for Karma to get my ex. But it appears she got away Scot-free with no consequences for her actions. Oh well. 🤷‍♂️

[@piobmhor8529]

I realize my buddy is the exception rather than the rule, but it is nice to see good guys win occasionally

[@bbb8182]

She disposed of me, destroyed our family and left me with nothing. My 3 kids who I adored are now estranged. I was betrayed then made to leave my loved ones. I had never seen a situation like this happen to anyone I ever knew so I was not only blindsided by that betrayal but found myself in a horror I could not comprehend. My innocence about women is replaced with a disgusting realization that they made themselves the enemy of men.

[@stevekostakis2983]

Terrible, I understand your plight. I am going through the same thing right now, 29 years, 3 kids, house, money, career, cars…everything. She wanted a new boyfriend so she got the law and the Police on her side to do the dirty work. Fight on…it’s all we have now. We have to save ourselves. Yes, no more relationships

[@tomkrzyt]

Anyway you should be strong and be best version of yourself because your kids will need you in the future.

[@davidstavenau9137]

My sympathies. I had a situation where my adorable wife left with my 7-month-old baby son - She emptied the house. I constantly fought to see him in the first 4 or 5 years of his life. I paid Child Maintenance for 20 years, which I have found out hardly ever went to my Son (it paid for things like her vacations abroad). She used him for financial leverage and wrecked his life in the process. While he was in the middle of his High School final exams, she left him in the house to fend for himself, while she went on a two-week vacation to Spain. I wouldn't p*ss on the b*tch if she was on fire. Absolute evil incarnate. Please be careful when considering your life partner. Protect yourself and treat people with respect. Peace to you all.

[@roberthenning4186]

Damn, it seems to be always the same. I personally had a friend of my dad, going through this divorce grinder years ago, as my only example in my circle. But... I was confident, that i couldn't do anything wrong. Because, I'm a good guy, what should go wrong!? 😂 Well... now I understand. And gentlemen, let's make sure that our children -and especially our sons-, get the knowledge ASAP! 😅

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

This sort of thing happens much more than you think. I know of several fellows that things like this happened to them...

[@Squiddogg]

*Modern-day divorce is a crime against men." You nailed it.

[@hyperteleXii]

Divorce was always a crime, still is. Crime against God.

[@greg_austin]

Racketeering. 18 U.S.C. §§ 1961-68 RICO, §1983 civil and §§241-242 criminal violations

[@nikitaw1982]

@@Squiddogg women don’t pay net tax . Yet no minister for boys and men. You would think just for selfish reasons there would be minister for men to raise gdp so more taxable income as men more productive.

[@inspirationalquotes5840]

Any man who wants to get married in this society is crazy

[@wanderingwarrior5626]

That is certainly true nowadays in the U.S.! I never lost anything to my three long term ex's in divorce, BECAUSE, they couldn't find a reason to hate me. So, I got everything. They knew I was a world adventurer, before they asked me to marry them. They all said, to others, "I thought I could change him. But, I couldn't. So, when he wanted to travel abroad with me (she not having any interest in leaving her family behind), I decided it was time to divorce".

[@wooptiedoo3538]

It's not that I don't want to get married. It's divorce that makes everything complicated. It's fine that she leaves but I don't want the entanglement of paying when she is gone. It's a shitty deal.

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

Quite very right... You would have to be mad insane in the head to marry up in todays world...

[@lilfairycupcake]

deserving of everything they are going to get, if they do.

[@phmiii]

You are correct! I have been married three time and the only reason that explains my behavior is Insanity.

[@andre1987eph]

Divorce is a spiritual awakening. I'll leave it at that.

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

Yes, it really is..

[@stephenm5662]

That's a very good way to express it. Very accurate.

[@jimbrown4640]

It is an awakening of what modern American women have turned themselves into.

[@allseeingotto2912]

Yes it’s like being tempered in h3ll .

[@mr.wildcat405]

This. I did a lot of soul searching do years after my wife divorced me. I was still young enough to try again and have a family. Decided it against trying again. I had a goal of spending my life with someone and have a family. Realized that goal is no longer desirable. 41 now and may regret the decision.

[@druckerman247]

The longer you stay on a train going to the wrong destination, the longer it takes to get back to the right platform.

[@TheSnookman]

Brilliant analogy!!

[@greg_austin]

I thought there might be some reward in the end if I stuck it out and did not divorce my wicked selfish wife. My reward is that the courts robbed me of everything and left me homeless and penniless to sleep on a park bench, having all of my financial venues severed.

[@gehanoates885]

@@druckerman247 Nice bit of wisdom. 👏🏿👏🏿

[@kingjoseph5901]

Yessir

[@SimplyTheBestCSGO]

what if you take a plane :P

[@Greentunic84]

In my 40s now. Starting to see my friends who married in their late twenties also going through the divorce phase of their life. They always think their problems are unique. Men suffer in silence. Men's groups/channels like yours provide a space for men to talk and see that they go through similar experiences with relationships. I personally find this very cathartic.

[@Rey-Nolds]

I guess we need to thank Al Gore for promoting the expansion of the internet 😂😂😂😂 (old joke)

[@petemorton8403]

Just when her Entitlements tempt, she boyfriends up. Classic

[@tides_of_truth4245]

"The divorce phase" lol. Funny, but sadly true.

[@geoffreymoseley6801]

​@@Rey-Noldsstill get it, still relevent

[@drkoko9604]

I'm in my 40's never been married, still date , date, date !!! Use them and lose them in a heart beat !!! that won't change !

[@RS-ms1bz]

John, let me tell you what happened to me after divorce. I found myself again, became healthy again, both mentally and physically, and came to understand that being married had only held me down and kept me from being the best version of myself. Marriage slowly drained my life essence and my self identity. Marriage stripped away my drive to become a better person. After the divorce, the drive I had before marriage is more powerful than ever. Divorce gave me my life back!!

[@vidiot9000]

Free at last!

[@s1n4m1n]

The marriage advocates will call you selfish. LOL.

[@barrykimmitt]

Your positive way of looking at this is the other side of the same coin. Glad you're healing so well

[@MickeyMouse-lo4sy]

@@s1n4m1n A 'marriage advocate' is just a guy who hasn't been through a divorce yet...

[@Tabktopless-z9b]

Men typically go one of two ways after divorce. I'm glad you chose the right path.

[@Florida_Joe75]

100% of the time, when a woman leaves a man she already has a man waiting in the wings.

[@ITR1329]

John should do a video solely on this. It’s truly 100% of the time, not an exaggeration. Wish I knew this when I was younger.

[@25Soupy]

It's called Monkey Branching.

[@jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798]

Hay! He could use my ex-wife as a subject study! She must have been doing something right to get married six times ( so far)

[@altodomino7859]

@@jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798 maybe he already has used her

[@WildB06]

100% of the time no exceptions. Then when you as a man find out, not only do you have to live with the loss, the betrayal and being cast out, you have to live with knowing she's giving all that good stuff to your replacement

[@eric_linden]

Respect, loyalty, and empathy mean completely different things to men and women. The man’s definitions are the ones in the dictionary.

[@john-griffin]

Respect and loyalty are not concepts that are meaningful to most women. Empathy is something they use strategically to get what they want. Thanks!

[@bbb8182]

You need to copyright that phrase sir.

[@MaxMojo-b1b]

Loyalty does not exist from women.

[@jamescheaye927]

Look up the meaning of the word Virtue, the prefix of Vir, then come back to me.

[@mirceazaharia2094]

​@@john-griffin Nice camera angles, man. Let me guess - ground level, there's a camera man. Aerial ones - drone with good pilot? Anyway, thanks for the solid content. o7

[@georgesontag2192]

After divorce, he becomes homeless, has no furniture, has no savings, owes her alimony and child support. He lost the dog too. The TV went with the house, so he has to to bar to watch TV. He showers at his friends apartment, because he lost everything too in divorce. He thinks he at least gets his kids in two weeks - no he won't, they will be sick in two weeks and also in four weeks. The judge won't care.

[@greg_austin]

My story exactly--but I don't go to bars or drink alcohol. Nevertheless, if my dog had seen me at the beach and run to see "daddy" with tail wagging, then the only option is that I would be taken immediately to jail, no questions asked, even though I have never been charged or convicted of any crimes or misdemeanors. The courts clearly hate men.

[@suefleming]

​@@greg_austin Feminism runs this world and it's demonic.

[@ma-jp8bf]

Conversely- he realizes kids will be an impediment to mom's new relationships, that she'll want him to take the kids more. He willingly does so with the provision the custody agreement changes to reflect him having them more. As custody shifts to full time with him, he focuses on raising them, staying in shape, work, and maintaining their home as someplace their mother can visit them to facilitate their relationship with their mom. His pay increases over the years and he socks away a percentage in investments/retirements. A cordial relationship with the mom enables family gatherings for graduations, holidays etc. with minimal drama. After 15 years or so he retires with about $1.4 million in savings/retirement/investment accounts along with a base income from pensions and SSN of ~$110K/yr.

[@greg_austin]

@@ma-jp8bf ??? Uh, she wages an eternal domestic violence "civil" restraining order against him (no due process), keeps the kid, the house, and his inheritance--while he struggles to survive on the streets because nobody will hire him because of the DV on his record. They delete his last vestige of healthcare insurance, his kid goes transgender--because who WOULDN'T want to be a woman--and he dies of neglect and poverty, censored by KZbin and the socialist media sites, so that nobody ever knows that this man ever even existed.

[@backroadsofeasternwashington]

I lost my dog too 😢

[@libertycaps97211]

Watching red pill content like this and thinking: “It won’t happen to me.” is your first mistake. Respect and recognize the lived experience presented.

[@swisscheese412]

Still i say 'it wont happen to me'😂

[@threadtapwhisperer5136]

Yup! We arent sharing the stories of our own struggles just to keep score who has the worst divorce! More like providing a record of real world events that have 100% happened and the effect they had on the man involved. More like a support group, not seeking sympathy but trying to let us all see behind the veil, as it were. So so so so many men are lured into that initial NRE(new relationship energy) mode, and then continue taking steps toward misery. Lots of us were initially lulled into happiness and maybe even stability and financial stability. The core take away is these all have ended the same way. Im not happy. I cheated, so its husbands fault. Then the horror of turning the kids against the man, lying to the judge/courts which far too often does work to alienate and ruin the man. Then hes forced out of his own home AND forced to pay for the mortgage. We as men, I feel, are elevating to a higher hive mind of commeraderie around the deep emotional and mental scars that sort of absolute unfair and absolute outright cunty bullshit leaves on us. I personally hope it at least provides young men a bit of food for thought. I got lucky and learned most this stuff before I ever married. I still experienced the "im not happy" bullshit and some lighter consequences. I was once downtrodden about that, today, almost 18 years single, its the best thing that ever happened. The freedom and ability to conduct myself as I see fit is just not something I want to ever compromise ever again. Even if she were a big titty goth girl, as the kids say. 😂

[@Onetakelifestyle3323]

lol I used to say the same thing 😂 but here I am

[@javar888]

“Lived experience “ is a liberal code word for what?

[@petemorton8403]

It will never happen. We had the world. Her friend saw our things, wanted, then poured on the sweetalking. Then isolated her as much as he could alwhile dissing me. Then he starts up " her entitled to " things. They were caught naked in a car after dark. They cleaned out our banks. All this is all legal, yet if the husband does it it's abuse. She can false accuse, use that prick as her witness. All legal.

[@MVProfits]

As a I saw a divorce lawyer point out in an another video, what are typically men's roles: provider, resources, properties, etc. are enforced by the State in case of divorces. While what women are expected to provide: nurturing, taking care of the household, intimacy, all of that, are NOT enforceable by the law or the State! Hence why men get shafted.

[@s1n4m1n]

Yep.

[@biffbifford402]

@@MVProfits James Sexton

[@adamsnelson4689]

Juice ain't worth the squeeze

[@kubasniak]

Yup. Too much work and the possibility of state mandated enslavement. No, thanks. I will gladly avoid putting my head on guillotine.

[@warren-freshoffthevinemedia]

Well said.

[@plasmaarmelund]

When I went through my divorce, it became clear to me how little anyone cares: No one checked in on me, no one offered any support. I was going through it entirely on my own. It's very unsettling and makes a part of your heart turn cold and dark, even as you recover later on. I guess it can be a good thing because it creates a level of discernment and insight that can be used to protect yourself later in life, but it's a lone wolf's journey to go through a divorce as a man. I wouldn't wish it upon anybody.

[@theroamingcanuck49]

I went through this too.

[@andre1987eph]

When you have a relationship with God, your heart does not grow black. He won't allow it.

[@abausu3881]

I was there too. It was cold and dark.

[@danielhammond3218]

Hundred percent agree with you. Went through the same thing. Friends and family turned away. Starting over is almost impossible especially when you’re past 60. Coworkers don’t want to be around you.

[@darrenstettner5381]

I filed for divorce after being trapped in a marriage with a woman I was just trying to help get citizenship. She was so indignant when I told her I didn’t want to get married because of the risks. Then, after paying all her bills for over a decade, when I tried to divorce her, she got a lawyer and tried to take me for all she could. I understood in that moment, why a guy might murder his wife.

[@MikeS-7]

When it's time for divorce even the "unicorn" will fleece you. I had this discussion with a buddy of mine.... Don't play rigged games. You cannot win and your opponent knows she's going to win either way it goes.

[@Listener-r2j]

Yes makes sense.

[@jamescheaye927]

Stories like Rae Carruth or the man from Maryland on FB live make a WHOLE lotta sense

[@sallucia4367]

Same story with me. The minute she got the unrestricted green card out the door and wanted a million dollar settlement.

[@1ledluverjlp]

That's their own fault dude. Why the hell are you marrying somebody just to help them get citizenship? It makes no damn sense. You walked into that trap.

[@zach464]

I'm in my early 40s. Never married. Never had kids. Had a couple romantic relationships in my 20s. Both were ended by the women before the relationship got serious. Those women did me a favor by breaking up with me. Thank God I never got married. I dodged a bullet on that one.

[@melissasmess2773]

If avoiding having a family was your goal, yes you won. 😗

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

You definitely dodged much unnecessary suffering. And your unborn children dodged unnecessary suffering as well. That is a verifiable fact.

[@bobjames6622]

@@melissasmess2773 I too chose not to get married, or have children. Now, at the age of 58, as I view the plethora of train wrecks around me (aka "relationships", "families") I KNOW that I DEFINITELY made the right decision.

[@bregjejabra25]

Same here. 47.

[@lilfairycupcake]

my hero!

[@JulesOille]

When I went to court, the judge decided before I said anything that my children would have primary custody with their mother despite her making the same income I have to pay support and I have to have an insurance plan against my life, whereas she does not the family law system in Ontario Canada is broken

[@jamesblum7420]

Same on California. Lifetime alimony and $250k life insurance policy on myself with her as recipient. Talk about Ghoul Pool! Do you think she prays for my wellbeing?

[@brazidas58]

I hear you brother, similar thing happened to me here in Ontario. The judge did not even make eye contact with me. I ended up in a very bad state for many years.

[@NiWhomPing]

I am sorry about what happened. However, the family law systems, pretty much everyone in the western world at least, are functioning exactly as inteneded!

[@paulb7207]

Canada, lol.

[@john-x4t8m]

watch you back the hit man may be coming

[@lenoakes2450]

And also compulsory DNA tests at birth.

[@barrykimmitt]

Yup, i was born in '60 and i look just like the milkman😂

[@keith4826]

When I was in college I got a woman pregnant and she immediately slept with her ex husband ... then told him my daughter was his. I guess she figured it was more profitable for him to think so. I found this out after the fact and eventually did DNA testing and got full custody. I had a long talk with him one day. He felt betrayed and felt relief at the same time. She had turned into a train wreck. A shame. She was gorgeous with curves in all the right places and seemed smart and stable.... Until she wasn't. DNA testing should be done 100 percent of the time.

[@markpatton6847]

Never sign a legal binding contract with a person that is lead by emotion, not logic and reason. You've been warned ⚠️

[@tazpoochie]

Perfect

[@s1n4m1n]

Actually that’s the purpose of contracts, to protect one party from the irrational decisions of another party. The problem is that marital contracts or more like suggestions.

[@concious.co-parent16]

Never sign a contract someone is paid to break

[@markpatton6847]

@concious.co-parent16 True 👍

[@markthomas4716]

He doesn’t mention that the divorce rate among Lesbians is up these clowns can’t can’t even live with each other 😂😂😂😂😂

[@chalkline1505]

the divorce rate amongst lesbians is the highest. the divorce rate between two gay guys is the lowest and straight couples is between those two. so what does that tell you?

[@jesse75]

That makes me feel better somehow.

[@MNEvoGSR]

You are 100% correct. Women need to be held accountable instead of society pandering to them. Equal is equal. No more double standards. It is detrimental to society.

[@wxyzxdll]

You hold women accountable by legally insulating yourself from them.

[@runswithraptors]

The rulers of society have no clue how to make a cohesive community or nation so they allow women to do anything they wish because they think that's the best way to guarantee a steady stream of citizens 🤷 blame secularism

[@petemorton8403]

The Divorced Single Moms Epidemic. If a husband cheats it's because he's been targeted. She wants loyal, and that is in another marriage. She'll insert herself, revealing clothes, makeup, isolate him. One weak moment, then she makes sure it's exaggerated to his wife. Stop all these women. Stop Awarding/rewarding them to cheat.

[@JonHummel-q4g]

We are not equal we never have been and there lies the problem. We are different.

[@TrevyTrev-andTheFunkyPets]

Was married 27yrs before we decided it wasn’t worth fighting for anymore. I sometimes wonder what sort of example does that show to the younger generation.

[@john-griffin]

That is a good question

[@esteban1487]

​@john-griffin you lasted 11 years longer than I did.

[@Ja50nkAt]

Shows it can be a massive waste of time, energy, and resources.

[@CoachKen10]

@@TrevyTrev-andTheFunkyPets The MOST important thing is are YOU happier now?

[@melissasmess2773]

What changed in your relationship to make you no longer desire marriage?

[@derbearblaz]

Marriage, the number one biggest bullet a guy can dodge in his life

[@gphilipc2031]

Armor piercing too.

[@mirceazaharia2094]

Dodged it already. o7

[@teresarocha599]

I am a woman, mother of a man and I sympathize with your description of problems that men face. Men, indeed, have been forgotten and should have more support and be respected and protected as they loose their family and all these problems are destructive of society. We need men and fathers!! They are vital for society!

[@andre1987eph]

Men ARE society. Women are a Childs home.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@michaelsantangelo6192]

My mom divorced my father when I was a baby. She immediately started dating (and eventually married) an alcoholic who she allowed to abuse me physically, verbally, and psychologically from as far back as I can remember until I left the house at 17. I was forced to call my abusive stepfather father and was forbidden to call my real father father. My mom and step father constantly bashed my father and made me feel guilty for wanting a relationship with him. It was a totally sick, toxic environment.

[@bobbyjames4300]

I’m sorry to hear that.. so tough.

[@michaelsantangelo6192]

@@bobbyjames4300 thanks

[@bradleyjackson7168]

I would hope you would contact your real dad and become a part of his life again

[@michaelsantangelo6192]

@@bradleyjackson7168 My real dad is a degenerate piece of garbage.

[@Jeffbrowne45]

As a woman, i support you. My boyfriend went through everything you mentioned and its taken him some time to get his life back on track. I was not aware of how unfair the situation is in family courts. I am wary now of women who are wilfully ignorant of this.

[@zodglubby]

Lucky man he is

[@vidiot9000]

So you’re wary of 99% of women?

[@harrypairatestys4230]

Be a good girlfriend and don't let him marry you and ruin the relationship. Men are stupid like that.

[@christianriddler5063]

@@vidiot9000 That's the crazy part, it actually is about 99% of them. It feels hyperbolic to say it but it really is that bad.

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

Even You are an unicorn , trying to understand men's plight, still I would advice your boyfriend to always be on guard.

[@christopherlindsay9618]

John, I just went through a divorce after 30 years and enjoy your content. I did my homework though and looked up our state’s divorce laws. She had an affair she didn’t want to end, but she didn’t want to divorce me either. Stuck in limbo, I told her to end it with him or we get divorced. I gave her a deadline and wrote up a proposal for how I wanted it to go, including a waiver of maintenance. We did it amicably, went through a mediator, and (most likely due to her guilt and shame) she agreed to everything I proposed. I have to refinance the house and pay an “equalization payment” representing half of our collective assets, but keep the house, my 401k, and will never have to pay alimony. In Wisconsin, a waiver of maintenance is forever 😊!

[@shawnmcdaniel435]

Idk man. Something about a woman feeling guilt and shame sounds like a fairytale to me.

[@andre1987eph]

​@@shawnmcdaniel435 being shamed is a social phenomenon - thats how it is effective with women

[@RicksCafeAmericana]

My situation was similar.

[@ReachingHigher001]

Wisconsin is a lucky state. No?

[@christopherlindsay9618]

@ It is in that regard. But it’s a no fault 50/50 state, so not completely lucky…

[@Murdoch-ck8mv]

Interesting point about the mother poisoning the minds of the children against the Father. Im living with these repercussions. 💜💜💜. Covert female narcissism.

[@john-griffin]

I am not sure it is even covert. I think it is much more pathological than we think. Thanks

[@poopingwhilestanding5801]

@@john-griffin I think you are absolutely right it isn't covert anymore -- I think it's part of the global plan to marginalize the family unit and the role of the father, so as to create more government dependency and control.

[@allanwatts8361]

i notice this as a recurring event in so many peoples life experiences

[@parkamark]

I witnessed this first hand with my older brother's divorce 30 years ago.

[@greg_austin]

Yup. I have affidavits on my court records of my own son who claims that I am a wife-beater, a child-beater, a misogynist, a bigot, a racist, a homophobe, and so on ... and the court used it as evidence, even though none of it is true. Instead, the wife had an affair and wanted to keep the house to herself.

[@Spaceopticsguy2010]

I remember reading that no one would skydive if there was a 70 percent chance the parachute might not open. Those are the odds your wife will initiate a divorce.

[@Maggiemay1942]

My ex had no compunction about poisoning my son against me. Nothing and I mean nothing was out of bounds as far as her behaviour was concerned whether psychological or physical. This nearly broke me and that was precisely what she intended to do.

[@frederickmuhlbauer9477]

Same here My ex made me into the devil in my sons eyes Still estranged 16 years after the divorce She was very effective at her dirty deed

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

Sorry, brother. I understand your pain. -God speed

[@christianriddler5063]

There seems to be very little difference between these two words; demon and woman.

[@racebannon96]

I went through it too. Parent Alienation. It is a no-win situation.

[@Henry1965ism]

Women have divorce parties but as far as I am aware, men don't.

[@vidiot9000]

A gaggle of ninnies showed up to court, expecting to celebrate after our trial. But it didn’t work out in her favor-so many glum faces.

[@kw7796]

Not surprising

[@Calloway1970a]

My ex had a divorce party. While I came home from the final hearing and slept for almost 24 hours straight.

[@NotMik33]

@@Calloway1970a We are now learning why the patriarchy existed and why every religion in the world placed strict controls on women. Without this, they show us who they truly are; wicked.

[@chrisn2125]

Mine did too. I was sickened by hearing about it. I think her and a couple friends rented a hotel room in Banff and invited a bunch of guys back to the room…or so I hear. I’m sure my daughter will be proud of her mom when she learns about that, when she’s older.

[@nunuvyurbiz123]

It’s crazy that women have no obligation to pay for the services the man loses after divorce. A man is forced to pay to replace what he provided (housing, food, etc.) but a woman has no obligation to pay him for what she provided (cooking, cleaning, etc.). That makes no sense.

[@Ja50nkAt]

cooking, cleaning, and of course, relations.

[@supersteve8305]

Yep. I would never get legally married. Crazy

[@thomasmichaels6850]

@@Ja50nkAt Do modern women feel any obligation to provide these services??

[@livewires8637]

This is a great point.

[@Brian-qg9bm]

The shark smells blood. Find a way to make it pay for scummy lawyers and we'll owe each other an equal amount in both directions.

[@kellygreenii]

That’s the biggest problem. The divorce laws are holdovers from a social order that no longer exists.

[@tides_of_truth4245]

Kevin Costner just didn't cut it for his ex, lol. No matter how successful you are, an increasing % of women will find a reason to be dissatisfied. Amazing, eh?

[@racebannon96]

The ex-wife over here blamed me for her unhappiness. She thought jumping in bed with alcoholic was exciting and adventurous. She tried to come back. I said no. Too many wives blame their misery on their husbands and think jumping into another relationship will bring them happiness. It usually doesn’t work out for these women.

[@Thunderroad8517]

@@tides_of_truth4245 it’s not a relationship anymore. It’s a business transaction. That’s how it felt to me when she left.

[@zeidmuhammad8206]

21 of my friends are getting divorced in 2024, this man is speaking truth. I've never been married, but I've seen more bad than good!

[@25Soupy]

21 in one year! Geez... I guess I shouldn't be surprised. I'm just thinking at how much those men are going to lose financially in the divorce. It's robbery.

[@bladeedge481]

Dang!!!! 21 in one year yikes

[@Arabiscuits1]

You’ve got a lot of friends my friend

[@gphilipc2031]

I got curious and looked up the % of homes that go on the market as a result of divorce. Anyone want to guess?

[@danielc1112]

@@gphilipc2031 50%?

[@Dav-S5658]

I tell all the young men I know, this simple fact. You can eventually recover from almost every mistake you could make in life, except one: Marriage.

[@richardsearcher3540]

DONT GET MARRIED. Today out of 5 truck drivers and a desk clerk at a large warehouse i was the ONLY one NOT divorced. No I am not fortunate because my wife has had paranoid schizophrenia for 8 years and needs constant care and supervision.

[@pl-mn2ro]

I emphasize with your situation as I am going through the same. It is very important you take care of yourself first otherwise you won’t be able to manage her. Woman with mental health issues have a tendency of being also narcissistic which makes your life a living hell.

[@johnwp573]

Very bizarre that most women just can't be nice, agreeable and loyal. It's generally all about what you can do for them , how you further their goals and agendas. I rarely even date - what's the point, most are either single moms and/or divorced, overweight or just totally bizarre & unhinged. Usually some manner of combination. Stay single, unless you get a friend with benefits that can stay in her lane, you're just better of periodically renting , if you are so inclined.

[@JHavaJoe2-m1z]

The kids lose out during the divorce and some will carry a trauma. It's been "normalized" during these times, but how many will imitate their parents? They'll never have a "working it out" state of mind when the going gets rough in a marriage.This is the "Throw It Away, Get a New One" society.

[@kauffrau6764]

I just never got married.

[@bobblacka918]

Women freely admit on tictok they planned their divorce before they got married. Marriage, to many women, is just a stepping stone to financial freedom.

[@ryanporter1819]

I heard that the term 'toxic masculinity' came from three psychologists who were observing men in prison. It wasn't meant to be used as a term to describe the everyday law abiding adult male.

[@nomad6086]

The term is exclusively used by women on dating apps & social media to mock "non-simps." A masculine man who isn't going to play these games in the dating market will be mocked & shamed as toxic masculinity. 😉

[@bregjejabra25]

Propaganda is what it is.

[@AustinKloud]

Correct - it was made up in the 1990

[@25Soupy]

@@bregjejabra25 Communist Propaganda is where it came from. Separate and conquer, and it's working.

[@thundersnow93]

Toxic masculinity and "existential" are examples of grossly overused and misrepresented phrases/words. Toxic masculinity is merely men raising boys to be tough, responsible, and hard working, and that's deemed toxic these days.

[@bowieupland6112]

Never been married, no kids. I enjoy my freedom, but more importantly, my Peace. The thought of marriage is now abhorrent to me. Anyone who recommends marriage to a young man nowadays, is guilty of a hate crime.

[@hugostiglitz8465]

Anyone who recommends marriage regardless of age is nuts.

[@georgekibblin9924]

The better man that you are, the harder the courts will skin you alive.

Amen brother.

[@drewodessa2483]

It's because that's how the courts and their agents make the most money. The quicker, harder and farther they put you down the more and longer you're willing to pay to recover. Got kids? Oh, they love sacrificing their welfare to get you to pay. I actually had a 'court-appointed mediator' threaten to send a bad report to the court advising against my kids' visitation if I didn't keep paying him his exorbitant fees for this 'court-appointed-child-counselor'. It's a racket. That's ALL it is.

[@MarkMcCullough-y5s]

The better the man the more the feminist judge hates him.

[@ChristIsRisen6777]

Reading through the comments has got to be the most depressing, gut-wrenching stuff I think I have ever read. I wouldn't want my worst enemy to endure this s**t.

[@john-griffin]

I know, but you’ll notice there are no women commenting.

[@andre1987eph]

@@john-griffin Yours has got to be one of the highest quality comments section I have seen on KZbin on the topic of family, relationships, etc. I think you're on your way to 250K subs easily.

[@AS-np3yq]

Yeah.. same here after 17y... i am thrown away..

[@watchers23]

Whether it’s my insecurities, trauma or today is absolutely BS for men like me, I’m totally out. I’ve now left the realm of illusion I created for decades For what love is and what life is. Nature is my new home And how nice that we are a natural being.

[@SneakyFoxJr]

I was in an auto accident where a guy rear ended the back of my car at 75 mph I lost my job my wife left me and took kids I have not seen them in 20 years and all because of something that I could not prevent

[@AS-np3yq]

Pray to Jesus. He wants your pain.

[@jimg.9981]

Always get an visatation agreement through court.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

Parental Alienation is very common in America. Mostly happens to men so society does not care.

[@vidiot9000]

Yes, pure evil behavior that destroys the man, and the children will suffer their whole lives from the lies. But no punishment for the crimes committed by the women.

[@Dollartrumpsign]

I remember the first time I listened to one of your videos I was like 3 minutes in and i said this red pill incel, shrugging off what you were saying but at the back of my mind something just said you know what hear him out, supporting men doesn't mean hating women, and after that video I was glad I stayed. I'm 21 from the UK and I really love the points you make. Cheers mate

[@andre1987eph]

red pill cannot be an iincel

[@nomad6086]

"Rep pill incels?" I don't think there's such a thing. It's usually the "black pillers" that are the incels. Some Red pillers with have rage over their frustration with women (i.e."Red Pill Rage"). But many can get with a woman for sex. It may not be the hot, fit chick that they desire (like we all do. Lol), he may have to settle for a less attractive, overweight woman. I'm in the manosphere & this is what I've been taught.

[@TravisHi_YT]

Please tell your friends, the whole "ink well" (YT censored word) thing is a form of psychological warfare to alienate men who truly suffer in our society. They want us divided, not united.

[@owusuphilipable]

The reason why u almost shrugged it off is cause u have ur mothers nature lol😂 soft, beta and ruled by gynocentric order, anything that criticizes women you will defend it 😂 instead of analyzing it😂

[@zeku3531]

Wow he nailed this. Luckily I didn't have kids with my ex. But everything else he said is 💯 true. Not a single person ever asked me about what happened, why it led to divorce. Friends and family have both been completely silent. Honestly my cat saved my life, I live for her.

[@RB-45ACP]

Flashback: 40 years ago, my ex did exactly that. First, she cheated on the marriage for months, then demanded a separation during which she continued sleeping with other men. A year later, she filed for divorce and in the process attacked my masculinity and character. Kicked me into a hole emotionally, financially and dumped the dog she just had to have on me (or it went to the pound). Last communication I had with her was she called a year after the divorce was final and wanted 'her' dog back. That didn't happen. Your take on this stuff is accurate.

[@plasmaarmelund]

We live in a world where wom3n can cheat in a marriage, then file for divorce and get rewarded for it.

[@gkauto1959]

My Hero! you should let all the guys currently divorcing in your state those laws!

[@gphilipc2031]

But who has the STDs?

[@Ιστοριοδίφης]

Did you lost half?

[@rostislavkhrapko285]

Thanks!

[@john-griffin]

Thank you!

[@john-griffin]

Thank you!

[@juanriochi]

This problem is pandemic. Not only in the United States but also in Spain, Germany, England, especially in Western countries. In the East and Africa, women are still kept in check. But this pandemic is spreading like COVID. I am 43 years old, with 3 children and separated since 2020 during the pandemic. I left Spain for England. Being single is going great for me. I never thought I could earn so much money and be in control of my finances. Women are a pest in most cases.

[@johnwp573]

Yes, generally speaking, most women are by definition, a liability. Wait until they lose their shape & get menopaused. If they are not pleasant, kind, loyal , then obviously it's just a matter of time. Unless one wants to live as a slave.

[@ThePerpetualVictim]

Africa and the East have it right. The West gave power to children and let them run rampant.

[@Florida_Joe75]

John NEVER misses. Thank you for helping men. I feel sorry for men these days having to deal with the modern woman AND the toxic job environment...

[@recabitejehonadab2654]

I had an invested relationship for 3 yrs. She split to monkey branch. Then she wanted to comeback , I said nope. She moved around met and married then divorced. Now she lives alone. Unreal. I dodged a bullet. Stay single guys.

[@memedaddytv3618]

The mainstream media always talks about the gender pay gap but never the parental alienation gender gap 🤔

[@bregjejabra25]

True. Good point.

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

💯

[@fireballchaser]

@memedaddytv3618 I remember reading a story that came out that showed what happens to people's incomes after they have a baby. Men's income actually goes up in those times and people were talking about how unfair it is that men make more money in those times. I've been the man in those instances. My income didn't go up because of sexism. It went up because I started working more and better so I could move up the ladder. I did whatever I could to provide for my family. That wasn't bosses giving me raises because of sexism. That was me sacrificing my life and free time to do whatever I wanted to be a better father and husband. I worked harder to be a provider and now women think that they should be paid equally even though I'm the one giving up more so I can do more?

[@gpp5655]

@@memedaddytv3618 Also the media lies about the so called pay gap .

[@HaroldLeeDye]

If you never get married, then she will never divorce you. It is wise to see the big picture and live a great life as a man.

[@Aiken47]

I’m married 34 yrs - modern feminism has whispered in my wife’s ear - the irrational unsubstantiated bs she comes out with - then I’m to blame for pointing it out - no critical thinking skills, true introspection, empathy, compassion and no accountability, - it’s got me thinking

[@snufkin7169]

@@Aiken47 yeah doesn't matter how educated the woman, talking about anything feminism related is all about emotions and nonsense, logic and critical thinking doesn't exist because they aren't capable of it and it would decimate any feminist argument.

[@JonHummel-q4g]

Stamp it out man. I have two daughters and every single time my wife utters any of that feminism rubbish I jump on it and put her back in her box. This is a woman who has not worked in 26 years since my first born. Has never paid a bill and basically just lives of my money. That is not to say she does not bring everything to our marriage especially everything I’m lacking you know emotions the ability to know my children would throw up before they actually do ( some sorta witch craft going on there) Her you tube feminism clap trap is now now laughed at by three of us not just me. Even my girls can’t take her seriously. Both of them want to marry a man just like me so they can stay home, make castles out of sheets and spend their hard earned husbands money. Told them it’s easy respect your man treat him like a king and make his life easier not harder. He will build you a life you’ll never want to leave.

[@frankrizzo5262]

Worst decision I’ve ever made… trusted a woman and married her.

[@brenth5702]

100% l lost 18 years of work in 6 years of marriage. All gone. “A girl has to look out for herself.” She did. 25 years later I’m still single. Zero interest in losing it all again. My advice. Get a dog. 😅

[@ma-jp8bf]

No, get a motorcycle-- great for clearing the mind out in the twisties. Throttle therapy.

[@Richard-ev7mc]

Spot on John about the parent alienation my ex-wife turned my son against me, making me out to be the evil one when she was the one that wanted to walk out of the marriage , now he doesn’t talk to me no more. I always said it was a crime what she’s doing to him .

[@john-griffin]

In my mind, that’s the worst thing. It should be punishable.

[@frankjimenez8742]

@Richard-ev7mc my ex worked on alienation for years...finally got my youngest teen to flat out reject me. my teen has written me long text messages that sound like break up letters between bf and gf. we aren't compatible i dont care about our relationship either way. almost sounds like her mother wrote these messages. pure evil on the mother's part.

[@MrElliebeli]

Happening to me. It absolutely needs to be a crime!

[@michaelboulware1240]

I am literally going through this right now.

[@vidiot9000]

Me too. Hang in there!

[@dk.650]

Make yourself useful, find a group of people who enjoy what you do, sport, hobbies, whatever it may be. Use it to keep your mind and body busy. It's tough but over time the drive returns.

[@racebannon96]

I went through it too. I kept my sanity by reading Psalms. David went through it all…betrayal, enemies, despair, and depression.

[@vidiot9000]

@@michaelboulware1240 exercise helped me a lot going through this painful process.

[@gphilipc2031]

Sorry Man.

[@markst.germain9286]

9 years ago my wife filed for divorce. I told my attorney to do everything we could to keep our family together. After I was awarded temporary custody and support my wife decided to drop the case. I think it was better for our kids to stay in one home however it has not been better for me, I feel so betrayed and cannot bring myself to trust her again. Our youngest will be 18 next year, if I stay I'll be trapped and if I go I may never be allowed to see future grandchildren. I currently see no solution and now I wonder if we would have been better off if I had just let it happen.

[@NotMik33]

Can you explain all this to your children? Since they are old enough, they should understand what you are going through.

[@racebannon96]

Tough call. The now ex-wife had her affair and dated in front of me in an attempt to get me to over react by putting my hands on her. I knew better and didn’t fall for it. I advised her to get out. She moved out and into a small apt with her alcoholic boyfriend. Two months later, she tried to negotiate her return. She had no remorse or apology. I knew her hatefullness towards me would be worse towards me. I told her NO. I have no regrets and got the divorce done as quickly as possible. The bottom line, I would never be able to trust her again.

[@restingsmirkface]

Divorce isn't 'killing' anything - it's already dead. I grew up somewhat in a bubble, a nice guy. There was even a year I was considering being with a SM. I still found my way to the truth, to reality. The prospect of divorce kept me from getting involved (and a few other reasons, but divorce was a key reason). If it affected me that much, I can only imagine a not-so-nice-guy's thoughts...

[@TravisHi_YT]

wow, dodged a bullet there big time!

[@De-tw7by]

Never make women the priority in life. Instead make your passion, career, health, friends etc your priority in life. It's not worth investing your time and energy for women and not worth the return. Don't be a simp .

[@ITR1329]

It’s the the one investment in life that the more you put in, the less you get out of it.

[@Niranjan1983-nz7vl]

In our monogamous part of the world, to marry means to halve one's rights and double one's duties. Arthur Schopenhauer

[@GregMunro]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient....

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.

[@GregMunro]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white...

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks..

[@GregMunro]

You wont regret it

[@ITR1329]

This is an advertisement, folks, don’t take the bait. I’ve seen this same comment on multiple of John’s videos.

[@fearless7424]

I lucked out on my divorce my wife still had a conscience and left me the house with everything in it and got 50/50 custody on my 4 year old. She only wanted her wedding ring and a pickup. So thank you Jesus.

[@andre1987eph]

She sounds like a keeper. oops 😅

[@fearless7424]

@ 😂😂😂

[@pujapete3665]

same here,kept house and gave her £2000 back in early 80,s.think they bought a car.single since

[@gphilipc2031]

Who was the "Pickup"?

[@johnwp573]

Wow, you got off very easy. Basically like breaking up with a long time G/F.

[@arniep740]

I think he has it backwards: Divorce does not cause the breakdown in relationships. It is the breakdown in relationships that cause divorce. My 20 year marriage broke down long before the divorce.

[@powerjae4651]

Never got married never will. Don’t care what society or ppl in general think about my choices as I have been checked out for a long time. I don’t believe the bs that society tells us anymore and just live for my own happiness.

[@Spinonemaster]

My parents divorced in the early 60's back when it was uncommon ... my unstable mother was left bitter and vindictive ... my father, his business and his family were targeted for decades ... we were upper middle class in a small town ... as a young child I suffered in silence without a relationship with my father beyond sporadic visitation ... I struggled to find my own way as my mother spiraled out of control on a regular basis ... later as a young man I worked hard to have a decent relationship with my Dad, my mother made me pay for that ... I never married, no kids ... a choice, unconscious or not I'm glad it worked out that way ... sadly, my sibling did not fair well, suicide, mental illness, dug addiction ... in my late 60's and all alone, no family left ... decades of disappointments in relationships controlling women I haven't dated in almost 20 years ... just not worth the hassle ... at least my life is peaceful ... just me and my faithful dogs

[@kauffrau6764]

Same here, parents were divorced in 1966. I was ashamed as it wasn't so frequent then. Never got married myself. Have no brothers and sisters. Have been alone most of my life, so I'm pretty good at it. I have a job I love, that is what saved me..

[@racebannon96]

My mother and father divorced when I was a toddler. He never came around. I grew up without a father and had to figure out everything out myself. I would have my worst nightmare, I went through divorce again as an adult. The now ex-wife saw our kids as a burden and I got them in the divorce. I recovered financially from the divorce and was able to retire a few years ago. I went No Contact with the ex-wife about 16 years ago.

[@gphilipc2031]

Back in the early portion of the 20th century, a big, big number of folks were basically just cohabiting. It was simple word is bond. Especially the poor and blue-collar folks. Same thing is happening today nuanced a bit differently. HOWEVER, word is not such a big bond in this age.

[@AS-np3yq]

And the catholic church says divorce and adultery is a deadly sin. It leads to hell - for the perpetrators. And now the west is dying.

[@Chris-k3t6z]

Sound like a country songs.😅

[@Observer111]

"Accountability" and "woman" in the same sentence??

[@cmcbunch]

Itll only happen through force. Repeal that amendment and revise laws to preempt abusive behavior from both sides. Then actually administer the punishments. You can't go all squishy every time a female turns on the water works. Make a rule that judges overseeing family courts are exclusively not hetero.

[@Oliver-ob5og]

Excellently said. Fully agree! I’m witnessing these dynamics everywhere. I’m in my 50s, never married and am more and more grateful for my situation which results in my peace, my wellbeing (emotionally, financially, physically) …. my true freedom.

[@MU-io5en]

I’m definitely a statistic, whether I wanted to be or not. A divorced dad. Most likely looked at as a failure among true families. It began when our child was about three. Hints from my wife like….”if my dad was alive you wouldn’t be good enough for me.” Of course you all know, as soon as the children are potty trained and can talk, most women decide they’d like better…among other things. I stuck it out as long as I could. Then the deputy showed up at the house and delivered the news. My then 12 year old answered the door, and the deputy gave her the envelope. Is that even legal? I was lucky. I only paid out half of what our house was worth, and no alimony. My daughter stayed with me until into college. I taught her how to ski, and skate, and ride a bike. We did everything, just the two of us, for years. I remember saying to myself when she was very little. “I need to video our experiences so that she remembers me and what we did together.” However, it was not without effect. In her critical words as an educated adult….”You were only good when I needed money.” I thought…What a short memory you have.

[@greg_austin]

I met a man who had an even worse divorce story than mine: Divorced, with two daughters, but wanted to still be a part of their lives, so lived in the apartment across the street from the family house. He drove the girls to school, to gymnastics lessons, and so on, but one night the ex called and said some big male was on the roof near the girl's window, to please come and investigate. So, he brought a firearm and, sure enough, there was a man on the roof. They got into a screaming match with one another, and dad was certain the perp was going to enter the girl's room, so he shot, and the man fell off the roof and was killed. Dad was arrested and jailed for murder. To find out in court that this was not a perp at all, but the wife's lover--who had climbed out onto the roof to get away from her during a love spat. So, one man lay dead, another faced murder charges, while the wife got the house, kids, and his inheritance.

[@mikerepairsstuff]

I married a foreign nanny who chose our first apartment who took on too much too fast and then I learned she was bi-polar. She made a complete fool of me when she crashed our family car through an airport entrance gate because she said she wanted to learn to fly. True story and 30 grand later we divorced and I’m so glad she’s bye-bye.

[@gphilipc2031]

So it's By-By Ms. American Fly

[@stanbogdanovecz1300]

Man you have helped me so much. You are spot on with your exploration of these issues we as men have. Loyalty. I would never have left 1st wife even though things were awful. My family was so important to me. I've dealt with alot of shit in my life but that was probably the worst. She tossed me out like a piece of trash.

[@DeDraakAap]

Thanks for sharing these truths eloquently.

[@gogo-bi9qh]

Good analysis. My ex-wife had new boyfriend and leased apartment (all behind my back) before she told me she was moving out and wanted a divorce. Movers came two days later. Blindsided was an understatement. Husband is often the last to know.

[@john-griffin]

You were blindsided. I know many other men who’ve experienced the same thing.

[@pigphatnick]

From the uk. Never married, no kids, been happily single for over a decade now. Lifes good 😊

[@Looseleafteas]

Thanks

[@john-griffin]

Thank you!

[@pharmit24]

What advice would you give to a man thats gonna be 30 next year and just before that on April for 2 years I've been with her and I almost got married but I decided to break up and take care of my mental health rather than avoiding red flags all the time.

[@andre1987eph]

As a 59 yo man, my advice to you at 30 is to walk away from women for the next 20 years and totally focus on investing ever spare cent for early retirement.

[@TheMensHighway]

Do the work on yourself that you need to do. Learn to manage your emotions, heal your trauma and get your healthy masculinity in check. Then go hunting for a woman. When you re in a good state of being you'll attract a good woman. Don't listen to the man children that got dumped and whine about it online. There's two sides to every story, then there's the truth. I know lots of good women, choose your woman wisely.

[@harrypairatestys4230]

Take care of your mental health now by yourself. If you decide to marry your mental will suffer more.

[@bobbyjames4300]

Take care of yourself first.. it’s easy to find woman for fun only. Don’t commit.

[@pharmit24]

Appreciate all the advice.

[@netsherrera7193]

It's been 5 years and I haven't been able to recover and get my life back. I can't overcome the pain.

You’re not alone. Prayers.

[@netsherrera7193]

Thank you.

[@perdinatheone]

Hey take care of yourself. I know what your going through. And, there is light at the end of the túnel. And, its not a train.

[@netsherrera7193]

@@perdinatheone You guys give me hope. If you did it, I can too. Thank you for reminding me I am not alone on this. I'm walking towards that light. I'll feel relieved someday. I'll be fine again. Thank you, amigos.

[@NotMik33]

Bro, I went through the same shit. Betrayal, cheating, divorce. Only things that helped me was hitting the gym, reconnecting with male friends, and having flings with new women. There is a good quote for this: "All problems with women are solved by more women". With every new woman you sleep with, you'll forget the one that caused you so much pain.

[@samikoski2690]

Nice vid. You are a talented orator

[@RickTheClipper]

The divorced man is happy, relaxed, and enjoys life, provided he learns from his failures

[@RobsNeighbor]

Just laying down for sleep will be listening and maybe changing my comment in the morning thank you for all the Great Value you bring to us John.After my divorce I was left broke and with our son, He is 11 and we had the worst morning ever. My son resents me even after 8 years of it just being us, I have a small business and between my son a house and business I can BARELY keep it together and then to get slammed by a child when we are together is killing me. I try so hard and he sees it, I wonder if its just his mom coming out in him? I have full custody and she is MIA. I never say bad things about her. She lives 20 miles away and he sees her once a month maybe. Maybe I am to hard on myself he is a great kid. Much love yall

[@TravisHi_YT]

Does he know why his mom is MIA? You HAVE to tell him if he doesn't. Don't sugar coat it.

[@drewodessa2483]

Srsyly, you're playing fair and honest to someone who's cheating, lying and slandering you to your kid? She wants you D 10,000X over and you want to be responsible. Guess who loses? Let the boy know what's going on. He's not stupid at that age. Consider thousands of lies he's been told. You ever consider that's why he resents you? He believes his mother's lies more than your own actions. Whatever you do for him she hears from him and she has an excuse why you did it for yourself, and at her expense. You did the divorce, You broke up the family, you want to keep the kids separate, you make her life miserable, etc. etc. It's ALL your fault, that's ALL she tells him. That's why he blames YOU. Wake up man!

[@bobbyjames4300]

She will get her do’s mate. Believe me..

[@industrialexitstrategist2022]

2x divorcee with one broken engagement. 14 years every other weekend dad. Kids are now grown and on their own. Solo empty nester full time RV Nomad since January 2019

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Azul says the earlier you retire the longer you will live, today. Like him or not he is spot on. Many Americans die young or right after retirement. There is more to life than working. Leisure is good, if chosen by choice.

[@nomad6086]

Yeah, but with the high cost of living & increasing inflation, a lot of us have to keep working until we have one foot in the grave. 🤣

[@25Soupy]

I watch Azul, I saw the video title but haven't watched it yet. It's hard to retire early if you're married with children. I'm 56, never married no children. I retired from full time work 3 years ago and work 2 days a week now. I live in a nice neighbourhood downtown half a block from the beach. I sold my car and walk everywhere and everything is just blocks away, all the stores and restaurants you can think of. My wage covers all my expenses and I bank thousands a year on top of that thanks to my simple lifestyle. If I had a girlfriend, (not even a wife and children) she would never let me get away with working 2 days a week. I would have to work full time and spend all the money I make on our (her) lifestyle. I couldn't get away with not having a car if I was in a relationship, next to no woman would even date a man without a car.

[@GentlRebel]

I don’t blame men at all. My husband had to pay alimony to his ex wife for five years and during a couple of those years, she made more than he did! She had always worked during the marriage, she had her own successful business and plenty of money from the division of assets. She still clawed for more, tormented him with legal motions and made his and our life miserable during that time. He’s a good man and didn’t deserve what she did to him. It was cruel and made no sense. If I were a man, there’s no question in my mind I that I would not get married.

[@MickeyMouse-lo4sy]

Brutal! But unfortunately true.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Violinist Nigel Kennedy says he was partly deaf for 3 months after the 'vac', recently..................stay healthy guys

[@bobjames6622]

More fool him for taking poison. Same goes for all the other morons who partook of that global experiment.

[@denisbelanger4473]

I worked at a place that employed thousands of people so I crossed many paths. I could always tell when a man was going thru a divorce he'd lose a lot of weight in a short period of time. First thing I would say is are you having issues with your wife? Almost every time it was Yes.

[@permafrost2893]

"Modern women love the FANTASY of a Marriage and the REALITY of a Divorce!"

[@chriscunicelli7070]

I think you did a great job job of summarizing the way I feel. It’s like you were speaking for me and about me. Thank you.

[@robwille7376]

Every friend I knew that has been divorced, it was tragic how they got wrecked, financially, with child custody/visitation and just the emotional impact, all of them good and honorable men just rolled by their ex wives and court system. Had my bad own experiences. Been married now for 17 years to a really good woman, but so few good ones out there that I would still advise anyone just have an unmarried LTR and avoid cohabitation if at all possible. Let them be strong independent women, separate but equal... Men will evolve and adapt to the system women built, hopefully they like the result.

[@emailsph3282]

Good advice. There are maybe 5% of women who are reasonable and honourable. The rest... a variety of crazy, toxic, pathological, greedy, selfish women. They are in every profession, educated or uneducated, every area of the western world and increasingly beyond. No marriage. No cohab. Be very careful who you have children with, if you are determined to have kids ( I don't recommend having kids now because they will be used against you now).

[@Amk4792]

Im still healing amidst the trauma that had occurred this past april. Lost my wife, who shacked up with her new bf who she left me for with my daughter. Left a hole in me, and my entire perception on marriage has changed. Im still rebuilding myself both mentally, spiritually, and financially. I began to date, but some of my baggage particularly on financial worries has impacted a healthy relationship i built with a woman who actually gave a shit about me. Now, im back being alone, continuing to find purpose again.

[@daviddaughenbaugh1080]

The powers that be, have pushed it to be this way, and do not intend on letting it be fixed. The change they are making on the earth does not include society making any decisions.

[@shermanscott383]

After my divorce, I found out what unconditional love was from every pet I'd had.

[@sa2417]

You nailed it here John. Divorce can be so much cheaper, fairer and less arduous for all involved if the divorce contract was known when the marriage contract is signed. No need for expensive and damaging custody and property disputes then if divorce eventually occurs.

[@harrypairatestys4230]

Eventually? Look at the divorce rate that is initiated by women. You should say when it happens. Good luck

[@sa2417]

@ I believe if they implemented a fair divorce settlement as suggested by John, women will not be financially rewarded to break up the family so would be much less motivated to initiate divorce and the divorce rates should plummet.

[@Random-rt5ec]

Great video - I lost all my self esteem and fell into a depression after learning my 2nd wife was cheating. I got over it by moving out and doing good things for myself like exercise but wow for 2 years I could barely keep my head above water, and I lost all desire to make $$$,

[@HunkumSpunkum]

Another great video. A lack of purpose in men often leads to chronic depression and then some form of drug dependency...

[@Arnie-t6l7r]

Just discovered your channel, you are an inspiration. Are you planning on doing a video about the poor men who are still stuck in the ridiculously long and corrupt litigation and custody battles? Year 5 here, dropped a million dollars in my own litigation while trial dates keep getting pushed off. The system is dirty and suspicious. Should not have to fight this hard to end a short term marriage with an abusive narcissist with a criminal record which I only discovered after the separation. 5 judges on the case. Why? Looks like I'm going to get primary custody after 4 years of 3 custody experts grabbing a piece of the bank accounts but this is ridiculous. Yes, exercise does wonders guys and keep up your fun hobbies. So does peace and quiet. I am a straight man but I can not stand the sight of a woman anymore so closeness and sex are a distant fading memory. I pray for us all.