Lessons I Learned from my Ex ( Narcissistic Relationship )

[@MegaRockstar48]

Trust your gut, watch for the red flags. Don’t chase people who don’t value and respect you

[@Solamoro]

How about don’t chase people, period.?

[@motowngirl5891]

We need to be taught this as a child, girls are always made to feel guilty about having anything good in our life

[@nofrillstarot9372]

Don't let the fear of losing someone strip you of your dignity and sanity.

[@waitery]

Or what you have built financially!

[@Solamoro]

How about just never fear losing someone?

[@biba350]

@@nofrillstarot9372 Absolutely

[@orangecat1672]

I learned not to sacrifice my emotional, mental wellness for anyone or anything .

[@tommydanger60]

I learned to be alone, understand what allowed myself to get involved with toxic people and am now self aware forever!!

[@MongPhu]

Oh my goodness, everything you are saying resonates with me. Please listen to your gut. Establish your boundaries and ensure your needs are met and fulfilled, or you will second guess yourself and lose confidence.

[@mphomarokane6485]

I thank the narcissist for helping come face to face with my traumas

[@freshstrt3140]

When the narcissist is your parent, its a whole other level🙏🏽

[@biba350]

12 years in toxic relationship Lessons learnt self-love and how codependency is dangerous listen to my gut feelings red flags are there for reason I'v learnt boundaries I'm actually healing for first time

[@superfields1194]

self love, self worth, be stoic and best version of yourself! then it all changed good things happened

[@nardatira5095]

❤you said 2 very important words in a relationship, consistency and actions! that is the most important thing in a relationship.

[@forestofechoes]

I have learned that in the state we are while we are in an unhealthy relationship we cannot see things unless we see in ourselves what is there that keeps us in a roller coaster

[@Indy__isnt_it]

I'm stuck at the end of a LONG term to get myself set up in a new place, terrified I'll pick the wrong location. In no way ready to look or find a random, then try to figure them out before I have myself set up in my own place. He's holding me back psychologically, playing head games with me.

[@armetta99]

It is scary working through how long I let myself be disrespected and allowed myself to take the blame and punishment. Even now I yearn for his presence because when I'm alone, I'm haunted by the painful memories :( I don't know where the line between rumination and suppression is... how do I fully work through the pain without living there..?

[@DontBeATree]

Sorry you went through it, but now you can see the signs

[@DEAN_23]

The most valuable lesson I learnt out of my narcissistic abuse experience, is that all the people that is close to you, that you think will support you and believe in your dreams and ambitions? That only happens on TV. Always keep your head on a swivel, and be careful of those who conspire towards keeping you down, and not building you up. At least with your enemies, they're honest about it. But when it comes to friends and family, watch out....

[@andreab.1943]

Very valuable insight. I had a narcissistic ex, two narcissistic ex-bosses and a narcissistic mother (who I am no contact since this year). My ex-boyfriend was on the lighter spectrum. But these toxic leadership persons almost destroyed me. The power imbalance adds up to the destructive narcisstic traits of these persons. But - I did learn about my inner core values - like honesty, transparency, respectful and appreciative communication. And I won't deviate from that anymore.

[@GregMunro]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@GregMunro]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@GregMunro]

You wont regret it

[@1jw298]

Blue is definitely a good color for you! Beautiful!

[@TimJames-mj2hg]

I can completely relate, the narcissist pushes you away until you leave just to play victim and pretend to scratch there heads at your absence. Screw those Narcy freaks they're not worth it!!

[@lilfairycupcake]

what sucks is there is such a high number of narcs, born from our present society, by the means of accepting, and normalizing it, embracing it, is unreal. i have a hard time finding anyone who is not a part of the narc club, to one degree, or another. all relationships today, including marriage, that i personally view are based on a purely transactional forum, of what one is getting from the other. is this not a form of narcissism in its purest sense? you, as a human being, have been deleted from the equation.

[@Introverted100]

You have the best car videos.

[@audreyess]

Wow! I really needed to hear this. I’m having such hard time getting over how my ex betrayed me and then moved on with a shiny new gf within about 10 weeks. My problem is I really don’t know how to forgive him. It’s a real struggle for me.

[@secheclare]

It takes time.

[@janedoe8429]

The narcissist made me “learn” whether I wanted to or not - and that was the lesson. Because of him, I am where I am now, a more experienced, more aware, more healed woman.

[@radzhurl8711]

As an empathic person whatever happened at that time made you believe that as you are great they will be great and we will live this great life till death. Now ive learnt, painful but can be done.

[@danielskyles6184]

Great video Stephanie. Ty for speaking the truth 😊

[@bronzemv4440]

Set a boundary test early on. They fail the boundary test, get out.

[@cc1k435]

Doesn't even need to be set up OR tested. You likely have these already. Life is the test, and that's that. No games.

[@bronzemv4440]

@@cc1k435 Not a game. Waiting to find out later is silly and let's hyper manipulative people in your life. Usually, the opportunity will present itself naturally. I get what you are saying.

[@cc1k435]

@@bronzemv4440 It will. And I'd rather remove myself early than spend months or years trying to figure it out. Better safe than sorry. If you get weird vibes early on, it's OK to call it.

[@ameliasavage4307]

Thank you for the video I love it.😊

[@MichaelLee-em4le]

1:46 “we let someone have that kind of control over us”

[@sanjeevbains690]

Self-worth. Self Care❤ Self ❤ Solitude Firm Boundaries & speaking my needs Intuition Responding vs Reacting Healthy vs Unhealthy love Forgiveness & changing the narrative to move on To not take it personally

[@NFSMAN50]

Thanks for the video Steph!!

[@grantalley4895]

Thank you for you ... Just thank you ❤

[@jsensefi]

Thank you, Stephanie🙏🏻When I count my blessings, I count you twice❤️❤️❤️

[@reubenmarcus]

This was a good one, thanks Steph! 🎉😊

[@LAGatorGirl]

Love your videos. Do you have one that explains to your family & friends who have no clue the hell you've been through but are now starting the journey of pending divorce?

[@DDa-n2v]

Wow! Really good video, like Ms Lynns energy! ⚡

[@mygisable]

Thanks Stephanie!

[@nicolehayes6020]

Thank you for your support and help ✌️🙏❤️

[@vantastic_dreamer]

@ Stephanie Coaching I saw the red flags. I felt the gut feeling, but I had a special-needs daughter that had up to eight seizures a day. I had no family to go to and I got trapped financially. I feel like I can’t blame myself for staying. I know what it’s like to feel hunger and no one is coming to help. I am trying to get where you say that it’s our responsibility. He wasn’t like that at first. My ultimate responsibility was caring for her and having insurance to pay for her brain surgeries

[@suamb4291]

You are not alone sweetheart I am suffering from the same situation my daughter has autism I have no one to help me. I have to stay with the horrible person who hurt me because I can't afford in my own 😭😭

[@vantastic_dreamer]

@@suamb4291 I understand you. I just try to paint, exercise and take care of myself . So I can be healthy as much as possible for her.

[@Andrea-lp4bb]

To those on there who feel so trapped....I hear you. I'm so sorry for your pain. That was me too. My own mother is highly Narcissistic & I married someone similar. Addictions, abuse, affairs & lying. But my mother turned the whole family against me so I felt trapped. I have a chronic illness & have one daughter. He walked out almost 3 years ago. My family sided with him & took him in as their own. Tried turning my daughter on me too. She's now 19 & has nothing to do with them & knows her Dad is abusive. It's been a tough journey putting my life back together. I have some good friends & a great church. I understand why people get trapped in these horrific situations

[@brianhill6842]

Do they switch up what they say they want? This guy I was involved with told me he wanted to do life with me and then a few weeks later I brought it up and he lashed out at me and made me feel like I imagined it. He told me the guy I was involved with before was a narcissist and that so many gays use guys for their own emotional gain. I feel like he repeated that with his own actions because he pursued me hard asking me if I could commit to doing this with him, and the minute I expressed clarification or a need…he would escalate into a rant and be angry.

[@xuemma-pb7ys]

my ex said he wanted a life with me ,he love boomed me and asked me to drop my work and go to his country .when i went to his country while dont know his language and culture …he did not mention about marriage anymore ,did not even give the ring he shown me via the video ….when i mention about to get married ,he said i was pushing him and putting a knife under his throat

[@secheclare]

I hope you're doing better❤

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@mykymst7877]

Two words. MY WORTH

[@VixR9]

Please do a video on this with having a kid w a narc who’s now only wanting to see the kid due to punishing you. Saying i will bleed you dry financially via lawyers. Now have to share my baby w him he’s a stranger. Please I’m begging i need help

[@AlvaDeanna]

this format really suits me

[@SylviaAngieer]

really liked this video

[@foxygayla]

Yes I had to learn to love myself again. I even bought a self love journal which really helped. ❤

[@universalseeker]

Stephanie, I'm going through the same thing and yes I did hear it! Great video.

[@jessea.1216]

luv your video luv u sooo much.. also fyi fall starts on 9/22 still a summer day

[@bearstown19show]

I M glad I found your channnel

[@alyssahinderscheid]

My ex I believe is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies. I am processing the discard.

[@matthewwozniak9138]

Keeping it real. That's why I love you.

[@motowngirl5891]

We are so messed up from childhood, my parents made my life miserable “You already had ONE boyfriend” hurry up and get married Most people get married young and don’t even know themselves and what they like😔😔😔

[@cc1k435]

I wasn't as young as that, but still got "single shamed" into getting married. I don't think I really felt my life was my own yet, certainly not within my family, anyway.

[@davidm4842]

Thank you so much for everything Stephanie 💙😊

[@LindsayGrandberry]

Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love xoxo

[@spesch03]

My narc got me back in therapy working on the most important person… ME ❤!!!!

[@ChicagoAnzuruni]

Tic Tac take it break it down just going to walk with your safety breaking okay don't think about it just take a break here Logan what can I say and thank you baby

[@noturbo]

i walked past so many red flags now to forgive me sure taking some time/

[@terrypoffenroth2853]

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[@TKR377]

My spouse left me and my 3 boys. She left out-of-state to be with somebody else, and it breaks me so much. Cause we had 9 years of marriage and I'm so confused and lost. She left me with bills and taking care of our kids. I'm devastated. I can't even put it into words what this pain and suffering...

[@NehaSharma-777]

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[@Andrea-lp4bb]

This is so so good. I had a Narcissistic Mother as well as ex husband & I need to MOVE ON!! Especially relevant to me is not getting triggered by other people. The other day my new boss said something a bit disrespectful to me & it threw me into a panic & I went way down the rabbit hole & am still trying to climb back out.

[@ChicagoAnzuruni]

Just just take it take time take time to take time everything going to say make me sick I hit my head I got hurt too much and my head too much either just try one more time Southwest Houston I don't understand what you said

[@alyssahinderscheid]

Can an abuser just all of a sudden become and abuser based on me and how I am?

[@stephen-mac]

Yeah, but living with a spouse with covert?

[@bearstown19show]

My best friend she insultd me a lot lies about Me I care about her so much still so do she has boy friend I need help Stephanie I am nice guy

[@Qhht.Illinois]

💯🙌😍🙏😊

[@aprilvaughn9781]

💯

[@ChicagoAnzuruni]

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[@ellepilates]

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