let people miss out on you.

[@makelifemedicine]

Have you ever found yourself trying to prove your worth to someone who didn’t deserve it? What did it take for you to finally let them miss out on you? 👇

[@GaryTongue-zn5di]

My family completely takes me for granted.

[@makelifemedicine]

@GaryTongue-zn5di I'm sorry. I wonder if you've ever let yourself express it to them in an honest and vulnerable way. Don't get me wrong, I know that sometimes even that is unwelcome, but just a thought I had. 💗

[@ewhite3691]

Their spirits reside in the land of desolation.

[@makelifemedicine]

@ewhite3691 beautiful 😍

[@DrmCom2003]

What I've learned is that the better you become at something, the more you will be hated by people in general. They have to dismiss you to save their own fragile ego's.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@DrmCom2003 💯 louder for the people in the back 📣

[@BoostedPastime]

Absolutely

[@AlexA-gy7us]

"If they can't see your light, let them sit in the dark." Damn!!!!!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@AlexA-gy7us 😜🔥 am I right?

[@oonojoe]

Yeah, This one I will carry with Me always!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@oonojoe Oh good! It's a good one, for sure 😁

[@StemValen-h5g]

My last job was like this. It felt no one there valued my expertise. They gave me all the responsibility and none of the authority. My self respect improved big time after I quit.

[@makelifemedicine]

I'm glad you found your way out of that situation ❤

[@IamWanderwoman]

It's a life long battle, some days I repeat to myself as a manta "it doesn't matter what people think".

[@makelifemedicine]

@@IamWanderwoman You have to! 💗

[@BPC1053]

No one in My 60 years have EVER valued Me, unfortunately that has included Me. I need to value Myself even if no one else does or ever will. Thanks for this video ❤

[@makelifemedicine]

@@BPC1053 I'm sad reading this 😔 but I totally understand. I have been there, obviously or I wouldn't be speaking about it so passionately 😅 I'm glad it helped 💗

[@BPC1053]

@makelifemedicine thanks again.🤠

[@makelifemedicine]

@@BPC1053 thank you for being here!

[@devilsadvocacy]

I’m autistic and have always had to mask. Everything I’ve accomplished in life is a function of how well I can convince people that I’m neurotypical. I’ve always respected myself, but no one else likes nor respects that person

[@makelifemedicine]

@@devilsadvocacy I really feel you on this, And I'm glad that you have not allowed it to diminish your own self-respect 💗

[@SharkyJ40]

Well said! When she said limited energy, I listened even closer. Whew, bridging that gap is tiring.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@SharkyJ40 and you don't need to do it 😉🙏🏼💗

[@tinydream]

Same thing for me. I have a boyfriend now who sees me but just recently my best friend of 20 years dumped me. I realized she’d been making a mental list our entire friendship of every moment I ever did something weird and now was holding it against me. My heart is broken and I’m confused. I just wish I’d known sooner so we could have talked it out, not in texting, and save the friendship.

[@tinydream]

But to add to that, it’s been a few days since she did that and I’m starting to realize it may be a blessing in disguise. She essentially hid herself our whole friendship and then judged me for being myself. I love her so much but that’s super toxic and even being alone is better than having friends like that.

[@geo665]

I often think of the lyrics from The Smiths 'Heaven Knows I'm Miserable Now' when Morrissey sings, 'In my life, why do I give valuable time to people who don't care if I live or die?' But then I've been 'too much' for most people for as long as I can remember, and I simply no longer care. On the down side, nobody has ever actually bothered to 'show up' for authentic me and neither has it awarded me with anything other than being alone. Their loss.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@geo665 their loss ONE HUNDRED PERCENT. And don't you ever forget that 💗 In my little corner of the world, we are all TOO MUCH and it is frigggggggin BEAUTIFUL 😍

[@geo665]

@@makelifemedicine I recently heard someone say that it takes a lot of energy to be who you're not. And that really stuck with me. Suppressing yourself for the benefit or comfort of others to the point that you become afraid of of letting anyone really see *you* - whether out of fear of judgement or ridicule or whatever - is bullshit. And if people who *do* see you tend to shy away or avoid you - fine. Sacrificing your self worth on the altar of someone else's opinion is a waste of valuable time and energy better placed elsewhere.

[@makelifemedicine]

@geo665 I'm with you 100%. It is exhausting and soul sucking. It'll kill you slowly.

[@EricMoore790]

That's what I struggle with it's basically everyone that does not get me. I really needed this video, thank you!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@EricMoore790 you are not alone, my friend 😉💗 Thank you for watching u

[@denniscastillo4199]

I totally agree drain energy to please others it’s not worth it your awesome 👏

[@zacharyshiloh3744]

Hey, Cait! This video was released 3 days ago. That's fine. I needed to hear it. I'm not suffering from fear of missing out. I accept that not many understand me. This keeps me healthy. I know I'm not here to please everyone. If people want to talk then they'll do so. It's in the right time. I am shown this every day. The timing hit strongest almost 2 weeks ago. The timing was right when I stayed home. I helped my mother with my brother. Things are coming together. I imagined them. I had put in faith. Taken action when called for. I let things (and people) be. Not waste my energy.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@zacharyshiloh3744 I love your perspective! 💗

[@zacharyshiloh3744]

@@makelifemedicine Thanks! 😃

[@JennieHD999]

2:16 one thing about me, anytime something out of the norm happens, I’m looking up the “spiritual meaning” 😂 this is what I found “A bird flying into your window can symbolize a new change in your life, like a new job or relationship. It may be a reminder to believe that good things are coming in your future. A bird crashing into your window can also be a reminder to listen to your gut and trust your intuition.” & “spiritual meanings and symbolism, including change, an end to suffering, a message from heaven, angels watching over, a warning sign, and financial stability”

[@makelifemedicine]

@@JennieHD999 😂 omg I love it. And, I am also always looking up the spiritual meanings of everything l, hahaha. Didn't do it with the bird though, so thank you 😉 I like the sound of this very much 😁💗

[@JennieHD999]

Dude 😭 I’ve never seen any of your content, I wasn’t subscribed, my KZbin app wasn’t even open on my phone??? I took a walk to the store, fiddling with my Bible app settings, to find narrator options; bc the automatic male narrator’s voice was distracting. So color me shocked that a Bible app has this kind of content lmao idk how this pushed itself through to me but I am so grateful, nothing but bar after bar; i literally had to save it so I could take notes bc it’s such a banger all the way through I didn’t want to miss anything. 😊💜thank you for sharing, I appreciate you actually having PASSION behind your words, if this makes any sense, bc idk I watch a LOT of personal healing/growth/development videos & most of it is so so good; Idek how to explain it exactly, but like, I believe you’re speaking from a place of these things happening to you, rather than just instructing us on how to deal w it when they happen to us? Anyway, really valuable info, thanks again 🫶

[@makelifemedicine]

@@JennieHD999 Jennie! OMG I love this story. I am so so glad that the video resonated with you. Honestly, I can't thank you enough for your feedback 🥹 And yes, I know exactly what you mean about the passion behind the words. 100%. You are correct and I'm so glad that you're able to feel that I have experienced all of these things, because I absolutely have. I also agree that so much self-help content and videos from people who are coaches are pretty bland and it's just a lot of "love and light" vibes. Not my style 😂 I crave people who are REAL. which is rare, oddly enough. Thank you for being here with me 🙏🏼💗

[@JennieHD999]

@ incredible, this must be what mutual understanding feels like 🥹🫶 I did a quick lil google to find a word for that, and found this “confluence of inner light, wisdom radiates, compassion blossoms, and mindfulness takes root to grow the garden of the soul awakening. A confluence is where two or more things merge into one. The word comes from the Latin “confluentia' meaning 'flowing together” I just love that, and that I’m in a place to receive what you are sharing; it’s invaluable information, but I would maybe have felt personally attacked or something if I had come across it in this past. I clicked on your channel, organized your videos old->new and laughed so hard when you started the video off YELLING indisputable truths at me 😂😭 what a gem 💎 you, your channel and your content are. You can’t fake the funk with me, I can totally relate to craving REAL. Okay last thing- i can’t remember which creator/video but I recently heard someone on YT say that in a scientific study, authenticity was not only the strongest/highest possible [vibration?] but it was 4000x as strong as [its opposite/inverse?] I didn’t verify it, but I absolutely believe it lol bc as the song goes “ain’t nothing like the real thing babyy 🎶” haha.

[@lorensims4846]

If you are struggling to prove yourself to other people you're trying too hard. The big advantage to being underestimated is the surprise when you do so much more than anyone expected. Expectations always lag well behind reality.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@lorensims4846 100% you get it 😉

[@jamesmaness6308]

I'm glad I've found your YT channel. While I don't totally agree with all of your points, I do learn something on every one of your videos. Your voice is really clear & precise too. Seriously, you're very well spoken & not super high pitched & not masculine. It's a pleasure to hear you speak. Keep up the good work! 👍

[@makelifemedicine]

@@jamesmaness6308 thank you! I appreciate your honesty so much 🙏🏼💗

[@francesbernard2445]

The world is filled with people who look different after going through a lot when for example learning how to be artists while being told so often that they have talent as an artist. Only.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@francesbernard2445 💕

[@Romina-o7z]

so inspiring.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Romina-o7z I'm glad 💗 Thank you for watching!

[@katherines144]

I love you. I respect you. I see your skills, talents and abilities. Thank you. I'm sorry. And I forgive you. This helps me out a lot. I'm recovering from extreme self hatred

[@makelifemedicine]

@@katherines144 yes, Your own version of Ho'oponopono 💗

[@staynsaddle]

Those who mind don't matter and Those who matter don't mind 👌

[@makelifemedicine]

@@staynsaddle 100% 🙌🏼

[@WorldT]

yes I always thought its important to be different then others, not always good to follow the direction of others in doing things, often to learn from own mistakes works better. thanks on sharing

[@makelifemedicine]

@@WorldT 100% spot on 🎯

[@pinkribbonrailroad1157]

I appreciate you and your message so much--it's fresh, raw, real--and speaks to me. The meaning underlying your message in this video is so important in all its flavors. Just love your messages and authentic presentation style. Keep it up, girl!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@pinkribbonrailroad1157 thank you so much! It really means a lot 🥹 I'm glad it was beneficial to you. I appreciate you taking the time to write me and let me know 💗

[@forgottensage-o5o]

Gorgeous kitchen. Love the blue tint.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@forgottensage-o5o Thank you! 💗

[@amirnabilenough7802]

You actually are the first I’ve seen in a long while of most beneficial delivery you did so good A-Okay in my book greatly then appreciated feedback on how I just did…

[@makelifemedicine]

@@amirnabilenough7802 Thank you so much for watching! 🙏🏼

[@TheBucklandgrp]

I am low value, not gifted, below average, don’t feel the need to prove myself, accept things as is because reaching goals doesn’t make you happy. I do more of what I like as nothing matters

[@makelifemedicine]

@@TheBucklandgrp what matters is that you are doing what you like 😉

[@Missdoubletrouble541]

You are not low value. Nobody is low value. You have your own unique gifts and talents even though you may not be aware of them. There is only one "you" in the world.

[@lasuretv]

So well stated. I’ve always been misunderstood. Now I just make movies and use those people as my villains 😂

[@makelifemedicine]

@@lasuretv you found a strategy 😉

[@BoostedPastime]

I completely agree.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@BoostedPastime thank you for watching 💗

[@EMPANAO321]

It's tiring but i'll make them all swallow their words and I'll boast about my acomplishments and I'll be the most arrogant jerk of history with those who don't believe in me

[@lastanzadelcinema]

Hi 👋I have a question... do you think that most of the behavior, thoughts and patterns that we adopt now are coming from the family and how we grew up?

[@makelifemedicine]

@@lastanzadelcinema That's an extremely difficult question to answer and depends on so many factors 😅 Who are you now? Have you changed? Have you worked on yourself? Have you grown? Have you evolved as an individual, separate from that conditioning? Have you INDIVIDUATED from your family? In general I would say absolutely yes, but it really depends on the person.

[@lastanzadelcinema]

@@makelifemedicine I agree, so i guess the question is more like... why we keep repeating the same error inside the family and other istitutions of the society we live in?it's the error inevitable? so that the next generation will change and so on

[@makelifemedicine]

@lastanzadelcinema We don't wait for the next generation to change it. We change it now 😉

[@DarrenBoydraddadlovinlife]

Thank you for inspiring .

[@makelifemedicine]

@@DarrenBoydraddadlovinlife it is my pleasure. Thank you for being here and for taking the time to comment 💗🙏🏼

[@backyardrailroader]

I am not sure about that in some cases. At work, yes. I am the only one who does my type of work. In relationships. No. One is not going to be missed when one is constantly being put aside as an option.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@backyardrailroader mmmmm, idk. In the case of your work I would say you're not being valued for you though. You're being valued for what you can provide to them. You're valued because they benefit from you. They're not just valuing you because you are who you are. If you can't get the job done suddenly you lose your value 🤔 Personally, I do not want my value to hinge on those kinds of criteria. Ya feel me? 😅

[@backyardrailroader]

Yes, I do. I know it may be that way. The thing is..... I am retiring in 2-3 years. The owners and managers have admitted that when I retire..... they are not looking forward to that day. The salesman there stated after I retire, if there is a job that needs my 'experience ', would I come in and help out. I said,"NO,"

[@makelifemedicine]

@backyardrailroader haha 😂 I love that! Good for you 👍🏼

[@TheCosmicTrailblazer]

Is it who you truly are or just the conditioned person you are today? How do you know who are vs who you've been conditioned to be?

[@makelifemedicine]

@@TheCosmicTrailblazer LOTS of introspection 😅

[@TheCosmicTrailblazer]

@makelifemedicine i agree but how do you get arrive at introspection without the awareness?

[@makelifemedicine]

@@TheCosmicTrailblazer oftentimes the awareness comes as a result of the introspection. All that's required to get to introspection is unbearable pain and suffering 😅 Once you start exploring the root, that tends to lead to increased self awareness. What do you think?

[@TheCosmicTrailblazer]

@makelifemedicine I agree with your points but I don't understand the ones that are seemingly conditioned to misery and refuse to believe they don't have the power to do anything about it. I feel that with pain and suffering some normalize these feelings as "the way life is," my family of origin for example is this way but I have also had colleagues and friends with this same mentality. The rejection of personal growth is astonishing and saddening. I've always questioned things and for this reason I believe I was able to more easily become aware and reflect. A series of events triggered a revelation for me and since then I woke up to my conditioning and am exercising those demons every day. I believe we are here to learn in this lifetime and our breakthroughs may not align. Through these breakthroughs we find our way.

[@oonojoe]

Very good video.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@oonojoe thank you 💗🙏🏼

[@S.G.W.Verbeek]

Tarue!😄

[@makelifemedicine]

@@S.G.W.Verbeek thanks for watching 💗

[@XAirForcedotcom]

If you would lower the tone of your voice a little bit, it would also help. Move closer to th microphone and lower your volume.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@XAirForcedotcom It would help what? You? 😅 My voice is naturally very resonant. In other words, it's loud AF. Trust me, you do not want me moving closer to the microphone. It is unnatural for me to talk quieter. I talk how I talk, my voice is my voice, and if it bothers you then feel free not to listen. 🙌🏼😉

[@XAirForcedotcom]

@@makelifemedicine I was trying to help you because I am also a very loud 6 foot four male, but I worked on sound systems in the Air Force. Now stop getting so defensive and quiet down a couple of decibels. Lol

[@XAirForcedotcom]

@@makelifemedicine this is exactly why I got divorced and don’t try to date. : )

[@XAirForcedotcom]

@@makelifemedicine this is so bad already. I’m afraid you’re gonna take the house that I no longer have. lol

[@XAirForcedotcom]

@@makelifemedicine I’m taking a pillow and Afghan and I will be out on the KZbin couch in case you wanna apologize from the bedroom and all you have to do is talk and I’ll hear you

[@CedrickBagleyDaSurvivor]

This was a break through

[@makelifemedicine]

@@CedrickBagleyDaSurvivor yay! I'm so happy to hear that 💗💗

[@pleasantness1704]

Yessssss 😩😩😩👌👌👌👌

[@makelifemedicine]

@@pleasantness1704 Thanks for watching 💗💗

[@Idahoup]

Just subscribed to GaryVee. Definitely an interesting guy.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Idahoup He's incredible. A brilliant, brilliant mind. True thought leader. I highly recommend his books, depending on what you're into 😅 Sales, business, community building, content creation, the future of content/tech/society/markets, authenticity...

[@RyanMain-n2q]

You are no ordinary woman.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@RyanMain-n2q you got that right 😉

[@SharkyJ40]

Ahhh love your message! Will be following along. 🩵 “The map is not the territory.” From David Hawkins, map of consciousness books, amazing.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@SharkyJ40 love David Hawkins 💗 Thank you so much for being here 🥹🙏🏼