Let's chat! an honest Q&A

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0:00 - 2:53 Introduction
2:53 - 10:10 Influencers in NYC
10:10 - 15:40 When was my last relationship?
15:40 - 16:39 If I had another job...
16:39 - 18:32 The NYC dating scene
18:32 - 19:03 If my fingers were drinks
19:03 - 21:19 Best advice I've heard
21:19 - 23:49 Is this really my dream apartment?
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This video is sponsored by Dell, but all opinions are my own.

[@HelloKatyxo]

Hi lovelies! I added 'chapters' to this video so you can easily skip around to different subjects. I cover a bunch of different things in this video! I hope you like it & thank you so much for being here! ILY ALL XOXOXO Katy

[@Billy33753]

Have a good Tuesday

[@HelloKatyxo]

@@Billy33753 You too!

[@carlamoss89]

I'd love to see more home vlogs, just your everyday life at home. I know you may think those are boring but I find them comforting.

[@HelloKatyxo]

Aw I can definitely make more of those! :) Glad you like them!

[@carlamoss89]

@@HelloKatyxo Thank you!!

[@Directioner1011]

Agreed! 😍

[@stephgamboa626]

About the dating question, I just wanna say, Katy, that I admire you so much for standing your ground to not SETTLE. I got married young because I had settled and was divorced before 30. Now at 32, my standards are much higher because I learned to value myself and refuse anything less. You WILL find him, stick to your guns ❤

[@Fluma08]

that 'butterfly feeling' is really just pure anxiety. Give more chances to those who may not give you that feeling right away! those are the good ones, the ones that make you feel right at home - just meeting them once

[@jules5869]

SO true! when i met my partner, i felt a warm calmness in my gut, a comfort, and I was confused why it wasn't the typical anxious butterflies. i doubted it, but gave it a shot; fast forward 6 years and we are still madly in love, getting engaged, and i still cant believe how much the stereotype of needing to feel that firey butterfly feeling almost held me back from our date!!

[@taylorgoodier]

I’ve been watching you since I was in 8th grade and you were a junior in high school, now I’m 24 (and don’t know what I’m doing with my life) and I still love and support you and your content so SO much. You’ve always been such an inspiration whether you’re 17 and figuring it out or 27 and figuring it out, and you will always continue to be so for me. I think the first video I watched of yours (or first one I remember and constantly still think about) was “how not to give a fudge”, and I can wholeheartedly say that you seem like one of the most genuine people on the internet. I don’t know why I felt compelled to comment when I never do, but I just wanted to confirm that you do help and inspire people every single day. Keep on keeping on.

[@mollystahley2267]

Katy you are such a breath of fresh air. I love how candid you are. Thank you for sharing your life with us. ❤

[@HelloKatyxo]

Aw thank YOU for being here! Appreciate it!

[@isabellam2712]

Thank you Katy for being so honest with us & for being such a positive light! I hope you know how impactful your videos are to so many of us! ❤

[@MsGuess12345]

Would you ever make journaling videos again? I miss that kind of content on your channel!!

[@lynhnguyen3300]

We so appreciate your vulnerability & honesty, Katy!!!

[@jademillardx]

I love your sit down, chatty videos and I’ve missed them!! ☺️☺️

[@leighannemcdonald6887]

My favorite video of yours. Love your point of view 😊 esp about resting to be your best at work, and the “light on” analogy

[@miadee4298]

You’re so sweet, honest and open. Just love listening to you ♥️

[@girlyshannon101]

just spent the day yesterday catching up on your vlogs! and you posted today!! woo 🎉❤

[@stephaniea1398]

So many people can't be alone especially girls your age...they jump into relationships because they don't want to be alone. They crave the validation of being wanted versus actually really liking the person or waiting until they find someone they really truly love -It's out of fear of being alone. Trust me, you are way better off!!! The right person will come along and you will know it, and now you've gotten to know yourself so much more than if you were constantly in relationships!

[@HelloKatyxo]

Ugh, yes. The fear of being alone is so understandable and real. However being alone has forced me to get to know myself on a deeper level! It's a special thing, even though I don't always see it that way! You're so right :)

[@marycontrary9673]

I totally understand how you feel about the dating thing. I'm 26 and have only had a few relationships and my family says I'm too picky and need to settle down. Yes I want kids but honestly I'd rather be single than with someone who doesn't bring out the best of me. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone girl

[@divyadureja7343]

loved this video Katy!!!

[@aliza.beth.]

hey katy! this might sound really sappy, but knowing you’re in your 20s and have never had a long-term serious boyfriend is actually extremely inspiring and comforting to me. You normalize fully living for yourself and loving yourself before seeking happiness from someone else, while still openly having hope for love and continuing to be a hopeless romantic. It honestly makes me feel so much less alone in my solidarity and makes me feel less crazy for caring about my peace more than my relationship status. Especially in a world where I feel like so many woman unconsciously lower their standards just to have a boyfriend. thank you. 💓

[@elizabethleoce4863]

So refreshing, Katy! As a 20-somethingyo myself, your feelings on love are heard and seen. We are in this together!

[@donna8264]

As someone who’s old enough to be your mother (and a mother myself) I felt proud listening to your answers. You are smart and beautiful inside and out!!! Stand firm and don’t ever lower your standards…the universe has someone very special just for you ❤

[@laurenhotchkiss8249]

Hey Katy! I’m 30 and I’ve had one “relationship”, but I don’t consider it as one. I’ve been told to “lower your standards! You’re too picky!”, and like I tell them I will not settle. And seriously! Trust your gut! I’ve gotten the ick and tried “dating til you hate them”, and I just couldn’t do it after 3 dates 😂 our person will come when the time is right!! Just keep living your best life.💕

[@Elsam4ri]

I think not settling is SO important! I have so many friends who settled early on and it hasn't turned out well for them. You will find him Katy!! 💞

[@xokelseyxo9238]

Katy, I have been following you since your college days. I am 30 years old and I feel like I have grown up alongside you. You have become one of my role models. I look up to you so much. I struggle so much in the dating scene too. I have had 2 serious relationships. I am struggling with being single at my age and watching my childhood friends either get engaged or married. I am also struggling with the embarrassment of still living at home. We need to trust the universe what is has planned for us. We need to learn to live fully in the present moment and just breathe. I am proud of us for always putting our hearts out there and meeting guys and not giving up. Our prince charmings are out there somewhere. There is someone for everyone. Our time isn't now and we need to learn that that is okay. Sending you so much love, Katy. Keep shining your beautiful, warm, welcoming, kind, gentle light. ❤

[@andreannepotvin2634]

Keep being your authentic self. I like your group of friends but I always think you have a ‘girl next door’ candid, relatable, attitude that sets you apart and that I like to follow. So even tho you post less compared to your fellow social media influencers, I devour everything like I havent seen a friend for a while! Keep taking care of yourself, we take you as you are 🫶🏻

[@kadaralario]

LOVE THIS!!

[@karinab4394]

You are talented, smart, successful, hard working and beautiful. I don’t think you should lower your stands ever when you have so much to offer. Kudos for aiming high and for that fluttery feeling ✨

[@LucyLovesLipstickk]

Girl! I feel you!! I never had a relationship either until I turned 27. Now married to my hubby! ❤ you never know when it’ll happen!!!!

[@conductiveloop]

I read an excellent book about dating (which I believe led me to my current partner who I plan to marry) called “How To Not Die Alone” (silly name lol). It had a lot of good points about the frankly arbitrary standards that we hold ourselves and others to when dating. Highly recommend! The biggest thing for me in that book was that “The Spark” isn’t real and can’t be trusted. For me, “The Spark” is just the familiar feeling I get around men who are avoidant, which can start out as exciting for someone like me, but ultimately painful and a waste of time. Essentially, the spark was really just a warning sign from my body that pop culture had convinced me was actually the opposite.

[@rimh7366]

The one doesn’t exist 😮 it’s all about how many compromises both partners are ready to make once the passion is over.

[@jananikrishnan6226]

Great Video! Loved the honest chat, and you’re hands down one of my favorite creators. Been watching for 10 years

[@HelloKatyxo]

You have no idea how much this means to me! Thank you!

[@AustenTosone]

Love this! Could definitely see you designing menus tbh, that sounds so cute! Do you have a link to your top? x

[@tiffanykuoo]

Girl, NEVER lower your standards and trust your gut! I was single up until I was 26 and now I've been in a 3+ year relationship with a house and a dog together. Don't give up on meeting people in real life or on the apps (I met my partner on Hinge after using dating apps for years). Sometimes, it really is just timing and when things are meant to be, they will be!

[@Jacky22_]

Random question but where is that black shelf from? ✨

[@K-wx6ki]

influencer is another word for new money socialite (not in a bad way necessarily). also girl don't settle! youve come too far to settle! youll find your guy :)

[@kitkat0815]

I understand how you feel. Feeling left out and being bullied I get you. 🥰🥰

[@heavythinker16]

That laptop is my dream laptop!

[@brightenyourdayy]

have you ever cuestioned yourself around the fact that maybe "the feeling of uncomfort" that you feel around guys maybe has to do with you and not with them? I mean, that no matter the guy, due to unresolved issues, you just will continue to feel uncomfortable

[@annierosette]

Never setting and never feel weird about never being in a relationship. I wasn’t in a relationship until I met my husband at age 26

[@niar.johnson8202]

Girl I haven’t felt comfortable with a man since 2009 … it’s so true like sometimes you just do not encounter the right person. It’s a feeling. Never settle girls🌺

[@Evraaah]

Katy, i hope you take this feedback as something constructive. Lately I’ve noticed your match made persona and this Katy that we all know and adore is way too different from each other that it almost creates a dissonance in my head. Im confused as to who you are. This Katy seems down to earth and levelled, the other seems a bit crass, sound-bite-y, and judgmental. If only you can hear how you speak, without rose tinted glasses on. It’s a bit disappointing to hear. I guess my point is - as a long time follower, i’m left confused. Keen to know what other followers think.

[@michellelao98]

Interesting take! But I think the podcast platform allows her to be more honest, unhinged, funny, etc. Maybe she seems different cause platforms can have different purposes!

[@Evraaah]

@@michellelao98 thanks for your thoughtful reply! What you said is true but maybe ive worded it wrong. Or maybe im thinking about it wrong. Maybe the match made one is who she is without all the curation and editing, alongside her friends, and it creates a dissonance in my head bec that person is vastly different from this one. Whether that’s good or bad, up to you and ultimately up to Katy.

[@Littlebluedynamite1]

Yeah I feel similar, as much as I like to sometimes listen to the podcast when I want to hear something light, I am sometimes bothered by the way Katy Colbie and Adam talk about stuff especially when it comes to dating standards. What I mean by that is that they oftentimes don't self reflect on the things they are doing and want people to treat them a certain way when they themselves don't treat them the same. E.g they criticize people for cutting things off a certain way and then the go and do the same thing to other person but find a way to justify it.

[@Evraaah]

@@Littlebluedynamite1 my thoughts exactly. True lasting love is a tall, big ask when you talk about other people that way and dont look at yourself. It makes me think maybe they dont know theyre not ready yet. Self-awareness is so elusive these days. Yes, it’s light and sometimes funny, but sometimes it’s truly borderline mean, judgemental and crass. And if that’s their brand - that’s fine, just dont say youre looking for true lasting love when whatvyou say dont align with that.

[@michellelao98]

@@Littlebluedynamite1 okay that actually makes a lot of sense thx for clarifying!

[@RebeccaABeaudoin]

Love this chaotic brain dump vibe

[@lainegendary]

I hope you don't feel like you have to be in a relationship. I've been single for more than a decade now and i do feel lonely at times but mostly I feel safe and unbothered. But i think guys are intimidated by your class. Im a lady and i sometimes feel you're too rich to be my friend hehe but i dont know hehe

[@FocusBreakForYou]

Being in a relationship or being married and having kids is no longer the arrival point in a woman's life. It's used to be, but not anymore. Happy to hear you're unwilling to settle.

[@frannybaronian]

Love you miss Katy!

[@HelloKatyxo]

Thanks for alway being so sweet! :)

[@anechka2006]

I think you’ll get a relationship when YOU are ready for it. I think you built an empire!!! Podcast, half a million followers, you are amazing and force of nature! Then you can start looking for a relationship! ❤️❤️❤️

[@suru01]

As a single 37 year old who has lived in NYC since I was 23.. it's not you, it's the city. Yes, its a marvelous place, but for dating as a single women...this aint it! I can't think of even one woman I know that met their long term partner here. They either left the city and met someone or already knew them before coming here. Not saying this to discourage you but if I could go back in time, I would date elsewhere.

[@nataliegordon3132]

I'm 32 and never been in a serious relationship too! ❤

[@smoothielover07]

Katy will always be one of the cool KZbinrs, hence why I still watch her videos to this day. It’s always funny and sad to me how Katy used to be bullied and now there are people that literally pine for a job as an “influencer”. This culture is definitely NOT relatable as it’s usually people who already have money so they have a certain lifestyle that people want to watch, then it snowballs into companies paying these people to travel and do all of these things and it just goes from there. Definitely not relatable but Katy Bellotte is definitely a real one! A young woman who has always had a good head on her shoulders despite what the people around her are like. And her family’s awesome! Edit: Also wanted to add that I know the whole dating thing can be difficult and there’s this pressure whether big/small/unnoticeable or not but please NEVER settle. Don’t look around you and feel like something’s wrong with you. There isn’t! During those times when you’re down, please remember that waiting for someone who meets your standards is worth waiting for…especially in the world we live in today.

[@HeyitsDeirdre]

nice video

[@nicoleecheverria5747]

It might not sound like it but keeping your standards high & waiting for your first relationship is a green flag - im my bf’s first gf (he’s 30) and not only is he WAY less traumatized than me but I feel more special knowing how seriously he takes our relationship ever since the beginning ❤

[@backbaybaby1]

I met my husband at 27 and he was my first serious boyfriend.

[@kateemendoza]

Katy, I’d like to personally ask you out. Will you be my girlfriend?

[@ErwinDulmin-tw5th]

MY WIFE.... MAMI..... HELLO KATY... MISS YOU... MAHATMA GANDHI.......

[@michelle2462]

you say you were bullied yet you filmed with friends all the time

[@HelloKatyxo]

I was bullied, despite having 'friends.' I found out later on that they weren't really my friends. You grow up and realize things!

[@ErwinDulmin-tw5th]

MY WIFE.... MAMI.... HELLO KATY.... MISS YOU... MAHATMA GANDHI........