let's talk about the art of being alone

recently, i've been spending a lot of time alone and usually this would result in me falling into a sad pit of loneliness, but surprisingly i haven't! instead i've been taking myself out, seeing concerts (honestly too many), and it's been a good learning experience. not gonna sugarcoat it.. being alone is difficult and inevitably my relationship with it will have it's ups and downs, but i'm definitley growing more comfortable. with all that said, let's talk about the art of being alone!
lots of love,
Dustin
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C H A P T E R S
2:54 - taking myself to events (concerts and the movies)
5:20 - learning i can only depend on myself
7:12 - disappointed by my own expectations of other people
9:23 - love, romance, and relationships
11:43 - the negative sides of being alone
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[@dustinvuong]

someone plz stop me from buying concert tickets

[@chrissy6449]

Mood

[@justboredidkslay]

I love you Dustin 🤍

[@kumbabatchk5806]

thank you for making this video Dustin!

[@Bambiprincessaw]

just don’t stop Dustin yolo...

[@leslieah7060]

I also keep buying concert tickets because I know once I go back home, my parents are not going to let me do anything I enjoy. 😭

[@jasminele]

unrelated but the color grading and the look of this video is exquisite

[@dustinvuong]

y thank you jasmine

[@jaspersets4826]

the fact that im subscribed to both of you- imso happy i saw your comment-

[@mayasohee]

i’m so happy ur here jasmine!! u guys both inspire me so so much 🦋

[@Billy-bh7rh]

My exact thoughts-

[@CyberTitan-dy3gy]

Definitely one of the reasons I clicked!

[@noodl2467]

Dustin: I’m drinking ginger tea No one: Not even the ginger: Me: you are what you eat

[@dustinvuong]

GOOD ONE

[@miss_skylish9705]

Not even Ed Sheeran:

[@michaelc.5809]

Lmfaoo

[@leticianascimento9498]

I laughed so hard 😂

[@dancelovergirl5719]

His hair 🤣🤣🤣

[@annafacius7964]

Being alone is literally so underrated. Some people would learn A LOT about themselves and about others by spending some time alone like ARGH you´re going to have SO many big realizations!

[@aiyahalsaliti397]

Yess specially that you can see that u own ur self

[@carmenalvarez9709]

yhis

[@madf8507]

During the pandemic I grew so much mentally it's wild

[@bunnyfrosting1744]

Many years spent with 0 support system effs ya uppp, though. I agree it’s a nice treat but sometimes I want the option idk

[@TheGoldenPlatoon757]

I have so many at the age of 20 years old and have been doing some self-relfecfion of my whole entire life and how terrible it always was up until this day as well, smfh.

[@makara9671]

The pandemic put me in a safe place to finally accept my introversion. It was like the universe realized I needed a break from the years of fears: scared of missing out, scared of not being interesting enough to befriend people, what others would assume if I was by myself, etc. I have a more healthier mindset now and enjoy doing things on my own time and energy, but I can’t deny the events that would have been such much more memorable if I had my loved ones with me

[@farting358]

wow you said this perfectly

[@plreee]

THIS!!! ME TOO

[@iheartzamiyah]

I think rn I’m experiencing the opposite it’s now that I’m scared of missing out and stuff because I’ve missed out on so much before becauseeee of my introversion. And quarantine made it worse for me because now I don’t even like going outside :/ im trying to be present with the people around me but it’s so hard cause I end up isolating myself again ahhhhh yeah and that’s really good for you :)

[@baddestfr]

this is so comforting to know im not alone

[@paige172]

this

[@seananderson4143]

relate so much to going to concerts solo vs with a group!! groups sometimes kill your vibe when they're not as interested in the artist/music as you are, but the shared experience can make the time super memorable! on the other hand, going solo gives you so much freedom to enjoy yourself how you want to but risks becoming a repetitive experience.

[@dustinvuong]

exactly !!

[@kidnguyen0203]

exactly what I want to address about being alone. I went to GOT7 concert oversea alone. Now I'm looking back, I cant believe I did that. A girl like me, go to Thailand for the first time all by myself, go to GOT7 concert all by myself. I'm pretty proud of myself hahaha

[@alenanela1743]

YOU RULE!!! Honestly tho, priorities. GOT7 is a good investment to make, and it’s a fun story you can tell people now :) Not gonna lie, I’m proud of you

[@user-ft6cl7tg8i]

[@Jennie_6132]

That’s honestly amazing! That’s something I’d love to, myself. Kudos to u for being able to go through with that!

[@cherryhtml]

“You should be your OWN favorite person” SAY IT LOUDER 4 THE PPL IN THE BACK 🗣. I loved watching this video so much, thank you for taking the time to sit down with us + sharing ur thoughts

[@pastaslut]

no literally i love this

[@lucyyoung4961]

this is so needed , I just cut off all my toxic friends lol

[@ohmanholyshiteu1869]

omg im so proud of you

[@hellosarah_]

Purrrrrr 💅🏾

[@ingieigni]

🎉🎉🎉🎉 congrats

[@liviacamilo355]

girlboss behavior!!

[@lilyh630]

yay congrats! i know how hard that is but it’s soooo worth it omg

[@beechng.g3403]

this is really weird, 20 minutes ago i was like “damn i need to socialise more, or maybe i need to watch a video on youtube called smth fancy like *the art of being by yourself*” perfect timing

[@jasminerobelin3286]

Omg, me 5 minutes ago:

[@alenanela1743]

@@mel4340 If you want, you can practice talking to people here. I understand what you mean to an extent - I struggle with ordering food at Subway or Starbucks because of the stress of human interaction. I am an extrovert though, so around people that I sort of know, I am good with social interaction. Feel free to chat with me here!

[@sofialeal7832]

what you said about wanting a significant other so that you can someone's favorite person hit really close to home for me lol i've always felt the same way about having or wanting to have a "best friend" but in the end i was always everyones second choice so the only person i could really trust with my feelings was myself. this video helped me come to term with a lot of what ive been feeling recently, always love ur videos dustin

[@sohafatima4043]

Too relatable.....but it hurts more when you're not even the second but the last choice.... because I usually don't have the urge to be with people but then in years I find someone I genuinely like and then I realize that they take me as their last option, so yeah now I trust only myself. After implementing this mindset I feel so much better and unapologetic. I feel as if I don't really have to be perfect in someone else's eyes💜

[@unonguvauva4963]

This is literally how I’m feeling right now. My sister left for university and hasn’t called me once (I’m always calling her) but we used to be so close. I live in a really small town and there’s literally nothing to do unless you’re a outdoor person and I’m not lol.I just want people to call me and ask how my day was or what I ate etc., the little things. sorry for ranting but yeah I 100% relate to your comments lol.

[@jackyv9904]

I've been trying so hard to do things alone instead of waiting for someone to come with me to places BUT it is so scary to do things alone as a girl... like deadass I would go to concerts alone but I don't want to be out at night by myself... but aye I'm able to go shopping by myself now!!!!!! I love going to Marshall's alone and shopping HELLA slow going back n forth through the store

[@handitover.]

This is what I was thinking :( I feel like the concerts I would enjoy going to tend to be late at night in not the greatest parts of town… i don’t know how safe I’d feel

[@xxojustmeoxx4987]

same. i want to go to the movies, but i’d have to walk by myself to get there and it’s so scary

[@ajo3971]

if it makes you feel better, I've been going to concerts alone since I was 16 and the people at the concerts have always watched out for me and have been really nice :) but definitely do whatever you're comfortable with!

[@LaurenNutella]

Your energy discussion is just you explaining you’re a Gemini LOL that’s literally your gift, that’s why everyone needs at least one Gemini friend

[@julkawksiazkach]

i am also a gemini and thats so nice that not all people hate us

[@hellosarah_]

@@julkawksiazkach lol i love geminis

[@mojito1462]

as a Gemini I approve

[@LaurenNutella]

@@julkawksiazkach listen I never said I didn’t hate y’all. I constantly contemplate tackling my best friend on a constant basis. Y’all stress me out.. but at least y’all do it in style 😡💕

[@yuli9532]

as a gemini I am agree

[@justboredidkslay]

I want to meet Dustin and just talk about life love and finding peace within for endless hours

[@almarejeb5302]

how abt u meet eiji first

[@justboredidkslay]

@@almarejeb5302 🥲🥲🥲

[@joymae]

I'm so sensitive to other people's energy as well. I think it's because we're empaths. Don't be worried about saying "vibe" too much. If I do not vibe with someone's current vibe, I DONT WANT IT

[@alenanela1743]

Same. Same to everything in this comment, yes yes yes.

[@ingieigni]

I started University in September and oml does this resonate. I 'got used to being alone' a few years ago but man, when the loneliness kicks in and you're crying on the floor yet again it definitely becomes very tiring. It's definitely a balance as you said and sometimes circumstance doesn't let you achieve it properly but it's nice sometimes to just hear that people get you you know? So yeah I guess this video came at the right time for me so thank you. Hopefully better days will come for all of us

[@Mel-nw4tw]

Same here i started uni in sep too and i have people around me yet i feel alone and just the other day i cried by myself lying on my bed. Not having someone in the times like this is very sad

[@ingieigni]

@@Mel-nw4tw I hope everything will get better for you in time. Its nice to have people to relate to though because it feels like nobody else is struggling as much as you. I'm sending hugs to wherever you are

[@Mel-nw4tw]

@@ingieigni thanx love u ❤️

[@n0ehm3]

i’m going through the exact same thing, it’s definitely not easy but i do hope it’ll get better for you soon

[@yuugenmv]

I’m currently a first year in college and I’m going through the stage of being alone. Honestly been okay with it because I’m able to do what I want without no one judging me but at the same time it would feel nice to have company at times :/ Id love to make friends but it’s honestly hard because people have their friend groups already and I’ve actually been stood up by a few others which definitely left me disappointed. But it gets better hopefully…..

[@lucidbunni2058]

Nice to see someone I can relate to ;-; sometimes I feel like it's only me

[@east_coastt]

Don’t give up, college gives you what you put in. Go to societies on subjects or activities that you like, and go regularly, e ventually you’ll make friends if you strike up conversations with people. People might have groups already, but you can make friends throughout college , it’s different to high school in that way. Obviously only do this if you still want to make friends,if you don’t then that’s fine too, and just be yourself :)

[@alenanela1743]

This might feel random, but you should read Normal People. It is painfully honest about the college experience, and how the friends you have are completely different. The loneliness that one of the character’s feel might help you feel less lonely… if that made sense?

[@gkgk6439]

Girl same... Im in my second year and I finally NOW have ppl that I actually like and want to be with. It will get better but if it doesn't you can always make it better.

[@zahrrhaz619]

I feel you..but in my case i tend to make better ME time to explore myself more and do things that didn't need many people to deal with, you can focus on your study tho. Build a college friend environment is not easy, but after all you just need to put more confidence in what you do, and let others judge.

[@sunnyflowa]

i think this video/discussion was soooo healthy. i recently had a “breakup” with my best friend and i see all these vids on how to “ ✨ enjoy being alone ✨ “ but the reality is that we can’t do it all the time. that’s not independence , it’s isolation. but finding that balance where i CAN be by myself is so so healthy.

[@myntco]

needed to hear this thank u

[@jkmnbknlmj]

THISSS

[@rougeyosi]

it's so hard to find "your people" that's why almost all of us are so independent.. it makes sense

[@izzyiguana]

i love how spending time alone is becoming less stigmatized because i genuinely enjoy being by myself and doing activities you typically do with other people alone

[@arisamelody]

i love finding ppl who remind me of myself so much very relatable. i literally hate loneliness it’s the biggest issue this past year for me but i started doing things alone like going out to a restaurant by myself going outside and playing alone like it’s made it easier to be alone and enjoy myself. it’s still hard but working on it

[@arisamelody]

everything u said in this video sums up my thoughts on this topic ur perfect

[@paige.c.114]

I’m in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and something I’ve learned in the past year (mostly due to having to be long distance the past four months) I LOVE being alone. I don’t mind my partner wanting alone time. I also love being with my partner. We keep a healthy balance and I appreciate that. Im an introvert learning to be an ambrivert , it’s a process but I’m having to learn to love being around others rather than being alone all the time. I love knowing that I can be dependent on my partner if I need to, but I also love knowing I can be dependent on myself when feeling lonely. If my partner can’t talk (he’s in the military) I tend to go to a journal and write as if im talking to him or a best friend and it genuinely helps the feeling of loneliness. (sorry for the long ramble i hope i made sense) but my point is i completely agree! but it’s also okay to be dependent on a partner!

[@emmabloom1793]

About what you said in the end with not making memorable memories by yourself... When I just graduated high school I bought a day-pass for public transport and travelled to two bigger cities in my country. I went by myself because I wanted to enjoy the day the way I want and honestly it was one of the most memorable day I had this year. I went to a city by a lake and just relaxed there, then I got some dessert because nobody can stop me from eating sweets before lunch, then I went to another city to a queer bookstore and the last thing I did was going to a museum. I think we can make really fun memories ourselves, we just have to consciously decide that that day is ours to manage. It's really freeing to make all decisions yourself and just shut the voice in your head up that's constantly saying "you're such a loser for coming here all alone, everyone's watching you." I really struggled with being by myself because I'm introverted af and I used to be very self-conscious about everything...

[@alinatr2693]

I'm home alone alot,sometimes seeing someone is to much for me. I rather be by myself and I found so many hand craft hobbies and I'm pretty good at them😌 I never found time to calm down and drawing,painting,embroidery and more calms me down and I enjoy my me time☺

[@maya_ov]

this is the mindset I dream of having. I struggle a lot with social anxiety and going outside is already hard for me, especially alone. tysm for this video, it’s really inspiring

[@jcm9862]

I'm in my first year of college, and I spend like 98% of my time exclusively with myself. It's hard sometimes, and loneliness is very real, but all this time with myself taught me that there's a huge but very important difference between being lonely and simply being alone. I'm learning so much about myself and am really learning how to enjoy life and myself in my own company. In the grand scheme of things, it's such a liberating experience

[@beatrizrosa7414]

hey Dustin, this year I actually found peace by being alone. I had aot of anxiety, sadness and struggle this year and being around people actually made it worse. Being alone can be really healing (yet, it can still feel lonely). From a personal experience, it's better to feel lonely alone, than feeling it while surrounded with people you don't vibe with. Life is about fases, I was really extroverted for the most part of my life ( i'm just 21 and i'm talking like an old lady) but I just turn into a very shy and introverted person... and it's okay. It helped me grew

[@Casxa]

I also found peace with being alone this year when I distanced myself from people who were draining me and unwilling to put in the same amount of effort as I into the friendship/relationship. I hope you're doing okay now :-)

[@shirinchoudhary9412]

I moved to Paris for my Master's degree and spent a lot of time alone, especially for the first year. I was super lonely and miserable at the time, but I also do have some fond memories of going to parks, libraries, cafes and poetry events by myself. I didn't realise at the time that I was making some fond memories, because while I was doing it I kept longing for a friend to be there by my side. But now I look back on it as a time of learning, and I know that in the future if I'm alone in a new city again I can actually survive it because I've done it before. But I think I am the kind of person who is happier having friends and even being in a relationship. I guess I want to build a balance of both, at some point.

[@ashleydiaz7034]

This came up in my recommended. I didn't really understand why I constantly wanted people around me, I just always hated being alone to a point where I just kept very toxic people around me without really being aware of it. "you don't have to be someone's favorite person you should be your own favorite person" I needed that :') my journey starts now! Thank you v much

[@samikingsley2258]

“I like to match energy…” I loved the way you phrased this. Compensating/trying to create balance for others energy can truly be exhausting. Thank you for providing such quality content

[@ratbxnes]

I went to the movies for the first time alone and watched Last Night in Soho, it was such an interesting experience. I felt like I was listening to what I wanted more than I ever do when I’m with someone else, I’m usually such a giving person, I always hope they’re having a good time

[@shilahriddell813]

being alone and independent is a great thing to understand how to be content with, yet one should balance this because being vulnerable to other people is important too. with this, I mean trusting others even if that does mean you are disappointed at times because one day someone will come and they won't continuously let you down. if you have to be put in the mindset of 'if i want something done, i have to do it myself' these people won't be able to fully be there for you. everything is temporary, might as well balance the options you do have. Great video by the way , Dustin!

[@burzynskaadrianna]

@Shilah Riddell thanks for writing this. i'm the worst at human interactions, like, i don't trust or feel safe around anyone ever, knowing that it's okay to feel that way and it's okay to be let down a lot and yet to not give up on people altogether is really something i've never considered lol I'm writing that down

[@idek4973]

this is really interesting because during 2020, i was spending most of my time alone and do whatever i wanna do. I hung out with maybe 1 friend at most (due to covid) and didn't really think it's a big deal but now, being in my 2nd year of university, having met so many amazing people, been to parties etc., i realized that i love socializing. I still might be an introvert at heart but i'm pretty outgoing and like meeting new people, and even talking to strangers.

[@felix.mp3639]

THAT FROG AND TOAD MUG IS AMAZING I NEED IT

[@user_raiya444]

at 6:08 when dustin said "it's not like i dont trust people right now" i felt that like i still have trust issues from past incidents and now i feel like i have nothing to lose because i dont allow myself to get fully invested in any relation(be that new friends or any guy im talking to) so it really doesnt matter at the end if they end up breaking my trust cuz i didnt put any trust in them to begin with, it will hurt ofc but not traumatise me. i know its toxic but this is just how i deal with everything now it feels safe

[@monique9181]

Same, it’s terrible,,

[@woodlandbunny]

Honestly agree 1 million percent with this whole video.

[@mariom6884]

Me too!!

[@lovellegehn]

This is random but I love the aesthetic of your channel! Everything is so beautiful.

[@woodlandbunny]

@@lovellegehn tysm!! That means the world 🥺🥺

[@valentina7666]

When I go out by myself, I do get self self-conscious, but I kinda prefer it, I can take my time and make things at my own rhythm.

[@jenniferhernandez4779]

“Maybe people should just NOT fail me” 😹😹 that’s the best quote of the century right there

[@marinaandrade4113]

as someone that has been really struggling to get to know my own self, i'm extremely happy to have found your channel! learning to be alone and to enjoy your own company is not talked/teached about enough but it's honestly a healing thing

[@sunnyfilms_2959]

I feel like I’m watching a tv show from the 70s’ and I’m living for it 👌🏻

[@piraqt3324]

Hi I found this video literally at the best time. I just found out that my friends were using me and that they didn’t actually like me for who I am so this being here is very useful. Today’s free period felt a little lonely because I just went to the library and studied and listened to music. This video is making me feel like I don’t need to have friends there for me to have a good time. This was much appreciated💜

[@melisdantou]

stopped watching that 70s show for this 🙌🏾

[@zariaoutlaw455]

random question but what are you watching that 70s show off of? the took it off of netflix :(( lmao

[@eechoooooo]

i don't usually comment on videos but i genuinely don't think i've ever related to a video this much. over the past few years i've realized how unreliable people can be and how i shouldn't let that hold me back from doing the things i want to do. i am also a very spontaneous person so when i randomly ask friends if they want to do something and i always get a no for an answer it's discouraging. i want to learn to depend on myself more. watching this video really made me feel understood and has inspired me to get past this. thank you

[@lilypad9965]

This came at the perfect time. I literally had the epiphany like a week ago that I let my happiness depend on other people too much! I think spending more time alone will help me not only learn more about myself but also be less apologetic and indecisive, which I feel can only make my time with other people less stressful and more authentic.

[@tesss7555]

literally perfect timing. i've been thinking about this all day so the video is making me feel understood :))

[@christopherxpic]

I'm literally in that moment of my life, have stoped doing things just cuz my friends were not available at the time and i didn't want it to do things alone, but now I'm reflecting on that and trying to do things by myself too, thank u 4 doing this

[@falafelti]

i just moved to uni a couple months back and even though ive literally made friends for life, sometimes i get envious of all the relationships (platonic and romantic) around me but i learnt that need some time alone sometimes when my friends aren't around. i don't always have to be around people. ive been sleeping for the past 3 days, barely talking to anyone and today i woke up and forced myself to take a walk alone and rn i just made myself some food and watched this video. the timing was perfect. i felt safe being w myself today finally. but i cant be alone all the time either. i finally met my friends and called some of them from back home. its so important to maintain a balance and still feel comfortable with yourself and w others. tysm dustin for being honest about this. you literally read my mind, ily

[@andreanatalia2758]

literally TRUEEE !! being alone is a good thing !! we’re meant to love ourselves the most and do things for ourselves !!

[@HaliKleinfeld]

i 100% understand how you feel especially in terms of people matching your spontaneous energy... i find it super hard to make plans with people so i end up spending a significant amount of time alone (it doesn't help that i also live alone). it's refreshing to see someone who also feels this way! i hope eventually you find a pattern that feels right for you

[@nandiniii_z]

"I can only depend on myself because no one cares more about me than me. I can only trust myself to pull through with something because I always know I will pull through for myself", those are some powerful words you said there Dustin

[@dioksazin]

Speaking of going to movies alone - I really recommend movie discussion clubs!!! I didn’t know anyone when I went there and everyone was so keen to talk that I made some friends right before the movie and had someone to sit with lol

[@anymarcos2355]

How do you even got there??

[@dioksazin]

@@anymarcos2355 the movie club? It is hosted by uni in my city but it’s free to join for everyone ☺️

[@chris-rq2le]

I spent my childhood surrounded by friends and family, and when I went to university I really found peace in loneliness. Being with people constantly just feels suffocating now wnd I prefer to spend most days by myself, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to be with my friends. On days that I miss them I hang out with them, and if they miss me I’ll be with them. It’s about finding your balance.

[@toribees327]

I am very introverted so I always thought I liked being alone but honestly I don't like to do things without people. I think sometimes though I will use a friend as a kind of security blanket when I take them with me somewhere. I went to a concert with my friend recently and while we both had fun together,I think I still would have had fun at the concert without her.

[@laurelc1181]

Really felt the part around 12:30 where you mentioned not having anyone to discuss the movie with after watching it alone--- my biggest hang-up is always that I'm generally fine doing things alone, but it all feels SO pointless because I can't share any of my happiness with anyone. Like sure I enjoyed the movie, but it's like you said--I don't remember anything outside of precious time spent with other people, so any kind of joy I might feel on my own just doesn't seem as meaningful. Not sure how to kick that train of thought out of my head, haha, but I really appreciate that you echoed my feelings!

[@yuenath]

felt that “maybe people should just not fail me” bc like … you grow up and realize that most people are too caught up in their own lives and it hard to find people who genuinely want to spend time with you and vibe at the same wavelength 🙃 having to unlearn expectations because people don’t think and make the same choices as you would make has been my personal shadow work 🥲

[@monobabe]

i was always afraid of being alone and i'm still learning on how to stay comfortable without people around me.... so this video is super helpfull!

[@thatclover123]

Ive been living alone this past year and had always gotten the message that lonliness kills you or somehow it was a negative thing but I love it!! Free of people drama, their energy they were putting in my life and it's so fullfilling and fun!! I'm a huge advocate now of us solitary people.

[@larahealy3509]

These days I've been forced into a lot of free and alone time which I would love to spend with my friends and do but often they are busy and I often feel lonely. I also find myself lowkey seeking validation from them when it comes to communication or sharing thoughts/stories/opinions. But this really inspired me to try and do things I wouldn't usually, by myself! I relate to u so much and wish I lived by you so we could exceed each other's expectations and hang out! I would not be giving my boy Dustin maybes.

[@ericpasta8706]

Great video 🌻It’s pretty surprising how many people ive seen that are living their lives completely externally. Like if you live for external validation and experiences then it makes sense that you would end up somebody made for other people and couldn’t Stand being alone. It’s all about balance 🌗

[@user-nk6bg1om1m]

aa i love this video because i actually have someone to relate to in a way. i never had any good real friends that i would trust and be my true self around in school from elementary all the way until now ( senior year). my parents were always extremely controlling so even when i did make friends, they'd never let me spend time with them on sleepovers or going to fun places like amusement parks, etc. id have a group of "lunch" friends that i had ever since 8th grade ( around 6-8 people) where we'd all just sit together at lunch and talk about homework or other random stuff, but sitting at that table, i couldnt really see myself opening up to them about anything, and was eventually deemed as the quiet, shy, friend who'd just sit down and listen. it really drained me out to come to school and sit down in almost every class and see that everybody has friends they can talk to and im just the weird quiet kid with nobody. so last week i transferred to fully online, and out of my friend group, nobody has asked me where i went except for one person. i don't really go out the house much unless its for my job. or unless its with some of my cousins, and that only happens once every few months. in the beginning of quarentine, i made myself some amazing online friends that i could talk to everyday and open up to them, and i truly love them with my heart. but even so, i cant help but feel a void that i missed out on so many life long memories and oppurtunity because i never had "that" friend in my life. thats why im hoping once i move out , i could start learning a lot more about myself and learn how to enjoy life the way i was never given a chance to enjoy. (:

[@Gigi.loves.reading]

Yessss, felt a bit bad when I started doing this, like grabbing takeout for myself, going to the movies by myself, going to the zoo, library, concerts, etc. It feels nice to count on yourself and comfort yourself and care for yourself and have fun with yourself. Find beauty within yourself and life becomes less dull

[@robbie6724]

I mainly go to shows alone and I feel like the vibe is the same level of good but a different kind of good? You're in charge of yourself and how much energy you want to give or when you want to leave! also I feel like it gives you more freedom? like if there's a concert nobody you know is interested in you don't have to miss out just because nobody will go with you. I've also talked to some cool people just by going to concerts alone! YEAHHH

[@kirbybie]

I felt this in my BONES. disclaim i also got those 👌 sweet sweet trust issues but i decided recently to just go to event by myself cuz ppl would never want to do what i did. it’s so nice to do and go wherever you want on a whim without needing to consider someone else’s tastes or time. then again i have always been independent to a fault due to insert life story here so yea

[@summerofbunnies6198]

this video eased my mind so so much. it's been in my "watch later" playlist for a few days now because i knew i needed that. i'm a very introverted person so i don't meet new people often and i rarely click with them either. i made friends mostly online and they don't live near me, so i'm alone almost all the time. i've started to go to the cinema alone but most of the time i feel way too shy to do things i like alone (even just go drink some tea outside..). i definitely need to start being my own favorite person and start to focus more on enjoying myself than being scared of looking ridiculous! thank you again, now i'm gonna binge watch all your videos

[@Raven-wh2pl]

Wow ! It's great to hear that I'm not the only one. Though I am more introverted with extroverted people while extroverted with introverted people. It's quite hard for me to click with people too but like you I'm also learning to fill up the emptiness I have when I am alone. Wish you all the best on your journey, bye !!

[@thesevenkingswelove9554]

@@Raven-wh2pl wow you sound like an ENFP. I hope you see mbti so you can look which personality type you are. I am an INFP

[@Raven-wh2pl]

@@thesevenkingswelove9554 I just checked it out, I never heard of those before ! But you're totally right it ENFP personality trait do match with mine ! I have to look deeper into it though but thank you for sharing this with me 🤩

[@cherrytoli]

seriously like i’m the sorta person who will jump at the opportunity to hang out with anyone but everyone around me are the sorta people who go ‘idk maybe’ whenever i ask, it makes me feel so lonely fr

[@cloudypanini]

the ginger's back to brighten my day✊🏻😔

[@marlenea5696]

I’m going to a concert by myself for the first time and I’m so excited!

[@blowingbubbles681]

I’ve felt so alone with the same exact thoughts. With the being disappointed in others’ mood, people cancelling, and having expectations. It turns out healthy sounding but sometimes I still experience loneliness and don’t trust my own partner, so yeah the trust issues part is true hahaha. I still have had more fun alone than when I’ve gone with people somehow but totally agree with the concert memories bit , also the line to get into places (while alone) feels so awkward 💀

[@jellyfish2556]

your videos always feel so warm and comforting, like a warm blanket on a rainy day

[@ebyeol2084]

Finally a relatable video on "being alone", thanks Dustin! I could literally relate on everything you said that's crazy. Probably also because I'm in a period of my life (a.k.a University) where I don't have any real friends to talk to about "deep subjects". It's just like people I sit next to in class. It used to make me sad but now I'm more than okay, I appreciate being with myself :)

[@DaemonsWall]

my problem is loving being alone... at home... like, way too much hshs but not having the confidence to actually go out on my own. I feel like people assume when you're alone is because no one wants to be with you, rather than you wanting to spend some time doing stuff. I used to be more confident back when I was 15, I would go out on my own to walks around streets full of art and that was such a happy moment for me. But then I got into a bad relationship and either I did everything with my partner or I'd do nothing. That went on for 6 years. Right now there's a Monet exposition and have no one to go with, I guess this is my sign to just enjoy myself and do it.

[@caelinmason2217]

the timing of this video... i moved across the country for university and all of my friends are back hom :') hearing this is so reassuring that i shouldn't feel obligated to do things with other people and to enjoy my own company and honestly it's great!! being comfortable with yourself is such an important thing to be

[@felix.mp3639]

It’s so nice to see you again : D

[@annabenedict5680]

I’ve been feeling this way a lot recently - resigned in having to rely only on myself to go to social events, try fun activities, and do new things. It’s taken a while to grow through the discomfort of just going and doing those things by myself and actually enjoying when I feel like I “should” be doing them with people

[@Bhabna10]

I needed this so bad. I believed one can only have new experiences if it's with other people, and with my social anxiety, I always missed out on literally so much like you said waiting for other people to come around, and when they do, I'm usually not into it anymore..... Edit: I've been in a relationship, and that hasn't changed my loner status, my boyfriend just feels like another addition to my family, not in a bad way, of course, I can share so much with them now, and that's something I didn't get to do while i was single, but superficially, I still feel like i should have a gang or people to hang out with at the ready coz most people seem to do, and i dont..I hope this made sense

[@porkbelly3217]

Dustin: ginger hair + ginger tea = perfection✨

[@aumioishaat8167]

You've worded out so much of what I've always been to embarrassed to speak up about, the being super high energy and being flaked on. Even when you've mastered being alone, there comes a point when you want to nurture and be nurtured.

[@verredamour]

listening to dustin talk and be relatable/real while crocheting is honestly the best 'non-podcast' podcast a person can ask for

[@andijaney]

disappointed because of expectations of other people is so relatable. it wrecks me

[@lunax5098]

Honestly I REALLY needed this I’m currently unable to go to college or really do anything and it hard seeing my friends and siblings able to actually live a normal life. Basically I decided to spend a year out to better my mental and physical health because honestly if I carried on with education I’d be bedridden.. anyways this really helped me get out of the idea that I need other people to be happy. thank you!

[@alexis_nichole]

I love going to the mall alone because otherwise I feel rushed I’m going to a concert next year alone I’m nervous but excited!

[@oksurejamie]

We love a Parks and Rec moment

[@lunajsu]

being alone is really what keeps me going but sometimes it gets lonely

[@sushimooon]

Yeah! I feel like a lot of people don’t get that being alone is completely different than being lonely. Alone is being in one’s own company- living with a soul that is only your own. Lonely, on the other hand, is craving the need for someone else’s company. Both are so different, and I think understanding the difference can really set the right perspective for people, and help understand themselves better :)

[@champagne_carmen]

I really enjoyed this video because it represented perfectly how I'm feeling at the moment.Currently in an exchange program really really far from home and have faced loneliness becuase of expectations that I have put on other people and had to force myself to get out by myself to not be just at home all the time. It is indeed really refreshing and empowering to experiment the art of being alone. Looking forward more content and stay safe ^^

[@Lillynoot]

i never related to a whole video SO HARD before... from the correlating maybe to no, being disappointed when your friends don't pull through or match your vibe, being more excited to lift other people's vibes up, and feeling that lonely feeling after doing something alone. everything.

[@leylahawa1842]

i feel the same way like exactly, its so tirig i love being alone usually so I'm not dependant

[@yellowcard7341]

I'm feel both freaked out and comforted by how much i relate to everything said in this video. I've been thinking about this for a while, i don't want to depend on others to do things i'm interested in anymore, this is a sign 🌟

[@laniborder2529]

One minute into this video I got up and made myself ginger tea cause I have a cough. I don't even know who you are. I just did it. That's the power you have.

[@chrsma]

I feel you. I’m sorry your parents / family let you down when you were younger. Being constantly disappointed by “maybe”s as a kid takes its toll

[@tetetbahala6213]

One thing I realized from happy, single people (including me), they do not really need any relationships to make themselves happy and that is really empowering.

[@niyadodson7154]

Ive always been alone. Even when I had friends I still felt alone. So I dropped all of them and I felt so much energy. I felt so much better about myself. And over the years I have gotten used to being alone. I recently went to the movies by myself and it was so calming and fun. Sure I didn’t have anyone to talk to after the movie was over but I was fine with that. Ik I might seem crazy but I do talk to myself everyday 🚶🏽‍♀️. So I just talked about the movie out loud in the car alone and drove home. I have always been single for 18 years. So I’m used to being alone too. But recently I have been wanting a girlfriend. I have never really experienced anything romantic like holding hands, kissing, going on dates, or dating anyone. So it might be a little awkward at first. But that’s just cause I have gotten so used to being alone and never experienced these things. So if anything I need to have new friends and get into a relationship, or I will never want to be around anyone anymore

[@user-sc8ed1hi3y]

ngl this video is helping me looking forward growing up, and being a independent adult! literally all my life i have been dreading growing up bc of the ppl around me and what adults told me abt being an adult. tysmm :D

[@sruthisurendra6674]

The first time I watched this video was minutes after it dropped, and at the time I was in a relationship and was pretty much never alone. So I couldn’t relate to most stuff said in the video. However a couple weeks ago this person dumped me, and all his friends were mine, so now suddenly my life has been completely devoid of socialising, and I remembered this video and came back to it. I can’t express how much it’s helped and comforted me to listen to you and use the tips you put out Dustin, thank you for this video!

[@lenouchkkk]

thank u so much for this video i quite honestly really needed this!! I've started a part-time job a month ago, so I've been working on Saturdays, sundays & Mondays. it's getting really hard to see my friends since most of them are still in college/school etc. I've been trying to learn how to be alone more, but i feel like I've been putting too much pressure on myself to do things instead of simply... enjoying time and taking my off days one day at a time. thanks again for the vid!! it did me some good to hear those words

[@ceciv.6660]

the ''you'l never see them again'' it's great advice. but it only works on the city. i lived my whole life in a very small town and anywhere you went, you'll find someone you knew and for sure will see again. it was very hard to do ANYTHING, bc there people really cared about what you did or with. but now im in the city and it took me a while to realise that here literally no one cares and even if they do care, you wont see them again, after that i started to do whatever i wanted really

[@sofiyaaaas]

this is so real. i’ve been going to do what i actually want to do and the vibe of going to get coffee and buying a book ALONE is unmatched. i still love being on call with my friends for hours at a time, but alone time is sometimes what i really want. i’ve been staying awake through the night to have some peace by myself, which maybe isn’t the healthiest thing for me?? but idrc🤭🤭

[@MridulaVardhan]

yoooo i resonate so much with this video. down to the potential trust issues and all that. i've grown to really love spending time with myself and have learned a lot in the process. my favorite activity to do alone is go to a nice sit down restaurant, get a drink, and have a bomb ass meal in silence :) but i appreciate you noting the downsides of being alone, a balance is important, like with all things :) u got a new sub my friend

[@Whysandey]

Being alone is one of my favorite things tbh. I think i got way too comfortable being alone that now it bothers me not being alone 🥲💖

[@ashleighsprings9732]

"1 minutes ago" NEVER CLICKED SO FAST !!! Love you Dustin

[@D.vuong.OFFICIAL]

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