LET'S TALK | Children On Youtube, Cancel Culture & Phones Hijacking Our Brains

[@deliishbyeva]

From what I see on the videos you have three smart, funny, happy and kind boys. In my opinion, this is the biggest testament to your parenting style. I don’t have kids and I can’t even wrap my head around how you do it all. Have nothing but respect for you and your beautiful family❤️

[@danabarone5801]

I've been here since Ben was a baby and completely understood and respected your decision when you pulled back on showing the kids. I'm so happy to see them more often again and see them growing,maturing, and thriving. They are kind, intelligent, funny, and creative kids, and all that is a reflection of how they are being parented. ❤

[@mufasaiii2455]

you articulated that part about cancel culture so well and it's so true. people are so quick to point out something that can be blown so out of proportion and they do do that. and it's for what? that one second of validity? idk but yeah, you're right that it's the journey that matters more. we make mistakes and somewhere down the line we realise what we've done wrong, and it doesn't necessarily mean we have to announce to the world that we did. it's enough that we learn from it and move on

[@kiara4345]

True. I read this story about Matt Damon and how he tells that his daughter corrected him in his use of a word (I believe ¨fagg0t¨, not sure) that he still used as an insult or something like that and how he realised that he actually did not want to use that word anymore and how his child taught him something. And right there, a lot of people canceled him for it, which I thought it was the most absurd thing. Can't a person make mistakes, learn from them? Or do these people who cancel others really believe that using tweets that someone wrote 10 years ago is entirely reasonable? Like do these people think they themselves are perfect and hold firm ground on everything? Ridiculous.

[@gaabzc]

Man… is Ben even real? He is so well articulated and has the smartest comments, makes me feel like he’s lived on earth before.

[@Alizavr]

absolutely loved the video, you made such good points and also just seeing you interact with the boys is very inspiring! the dynamic between you, the boys and people around you (Celine is so great!) is awesome. i’ve been a follower for years and never did it occur to me that those videos are bad in one way or another. the type of family content you create is so different from the “problematic” type the discussions are usually about. you’re not filming them every day, you’re not forcing them, you don’t even film them that often. personally, i don’t see how glimpses of a day in a museum can be bad. again, it’s not like their childhood is fully documented and posted online from what i’ve seen, there is a healthy balance to what’s being filmed and very considerate parents ❤️

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

I’ve never felt you forced your kids into anything. You have been so careful and respectful of your boys. Whatever is best for you, is fine with your real fans.

[@Ana-vj8oy]

I make my words yours!

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

@@Ana-vj8oy 💞💞💞

[@Maijinnn]

You’re such a great mom. I wish I had you as my mother growing up:) I hope to aspire to be as knowledgeable as you someday

[@naomihandler757]

I Don’t have kids and I’m honestly OBSESSED with how you guys are raising your kids !!! I think from what we can see it’s very healthy and balanced ! You guys are the kind of parents we would want to be if we would have kids

[@Mayapapaya123]

Would it be an idea to have them make videos but keep them privated? They could still watch it themselves, but it won't be available for anyone else.

[@Annie-nj6rn]

but how would she monetize on them if they were privated? its about money

[@lauren4310]

As a Londoner, I'm telling Benny to give it a chance! The sun comes out sometimes 🤭

[@graceless6103]

I don’t think it’s fair to put kids on the internet before they even understand the concept of online being forever

[@YM-np9dy]

For the children's sake, I hope a % video money is put away in a trust for them and can be used for college, otherwise I'd be bitter growing up in the internet spotlight.

[@Laurajd]

You seem hypocritical to me, if you really care about children, why don't you think about the children who appear on TV, in movies and in series? A lot more people see those, like the Olsen twins, Daniel Radcliffe (Harry Potter)... you mess with her because it's the trend right now.

[@user-lc4sg3tv1k]

Hey Laura. These kids are actors. They play someone else. Their private life is not disclosed. I am tired. My "crime", for which I was already flooded with hatred, accusations on my mental health, motivation, and character, including offenses, consists in a little ironic comment, when Valeria was angry about being filmed without being asked. She deliberately decided to be a real life celebrity. Maxi didn't. In all my comments linked to kids' privacy, I have emphasized that my viewpoint is not linked to her content, which I think is great. She can provide fantastic content w/o the kids. I just don't think it's fair for the kids. For instance, would Maxi really want the world to witness his language aquisition process? I didn't want to hurt, just increase awareness. I can tell you that I am exceptionally sorry if my wording was badly chosen, but my statement remains the same. Please take it just as nothing more than a little hint, in case not considered yet. Have a great day!

[@Laurajd]

​@@user-lc4sg3tv1k And because they are actors, is that an excuse? Everything is known about the Olsen twins and Daniel, their family, their school, where they are from, where their house is, what they like, whether they pass the course or not, the couples and friends they have, and millions of people know it. The paparazzi follow them even to pee even if they are children, they don't have privacy. You criticize her because she gets offended when a stranger records her, because it's normal to be offended by a stranger! A stranger is not the same as a mother and they are also her children, she is not going to hide them, they are part of her life and she only shows them for a few minutes throughout the video. It amazes me that a youtuber bothers you, that its reach is nothing comparable to child actors that reach millions of people worldwide, but since your comment is not going to reach celebrities, then you mess with Valeria (or any influencer) because it will come to her, simply to hurt her.

[@user-lc4sg3tv1k]

I would say exactly the same if actors private life is exposed in any way. Her point was that she was not *asked* to be filmed by the stranger, and she also didn't ask her kids because Maxi could not even speak back then. Anyway - if you are a pro for kids exposure online, just leave your thumbs up. ❤

[@larrywatson3479]

Hello Valeria! You are such a fantastic, and amazing Mom! You love your precious little boys so much. Jake, Ben,and Maxi are the sweetest little boys They are so precious and adorable. They loved the train ride and had so much fun. So wonderful seeing them in this video. I missed seeing them. Love you so much Valeria! Love,Janice and Larry Watson Pittsburgh PA USA

[@Ana-vj8oy]

6:06 Valeria , when watching your videos when the boys were little and they loved being in front of the camera , I even remember Ben n Jake asking to have their own channel . They always seemed to be just fine in front t of the cameras .

[@sharvanisivakumar4792]

This video brought such a huge smile to my face. Can’t help but marvel at how calm you are with the boys and truly let them PLAY. You seem like such a great mum, and I’m sure your intuition will guide you to know what’s best for your family 💛 Even if you be the best person you can, people will still find faults - so you just do you hun 💛💛💛

[@starsmoon230]

I appreciate her choices it's her matter of life she is a mom she knows best of her children go on girl I love you,

[@LizaMorozovaChannel]

You are amazing❤️ You do you. Your intuition will always know better. Loads of love and appreciation! ( and gratitude for you )

[@lottyde8]

It’s such a joy to watch the boys interact. It would be such a pity to not capture these precious family moments together. It’s so wholesome! ❤

[@GingerGilda]

Absolutely amazing, positive, kind, smart family. Very inspiring to watch. Content with kids might be relevant for families as Valeria and her family are great role models and showcase healthy relationships. Yet I would agree it might be not very fair to expose the kids before they reached the age of conseous decisionmaking. I would also be safety concerned. Apologizes if this sounds instructional, no intention to interfear in Valeria's personal/professional approach and choices. Thank you for your superb work, Valeria.

[@mairishkar]

so obvious how much you love your kids! I trust your mother’s judgment❤!

[@cars4558]

Benny is an old soul...I can recognise one when I see it. All of your kids are amazing but he is just so special.

[@user-lc4sg3tv1k]

I wrote such a comment. And I didn't perceive changes in the kids' exposure on cam, sorry. If I did, I would not have made this comment. I think people can do whatever they want, however, if minors are involved and are part of their endeavours, it's a different story. Children do a lot to please their parents, even w/o knowing. So it's easy to abuse them for ones own endeavours. Even w/o a bad intention (never assumed that with you!). Things that we do not want to hear are not automatically all wrong, toxic, the product of someone's insecurities, mere projections, or a form of "cancel culture". If we use that widespread mindset on SM towards criticism, we stop growing. Wish you well and thanks for your work❤(which is great and I love it!)

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Hi dear stranger :) thanks for your input. Im pretty aware and confident about my parenting so don’t worry❤

[@Whitstik1]

Ummm you did. And you need to reread your comment. You’re giving backhanded comments and trying to sound so evolved. And your comments are toxic bc you were projecting and making assumptions about someone’s life that you know nothing about. Just bc you watch some videos she shared that are a fraction of her actual life doesn’t mean you know or have a right to comment on her personal life or choices with her children. If I were you I would keep your negative comments to yourself.

[@Alorajones19]

@@ValeriaLipovetsky People do not have enough problems in their lives so they find them in influencers….thats my definition of cancel culture Edit: maxie is your twin

[@Alorajones19]

@@user-lc4sg3tv1k what

[@Whitstik1]

@@user-lc4sg3tv1k you’re mentally unstable my friend! Get off line and go seek professional help! Have a great life as well. 👍🏼 🤡

[@Sarah-yv6it]

I’m personally against child content on social media but in your case, your channel doesn’t revolve around them. They make some appearances but that’s it. It’s not like these family channels who shove cameras at their kids’ faces right when they wake up or in inconvenient situations like in the bath/bathroom or things like that. Idk but personally it’s very different to have them appear occasionally than them being the main interest of a channel. That being said I don’t think that it’s a bad thing that people sometimes bring back to parents’ minds that their children’s privacy should be protected (as long as these comments are made in a respectful way), some need these reminders!

[@melisagalli3693]

I dont get it. You said you learn from the past and now the kids what to be in the videos. But maxi is in it and he is like 4?

[@user-lc4sg3tv1k]

Yep. Next video is 80% kids. And Maxi on bed: "No I don't want photo.."yet he is kept being filmed. Thus guy can not even fully speak yet. Wondering why she ranted about my comment. She didn't change at all.

[@cristinavanputten9812]

Maybe I'll do the same once I have children so it is not an attack but I am sincerely concerned about children that young having their own device with (perhaps limited) access to internet... I am from beginning nineties and enjoyed a simple childhood I guess and suffering from some kind of ADD (high functioning w fulltime job etc) Instagram and the like can really distract me like crazy... Screens are just so addictive

[@Pl0vely]

Such a beautiful family ❤

[@miaochuntsai2031]

Ah! They grow so fast! Really nice to see them again on your video and part of the reality of being a mom of three boys.

[@gunelagayeva1148]

I luv you and your boys! Ben is 💛

[@carolwood9270]

Beautiful children. Jake’s eyes, oh so beautiful……

[@graceless6103]

I know I’d be really upset if my entire childhood was online

[@RippledGlories]

Good for YOU . Glad your childhood wasn’t online then……..

[@pheonixiswild]

She’s expressing her journey, don’t be disrespectful

[@RippledGlories]

@@user-lc4sg3tv1k okay creepy weird spam account… that’s taken out of context and not what we’re talking about here 🤷‍♀️. Maybe to try to say something more relevant next time. Or just nothing at all….

[@SS-uv6yu]

I love to hear your thoughts ❤

[@jeaniebennett40]

They don’t understand so yes I agree keep them away from your platforns

[@theodoradinica9335]

Starting by saying that I LOVEEEEE watching your videos but is nothing new under the sun. Love all of your, but Ben omg those eyes 🤩. I would love to ask you what time are you going to sleep, considering that you are waking up sooo early to the to the gym? can we talk about this because I think is not only me trying to choose this healty life but so hard because I can't fall a sleep early at night. Hope you got my point. Big hugs and kisses for everyone from this amazing family!!!

[@bilyanachesnovski4362]

You need to do another live meet up if you do come to London ❤

[@jeaniebennett40]

It’s good u explain everything bc people who subscribe do want to know

[@mariajoseespinosa6576]

Love your family 💕💕💕💕💕🌺🌸🌼👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@missdina434]

YAS!! What a great surprise for our day😍🤍🤍🤍

[@kristin.sleepyHamster]

Always excited for those raw videos

[@youlinesjohnson311]

If you don’t want negative comments about your personal lives and your children don’t post them on the internet. Simple!

[@larissaj.e.4361]

5:15m👌🏽 Most accurate statement about these times

[@sofiiamurova8274]

Social media is kinda new and we can not be sure how it will work out in the future. There are always some advantages and disadvantages, so parents just decide for their kids themselves. And I think in the KZbin family it’s hard not to show kids. And probably you could give them some reality of your job and first followers if they decide to go in this field

[@CharmaineEmmaMorris]

(stopped at 5:55 to say this) But same could be said for the tik-tokers who does the "where's is your watch from" videos. Maybe they are at the same point as you were when you were still figuring the social media landscape and putting the boys in your videos. In a way that, yes they are making money from making those videos but maybe they "don't know better" / don't view it as a violation of privacy, which is why they are "putting" you in their videos. But maybe now,, as your message about these trend of videos being a violation of privacy spreads, they will soon "know better" and (soon) stop producing those videos. So (no offense), in a way you are kinda similar to that commentator, cause you are a stranger to the tik-tokers and you're commenting on them and haven't viewed those tik-tokers "journey" (if they have one to be viewed on tik-tok). Assumption: that those videographers that does the "where is your watch from" videos are tik-tokers. just my 2 cents. still love your content!

[@DianaHerediaCruz-i5n]

I Need to know where can I get that amazing outfit! ❤ does anyone know?

[@yulkaluna]

where is the striped shirt from? really beautiful

[@lilyichirauli]

So sweet ❤️❤️❤️💫💫

[@dipendrasah4255]

Amazing. Moments with family, kids ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@noarzayev]

- mushroom cribs? - horseshoe crabs!🤣🤣

[@roniarasheed3841]

To be honest, I skip all the parts that have the children in it... I have my own kid and I really come to KZbin to see something else other than children...

[@jani8959]

mushroom crabs??? 😂😂

[@milenasikstel140]

Hi Valeria love your content 🎉. Just found you on KZbin. And I spend Friday night watching your videos 😅. Just want you to know every other adds on your video is Russian adds🧐that’s weird since I live in New Jersey.I Russian speaking and sometimes watch Russian bloggers , but never had add. Some one these adds are political . Just want you to let you know. Love ❤️

[@Whitstik1]

Amen! To all you said I agree. It’s no one’s business at all what choices we make for our children. And yes, you learn as you go and you do better. It’s easy for online trolls to judge especially when there isn’t a spot light on their lives or choices. I’m so tired of cancel culture or whatever you want to call it (I call it judgmental bull 💩) but to each their own. Love hearing your thoughts. Keep following your heart and drown out the negativity. ❤

[@Whitstik1]

There*

[@Choune991]

You do you Valeria, Kendall and Kylie Jenner were on camera from a young age and I am sure they aren’t mad at the doors the exposure opened. Since you mentioned this topic, I value my privacy so much that if now at 32 with my career there was old footage of me as a kid on the internet, I would dislike it tremendously. But as you said, we are strangers, no judgment or complaints here. I personally like watching you and getting an effortless glimpse of your boys orbiting you❤

[@GildaDouglas]

Im the only one who find that super weird to kiss on the mouth ? Hahahaha I know many people do it buuuuuuut 😮🤣

[@jeaniebennett40]

They your children need to be 18+ so just wait till then

[@vuigaworld]

❤️❤️

[@alezandradavila2581]

Yea sometimes adults are nuts 🌰 With the videos

[@elinall5345]

i am getting so bored with vlogs, i guess thats a good thing

[@heloise5931]

Is it just me and does Maxi sound British ? 😂

[@hearts9980]

I love your vlogs, but PAUSE. Your kids are learning irreversible behaviors and lifestyle choices. It’s just NOT worth it.

[@mildabijami]

Is it just me or Maxi has a British English accent?🥹🥹

[@Accomandoc]

I don’t think Apple or society is high jacking children’s brains. Technology is how kids socialize and taking it away only isolates them from friends. Moderation is key. I suggest not calling your son Maxi anymore. As far as social media effecting your kids that’s really a matter of being an example. You’re an extremely loving mom your biggest challenge is having your boys realize your wealth isn’t their wealth and hard work and great grades is EVERYTHING. Go to Boston go to Washington DC take them to learn the basics of America not Fort Lauderdale!

[@cloramurphy3838]

I don't understand people who monetise children as commodities

[@lazeecandles]

A mother knows best 🤍 trust your instincts, people will always have something to say