Life Gets Significantly Easier When You Ask This Question

[@ColeHastings]

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[@sentualstrong6699]

Can you make a video on accountability and why people ghost people so often in this time of age?

[@asherdayne6157]

Thanks man I really needed this video.❤✊

[@MindlessTube]

let go of the illusion of a separate self and embracing the larger reality of interconnectedness. by doing so, individuals can tap into a deeper sense of purpose and meaning that is not focused on personal gain or achievement. the self is not a fixed, separate entity that can be improved or perfected, but rather a fluid and ever-changing process that is part of a larger interconnected system.

[@ericephemetherson3964]

Fear is an evolutionary trait for self preservation. Sir! You have not discovered anything new.

[@mathew4239]

Selling a course 200 $ is insane

[@noobifest2413]

Out of all your videos, this one speaks to me the most. We can never get rid of fear or other negative emotions, we just have to acknowledge our emotions and live in spite of fear by loving ourselves.

[@ColeHastings]

Exactly. No wrong feelings

[@TheStealthyOne6]

@@ColeHastings yeah. no wrong feelings. that's what people don't understand whenever i tell them about my disgust about some human bodily processes. the disgust is a part of me, always will be. but this body? only a vessel. if we have a soul that goes somewhere else after we die, or even has the tiniest bit of power to escape this dying universe, only what we connect to with the body will come with us. the body itself will die with the universe, and whatever recreation we make of it will be different.

[@soyuzinstrumentales7605]

There are no emotions Glitchcore grindcore and cats cant solve!

[@Tazy50]

"What are you unwilling to feel?" Great advice!

[@neevshriker9458]

"In the darkness you will find what you have been seeking for in the light". That one hit on another damn level bro. Brilliant message!

[@dat_guy3411]

''I love the sun, but things don't grow because of the sun, you have to add some rain !'' That one hits home.

[@weslu313]

I’ll forever be grateful that I found your channel. These last two years I’ve gone through hell and lost so much, but I survived. Self improvement has kept me alive after hitting rock bottom. Lost two new cars due to me hanging out with bad company. Drug addiction. “Friends” who changed up when I went from having money to having nothing. Thank you Cole 🙏🏼

[@ColeHastings]

Wow, I’m hella proud of you man. Keep moving forward

[@shea5542]

Hugs 🫂

[@Puruuuu1]

This fr changed my prespective in life bro!! im a man but im aboutta cry

[@Kenji-117]

Its absolutely insane that the exact same things you said are the things that ran through my head today. I recently came to the conclusion that no human ever was able to become whole with themselves if they decided to cut out their inner darkness. Sometimes its exactly this darkness that deserves the recognition so that we can finally fully accept it and learn to deal with it. Its what gives the light its meaning and nobody every grew through comfort but through hardship. Yin and Yang. There is good in the bad and bad in the good.

[@ColeHastings]

Well said

[@bdfwhhsb]

What if you don’t know what that darkness is? How do you find out what you fear most?

[@RafaelLopeztattoos]

​@@bdfwhhsb if you were born into it, could be a reason you wouldnt know the difference...but this makes for a distorted reality. And that person might be trouble that everyone is looking out for

[@hhhh-.-]

the way you wrote the character of your Fear, the way he asked "why have you kept me locked away here for so long? dont you know how thats felt?" was really beautiful. it's as if even the darkest and densest of our fears exist only for us to overcome them and become a much wiser human being. its as if it had enotions of its own and only once you truly understood how it felt did you realize it was there for a reason. "in the darkenss you will find what youve been seeking for in the light." ive personally experienced that. being only 17 i sometimes wonder why i feel so dark at times, that too for no apparent reason. things that helped me get through those times were my family, your videos and recently, learning that consciously delving into the darkness in a controlled amount of time actually causes you to learn many things you wouldnt otherwise had been able to comprehend when you were happy. binge watched a couple of your vids and this comment is probably pretty late but i had to let you know how youve impacted my life. thanks cole 💪

[@ajtaylor8750]

I would add that we also choose the path of least resistance because we fear the potential pressure that will come with success if we go down the path of most resistance. It's scary to think that our dreams and goals might actually come true and now everybody will be looking to us for everything, which puts a ton of pressure on us to handle that success because we actually "made it" as well as how much our life will change. It's easy to "just get by," but it's truly hard to "make it" and carry that torch of being the one to do it while everyone around you has eyes on you 24/7 seeing if or when you will drop the ball. Didn't mean for this long rant, but just something that got triggered in me when Cole mentioned the path of least resistance. Happy Easter everyone!

[@ColeHastings]

Totally agree. Something similar happened to me last year in January where I almost couldn’t handle all the pressure and quit. I think I might make an entire vid on this topic

[@zackadams419]

@@ColeHastings looking forward to this one. I feel the same way sometimes. I think another aspect is “what if I succeed, but end up not liking the success anyway because of the pressure keep the success going”.

[@nsiebenmor]

Sometimes the path of least resistance is the right path. If a path is difficult or forced it doesn't mean it's best to reach your full potential and can be destructive in some cases

[@roachspray]

oh my god this just gave me a brain blast...probably why i procrastinate so often, because i fear failure but i also fear success. that's hilarious lmao

[@d0lby67]

Thanks Cole, wisdom beyond your years. Life is suffering... embrace it.

[@M.J_]

Once we breakdown the fear of uncertainty, we can truely progress in the goals that we desire

[@LoveHandle4890]

Nothing more important than self-improvement in life.🙏

[@MindlessTube]

Except self improvement is a money scam. By continually trying to improve, we are never satisfied, and never accepting anything. And so it just comes down to accepting your self as you are and being good with it. For who is someone else to know what is good for you? You be safe up here said the monkey to the fish as he puts him up a tree.

[@thedisliker9212]

​@@MindlessTube How are those two things contradictory?

[@djhardcorehengst6356]

@@MindlessTube accepting yourself is part of improvement

[@FakeTheAntivirus]

​@@MindlessTubeI think that being content and satisfied while improving yourself doesn't exclude each other. It is a limiting belief. What stops you from being humble and grateful for what you have whilst working on your goals?

[@MindlessTube]

@@djhardcorehengst6356 You missing the point there is nothing to improve. The self can not be improved cause there is nothing to improve. People want to do something they do it, they dont do it under the impression of improving self. As that implies the self is something that needs improving which is not the case.

[@machuwatches]

i started taking cold showers and its so crazy how i feel bad and while im doing it i almost scream but im happy and im gratefull. After pain you find happiness. good luck everybody facing the dark.

[@1.vld.193]

damn bro, i'm happy for bumping into your video! After watching half of it, i took a big risk with a girl, showing vulnerability, knowing i had a fear of it, but i'd rather call it a "strength" now. And things turned out good, not bad as i expected, but you know the saying: "we usually expect the worst to happen"

[@morwinus]

Cole, thank you so much. While watching this video I cried so much, I'm doing my best to embrace the shadow, change my beliefs and do the most important mental health shadow work in my life, it sure changed a lot in my life, but fear... of guilty... was stopping me and to run from feeling of guilty I started to dive deep into my old addictions, I felt even more guilty and cycle continued, I spoke to a lot of my subpersonalities, but now... Because of you my dear friend, I'll speak with my fear of guilty and as you did, it's in my room, waiting for me with its wisdom, I appreciate your video, thanks.

[@philswift791]

I have experienced stuff in my life much like everyone. It took three years of shadow work that's described here. I have healed and my life is good.

[@wreckingdan4157]

Honestly I've been watching you occasionally for a while now and wasn't sure if I share the same values of your videos or not. But with this one you won me over, explaining such a complex concept with so much expertise. This video is what I wanted my inner monologue to tell me, yet I could never quite find the words to tell myself that fear is good and necessary. You helped me so much with that, thank you Cole!!

[@ColeHastings]

That makes me very happy to hear. Thanks for the love

[@Jos_zi]

i always felt weird when hesitating to do something positive like stepping into a cold shower, but i realize i knew my fear was irrational, this video spoke to me.

[@theswiftdodo5870]

I love how you have incorporated a similar style to ‘better ideas’ ive noticed you mimic other styles from other youtubers too. This has helped you find ur own style and is much better then some of ur earlier vids

[@Cowface]

Without fail, every time I say: “ok shame/sadness/loneliness/etc have at me! Let’s see your worst! I’m not scared of you! I’m ready to face you head on!” and I brace myself for the worst, I’m consistently underwhelmed. Like maybe a few minutes tops of sitting in the negative emotion, and then I’ll notice my mind start to wander. Like “wait, that’s it? That’s all you got? I’m supposed to be thinking about the bad scary things, not how much I love my kids (for example) and I laugh to myself. Of course this is at home, by myself, in a controlled environment. It’s much harder to deal with embarrassment and shame when in the presence of others

[@ladylovespie8863]

I'm a counsellor, and i truly think this is top-notch advice. I'm watching this as i go through a break-up and it's really helpful and applicable.

[@DavidSimha-m2v]

from the bottom of my heart i want to say thank you your videos help me trough my darkest times and love you man for what you do and for the person you are ❤

[@abdiasnemo2634]

I've reached that spot of being unstoppable, and I have been living on it for a long while. After a lot of time, a new problem was born. I shared this with you to see if you've experienced it and see what you have to say. The problem is suffering from success. Yes, just like the meme, and no, I am not trolling. It's been so long in this success that it holds no meaning anymore. I now only feel joy when I fail, fall, and suffer. When I face a new problem and don't want to solve it because it's chaos is my only source of happiness. But eventually, the problem is solved and the happiness gone. And no matter how much "I feel what I don't want to feel," "Accept the situation and who am I," or "Let the emotions flow down the creek," I still stay with the same problem. Have you experienced this before? What do you have to say about it?

[@Awtuch]

My fears are definitely the thing stopping me most. It’s so hard to understand but I’m trying…since it’s a never ending loop otherwise

[@heinzmaker1236]

Suffered with panic and anxiety for many years, just because, as you described in the video - I was unwilling to feel the emotions I labeled as negative. Paradoxically this just made me have more anxiety in the long run. Feeling negative emotions are inevitable - suffering is a choice. I think this is the key for the majority of ‘emotional’ mental health issues - allowing them to be there instead of coping with them. If you are depressed, allow yourself to be, because there is a reason for it - maybe you have lost a loved one, lost a leg, regretting past.. whatever it is - know that FEELING sad about it is natural, but staying sad is optional. That is the cold hard truth.. I know how hard it can be loosing anything, however that is inevetable in life, accepting that fact and allow life to happen as it is and feel all the emotions life throws at you - is the key.

[@YoungKaraj]

One of the greatest videos I've seen. Content was really nice, and that's genuine. Feel like I've come across a gem of a video. Production was great. Well done.

[@leonre3677]

Being able to recognize your feelings and asking someone how to deal with them so you can learn from an early age how to process them when they come up? Requires honesty and open channels of communication with emotional support readily available. (This Video is IMPORTANT. Thank you!)

[@scottjackson163]

What happened to the Idaho 4 provides some justification for being afraid, inside one’s home, of nighttime/darkness.

[@AikiraBeats]

This is something I’ve been asking myself recently there’s a few things that I’ve been putting off because of fear. Whether that’s fear of being in a relationship, money, and being comfortable with oneself. Just by questioning these things I’m able to be conscious about my decisions in my life. It’s not an easy journey, but it’s worth the cry or two that tends to happen when your being honest with yourself.

[@PistonAvatarGuy]

I can't trace my inability to sleep well at night to anything specific, I just stopped being able to sleep at night in high school and my mind would start running at a million miles a second when it got dark out. I wasn't always thinking about something negative, either, I would just think about absolutely EVERYTHING, and if I was thinking about something negative, it was about events that occurred during the day. Everything just always felt better when I was awake at night anyway, and I felt like I was more creative and more motivated at night (other people noticed this about me as well). Days seem to drag on... ENDLESSLY when I wake up in the morning, I hate that feeling. Only recently have I started to feel like something bad might happen at night, but everything just feels wrong lately and I think that's the source of that feeling.

[@Honcho_is_rich]

You’ve got a gift in storytelling.

[@CiubaruVictor]

Goddamn, what an amazing video this was. The production of it was insane, especially because I know how hard it is to film every single one of those shots, that we simply glance over so often. The part where you met with your fear was exceptionally great. Really good video, thank you for reminding me that I need to ask myself this question more often.

[@nikibyalo260]

For me, one of my biggest fears is UNCERTAINTY and it's scary to let go of my most certain beliefs but I'm willing to give them up because I know deep down they're not completely true!

[@stephaniemoura9325]

This video speaks soo much to me. As someone who experienced (and still experience sometimes much less often 🙏🏻) really bad intrusive thoughts and irrational fears (symptoms of OCD), it was only when I let myself feel bad for the fears I had that they finally started getting “weaker” or manageable.

[@techlover679]

there’s something about the fact that your voice is actually making me wanna understand what you’re trying to say and encouraging to act upon it! im binged watching your videos and quite impressed by the way you put things! Btw you are very cute☺️ keep up the work , more power to u ✨

[@bend1833]

“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of the light, but by making the darkness conscious.” - Carl G. Jung

[@theokerresproductions7720]

What a video! Great imagery with the flabby fear monster! 😍👏🏻

[@Anniecurls]

8:21 I learned that... "Fear" similarities to opposite

[@reneonline3]

Hi Cole - I saw you at a certain Carribean restaurant on the eastside last week when you sat a couple tables over from me. I wanted to tell you hi and introduce myself, but you were obvi on a date and I didn't want to intrude/wanted to respect your privacy. I simply wanted to say I am a big fan and love your videos. Hope to run into you again. Thank you.

[@ColeHastings]

Oh haha you were at Canje? Definitely say hi next time

[@MrJavonnthomas]

You and David Goggins have helped me tremendously. Found out about you guys January 2021. Started off strong , had some hard bumps in the road that year that put my journey on hold for pretty much all of 2022, but I’m back. I’m not going anywhere this time! Thank you Cole !

[@ColeHastings]

Good shit man 💪

[@KingSalmon99]

Found about both of them about 6 months ago. Both of them are helping me crawl out of the deepest pit I’ve ever been in.

[@MrJavonnthomas]

@@KingSalmon99 blessings and strength to you brother 🙏🏾

[@Noah_Sanders]

Today (Easter 2023 )was the first day in along time where I lived a completely sin less day . I have finally beaten my addictions and cravings for substances like caffeine and weed and completely quit porn and fapping for good . I have already felt so much positive energy all around me the moment I quit my bad habits . If I can do it everyone can as well !!

[@lenengquist592]

I think I'll consider your ultimate life course someday. But dude, your confidence is absolutely amazing. Of how you're not afraid to interact with strangers and help out people by posting and making great consistent uploads. You're a real inspiration and a great person. I also live in Austin too, and the areas you've been too like Zilker park. I hope to someday cross paths.

[@ColeHastings]

Much love, if you ever see me definitely say what’s up

[@michaelsadvice]

Youre an awesome storyteller Cole!

[@yinconscious]

Wow cole, amazing video, thank you 🙏

[@riddhisha.selokar7257]

Your editing is great, it just brings video to whole another level❤

[@isagf4804]

You hit the nail on the head with this one, Cole!

[@pavelkrauz1685]

Thats so cool, I have gone through such a similar experience with the fear of the dark. Thank you for the video, it means a lot for me.

[@someonesomewhere-wp2vs]

Thank You For Being :)

[@TheOneThatAlwaysSaysUrMum]

The worst thing about all of these feelings is that you feel like you're alone. Hearing your exact thoughts and feelings put into words makes you look at the screen intently, like that lightbulb moment, when you realise that maybe this dark place isn't undiscovered. That you should believe it when the videos say that things get easier. I'm going through this questioning and dark place, and have been for a long time. Sometimes it's a lot worse, sometimes it's a lot better. I just hope I can find that light at the end of the tunnel and I also hope that voice in my head stops telling me that there is no light 😤

[@jonortet86]

Powerful Message Cole!

[@nicholashildenbrand8632]

Super positive video, Cole. Feel the fear and do it anyway. That's the key.

[@MaricaIvica]

Gosh God Bless You... what a wisdom for your age

[@greycegordon1597]

i subscribed to your channel because of your Berserker Wallpaper on your computer. Man Never thought you're a Berserk fan

[@sgtfullmetal]

I'm 18 years old and I'm still afraid of the dark and can't sleep without the light on. I'm going to face my fear now. Wish me luck

[@jameshudson1110]

You always seem to post videos exactly when they apply to me. I've been struggling a lot lately with forcing myself to do what I need to do. I'm a sophomore engineering student and I'm supposed to go to officer candidate school for the Marines this summer. Every day is just a mental battle with myself and it feels like I'm never getting anywhere no matter what I do. I'm scared about this summer because my running is not where it needs to be and I know its going to be painful. Just scared of not making it through. Thank you for your videos

[@ItzFisH_]

This man is a philosopher

[@autisticus1678]

You have no idea how much I related to the first few minutes of this video.

[@st3v3growz92]

Thanks Cole … this video helped me out a lot. Stay blessed

[@hafidyanis6607]

This video helps alots thnx cole i really love how u express those ideas

[@thealiusjones]

Of all of the videos I've ever seen, this one is the most.

[@ColeHastings]

This is one of the videos of all time

[@cco9355]

God bless Cole Hastings

[@DavidGonzalez-fc3os]

Perfect Austin thumbnail

[@fk2698]

bro is going places with these videos

[@gingeworkshop]

Happy Easter :)

[@ColeHastings]

Happy Easter!

[@cjmtv97]

Happy Easter

[@trayne1918]

Hey Cole, i've been watching your videos for quite some time and i've finally subscribed! Your recent videos have been wondrous works of story-telling, art, and of course good advice. I'm a young guy who's just now facing his fears and emotions, and this video really put it all in a really good perspective. Living life to the fullest includes feeling the negative emotions along with the positive ones and being okay with that. keep up the quality content!

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for subbing! Appreciate the love

[@shakswimm]

Amazing! I see an overlap with the 'Reversal of Desire' from Tools by Phil Stutz, look it up if you feel like it!

[@SomeBody-ce3gq]

I was not prepared 😭 This was so well-made, and thank you so much for saying how you edit in your description ❤

[@lilshiofficial]

my dad was a alcoholic and physically abused my older brother, him and my mom got devorced and we lived with my mom and shes a narcissist and still trys to narcissistically abuse me to this day. shit was rough as a kid. now i gotta stay away from my family.

[@Retiredmagician1]

One of your best vids yet.

[@killerfaithfish]

The Darkness looks so much more terrifying than I would ever imagine it looking like...

[@eli7527]

King of metaphors

[@Well-Put]

“For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something...almost everything-all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.” -Steve Jobs

[@Keonggreen]

Thank you for another introspective personal development video!! I love your effort

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks!

[@cole3053]

I love this question, Cole.

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks, Cole.

[@nikolaikalhof8364]

One of my favorite quotes is from Francis Bacon: "In order for the light to shine so brightly, the darknes must be present."

[@davidclark1191]

This is a ridiculously powerful video, good stuff m8

[@namansingh196]

I am really thankful to you

[@raginreagan6607]

Good to see the 360 arch bridge there. ATX is ❤

[@dpfx839]

Thankyou Cole

[@beirdoh2053]

Great content and it keeps getting better

[@Idkwhatnametoput627]

This felt like one of the best videos you made. Btw all my showers are cold.

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks Matt

[@Idkwhatnametoput627]

@@ColeHastings your welcome

[@ryanfrank4299]

When I was around 10 I would wake up at my friends house and just sneak out the door and run back home at 4am. The first time I did it anywhere new my parents always got that frantic call the next morning about how their kid was gone ☺

[@morninaftergamin]

So… I have fear of the “dark” or better, fear of the paranoia of something happening when I’m alone and I turn into someone incapable of thinking straight. After this video I will try to embrace this fear. Because I like horror in some way, I watch analog horror videos but I can’t sleep much later. I don’t know which way I should confront my fear: I watch an horror video and try to sleep or I just try to sleep in the dark first. I feel a little bit lost but I will do something towards my fears today. Coming back If I get some results

[@abhijeetashiya8856]

Yeah bro Your vids are a great help

[@emmarushlow9881]

this is exactly what I needed to what today. incredible message and video. thank you Cole!!

[@ssyxji659]

Amazing video as always, Cole. Your lessons have been very useful for me in my personal life.

[@luzikii823]

Thanks for the wisdom

[@delphinesworks7948]

It's wierd. I am unwilling to feel fear. Fear itself is the thing I try to avoid. This leads to excessive thoughts and fears like the fear of death I just cant handle. I have this thoughts since I was 8 or 9 and developped DPDR due to my brain trying to protect me from this feelings. But when I try to dig into this fear, my emotions get so strong that I feel like having a panic attack. The only way I found so far to not panic is to pull myself back so far into my DPDR that I only feed numbness, which makes me really sad

[@mehDOGIESRATS2222]

Insane going with draws from hard drugs , but ya just have to say to ya self this will over in a week lol , the nightmares are the scariest shit

[@swaggyjay8317]

damn Cole you've done it again I've never thought about it this way I love this

[@kairikurama]

Happy Easter

[@Sammy_Chouchou]

Shit, I became a giga Chad and got ripped and felt amazing for two years straight. But then I randomly started dealing with worsening fatigue and brain fog, and now I don’t even feel emotion, good or bad. I used to be able to push through anything, and nothing ever upset me; but it’s impossible to get back to that when I can’t even hardly get a coherent thought through my head anymore.

[@12Gauge223]

Really liked this video Cole but sadly I still don’t know how to feel the fear and live with it and grow from it. Guess I just need to start practicing.

[@tsukiii8036]

Take action, your mind will rewire itself through repeated exposure. Good luck brother!

[@12Gauge223]

@@tsukiii8036 I think that’s what I need. Thank you. All the best.

[@erfannabizada6381]

Thank you

[@shujaatadil7025]

Thank You Sir…❤ You helped me a lot man 🙏

[@truerealist757]

Well Done Sir, Well Done!👏

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@nolesy34]

@0:12 ooft jolted me back to annoying wake up

[@guy_dude_person2325]

This is actually really good

[@NFSMAN50]

Happy Easter Mr Cole!!!!!!

[@ColeHastings]

Happy Easter

[@resolutestarman8318]

So this is what they mean by “embracing the suck”/embracing the darkness. This vid made things click