20 Truths a Narcissist Will Hide From You/What a Narcissist Does Not Want You to Know/Lisa A. Romano

[@vickie6662]

All your videos have helped me. But this one was very, very helpful. I'm 8 months out of a 30 year marriage with a textbook narcissist. I don't know how I would've ever gotten any progress at all without your help. Thank you for your videos, Lisa. I recommend you to every single person who relates to me that they have a Narc in their life. This is a gift you've given of yourself, I just want you to know you are making a huge difference and you are appreciated. God bless you. 💗👏👏👏🤗

[@sylviaelliott4069]

So do I recommend to everyone done don't Wana hear it I send um a video

[@vickie6662]

@@sylviaelliott4069 ppl don't know what they're dealing with until they run across ppl like Lisa. I went to nursing school, took psych classes, but didn't connect the dots until I heard her lay out the patterns of behavior. It's hard to believe they all follow the same exact kind of behaviors. What a relief when you realize you aren't alone in dealing with the crazy.

[@lexiemaep7930]

Poor thing. I got out after 17 years and thought that was a long.time Mine was so bad I'll.never date again. I'm going to get a dog

[@lisamariepagliei3945]

I second that. About Lisa. Absolutely!

[@daniells71]

@@lexiemaep7930 15 years for me. Her toxicity has made it that no one wants to be near her. So she moved to a new city, and got boyfriends there and I started having space to think. I watched countless hours of these videos and I get to do sessions a couple of times a week with psychologists. When I started predicting her every move. I got sick to my stomach!! She jumps from one Narc symptom to the next systematically. I want revenge so bad, but that will just prolong the misery. I've grey rocked her for 1 year plus six months no contact. Sigh!!

[@echase416]

It’s hard when a person discovers their life was a lie, with a covert narcissist.

[@dankizirian9485]

Emma Chase That moment for me, after finding out, what covert narcissism is about, that oh.... now it all makes sense, made me feel sick.

[@nahmastay7497]

Two years later and it still blows my mind that such evil exists in the world.

[@lilbittoflove8947]

Nah its liberating...especially when you see it...they flip everything and project everything thats true about themselves onto you...just ignore it...literally and find a way to push forward theres a cure for narcissism...its called not being lazy and telling the truth no matter what...just choose differently thats all and dont let them scare you...lol yall need to watch some horror movies

[@wildhorses6817]

Wasted over 30 years of my Life

[@qua7771]

@@dankizirian9485 Covert narcs are the worst. When you spot one, re-translating their alleged life story is creepy. A path of destruction. After you go no contact, you just know they are continuing on that same path with new unsuspecting victims.

[@commonsense4154]

I'm 22 Days no contact....pray for me my social media family.🙏🙏🙋

[@swow1556]

You will do it ... keep going.. 😉

[@SoffyLoves]

Keep strong, avoid all contact, including social media and messaging platforms. You deserve peace of mind and happiness.

[@yumyum22022]

Praying. 🙏

[@benjaminfranklin3674]

Starting mine today....skip waiting for the new year!

[@karenneal1370]

Day 1 here!

[@theresamckeown8260]

A healthy relationship is: Peaceful Respectful Fruit-bearing Accepting Considerate Empathic Loving Happy Fun Non-Competitive Trustful Caring Helpful Kind

[@TheVintageBumbleBee]

The EXACT opposite of a life with a NARC.

[@kiranshiv773]

@@TheVintageBumbleBee sadly yes😥😥

[@BudFuddlacker]

Your list is a little lopsided. A healthy relationship also has healthy disagreements. Everything isnt all sunshine and rainbows ya know

[@quantumpotential7639]

In other words a pipe dream lol

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

I dream of this

[@PersonalGrowthNow]

Being with a narcissist is like having emotional food poisoning. Exactly. It’s exactly that.

[@elyseremy3816]

Exactly how I fell right now 😔

[@DeborahLong7777]

Exactly yeah and STILL my emotions are messed up even though I had no clue for 35 year's, it's new being covered, wisdom. Jesus bless you 🕊🎄🎁

[@PersonalGrowthNow]

@@DeborahLong7777 Oh wow. Hope you are well.. God bless my friend. All I know is that the narcissists out here receive back what they plant. They sow negativity, invalidation, triangulation, gas lighting, crazy making, and gift giving (manipulation). That’s EXACTLY what they’ll reap. We, on the other hand will continue sowing positive seeds and look towards truth.

[@DeborahLong7777]

@@PersonalGrowthNow thank you for your support as I continue to learn how to overcome year's of it and now my children who are to old to spank 🤣🤣🤣 I am an overcomer and thank you

[@WDBDWK]

@@elyseremy3816It’s terrible. It’s really important to not give up and just allow all that toxicity to integrate. While in the middle of it, it’s key to move forward even though you don’t feel like it, and can’t imagine a future. It definitely can be done. We can get out of it. I’m getting out of it.

[@TeriTenn]

I wish I found you in 1990. I would have saved 30 years of trauma, pain, sadness.

[@wendytaylor9730]

yes......................thank you!

[@originalone4308]

Same here!!!

[@leemartin9156]

Amen! Back then councilors didn't even know what this was, and if they never experienced it themselves, they didn't believe you....

[@marlenehyatt2870]

Same here

[@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR]

Doesn't take that long to see a pattern. Y'all just be worried about what other people would say instead of your own sanity. Y'all feel comfy bc the internet shows you you aren't alone. But you knew something dire was wrong by year three I'm SURE

[@reginacannella1659]

Saving my life, saving my life, saving my life….these videos are saving my life

[@reginacannella1659]

@@jackpetersen7545 Thank you

[@LR-yu3mx]

When you corner the narc with the truth....they go ballistic!

[@tarahiatt2468]

Yes, THEY HATE BEING CORNERED, I HAD TO LEARN THAT THE HARD WAY!!

[@pattytheseeker8902]

You are so right.

[@daleloveless7227]

So true!

[@daleloveless7227]

Im so glad i stumbled on this. Just left this woman. I dont feel that crazy anymore

[@shari9707]

@@tarahiatt2468 what does that mean,can you explain plz!!!

[@MaryAnneRosato]

"I will gaslight you till you're afraid to challenge me." Felt that.

[@soniabernatchez7466]

pretty much, it s non sense mr.boomerang

[@keelyevans4695]

Thanks! That's exactly what they did

[@1mikewalsh]

Me too.

[@Whitedove6]

Yes I felt that to ! It's Horrible !

[@keelyevans4695]

Yes I believe that is what my ex-husband meant while he was trying to kill me

[@rebeccajones8628]

He said to me "If you don't like it, you can leave" quite a few times. When I reached my saturation point I did just that. I got all my stuff and looked him in the eyes and said "You will never see me again". I also told him that this is probably not the first relationsjip his mother has ruined for him. I saw his face freeze. I hit a nerve there. I drove home and felt like a huge boulder had been lifted from my back. Such relief. The damage to my self esteem was big. I am working on healing now. If it quacks like a duck, waddles like a duck and swims like a duck, you have a duck. Do not ignore the warning signs and RUN. Thank you for your video. It so described my boyfriend. These explanations will help so many people.

[@nwhpdawns2239]

Mine would start looking at getting his own place every time there was the tiniest hiccup. Made sure *anyone* around knew it. The last time he announced this, I replied with "Maybe you should. It would solve many problems". Stunned shock and 3 months later, he's moved out and we have no contact. Last thing I said to him was "Before you get involved with the next girl, you *really should* seek trauma therapy due to your mom.

[@WahineToa85]

I dated a mommy's boy and the relationship is wiered almost like an obsession and he'd worship his mother and equally she praised him so much like he could do no wrong, she'd probably lie in court for him🙄

[@venturesintoglory5353]

Narcissists are often delighted to talk for an hour on the phone about themselves and seem to have little interest in hearing about your day. Be very aware when this becomes a regular pattern.

[@lonerose99]

Exactly. After he went on & on about himself, he would ask me how was my day, or my opinion, or what I knew about something, etc., I would begin to talk. Wouldn't get very far because he often interjected his un-asked for advice, unwanted opinion.... even some lame joke out of nowhere.... Anything to throw me off track on what I was saying, so he can take the control back of the conversation! Which was always more of him-him-him!

[@caron4725]

Yup true that

[@jessidawkins5245]

My soon tone ex never talks about gimself and if i ask him whats going on with hin he says nothing but when

[@jessidawkins5245]

If i go an talk about myself he says am selfish coz i only talk about me

[@caron4725]

@@lonerose99 yup...absolutely

[@drstepnohelpneeded]

I can go to sleep in peace tonight due to these videos. I’ve been listening for 2 weeks and I’m so much better emotionally! Praise God!

[@sharynnaga5044]

Amen 🤍

[@lesliedeutschmann3986]

I'm hoping that I can get help from here to stop texting him he doesn't talk to me no more. It was just sex but I also needed that in my life but it's not that anymore for two months now

[@eveanneeskie1346]

Me too.❤

[@pissonthe0fighteverybody276]

Yes ma’am me too

[@sweetpea7455]

I literally have been going to bed whilst listening to these videos

[@tripzville7569]

Taking Responsibility for your own existence is the key to making a better world.

[@tbd5082]

And they steal your ideas and try to make them theirs. You be like 😳🙄

[@dianemary]

Omg this has been happening to me. But karma is being able to watch them play out your ideas and fail at them

[@connieherrera1388]

ℐ 𝒶ℊ𝓇ℯℯ 𝓂𝓎 𝓈ℴ𝓃𝓈 ℊ𝒾𝓇𝓁 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝓀 𝓈𝒽ℯ𝓈 𝒷ℯ𝓉𝓉ℯ𝓇 𝒸𝒶𝓃 𝓈ℯℯ 𝓂𝓎 ℊ𝓇𝒶𝓃𝒹𝒶𝓊ℊ𝓉𝒽ℯ𝓇 𝒾𝓂 𝒸ℴ𝓊𝓃𝓉𝓇𝓎 𝓈𝒽ℯ 𝒽𝓈𝓉ℯ𝓈 𝒾𝓉 𝓉𝒽ℯ𝓃 𝓌𝒽𝓎 𝒷ℯ 𝓌𝒾𝓉𝒽 𝓂𝓎 𝓈ℴ𝓃 𝓈𝒽ℯ 𝒽𝒶𝓈 𝒸ℴ𝓃𝓉𝓇ℴ𝓁 ℴ𝒻 𝓂𝓎 𝓈ℴ𝓃 𝒸𝒽𝒾𝓁𝒹 𝓈𝒽ℯ𝓈 𝒶 𝒹𝓇𝒶𝓂𝒶 𝓆𝓊ℯℯ𝓃 𝒷𝓁𝒶𝓂ℯ𝓈 𝓂ℯ 𝓂𝓎 𝓈ℴ𝓃 𝒻ℴ𝓇 𝒶𝓁𝓁 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃ℊ𝓈 𝒾𝓂 𝓈ℴ 𝓈𝒶𝒹 𝒾𝓂 ℊℴ𝓃𝓃𝒶 𝓁ℴ𝓈ℯ 𝓂𝓎 ℊ𝓇𝒶𝓃𝒷𝒷

[@spookywitch0x0]

Oh yes so true omg.. 😦🔫

[@dhaniblacrose6720]

FACTZ

[@lovewhitey2027]

Omgggg had this happen 3x They are so parasitic 👹No worries Lawyered up ✍🏻Intellectual property

[@sindiamaymi3928]

“If they are sick & you Bring them soup, they are doing you a favor” that made me laugh cause it’s so true! They will say “I didn’t ask you for it, you brought it cause you wanted to” perfect example to many other things

[@andrabcool1600]

Yep

[@Indieauguste]

Did just this cause your divorce?

[@sharellejackson2257]

and if you don’t cater to them because you are beginning to know who they are without saying a word, you are selfish and don’t treat them as good as they have treated you (what they wanted to do) Lawd I am so glad he is gone but bad thing is he won’t sign the divorce papers 🤦🏽‍♀️Why???? I’m the bad guy, but 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@asdf4678z]

Acts of kindness mean NOTHING to them. My narc would act like I was bothering him by offering to bring tea or medicine when he was sick. He told me I did it because I wanted to and seemed unappreciative.

[@izi.z2384]

@@asdf4678z Or you offer do a considerate act for them and to extend yourself; and they don't say much of anything at the time.. then some time later they say; What happened, I thought you said you were going to do XYZ as if it was your obligation or duty to do it in the first place.

[@gaildevoid4915]

The best thing I learned here at this channel was using “Whatever” as a response.

[@clintonnagy1662]

"Whatever", "you're funny " "please stop" " Ain't my problem" " figure it out" Those work well too. My ex would lose her mind with those phrases. First came the silence....then she would explode. I loved knowing I can spin in around and make her lose her mind when she wanted my attention. After I saw the pattern, I developed those phrases to help me navigate through her tactics. It works.

[@llkellenba]

Everything’s weaponized with a narcissist - absolutely everything.

[@jamesmcginn8874]

Yes you are right--they won't fess up to Anything--i planned my escape--its been 5 years no Contact--life is Good.

[@motivatedshi]

@@jamesmcginn8874 n to get

[@pissonthe0fighteverybody276]

Kinetic baby! Damn if you do damn if you don’t and damn you again

[@salonsavy6476]

After 8 years I felt like I was possessed by the devil ,,, the mind control , the devaluing, just doubting”Everything “, I did ,,, how EVIL this was!!!!

[@tmo.48]

That’s kind of opposite of what I felt. I honestly thought I was married to a devil-a real devil. I thought I was going delusional. It took some time to realize that I just married a very strange and deceptive person. He hasn’t changed in 39 years-but I sure have 👍💪🏻🥂😎

[@Jl-ou4jt]

Exactly

[@wendytaylor9730]

thank god you are still alive................they are killers.

[@alicearchuleta6536]

How on earth does this happen to already broken people..... im so angry and disgusted at how my sons and daughter are so ruined and hurt with him, they just wanted hin to love them . It'll never be, hes a hateful man, and i was taken for a stupid person. How dare he do this to us.

[@priscilla.colburn444]

@@alicearchuleta6536 LOOK AT THUS WAY. YOU ARE RID OF THE CANCER. TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY IF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. EMBRACE IT. LIBERTY IS A GIFT FROM OUR CREATOR.💖

[@susanbenson3232]

Wow! The way I feel, at 61, after being raised by a narcissistic mom, & then being in a 42 yr marriage with a narcissistic spouse now makes complete sense! I've gone from trying to love more, better, & trying to fix it, to wanting to bang my head on a wall, wondering if I was just crazy, to realizing there was "something wrong", & finding covert narcissism, & listening to you list every single thing I've experienced & said, over the yrs, but didn't realize what I was dealing with, & nor did umpteen counselors, including psychologists, because maybe I couldn't explain it well? I don't know, but thank you for this! I feel validated.

[@mistiquefire3462]

Exactly. Not one counselor 30 years ago pointed out anythg factual on these abusers.

[@maroku2008]

I don't get that either. They get paid all this money but can never figure out what's wrong with us.

[@OCHILALUNA]

What is hard is if the person is your mother then what are you supposed to do? 😔

[@nancycaracci4707]

I turned 60 in June, and this September will be 39 yrs. Everyone tells me to leave, but there is no place to go! I could go live at my mom’s, but I’ve realized that she was the first Narc in my life. Sometimes I feel so lost, but everyone’s comments and Lisa’s videos are making me so much stronger! Thank you to all that add a comment and for Lisa’s videos!

[@Water_Serenity]

The world is ruled by narcissists, and it's our duty not to be enablers to them. I salute all those strong people who break out of relationships with narcissists👏 God bless your work Lisa❤

[@keelyevans4695]

How will you be fed?

[@dionnejones7926]

I broke the relation with the female that give birth to me. She's one big time. Smh at her evilness..

[@JJones-nr2pl]

The WORST type of narc is the Covert narc "mother" You cannot win with her and she is not listening to you. You will be invalidated and she will take the attention away from you and make you sad. You will become confused, traumatized and emotionally upset. She will never admit any wrongdoing or apologize for any of her bad behavior. GET AWAY FROM ANYONE THAT DOES NOT RESPECT YOU. OR YOU WILL BE SORRY!!!!!

[@styler-ji5pr]

Thank you. However it's hard watching him give someone else the love nd admiration I so desperately wanted. I know it won't last and I know he's fake but it hurts.

[@julyj8151]

It was a loooong month that's for sure 🙄 both of my last relationships.

[@vickipetrotta8167]

I am enough, I am more than enough

[@ve9538]

Yes you are!! And I LOVE your name too!

[@patriciaearley4177]

Right on!!!

[@betcybabe]

Yes you are❤️

[@marywilsonvocalist2181]

i am enough..anything else is over compensating in my opinion...I AM ENOUGH..refer mindvalley

[@faith9508]

Yes you are!!

[@1tundra11]

I noticed but never realized how many different ways they use to get out of a confrontation or conversation about what was done for said..patronize,pout,get angry,shout disappear,whine,guilt you,act appalled you would accuse them..talk down to you..a different tactic every time..

[@redsquirrel1086]

Forget covid-19. The real pandemic sweeping this world is narcissism and it is no coincidence that its proliferation has coincided with the growth of social media in the form of dating sites. Narcissism has always been with us. I was watching a documentary the other night about King Henry the Eighth of England and he was an arch narcissist back in the 16th century. But what we have now is 100 times more troubling and I fear that it is only going to get worse.

[@NakedhustlaATLTV]

My situation felt like the movie “US”

[@cncnextwave43]

Your exactly right. It's spiritual warfare and a paradigm shift! The Super EMPAThS / HEYOKA And the (144 Light Worker's) are going to handle it. They are going to exposed the NARCS 👹 and send them BACK to hell with their leader Satan! Were the NARCS greatest fear! We know both sides of the spectrum! Please believe it! The NARCISSIS DAY IS OVER! GAME OVER! SUPER EMPATH!!! SUPER BAD(D)!!!

[@DancingQueenie]

When I used to be on a dating site, the guys whose pics showed them leaning on a Vette or with two stripper types or sitting on a crotch rocket - red flag for a very likely narc. Just happens I’m now married 15 years to a wonderful man I met through that site and grateful for therapy that prevented me from getting sucked into another long sad relationship with a phony braggart, a commitment-phobe or any other kind of abusive narc.

[@sexygabby30]

@@cncnextwave43 you might be right because all in this year my narc whole weird sociopath family has been dropping like flies unfortunately but their karma is ending abruptly 6 in 60 days 6under

[@julianstier3821]

So absolutely true. It’s getting worse and worse. Your comment should be 1#!

[@teal1010]

When you think of what a Narcissist does, lying and pretending their way into your life, they are very desperate people!

[@waitwhat564]

💯👍

[@gloriacruz5705]

Yes i let this guy back in my life 2nd time said he changed said all things a women wants to hear all along he was lieing. I felt it but he was so good at manipulating. Then he just ghosted me I was so hurt but im doin my best to get over him thanks to god. HE was nothin but a pretender.

[@wokeupsassi6334]

Yupp💯💯💯

[@Tara-id3rk]

It’s sad and pathetic. Truly pathetic.

[@politicjunkee]

It’s sad.

[@deborahgtucker]

Spot on Lisa! There have been 3 consecutive Narcissistic men in my life. One I married- 17yrs. Saved by moments of sanity. Narcissism was not a highly diagnosed condition back in the 80’s. I ran like the wind, children and all. I was in the dark about everything. 30yrs later, I’ve been discarded by another narc. THANK YOU LISA!!! The Information you alone have shared with me over the last 3 weeks explains why & how my life has been so bumpy. You are the most influential person for 2023.

[@silverestsky]

Omg. My ex did almost all of these things. I blocked him on everything yesterday, my phone and all social media. I’m hurt but I know he’s a narcissist and I have to let go.

[@anastesia8455]

Dont look back and keep walking. Ive done same yesterday. Its hurts bad but we have to respect and love our Self more and take no more of pain into our hearts and soul. 💜🌟😘

[@cathyandresiak1975]

Just keep running and dont have any contact, it took me 16 years, run now and dont look back, you will heal, believe me you will!

[@phantomwatcher8170]

Stay strong once you get away from the forest you can actually see the trees and realize how bad this actually was it’s like they have a spell on you

[@jjl5464]

Stay strong I did same almost 3 years ago now. You'll be able to see things so clearly after time away. Don't break it, it's the best thing you'll do for yourself *hugs*

[@camisnyder3460]

Praise the Lord!!! Stay strong, God has someone so much better for you!!!!

[@dianemary]

Imagine having anxiety and dealing with a narcissist ☹️

[@nicselectronics81]

No need to imagine, they were the source for decades.

[@SquarepegLee]

Been There!It will send you to the brink of a nervous breakdown at best.

[@HomeFrendsten]

It is b etter to b alone than to b with n they rob our peace, and happiness.due to their discouraging nature we have lost many things in life, their main aim is to push us down and go forward

[@HomeFrendsten]

N have wicked thoughts to harm others

[@KoVurt]

25 years of hell, 2 breakdowns , I now suffer from acute anxiety, PTSD and psychological brain damage, that's what happens. I no longer trust anything anyone says.

[@sheilawilliams9080]

Lisa once again illuminates what I’ve struggled so long to understand, When you don’t have a “self” you don’t have boundaries.

[@EscapingTheMadness]

Living with a narcissist is one of the most confusing negative things I have ever experienced in my life..... thank god I live with my child now I don’t have to walk on egg shells and be put down for everything I do. Another great informative video. Thank you

[@milenaantoska233]

Same situation with me. Grateful 🙏

[@jessicacolon1149]

Same situation...

[@skyjack8541]

It was probably you who created the narcissist in the first place. Lmsolllllllll A Woman can be a "shut your mouth". Like to play the vic. Lmsolllllllll

[@EscapingTheMadness]

@@skyjack8541 Projection at its finest!!! lol Somebody block this person!!!!

[@ebonyjames3130]

@@EscapingTheMadness YES... A NARRISSIT IS IN THE CHAT @!!!

[@sandralee4692]

Your so right these demons actually walk among us

[@edenjewel5624]

My Crazy Mother /in/Law ..I watch their behavior .

[@keithpage8672]

@@edenjewel5624 In hindsight, now learning about narcissism, this was my mother-in-law, which left my ex with some traits....now those traits explained here. So many children ruined by narssistic parents and unfortunately passed down through the generations.

[@anafalcasantos4150]

Agreed. Hell is empty as these demons walk the earth amongst us.

[@zengseng1234]

*demon! It has to be one demon controlling them, because they’re all the same!! Haha

[@retake1697]

Scary indeed!

[@toni4916]

I was with my narcissistic husband for 17 years. I started watching these videos 4 months ago as well as going back to church. I was tortured until I realized what I was dealing with. Slowly but surely, I became awake and started to pull away. He became more abusive. I stopped responding and 3 weeks ago, I walked out. Since then, he moved in with my brother who is disabled and turned him totally against me and took over his home. He is such a cruel person. I know that he has horrible karma coming because I truly loved him but I always fought back. I'm taking all the time in the world to relove myself and gain back the people I truly love.

[@dankizirian9485]

I’m glad I live alone. It’s peaceful and quiet. Excellent job as always explaining/educating about narcissism, thank you.🙏

[@samanthabell4219]

Here here

[@LifeBeyondCircumstance]

That is the TRUTH. I loved living alone after I divorced the Narcissist.

[@jeannettetucker7514]

My daughter is out of a bad relationship, I am a widow, we both feel the same as you. So peaceful and quiet. Our money is ours, do not have anyone tell us not to spend or go Some place. Keep you from helping someone, or Paying church tithes. Just feel free and love

[@dankizirian9485]

Jeannette Tucker I’m glad that you’re daughter is Out of that bad relationship, that’s a Great thing.the older I get, it seems that the simpler I want life to be. I had a similar thing re church tidings a while ago 🙄. Lisa Ramano is wonderful, she helped me open my eyes. If you get a chance look at narcissism exposed, nanette has also been a tremendous help to me as well, she explains it very well, especially on the biblical aspects on narcissism, I wish you guys the best and I will keep you in my prayers.

[@jobond2398]

@@jeannettetucker7514 is the best feeling, no one can tell you nonsense, I was upset with myself letting this 👿in my life because I was stupid and lonely, just, because I have lost my good husband,

[@valariecrebbs4751]

Actually what I've been thru with a narc, made me a stronger person

[@mamalola33]

💯

[@christinamorin1914]

Yes

[@wandahubel3358]

Same here

[@barshar.1287]

Same here. My mother narc.. My ex..ghosted me. N now, I have blocked him . Pray for me . I wish he changes. N don't do any violence against me. Can't tolerate more unhealthy drama from him.

[@Jezebel066]

Yup

[@rickbencker3242]

This is 100% right on the money. Your ability to communicate the experience of dealing with a narcissist is second to none. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@joanbrittingham6354]

I am hurting so much. Tired physically, mentally and emotionally. Always being accuse of being a liar when I am not. It really hurts. The narcissist is not capable of showing genuine love. Hurting every day.

[@jaykemmy]

Run !!!!!!

[@amandakropen3273]

I know that feeling. It gets better when you get them out of your life :)

[@lyndiamims898]

RUNNING IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION... RUN GIRL. / RUN MAN VALUABLE WHAT TO LOOK OUT FOR NARCISSISTIC BEHAVIOR THEY BARE NO FRUIT.

[@mafunasekaisi2290]

😭😭😭😭Wooo my situation exactly

[@patriciajoseph3035]

It's called projection. The narcissist accuses you based on who they are themselves. E.g. hypocrite, wicked, evil, etc.

[@RandomCommenter5]

Speaking for myself, I keep getting involved with narcissists not only because my personality attracts them like bees to honey, but because I never knew there was such a thing as a narcissist, nor did I know how unhealthy - even harmful - they can be.

[@anndra1160]

I can relate to your statement - looking back, I realise that most of the relationships I've allowed into my life over the past 20 years have been with narcissistic individuals. It's just recently, after 6 years of being with an abusive narcissist and believing all his crazy making tactics, I've discovered I DONT want to live like this ANY longer!!! I do have value and worth, just like everyone else, and I will no longer let ANYONE devalue me again!!!

[@melaniecristo3063]

Me too 😓🙏❤

[@lurlinesmith-hp7rb]

My husband is a covert narcississt...I see all of those red flags..he always ask me how u looking so sad... for real but I didnt Know what Was going on

[@RandomCommenter5]

@Lurline Smith There were red flags for me, but unfortunately, I ignored them 🙁

[@carolynmccall7592]

Yes, if we are empathetic, appreciative and attentive, we are definitely attracting narcissists. Exactly what they need. Bees to honey.

[@GTGinley7]

"You are disposable - They are not entering from the point of empathy to get to know you, they will hide this truth from you. You will feel the fear of wanting to discuss anything with this person who is training you to be afraid to question them who is training you to not be expecting you to be treated with respect" These words were the biggest hit home for me :(

[@monique1369]

Finally told him today we were over and for the whole marriage I have been miserable. He makes me miserable. Thank you for your videos.

[@Tara-id3rk]

Congrats! I hope things are getting better for you

[@angelinakendall3721]

@@jaynet1539 God your do right man.

[@eye4aneye39]

@@jaynet1539 you sound like you might have hurt feelings that you haven't healed from

[@eye4aneye39]

@@jaynet1539 you still sound angry and hurt..and maybe those men she friend zoned still needed to be there. My comment wasnt meant as an attack but it just seems like you have a attitude. Good women are looked over every day as well as good men. Hopefully you have found your one and not end up being more bitter...

[@eye4aneye39]

@@jaynet1539 and u have no empathy skills... Work on that ...it will help u in the long run....

[@HadyNajy4]

That’s the word, “Lie”. Everything was a lie and it hit me really hard.

[@jamesmcginn8874]

hit me real hard too--i could write a book on what she did to me--maybe i will .

[@skyjack8541]

So you definitely don't want to hear the truth.

[@Tara-id3rk]

Same. It’s hard to imagine the 14 years of idealization was just a bunch of self-serving BS. I was duped.

[@mchammer1248]

No everyone else was lying and I was telling the truth

[@jacquelinefloyd3648]

Yes everything a lie and they play you like you crazy and act like nothing happened

[@almcelroy4818]

Yes. Things make much more sense now about a very traumatic and confusing friendship. Knowledge is a healer.

[@qua7771]

I think the best cure is public awareness. The quicker society is at spotting these behaviors, the less narcissistic supply will be available. Sort of a social quarantine. Those in the spectrum can mature or deal with isolation. The deception only works until it doesn't.

[@vickie6662]

We can only pray for that...

[@qua7771]

@@vickie6662 There is a lot of information available in this day and age than there was the past.

[@vickie6662]

@@qua7771 thankfully

[@Tara-id3rk]

Yes!!

[@Nancy-yw1rr]

Living with a narcissist made me feel all of those things, but the main thing I felt was deep insecurity. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop or the next threat.

[@nateb1247]

And then of course they have the audacity to accuse us of being crazy & insecure & jealous! I’m usually the most laid back person and my ex narc brought out the absolute worst in me.

[@nancyminui9108]

@@nateb1247You just described it perfectly. Exactly what I'm going through now.

[@bobbieglasper7774]

Yeah like working on eggshells from moment to moment! It's crazy and confusing!

[@Jezebel066]

I was always afraid to lose him. If you said ir did the wrong thing, I knew he would leave. But he could do anything to me & it was perfectly ok. And he has destroyed my self confidence. Just realizing how unhappy he makes me. Those bread crumbs he gave.. I deserve so so much better. Security is what women need most in a relationship. Ppl don’t understand what it’s like to feel like you have to constantly earn someone’s love!

[@BirchWitch]

@@Jezebel066 only if you’ve been there can you understand why you stay. When they’re good, it seems so wonderful, but the good times come fewer & farther between, less rewarding, you start to feel run down... I hope you’re out of your situation, I wish you health and happiness!

[@MsCAChick]

This absolutely applies to sibling relationships as well.

[@sharontasko3298]

I tried so hard last night to have a normal conversation and say my view.......NOPE IT DIDNT WORK.....I was wrong about everything I said.

[@kingstonxenachante2874]

Stay in the problem or get to the solution😇 There is recovery! I highly recommend Al Anon👍🏾😍🎊

[@lindasharpe7039]

Nope, not going there. Been there, done that. And mine's for sure has been jealous & accusatory for years. It ruins all my vacations just about.

[@monicahocking1507]

You can't have a normal conversation with narcissists. Everything you say will be twisted and turned around you feel like you're going crazy!

[@KaRiNa-pj9sb]

Yup, that is what it is like to talk to a narcasist...leave as soon as you can they never change...save yourself.....I'm to the point I can't even see him or hear him because I get stabbing headache.

[@lindasharpe7039]

💗

[@bygrace8485]

Had to drop my narcissistic friend after 20 years of shame and blaming me.. she became an absolute bitter bridesmaid so I chose to love my self by letting her go!! 🙌🏽

[@ozzyhouston2535]

I think my narcissistic friend was getting senile! I suspect that blows their cover, as their manipulation gets sloppy.

[@cbrown123422]

Thats so powerful and on point. Yes. They didnt love the person, they loved what services they provided

[@wildhorses6817]

You make him look normal to others. Within those walls at home, it's Hell.

[@thomaspeterson5693]

Sometimes it's you make her look good, with her making your life hell at home.

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Exactly, he bottles all negative emotions bring them home and unload them on you

[@TrebleStaff]

Absolutely!!!

[@patriciarainey4497]

My husband is an Angel in public!!! Very charming and at times giving. At home he is an Imp!!! The light in outside and the darkness in the home!!! No one spends enough time around him for anyone to see the true him but they get a glimpse of the true him when they come to the home because the mask slips. My closest friends will not come to my house.

[@HelovesevenmeAP]

WOW, YES.

[@stephaniegonzales5518]

You’re like my online therapist ! You opened my eyes to so much 💕

[@cncnextwave43]

The Super EMPAThS/HEYOKA And the 144 LIGHT WORKERS are going to seek out the NARCS 👹. We are the NARCS worst nightmare! Read about the Super EMPAThS/HEYOKA

[@msidentified4557]

Lisa is amazing!

[@violabaguindo6311]

Im happy i came across this

[@dcantrell5584]

@@cncnextwave43 interested to know about this. I am a light worker and the devil knows it. Met a barc at 15 was married to him till I was 40 then met a narcissist in the middle of my divorce and he was everything I thought I wanted. The new narc is still in my life. He is far worse than the last narc.

[@Life-kv5bv]

@@cncnextwave43 super! Good to know

[@moniqueschmucker7712]

“We are finally 2:17 understanding that narcissism is real.” And, we finally have the technology to explore Narcissism and share all of the information with victims who so desperately need to understand what it is, how to protect themselves and set boundaries with Narcissists. More importantly, how to heal and make informed decisions by not ignoring all of the signs. What a fantastic channel! Great information! Thank you, Lisa! Your information and perspective is greatly valued and appreciated! I grew up in chaos and ultimately severed ties with several narcissists when I was 18. It was a painful decision but something I knew I needed to do for the sake of my own sanity, my mental health, and my own personal relationships. It was difficult but so worth the work. 40 years later, I am happily married to my childhood sweetheart, and still learning and growing from people like you who bring so much awareness to our lives. Thanks again!

[@MomCat57]

After 27 years and going through the divorce which I initiated, my ex said: “I never really listened to you during the marriage. I was too busy formulating my answers in my head so I wouldn’t sound stupid.” I said, “How could you formulate answers to what you WEREN’T LISTENING TO?” His answer? His usual answer: Silence.

[@DancingQueenie]

I had those kinds of nonsense talks with the ex too. He looked sooo sad and said “I lied to you to PROTECT YOOOOU. It was for YOU.” When we talked about the new woman in his life, he said the quiet part out loud. “I had to decide which one of you is more use to me now. You know my business is going in a new direction and she has contacts I can use.” wow. Ok. Can’t compete with THAT. they’re the sick ones. We just need information and confidence. No sin in that. Be happy! ❤️

[@skilodge4224]

@@DancingQueenie Sounds very familiar. They are all like that. Narc: "Dont need you anymore." Users and Abusers. Two narcs in a row so I knew I had to wake up. I was waking up to something I knew nothing about but sure felt the confusion and pain. So I tried harder while they laughed at me trying so hard. One a physician that I quit nursing school to help get narc through medical school and other owns a grocery chain. Both threatened when I gray rocked. Both I would say to empaths & codependents, do not trust or leave your children alone with a narc!

[@tmo.48]

O my, how they LOVE to go silent

[@laurasummers395]

@@DancingQueenie "I had to decide which one of you is more used to me now" my ex once said omg your the one your the one. And I 100%knew then that there was another woman. the way he said it was as if it was a toss up not something he had just felt. I was right he had been cheating the whole time.

[@martialmusic]

Clever remark on your part. Touché!

[@christinemilham2847]

Priceless feeling confirmed "sane" listening to these.

[@teal1010]

"We're finally getting language for what's happening in our relationships!" Exactly! When we learn what we are dealing with, we can solve the problem!

[@brendarewan7441]

We can finally turn it over to God because we can’t fix it.

[@julieraleigh6335]

You nailed it. My mom is a narcissist. I broke free on September 1, 2020 I feel free now. I still have a lot of healing to do. I will get there. Thank you Lisa for being my online therapist.

[@nahmastay7497]

Walked away from narcissistic mom a few months ago and realized the years of abuse when I tried to leave my toxic marriage and she tried to get me to stay.

[@suzannesmith5339]

I finally had to do the same, in June, (mother), to claim my own unique, separate self who is not a possession or staff person. Every conversation feels as though I’m reporting to my job evaluation. I am so much happier without all the gaslighting and guilt manipulations and dodging so many traps. I never wanted to reach this necessary point, especially during this Pandemic( Lisa described this as emotional food poisoning). I’m 62. This explanation was so accurate.

[@jaelaj.9148]

Same, cut mine off in 2016. Best decision ever!

[@sherrirubringer9382]

Yes, you have just described my mother, I do have a great deal of faith and I feel I still have to love her ! Hard , really hard to honor my mother and father when all she does is use you ! She is so Difficult to deal with

[@jaelaj.9148]

Sherri Rubringer Narcissist don’t love. Why would you love someone who can’t love you? It’s like befriending a demon.

[@kikataye6293]

I left my husband in 2020 and now divorced and met 2 afterwards, they were both narcissistic. I jumped ship both times but feel horrible. I learned from watching these videos that I am an empath and a magnet. I’m now taking time to heal. I feel extremely lonely and empty, but I know that I must go through it

[@PandoraSpring]

I just don’t date. That way no one ever has that kind of control over me ever again! I am also an empath and want to make other people’s lives better.

[@aijazsiddique8713]

Yeah. I have met so many which made me realize some of us have characteristics/nature that attracts them. For example, if you are too empathetic without any boundaries you might become a magnet for these kind of people.

[@HomeRene]

Exact same here….it’s horrible

[@deeevansnola8178]

Yessss!! I always told him. On the outside everything looks good. The house, yard, cars. He took more care of the house than he did me on the outside. Because remember if people can see it. But on the inside we had an old bathroom that desperately needed fixing and updated. Dragged me along for 3 yrs. Telling me we are gonna get it fixed. Had contractors come over give estimates. Then he would start an argument and says he was not gonna get anything done. And never did as long as i lived there. It pretty much sums up his life. Looked good on the outside but f..ked up on the inside.

[@birdiereddbirdieredd1564]

Narcissism is definitely on the rise!!

[@michellem775]

When you said they say things to make you feel like they're your savior. This really hit me hard because even though I'm separated my ex will say things to make me feel like he's somehow doing me a favor while insulting me at the same time. Mind-blowing! The making of the conversation about the (I) is so true. Every single time it's incredible!

[@tovenrvik6336]

If you let a narcissist into your life, over time, you'll get Ptsd!

[@sticky9129]

Yup, I hate to play victim but I literally am and get panic attacks now and I have a pacemaker and need to stay clam.

[@treverhutchison6258]

Yep

[@tovenrvik6336]

@@sticky9129 Stay calm, rest, breath deep and try to recover‼️Nature are healing, be where there are trees and grass, if you sit by the sea, the salt will cleanse you ‼️✳️Starseed

[@sticky9129]

@@tovenrvik6336 Narcissist family used the holidays to start again. I just had to block them . Things never change and I need my mental health.

[@tovenrvik6336]

@@sticky9129 Yes, they are master manipulators, lovebombes you and then critisize you, they don't have any insight in their own actions, without empathy they are not worth being around‼️I have also cut contact wt my Narcisstic parents, my father was the worst one, a Malignant Narcissist who are so violent and abusive, that I couldn't have him around my daughter after she was born‼️My mother are so full of herself and have stepped so heavily over my boundries that I didn't want to have her in my life any more‼️I was the Scapegoat, my sister the Golden child, who turned out to be a Narcissist herself, where treated well bcs my mother was so afraid of her Narcissistic rage (a Karen) ‼️Narcissists also have Scapegoats and a Golden child among their Grandchildren, too, one of my sisters children was her Golden child, my sisters and my daughter where almost treated like air and the Golden grandchild was the one she was talking about‼️💎 Starseed

[@teal1010]

"Without a self, you don't have boundaries...you can't exert boundaries!" 💞

[@patnelson2091]

I feel like a new person since listening to Lisa's videos. I have finally stopped asking myself 'why did I do (such and such)?' Every day I would ask the Lord why I had made such dumb life decisions and now I see, like Lisa, I was codependant. I can't wait to get her book!

[@eeyorebaby489]

This made me cry so hard and made me feel so sick to my stomach because I realize that I am married to a narcissist. And I am afraid .

[@anotherplanet5828]

Hugs. You are not alone. ❤️ Keep learning and know that it’s not your fault, you don’t deserve it and you can heal and thrive.

[@christinedelcampo5740]

Hugs to us❤...i hope we can get through this....😢

[@sofiagirl01]

I cried and was sick to my stomach for weeks after he said to get a divorce, but I filed 1st because even though sick to my stomach I was fed up... then also ran into the terms and info here- I am still in the middle of it, but at least I have info and friends/ therapist to help me get it out of head that this is my fault. Hopefully with time it will get better

[@helenpadilla7018]

Look up topics on empaths and start to take your power back

[@befaffled1635]

@@helenpadilla7018 you are not alone. this is so hard. It still is.

[@dazhatz]

I'm in shock at how perfectly you just described my ex gf, her personality and how our relationship panned out. Wow.. textbook .. thankyou Lisa!

[@davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796]

Same here, sadly and at the same time happily enough, Lisa describes my ex girlfriend perfectly 👍

[@jjmac1847]

Right?? Its like you think you are having the starngest, most f%$#$# up relationship of your life...and you have nothing to compare it to. Then you find youtube, and you realize how frighteningly familiar these other stories are. I think there is a comfort in realizing your gut feelings were revealing hidden things!

[@user-el3lm4hf2t]

Described to perfection !! Lie, cheat, repeat and hate themselves because they have to hide their lies, cheating yet state how much they hate a liar and cheater so that’s why they hate themselves to their core lol !! Once you discover your normal and it’s them who’s insane, it becomes comical and they look so pathetic when your listening to their fake circus act there masters at and have had their whole life playing this lie, cheat, repeat comedy motion picture they’ve acted out a ka zillion times lol !! You will loose your mind if your an empath, it takes years to recovery, trust me I know, I spent 3 years living it, then 2 yrs of escape from Alcatraz she tricked me back with her using sex as her weapon, until her just a guy friend she freaked out on me for no reason what so ever to use as her excuse to say she has to spend wknd’s with this loser, then it turns into every night but she’s telling you she’s not cheating lol while she stops sex with you and blames you for what it’s so obvious that she’s cheating but acts like she’s so pure and loyal but isn’t fucking you for months lol !! It’s sick and disgusting so get out before you go insane and you do, without even knowing what the hell just happened !!

[@skyjack8541]

Did she say she was a christian.

[@kimmiller3496]

Everything you say really hits home after being in love with a narcissist for 2 1/2 years now that I'm out of the relationship everything in your videos makes alot of sense now I see very clearly.

[@MartinLeeney]

Thankyou for opening my eyes. I've been with a narcissist woman for 4yrs and I thought I was going mad, but now it makes sense. Time to start a fresh.

[@qt6703]

Wow, I spent years with a narcissist. I just recently broke free and it feels so good. I finally got my life back. Love this video!

[@elainer2876]

At 5:04 point: as a child of narcissist I expressed boundary and said knock it off your hurting me and I was bulldozed into submission, punished for expressing boundary and learnt quickly that it was worse pain to try and put boundary up to protect myself than to be silent. After years of merciless anger off of narcissist mother where any expression I made of my needs was punished also, surviving on bread crumbs of conditional Love. My Love deficit primed me to be deceived by love bombing of my Narcissist husband. Hoping to finally find Safe place of True Love. So far I have only found it in God and the unconditional love of pets. Have great difficulty trusting in Love offered from people....sadly most people sooner or later prove they are operating from position of self interest and alterior motives. Selfless Love is very rare.

[@deborahwales1717]

Wish I could have pets! So many narcissists in my life. First nearly all my family. Now it's all my landlords while my family are in support of them. It makes sense what you say in terms of falling for a narcissistic partner. After years of abuse then of course you will fall for their love bombing!

[@jonisoma5726]

Lisa A. Ramano has such expertise on Narcissism.. Ramano speaks in simple terms. I believe this is vital in helping victims understand, now more than ever. Narcissists seem to be in many places now.

[@awomanwalksintoabar954]

Lisa, every.. single... thing... you said in this video is so spot on and accurate, that I had to pause the video and take a break. You are describing my husband to the very very letter.

[@makedafindlay9398]

So get out!

[@Tara-id3rk]

Same! 100%

[@bilhildistibinyane2563]

I just got myself out of a marriage of 16 years of almost everything that you mentioned in this video. The only difference was that he was unemployed cause he refused to look for a job after he lost job 10 years back. Worst of all, I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. Now imagine the drama. My 2nd born became another victim to my narcissistic ex husband to the extend that he became a schizophrenia patient.

[@donnamiller4630]

I tryed to talk to my Dr yesterday and she said she wasn't concerned w my mental health she didn't have time for that. She was more offended that I complained about my last visit and how much it bothered her and how come I hadn't called her boss if I was so dissatisfied w my last visit, then she suggested I get a new Dr and rushed me out . I told her I she apparently doesn't recognize Battered Wives syndrome! And that I'm just learning to find my voice.

[@TaniaMarie424]

I’m glad we humans are evolving to see the truth of our lives and all of the emotional abuse and neglect and trauma that most of us were raised on.

[@skyjack8541]

Lmsolllllllll ....and ppl actually bring children into this world for this. We are not human. Whomever told you you were human, lied. This isn't human intelligence at all. It's more like animalistic intelligence. Oh I Forgot, we are animals.

[@starrjames1610]

You have saved me from having a bad break up to receive a thankful break up. I had no clue what was in store for me if I had stayed with him. By watching your videos I was able to see why he was no good for me and why all the stories he told me did not match up. Thank you so much.

[@mpacino1224]

This is so true! My roommate thought it was a privilege for me to be friends with her. She would spend my money and "let" me run errands for her. And she admitted this which was really odd. My ex too. Cheated many times and thought I should be grateful that he lived with me. I should be happy. Yet I am oddly drawn to these people. My parents were both major narcs so maybe it's a sick comfort thing?

[@wildhorses6817]

They are Interested in YOUR ASSETS and they find a way to steal them all and lie about it.

[@msidentified4557]

They are interested in anything they can peacock off of you. Your knowledge, your skills, your ideas.. That's why I behaved as a miser.

[@renix80]

True

[@carri4000]

Wow. You are so right. I never understood before realizing he was a narcissist, how he could never be considerate of my things. He literally goes through my stuff and takes or uses anything he wants. If I bring food in the house just for ME (because I'm on a special diet) he will eat that first and not feel a bit of shame for it, nor replace it. He just simply feels entitled and does not care. I'm horrified that a human being can be so cruel. If I say anything to him, he tells me I don't want him to eat anything...I want him to starve!?!?! Its utter insanity. We went shopping, and one of the items I bought he really wanted (and they only had one)....because I'm a kind person I gave him this item and in return he gave me something he bought...we traded. I saw the other day he dug through my things and took the one he gave me back, so he could have BOTH. It's everything and its ongoing. Its absolutely unbelievable. I always say his behavior is a cross between a toddler and a teenager. Smh.

[@retake1697]

Your right my wife did that to me by setting me up for DV charges and had the ADA keep me out of my house that i brought 10 yrs before i met her with order of protection against me. Staying in my beautiful house rent free unbelievable. Now having me going thru the court system to prove my innocent now. Wickedness is all i can say.I worked hard for 30 yrs to have a family and all taken away in 30 mins based on her lies. GOD will help me prevail.

[@retake1697]

The ADA dismissed my case i can go home now. Unbelievable go thru all this mess. How do I deal with her now? In the same household with my children any advice?

[@grnddesign]

You are telling the story of my life. This is so incredible. My mother is a narcissist & I always picked narcissistic men in relationships & needless to say, I’m 58 & single & being in a toxic relationship with my mother has tainted so many things in my world. Working on healing this & trying to learn more

[@dionnejones7926]

Me too that female that give birth to me. She's one. But I kept kicking her out my life but she comes one bended knee just to use and abuse. But not no more her evilness don't work here no more..

[@bibishabouayad9284]

Accept your mom as she is, offer help and ask about how she s doing, if she s narcissist put boundaries and stay away but keep in contact with her, she s your mom at the end, understand where she came from and why she became like that, if she was a stranger I would block her but she s your mom pray for her!

[@m.asammy3049]

@@bibishabouayad9284 Sorry I disagree. Asking how shes doing and being to close emotionally or physically is dangerous for you,as your heart is sincere. It's BECAUSE its your mother, it's MORE dangerous and frankly, unacceptable. You've seen and felt first hand what she was willing to put you through. *That ''after all, its your mother'' excuse isnt a reason for you to put yrself forward for slaughter. It's an excuse or rumination meant to draw you in. Mothers aren't meant to use their children like that so you must protect yourself. You already know her intentions and they will not change. Narcissistic parents betray the promise of safety that they know they're expected to give their children. Being a mother is a volunteer job, so taking it and knowing they w/couldnt do their part was their first betrayal. Don't put yourself in a position to be deflated by anyone who gets a high from sucking in your air. VALUE YOU.. it offends them and no good mother is offended by their child knowing they have worth. They are pleased to know that you know that. A real mother will take a hit for you, stop harm from reaching you as best they can.This situation is backwards with a NM. We're not meant to seek out battles that aren't ours to fight. It's not wise and it just isn't necessary. It's just dangerous. DON'T DO IT. Hope all is good..

[@LibbySlaughter101]

@@bibishabouayad9284 That's so wrong. This person has been hurt & wounded with probably every interaction with 'mother' - their entire life! There comes a time when these relationships have to end - for the good of both parties. - This poor lady would have psycho-analysed her relationship with her mother to death! DON'T bring religion into it, as the final guilt trip - There are many people in this world that you can ONLY pray for - not interact with, nor even speak to occasionally. God would want to protect this lady from further hurt, and what's more He can only begin to work on the flawed mother when the scapegoat (her daughter) is out of the picture.

[@bibishabouayad9284]

@@LibbySlaughter101 I agree with you, my comment was wrong, I didn't think about mothers who have mental problems, manipulative, and they never change, they keep hurting their children, it s better to stay away from them.

[@nandep2149]

13:26 = "20 Truths" (list and description) starts here. 1) 13:48 Narcissists feel entitled to lie. Truth is irrelevant to them. 2) 15:25 Narcissists are not that interested in you. They're only interested in keeping you interested in them. You are entertainment, and a supply source, nothing more. 3) 16:29. Narcissists feel you are disposable and they can easily replace you. Nothing is their fault. 4) 18:30. A Narcissist's word means nothing. You will never be able to count on them for integrity. No accountability. 5) 19:56. Narcissists live as a hypocrite and will not change. They hold you and others accountable for everything said, but they will not be held accountable. They twist your words! They will use all your private information against you. Over time, they cripple you from the inside out. 6) 22:24. Narcissists feel entitled to disrespect you; but they feel you must respect them. Rules apply to you, not to them. 7) 23:28. Narcissists use projection as a weapon to silence and to cripple you. They will accuse you of everything that they are guilty of. 8) 24:55. Narcissists will accuse you and punish you for all of their unresolved pains, issues and trauma. They are very reactive, volatile, not happy, easily irritated, high conflict personalities. They're not self aware. Everything is a problem and all your fault. They're paranoid. 9) 27:15. You will always be wrong, even when the Narcissist thinks you're right. Narcissists will do everything possible to convince you that you're perception is wrong and there's something wrong with you. 10) 30:30. Narcissists have no accountability. If you don't like it, they will discard you. They think in terms of "I" and not "we". 11) 35:06. Narcissists don't love you, they love what you do for them. They only like how you love them and the power they have over you. 12) 37:24. Your side is irrelevant and not important to a narcissist. 13) 38:14. A narcissist will never treat you fairly or with empathy and consideration. Narcissists are aloof and condescending. They treat you with indifference. If you challenge them, they will persecute and punish you. One-sided conversations. 14) 39:05. Narcissists will bring drama into your life. Peace will never be found with a narcissist. They turn the slightest thing into a problem. 15) 40:22. Narcissists do not care about what is important to you. Narcissists will pretend in the beginning of relationship ("love bombing"). Then, theyʻll have no interest. 16) 41:26. Narcissists will enjoy making you think you're crazy. Manipulation. They insult you, take digs at you, poke fun at you, comment about what you're eating, etc. If they do something wrong, they'll act as if you're the one who did it. They deliberately mess with your head. Dysfunctional. 17) 42:44. Narcissists fear humiliation and will avoid being seen as ""weak". They can be very vindictive if they feel they lost control over you. Protect yourself! 18) 43:15. Narcissists are chameleons and will do anything to gain narcissistic supply. They will use any information or behavior to get what they want. Narcissists feel no guilt, no remorse, no empathy, no conscience. They make up stories. 19) 44:16 Narcissists will fake empathy (and emotional responses) when necessary, to remain in power and control. They don't genuinely feel empathy. Narcissists do not have the emotional abilities that healthy people have. 20) 45:37. Narcissists will NEVER take responsibility or accountability. And you will always be responsible for whatever happens in the relationship. Extra: "If you feel you have to record your conversations, that's a sign that you're dealing with a narcissist."

[@Jazzysaz8910]

So spot on…but knowledge is power… moving on empowered to make changes

[@juanadrianrobaina5763]

All of it is true 😢

[@peachesmonty1506]

ALL TRUE

[@Destiny-ev8sp]

I don’t know how many times I’ve said, “Your words mean nothing because your actions don’t back them up” to my husband. I’m starting to see the patterns and feel the same way about my daughter as well...what an eye opener! Can’t wait to get out of this toxic environment and fully heal! Thank you sooo much...this video (as well as others) has been extremely helpful 🤘.

[@teachersusanute199]

Same here. Nowadays I don‘t believe people before I see that they do what they say.

[@cncnextwave43]

So true 💯. It's all about actions!

[@lynettemccormick6169]

crazy I used tell my husband "Your actions prove your words are lies!" Im out he lives here but I wont talk to him I just simply cant take anymore Im done!!!!

[@tmo.48]

Larry Tidwell -I have asked my wasband why he never said “love you “ and he said actions should speak louder than words and yet his actions were only positive if EVERYTHING SINGLE THING was going his way. His positivity would only last about a day at the longest. And only had about 8 positive days a year. All the rest were pretty much spent on giving the silent treatment.😂I am so happy and liberated for finding out what that was all about

[@cncnextwave43]

The NARC can't love💔they Lack EMPATHY. They say I love you 😘 so you can say it back. They watch your MOUTH ACTIONS mostly, so they can tell if your being fake. It also tells them your going to keep putting up with their sh!t! My NARC spouse told me my actions wasn't lining up with my words. I told her the truth, I didn't Love her as much anymore. I suggested marriage counseling and pathways, she turned down both! She wasn't trying to fix the marriage. They get married for different reasons! Control, combined income and also to impress family and friends! AT THE SAME TIME AS A GROWN ADULT YOU DIDN'T LEAVE. YOU WAS (LOVED BOMB 😍 IN THE BEGINNING! THEY DIDN'T CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS AND DID MOST OF THE THINGS YOU LIKE! NOW YOUR HOOKED AND EVERY NOW AND THEN THEY WILL ACT RIGHT AND YOU WILL FEEL MUCH BETTER. THEY MIGHT DO IT FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS. THEN IT'S BACK TO (CRAZY TOWN) THE REASON YOU WANT LEAVE IS BECAUSE YOUR IN A (TOXIC ADDICTIONSHIP)! FINALLY ONE DAY GOD WOKE YOU UP! YOUR BODY just COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE! My NARC mother in-law, sister in in-law and wife ran over me, BUT ONE PROBLEM, I ALLOWED IT! I KNOW IT'S HARD TO COMPREHEND AND YOUR IN DISBELIEF, BUT Its REAL! MY WIFE (HOOVEERED) ME BACK .THIS TIME THE LOVE BOMB 😍 WAS SHORT. AFTER THAT, IT WAS! BACK TO CRAZY TOWN AGAIN! SHE CALLED THE POLICE ON ME AND DISCARDED ME! Discarded me like trash, as if she never knew me!

[@afrikanermartha8762]

It was so difficult to move on after 30 years of narcistic abuse! These videos has helped to keep me sane. Before that, I was totally unaware of what I was dealing with! Thank you so much!

[@barbaralarge2673]

Try listening to HG Tudor as well. He IS a narcissist and understands their perspective.

[@HI0271]

Lisa.. I want to thank you. I was married to a narcissist for 4 years.. I can’t tell you how many ruined holidays I’ve been through because of fights she started over absolutely nothing. Just recently I found out she cheated on me with someone and I had the MOST darkest time of my life a month ago. I started listening to you and I’ve put all the pieces together and realized what I was dealing with. She had a history of bipolar disorder but she refused medication and refuses counseling. I am now happy knowing that I’m not responsible for the outcome of our marriage and now I can confidently concentrate on our two boys. I really can’t thank you enough for putting out these informative videos.. in a way, you saved my life. Thank you and I look forward to more of your material.

[@Blobby192]

Main thing is unlike a narcissist her symptoms can be controlled if she takes her meds and get counciling a narc will always be a narc

[@lesliesmart4595]

This is so scarily true! My God I'm left speechless.

[@juliegraham6539]

I just filed for divorce from a 7 year relationship with a narcissist. I know that in the past I have been a codependent. Thank you for the video. It truly makes so much sense to me. My biggest concern at this point is not wanting to be a narcissist myself.

[@sandyshirley5079]

Therapy helps. Wish I had gotten it sooner.

[@ysunsets]

Did you get divorced yet? I was in a hurry to get out of 2 of these, and later found out if I stick it out till 10 yrs, I would have gotten partial Social security from them. Now I'm screwed with a lowered amount from my part time work!!

[@marisasuarez007]

It's been a month a walked out of my marriage of 1 yr and 2 months.

[@Generichjm]

Let me guess, “social media” did that.

[@Rumination_Vertex]

Everybody is a narcissist of one form or another. There's a spectrum so hopefully you're low on the spectrum and can circumvent your self centered tendencies. I'm one of the nicest people on the planet until I see what I perceive as injustice or a betrayal or mistreatment and then I turn into a self righteous narc myself by over reacting or over correcting. I try not to do that so I have to watch myself. My negative tendencies are usually reactionary but still not healthy. The difference is that I know I have problems and want to get better. I've been in relationships with people who have less problems than I do but they won't admit it or face it and thus end up being way more toxic than I do. It's mind bending like Lisa says.

[@Itsmeandthatsok2]

Having access to this information when I married my narcissistic husband 40 years ago would have saved me from so much hurt.

[@goodgracious6364]

You wrapped it up in a nutshell. 100% on point. This needs to be placed on a poster as a "public service announcement"! Thank you!

[@skyjack8541]

Why?

[@hollydusek597]

Yet he always said that he hated drama 🤦‍♀️

[@summydots]

Ironical, isn’t that? And with all that grandiosity, deep down they hate themselves too. They’re everything they hate in others.

[@Tara-id3rk]

Omg absolutely!! 😂

[@robb4964]

Meanwhile a narcissist is the biggest perpetuater of drama on the planet. There's no productive means to an end regarding differences because they purposely take every conversation in to the weeds by purposely misconstruing your words and taking them out of your mouth in an effort to derail the conversation.

[@TheVintageBumbleBee]

Right?

[@alicewonderland8027]

Same here!!

[@suzannajayne8283]

Thank you for helping so many of us who have to identify narcissistic behavior so we can be safe. It’s taking time to understand and it is amazing to just take the heat off of myself and see that the narcissist needs me more than I need her! Sadly, this was an older sibling I always looked up to and now I see her for who she is. Very sad, but better to just stay away!

[@zp4450]

I was in a relationship for 18 years and no contact for almost 3 years. Most days I am super strong and so thankful for his sudden discard and refusal to provide any closure because my life is truly better without him in it. Today I was in an environment that made me think of the narc and actually miss him. This video is brilliant and brought reality back into the forefront of my brain. Absolutely spot on!!!!Thank you!!❤️

[@청슈민]

Same!

[@beautiful4evergod879]

It’s better to be alone than with bad company. Having your peace is priceless. Don’t let the devil trick you into missing him . Be bless!

[@lovearttherapyalways]

I have been so hurt by narcissists that now I have ENORMOUS difficulty in trusting anyone, even my own feelings about others are difficult for me at times.

[@skyjack8541]

So you are not going to bring any children into this world are you. Bc if you do you are a fool. But not to fret bc there is one born every minute.

[@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470]

@@skyjack8541 get out of here, narc.

[@sodarndonestopthelies6514]

@@skyjack8541 a narcissist on his private keyboard .you're an a******

[@meredithheath5272]

Both of you - YOU and Dr. Ramani! Thank you so much, for helping us clarify, and learn about these toxic situations (I was, bc I was uneducated about this - and was the Narc supply for this filth family for almost 40 years. I wished I knew about this when I was in my 20's)

[@MP-fk9em]

I agree, I also really like Dr. Lee Carter. All 3 of them have helped me so much! I refer to them as my triple threat!! Knowledge is so powerful 🌟⚘

[@BobbyRomo-u3j]

NARCs are also scammers. I reported my experience to the FBI. Pathological lying and avoiding. Plastic surgery to his face to prowl for young women. He's 74. Supply chain for years and I was naive and researched. There should be a hard law on NARCs who have ruined lives...the children and money issues.

[@NarcissismExposed]

Learning about the narcissist MO was such an awakening and everything that Lisa is saying in this video applied to the narc I ended my relationship with but it wasn’t until I looked at narcissism through a biblical perspective that I understood and received my enlightenment and true healing

[@lindasharpe7039]

I just came across your channel. Have to visit it again. 💗

[@anthonya.1359]

Yeah, I Kings contains the story of King Ahab and Jezebel. The Jezebel spirit is and extreme example of a narcissist.

[@Tony-dh]

Yes what is in them are actually thousands of years old, with the knowledge and experience of being that old.

[@NakedhustlaATLTV]

Devil in human flesh . I’m learning as well it’s definitely an life eye open situation .

[@vickie6662]

I agree. It's the spirit of Jezebel still in the earth. My ex started calling me Jezebel. I couldn't figure out why. But now I know it's projection. And it completely agrees with the Narc profile. Once I realized all that, I felt free to divorce him.

[@منالسيدةإلىالنساءالمحترمات]

The drama they made was scary for me

[@frillygirl1679]

So spot on! I can relate to everything... It's spooky, like she's talking about my marriage... I finally got the courage to walk away after 28 years!

[@alibre4484]

You can tell a narc more easily online if they post a lot of posed pictures. There is always that one picture of them with there mask off. Watch for it!

[@lorib.2934]

My narcissist was my mother. This stuff fits her to a "T". Drove me crazy trying to figure out what her problem was. I had to move out cuz she was toxic to and for me. Since moving out, now that I understand her more, I understand why God didn't give me this understanding prior to moving. She would've kicked me out if I had confronted her with these truths! Absolutely amazing here!!! Thank you!

[@dboydboy1000]

You nailed it @11:00 someone who details themself as an empath, loving, spiritual and then just discards you after 29 years of marriage. Now my soon to be ex-wife is in jail and is begging forgiveness. When I begged her to stay home, my please fell on deaf ears. Now she understands what I went through.

[@chaoswitch1974]

Well if that's your profile picture, you'll be fine 😉

[@heathermixson1265]

I thank God that he works through you on this topic, Lisa.......😌

[@dcantrell5584]

I'm glad I found you, I am also pretty sad, my whole life was filled with narcs.

[@summydots]

Both my parents narcs, actually they’re worse things that i can’t & don’t want to name. It’s almost like calling them just a narc is somewhat a compliment

[@2batruthseeker2]

I can definitely relate to you. If you let them back into your life it will only be more of your life that is wasted. Take it from me I wasted 50 years of my life!!!

[@TheVintageBumbleBee]

Keyword...WAS ! Your still breathing...get up...March on!

[@chaoswitch1974]

34:48 is so important for those of us who have been in relationships like this for too long and behave with reactive abuse and start questioning whether we're the narcissist, that's for you. A narcissist never asks themselves and they don't need to record the conversation because they know exactly what they're doing. Being in any way dependent on a narcissist is their goal, be it emotional, physical (you're so ill from dealing with them, depressed, won't shower that they run errands *only when they'd do it for themselves too*), or financial... even when you're not. They think of paying their fair share as doing you a favor, and they'll hold it over your head and tell you all they did for you even when it was never for you. It was for themselves.

[@whocares3869]

It is so refreshing being without all the drama that came with my ex and his friends and some family members. He doesn’t seem to have a mind of his own, he’s fueled by his sister and a few of her friends. He literally doesn’t do anything without checking with his sister first. So I had my ex and his sister to try to deal with. So sad.. in the end the are both grade school bullies. The more I called them out, the crazier I am. I pray for them all and am so grateful I’m out of that toxic environment. Life is so much brighter now.

[@tammyireland2750]

This is the best explanation of a narcissist I've ever heard. You hit everyone of them dead on. Thank you so much 💓 💗 .

[@Noelle762]

I've been living with a narcissist for 35 years and have three children with him. I've thought about leaving him with my children support many times but changed my mind. I started meditation and learned that he was the one who suffered himself. I stayed to see how strong I could be and to protect the family inheritance after my first grandchild was born. When I can communicate with him, I do, and when he becomes moody, rude or arrogant which happens every day from the time he opens his eyes until he closes them. In 5 minutes, he mentions about 25 topics, mainly negative things about others or to polish himself. I have my strategy to deal with each situation; on the phone, have headphones on, read a book, enjoy the sun in my garden; If he tries to come near me then I will move to another spot. I learned that I can not let bad energy ruin my life. All my children and my grandchild, she's only 18 months but already allergic to him, she cries and avoids him every time she had to see him. He's been complaining about how all of them being stupid and rude to him, and none of us is giving him an answer. We all know how to do and what to do with him to keep us happy and enjoy life together but not with him. Thank you for your great ideas and information.

[@UCZG]

Yes, you are describing it exactly. I remember being shredded when I learned that the narc thought lying was fine if you don't get caught. Looking back, seeing it all now. Thank you.