"HOW TO FEEL YOUR EMOTIONS AFTER CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT"/ LISA A ROMANO's 123 PROCESS

[@eleniallen2083]

Hello Lisa, you have explained "validating self" by teach us how to accept how we feel so wonderfully. We all need to do this every time we feel anything, to learn to trust our Intuition. I'm on the journey and it's really hard, the emotionally movement is worth each frustraiting and "ouch" feeling. Everyone keep going keep moving and trust trust trust. .!!! Thanx lisa ur love and light is deeply felt. Sending love from England Eleni Allen XxxxX

[@gradyblack138]

I now Always trust my gut feeling. My intuition has never been wrong. I ignored it when I met my ex Narc, but something awakened me to "trust my feelings.". Amazing..

[@AsiyaIammuah]

I realize i had the perfect mother...i was a terror growing up but she'd always hold space for me..it was my extended family who shunned me and made me feel ashamed..they turned me against my mother so id be shit around her...thank god she never hated me for it and still loved me..now we're closer than ever and she inspires me to be a better woman

[@yourenough3]

Another validating video. My daughter said she hated me ( shes 5 ). She was mad because i made her do school work. And what did i do ? I followed her into the other room and i was in tears and i asked her why she hated me. I should nt have followed her crying and asking her why she said that. I should have handled it differently. I could have asked her why she said that and talked to her about it without crying. I have no tools besides these videos. My mother would have smacked me across the face for saying that. Due to the way i was raised i have a very hard time being a balanced mother.

[@yourenough3]

I am freeze fawn flight. Doormat! I am working on myself.

[@lisaaromano1]

I am glad you are here and willing to learn xoxoxox

[@yourenough3]

Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. 💜

[@irenek7944]

Remember that it is really only a big compliment when kids say that - they know you are strong enough to handle it and that you care!

[@annborn6563]

We're all learning here! What you did was ground breaking compared to what you were taught

[@triciam6765]

Thank you Lisa. I grew up with a narcissist Dad, and an enabling Mom. I vowed that, like countless other people, when I became a parent, I would right the wrongs of how I was raised. When our children were young and into their very early adult life, my husband pretty much left the disciplining of our children up to me. I am very blessed because our adult children now tell me that they loved the way that we raised them, and how I handled issues as they would arise. The few times that either of my children yelled, "I hate you!!!," yes, it hurt, but I would say, "It's OK that you feel hate for me right now. My job is not to be your best friend and for you to love me every moment of your life. My job is to be a good parent, and if that means that I make a decision that I feel is in your best interests, and you don't agree with that decision, and it leads you to say, "I hate you!," then I'm OK with that." That would diffuse things, and before we knew it, the issue would be resolved. For me, treating children and teens with respect is paramount. My kids always told me that they loved how I wouldn't just say "Don't do this or don't do that!!!;" that I would always educate them about WHY a certain choice would be hurtful to them. Once they were armed with that information, they actually made good choices.

[@Myllkka]

This is awesome. I wish I had this. I couldn't feel anything negative. I'm 21 and now that I realized how bad my father was and still is to me, I'm confused and sad. Your kids are lucky.

[@grace2excell]

👍

[@ohsnapitspat6270]

My intuition is strong I always listen to what it tells me.

[@candacetaylor27]

Dang! You are the TRUTH!! I've never understood acting in love until this video. it's not about ego, it's about loving that person enough to allow them and to validate how they feel. man that's beautiful

[@carriemarie5514]

We need this taught & integrated into the school system! Everyone deserves to have this information & to put it into practice! Thank you, Lisa -for sharing all you do! Your teachings have given me the peace of mind & heart that I wish for everyone!

[@lilac624]

Intuition is truly powerful.

[@yamlwoz]

I read somewhere 'The moment you start to feel heard you begin to heal'. This awesome video reminded me of that. Bless you!

[@ingerjohanneydegard4825]

I ALWAYS listen to my intuition..,and TRUST that feeling..💞

[@JackAndErnie]

I love you so much. Thank you for exposing your own pain to allow us to accept our own. Thank you for fighting so hard because it shows “us” that it can be done. You are so clear. You are so beautiful. Thank you for being there and leading the ACOA and so many more. I’m so interested in learning more from you.

[@cindy3218]

Your videos have been sooo instrumental in my healing process. I cannot thank you enough! I am finally on firm, level emotional ground. It took me 2 yrs to get here. I have been moving along one step at a time. While I haven't been a fan of the slow pace, I definitely care about myself enough to respect the process, at whatever pace it is. You are a bright light for us all. I feel very blessed to have found your work 2 yrs ago. What a gift!

[@anadavila3222]

And not only are you and I and many others enough Lisa, we are good, we are good people :) who didn’t know that, and who let others, others like members of our own family, decide for us ... and decide how unworthy in their opinion, we were ... how awful!! ... thank you so much for your videos and insights, we’re not alone now ... we co-dependents are not alone anymore, we can recover now ...

[@melissawray5494]

You have helped me so much. I listen to you several times a day. I just left my Narc husband a few weeks ago and have lots of different emotions. Today I have been grieving the loss of a marriage and feeling very teary. I listen to you every time my emotions take over. You always have the right thing for me. Thank u

[@boyeesevilla]

Thank you Lisa!! Another GREAT VIDEO!! If all families in the world watch your videos and apply what they learn, I truly believe dysfunctional families will start to disappear!! Love you love you love you!!!!!

[@ingerjohannekrogstad8893]

I Believe In Love Again - BoYee 🌼Yes so TRUE BoYee🌸✌🌸

[@nisreen]

I'm Nisreen from Republic of Sudan, and let me say that you changed my life, thank you so much, and as we say in Arabic (جزاك الله خيرا ) or God reward you with the very best.

[@ingerjohannekrogstad8893]

Thank you again and NAMASTE Lisa🌼💜🌼,all your videos are very helful for my recovery..Until march this year I was a VICTIM and was in a fog. In march I go into a SURVIVOUR mode and got help from my DEAR mentor and my supportgroup 💜. Now in last day I have gone into LEARNING mode in my recovery and healingprosess..💙🌼💙 And I always listen to my INTUITION💜,you are a fantastic,kind,wise and a GOOD human💓 Your videos has HELPED me very much for my recovery,and heal from narc abuse from my narc mom and covert narc parents💙

[@ritatasso50]

Thank you Lisa. I have been watching your videos for the last week or so. Everything you talk about resonates with me. I believe my father was a Narc and my mum was codependent. I was married to a Narc for 14years and ended up in a relationship with codependent Narc after that for 17 years. To scared to open my heart again to anyone now for 4 years. 51 years old now. Loving my life on my own now and I finally can see a way to heal after a lifetime of abuse. God bless you and thank you.

[@karenfield3892]

Rita T I I'm 54 and this year I've learnt about narcissistic men, and why I'm attracted to them. We can love and live in authenticity now! Fantastic Xxx

[@naomi9664]

I just started watching your videos and I am moved. Thank you for all this incredible information. It gives me the motivation to continue to grow out of all the childhood crap and care more for my children and show up more. I'm in tears right now. Honestly, Thank you! 😙

[@sandywright5763]

What you teach feels right for me. Somehow my energy changes for the better after watching your videos. Thank you.

[@Red_Tiger_Eye]

When you identify how you feel, it sounds like you are teaching the Spirit how to feel the Human experience. 😮WOW THAT IS AMAZING💎 🌬✨🌀💜🕉💜🌀✨

[@melodyfreelance7750]

"Emotions are just energy in motion" This is the hardest one for me because my daughter dips in and out of depression. Things have gotten so much better since I've started watching your videos but the emotions still scare me because things were so bad at one point. We've cut all the narcs out of our life, and we were surrounded, but now what we have left in our life are a few good people and I've begun to be able to recognize a narc whereas before I had no idea what was even happening to us. I can't imagine where we would be if we were still living "under the veil" So once again, thank you.

[@marylu7711]

Thank you so much Lisa! I heard that emotions are energy in motion and to honor that....I had an anxiety attack at the hospital where my brother was having surgery and had to leave the hospital and went outside to pray...I felt good on one hand that I took care of myself and on the other hand I felt deep shame for being not strong enough to support my Mom and brother...stayed in shame for the whole day and binged on food last night... Woke up to your video this morning and am able to just put my hand on my heart with compassion... Thank you

[@lisaaromano1]

Wow...I am so honored dear one xoxoxoxo

[@TheGodsgarden]

So beautiful, thanks for sharing. Peace be with you. Be gentle with yourself.

[@alwaysbeeurself]

I've been watching your videos, really has been helping me. Noticing how you feel, accepting how you feel, allow how you feel, life changing! Thank you! I notice a lot of my anger comes from me feeling like I'm not good enough or like I don't matter, and if I don't stop myself at these moments to realize if this make me feel like I'm not good enough, and then my reactions thereafter will try to support me being enough if this is what I'm feeling. The problem is, not stopping to notice this. It took me a very long time to realize this, so you're 100% correct, if you practice what you're saying then overtime you will change. I'm probably going to work on this for a very long time in my life, but I see the difference between something that matters to me and something that I feel within me that doesn't feel like I matter, and differentiating between the two determine all of how I experience my life's experiences.

[@ZacharyKaiAndGranny]

How many times I've been frustrated because I don't know if I'm allowed to feel what I'm feeling. Always questioning my emotions. Seeking validation from others. Your videos are an incredible source of learning and healing. Thank-you so much Lisa.

[@kjtamf]

👍🏻🙏🏻❤️

[@jamiedyer4757]

Lisa you've already helped me make leaps and bounds on progress Id hit a wall on. This message contained such incredibly valuable information for me. To some people what you're explaining is a part of their wiring, but not for us. It's so unbelievably empowering to finally have directions to move past this obstacle in my recovery.

[@damarisb-884]

Wow this was made 3 years ago and it's still good. It's 2020 and a crazy year for us all but I'm trying to learn to not be overwhelmed and yet know that everyone is going through something. This video gave me a blueprint to get out of overwhelm and numbness. Thank you Lisa and take care

[@rebeccacruz5646]

All the ways of your explanation regarding codependency from alcoholic homes or dry homes; it's so clear and resonates with people who are on their way to a healing path from codependency and or a similar forms of abuse such as narcissism abandonment etc. much makes everyone from all walks of life understand it so I think it's wonderful how you explain and give us a understanding. Its full of love compassion,clarity,and healing.

[@CJG1419]

Thank you so much for the wonderful, validating videos! My mother was so confusing that I have never learned to trust my own feelings as much as I would like to. You bring such clarity to so many aspects of the repercussions of having a narc parent that it astonishes me. Bless!

[@JF-vy5jz]

Tony Robbins has many in common with your coaching program wow - brilliant with Melania Tonia Evans another expert in recovery after abuse - wonderful beings

[@LeeSweeney101]

"Don't layer your feelings"..Love this! I thank you for every video you post, I grow better and better with each one 💓

[@APal-gb2qx]

You are a brilliant teacher. Your teaching by illustrations like The Great Teacher. You are genuine. I love the point on the importance of validation.

[@jaimeflor4181]

I wish my parents were that way... For a long time I didn't want to pass on my families craziness, so I didn't want anything to do w/ relationships or kids. After 5-6 yrs of spiritual growth, & letting my empathic side shine, I'm more open to the possibility of being a father in the future. I now have a 7 year old female guitar/voice student, & teaching her has been a great experience so far. Btw, my heart rate goes up when things aren't going well in any type of relationship.

[@debbiemoore2747]

Your very brave. I made the choice not to procreate. I wish you nothing but happiness in your future

[@lorimiller4301]

@@debbiemoore2747 You made a brave choice as well.

[@stephanyhalo592]

Hi @lisa A. Romano! I just started the road back to me, book number 4! I feel like I’m reading about myself in a lot of what you say. My son is Autistic and says he wants to be normal. I tell him he is and we all have something. I wanted to be a special needs teacher after volunteering in high school before getting pregnant with my twin boys! After reading your book, the codependency manifesto and the power of choices, I stopped massages and facials as a full time income and became a paraprofessional for special needs. It’s my calling is what I have always been told. And because of your books I now have the confidence to get my bachelors and follow my calling❤️ as well as leave another narcissist! Thank you for showing us the way sweet Lisa! It warmed my heart to read you standing up for your beautiful Aunt Jane!

[@lisaaromano1]

You are so kind🙏

[@CatloafCreative]

I for one love that you're long winded. None of this is simple, mastering the mind should obviously demand deep understanding 😂 After all this time recovering I realize nothing is more nuanced that becoming a fully actualized human being.

[@twiliteblogger]

I thought this was a great video answering a very important, perhaps the most important and difficult, issue that we deal with. As the Daily Affirmations says, "As children our integrity was badly mangled." We had to say yes when we meant no and believe black was white. Thank you, Lisa!

[@marialeina5866]

Something about shame. In Greek the word for shame is "ντροπή" (pronounced ntropi). It comes from "εν - τροπη"(en- tropi) which is translated as entropy. That goes to show the inward movement of the energy when you are feeling shame like Lisa says. Thank you Lisa for all your wonderful videos. Love from Greece.

[@KS-vx1jn]

What a beautiful human being. So strong and then helping others after her own struggles. Thank you ♥️

[@marilyndouglas7044]

I am so grateful I found you! Your teaching skills are absolutely amazing! At 63 years old you have opened my eyes to a beautiful awakening! I'm just getting started! Thank you so much!

[@angelmossucco]

Letting us know that we can stop judging our feelings until we understand them is sooooo helpful.

[@readymolu3742]

need to allow feelings to flow no matter what they are without judging it. omg i just love it. thank you

[@alysoncuster3646]

I in tears as soon as you talked about being humble because my suspected narc husband has been telling me for ten years that I have no humility!!! I want to work with you so badly everything you talk about is exactly how I want to heal.. but still financially dependent on him.

[@sissi8610]

Lisa, thanks for this video. Right from the beginning, the title even, I thought of my younger brother and an amazing "trust your intuition" example. To this day I am still amazed about how our subconscious gives us warnings, when the conscious mind has no idea at all. Sorry, this might be a long comment, but maybe your readers will find it useful. At age 8 (me) and 7 (my younger brother), we were shipped off to an aunt's farm in Austria, because our mum was in hospital, dying of breast cancer. I can remember it as clear as day, our older cousin sitting on his bed, me and my younger brother sitting opposite him on the other single bed in a spare room in the old farm house. The cousin asked me if I would put his (....) into my mouth for a schilling, I was totally shocked, said no. He then turned to my younger brother, asking the same question. Before my brother could even answer, I grabbed his hand and dragged him out of that room. Fast forward about 30 years, I was on the phone to my brother, mentioning that story. There was a long silence on the other end. He said, my God, I can't remember that. But now I understand why I felt so horrible and awkward when I met him by chance in the city, and went for a coffee with him. LIsa, to me, this was just amazing. Consciously he had no idea anymore of the past, but still, when meeting the cousin 30 years later, the bad feelings were there. I hope this will help people see the connection between the subconscious mind, the things we can't remember anymore, and our present feelings about people and things. It was a total eye-opener for me, I will never forget my brother's story.

[@lisaaromano1]

Yep--I am so glad we agree xoxox

[@chocolateicecream6995]

honestly, call the cops on him

[@mariajmc6557]

It's true we are able to bear a lot of crap that's happens to us but unable to bear to see our loved ones going through that.

[@lorimiller4301]

Yes, you are correct. Our bodies never forget. It's always in there just waiting for you to be ready to deal with it. When you are feeling safe and loved these memories will come out. They don't come from your mind. Just like your brother couldn't remember what happened. The memory is very complex. The best book I ever read about them is called Focusing by Eugene T Gendlin PhD. It's a very short paperback but it gives a great method for allowing the feelings to come up. We tend to forget that emotions are bodily. Once you allow them to go through you, then the memory comes back. It pops up and you remember things you haven't from childhood. Connections fall into place like a puzzle and you can spend hours just having things make sense. Things you put in the back of your mind because you knew it didn't make sense. It's really an amazing process. I highly recommend it.

[@annidee]

This video is packed with so much goodness! Good lessons to be hopefully put into practice today. Today! I hope I can remember when I get flashes of anger and am at the end of my rope. Also in revisiting so many things throughout my childhood and all up into adulthood. So many of us are "trained" to duck our heads and stuff our feelings- every day. Thank you so much.

[@mariannerose9702]

anni dee o

[@Gwen13061]

"I want to feel in alignment with my daughter". Perfect

[@narcabusevictimgermany9687]

To control her?

[@anasantos2464]

Dear Lisa, this video was so precised and assertive! It guides us with love and precious informations. Many many thanks for your way to simplify so complicated feelings in turn them in potencial possibilities! All myp gratitude to you dear one🌷

[@dorothyhenri26]

This is so beautiful.

[@littleiodine9480]

long-winded feels so good when it is you Lisa :-)!!! You are so cute. the the looks that you get on your face, your mannerisms and such are adorable. you have apologized the number of times for being long-winded and not once, have I thought G she's long-winded. I feel like a sponge that wants to suck up everything you have to put out. you have helped me so much and still are. for me, you are doing everything just right. Thank you thank you.

[@RDnAC]

I love the concept that parents are supposed to hold a space for the kids feelings to flow and how you graphically portrayed it with your hands in a supportive uplifting way. Thank you.

[@angelmossucco]

This explains attachment parenting with beautiful clarity. It’s about meeting the physical and emotional needs of the child so the children can grow into confident authentic people full of the love of self (not pride not hubris, just basic basic regard for oneself as an individual worthy of well-being and participation in life).

[@happylondonerwhateverthewe8324]

I couldn’t be happier that you bought up the topic of the dishes 😽and gave emphasis with all the real feelings; good and bad, rash and silly and you actually broke it all down. What an easy way to save unnecessary arguments and upset

[@VMARCHON10]

My condolences to you Lisa Romano, I hope your in a better place today.

[@momentsoftruth7712]

I've healed some already I'm sure, from viewing just a few of your presentations, thanks so much Lisa for sharing your 1,2,3 step. It's really good. I can't wait to use it in my life & see how things unfold. God bless you. 🕊🌌💕

[@davidkepke1435]

Wow! Incredibly descriptive, and demonstrative of real-life experiences and specific ways we can recognize and process our feelings to know what our intuition is telling us, and if it is true. Lisa, you are a fabulous individual.

[@peachtea4551]

This is really good for me right now, I'm understanding more and more. For a while I was trying to "therapize" myself only through LOA teachings (mostly Abe Hicks whom I adore) but I wouldn't allow myself to fully focus because I didn't trust myself and would torment myself with thoughts like what if I am a narcissist, I shouldn't be allowed to just create what I want! It felt so scary to think of fully trusting myself. But I understand more now, the baby steps to valuing, respecting, and allowing your emotion (energy in motion) to flow. The six pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden has also showed me how healthy it is to take your own feelings and opinions seriously, ESPECIALLY about yourself. Once you trust and love yourself, no matter what emotional experience you are in, you are then in a position to react or not react in a way that honors yourself and others. I love how you explain it to us like we're 5 year olds (emotionally many of us are 😂) but you really do make it easy to understand. I really appreciate you sharing your LOA experiences, i really want to live from that basis and your videos have been very inspiring and healing! Hugs!

[@angryangel3335]

Love, love, love this!! This is my favorite so far 💜 perfect timing ☮ thank you, Namaste

[@frainer]

Half way through I was ready to hit the [Home button}, glad I hung in there you came through.

[@ms.prettygirl712]

that is exactly right ms lisa and this is a excact example of what i deal with with my family im the drama queen i just wish i was spoiled like one ✌

[@albc1960]

What a teacher you are. Thank you so much for your gift. 💜

[@yvonneestrada5254]

Thank you for the video 💜💜💜

[@csmoothsk8ter17]

That was great therapy :) lately I have been So worried about,,, if I have been making the right decisions or not. Fear plays a big role because being older I know how major decisions impact My future and now that I'm getting up there in age I want to ensure that I will have enough money to live on. Anyhow ...I grew up having to take care of my mother's feelings and mine never mattered. One of the 1st things I learned at the recovery home I was in in 1996 when I got sober was that feelings are temporary they come and go through us they are not who we are. That helped me to deal with feelings and be able to let them go and get through tough situations without drinking. Then I knew I could get through the next situation and the next. One of my many therapist told me That when I get angry to ask myself why are my feelings hurt and then it helps me to get to the root of why I'm feeling the way I am.For example in the dishes in the sink… I would have asked myself why am I feeling so angry about this and most likely the answer would have been that I feel disrespected. And then I would ask myself why do I feel so disrespected and then the answer might be Because before I went to bed I made sure the sink was empty and cleaned it so that when we woke up it would look nice. Because it makes me feel good when the sink is clean and when someone messes it up it makes me feel like they don't respect my feelings. And I get very angry when someone doesn't acknowlegement feelings because my mother never did. So in this case I would blame myself instead of whoever left the dishes in the sink because it's not their fault that my mom did not respect my feelings or acknowledge my feelings. But I should not be blaming myself either if there's anybody I should be blaming it would be my mother. Even though I'm 54 and not allowing her to mess up my life anymore, the past still sticks with me and messes up my life every day because of the way I see things and feel and react to things because of the unhealthy way I was treated as a child. OK so I think I'm having a lightbulb moment,,,In listening to myself right now as I'm talking into my phone lol I am hearing myself say that I am not allowed to validate my feelings because my feelings are skewed from my mom not validating them. Now this is getting confusing lol the one thing in life that really makes me angry is when I feel disrespected. That's all I know right now and I know why but still judge myself for feeling that way. Ugh

[@csmoothsk8ter17]

WOW I wrote that a year ago! Talk about over analyzing lol I mean today I am trying more to Relax, de-stress, and not beat myself up.

[@karenmininni4962]

THIS VIDEO IS AWESOME ABOUT ENERGY NEEDING TO MOVE AND LETTING OUR FEELINGS BE FELT. WHETHER OTHERS WANT TO GIVE PERMISSION. WE CAN BE THE BEST VERSION OF OURSELVES AND NOT BE CODEPENDENT UPON OTHERS.

[@JM-ny2io]

Thank you, Lisa. I feel so blessed to have found you. Your videos are so on point and the way you explain everything is so easy to follow and understand. THANK YOU and MANY BLESSINGS to you and the work you do.

[@lovelyana4003]

Lisa, this was an amazing video. It helped me understand the jealous I felt with my ex, his kids were grown adults which really bothered me because they are not children. I would have understood if they were children or teenagers, but adults, it's a different story. Thank you for really explaining in such detail as to accept my feelings validate them and not to react. I react to everything and a lot of times I don't take pause. This is an area I really need to work on in all my relationships. This video really help me understand the concept and actually how to put it into practice and what to do. Thank you so much I really really appreciate your videos, you are amazing! Namaste

[@janicebeauchamp61]

I remember telling my grandmother I hated her for making me take a nap at age 6 or 7 ! I gotta a beating with the belt and oh boy that was dramatic so I was ashamed for feeling and I hung onto it! Nobody talks about feelings really!!! Geez 🙄 Thank you for teaching the tools Lisa 🙏❤️💫🧚‍♀️

[@sreeniala4603]

Wow ! Can't thank you enough Lisa ,for posting your videos and sharing your valuable information. I'm feeling ecstatic realising that I'm not flawed and I can change it . You are an angel 😘

[@rosemarybrocco]

Lisa, you are so amazing. Thank you for everything you do and all you put out there

[@debbiemoore2747]

I was being emotionally abused by a colleague. I had had my suspicions in my gut and said it out loud to myself and accepted that reality so that I could now start building boundaries till I move on. I trusted my gut and how my body felt and didn't make excuses for this woman's behaviour. The important thing now I have accepted it and said it out loud is not ruminating on it as I give her power and although it triggered me I remind myself that she is not my step mother and I am not where I was 8 years ago. I have control

[@TheGodsgarden]

Thanks again, Lisa, for another one of your amazing videos. Excellent info. Exactly what I needed to hear today. You're such a sweetheart. Your sweetness and kindness make my day. Love.

[@MayaNature113]

Thank you Lisa, again. I am agreeing that we were not allowed to have expressed our feelings.. Now I am learning to trust my feelings, to connect them with how my energy feels in the body. This is invaluable :)

[@Shasha8674]

I was dizzy from gluten/zombie/passive when young. I was only there to clean/stay quiet/be invisible mostly. Low Mg due to gluten hurting intestines so less nutrients absorb may affect the heart. Stress uses up B vitamins and Zn and steals progesterone. Yes....forcing people to do things is not good. Life should be a win/win situation.

[@zofiajaneczek184]

Shasha8674 sounds familiar too. Felt out of body all the time when younger probably due to gluten ingestion, plus worked in a bakery at the time. (my mother convinced me to work there, she assumed my passive nature was me being too lazy or needing more attention) I was in pain all the time, either angry or complete zombie outside of work and school which was a terrible struggle with my undiagnosed Celiac Disease.I knew something was wrong but what I felt wasn't valid as she had done all the feeling and thinking for me since childhood. How I felt didn't matter as long as I worked and brought money in. ☹️ Yes I agree, life should be a win win, but it never can be with narcissistic parent(s).

[@369marnie]

5-MTHF check it out/research 🌍

[@grace2excell]

Love this

[@sometimesicuss6696]

When my first kid would say that, I decided to respond with, "I love you, Adrian!" Which worked well ♡ .... this was all before I met the abuser, and father of my two younger kids.... I turned into someone else for a while.. unfortunately that kid is nowhere to be found today... You're insights have been powerful to my recovery ♡ thanks 😊 Mrs. Lisa

[@SMC-xo8ut]

You always have a video for exactly what I need. Thank you

[@TheGodsgarden]

SMC9905 so true! I feel the same way!

[@janeenmpellicane956]

This is so amazing! I will try this! I tend to still try to escape my feelings! Thank u so much Lisa!

[@ohleaven688]

You save lives. So timely. Thanks again Lisa

[@gonzalescarrie69]

I accidently downloaded the wrong book!!!!! This is just my luck!!! lol ... I STILL FEELMVERY BLESSED FOR FINDING YOUR VIDEOS!!! I am sure I will still find my way. Maybe the long way as usual but I pray afterwards I will learn better for my SELF!!!

[@billievinal8986]

My last ex boyfriend, Devin, had 2 children that he was aware of but he only saw 1. When I saw him and his daughter my heart just melted, I wanted to record their play times which didn't happen often. He got her every 2 weeks but only spend time with her when he felt like it which broke my heart and so I stood up to him for this poor little 3 year old child and told him "you only get Mckenna once every 2 weeks, you need to have daddy-daughter time when she's here" and all he could say was "you work 2 jobs, you don't truly know how much time I spend with my kid". After that all I could do was cry in my car and think about how much I cared for that little girl and she isn't even mine.

[@janicebeauchamp61]

I love this tool. Pure love and light. Love reframing . My therapist is asking me where I feel in my body and where. I appreciate you. You go deeper and give words to help in the discovery process. Beautiful video with tools that are so needed on this crazy awakening from codependency. ❤

[@lo-fidreamsASMR]

As always, your gentle parenting role-modelling and advice are PRICELESS. Thank you so much!! 💜💜💜

[@jadacruz5284]

You are such a beautiful person! Thank you for these videos they are literally helping me navigate through the abusive relationship I walked away from. God bless you Lisa💜

[@nicholasbogosian5420]

Shame is the hardest feeling/emotion to let flow.

[@sadiaswr]

I love your preface, dont stop, let it flow

[@ingerjohanneydegard4825]

Namaste and thank you Lisa💃,you are fantastic and the BEST..☀👍 In all those videos you talk about my life until now as a COINDIPENDED,big HUGS from.Trondheim Norway❤🌹❤.

[@creator2149]

I heard a politician the other day explaining how another politician was thinking. Wow!! That's an amazing trick isn't it. Just thought I would throw that in. I remember when you were talking about how some people talk that way. "you did that because, YOU THINK...blah blah blah." How does anyone know what anyone is thinking? Even if your gut tells you it is narcissist projection, I'm only controlling my feelings.

[@synthiacollins2139]

Lisa thank you! for this video. This is liberated, and what I've learned is that you have to think before you act.

[@shannonobrien2572]

Lisa - totally awesome information. Thank you for all you do. Shannon

[@crystalm.7475]

Wow. I’m in awe with the intro to this video. What an inspiration to know there is hope for me too. Tysm Lisa. I’m so grateful for you. 💖

[@janicebeauchamp61]

Shifting it’s all about focus and be practicing. Thank you 🙏

[@sarahswan8498]

Thank you Lisa! I'm still working on trusting my inner compass and this was very helpful!

[@divinafrances]

Great Video Lisa! This really clicked in my head. Especially with the examples. I can now better see the message. There has been times when I've felt these feelings of anger and jelousy towards others, even my partner. I feel very guilty about them and I don't know why I' feeling that way. But now I think I will try to have a dialogue with myself and find out why and where these feelings come from? Whats the cause? and that it is okay to feel this way as long as I'm aware of the repercurssions that it will lead to if I don't adress it. It's like giving myself the compassion that was not given to me as a child from my narcissistic mother. As the phrase goes, you can't control others people words and actions but you have the power to control your own. Thank you! Namaste.

[@annborn6563]

So good! I was taught that how I felt hurt other people, that there was something wrong with me. I'm 42 & just this last year have started to unnumb to myself

[@SaraM-wz7zz]

I love the action steps you lay out! So practical! Another wellness tool added to my WRAP wellness toolbox. Thanks.

[@rickyt121]

Thank you for making videos. This one was such an eye opener for what I have been doing and what I can change.

[@TheeKaylaMarieOne]

I love that colour on you! Thanks again Lisa 💛

[@sandy0519871]

This women I tell you …….THANK YOU !!!!!!

[@CG-gp2gc]

Wow... I have been saying that for a while - meaning not only could I not trust my feelings, I was not even suppose to have feelings! Thank you so much! 💞

[@InfinitePisces]

I'm at this point where I'm purging the trauma and I am struggling to reconnect to my emotions. Thank you for all of your free resources!! I'm a huge believer in your process.

[@diharmony5532]

I love you, Lisa. Thank you so much 💖

[@adimeter]

So Lisa this is my 2nd time watching this explanation. And I have been through the 12 week breakthrough program. I hear you when you say accept how you feel as step one. Then I think I hear you say accept how I feel. So I thought you would say control the jealousy. But you went somewhere entirely different. You said I must allow how I feel. OKEY! That's a completely new way of thinking. I think I finally get it. That was a Hugh mountain for me. Thanks Lisa.

[@rickiilatino]

Thanks Lisa. This is very helpful to me.