How to Love Yourself/ Self Love Life Hack/Lisa A. Romano

[@kristieidem210]

You break it all down beautifully and simplify it all for me. Thank you! What would this world be without healers like yourself! You are a light and inspiration for me to become a healer for the collective💖💗💓💞💕

[@roslyncerro1263]

What about empaths who produced children w/a narcissist, and now have a narcissist adult child?

[@sorinagibson6819]

@@roslyncerro1263 😃😃😃

[@kathryntaylor7662]

Me too, hun. It's a good outlook on life. Hard sometimes, but I'd never be any different with my outlook... Fabulous Tutorial. Thank You.

[@namastewellness]

For anyone using the ego to protect their wounds (aka inner child) read the book "Taming the Outer Child" and to make peace with and lay your inner child to rest. No more trauma drama and self-sabotage caused by your outer child (ego) trying to protect there inner and your adult self can take the wheel.

[@lashondatalbert4185]

I never been the one to judge I always treated people the way I wanted to be treated, but I never got that in return...I always got played and used by people I guess because I was looking for acceptance because I thought I wasn't good enough...so people took my kindness for weakness. I would be so hurt from people especially from the men that were in my life they would treat me so mean and I couldn't understand why... and as I write this I have tears in my eyes because I never knew that it was something inside of me that needed to be changed

[@DarlaW]

When I catch myself judging someone else, I stop and acknowledge what is inside me that is hurting and fearful. I put the focus back on myself and decide my course of action. This is a much happier and peaceful way to live.

[@lisaaromano1]

Love that!

[@ridjdpoi7223]

The intelligence and effectiveness of this approach jumped out at me immediately upon reading it. It reminded me of something I heard before from Abraham Hicks, "How people treat you has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you".

[@lisalph8922]

When I catch myself judging someone I think to myself, "She doesn't need anyone's approval but her own." This is what I tell myself when someone judges me and I turn it around on myself when I judge. It makes me stop dead in my tracks.

[@vgrannyvl2]

I also believe that when we face the many truths about ourselves we gain understanding to the degree that when we see not so good characteristics/behaviors in others we are more apt to not judge but discern and offer a more loving response.

[@georgeanngash9896]

I agree

[@guitarsz]

great quote: “The more you are able to accept yourself as a flawed, imperfect, perfect human being, the less judgment you offer other people. That is the value that someone on the healing path offers not only themselves, but the world.”- Lisa Romano

[@tional5266]

Amen

[@rebellaire55]

Couldn't agree with you more 💯

[@aprilbelliveau1066]

Lisa, you have unequivocally changed my life for the better with your videos. Thank you so much for everything you educate us on. You're such an awe inspiring beautiful soul ❤

[@SPrincessbeneficialknowledge]

I love the fish in the back. ❤❤beautiful.

[@sheri023]

I think our shadow self can also be the bad things we think about ourselves, like not being good enough or failing at having a successful life, or thinking everyone else is more important than we are. If you give in to these feelings too, they can dissipate and not have so much control over us. Better to feel bad for a while about what we are not (successful and happy) than have to hide it because we are afraid to show it to even ourselves. Then I think you feel liberated. You don't need to feel perfect, just honest with yourself.

[@ReddOrigins]

yeah i agree, facing these negative feelings head on is good. If you hide it than you stuff it away into the unconscious and the shadow knows your true feelings, even the dark ones and you can either face these feelings and work with them or you can let it possess you through resentment and contempt.

[@sheri023]

There's always a hurt child/person behind those dark thoughts and fears. I think you have to feel that panic and fear bit by bit to get it out. Otherwise it makes one just feel scattered and not know what to do with our feelings or have much control of our life--not to mention wishing for the sensitivity of a child, which we all miss when we grow up.@@ReddOrigins

[@user-ng3bg7qw2d]

@@sheri023 This. Thank you.

[@bindibud23]

"One narcissist can infect an entire family system." My narc mother killed off everyone but me, including herself: my brothers at ages 18 and 40; herself at age 51; my father at age 56. I escaped to Europe for 25 years. I'm 63 now, healthy and happy.

[@lisbethbird8268]

Thank you, I *have* struggled with drawing "that line". It's so important to learn that it's ok to protect yourself, and to learn to remain neutral emotionally. To learn that we can have that protection *without* judging or condemning the dangerous person. Withholding judgement (and possibly projection of our own shadow onto the other) strengthens your boundary; it does not weaken it. Big love to everyone!

[@johnmc8805]

One of the most powerful thing that’s happened to me in the last 2 years was awareness. I e spent 56 years reacting and living subconsciously !

[@eileenkillen1481]

I grew up in a children's home here in Northern Ireland and have recently been to the Historical Institutional Abuse inquiry, I'm 51 yrs young, and I have to say that I really appreciate your help and support in understanding the process of self love, and acknowledging my dark side, and there is a dark side who loves to raise it's ugly head, ive had to recently apologise to my 19yrs old son for mistakes and hurts I've caused him. Thankfully he has forgiven me. Lisa I just want to say that your vlogs are giving me hope that I can be a good person, I enjoy the messages you give me, I hope you know how special you are, you survived abuse and clearly want us to not get caught in the self hate that seems to be very common especially among women, men too but that's another story! Thank you so much for your wonderful wisdom.

[@ketherwhale6126]

Your fish are so cute swimming around in their aquarium behind you. I’m on the fence, some days free and because of this lock down sent into anxiety and fear, which brings back the ego. We need to collectively change this nightmare into a dream utopia. Life is but a dream.

[@aaslid333]

When the pupil is ready the teacher appears❤thank you Lisa❤ I am so glad that the universe led me to you ❤I am eternally grateful❤❤❤thank you thank you thank you ❤

[@tional5266]

very true, but sometimes the pupil decides to backslide and attempts to draw the teacher into the self imposed roadblock

[@pam6243]

The phrase is "There but for the 'grace' of God go I".

[@moirasmith]

Glad someone else noticed this! Grace is a important, even essential, force in our lives. Lisa knows this, of course.

[@Sandra-mq1nb]

God = grace = above our ego🙏 In my opinion: the healthy me & the higher power together💕💗

[@radfish2960]

Thank you. I think she left grace out on purpose maybe?

[@susanmark8715]

Narcs are really an angel in disguise/ Only I am the one that will set me free. What a beautifull thing.

[@sarah.marco888]

You are right in saying one narcissistic person is enough to take down a whole family system. Mothers especially. We children all assumed parental roles early in our lives, and always had to heal from the mother wounds we continue to experience. I am fortunate enough to realize that ive been living below the veil and do this work of recognizing all these things. My siblings not so much. They are deeply enmeshed in the family issues and embody really weak boundaries. But it is what it is. Im thankful for all these videos because it teaches me how to live among the lions, tigers and bears 🐻❤️😊

[@catherineharber6514]

Wonderful wisdom, thank you Lisa. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been on the path the past few years aiming to shift my habitual thought patterns into exactly what you said “non judgmental, but still discerning safety vs danger.” I’ve been getting worn out & kind of losing hope, like thinking I was becoming too soft, because when I shared this idea to family & friends, I got told to “get back to reality, judging is an essential part of human nature for survival...” It’s really reassuring that someone I look up to is advocating to aim on being present by observing our judging thought patterns, and reducing them by embracing our own shadow self.

[@walkaminutewithme4787]

I realized that I've been Gaslighted since birth. I have been Trauma bonded since birth, By my mother and her Sister!! Ive been in toxic relationships my whole life. I don't know if ill ever recover. Im 58 yrs old I need help!!

[@elisalu34]

WalkaMinutewithme it’s never too late! There is always hope.

[@walkaminutewithme4787]

@@@elisalu34 Thank you! I'm trying to get help but keep going back. Im alone in this truly alone.

[@bonniel4325]

I am 60 and still trying to heal from the abuse of my father who was a narcissistic alcoholic bully. It is a daily process. You will find healing. Lisa's words and insights have been very healing for me. Louise Hay and Eckhart Tolle are also very helpful. I wish you well.

[@walkaminutewithme4787]

@@bonniel4325 thank you Bonnie. I needed the validation. Its a journey for real!! A struggle

[@jadeshaw3621]

Get up every morning and write. Buy the artists way book and do morning pages! You will amaze yourself with what you find. You can do it xxxxx

[@lilianfowler7988]

I am processing a relationship that recently ended. Victim mode kept me in pain. I still love him but realize that there would have been too much self sacrifice to stay together. Many sites call narcs evil. Grey rock. But I can see the wounded child. Working on my codependent empath to heal me is the goal. It has been affirming to listen to this video. I can love him but not be with him. He doesn't have to be evil. I am not a victim.

[@oliviaj5427]

You are an amazing speaker with a very effective communication skills. Very simple, informative, true and deep meaning to every world.

[@Patricia-xz6ek]

Dear Lisa: I loved all the fishes on the background! So beautiful!!!!! Yesterday, it was a day to reflect on your video, especially, because, at night, I went to the movie to watch Glass - Rotten Tomatoes. I super recommend the movie because it shows us exactly that...that we all have shadows and light. We just have to choose. Yes, I´m imperfect. I messed up but the first time I´m living with this mess. I still have difficulties but I´m facing playing my own matrix. Namastê

[@lifethroughyou333]

I am so thankful the Universe led me to your channel.

[@corsicanlulu]

i think i have FINALLY gotten to this level of acceptance and forgiveness after soooo many years of trying to forgive and let go....my narc mom has been thru a lot and developed into being a one because of abuse and everything else including having a temperament that allows for that kind of pathology....so in a way its like it was meant to be because of all those factors. yes she has a choice but kids like that in those kind of environments dont get to develop empathy and its too late for them, they cant develop it anymore....those kind of people are totally unconscious and its like, its almost impossible for them to change....it is what it is..... i let her go to her fate

[@jennyquezada9644]

Thank you for existing Lisa!

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

An excellent start is putting most of your energy into YOU... not someone else

[@thelandingpub]

Lisa, I just have to tell you that I started listening to you over 2 years ago. When I look back at that time I was so lost and came to you at the perfect time. I am happy to report I am so much further along on my healing journey and when something happens and I need a realignment I now know I can come to your videos and it takes me back to my true self. You are doing such important work Lisa. God bless!

[@fundazaim3065]

Dear Lisa 💖🙏 this world sure is a better place with you in it. So thankful for your presence during my life span ❤

[@lisaaromano1]

Awww🤗🪷💗

[@tonyfogden8790]

Your words echo my thinking, I know that I'm healing and it feels good. Namaste ✌️

[@kaidigemify]

I NEEDED TO SEE THIS SO BADLY!!! One more small push towards opening my eye. ❤

[@debbiebates8099]

I listened to this on the drive to work today. It brought me peace and helped me accept the parts of me that I typically feel embarrassed about and judge myself for having and think makes me inferior. I see now that is not necessary and certainly not helpful to me. Thanks so much Lisa. ❤️

[@Julie-hi5fy]

I feel like you are helping me see the root of all my issues....i make a mistake, hate myself and then become critical and judge others which just leads to red light feelings on aconti ual cycle. I just need to fully accept myself in all my flaws so that i can get out of the carosel of blame and shame, i have heard it before but it is clicking fully more than it ever has before.

[@NizzyD92]

Right out of the gate! I can not believe there was a time when people were shamed or mislabeled for believing in the metaphysical aspect of self.

[@gregphillips6434]

You're a blessing to many. Thanks for sharing 👍

[@maewest4098]

Lisa, I feel ten pounds lighter. The relief you bring me in this video has filled me with such joy, I will never be the same again. Thank you, thank you, thank you xx

[@shthaalmzyd7795]

Lisa A. Romano! Thanks for HELP! You validate so much of how i've felt, but I thought, or was told i was wrong. People are rarely this honest with me. Im learning to grow, and transcend! Strengh, Boundaries, Forgiveness, Accepting Shadow! You are in my head now, as a part of what ive learned in life

[@reneepeck9743]

I have been in this place and to hear it come to me at this time is very healing. First steps to my journey of self. I have been working on my self for ages! But at 55 I am finding real hope and healing. This is an awakening. Thank you.

[@susanjohnson2140]

You have no idea..how much impact your words have on me.

[@ronnie4863]

Know you are always there for me. Many blessings isn’t enough. You are a gift to human kind

[@billieberry292]

"We are all facets of the same diamond". So powerful, inspiring, thought-provoking ! Thank you! ❤

[@lifewithkahunde]

Just the past few days I landed on the channel this healing concept has finally made meaning,Bless you Lisa. This is all I needed ❤

[@lisaaromano1]

Yay!

[@SelfLove65]

It is so relief hearing that. I see how much things are deep on me and every human being. Thank you so much, Lisa. I see a lot of shame that I myst work on it. Namaste!!!💕

[@juliascorey999]

You are a comfort to my ears, thank you so much

[@erainalewis6092]

I completely identify with the info you have shared.. sometimes when I journel I can get a voice for it. Also watch your throat chakra video...this is priceless to me on my path of freedom♥️..

[@yourenough3]

I am so judgmental. I must stop being judgemental! Thanks Lisa

[@SilentFigure1]

Incredible message L.R. I guess you know that it is incredible to watch you just pull out your experiences. You can see you searching your mind by your eyes and the flow of life saving information. Well put well presented. Your podcast are life savers.

[@UCZG]

I very much believe everything you spoke of here. My thoughts are similar about spirituality and judgement. It is so truthful when you say that we don't really know what we would do in exactly the same shoes as someone else.

[@annejohnson8890]

A very insightful and helpful video - I remind myself always "learn (from this person), don't judge".

[@diharmony5532]

Thank you so much, Lisa! This is so important to remember. Awareness is the key. I love you 💖🙏

[@felineaura]

Words can't describe. Thank you so much.

[@stephaniemeldrum8268]

U have such a gift to convey this info. I am so greatful and that aquarium is absolutely stunning - a little girl dream of mine lol 🙌🐠🐡

[@catherinejustin1329]

Beautifully prepared and presented. Truth does really set us free and 'yes' sometime in your life you will meet a 'human predator'. Boundaries, just boundaries.

[@ThrivingWithValerieVicars]

Really good video. I caught my self judging someone yesterday and ended up meditating on my thoughts. I ended up feeling childish and guilty for doing it. I know I'm not perfect and I should have no expectations for someone else to be. Thankfully for watching your videos I learned to acknowledge my mistakes, reflect on it then let it go.

[@jennaletizia5430]

Learning now to love myself. Narcissistic father and sister have made it hard. Now I am getting it

[@dianeclayton4936]

I love that you are speaking about this. My own life circumstances have shown me that awakening (becoming conscious) and healing is a process of being intimate with ALL aspects of ourselves. When we love the dark we can see our light...for self and all. Namaste Lisa

[@melisalearningtoloveme9874]

Home Run !!! Been dealing with a lot of mommy regret grief. Wishing I had experienced this breakthrough this awakening this healing before I raised my kids! It’s a yucky feeling to know that I have passed on some of the Multi dysfunctional programming to my kids This was is what I needed to hear! I have been journaling. Trying to make space to feel what I’m feeling. Let it go. I have started writing love notes to my kids. Sometimes I just infusing unconditional love into them. Other times apologizing for those chronic codependent moments where I allowed narcissist to send me into crazy making. Thank you so mush for sharing your wisdom! You inspire me! So much so I started my own channel. Main motivation is share what I’ve learned and validate myself!

[@muziek8269]

Very true, my dad is exactly that and has destroyed the family...

[@elhadjdiallo633]

To be transparent with you lisa. Yoyr episode sounds accurate and rational i wish you all the vest in life ...... Thanks alot for everything you fo and helping sooo many folks jn this universe .... Much love ... May the lord continue to bless You for the rest of your life .....

[@timhansen3376]

Better love yourself. Your nobody till somebody loves you...your nobody till somebody cares. Be somebody. Love yourself.

[@redrocks8078]

I love the way you break things down in such a grounded way. My journey has definitely involved making friends with my shadow...it was through narcissist abuse that the gift of merging with my shadow came about. I’m still working on boundaries but I’ve made lots of progress. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the tireless work you do! ❤️🙏🦋 The saying “Someone once brought me a box of darkness and I realized that too was a gift” says it all!! Thank you! 💜

[@queenk.369.1]

JUST LOVED THE MESSAGE. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR LIGHT AND WISDOM.

[@judithwallace2091]

Wonderful imagery of the cell in the petri dish. Wow you just have a way of making your point clearly and kindly.

[@janicebeauchamp61]

Thank you Lisa ❤ I’m embracing all of this and healing more and more. Love this! Thank you 🙏

[@vgrannyvl2]

This video brought me to tears. xoxox

[@mentlalehloma6164]

Thank you.. God bless you. This helped shed some clarity on things. And has just pointed to the direction to move forward in more balanced way...

[@deborahgtucker]

Have had fleeting thoughts of you being the potter and I am clay. The many years of sacrifice , healing and pain to heal and develop your platform, I am trying to absorb what you KNOW TO BE THE TRUTH. Have lost your Meditation guidance. Lisa , “You are finally THERE.” May Spirit Soar……..

[@MommyAntifa]

THANK YOU LISA💖🌞 This video helped me rearrange some of my thoughts.

[@radfish2960]

Amen me too

[@wanda4573]

Love your chat lisa, I've heard it before but it was good to hear it again. Love the white fish behind you. I recieved a decorative peacock plate from my daughter as she knows I love them. Had this chat with a friend a few years ago.

[@tiffanys1242]

Lisa...I can't thank you enough for this video. I can barely find the words. I'm still healing from the whirlwinds I've chosen to leave but unfortunately there has been side effects in my personality, some that I have not been proud of. This video has really helped me recognize my next step in healing myself. You are a blessing to us. So much love to you

[@KINGJOCK]

Thanks Lisa 😀😀 embracing one’s shadow was the toughest thing I had to do but very liberating. Thanks for spreading such love and enlightenment in the world 🌍

[@newbeginnings313]

I really appreciate this compassionate video now. Thank you!

[@patriciasmiderle9181]

Lisa, thank you. You are wonderful, and make your message so clear. What a blessing you are to me and so many. THANK YOU💗

[@galpalsal]

Wow. "facets of the same diamond". Very similar to Kabbalah notion of "shattered urn" where we are all pieces of the shattered urn.

[@sacredlight7667]

This is so beautiful. I'm really striving for this level of consciousness, but I'm worlds away. Thank you.

[@lisaaromano1]

Nope--just a few thoughts--beliefs and vibrations from your BREAKTHROUGH!

[@sacredlight7667]

@@lisaaromano1 thank you for saying that. It is SOOOOOO hard when intentional harm has been done. I was married to a bonafide sociopath and he truly set out to destroy and continues to abuse and exploit me. This experience set off hate like I have never known. But I do not harm from this place. I feel the feelings and process as efficiently as I can, but it can be all consuming sometimes. Anyway.....I WANT to be truly free and I know what you speak of is the way so I trust God will help me get there. I am working diligently on uncovering my beliefs so I can rewrite them. As for thoughts, well....I find my thinking to be the greatest stumbling block. Abuse is setup to hijack your brain so you ruminate. Anyway.....I thank you so much for all you teach us. You are so lovely. I wish I could afford your course, but alas....my ex sabotaged me financially. Many blessings to you.

[@Star_Light_4]

I would often find myself in a conversation with my husband where I felt he was being judgmental of another and I would say so to him after me feeling uncomfortable with the conversation for a bit. He would then call me out on being judgmental of him and you know how the rest does. I will now preempt him by saying I am discerning and I choose not to listen further.

[@zarakhan7820]

I've been listening to you for a year now, and you have helped me so much. I am trying my best to like myself let alone love myself. since my husbands suicide 9 years ago and then the only relationship since then was unfortunately with a narc who absolutely destroyed me I have lost all faith in humanity. sadly I think this is going to take some time. I just want to thankyou for your videos. x

[@nicmusic1985]

I’m having so much trouble with my “shadow side” lately. I am glad I listened to you because I’m reminded to be compassionate toward the parts of myself I want to reject/justify/deny. For some reason lately I’ve been really reactive in relationships at work and with friends. I’m not sure i feel like this a lot or if I’m just noticing it more now. I go to a judgmental place toward others and myself in a spiral. I will remind myself that we all are hard on ourselves and all human; all a different facet from the same stone like you said

[@mongrelpride-zsl]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Lisa. This video came at the right time and kept me afloat in the continuation of my healing process.

[@frankiepatron9834]

Watching someone grow

[@jeanetteaurora2468]

I love the fishies

[@radfish2960]

Beeeuteeful!

[@deborahroberts4355]

This video is amazing, Lisa!! I am inspired-Thank you!!! (I also Love the beautiful fish swimming so mesmerizing-ly behind you!)

[@johnedwards1289]

Excellent, Inspiring and Transformative podcast Lisa. Thank you Dear One.❤

[@katherinealba6768]

I used to be someone who suspending judgment of others, often to my own detriment. I most certainly rely on and use judgement of others now, from a place of loving myself, particularly since pandemic 'cos many people have gone nuts.

[@jfortes33]

Thank you so much. Very enlightening and healing.

[@vickymasterson3003]

It’s like you speak to directly to my soul . Thank you for your insightful healing work ❤️

[@beautydefined1601]

Thank you greatly for this! It’s true. We put a lot on others because e we put a lot on ourselves

[@maureendevore2631]

Thank you for this video Lisa. I am much more peaceful accepting who I am. I am enough. God bless you.

[@loveandlightjourney]

This is why I love you Lisa. Thank you for keeping it real. This video is so right on. Thank you for your guidance and wisdom. 🦋❤

[@lisaaromano1]

Much love Dear One--heal the shame--and you can win the game!

[@David.801]

What an amazing and awesome video. Thank you lisa!

[@taniaspence4879]

Lisa you help me so much amazing women that you are, it’s no coincidence that I found you 💕💕

[@yahtomiro5429]

Thank you Mrs Romano, im less ignorant about myself now and know better what shadow work is. I valued that you put that knowledge so simple and good explained. Thank you so much🙏 You are a humble person and i appreciate that very much Subbed

[@taylorpresley4604]

Ego= "edging God out." Another great AA saying.

[@19chique]

This is a beautiful conversation and I will play it as many times as possible so it sticks in my consciousness

[@mysticintuitive4217]

Thank you, beautiful words to live by💜

[@tional5266]

I REALLY wish I could get my husband on board with your videos, what you're describing about death of the ego is exactly where he's at right now, including self sabotage to avoid the step forward we are about to take, old coping mechanisms rearing their ugly head, I'm refusing to play the part

[@jules655]

Brilliant! As usual. Thank you so much Lisa. You are so insightful and inspiring. Namaste. ❤️

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Your right about that yoyr episode sounds accurate and rational ... Thanls alot i wish you all the best in life ....

[@Chrysanthemum808]

💖 Lisa, I appreciate you, and the wisdom, and light you share with us. Your videos have helped pushed me further on my healing path. Namaste 🙏🏽 beautiful soul.

[@ChooseTruthAlways]

My mother she was the one person that created havoc for the entire family. So much damage created all around... Many times hard to break free from mental program.

[@Tricia-xo6fq]

Thank you so much for this video. Wonderful insight. My brain often feels scrambled but listening to you reminds me of a jigsaw puzzle one piece at at a time. It’s beginning to make sense. What you’re saying is helping me, like the puzzle see the whole picture. I’m often told I have sympathy for perpetrator, yes because given certain circumstances that could be me. Love & light to you all. 💕