Little Sister Plagiarized My Work, If I Report Her She'll Lose Her Scholarship r/AITA

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[@ichigokurosaki-ij6bk]

You need to tell. Its all lies. My son is on the spectrum, in his last year of high school some students trapped him in the bathroom and cut his hair. The school was trying to get me to let it go because the boys wouldnt be able to walk for graduation. Not only did i want them in trouble, i called the police. They forced my son from out side his classroom and dragged him to the bathroom. Our lawyer called that kidnapping and so did the police. After a few students came forward and collaborated my sons story, they were charged. Needless yo say they didnt walk.the school defended these guys in court too. They wrote letters and had character witnesses and every thing. They were connected(law enforcement, judges kids) but my son took the stand and does what he always does, TELLS IT LIKE IT IS! His honesty shined through all the smoke and mirrors and charged them with minor assault and kidnapping. In N.M., if you move a person against their will more than 30 feet , its kidnapping.

[@janicevango5791]

Nice one! At least there were witnesses to back up your child. Just because they are young it doesn’t mean they can’t be assholes and this behaviour needs to be made an example of. Hopefully this experience will deter the perpetrators next time they’re tempted. Nonetheless, having a criminal record for this will tell future employers what type of person they are.

[@zachanikwano]

Nice👌🏽 Let justice rain

[@Wander85942]

She’s not a little girl. She’s smart enough to plagiarize and has to face the consequences

[@Digitalfairy]

My thoughts exactly.

[@videofan1010]

Little girls would have asked if it was ok to "borrow." This grown woman was intelligent enough to know that she could never produce something as creative or as moving as what her brother had written - so she STOLE it.

[@squirrel670]

@@videofan1010 couldn't even have asked him for help

[@ashh4929]

Story 1: I notice no one mentioned the bit where this "little girl" has been bullying him for his autism all his life, so it doesn't sound like the parents curbed that behavior at all then and they certainly aren't now. It doesn't sound like they give him much if any support (emotional or financial but obviously I couldn't say for sure). So not only is she a thieving plagerist, she's a bully that seems to think everything should be her way and OP should roll over and take it like always. She's old enough to get real world consequences for blatent theft and fraudulently accepting a scholarship. Do what the rest of the majority of students do and go through FAFSA and get loans. Turning it down would be the one and only way she can save face at this point, because it will come out one day. Also if she is willing to do this to her own family do you really think she wouldn't do this to anyone else who oh I don't know, actually worked based on their own merrits? Either way OP realistically is damned if he does, damned if he doesn't.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

I did, but I got my comment removed and a warning. =( I was heated and said it was Fucked up that she chose to bully her autistic brother growing up, then chose to bully a random autistic kid by lying and stealing their scholarship, how she is mocking autism and showcases how much she apparently hates autistic people. She is continuing to bully her brother for autism, just in a new way - by robbing him of his experiences so she can profit from them. And that if he didn't shine up his spine NOW and take back his agency, she will continue to abuse him AND any other autistic person (or nonautistic person too, she doesn't seem like she would discriminate against who she bullies and steals from. She's an equal opportunity piece of shit). I ended with "I guarantee this isn't the first time she's stolen from you, it's just the first time you've found out. And I can also guarantee it won't be the last". But the mods pick the weirdest thing to mod against.

[@KCCAT5]

So why isn't the rest of this included in the story that Mark red? I would have liked to have known that she bullied him her whole life because that would have impacted the way I felt about that story on whether or not he should report her. I thought if she's not hurting anybody directly and just getting a scholarship because the parents can't afford it maybe it's okay to turned a blind eye but knowing this now changes my whole opinion and I think you should report her. I wish mark would have read the whole story

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Screw his family. They are supporting a cheating lying bully for money.

[@causegryffindor2450]

Agree. What is the sister going to do when she realizes that she’s going to have to produce the same level of work to keep up the scholarship? Usually scholarships that big have conditions that she has to maintain her grades or level of work in order to keep it. Does she expect to keep stealing from her brother in order to get ahead. Honestly, the parents are the AH for not discouraging the sister from taking that scholarship despite the finances. Eventually the cat will be out of the bag. Whether it’s in her schooling or her work ethic. If the parents want the least amount of damage to happen to her then they need to get into her thick skull that cheating is not way to go unless she wants to risk it all blowing it back up in her face in the worst possible way from which there is no return.

[@dragonriderabens9761]

@@KCCAT5 it was... 1:04

[@voxkine9385]

You aren’t hurting your family financially. Let’s get that out of the way first. That is NOT money your family ever had, nor should have had. If I rob a bank, it doesn’t magically make it my family’s money if I help pay the electric bill with it. Additionally, she isn’t entitled to the scholarship, nor school. I know plenty of people that took a year off to wait tables or serve coffee, saved up and then went to school. They didn’t steal scholarships from deserving people. Finally, what else is she expected to do for the scholarship? Is she expected to go into some writing classes? What else will she steal from you? I know everyone has their own writing ticks, I read academic journals all the time and I can tell you who the author is after having to read 2 or 3 of their articles without seeing their name. If you do get published, I’d have to ask why you stole your sister’s writing and why wouldn’t I go work with the girl who got a sweet scholarship for HER writing instead of a talentless hack who, obviously, just stole HER work. A bit of an extreme example, but I’d be wary of how this hurts YOUR future.

[@rossvegas1346]

When you play with your kids, you let the kids dictate what happens while playing pretend. You don’t tell the kids what happens next, you let them use their imagination. That’s how you participate in playing with your kid without affecting their independence

[@JcBravo8]

I know a lot of parents who over compensate playing with their kids. They unintentionally start to dictate how to play, using as teaching moments. I get where the parents come from. Its not a bad parenting style. Perhaps too hands off, as he mentioned, but its not like he doesn't play with his kids.

[@Lisapizzza]

Yes, this!

[@Foxxie0kun]

Any parent(s) unsure of how to play with their kids could sit down and watch a few episodes of Bluey on Disney+. That show was apparently made with the input of child psychology experts who've done a lot of research into imaginative and active play and the positive aspects of unstructured and imaginative play on childhood social and emotional development. I admit, I caught myself watching bits and pieces while my cousin's daughter was watching and it made a whole lot of sense to me, the way the show portrays Bluey and her sister Bingo, and how their Dad, Bandit, is involved with play and games while they're home.

[@jennix8666]

You are exactly right, I'm a childcare worker and this is the style of play we are taught to use with the children we have in our classrooms. 😄

[@Nightlady0228]

The last comment on Story 1 is assuming that OP’s sister is going to be willing to decline the scholarship by declaring her work and as derivative from her brother’s. But OP has said he’s been reworking those stories for years, he might want to publish it later, he might not. But it’s HIS story and from what he said about his sister mocking his autism, she might not want to pass on the scholarship if she feels entitled to it or whatever. It’s not OP’s job to make sure his sister doesn’t get thrown out of college, she should have known better since she’s stealing both her brother’s intellectual property and a academic position that doesn’t rightfully belong to her

[@TheNormExperience]

^This! Lol I couldn’t have said it better so I’m just adding a ditto to your comment! Thank you for saying it so well.

[@OminousSoul]

THere is a very easy way to get her to decline in such a way. Just tell her either she does that and at least save SOME face or he reveals what she actually did and absolutely destroys her.

[@sarahjaneuldricks6729]

I keep thinking of a Family Guy quote with the hands-off parents: "Shush. You're born now, that's enough of this mommy business."

[@janicevango5791]

Unfortunately, it sounds like OP and his brother are judging each other’s parenting styles. I suppose there are good points for each and OP’s style works for them, as their kids have developed independence and as a result a good imagination and not whinging that they don’t know what to do next.

[@sarahjaneuldricks6729]

@@janicevango5791 From the description of their childhood, I think they both over corrected from neglect. It is important to play with your kids, but you do have to let them lead. It's both an act of bonding and promoting critical thinking and imagination.

[@crimsontwilight4501]

Like, I can see where he’s coming from, but I think he could do with interacting sometimes, and being more offhand other times. Like, I’d play with LEGO, and most of the time I did so by myself, but sometimes my dad or stepdad would join in a little, especially my dad, then me and my stepdad tend to go on walks by the beach at our summer house and grill together, and I’d go camping with my dad, and travel, sometimes visiting my grandparents, with my mom. The one thing that I believe that you really should avoid is being overly interactive when it comes to school work, since it can markably damage the kid’s ability to work on their own. Not to say you shouldn’t be there at all, but rather, let the kid think things out. One example of this is when I was visiting my younger cousins, I was in my second year of college I believe, and he was in first grade. He was a year ahead in mathematics, having already finished his year’s book, not unlike how I’d finished my 6-9th grade physics book in sixth grade. So, I sat down with him, first checking what he knew, then starting to explain various things, slowly going over more and more advanced things, from more in-depth subtraction, multiplication, negative numbers, division, decimal numbers, parentheses, even powers. After I’d done my best to explain it, both verbally and with examples, I made a test, ten questions going over the different things I’d gone over, ending with a question that incorporated everything. I honestly didn’t expect him to get everything right, even though I didn’t make it unnecessarily complicated, I did go over things that you’d expect in ninth grade/first year of gymnasium (highschool?). To my utter shock and pride, he’d answered everything right, not a single question wrong. I’ve known that I’ve been good at teaching subjects I care for, being able to raise the grade of all my classmates by at least one grade in web development, despite never having studied before, just looking up things in my own time and always striving to do more than the minimum, and that kids tend to like me when I’ve joined my dad when he’d teach (at least younger ones, since my dad only recently started teaching older students). But this? This is something I’m really proud over, and has made me question sometimes if I should try being a private teacher (I have stage anxiety, and feel faint from just talking in front of a small group, especially if I’m alone, and my teaching method only works for a small group, maybe max three at a time, if I’m to focus on them). I’ve also thought a little about being a teaching assistant, since that was kinda my unofficial role in the web design course. ...I may have gone on a tangent, there. TL;DR: I think a mix of hands on and hands off playing is good, and think that you should go over concepts with your kids, but be very hands off with actual school work, letting them learn how to work on their own.

[@Tokuijin]

If I had offspring, I'd probably say something like that. They're born, housed, fed, and bathed, stop with this "mommy" nonsense.

[@MsTemptation]

S1: I would report what she did because she plagiarized your work. She's old enough to understand that what she did is wrong. Do not let her get away with this regardless of what your parents are asking of you.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA That is the most ridiculous "God parent" contract I've ever heard. In fact I've actually never even heard of a contract and I come from a very large Catholic family. This sounded like they wanted a 3rd financial backer for their kid. Nope, these are horrible people and it's a good thing that friendship is over.

[@theresaduffy8222]

I agree. This is absolutely ridiculous. Cut ties.

[@beckyricard8556]

Also agree My dad left the church as soon as he could, when my sister and I were born were weren't raised Catholic (mainly because mom wasn't Catholic and my Grandpapa was a bitter old French-Canadian living in Southern Ontario that hated the fact that his children didn't take pride in their French heritage 🙄 despite the fact the dumbass never spoke French to neither his children nor Grandchildren unless he was Pissed.... If you can make sense of that let me know how I gave up trying to figure that out when I started French class and he refused to help me with my homework saying I needed to figure the language out for myself as he went back to talking on the phone with a relative in Québec we never met because we didn't know how to talk to them???) Rant aside my sister married a Catholic my niece and nephew are being raised Catholic and I am my neice's godmother participated in her Baptism as required of the godmother ect. None of what OP said makes any sense that's just insane like what the fuck?

[@KittenUndercover]

My cat: AITA for jumping on my mom’s face at 3am because I was trying to protect her from the enormous moth that was flying around her bedroom?

[@kittychaotic9450]

Nta you saved your mom while she was defenseless

[@cookiesmcsalsa1281]

NAH, moths gotta moth, cats gotta cat. How it works

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

Lmao

[@ColinIngus1]

I get the feeling this is a bit fake. More like - Your cat: Yeah yeah yeah bla bla. You can think all day long about if i'm an arsehole or not. I couldn't give a crap. Now, wheres my food?

[@LemonScentedSharpie]

I wish this was reddit so I could ask for cat tax but just give that brave protector a good chin scratch/her favorite scratching place from me.

[@buff5158]

Absolutely pissed for the first story‐ as much as he loves his family, his family clearly doesn't love and respect him enough. He needs to put his foot down and let her face the consequences of her actions. And the whole "you're an an adult and she's a kid!" Lmao its literally a 5 year age gap. She's literally almost a legal adult she should know what will happen if she gets caught.

[@tp1861]

Sister: Bullies brother for autism Also sister: Lol, anyways, can I steal your stuff?

[@GabrielleTollerson]

their brain damaged parents: "ShE's JuSt A lItTlE gIrL!!1!1"

[@Ryokamen]

1st story, the girl stole, yes it would easy the burden on your parents, but she didn't earn that scholarship in the first place. It's a damn if you do damned of you don't. What you could do is publish it and let the school naturally find out, potentially go from there. Karma is a pain like that

[@gaxalee7392]

Also, claiming she’s just a little girl who made a mistake is completely ridiculous. A mistake would be spilling water on paper on accident, not stealing someone’s hard work in order to lie your way into a good school and massive scholarship. A little girl isn’t a 17 going on 18 years old person who’s trying to get into college.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

ryo kamen, the trouble is, then the sister is liable to claim the OP stole the story from her!

[@janicevango5791]

@@alicewilloughby4318 : That’s a valid point. If her efforts weren’t up to scratch to the extent that she had to plagiarise someone else’s work, how is she going to get by in the future? This piece of work is a one-off as part of her college application and there will be other works that will have to be done. To achieve the same standard there is the possibility that she will try and steal more of OP’s work. The difference will be pretty stark and she obviously hasn’t considered the bigger picture. At the least OP will have to safeguard anything else he has written.

[@mpmansell]

Story 1: NTA. OP should tell his sister and parents that he'd sent it to a publisher with a collection of other stories and just heard they want to publish it with that story as the title story. Then say his sister should decline the scholarship because, if it is published, she'll be in deep trouble, and he will not lose the opportunity to miss publication and a possible career and return on HIS work. In any case, I disagree with the commenters who say he'd be TA in any circumstances. This is his work; his baby; his creation and she stole it.

[@crazybookcanary8941]

Agreed. People don't realize that she will steal more in the future if she gets away with it. For writers stories are their babies, their children, a piece of their soul. What blows my mind is this is basically saying we would allow someone to steal someone's child if it meant someone got a full ride in school? Hell No!! Stealing is stealing no matter if it's a story on a piece of paper. If he were to ever publish anything she would be found out and I can say with absolute certainty their is nothing more the writing/publishing community hates/loathes/and condones than plagiarism. People who say OP is TA are A holes, she will be destroying her future and OP if people believe her over him. OP needs to nip this in the butt now, especially since no one else will defend him if this ever came to be as they are not defending him now.

[@GrandCorsair]

S1. She stole that scholarship from someone who put in the hard work to earn it. She will probably arouse suspicion at some point. Authors have their own writing styles and if the quality of her work is noticably different from the submitted work it will look fishy. It might keep the peace for now but If OP published his work officially or online there is a risk she'll be found out. What's worse is if she stole his work once what's to stop her from plagiarizing him or someone else again?

[@calmandfree]

Exactly, someone in admission chose her work worthy for a scholarship for a reason and at one point she would have to prove that ability to the school.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I found his story on Reddit and he has one comment where he admits he's paying for his own college that he's in right now. if anyone deserves that scholarship it's definitely him even more knowing he's in college and she's stealing the work from right underneath him that he could have won

[@kheventplanner]

That story where the parents dont play with their kids is soooo sad! Mu granddaughter found a junky old box today and we played for 4 hours pretending it was a school bus and parts of the box were wipers and windows and doors. I can't imagine not doing those things with her or her mama when she was little. They dont stay little forever,enjoy them while you can.

[@TonySamedi]

The playing with kids one. It's so sad the OP and others are thinking it has to be either/or. You can have your kids have their own playtime, AND have times you get involved and play with them as well. They can both be independent AND have fond memories of daddy playing tea parties or helping them fly or whatever.

[@gaxalee7392]

Yeah, I think both sides are very misguided. Three to five is the age to develop independence, and it sounds like the friend would rather connect with his inner child than let his kids think. Op and his wife should definitely be getting on the floor and playing alongside their kids, just according to the kids’ instructions(that way they still develop independence and imagination along with having their ideas validated and their parents participating).

[@Gumbier_Than]

My mom was a real hard-ass growing up but even she sat down and played the damn Monopoly with us every now and then. It is sad to see that some people have this attitude that if you do certain things or not do certain things with your kids they're going to turn out soft or something. 🙄

[@rabeaw6646]

Yeah as i parent myself i dont play everything with the kids, like i hate playing "construchtion cars" with him. So he plays that alone but he has other interest so i play with legos or a board game or do crafts with him. I think the truth is in the middle, dont be completly hands of or hands on :)

[@janicevango5791]

@@Gumbier_Than : OP said in the post that they play board games with the kids.

[@Gumbier_Than]

@@janicevango5791 what I mean is despite how callous my mom can be she never looked down at her nose to do something we wanted to do that was for kids. My dad wasn't callous but he would play "Batman" with me despite being a female child.

[@janicevango5791]

Story 3: Judging by OP’s ‘friend’s’ nasty reaction to OP refusing to sign the godparent contract, I wonder why the friend’s remaining family don’t talk to him? Oooh - that’s a tough one!

[@JasperCatProductions]

Do you really want a relationship with people who are cool with stealing the scholarship and making you the bad guy. Your sister ruined herself, it’s not your fault. Instead of getting sister to do the right thing they want you to be blind to it. The writing you do is very important to you very personal, her stealing is so wrong.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

I feel terrible for the OP whose work was pilfered. The comments cautioning him to think about whether or not the potential rift in the family relationship is with it are ignoring one MAJOR thing: by asking him to sweep it under the rug for everyone else's gain, the family relationship has ALREADY been irrevocably damaged. It's just that fewer people get damaged if OP acts in the financial interest of his family. The sister gains a year of college plus whatever she can attend with family savings at the cost of: OP's potential ability to publish in the future. The knowledge that his autism makes him less than until someone (else) can profit from it. The knowledge that his sister's bullying is OK. The knowledge that his sister's plagiarism is OK. Those aren't monetary costs, but costs all the same.

[@wombat4583]

I have mixed feelings. I definitely don't think the sister should get credit, but I also don't feel like all the extra consequences that could bar many crucial future opportunities would be a fair punishment. It's a lose-lose situation.

[@cliffbond8105]

Jane's godfather: Should have taken those papers to their priest, and let the drama begin!

[@jgw5491]

That's what I thought! I know some Filipino priests through a Catholic friend of mine. I believe that no way would they continence this shake down. Besides, OP isn't even Catholic. That would be more of a problem than the financial aspects. Being a godparent is more of a support to the child in growing up in their faith. And I have a Filipina SIL. She says that she has always had a problems with the cultural entitlement of others in her extended family. She set her boundaries for herself and my brother.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@jgw5491 Agreed! I'm Catholic and was absolutely *appalled* at the demands! OP said the wife didn't have any family in the US, well, what about back in the Philippines? Far as I know, there's no rule that says the godparents have to live in the same country as you.

[@autumngarcia7562]

Who cares if she loses her scholarship, she didn't deserve it anyway.

[@pompe221]

1st story: I think the suggestion that the sister decline the scholarship is a good one. It allows her to save face and still have some college plans but makes sure she doesn't get rewarded for plagiarizing. If she refuses, OP should send in the proof of plagiarism. OP's parents and sister will still probably be pissed but it's probably the best compromise.

[@Foxxie0kun]

The sister can un-fuck her situation by successfully hiding away that blatant plagiarism, or she can suffer due consequences of being a slimy plagiarist. It'll be obvious from the quality of her work that first year that there's something majorly wrong. A person's writing style and quality do not fluctuate wildly on short notice, the style develops over time, and quality tends to remain consistent with improvements coming after each new draft is edited. Odds are, if she's going to be doing a lot of writing assignments in college, she's going to get caught on her stylistic dissonance from the work that got her the scholarship, probably be put under probationary assessment, or they'd approach family members (including OP) to determine what could have changed in her to so significantly alter her ability between the work that got her a scholarship, and the work that's expected of her to pass classes. OP is well within his rights to out her as a plagiarist if she's unwilling to make a smart decision. The truly tragic part would be if he's dependent upon his parents for financial/living means, as they could arbitrarily decide that their neurotypical golden child deserved to get away with stealing, lying, plagiarizing, and bullying their autistic son because their son is neurodiverse and thus less valuable. Hell, given the sister has regularly bullied and abused OP, I'd have to wager the parents' attitudes have CONTRIBUTED to the sister's bullying and abuse, and that's not even accounting for the possibility that the parents could be financially, emotionally, or even physically abusing OP themselves. Some neurodiverse people who have trouble with money can have a representative payee appointed for their disability/social security income. If his parents are in charge of his finances in this way, odds are he's being financially abused/taken advantage of. To parents and siblings who bully and abuse a neurodiverse/autistic family member, they don't see anything wrong with stealing government money out of the mouth and hand of the person it's meant to be helping.

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

Oh man. My parents where very hands off too but that's because they worked all the time. I have an explosive imagination, and dont get bored often. But looking back I cant really remember spending time with my mom and my memories with my dad are limited. Play with your kids man, give them the memories I dont have.

[@aba1design]

I mean they never said they don't play at all. They just don't do the pretend play with toys n such. I grew up with a daycare in my home and saw kids from all different backgrounds. Over involment from parents can stunt independance for sure. It is important for kids to develop social skills with peers. Your supposed to teach kids to not need you.

[@andreamunoz6088]

@@aba1design i mean some involvement is very different from over involvement. Some of the “imagination” and creativity can be overcompensation from the parents being too far removed

[@songohan3321]

OP in story 3 has encountered the legendary choosing beggar entitled parents.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - if OP lets his sister get away with this, and the institution and/or the sponsors of the scholarship find out later, there will be major consequences for his sister. she knows it was wrong - and knew exactly what she was doing. this cannot be tolerated in an academic setting. the rightful winner of this scholarship is still out there, but it is not OP's sister and his family asking him to join in on the rouse is terrible!

[@Steampunkkids]

Story #4: waffle time: My sorority sister and I each had our own child within 6 weeks of each other. We both had sons. She was extremely hands off and judgmental like the OP. She soon became hostile and unbearable about her superior parenting style. We soon ended our friendship. Fast forward to last summer. She and her husband woke and noticed her son was gone. But, they are all about fostering independence. Thus, it took until Noon before they realized their son was missing. The cops found his body hours later. He had died in the neighbor’s backyard of an overdose. Two weeks later, my son turned 15 years-old, and she spent that same weekend spreading her son’s ashes at sea. Child-directed play is what I do as a parent, and what I was trained to do when I worked as a child therapist. Be good to your kids.

[@sammyk.6457]

Asked my mom (she’s catholic) what my godmother had to do to be my godmother, she just looked at me confused and said “what are you talking about?”

[@rossvegas1346]

“25k and they’ll fill in the rest” I mean assuming they live in the US, “the rest” could very well be around 75k That being said, the only legal responsibility of a godparent is to take the child in if anything were to happen to the bio parents. It sounds like that wasn’t even a clause in the contract, so I doubt the dude has any idea what a godparent even is

[@alg94]

there is actually no legal responsibilities that go along with being a godparent. its not a legal contract, its a spiritual contract, and yes usually you choose a godparent that would be willing and able to take care of your kid if you die but you can't legally contract someone else to HAVE to take your kids if you die. even if OP signed that contract, good luck finding a judge to uphold any of it.

[@condorboss3339]

@@alg94 You are correct in that there is no legal obligation (at least nowadays), but it was a traditional thing in the past. In general, a godparent was chosen because the natural parents trusted them to be 'good parents' to their child if something happened to them.

[@zombiedoggie2732]

Exactly. Godparents are not 'cash cow.' it's basically "if something happens to the parents, we'll take care of the kids." kind of thing. In a way I think it might be easier on the kids involved that if parents unfortunately die, for people they are already familiar with to step in and take the reigns.

[@colleencook382]

Y'all forgot the part where they expected OP to be a babysitter on demand while they are still alive!

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

OP We want to go out and party this weekend. Come take the child. "Yeah sorry I can't babysit my father's not doing to good and in the hospital so I need to go see him and there's trouble with my mother in the nursing home." What do you mean NO! You signed a contract saying you'd babysit when we said jump!

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@Mew_Mokuba_Akari To be fair, that contract isn't enforceable, but yeah, that was all ridiculous.

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan I never said it was. I was only giving a scenario of what could have happened if he had signed it. That man is delusional if he thinks he will ever find anyone dumb enough to sign and agree to such ludicrous demands.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@Mew_Mokuba_Akari Oh yeah, no I wasn't implying you had said that. I was just saying the whole concept is stupid from start to finish. Like what does the asshole think would happen, that the courts would FORCE OP to become Catholic? The whole contract was insanity

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan What happens id they end up pregnant with a second child? Accidents do happen. Would OP be required to fund this child too? Although I think we would all enjoy seeing this man try to explain to Judge Judy why OP owed his daughter X amount as he failed in his obligations to give her anything at XY and Z events. Then watch as her head explodes from reading the contract.

[@lokisgodhi]

RE: Godparent Instead of shredding the contract, I'd have given it to the priest at their church. I know some well to do Filipinos and they definitely show this level of entitlement.

[@chasethespongeking395]

Story 1 id tell the school what happened and if the parents got upset I’d say they’re heading down the right path for a lawsuit

[@janicewilcox8590]

Your sister literally stole the scholarship from someone else that actually deserves it. You aren't creating a financial burden for your parents. They already had one in sending your sister to college. You are saving the rightful recipient from financial burden. Your sister and parents are bad humans for thinking this is ok. Letting them get away with it would also make you a bad human.

[@DaZebraffe]

Story 4: I...I don't even...YTA, on SO many levels!

[@benry007]

Story 1: I'd tell her she has a week to withdraw from the scholarship before I report her plagiarism, then I'd make sure I had lots of backups of my work and the evidence. OP may want to publish that book one day so its gonna come out either way.

[@averageviewer4256]

For people who claim to be catholic, they have some very selective memory on the 10 commandments, how did they forget the "Thou salt not steal" part of the list? -_-

[@Digitalfairy]

Tell me about it, that contract scheme is just a cheap scam - and this is coming from a nonconformist believer.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

See in there mind they aren't stealing (they totally are) it's a contract so g-d is cool with it.

[@threeducks157]

As some one who almost had a paper stolen (almost my cousin is too stupid) no one believed that he wrote it and I went full scorched earth, he has been rejected from every software engineering program across the USA not to me tinned life ban from a certain ivy league school. Also I'm catholic contracts are not a thing lol. If my 16 yo daughter runs up to me and "tags me" you be your bottom dollar I will chase her and play with her.

[@InuMokuba]

Also, I was tearing up too Mark! That comment was so sweet and thinking of my son moving on to his own world still stings a bit. I just hope we foster a close relationship so even when he goes through not wanting to play with mom, he will turn back around as he gets older and we can have fun again 🥰

[@injusticekombat6656]

She is just a little girl who made a dumb mistake Plagiarism is probably the worst thing you can do as an author

[@jessicaable5095]

In that last story I'd say ESH. Both sets of parents came off as very judgemental to the other set when there should be a healthy middle ground.

[@shannondalshaug686]

Different parenting styles for different kids, but op and his wife are missing out on loads of fun with their kids

[@alg94]

dear everyone because im seeing a lot of confusion: being a godparent and even signing a "contract" stating you will provide xyz to someone elses kid is not legally binding. if you are not the child's parent the court cannot and will not make you take in or provide for the child. it is a spiritual contract with god that you will be a good role model for the child and help them in their religious learning, but even then, its not like the church is gonna throw you in church jail for not upholding the godparent title. literally nothing will happen to you if you agree to be a godparent and then refuse to help the kids. nothing.

[@telinhajp]

A sunny day in Tokyo this Thursday. Wishing you a wonderful day, Mark! ❤️

[@SyadeHaan]

For the parents: a compromise, be included in playtime but let the kids call the shots and don't dictate? My dad kind of is like the parents that don't involve themselves in playtime but will join in boardgames and things alike, my mom would join sometimes but I (only child) called the shots. If she wouldn't get involved I was perfectly capable of enjoying myself, and to this day (22-year-old) I am glad to have learnt that life skill. I am usually deemed a natural leader and am perfectly capable of holding myself in a management meeting (both not my words, but complements that I received). Childhood influence on that is partly debatable, but I truly believe that it at least played some kind of role in my development to the person I am today and the skills I have developed over the years...

[@jeaniem995]

You're the only one I saw commenting on that story and I agree, I also looked up the story on reddit and OP's responses, they're very unpleasant and in denial of every feedback they get that isn't agreeing with them and doesn't care about their attitude to other parents "my wife has a phd" then proceeds to lie about reading the articles that other responds with about weather or not it is good for the child to have participating parents in imaginative play. Basically first they said "there is no research" then they said "we've read all articles about it" I just think they wanted a pat on the back but got backlash instead.

[@SyadeHaan]

@@jeaniem995 I didn't look it up, but that just sounds awful... There was something about OP having a similar childhood to what he is providing for their children, but I wonder what the background of the wife is.. Except for the PhD part now of course.. 😂

[@elizabethgoolsby9380]

Absolutely NTA. Send in your proof and be a man of integrity. She pretended to be you and used your illness for her personal gain. I believe it's your duty to report it. She's done a terrible thing and stole from you and from the person who deserved that scholarship. Don't think she won't do it again.

[@97scarletwitch]

My kids are 7 and 16 and I'm crying over here. I remember playing so much more with my oldest... my heart hurts and this was a great reminder to play with my kid😭😭😭

[@fcold9402]

It does not matter what story she stole she committed plagiarism. When she does it again, and she will if she gets away with it, the college will kick her out anyway. Nta.

[@lizfritz6546]

Child psychology says the kids in story number four will not talk to their parents once they turn 18. It also says that the parents who are too controlling will also never see their children after 18. There is a balance

[@morganrogue5305]

Bro, I was raised Catholic, and have a god mother and father, I haven't seen them since I was five, let alone any money. They don't even send me a Christmas card.

[@clarehidalgo]

My godparents abandoned me in the busiest station in New York city with 2 suit cases in winter at night because my cousin's soccer party was more important to her. Literally got on the express train and left just before my train arrived and I texted asking where they were and was responded with "find your own way to our house." I refuse to ever visit them again

[@morganrogue5305]

@@clarehidalgo Holy shit Yeah, valid

[@notmyname9191]

For the last story about parenting, I’m gonna go with NTA. He said himself that he didn’t completely ignore his children and would play with them, just not with the more hands on stuff. Me and my sisters grew up like that, and OMG DID WE HAVE THE BEST PLAY TIME EVERRRR. Lol. And I don’t want to seem like I’m judging or criticizing, but me and my sisters were a lot more creative then other people our age. I liked the creative freedom I was giving by my parents, and it would’ve been weird to me if my mom or dad would of grabbed a pony and sat next to me to also play lol. I still hung out with them and we would have fun in other ways, but when it came to games that was me and my sisters special time. We would come up with cohesive plots and almost turn them into shows with continuity and stuff. And I know that it would’ve been stunted if my parents were around. In the end I understand that everyone parents differently, and being more hands on isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But I low key think everyone judged him way to hardcore. As someone who had a similar childhood, it didn’t hurt me that my parents weren’t always playing with me. And I actually appreciated it. Anyways, this is already long enough, but I felt like nobody had anything good to say about his choice. So I just wanted to show the positive impact that it can have also :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Hope you've had a lovely day whatever you've been up to. In fact, what have you been up to today?

[@katiesmith2031]

Mostly gaming old PS2 games

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Summer camp ㅠㅅㅠ

[@MarkNarrations]

@@katiesmith2031 Oooo nice, what games

[@MarkNarrations]

@Nyanx4 I've been suffering also today, trying to record in this heat was a killer :)

[@katiesmith2031]

@@MarkNarrations dragon quest 7

[@heather.c]

I remember playing or doing different activities with my mom when my sister and I were little. When they're that young and imaginative, you miss out on a lot and then once they grow up, that's it and you're "locked" out of their world. OP needs to be careful, having kids that are too independent will make him wish they needed him and his wife more when the kids reach their late teens and adulthood (not meaning just financially if they needed money).

[@guntgunderson2829]

The story about playing with kids: you SHOULD play with your kids, they are your kids, they spend all their time with you. You should find a BALANCE playing with them and letting them play on their own. I don’t always play with my kids, usually because I have adult things to do, and when i can’t play and they ask me to, i explain what I need to do and why i can’t play now. When I can, I love engaging them, they need a balance, they need to know how to be alone sometimes, AND they need to know mommy or daddy WILL play sometimes

[@BishiGirl72]

So there is a happy in-between (playing with your kids/hands off play time). You know how? When your kids might need help? You ask "what do you think?" You would be blown away by what your kid will say back to you. This is important with art and make believe. Have them lead like the one response said.

[@Tammohawk1]

My second grandmother was a wonderful Filipina woman. We adored her so much. She ended up being the only grandmother my brother and one of my younger cousins knew. Our grandma was quite the cook and she also canned everything. Nora was worried that she wouldn't be able to measure up to her, but she did all on her own. Always a nice big bottle of Sunny Delight juice waiting for us when we got there. She let my mom cook though as she didn't know how to cook American food and was afraid we wouldn't like her food. Wish she had of cooked for us now.

[@NightcoreNewbie]

Who makes someone sign a contract to become a godfather? All those stipulations and requirements are just ridiculous. I can see why his family doesn't talk to him anymore. Not only that, the parents are rich and make more money than OP and his family does. They can start saving money now and let it grow until the kid goes to college.

[@Mb-yn9zp]

I think the dad who doesn't play, really does play. They join in team type stuff. They have enough kids that they do not need to be pirates. I like his style.

[@digitalharmony26]

You say your kids have the most fun playing on the floor together, imagine how excited if you sat down with them every once and a while and say “what are we playing?” You’re not taking anything away, you’re adding to their lives.

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

Don't let it slide

[@melissaharrison3686]

She plagiarized and stole a scholarship from someone who is way more deserving. NTA.

[@infinessia4019]

The last story explanation sounds like it came from a pamphlets during the ‘Red Scare’ specifically to stop your child from becoming a communist 😂

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 1: NTA. If you want to publish your writing, her using it could interfere because they would think the piece is actually her writing. Also, when she takes her required English classes in college, they will learn really quick she does not have the skill to write such a story. Also, YOU can face legal consequences for letting her submit the piece. It would be a college admissions scandal. Do NOT let her use your story. IF she loses admission, that is her fault. She needs to get in on her merits, not yours.

[@llynxfyremusic]

Commenting on an old video but i want to add to story no. 4. In some scenarios gaining independence early can be a double edged sword. Speaking from experience and what therapists have told me. Sometimes becoming over-indepent too young can create anxiety to always be non-dependant and never ask for help. It can create overconfidence when a kid doesn’t realise they're out of their depth in a dangerous situation. Growing up fast and being "so mature for your age" can result from parentification and emotional neglect. Not saying thats what's gonna happen here, but its good to be mindful and make sure family is a warm and empathetic place to go for help.

[@CocoCece08]

Story 1 - NTA. Report her. Now. She deserves to lose everything. What the parents want doesn't matter. I wouldn't want a cheater in my uni.

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

Catholic here, I dont even fucking know my godfather and I think my godmother is my great aunt....maybe. from what I was raised godparents are just a second set of parents who step up when things get bad like if the parents die or something. But mostly they're just like any other family member and these kinds of demands are crazy.

[@Digitalfairy]

Likewise, my sisters and I can't even remember ours.

[@ddjohnson3961]

Story one: I would of just told on the sister. Or at least do like the one person suggested and have her decline. You are NTA.

[@RagingRaven88]

As a writer and friend of many other writers the thought of having someone steal your work and get rewarded for it is horrifying. The fact that it was a family member who would steal from you is even more devastating.

[@thepsychoticchipmunktm4813]

that last story worries me. when those kids grow up, they won't go to the parents for help or talk to them abt how they feel, bc there is a disconnect in time spent. the kids would have learnt that you have to deal with life alone and not be able to enjpoy time spent with their parents, bc playtime didn't include them. its a case of short term gain, long term loss. those parents aren't gonna see their kids once they turn 18, and most likely won't have a lot of contact either. how often do those parents talk to their parents? the cycle will repeat

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 5: I... what world does OP live in? Whose parents dictate their kids play time like they're describing? When I play with my niblings they control the narrative and I play along. I don't decide what we play or how.

[@manuelromero8837]

Collage is hard work, if story 1 OP'S Sister can't get in on her own merit then she shouldn't even be there. Fuq up her life fam. Fuckit up, ooo fuckit up

[@fcold9402]

2. The bride decides who walks her down the isle. Honoring her wishes is not the ahole

[@Myknight723]

I love playing with the kids I babysat throughout my young adult life, no kid is the same and it’s just wonderful seeing their personalities grow and change. Plus I am queen of the dress up fashion shows and the art teacher because I show them the things I loved doing at their age and how it translated to who I am now. They go gaga over the “professional” graphic designer pens that I get just for them

[@indianspartan76]

Story 2: The only AH is the mom! The husband is not the AH to feel the way he does, but at the end of the day, it's the daughter's choice. OP obviously NTA and should not step down. Edit: The commenter from 7:12 to 7:21 is on point!

[@jessicaable5095]

First story NTA. But if he decides to leave it, he needs to get a MASSIVE apologies from the sister. She needs to do SOMETHING to acknowledge that she was in the wrong.

[@drumsalive]

I’m a godmother .... f**** that shit! What a ridiculous ask!!!

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

First story reminds me of the girl who sued her sister-in-law for stealing her book and publishing it for herself, so disgusting. I wouldn't want anything to do with that family just for supporting it. I would tell my parents that their choice is final and I no longer am their son

[@JR-zi4bj]

Mark:"Feel's like a SAW movie" [3:23] LMAO!

[@LadyTarasque]

#1 NTA and I say.. no mercy. Chances are, if OP lets her get away with it, she won't learn anything. Who's to say she won't go on and try to steal someone else's work? She's already proven that she can't be trusted.. also, of allllll the stories the sister picked, it just HAD to be the one OP wrote about involving his personal experiences with autism. The very thing she bullied him over... she knew how popular such a piece would be, considering the the theme.

[@Hpe68]

I didn't know my godfather was supposed to do all of that I got to call him. I would also love to play with my children in the future

[@desmond_craddock_5226]

Story one his sister is stealing from someone else

[@melissaclark1051]

They both could walk her down the aisle

[@ceciliajacobs5346]

I am 66yo, raised Catholic and have never heard of such BS about a contract to be a Godparent. Sounds cagey to me.

[@ebrakeramires339]

First story... It is your duty to shut her down.. She has been mean to you... She has picked on you... You have hate.. Anger.. Now use them to destroy her....get you laughs in. Never look back...

[@fcold9402]

3. NTA. Never sign a contract you are not comfortable with. So you must decline if those are the requirements. That list is crazy, you are not the kids parent.

[@songohan3321]

There is a Nintendo Reviewer on KZbin that plagiarize a smaller KZbinr. Since he has never been caught before he thought this time wouldn't be different. It wasn't.

[@yobabycolin2933]

Who was it?

[@songohan3321]

@@yobabycolin2933 Filip Miucin. The man plagiarize a smaller KZbinr video, got caught, was fired by IGN, and came back to his channel. Instead of apologizing at first, he challenged the Internet. You never, EVER challenge the Internet. People dug through all of his past videos like a person with a server case of OCD and found many instances of plagiarism. They even found where he plagiarize word for word someone's comment. In journalism, plagiarism is a sin that is nearly impossible to recover from. He did an actual apology eventually.

[@yobabycolin2933]

Ah, I see. Yeah, I think I heard of him.

[@FizzledDreams11]

This gets me thru my bike rides daily love it!! ♥️ much love

[@Speireata4]

Last story: I would have hated it if my parents had tried to join my pretend play. That was reserved for friends and my sister. I would have felt intruded on, if they had tried joining. But still, the OP is so very judgemental that I can't say anything else then YTA.

[@katiesmith2031]

Hi Mark thanks for the video hope you are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams much love

[@feather9077]

I mean with the scholarship one- if he publishes the book then the school is going to find out eventually

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

Plagiarism - Tough $hit for sis, she needs to learn about consequences.

[@StarFangz]

Story 4: Wow YTA. Judgmental to anyone who doesn’t do what you do. I have a four year old who knows how to cook some foods, wash dishes, clean (all by his wanting to help) and is a medieval knight who loves having “battles” with mommy. Who says you can’t play with your kid? What do you even want to have kids for if you don’t want to enjoy their childhood?

[@warpthumr47]

Story 1: OP should publish his work bc it's obviously extremely good.

[@sun_chariot6141]

First story: OP needs to sit his parents down and explain clearly, even if he conceded to their wishes, sis is going to be outed and it will be her own doing. Even if she doesn't plagiarize from him, it will be someone else. Either another student or published author. Will she get leniency then? No, she will end up outing herself as the person who didn't write the short story that got her said scholarship and the consequences will be considerably worse. She would lose more than tge scholarship. Her reputation will be wrecked and possibly sued. Then ask if they're willing to put up the lawyers fees for that. Convince them to convince her to recind the scholarship. She will save face and no one else gets hurt by her actions. Otherwise, when it comes out, it will be much worse.

[@anndownsouth5070]

17 is not a little girl.

[@TNTMAN360]

Funny thing is my godfather is an atheist lol

[@k.allynatous3433]

It is a small thing, but I am SO happy to see so many people being anti-plagiarism in the comments. As an English teacher, I get plagiarized work all the time from students. Parents always back their kids and blow off the issue. When I talk about it with non-teachers, they say it is not a big deal or that it is normal. Most comment sections would probably be the same way, but that's what makes the comment sections of this channel so special!

[@alongley4644]

She stole the scholarship from a person who actually worked for it horrible parents make horrible children

[@benry007]

Story 3: I think it would be worth going to talk to that guy and basically saying look you have asked for pretty much an entire years salary from me for the privilege of being a godparent. Being a godparent is a role about guidance not about money. It was insulting how much money you asked for. It is pretty much the same as me asking you to be a godparent and then asking you to pay $150k for the privilege. Being a godparent should be based on trust and goodwill not a contract.

[@bioshockbrat9171]

Playing with kids is super rewarding and creative lasting bonds. I used to babysit my cousin's daughter: She wants to play spyro, then we're playing. Tea time? Yes ma'am. I'm eating junk food then I guess we're having apples instead. She felt important and supported.

[@Foxxie0kun]

As someone who plays nerf battles with my cousin's kids, I say there's nuance to the issue. Yes, kids should have the ability to play and imagine and stuff on their own, but there's also things worth including yourself in so your kids will have memories of the fun times you had together. If all their nostalgia for play and imagination are solely with each other, that's fine and valid, but I think the ability to encourage and participate more actively can enrich their memories of you to last even later into their lives. There's probably ways you can participate in their play actively while still letting them take the reigns and imagine their own games and scenarios. A big example of showing this done correctly is with the children's show, Bluey, in which Bluey and her sister Bingo regularly have their dad, and occasionally their mom, as well as their friends involved in playing imaginative games and coming up with scenarios where everyone can have fun. I'm a 30-year-old autistic guy who only in the past half-decade started collecting Nerf blasters, and yet the joy and excitement my cousin's kids show when I bring home a new one from Goodwill or (when money allows it) buying a brand new one just blow me away. They're even getting their own blasters, now, which is a net positive for everyone since they can learn how to operate their blasters when they're at their house, and all I have to do is keep a stock of spare darts on hand for when they come over.