Sister Wants Me To Lie To Niece About Having Children Before Marriage, Angry When I Refused r/AITA

[@unorthodoxpeach]

Story 3- NTA if you wake the baby you take care of the baby. Everyone saying he is an asshole forget that the wife knows he needs to be up in a couple hours and knows the baby will wake up. Also does the baby not have a crib.

[@Doublemonk0506]

On top of that, wasn't she awake at that time

[@SerratedSun5841]

@@Doublemonk0506 yes she is

[@Doublemonk0506]

@@SerratedSun5841, so why doesn't she take care of the baby?

[@SerratedSun5841]

@@Doublemonk0506 exactly he needs to be up in a few hours she doesn’t care if he loses sleep depending on how many hours he works a few hours does make a difference

[@florinaschilean6143]

they'll do better if, because tiredness, he will mess up at job and lose it. much better! *sarcasm off*

[@nopeface3371]

For story three I think it’s shitty to watch tv in the same room as someone trying to sleep, especially if they have to wake up early in the morning. The problem wasn’t “expecting a good nights sleep with a baby” but that neither partner would work together to sort out a mutually beneficial sleep schedule that allows him to wake up early and her to enjoy her time at night.

[@darkshadow5581]

OP says they brought up sleeping in another room but wife refused. OP is looking into earplugs and was gonna talk with his wife about sleep schedules. Seem there is someone trying to work with their partner, but is being refused.

[@HidForHG]

Ya this story has the ESH feel. Pretty sure the OP is leaving shit out and the partner feels like she could care less. Though they need to sit down and TALK. I feel like there needs to be a giant warning on this subreddit that the OP's need to stop and have a full talk or try counseling FIRST before posting. NOT a bitch fest or yelling/blaming competition but a real talk where they try to make their opinion shown while NOT blaming others/themselves. Hell, they should try writing out their issue and reading it as if someone else wrote it. It they can't do that without sounding like blaming/whining then maybe they need professional help.

[@wmdkitty]

The problem is his refusal to learn to soothe the baby. He's a father now, it's part of his job.

[@simonO712]

@@wmdkitty Did we even read the same story? He _tries_ to soothe the baby every single night it wakes him up, he just doesn't succeed at it.

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

@@wmdkitty Listen to the story again. He tries, the baby just doesn't calm down. Some babies are just like that, it's how they work.

[@noneedtoknow07]

For story 3: I think anyone who did YTA saw "SAHM" and immediately casted judgment in the post, the guy does long hours 70-60 hour weeks while being on call 24/7, and as said he helps out at home too. A lot of the comments ignored this, and don't actually get how sleep works, you could have 8 hours of sleep but if you get interrupted during deep sleep your going to be super tired in the morning. OP attracted the wrong group reddittor's

[@HighPhoenix1754]

It's like we read two completely different stories. People on Reddit are on one and so quick to jump to the SAHM's defense regardless of what the context is that they missed the fact that this is a hard working man who goes above and beyond for his kids and can't even get some fucking sleep. Fuck..

[@OhHeyItIsNano]

Yeah. I got that feeling of a different story being told by those Reddit comments. Saw a YT comment pointing out they'd tear him out if he lost his Job. His edit contradicts the vibe those Y T A comments give off.

[@jeronsebre9039]

@@HighPhoenix1754crazy thing is they always miss the context when it’s man woman he literally said when he’s off he does work around the house it’s not all on her

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3 “YTA” comments literally are the type of people who forget this subreddit has a character limit.

[@HighPhoenix1754]

I feel like we're reading completely different stories

[@alexiron6876]

Yeah, this is why I wish reddit had a feature in which you had to write a comprehensive review of the story before being allowed to comment.

[@kimmurphy6621]

Story 3- NTA i can't understand why reddit says he is. He is sleeping, she is awake, any sane parent would just care for the child if they were awake and let their SO sleep. There is more going on in their relationship or lots unsaid i think. It sounds like he is doing his part as a parent and the provider. He needs sleep to get the money that puts food on the table. Why did they have more children if the stay at home mom couldn't handle the burden of another child?

[@thedestroyasystem]

yeah the double standard is real

[@rachaela6207]

frankly, it sounds to me that the reason she doesn't want to take the baby is just spite.

[@SerratedSun5841]

It’s because she is a stay at home mom so everyone with 2 brain cells gives her a pass

[@SabrinaSokoll]

I was thinking the same thing. If it was the other way around he would be the asshole for making his wife wake up and take care of the baby.

[@karimygirl5826]

Exactly this!!! NTA

[@mangostereo]

Story 3: There is no way in hell she “has” to do laundry at 3 am. She is choosing to do laundry at 3 am. She is also choosing to stay up at night so why can’t she take the baby? Or stop waking the baby up by leaving the room at night?

[@sacilexi231]

I've eaten many meals in my driveway so not be a jerk and not share, although that was usually from hubby not kid. Lol

[@lifewithlee6298]

Yeah, who wants to share ice cream 🍦

[@louellacharlton4425]

I don't know but working out side the home not getting any sleep then driving on NO SLEEP seems like an accident waiting to happen. And earning the only money to support them all says sham has a schedule. And it's hers. This is just wrong. The other kids r in school so she has only the youngest and house work. Bet she gets a nap in! But he's driving geez Reddit.

[@gaxalee7392]

Some kids have actually lost parents because they’re overworked and exhausted which caused a crash. Also, exhaustion and stress greatly increases the chances of a parent shaking the child so I couldn’t imagine getting angry and uppity when your partner asks you to help mitigate said stress and exhaustion.

[@wmdkitty]

He needs to learn to soothe the baby!

[@HighPhoenix1754]

@@wmdkitty I really hope this is sarcasm.

[@GrandCorsair]

"what makes your sleep more valuable than hers?" If she is a stay at home mom then that means he is presumably the main source of income. So yeah in terms of having financial stability his sleep is more valuable. Child care is important but so is being able to eat.

[@judyjohnson9610]

I'm an old lady. For some odd reason, even though my days were full, everything was in order at the end of the day when my hubby came home from work. We had three kids in 3 1/2 years. I washed real cloth diapers, plus all regular laundry in a portable twin tub machine that I rolled up to the kitchen sink. I even got up and made my husband breakfast and packed a lunch. Kept the same sleep schedule as my husband. I'm becoming convinced that the problem that many of these modern women have is that they lack time management skills. The baby waking up? Either they haven't learned to ignore little everyday noises or mom is making a lot of noise.

[@aaroneisenman6873]

YES! THIS!

[@someonewho]

This!! Plus the fact that she’s watching TV. If she wanted to sleep, she could. Plus it’s not like this baby is their kid. OP needs to work and to appease people and that’s hard to do with no/little sleep. Also, OP helps with chores so it’s not like she’s doing all the housework just to get no sleep/rest

[@blandoatmeal1273]

His sleep is literally more valuable monetarily. If his job is affected by lack of sleep it's not just him that loses that income it's the SO, the two small kids and the baby that loses it. Gotta say all the Reddit comments have to have been the top comments before the edits cause everything they call him the ah for not doing, he actually does and everything they call him the ah for doing, he actually doesn't..

[@marleyfrost215]

So she should just go to work and then they can hire 24 hour care to take care of the kids? Ever hear of caretaker burnout? Or postpartum depression? Sure his job is important because he’ll never be able to afford a replacement if she ends up in a mental hospital or decides to unalive herself from being worked 24 hours with no breaks.

[@emanx222]

The comments for story 3 are the dumbest comments I've heard in a LONG time. I had to continuously face palm because it was clear as the sky is blue, that people failed to read the whole story. People cherry picked certain parts and completely ignored others. The most annoying had to be the comments that somehow assumed the husband just did nothing while the baby cried HE LITERALLY SAID HE SOOTHES THE BABY TO SLEEP BUT THE BABY DOESNT SLEEP TILL THE MUM GETS BACK INTO BED. People also hilariously ignored the fact that he said when he's off work he actually helps out with the children and does house work too. Not to mention the fact that it wasn't like the wife was missing out on sleep. OP literally said that the wife is actually awake at this Time just watching TV.... What more do people want for fuck sake OP was NTA NTA NTA NTA!!!!

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 2: The fact that OP is full time taking care of the his elder parents. And has in the past harmed one of them thinking it was funny, NOPE! Aunty can suck it up and parent her brat she birthed him she deals with him.

[@Davtwan]

Maybe she’d have more luck if she spent less time complaining about her son on the phone. :V

[@florinaschilean6143]

sorry to say it, it seems that only wardens may parent him from now on.

[@kratkartan1486]

That brat needs to go to a correctional facility or boot camp. He NEEDS to get help.

[@burningtree5]

My favorite thing Mark says: "You cheeky so-and-so." Makes me smile every time. Have a great day whoever reads this 🧇Waffle Gang for life lol 🧇

[@kerridwynntheacegoblin6465]

McD’s breakfast was strictly something we kids got on summer trips But then, my parents could cook, so I never felt the need to hound them for food they bought for themselves. Maybe that’s my issue: kids have to understand that sometimes adults get to eat or enjoy a treat on their own. Not everything has to be shared.

[@owl7072]

That's what I was thinking as well. Perhaps OP was a bit out of line with the whole "bother someone else" part, but she wasn't wrong about the part of them acting like vultures. Eventually they're gonna have to learn that they can't expect things to be handed to them just cause they want it and that hounding people and staring into their souls is gonna be considered harrassment at some point. That one person saying "You should know it's your duty as a parent to sit hunched over in your car, and shove those pancakes in your face in the parking lot" kinda bothered me, why should parents have to hide from their own kids just so they don't get hounded? Gonna sound like a typical older person when I say this even though I'm only 20 lol but it's no wonder young kids these days grow up so demanding, my brother and I were never like that, nor were my friends, even when we were _really_ young.

[@HH-lo7jw]

@@owl7072 It mostly bothered me because I don't have kids but I have a nephew who visits and does the same thing. I seriously don't like it and think it's rude. So I often hide what I'm eating when he's around and it's made me a bit food aggressive when he's around. I couldn't stand having that happen all of the time. I'm not a big fan of kids either though so I don't know what it would be like to be a parent when that happens.

[@missluciddreams3472]

Story one: NTA... sister screwed herself over by lying to her child and marriage is overrated and unnecessary. Story two: NTA...OP does not have any obligation to take care of the brat... that's what parents r for. Story three: NTA...wtf?!? When is the husband supposed to sleep and work at the same time? So she wants to b sahm and the dad to work all day and all night too? I mean, does she want him to birth them as well? I mean, he wanted children too so y not? Splitting the chores means she takes her as to work too.

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

I mean, I see where you are coming from but marriage isn't unnecessary in my opinion. If you marry someone then they become the primary person that is turned to in a medical emergency which can be extremely useful. It also helps people gain citizenship n what not. There is also the whole 'we love each other and want to express that' thing which is important but looking at it from a logical standpoint, not the main point on the list. I believe marriage is both useful and, well, romantic. I wouldn't classify it as unnecessary, but the great thing here is that we're fully allowed to disagree and nothing bad will happen. Good luck to you, one MN fan to another!

[@Ayimii]

I didn't know the word "no" doesn't exist when kids are involved. OP's actions in the last story id questionable, but hearing that kids are allowed to act like this and this is normal is weird. Do they not know the word no?

[@missmax2492]

Um?? What's with the comments on story 3? The wife isn't asleep, she's awake all along. She knows the baby will scream when she leaves, she knows the husband is becoming sleep deprived, she refuses to let him sleep elsewhere. I can't help but feel that she's resenting him and doing it spitefully at this point. Also, wouldn't him wearing earplugs be a danger? What if the baby is in trouble while the wife's out of the room and OP can't hear it? NTA, that wife is unemphatic and unwilling to compromise.

[@namayra299]

Exactly! The response was super inappropriate. And she didn't do laundry at 3 AM because she had no time, she did it because she wanted to. Reddit really screwed up on this one.

[@Davtwan]

“bUt ThAt’S wHaT iT’s LiKe To HaVe KiDs!!1!”

[@samantha1102]

He says she's a night owl. He does help with the kids and household. If the roles reversed reddit would be telling the guy that his wife needs her sleep because she works

[@Nihlus16]

I feel so bad for OP in story 3 because everyone assumes he doesn't help since he has a job outside of the house. Geez...she doesnt go to bed until very late since she gets UP later, yet OP can lose sleep? Oh no, no, no

[@Shamazya]

I suspect the selected comments were before the edit. At least some of them mention being confused when the edits clear up most of it

[@owl7072]

Story 3: "Why is YOUR sleep so precious and HERS isn't!" Because OP has an actual job, that puts food on the table and pays the bills, and requires him to be up before the sun is (depending on the time of year, as of this comment being made the sun is currently coming up and it's 6am) meanwhile she actively chooses to stay up late, and sleeps in so late that she ends up staying up late AGAIN. That's why his is more precious. If OP lost his job you'd be tearing him to shreds even more for "not trying hard enough for his FaMiLy" and screaming for his wife to divorce him and take the baby because he's "Clearly a DeAdBeAt!!!!!1"

[@charondusk5608]

Reddit double standards towards genders rearing their ugly head once again.

[@SkylerLydia-25]

Hahaha my brain read the quotation marks as just a normal sentence originally... I also find it very weird that the wife is staying up and watching TV and doing stuff at 2-3 AM she’s a mother of three. My mom, I’m an only child will literally sit on the couch after dinner at like 7-8 o’clock and fall asleep on the couch and then go to bed at like 10 o’clock at night. Someone mentioned in the comments that she might have insomnia. I’m not sure but if my SO was staying up really late doing things I might have a sit down conversation with them to asked if they were okay or if their was a reason she wasn’t going to bed till that late??? I mean OP is NTA I’m just saying I would at least have a serious conversation with them.

[@owl7072]

@@SkylerLydia-25 I'd have a conversation with her too. I mean, I stay up pretty late myself but the difference is that I'm 20 and don't have any kids to care for, whereas she has 3 kids that need her attention. It's one thing if she's just up and about late at night, doing her own thing (outside of the bedroom so she doesn't disturb Op), but she's got kids to care for and staying up late and sleeping late isn't fair on them. The real issue here is that she needs to try and readjust her sleep schedule so she's sleeping the same time OP is, whether that be by talking to a doctor, or just finding a way to make herself tired sooner like drinking some tea or something, if she worked on sleeping at the same time as OP then that can help solve one issue and then they could focus on the other ones.

[@SkylerLydia-25]

@@owl7072 I’m 22 and I go to bed between 8:00-9:00pm. It is very rare that I stay up til 12 or later. I’m a person that goes to bed early and get up early.

[@owl7072]

@@SkylerLydia-25 as of recently, I've been going to bed at around 7-8pm and waking up at around 4-5am, so I've been doing relatively well but I have points where I just can't sleep at night and it messes me up for a bit 😓

[@zerofire9479]

For the story about the guy who wakes up at 5am to go to work, all the commentators are wrong, he's NOT the asshole here, he works long hours and gets up early, that man deserves his sleep, his wife should be more considerate seeing as she stays home all damn day, so what if she looks after kids, that's her job.

[@lily-zg6io]

Also i'm wondering, don't the two other kids go to school? They aren't toddlers anymore and schools have reopened almost everywhere, at the very least part time, so it's a lot less work than if she had to manage the baby, the two's online class and taking care of the house every single day

[@ShadowknightEX]

Yep. Reddit lives up to it’s reputation here.

[@yothatselijah]

Reddit favors stay at home moms and pregnant women over literally anything so in their eyes they can do no wrong

[@15oClock]

1. Having kids out of wedlock only matters when marriage just means money. Does that matter to OP's sister? 2. So, they knew he's a terror and didn't curb it once in his life? Good lord, he's gonna be on the news one day. 3. Twice before, this wasn't an issue, but third time it is? I don't know what's going on, but it's not fair on anyone. 4. It's McDonald's; it's absurd to think kids wouldn't want any! And I don't read OP's household as a good place.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Story 4: for real. I knew as soon as I heard the username that OP was gonna be the asshole. You’re gonna base your internet identity off being “anti” a genre of media? Oh yeah, you’re definitely a reasonable person 🙄

[@tiryaclearsong421]

For story 3 it kind of sounds to me like the baby is going through a phase of wanting to only be soothed by the mom, which is exhausting. The mom seems to be a bit nocturnal so she likes doing a couple chores at night, but however she gets up disturbs the baby and it just won't let up until she soothes it. I can see both sides of this one because it's frustrating to be the only parent who can soothe a baby and it's frustrating to be the parent who can't. My only advice would be it's just a phase and the wife should be allowed to pee in relative peace before getting the baby.

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 3: NTA. I'm not buying what everyone else here has to say about the husband not helping out enough. I know it's been years since I had a kid that age, but the biggest thing I remember about training a sleep schedule, is that when your house is in overnight mode, you need to keep the house in that mode when the baby wakes up. The baby learns that it is not yet morning and not time to be awake. It makes settling them that much easier. You make a fuss when you put the child to bed, and a fuss when it's time to get up in the morning. For any time in between you keep your interactions as low key as possible, and put them back down to sleep as quickly as possible. In this case OPs wife is up, she probably has lights on through the house moving around not being especially quiet. This gives the baby the impression that it's morning so the baby doesn't want to be soothed and wants to be up too. This is why the baby won't settle until Mom comes back to bed. I think the wife here is the AH. Just because she can't sleep doesn't mean she has the right to wake up the entire household it's incredibly selfish on her part, and she is just making it that much more difficult to train her child to sleep through the night. By the time 5 months rolled around for all of our children, if they weren't sleeping 7pm to 7am uninterrupted, they would at least be sleeping uninterrupted from 11:00pm until 7:00 am. waking only once after being put down at 7pm. Heck our middle child was sleeping through the night (11:00 to 7:00) starting at one month.

[@waterassasin]

Good ol' misandrist Reddit. Missing cues/edits aside, jobs kinda often require a clearer mind when you're dealing a position that could cause the company money. Forget the "feels" of exhaustion, if he's exhausted he risks getting fired by making a mistake and then they're all fucked...

[@janda1258]

I was gonna come with an ”unpopular opinion” on story 3 by saying NTA, but then I read the comments and see that it’s far from an unpopular opinion. The wife forgetts or even purposefully puts the laundry on hold and decides to take care of it in the middle of the night KNOWING the baby will wake up and then refuse to take care if it and let the husband THAT HAS TO WORK TO PAY YOUR DAMN BILLS do it instead and also refuse to let him sleep in an other room. Is this woman ok? Does she hate OP and does this to waffle with him? Does she hope OP does something stupid so she can divorce and go for full custody of the kids?

[@heatherholzhaus7013]

Story 1: why tf are you lying to your child? She will find out RIGHT AWAY through other kids in school.

[@catandrobbyflores]

Last story in my opinion nta. I can understand after working in that kind of job and just wanting to eat food that has been cooked well. I think the snapping at the kids not taking no for an answer was justified after the came back for round two of pestering. And bf going why cant you eat at McDonalds is bs. What, did he forget there is a pandemic right now? Depending on where you are there is still no indoor dining. What was she supposed to do eat in her car?

[@Syriihime]

Story 4--if OP feels like they deserve something good and say their boyfriend's food is bad/something that has to be forced down, why are they okay with their kids being subjected to bad food?

[@Russman67]

Seems like OP is only concerned with OP. Honestly if my wife cooks, I eat it, even if I think I make it better because she cared enough to make food.

[@thedestroyasystem]

OP sounds selfish. The way they talk about their kids is really gross. And “anti anime mom” as a username? Really? Maybe I’m biased, but if you’re gonna base your online identity off something harmless that you hate, you’re probably not a great person.

[@WolframKKM]

Story 3: NTA, sounds like wife is feeling overwhelmed and being passive agressive as hell. It's like she's trying to force him to do more child work rather than just asking. This whole arrangement seems like a strain on the relationship - how much time can they really have together (for child/house work but also quality time together when they can get it) going on opposite schedules? They need to talk and get on the same page, not lose sleep and hate each other.

[@shrekviperiii7226]

Story 4 really bugged me because like?? I get sometimes just wanting to order food, go home and eat, and then sleep (I do that routine all too often) but it's as simple as calling and going "Hey sorry for the late notice but pancakes really sounded good what do you and the kids want?" And then op coulda been a hero to the kids for bringing in some pancakes and there (hopefully) wouldn't have been too much of a mess to clean up and overall it woulda been a win-win! Or if Op really just wanted to eat them alone just eat in the car and either drive home after or park a block away and eat so it's not the full drive. I dunno there's a lotta stuff that could have been done differently

[@19WolfGirl74]

Story 2: Forget humanity, he sounds like a threat to the gene pool

[@andyallies245]

Certified proctologist: why is the baby not in her own room?

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

the guy in story 2 is a friggen nightmare. I don't know whats wrong with him but they should have been more stern.

[@lancerevell5979]

I'd ban the kid from my home. If he can prove he's changed, maybe rethink. For now, NO! Sister's Hellspawn is not my responsibility.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

@@lancerevell5979 oh absolutely agree. yeah. he has issues. he needs someone who would stand up to him. his mom is an enabler and his cousin isn't able to or have the authority to put him in his place. there aren't many places that can take him at such a late age and fix him. I blame his parents for allowing him to get to this point. but military school is the only place I can think of that would shape him up. they would not let him forget to flush because they will put him on latrine duty or worse. I hate to think the military would be inflicted with this idiot but they have the discipline to show this kid how to act... I'd also hate to think he'd have access to weapons. Maybe there is someplace where an ex-military vet takes on jerks like that and whips them in to shape. there should be a place like that for parents too so they don't raise jerks that take advantage of people like that.

[@Jason2425able]

@@jacksparrowismydaddy do you know the first place should have been to straighten him out? The home, it's obvious that he has never been punished. He should have had regular ass beatings until he learned to stop being a little prick. Just like the saying goes. Spare the rod and spoil the child. There is a legitimate reason behind that quote because it is exactly that. If they don't ever get punished and I'm not talking about sitting in the corner until they learn there lesson. The lack of actually raising children these days without morals disgusts me. Honestly what do you think military school would do. They would literally beat that attitude out of him.

[@LuigiTheHeadcrab]

3rd story - i dont get why they all call him the asshole. I guess they're all hyper 'MEN SHOULD HELP TOO' type shit. But it is completely reasonable if the chick is up, to just take care of the kid. Like I'm sorry but its way easer for her to just take care of it. He has to wake up super early. I can't imagine leaving a screaming baby that *I* just woke up in the room with my SO who is trying to sleep. absolutely NTA

[@locusxe1411]

Story 3 NTA- If she’s awake then she can handle the babies and not force you too. It was her decision to be a SAHM. Also it seems like you do the exact same things she does just earlier in the day

[@robinraadhi2541]

Right 👀 he can get fired if he doesn't perform well and lose his job. She on the other hand can maybe get help from family or hire someone..

[@beegee1960]

So SIL thinks it is wrong to have kids out of wedlock, but it is OK to lie about it.

[@indyfmw]

Story 1: the funny thing in my family my grandmother hates that my mom isn't married and had us out of wedlock but my grandmother had her child when she was 16 and forced to marry my grandfather. NTA Story 2: that sounds like my brother... but my brother is 30 Story 3: wtf for real he wakes up early, what if he lost his job because of the lack of sleep. NTA

[@CryWolf-sm9iw]

Jesus Christ the husband in Story 3 is not the asshole here. I swear people put motherhood on a pedestal but fatherhood pretty much catches the scraps. The guy works outside of the house and has to be there at a specific time to a specific time whereas she can make her daily schedule on her own. Why is she staying up until 3am?

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Well, we live in a society that expects mothers to nurture and fathers to provide. Personally I would've gone with a controversial NAH or a controversial NTA because OP is trying his best as a father. And his wife might be lashing out by keeping him awake because she understandably could be tired of being alone with the children and taking care of them herself. And he's the closest thing to lash out at.

[@daijuanwade5823]

Story 4: NTA: Sounds like we have a larger problem. It doesn't matter what is brought into the home respect and boundaries should come first. Remove emotion for a minute and just look at the situation. From her perspective, sure he isn't the best cook and there is room for improvement, however, the level of entitled behavior is unacceptable. I completely understand where she's coming from and has dealt with this very issue on a few occasions. Yes, I'm a mom. Yes, I have kids. Yes, they've gone through this phase and it's not going to kill them to NOT HAVE MCDONALD'S!!!!!! GEEEEEZ 1. The kids have already eaten, their lust for McDonald's at that moment is a clear no as they have completed their meal. Done! It wasn't on their minds until they saw it, they can complain and be heard and handle a clear no and understand the situation. 2. She's tired from coming off of her shift and had a craving for "good" pancakes, she made this choice on her way home. While in her opinion she wasn't able to "stomach" her boyfriend's food this morning, it seems she compromises as he is new to the role of cooking for the family. Sure, they as parents should find ways to work together to improve his cooking if she feels this way, however, we all can come off our soapboxes here. Everyone's cooking isn't created equal and we don't know if she hasn't communicated with him. 3. Continuing with the "If you buy for you, then you have to buy for all" mentality is dangerous and for everyone in the comments who said "she's the A**hole for not buying enough for the kids", in this case, where does it end? There was food prepared for them at home and they ate! If I have food no matter where it's from, I'm not entitled to share, if I do it's optional. Again, at some point, they need to learn to handle the word "NO", they will also need to face and deal with rejection to their "wants" not needs. 4. His behavior in front of the children enables their response, no means no. Her having a craving does not entitle the kids to have any, she doesn't need to share. The time and energy he put into cooking are important just as her wanting to come off a long shift eat and rest. The rude comment he made was not helpful to the situation.

[@yamitsukikarasu8857]

I just can't understand how anyone can be that bad of a cook after some amount of practice. It''s breakfast! If your eggs an toast are worst than Mc Donald's, there's a problem.

[@melanellie_art]

13:28 “And this next story comes from AntiAnimeMom” Me: YTA

[@melanellie_art]

Just so people know, this is a joke. According to their history their first post was asking whether anime was safe for kids to watch

[@someonewho]

@@melanellie_art yeah but tbh you’re not wrong.

[@songohan3321]

@@melanellie_art You are definitely not wrong. I would downvote the name alone. PS. I don't like this lady's attitude.

[@Cure_Hana]

I know anime isn’t for everyone, but that username alone just screams “Bitchy Soccer Mom.” 😓

[@Helenahandbasket1971]

Parents who lie to their children to "protect" them from the big bad world are doing more harm then good. A friend cousin thought using tampons meant you weren't a virgin anymore🤦🏻‍♀️

[@atinyevil1383]

It depends on the situation. In this situation, it was bad. But Not all lies are bad. Sometimes, the truth is worse. This is coming from the child who was lied to.

[@terramarini6880]

The next reddit post "AITA because I told my daughter you have to be married to get pregnant and now she's pregnant and mad at me?"

[@Shamazya]

On that last story, I do think OP is TA but it does sound like OP has earned a bit of a meltdown. If you're being pulled from lunch consistently because of emergencies that workplace is failing you because it's clearly not adequately staffed so other people can go and handle it. Being exhausted and hungry all day consistently is going to wear at you and effect your physical and mental health. From the sounds of it, this is two separate issues colliding, a bad and demanding workplace and a failure to communicate with her boyfriend. She needs to open up about the cooking situation. Maybe she is simply ungrateful but I like to be optimistic and think she's been trying to spare her boyfriend's feelings and it's slowly created an unhealthy relationship with food where it's become a chore to eat because she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. It's not reasonable to expect him to be great out the gate but it is fair to point out the problems and work on them. How it is right now is demonstrably a problem. It is obvious that coming home with food and eating in front of everyone, especially when you know someone is accounting for you eating with them, is rude and not going to go over well. Yes you should be able to have things for yourself but there's a difference between that and essentially rubbing it in people's faces. Tell your boyfriend the situation, you really needed this and it's been a bad day. He will probably get it. But when you're overworked and exhausted you tend to not think straight and things boil over as a result. Work on things when you're in a better state so you'll be better practiced in a worse state.

[@bunnyslippers191]

Everyone was eating breakfast when she got home, so she sat down and ate the breakfast she got for herself. If she's working double shifts-that's a 16 hour day, btw, and is never given her breaks, I agree, there is something seriously wrong with her workplace, *and that is illegal!* By law during an eight hour shift you are legally supposed to have two breaks *and* at least a half hour break for lunch. If she works a double shift, that's 4 10 to 15 minute breaks and *two* half hour to one hour breaks. I worked in nursing homes during all the different shifts there are, including during the night and it was extremely rare for any kind of emergency during those shifts. I don't know what kind of nursing home they are running, but the administration needs to up their game if there are that many "emergencies." Either they don't follow proper safety procedures or they don't have enough staff, or their staff is poorly trained and shouldn't be working there. She needs to change workplaces and she needs to get him to actually *read the damned directions on the package. Expecting someone who has just worked two 8 hour shifts in a row with no breaks and no food to behave in a rational manner is ridiculous. She's just worked an additional 2 hours counting no lunch hours, so she's not just hungry, she's *hangry!*

[@ninedragons6400]

I can already see a divorce coming in story 3.

[@snowycadet275]

sometime some of these comments just annoy me so much, like in the family ones they always think when it's a YTA that OP doesn't help around the house or doesn't love their kid or spouse. It's so annoying to see....

[@Gymtoshi]

Story 4: you know, I could almost forgive the McDonalds thing, but if my spouse called my kids vultures, I’d tell them to leave. I’m surprised nobody actually addressed that part of her story, what poor childish behaviour on her part smh

[@JasmineSmith-vt2jc]

Exactly. The way she spoke to the kids was horrible

[@JasmineSmith-vt2jc]

Exactly. The way she spoke to the kids was horrible

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 1: NTA. I think I would have asked the daughter "Why do you ask, did you want to be a flower girl?" I know that OP doesn't want to get married, but OP's sister is hoping that her daughter will eventually forget about the question of the wedding and thus accept her lie. But having her think that there is the possibility of a wedding the future where she gets to play a role, she will never give up pestering her mom about it, so eventually Sister will have to admit that indeed OP is just having a baby out of wedlock, and that is it possible to do so.

[@huinismith]

I couldn't disagree more with the judgments in Story 3. Seriously, WTF is wrong with AITA, smh.

[@simonO712]

I know right? The only thing I see there is a dad that's trying to make the best out of a tough situation and a mom who is completely uncooperative.

[@topazblu6209]

Story 1: Mom should know better. Even if the brother went along with it, the topic would have likely come up at school or at some gathering with the kid's friends. Story 2: The cousin would not have survived if they were around my mom. Disrespectful? Rude? Thru the wall you go. She didn't play and the fact that neither of the parents put their foot down is ridiculous. Hope no one gives in to his auntie's request. Story 3: Is no one understanding the issue in OP's situation? He did explain that the baby sleeps in the same bed as he and his wife which explained why the baby wakes every time the mom left. So glad they reached a compromise and are putting the baby in an actual crib. Those YTAs weren't called for especially considering what the OP had been put through. Story 4: McD food will put an immediate target on you should you bring it home. Craving pancakes? Like me and my mom do, we cook some when we get home. She has kids and most kids I've been around love pancakes and waffles. The snapping at them caught me off guard but yeah that was harsh on her part and good on her bf for comforting them. Still enjoy your vids Mark. Hope you are doing well!

[@babybluehashyo]

The responses in your video about the stay at home mom are much more understanding than the others I've heard. There was so much mom blaming before. I'm glad people who actually know what they're talking about had their voices heard in the end. So many people think being a stay at home mom IS just sitting on their ass and watching tv.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Hi Mark! My AC went out yesterday and it will be 4 days before we can get someone to look at it. I also inhaled borax and vinegar mist cleaning my bathroom. But your singing in the intro has made my day sparkle. ❤

[@rseegraves]

3rd story - if the roles were reversed (she had to get up early and worked out of the house) I GUARANTY she would bitch you the hell out. I get so fucking sick and tired of people bitching people out because one wants to start sleeping at 2 or 3 in the morning and someone else wants to sleep at 9 or 10. It doesn’t sound like she’s not getting sleep, just making sure she picks at her husband for wanting to do so. Oh yeah, and commuting to work and working is such an escape… NTA!

[@jdd9993]

Tell your sister that she and her husband are responsible for their son's upbringing and subsequent behavior. If he can't act properly, he doesn't deserve to be a guest in your home.

[@SyadeHaan]

The McD mom sounds a bit overworked/burnt out.. Am I the only one getting this vibe?

[@Koji-Alistair]

People just love crucifying others for no reason

[@ipsitamazumdar4849]

Not the only one. There might also be issues with the bf, who helps but might be expecting OP to prostrate before him just because he feeds her ill-cooked food.

[@pshaw8406]

Being honest is more important than being married.

[@tzukaza]

story 3: nta thb, being a stay at home mom is usually a choice and yes i know being a parent is a job but its an UNPAID job, a job that makes money and accually puts a roof over your head will always take priority in my book and the ones doing it should have their sleep shcedule respected first and foremost

[@nancyspurlin7048]

My brother (and his wife) would order McD for themselves and their 4 year old son, then sit and eat it in front of their two older daughters (7 and 8). They would make the girls wait until they got home to eat a peanut butter sandwich. They made the girls clean HIS room and he has zero chores. They seem puzzled as to why he is now a worthy, lazy entitled adult.

[@cody.b0658]

Story 3. nta. OP is just trying to sleep. the people saying yta are kinda insane. OP is the one making money, OP deserves sleep. if it was me I would just sleep in a different room. if SO got angry at that I would remind her that I can't sleep in that room. If SO thinks that's wrong, you trying to sleep, then she is a massive a-hole.

[@chasethespongeking395]

They’re just entitled mombies and virtue signalers

[@someonewho]

All OP does say that he helps with chores!! Saying that bc he works, he shouldn’t mind is stupid bc he has a JOB. He has to appease other people and that’s hard to do without sleep. His SO doesn’t have to worry about anything and she is watching tv at night so it’s not like she can’t sleep.

[@honeybelle1203]

First story OP's sister is trying to push an agenda on her kid. That's not fair to the kid or OP, but honestly, this is also a great story to tell when arguing why proper sex and family dynamic education in school and at home is crucial.

[@fcold9402]

2. Why did you ever have him over. Absolutely not the ahole for having in your house.

[@songohan3321]

The Aunt is probably a Karen and you know how Karens are. Ten NOs won't be enough.

[@potatoempress5731]

Story 4 OP lacks empathy big time. I can't imagine treating my own kids like that holy waffles-

[@redditsloth7782]

On the 4th story i think everyone kinda sucks, op for their attitude towards their partner and their effort, the partner for being so pissy about op one time treating themselves and not thinking of others and the kids being really whiny about wanting the treats and crying about it(yes i know they kids but they sounded really entitled but this could all be biased writing from op's point of view though)

[@TortoiseNotTurtle]

Story 2 HAAARD NTA I THOUGHT THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT A 4 YEAR OLD CHILD NOT A 16 YEAR OLD

[@Martial_Autist]

Story 1 - "she thinks because we know her beliefs on marriage and all that stuff the least we could do is respect her enough to go along with it" But she doesn't respect you enough to not treat your perfectly acceptable life choices as something to lie about, something shameful or immoral to be hidden from sight and all in all not a valid type of family. She doesn't want her daughter thinking you and your SO are okay as you are, which tells you that *she* thinks you aren't. Even her beliefs themselves, not just how she treated you because of it, are not something to be respected because they cause her to look down on people like you. Tell her to go pound sand.

[@dune3001]

Story 4 - Calling your own children vultures?! WTF. She knew they would want it. Such a horrible attitude, smh...

[@luciegraham-cumming677]

16:19 love how happy you sounded about that double sausage and egg McMuffin 😅

[@crazyd0glady295]

Story 3 NTA. Dude is a tired dad and mom is the only one who can sooth the baby. If baby was just waking up to be changed or fed then I would understand but baby just up set by the lack of mom. If mom stayed asleep or just chill in the room baby would not wake up. A rule all of my family has lived by all my life. You wake to baby you take care of the baby.

[@arianafulford3171]

Hello! Love listening to your videos every afternoon! Thanks for the great content!

[@Russman67]

Story 4: I'm just in awe of the sheer level of assholery here. She hates her BF's cooking and openly brings home McDonald's to eat in front of her kids, while making them eat his cooking. At least dude is trying to hold it down. Why is she with him if she's going to cut him down like this?

[@AngelaVEdwards]

Especially if there will be children present. Things like that don't usually go well when children are around. She should have either eaten inside the McDonald's or eaten in the car. To bring that home and eat it in front of everybody was very much assholery.

[@jennyknopps1291]

@@AngelaVEdwards aren't we still in the middle of fussing PANDEMIC?

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 3: What's with all the YTA comments in the video? If she's staying up all night watching TV, then that means she's able to get some sleep during the day. Since the baby is, during the time she's watching TV, also asleep at that time, then wife needs to start sleeping at night when everyone else is. Yes, it sucks when you're a night person, but guess what? That's parenting. Not getting enough sleep could jeopardize the husband's (who has no choice when he works) job, and as the only source of income, he needs to not jeopardize that. If he were not helping out at all with the other kids or the house, that would be another story; but that's not the case.

[@KCCAT5]

Pancake story, Oh my God what a bunch of spoiled kids. When I was growing up my mom would buy herself roast beef sandwiches , we liked roast beef sandwiches but she would buy them so infrequently for herself she said they were hers it was her gift for herself and that we weren't allowed to have any. And we had to accept that. I swear kids today are so spoiled

[@maemae527]

16:12 Marks laugh here is so wholesome

[@canadalovesanime3137]

story 1: There is no need for the sister to demand the whole you have to be married to have a baaabyyy! She needs to go to counseling for her obsession about how relationships , and parenting really works. Sister can get over herself. NTA x 1000 story 2: I would say NOT a chance in hell. That kid needs a reality check, and therapy. Whatever aunty is doing for him clearly isn't working. She can't stand him, so she wants to pawn him off on OP and their parents? Tell her to deal with the monster SHE created. NTA story 3: The problem here is that if OP can't get proper sleep, it could affect his job. OP could get reprimanded for poor quality of work or worse, injured. Then what will happen to the baby. If OP isn't working there is no money to support the family. Is the wife going to get a job that can earn enough to support everyone and have OP stay home with the baby. Unfortunately there are some things that NEED to be considered. Maybe wife should find a mummy group that does "care sharing" so she can get a break, and not demand OP ruin his health when she is already up anyway. Parenting is a selfless job for BOTH parents, not just mum or dad. Part of parenting is providing financially for the family. At five months the baby shouldn't even be in the parents room, also at that age they shouldn't be that sensitive to the sound of wife getting up to leave the room. Is she slamming doors, or stomping around? This might be a case of parents who demand absolute silence in the house when "baby is napping". If that is the case, they have set themselves up for failure. NAH story 4: If she doesn't appreciate the effort the boyfriend is putting in, then she needs to step up and do it herself. Why is she even with this guy? Oh: wait; she's with him for the free childcare, catering, and probably maid service. If she doesn't want to share; she should have ate at the shop, or got enough for everyone. YTA x 100

[@Nihlus16]

Great, that McDonald's story made me super hungry. I'm going to go get me a big breakfast later---oh and also OP in story 4 is DEFINITELY TA. The way they spoke to those kids too---like??? It's very hard for me to fathom a loving parent talking like that to their own kids. I get they're tired and hungry, but damn that was just plain f---ing mean......

[@Doublemonk0506]

On top of that, there are other people who are just as tired and hungry, if not more tired and hungry that can behave themselves, so why can't OP

[@darkmask5933]

Husband/boyfriend doesn't get a pass either though for just walking away and letting the little ones beg for food like dogs. That bad behavior is the result of poor parenting from both of them. You don't talk to your kids like that, and you don't let them beg for food that doesn't belong to them.

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

Ikr?? Op literally called their kids “a pack of vultures”.

[@personman8734]

Seriously just eating the kid equivalent of a 5 star meal right in front of them and then having the audacity to insult your own children.

[@Nihlus16]

@@Doublemonk0506 , absolutely this! 😤

[@FreijaVanir]

Story 3- reddit did a reddit. She stays up late and sleeps late. How does she do that with the kids? Why is she watching TV at 2 am in the same room as OP, who is sleeping? She sounds awful.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 4: OP's BF sounds like he might be a Kevin when it comes to cooking. For some people, even burnt water isn't such a stretch. And those are the ones who at least realize that they have to put water in the pot before putting it on the stove and turning on the heat. There are people even more dangerous than that in the kitchen too. Those are the ones who set the boiling oil on fire and then try to put it out with water. And Mark, I know you want to give credit for effort. But the world would be a safer place if some people were never allowed to set foot in a kitchen under any circumstances.

[@Funko727]

Last story when you bring food back. Kids will always ask when you bring food back.

[@JJerseyGirl]

3rd story wife is a SAHM the husband has to go to work to support the family.

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 2: NTA. The fact of the matter is, this boy's parents completely dropped the ball when raising him. They didn't teach him right from wrong, manners or common courtesy. The boy was probably never told "no" at any time during his life. Either that, or that or he would pitch a tantrum and Mom would collapse and give in to anything he wanted. You don't do you kids any favours by catering to this type of behaviour. The kid is on the verge of adulthood, and he is not starting to realize that no one wants him around, and he will probably have a hard time figuring out why.

[@JR-zi4bj]

Story 3 - Did the "YTA" commentors read the same story that I did? And OP was even so open-minded and respectful in his responses. No, he's NTA for asking (on work nights) that his partner either: A) Allow him to sleep in another room B) Be quiet enough not to wake the baby C) Take the infant with her during her nocturnal activities It's 100% reasonable. I say this because, I did exactly these for my husband (he worked while I stayed home on paid maternity leave with our daughter for the first 12 months). Between breastfeeding, and, you know, not wanting my husband to fall off a building at work, or have an accident on his way home, it seems a little selfish not to try and help him get sleep. I also did 95% of the housework, because realistically, there was only 1-3 hours worth each day. Parenthood is demanding (and the pay is sh*t!), but these r/ responses are ridiculous. Scrolling down, it seems a lot of the waffle gang agrees!

[@bethanntay]

Story 1 nta She needs to get a job and they can split everything. I find being home and taking care of my children much easier then working.

[@RavenheartIndustries]

Story 3: wasn't there a story recently where the man had to wake up very early and was disturbing his wife and she was writing to ask if she was the butthole to demand he not turn on the radio when he woke up? she was NTA because she needed her sleep and it wasn't right to wake her because "it's just my routine". Well if you know the second the babe is gonna go off when you are not there how is that any different then turning on the radio? NTA but really confused by the YTA's on this one...

[@aaroneisenman6873]

because its a SAHM and god knows they can do no wrong/s Never mind that lack of sleep will cause issues with him at work thus potentially causing him to lose his job...all because she couldn't be bothered to grab her kid as she walks out the door

[@judyjohnson9610]

Not sure if we are thinking of the same one, but they legit had different work schedules, so the first one up should be quiet or sleep in different rooms

[@songohan3321]

It's because its Reddit.

[@momotaro1236]

I think it’s partly because they thought that he was overworking his wife so much that she had to make up the extra time at night.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

This is completely apples to oranges. Your work schedule is YOUR responsibility, not your spouse's. A child is both parents' SHARED responsibility. You don't get time off from a baby just because you have a job and if you don't like that you shouldn't have kids. Also, I remember that story and it isn't even close to this one. OP in that story literally just didn't give a fuck about the gf whatsoever; nothing he did was required for him to act like a functioning adult and him getting to work had nothing to do with her. Never have kids you giant chodes.

[@albertgongora6944]

I know this is going to sound weird for Story 3 but in my opinion I feel like people should actually see a therapist when they're dealing with situations like this instead of going onto the internet to just ask any random stranger with so many different opinions and you being called an asshole I mean I'm glad that this channel helps a lot of people realize when they're in the wrong or when the other people that are against them are the ones in the wrong and I find it amazing that this channel along with the sub-reddit itself helps a lot of people out in these situations but I don't understand why the Opie's in story similar to this one just don't ever think about going to see a therapist but instead would rather choose to just ask a bunch of people that they don't even know what their opinions are I don't know maybe that's just me because I feel like these are more private like situations were the person really should try to work this out by some form of counseling and it's not like they don't have friends and family members that should have different opinions and all that

[@putuananda1220]

Yeah i agree. And as you can see reddit is on drugs right now. Soo yeah it was a really bad idea

[@albertgongora6944]

Thank you for being cool with your comment and you know not being a jerk about it I really appreciate it but yeah I also agree with your comment as well because I didn't the thing I didn't like was the fact that you know yours is person asking for some advice and they really more or less sound like they need advice from an actual therapist for both them and their wife and maybe a medical professional for her sleep and I mean friends and family should get involved with them I get it but another good example of this was the story where this kid was talking about how his parents make him play the piano every time his parents threw a party halfway throughout the whole entire night and you know he decided the best idea would be for for him to use a tipping jar every time he had to play music that way he can have money set aside for college and I thought like that's not a bad idea I mean there's nothing wrong with that even though he did say his parents were rich and they can pay for the college but in my opinion The Tipping jar isn't just for college he could just also use that money he's got him from having to play the piano all those times at the party like if he's like walking home and he's like man I want a bag of chips or I want something to drink I think you know that's a good way to just you know have money set aside for yourself

[@JJerseyGirl]

2nd story either cousin needs therapy cousin is the monster his parents made.

[@mercenarycorp8019]

Story 2: Dennis the menace is is that you?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@Arylwren1]

Story 1: While the sister is TA for lying about her brother and his GF getting married, I can see how she doesn't believe in kids outside of marriage. Story 3: I absolutely hate when people dog pile on a working father for not being, in their eyes, supportive of a stay at home mom. OP doesn't say what he does for a living, but there are a lot of occupations where, if the person isn't well rested, it can be hazardous to not only them, but others around them. As for putting laundry in the dryer at 3am, OP did explain that his wife waits until that time of night to do that, she could easily do that before she goes to bed. OP also says he does help out around the house after work and all the commenters seem to gloss over that and just go on the attack. Escape to work? are you kidding me? also, depending on how young the kids are, mom can grab a nap when the kid nap. dealing with kid and a home is all about time management. Story 4: the BF burns the food and doesn't follow the cooking instructions. It almost sounds like he does this on purpose so OP will eventually take over cooking duties. While OP is a bit of a jerk, I can see how all they wanted was a decent meal after a 16hr shift without eating. Also, sounds like a good time for the kids to learn that no means no and they shouldn't get their way through whining.

[@leeberklin6427]

She works nights, for heavens sake. She's tired, hungry and grumpy. Why can't she eat what she wants at the spur of the moment?? Cut her some slack.

[@namayra299]

As a parent wouldn't you get something for your kids too when you're already buying some for yourself? Also yelling at young kids calling them vultures for wanting food? No matter how tired or frustrated you are you don't take it out on innocent little kids. It's not justified.

[@ЧекмареваЕлизавета]

Ugh... What? As a 20 year old who still live with her parents, i still call and ask if they want anything, if im grabbing food. Its basic fucking courtesy. You know, since I'm living with my FAMILY, not some random roommates. I could never imagine myself scarfing down fast food Infront of my literal fucking children, and then having the AUDACITY to call them "vultures" for wanting some of the food. You either buy food for all of the family, or you eat in the restaurant. What the OP did was down right cruel

[@namayra299]

@@ЧекмареваЕлизавета exactly! I can't even get takeaway just for myself to eat in front of my roommates. And those were her own kids!

[@geneticwolf8571]

for the last story really simple drive home and eat in the car, kids not aware of food, you are right there for going to sleep and no fussing

[@iliowahine19]

Story 2 I have a nephew(12) that's kinda like that too, he has to eat non stop(usually a form of candy/sweets) except at actual meal times, does not ask just takes. Usually get's new clothing wherever we go, always want new vans, video games etc. Thankfully he's been doing better but this is how he acts at his grandparents house(where I am usually) if he acted like this all the time I'd tell my sister to smack him upside the head a few times.

[@Monada79]

Story 2. Cousin needs a few weeks in prison.

[@lorenbell5701]

Story 4. Op is allowed to purchase food for herself. Honestly this culture that parents must share everything is simply crazy, it is not being neglectful. The children were not starving just wanted her food. I tell my children no all the time. I purchase stuff for me that i am going to enjoy to myself. Just because you are a parent does not mean you forgo all simple pleasures.

[@Doublemonk0506]

No one said she couldn't eat the food she wanted, they are telling her to not be such a jerk. She called her family vultures and she insulted her BF's cooking.

[@Koji-Alistair]

@@Doublemonk0506 That's because they are being vultures

[@Doublemonk0506]

@@Koji-Alistair, it is deserved, but it is super mean to say that, especially the younger the children are. Along with that, the food shows a bit that the BF's cooking is not appreciated, if her remarks at the cooking didn't already give off a warning signal

[@Tammohawk1]

1. NTA There's a huge problem with antiquated ideals. Getting others to continue to go along with them. Don't ask me to lie for you. I won't lie for myself, let alone you. 2. NTA What I want to know is this though. Why doesn't OP make the little cousin behave in their home? I've had kids in my home who try nonsense and I put a stop to it if the parents won't. Kids will behave in my home. 3. YTA It's difficult being a stay at home mom. Kids following you to the bathroom, having all types of accidents in the home, etc... 4. YTA You don't bring home anything from a fast food place when you have kids. Otherwise, you are asking for trouble. And if OP doesn't like the food her boyfriend cooks, yeah...

[@Koji-Alistair]

Great another sexist hypocrite

[@SerratedSun5841]

@@Koji-Alistair yup

[@simonO712]

3: It is indeed hard to be a stay at home mom, but so is being a working dad who does hos best to help out at home when he can. And, what he's asking her to sacrifice is way less than what she's _demanding_ he does.

[@Koji-Alistair]

@@simonO712 You see the thing is with Redditors is that they don't take the time to properly assess the situation. They just wanna pass judgment upon people without any thought about the problems that this person might be faced with.

[@joeyl9037]

Lol my aunt feeds her kids dang good, they get their own chips and soda. she still keeps her soda and chips in the trunk of her car and sneaks off to eat them so she doesn't have to deal with the kids wanting hers too. As a parent, it doesnt matter if you get the kids the same food too, if you want yours to yourself you're eating in hiding. Also, "Eau" is pronounced "OH" jist "Oh"

[@sirenvampire0721]

Parents that do that get on my nerves! My parents call or text me to ask if I want anything from a restaurant of any kind Also, they’re kids, they take things like op calling them vulchers to heart

[@ladyv5655]

Before the pandemic, I wouldn't get home from work until 9pm. My husband, who works from home, almost always had some dinner ready for me and I always tried to eat at least a little of it even though he isn't the greatest cook and I'm usually not very hungry at that hour. Why? Because I appreciate him and what he does for me. Sometimes I did have a hankering for some take out food, but when I did, I would call him on my way out and ask if he wanted me to get something for him. It's what couples who love and appreciate each other do.

[@telinhajp]

Good morning, Mark! Have a wonderful day! ❤️

[@darknessbobulus]

Story 3 is just reddit being mysandrist again, for all the reasons listed in this comment section.

[@Martial_Autist]

Not out of character for the aita sub unfortunately.

[@honeybelle1203]

Ok i'll bite, explain pls?

[@darknessbobulus]

@@honeybelle1203 plenty of comments already have, as I stated

[@wmdkitty]

No it isn't. The dude needs to learn how to soothe the baby. Period.

[@darknessbobulus]

@@wmdkitty The wife is already up until 3am. The husband is already asleep. She knows the baby is going to scream the moment she walks out. She is the asshole for just letting it scream while knowing full well it will wake her husband up. Lets reverse the genders. If it was the other way around and the guy was a SAHD who stayed up until 3am and let the baby scream and wake his wife up, everyone would be saying he is the asshole.

[@Cottontailart]

why didnt the op who got maccie d pancakes ring the boyfriend to ask if they had ate?

[@AngelaVEdwards]

Or just bring some home for everybody? How hard would that have been?

[@Cottontailart]

@@AngelaVEdwards I thought that too but by her attitude ringing first would have been better

[@reasonpeason847]

One that got my eyebrows raised in the third story is “you get to escape all day to work” as if that’s just time goofing off and having fun instead of, yaknow, a job with an actual concrete schedule. That if he misses his work or is careless from lack of sleep, he can get fired and suddenly he’s a horrible deadbeat father for not providing for the family if that happens. Whatever jobs these people have that makes it so nice and pleasant to be out of the house, I want one. I think I made the point when my mom said much the same thing and I said “oh so that’s what it’s like working here?” (we work at the same company so I see first hand how it drives her fucking NUTS and stresses her out all day as well as also having that job and having the same frustrations) Just because you don’t see him working all day doesn’t mean it isn’t work. If all wife would even have to do is put the baby down in another room instead of having to constantly have her in her arms, that’s also an entirely different expectation. I think the question is that if they already have kids and have gone through raising a baby, what is happening that is making this baby so different than the first two? I feel like op would’ve made the comparison to the first two and they would’ve already worked this out if that was the case.

[@condorboss3339]

Story 1: In the US, Canada, the UK, Australia and New Zealand, the fact that OP has been living with his SO for 9 years actually means that there are legal obligations they have to each other - it used to be called 'Common Law Marriage', but I think there are different terms nowadays. Nonetheless, OP and his partner do not want to go through a ceremony and the sister should accept that. The sister has lied to her daughter, which would have eventually caught up with her. At least your niece knows that her uncle and his partner are honest.

[@lorianabanana6066]

Story 4. My brother is severely autistic/profoundly handicapped & non verbal. Like many people on psyche meds he is ALWAYS HUNGRY. To the point where my parents have a combo lock on the fridge. He will eat himself sick if given the chance. And even tho the rest of my family is tiny hobbit people- he's a BIG dude and will eat everything in sight. He gives zero Fs about whose plate it is, who bought etc. He sees, he wants. Fin. Ontop of that he is obcessed w what I will call 'papers'. By this I mean anything printed or anything w a logo. Maps, pamplets, business cards, tri-folds and especially RECIEPTS. If he sees you with a bag, library books, food- whatever, he knows paperwork was involved and he WANTS it. Usually you can get it back after few hours, but for important paperwork it's just an oppertunity to lose or damadge it. So when I was still at home (I still spend alot of time there obviously) I ALWAYS snuck everything in. Food, clothes, paperwork etc. I would hide it under clothes if possible and just run for it. He always just knows I do this so he doesn't bother me AS much lol. But if you don't have food for everyone, especially kids or adults who don't get it- you do the right thing. You cram it in your face in the parking lot. OR you hide it until the kids leave for school. Like TF she think was going to happen?

[@purplepanda63]

For story 3 as a stay at home mom i don't expect my husband to get up at night. Its hell until that baby sleeps through the night but I would sleep whenever the baby slept and it wouldn't take much to keep the house clean. My daughters 3 and ill still take a nap now and then. Just get a chain lock for front door and make sure there's nothing dangerous laying around. Most of the time she'll just watch cartoons on my phone and if I'm lucky shell be asleep when I wake up.

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Hello Mark!! I hope all is well and I wish you a great night!!