Winning A Custody Battle - 3 Mistakes That Stop You From Winning A Custody Battle

[@reddblurr]

Isn’t it sickening that someone who’s never met the parents of a child, knows nothing about them or their lifestyle and has never seen or talked to the child decides their fate and how much a child should see both parents?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, Macafee. Thank you for watching. Hope you are staying well.

[@Ryukikon]

Its called having someone who is neutral and not ruled by emotion, so they can make unbiased decisions. That is the objective, does it work well in practice, currently no.

[@bnatural1518]

@@Ryukikon I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that these people are paid very well. So then they are ruled by money, not the best interest of the child. Drops mic

[@jasonsmith8210]

It should be 50 50 by default as the starting point. Courts are still enforcing laws from the 50s that were never updated to the modern age.

[@bnatural1518]

Paid by the county sure. So they have absolutely no interest in the health of the children. The kids need specialized parental alienation professionals involved. Not these worthless evaluators.

[@chynar1630]

It must be very hard on kids and parents to go through those kind of situations I pray for all those parents and kids🙏🤲🌷

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for your kindness to others during their tough moments.

[@ImmaculateheartAustralia]

Amen❤

[@maximusilive4theking986]

I went through a custody battle for my twin girls in so cal. Mom didn't want to give me joint custody but rather her have them and collect child support. I served her, went through mediation and then faced the judge and the judge granted me what I wanted, they were only 4 months old nd still granted me what i asked for. Soon enough she served me to reverse my rights, she lied and lied in her deceleration, our last judged past away so they assigned a different judge, again we went through mediation and faced the judge, the judge spoke to me only as she had a lawyer, ( both times) after she tried to talk the judge shut her up, yelled at her and once again I won my case. THEY are now 5 years old and I still have join custody, I don't know if it was luck, or things are changing now for men but I prayed and prayed and I believe God took part in what happend in that court room.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

maximus Ilive4theking, So glad you have a positive influence on your children and you are able to be a part of their lives.

[@comovivirsaludableme]

I believe it was God congrats

[@charlesleggett2546]

Congratulations. I'm trying to get custody of my son. He's 12 years old. His mother is an alcoholic.

[@d-dcay1783]

Or it was probably the fact that in family court you're not actually dealing with a judge you're dealing with a magistrate and magistrates have no power or jurisdiction to actually make a judgment. All they know is that every parent has rights and them not giving you those rights unless you're abusive to your kids the magistrate could get into some serious trouble. The magistrate is acting under color of law. Only an actual judge can make final decisions or judgments. The fact you didn't hire a lawyer probably helped you out a lot too. Being all lawyers take an oath when swearing in to abide by all FEDERAL LAW. Not constitutional law. Big difference in the two laws. When you hire an attorney you wave your constitutional rights and amendments. So it's never good to hire a lawyer unless they know some good loop holes.

[@reddblurr]

maximus Ilive4theking how did you form your declaration? I currently have joint but I’m going back for my 5 year old. Mother’s life is a wreck and I’ve got to get her out of the situation.

[@carlosmartinez8387]

The basic point is no one cares the judge don’t care everyone at the court don’t care so just look credible as possible.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Carlos the courts are a terrible place to solve family problems. I think the best we can do is stick to our principles and come through on the other side with our integrity still intact. Thanks for watching! DrPaul

[@carlosmartinez8387]

Live On Purpose TV thanks for responding I appreciate it.

[@talesoftheredpill7542]

Looking credible is not going to help you. It certainly didn't help me

[@carlosmartinez8387]

fathers rights unite now I’m sorry to hear that. Do you have any good advice for what to do now?

[@br4nd0n79]

Carlos Martinez good luck, and get a lawyer cause I lost badly with a good case with documentation behind it, also don’t talk about anything to anyone other than the judge. Everyone other than your lawyer is out to get you

[@cls5258]

What do we do when the spouse really is narciccistic and lies really really well. That scares me most. He is brilliant and can twist things so well that i dont even know what to do... Im left shaking and unsure how to prove that im being fully honest. :(

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

C LS, stick to your principles. Sometimes we have to accept that our job is not so much to "prove" that we are fully honest, as much as it is to "be" fully honest. We live with integrity despite what others may think or how they may characterize us. Best wishes to you! DrPaul

[@anm9059]

C LS learn to start keeping communication very simple, and to the point.

[@brittanymack6882]

Same here....

[@s.chariserandall7947]

C LS Watch "How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court and/or to Psychologist!" on KZbin kzbin.info/www/bejne/hF6vd5isoM6ijJY

[@strong4865]

everyone lies in court

[@wondernutts]

You responded with words of support to a comment I left a while back about a high conflict custody case. I want to let you know, I won my case.... at lease the closest thing to winning one can have. Your videos helped me remove my own selfish agendas from the case and only focus on my child. If it was good for my child, it was good for me I thought to myself.....personal issues with the ex I left off the table and never went down that road....she did....and just like you said.. it wasn't a good look. Your videos are invaluable to help those avoid destructive and non-constructive behaviors going through their cases. Your perspectives are worth so much more than money can buy. All people have to do is listen. Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

J B, I am happy for you. It is so true, all we can control is ourselves, not others.

[@jesseruiz4087]

Your video really helped i felt like ending my life because without my son there is no life and i saw no hope from any side no matter what my family said it didnt make a difference i really thought i wouldnt see him again but your video and your advice has given me a new look and motivation to go a fight for him. Thank you! You dont know this or might not read it but you saved my life and my family alot of pain

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jesse Ruiz, thank you for letting me know. There is always hope, I truly believe that. Sometimes what we are hoping for doesn't happen in the moment we want, but we get what we need. Thank you for being a part of our community. I look forward to hearing more from you.

[@sunshinesunshine2714]

Don't give up beautiful!! My ex is a narcissist child abuser , he won custody with lies and then took off to Arizona with our child . It's been 5yrs!! I found them and we go to court Jan 29th!! My faith is bigger then the devil!! #Justice4Justice

[@tatianadavis5927]

Did you win the case?

[@whatsgood4685]

The fact that these guys are so jaded makes me feel like they have screwed over a lot of parents. Thanks for the insight and honesty though

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What's Good, thank you for watching.

[@ariahblack6043]

Yessss

[@greenman5555]

Dealing with narcissistic parents vs accommodating parents.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Green Man, yep, big difference.

[@HaniMNasr]

Doctor Paul, I would appreciate it if you can consider the following two topics for future videos: how to discipline kids without getting in trouble with the authorities and how to encourage kids to take risks but keep them safe at the same time. Thank you in advance. I am more than blessed that I found your channel.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for the suggestions, Mohamad Hani. I will add the topics and consider them.

[@threeicys]

When a parent says "my child is not safe over there" it is valid more often then not. Nothing to do with pride. Courts are behind the times when it comes to protecting children. Too often it's about working the calander/managing the case and not what is the best interest of the child.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for commenting, Road Wonder. I believe we all wish the judicial system was better. The best interest of our children is in the best interest of our future.

[@Marwadear512]

I’ve known too many women lie by claiming their ex is abusive when he isn’t. Keeping a child from its father IS abuse and IS leading the child to feel unsafe in the world.

[@heatherschramm817]

What do you do when the other parent as a step parent allows the child and enables your child to talk bad about you on social media ?? How do you bring that up in court and how do you go about it ??

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Have copies of the posts so take screen shots and bring it up when appropriate.

[@londyyyy6565]

I'm losing hope. I just need my son to know he has a great mother who cares about his well being. I don't want him to grow up thinking he only had one parent. He has Two loving parents. They're hiding my baby 😞.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Your comment is so sad, Londy Yyy. Write letters to your son that hopefully he will be able to see one day. It could help you in the meantime as you do what you can to find your son.

[@isasauce7172]

The same is happening to me. I need help. I'm devastated.

[@lolastone767]

me too I just need my son I'm really scared of his well-being he's only ten miles away from me he's only eleven I have freaking done everything I've had show me lawyers it's unreal in the people have been paid off and s*** judges lawyers everything

[@shanababygirl5927]

@@lolastone767 same here i need to get my baby back

[@karenyang1637]

I’m currently going through the same thing. My boyfriend took my son and we’re not married. Cops said he is able do that but because he’s the father but the law says unless we’re married, I have sole custody. I just want my 9 month old son back home with his mommy.

[@tonylong-drew6547]

This is extremely good, this confirms that my lawyer knows what she’s doing in instructing me.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Perfect, I wish you well, Tony.

[@kaz2910]

Sounds like great advice However my ex partner is an emotional abuser and his game is to hurt me and in the process is hurting our son

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

The principles are around what we can personally do regardless of how other people act or treat us. Stick to the principles and you can come through this whole thing with integrity - no matter what he does. DrPaul

[@kaz2910]

Live On Purpose TV thank you

[@mamaknow8056]

The question states the child in affected in the mental abuse.. staying in principle does what in aiding the child in a positive manner as to not be affected from the abuse to other parent?? My child has been subjected to this situation for years. I have been without an attorney for 6 yrs. Other parent bullies every situation in opposition. Please help. You are appreciated thank you.

[@Kainmane]

@@kaz2910 stfu you hurt yourself by losing custody b**** except someone accountability lady

[@ixxgxx]

Roberto Mundo “If I’m hurt by my ex it hurts my child boohoo”

[@connorc4074]

Attorneys are the best actors.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Connor C, thank you for watching.

[@thetruthmessenger6358]

? what..... everything you have said my ex has done and I have gone through the FULL canadian court process including a full 5 day trial after 3 years. And nothing happened to the other parent and I am still being denied access. Despite a final order granting me regular parenting time and 6 weeks vacation time.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wow! I am not an attorney or licensed and familiar with Canadian Court. What does your attorney say? Can the other party be found in contempt for not following the order? Continue to reach out.

[@jursee33]

you hit the nail on the head with the cell phones and the games played where if the child/Teen doesn't get her/his way.........Hey Mom, Dad's being MEAN. Come get me. And she does. Then the mom tells the court the child is not comfortable at Dad's house because he's cooking something for dinner that the child does not want. But does the mom say that's the problem? No, she just says the child is "uncomfortable" and the judge says ok then. The father is a threat to the child. This goes on in MA courts, I never believed it until I saw it. How can the father get vindicated? He needs so much help up against the wall of coached children who's mother undermines all authority and uses visitation as a tool to torture him.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hang in there and stick to your principles, then you can come through this with your integrity intact no matter what happens on the other side of things. Look through the Positive Parenting playlist for some more ideas. I think you would also love the Parenting Power-up Audio Course that my wife Vicki and I just recorded. Get a free pre-listen here: parentingpowerup.com DrPaul

[@jursee33]

Thank you, I will!!!

[@deniselynn333]

How can we stop the other parent from filing for emergency custody/full custody shortly after each custody battle? Shouldn’t this be a red flag to the courts? How can this continue?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

If the laws of your state allow the filings, there is little you can do. Talk to someone who is knowledgeable with the laws of your state and see if there is something you can do. Thank you for watching.

[@steffanie8117]

Exactly what I'm going through what state are you from?

[@markstokes7110]

There is nothing you can do except spend 100's of 1000's to prove your innocence all for nothing in the end even when you are proven innocent...........family court is a billion dollar industry. The court cares about you personally the same way Mcdonalds cares about your health.

[@whitstone8784]

Exactly! I'm still fighting for my son but not my daughter I have my daughter so explain that one! It's b******* export a order on f****** b******* allegations and the judge that signed it recused himself so you explain to me how it's even legal that it still happening

[@starcityrc3298]

My Wife's Alcoholism tore our Family apart. She had sex with a drug dealer in my Bed when I was in the hospital with my sick Niece. I finally pressured her into treatment for her to relapse 2 weeks after graduation. Multiple Police calls on her drunk around the Children, CPS, etc. She has been charged with Child Abuse twice. Convicted of Shoplifting alcohol last year. She just recently got Domestic Assault against me. I have a Protection Order now. It got to a point where I volunteered a CPS case. Now she is filing for Divorce??? Her lawyer is trying to paint me as a Domestic Abuser. I think I have a good case

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish you the best. Hope you have everything documented and are working with an attorney.

[@mirrorflame1988]

Thank you for talking about this. This is very important!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're welcome Mirrorwarrior - just today I wrote a letter for a good friend who is involved in a custody battle. The court is a terrible place for solving family problems. Hoping we can all get back to true principles! DrPaul

[@karissaexplainsitadhdstyle]

Thank you for the help! It's scary going into court alone and your tips made me feel a little more confident. Do you have any tips for representing yourself when the other side has a lawyer? It is pretty intimidating knowing the other side has much more knowledge and experience about the procedures and laws when you are just starting to learn about all of it. I really appreciate your help!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Karissa, it can feel intimidating. Present your information with a calm face, calm body, calm voice. Don't allow yourself to be tipped over.

[@michellemoffitt9715]

I'm right there with you. I'm pro se for myself as a defendant.

[@VictoriaMarch13]

Me 3 😢 but mine is my mother has my 14 year old and has decided she wants to keep him and has been filling his head with lies and coaching him. I have had addiction issues in the past but they're using it against me now. I have 3 younger kids and now I'm just in defense mode trying not to loose them.

[@michellemoffitt9715]

@@VictoriaMarch13 same!!! Awww.

[@Sashasashas-qz9kl]

​@@michellemoffitt9715 can u explain what u meant? can u help me any tips would be great, did u win in court??

[@ReenyNY]

Simply put, dont be a vindictive jerk. Be nice.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

In a nutshell, you are right, ReenyNY. Thank you for commenting.

[@cyndismith4939]

So hard to be nice when my sons' father is trash talking about me infront of our son and myself. I'm pretty sure my tongue is shorter and my blood pressure is higher.

[@tramarthomas6105]

@@cyndismith4939 Big oof for you

[@stefbowie]

The process for getting custody when the child resides out-of-state. Finding a lawyer and good consultation along with what documents or info will be needed.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Terrific Friend, thank you for the suggestions. I have added them to the production list.

[@stefbowie]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you so much. We are actually trying to begin this process so I should have posed it as a question.

[@mccauleyprop]

Thanks for posting this, very informative!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hope it helps! DrPaul

[@tankatomicmccallum4348]

this was very awesome. I'm going through something similar to this and it feels good to hear these words. I'm glad I didn't do mentally some of the things I was beating myself up for. It's so crazy how manipulative people can get with this. And I was just saying the other day it seems like it has nothing to do with the child it's just about greedy people trying to get leverage or power over someone else that they're no longer with. Thank you so much for sharing this

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tankatomic MCCALLUM, honored to be on your team.

[@Cacathecow]

Thank you for the video. What should I do when the other parent lies about how much time they have the kids?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Annie Lin, I am not sure who you are needing to get this information to. I guess, keep a record and let your attorney know, they will know how to use the information.

[@nightmareTomek]

Wow reading these comments makes me sad, this world is truly selfish. My partner hasn't the right to see my child? And how about the rights and feelings of the child, does anybody care about that? Does he have the right to see his/her father/mother?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish more people would stop, get out of their own selfish way, and realize as you so skillfully pointed out that our adult choices affect our kids - sometimes in a very profound and life-altering way. Thank you for being a conscious parent! DrPaul

[@sidunrau7880]

If by "partner" you mean non-biological step-parent (married or not), then no - the partner has no right to see the child. Only biological or adopted parents have "natural legal rights" to see the children, and vice versa. Others (grandparents and other significant adults) may be able to obtain a court-order to establish some derivative rights for visitation. The specifics of each case greatly influence the possibilities. "Best interest of the child(ren)" is a legally-defined term, not a common sense term - and certainly not a child's perspective term (although there is typically an attempt to take the child's perspective into account).

[@aleasharowe2551]

Agreed. Their focusing on their feelings. What’s best for all children is to have both parents in their life (given they are good parents). The Bible says to settle outside of court for a reason.

[@brandymoore7191]

I’d love to hear more of your advice ...especially when the police chief is your husband’s cousin, and the judge is his golf partner. I maybe no one special, but I’m confident that I can tell you a horror story you’ve never come across.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't understand how someone hasn't had to recuse themself from the case, Brandy Moore, but I believe you. Some pretty unfair things happen.

[@KJ-gx7bg]

You sound like me, my ex father was an officer, so he’s cool with the chief, the damn judge used to be his attorney for several years even recused himself and still made a decision on my emergency custody….remind you I have a restraining order on my ex for attacking me while holding out son and did I mention he has 3 open felony cases and restraining order violations and walking around free and dictating if I can move for me and my childrens safety I hate it here!!

[@energeticflows7055]

Love all your videos Thank you for your education and inspiring words

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

najma m, my pleasure.

[@MissSaraJan3]

The lord knows we would not have to be here, preparing for the worst and hoping for the best... IF THESE PEOPLE WOULD JUST REMOVE THE EX ASPECT🤯 remove your pride and be selfless, work as a team

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sara Jane, it always works out best when parents put the kids first and themselves second.

[@Xjamiedean]

You've said the wisest words yet. Keep it up

[@anjelawilliams6012]

Very helpful and informative information.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you liked it, Anjela.

[@helena3631]

Remember no one wins when the family fued

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

YV-HE W, and when families come together, so much can be gained.

[@haroldflowers8182]

steve harvey does

[@LivingBGLegend]

My daughter deserves so much more family

[@bryanfrye8770]

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[@WithLoveAshley]

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[@Lum333_m]

Something judges and all professionals in the family court MUST do is educate themselves on cluster b personality disorders! Hellooooo Specially on how it affects children!!! It’s urgent!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hear you, Olma2013, thanks for commenting.

[@Lum333_m]

Live On Purpose TV thank you!!

[@keriachaos]

I'm not in a custody battle, but my fiance is and I'm trying to be as supportive as possible because his ex wife is trying every way possible to take more time away from him. She is "disabled" yet goes on many trips that would deem her not disabled but anyways, she is very manipulative and will say anything to get her way and even so she goes to court with a walker and literally doesn't use one at any other time. I just wish it was a perfect world and they could both get 50/50 custody. He's an amazing father and I'm not bashing her one but, she is a good mom! She just makes things more about herself by trying to tale more and more time so she can feel like a winner. It's sad...I wish that things were better. Rant over

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Appreciate the rant Keira - thanks for watching and for thinking. You might find some helpful stuff in our Positive Relationships playlist here on the channel. Honored to be on your team! DrPaul

[@talesoftheredpill7542]

Keira Kagay please tell him to make a Constitutional argument under the 1st Amendment of the RIGHT to the care and CUSTODY of the child, it is an adjudicated FACT, look up the Supreme Court rulings. If he listens to an attorney he will get screwed. The statistics PROVE IT. also, tell him NOT TO CONSENT to child support, it is fraud and a violation of his rights. I'm not saying not to support the kids, I'm saying the government or a 3rd party debt collector has no right to make you pay.

[@talesoftheredpill7542]

Please go to my channel and learn how to properly fight for your Fundemental Right to the Care AND Custody of your Children. Give to Rick W channel if you are having problems with Child Support. He has a GREAT CHANNEL and is helping fathers fight the fraud the court commits on you.

[@shervinchakoslavaki4859]

1 Click on any sentence to rephrase. My ex violated the court order constantly, and she was in contempt three times. She received no penalty except 30 days in jail suspended in the future. She at the end of the first trimester and violated the court order due to her pregnancy and her doctor note it is in the best interest of her to not drive long distance with no reason mentioned. Is this reasonable that father does not see his child for 8 months.?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't know everything going on, do what you can to see your child even if that means you do the traveling.

[@jayneri1902]

QUESTION HERE: My wife and I just separated few months ago,. and after a month or two, i was just wondering why my daughter keeps telling me Im a liar, and dont want to talk to me anymore and in times i tried to met them she dont want to come near me. she's 7year old now. How do i know if they are brainwashing my daughter?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It sounds like someone is talking to her, Jay Neri. If you are going through a custody issue, your daughter can be evaluated.

[@itoddforbes]

@Jay- its already happening. the right thing, which is also the hardest thing, is to continue to make contact and don't engage in the fight with her and tell her if she ever has any questions about you that she should talk to you. This is going to be a long haul. prepare yourself. watch video "finding pluto".

[@ineedatbitch]

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[@veronikaandreeva5959]

If the mother says the actual story of relationships is not brainwashing is being truthful to the child.

[@righttoexplain]

These guys know their stuff!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Ni Willis. We have a lot of experience between the two of us.

[@righttoexplain]

Absolutely. I watched a good ten of your videos and everything you say is true. Your advice helped me win my custody case that has so far lasted four years. I also have alot of experience dealing with social services and court over the last 32 years myself. Thanks so much. @@LiveOnPurposeTV

[@justinbates3399]

In a battle for my children right now an I’ve been hearing so many things it you both cleared a lot of my misunderstandings thanks and this is so tough but I’m just trying todo what’s right for the kids and thanks again

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Justin Bates. I'm honored to have you at the channel. We have more on our child custody playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Best wishes to you and your children.

[@Jesse-gv9tf]

Can you do a video on NOT wanting custody, getting out of child support and alimony.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Very interesting request - I'll give that one some thought. Thanks for watching. DrPaul

[@mamaknow8056]

Janahreturns agree to sole custody for other parent

[@justonolson7936]

How do you win a child custody battle if the reason the child likes the other parent more is because they are more lenient and give them more freedom so the child gravitates towards that?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Good questions, Juston. Your child must be older and therefore have some input. Continue to love the child, no matter what and even if...

[@JoMagic-ny8zu]

Yea my ex is best friends with our sons and let's them do whatever they want. Even to smoke those medical pens and other blunts. So I'm labeled as the boring , no fun guy parent. Because I want them to be responsible and be successful... She is a narcissist and is using my boys to be on her level of a ignorance..🤪

[@fishautawater73]

@@JoMagic-ny8zu i dont think that constitute being a narcissist.

[@donscalf8850]

Their should be counseling for parents going through child custody...mandatory...because the system is very flawed.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Don Scalf, Agreed. I hope it happens.

[@ryanworthington6346]

I think people get so caught up in how mad they are or how much they hate the other person now that they aren’t together, they don’t even think about what’s best for the children only how they can hurt each other.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ryan Worthington, I have seen some instances where I thought the same. Such an emotionally charged situation, it can turn the nicest man or woman into a different creature while they are going through the process.

[@ryanworthington6346]

Live On Purpose TV I have children with two mothers and mom 1 didn’t start taking me to court until two years after splitting up because I was with mom 2 and she got pregnant. She took me to court 5 times to modify the custody agreement, each time over the pettiest of things and within 3 months of the last agreement we made in court she actually started asking me to take the children more often until she actually let them come live with me because of her work schedule and they wanted to spend the time with me and not a babysitter. The whole time going to court she tried to say how terrible I was and I just went in there calmly everytime and talked straight to the judge and did everything that was asked of me and in the end not fighting worked out for me.

[@emexduzentos]

Custody is a term used to mean possession (of an object) with no attachment relationship. Human beings are not objects and men should fight for PARENTHOOD, even against the state. Man up fellows!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Good point.

[@wabacake9937]

My dad is going against my mom in court. I REALLY don’t wanna go back to my moms house so I’m hoping my dad wins custody 😔

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Melody, good luck to you!

[@Orophile_303]

How old are you? At 14, they may ask you who you want to live with.

[@wabacake9937]

lunar limit. I’m 13 turning 14 in November 😗

[@wabacake9937]

April Duckworth thank you 🥺

[@lienbijs1205]

@April Duckworth You have to be careful what to say to a child, always be neutral in such cases because you never know if there is parental neglection going on.

[@Barb0618]

My daughter is 14 years old and 9 months old, her dad doesn’t keep up with visitation time and he blames me that I keep him away from seeing our daughter. I don’t play mentally with my daughter like that, he abandoned her off and on he won’t call or text her for every few months. Last time he practice parenting time was July 2018 about a small argument. And he told her he will not pick her up anymore. Than few months later he texted her HI!!! And she didn’t reply back I asked her just say hi she said not right now I don’t feel like, I left her alone and have her the space. Few months later he texted again on her birthday he said happy birthday. She didn’t reply back and I asked her why she said I have no feelings for him as a dad. She said I’m not happy him, he doesn’t do one thing for me that I like to do or to buy. She said he’s always yelling. I know she not making things up bcuz I lived with him and how much he abused me and even when I was pregnant with him, he would abuse me, is that true yes it’s true. He is a very heavy alcoholic drinker. And he would drink and drive with me same thing he did with our daughter, and she said even his girl friend use to tell him can I drink since u had few alcohol drinks he would yell at her. I hired private investigator during visitation time. I took it to court and they gave him warring no drinking alcohol during visitation time and our daughter said he still drinks and drive with me. But I couldn’t afford to hire private investigator I told talk to him about it he said our daughter is lying and she swore that she was not lying. On December 2020 he filed a case to go back to visitation time the judge gave him every other weekend besides asking him this is last time I want to see this case in my court and keep up with visitation time. Now the problem is our daughter is overwhelmed and doesn’t want to to spend the night at his house. I told him reduce the visitation time till she gets adjusted to this again bcuz u keep abandon her for long time. He went and filed show case that I’m not allowing her to go which I didn’t. He picked her up during visitation time and she didn’t ride with him. She said I’m not happy to come with u. Any advice? Please thank u.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Have your daughter write out her experiences and feelings on her own. Then if you need to go to court, she can go with you and answer questions.

[@Barb0618]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV ok I’ll do that. Thank you for all you do. 🙏🏼

[@kubemaster]

This guy looks like bizzaro Christopher Walken.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching, kubemaster.

[@RaychelLouderback]

Omg he does

[@lydiahubbell6278]

My child is allowed no contact with me.She is 10. Her dad and I successfully co-parented for 5 1/2 years, went to court, lied like the devil. I said if they give him primary custody, he would cut me out. He did that. Nobody cares about him committing perjury. I am going into 6 years fighting for my daughter to be free to enjoy close and continuing relationships with both parents again. I have no animosity towards her father. I can't believe how he has manipulated the court. He had a lawyer from the start and I didn't. My daughter basically got sole to the highest bidder. I followed court orders I didn't believe should have been issued. I trusted the system. I treated others the way I wanted to be treated. My daughter's dad gets away with all kinds of terrible things and our judge is biased and interfering with my appeal of her order.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lydia Hubbell, the only thing we can control is ourselves and it sounds like you are clear on that. Thank you for commenting.

[@GardensoftheAncientsHerbal]

Well unless you have legitimate proof of a palpable danger.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Nate Shiz, safety is always first.

[@xanderbeston4337]

What to do if I win joint custody and not even 3 months later the mother moves across country abandoning the children and court order.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Xander Beston, sounds like you can move or take her back to court. Talk to your attorney and see what your options are.

[@brendaabruzzese1377]

Some parents follow the rule of the court.the kid is truly in danger, and wind up dead by the other parent, you two make it out to be a joke,some custody cases are TRULY serious!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

These cases are the minority and there are signals but can't always be seen. It is tragic.

[@jessecoronado2414]

Hello, I was wondering what about if the mother does not support the child financially. I have other issues like her not living w him, but she is stuck w making me pay her child support, which I don’t mind doing, but I feel if I am more financially stable & she has no income for the last 5 years, how does that look on my end? I can support my child & take care of him but her not supporting him as well doesn’t sit well w me

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching, Jesse Coronado; I understand your concern and wish I could help you. However, I am unable to give specific legal advice as my expertise is in psychology. Please seek answers from a lawyer - they are more familiar with child support issues.

[@Noname-613]

So what do I do when my ex-wife has alienated the kids from me ? And it’s been 1 month since I have spoke to them. How do I continue child support when we aren’t communicating?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

j nolasco, I am not sure if you are talking financially or emotionally. You have a financial obligation to support your child. The situation may be temporary. Try sending them cards or texts or emails letting them know you are thinking of them and open to talk. It may take a while for them to respond. Don't give up.

[@antonioquijas8033]

Thank you for your advice. It helps me refocus. I understand the power of love and it's a definite better choice to view circumstances from a different. You guy's have inspired hope. Than you for your great advice.. God Bless You Gentlemen.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Antonio Quijas, we are honored to be on your team.

[@RunningWithTyler]

Document everything and take the high road with your ex. Don’t be petty or spiteful- do what’s best for the kids

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

ALWAYS have your motivation be in the best interest of the child, HeyJude2018.

[@robertsanderson1172]

It is so hard to prove what these Narssist really do Hopefully all my texts and documentation .Helps my Son Round Number 2 wish me luck.

[@lisachampney8828]

How does custody work if the child is under the age of 1. Also has been physically abusive to the father. Should the father go for joint or full custody??

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lisa Champney, these are questions that are best understood if you talk with an attorney. They know the laws of your jurisdiction.

[@lisachampney8828]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you

[@FranciscoMeza]

Can you make a video of when one parent uses the law to gain advantage for child custody, like a temporary restraining order filled with false allegations? How does that work in a child custody evaluation?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Francisco Meza, that tactic is used way too often, the first one to strike out with affidavits. After a while it is shown to not have standing.

[@meredithreeb1954]

Help. In California. Fled texas due to domestic violence and now reside with family here. Both states have cases open and going. There are criminal charges pending here in ca. How can I follow conflicting orders between the states

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Meredith reeb, this is where it gets tricky and you will need legal advice to help navigate the murky waters.

[@TheVinegarden]

When my husband and I divorced ( and it wasn’t a pleasant separation) I’m so grateful that regardless of how much either of us were hurting we put the love we had for our children, first. We were not going to allow a court to decide how much either one of us would see our own children. We did have a schedule, but it was flexible. There was never a “ no, you can’t go with dad today, it’s not his day” BS. We used a mediator, not a court and I wish more people had that option or went with that as a solution. Our boys are grown now and have thanked us up and down for managing things as we did. Now that we have grandchildren, I’m so thankful we can attend family gatherings together ( I’m remarried) and our kids and grandkids don’t have the uncomfortable task of having two events and can enjoy their entire family.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Marcia Horn, it can work. So glad you have this figured out and it isn't awkward for anyone. It can be done.

[@TheVinegarden]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV oh, sometimes it can be awkward, but we get through it.

[@17thwhiteprince]

That's awesome

[@shervinchakoslavaki4859]

I wish I could do it, My ex just does anything to harm me. I changed a job 4 times already and it is very hard to go back to the tract and getting a job again.

[@toridmartin9488]

If a child is16 just up decide to move to her without telling the parent she lives with us on her lease enrolled in school. What are my option to get her back home

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You can contact the authorities, Tori Dmartin. The rules vary according to where you live. You might be able to bring her home.

[@toridmartin9488]

Thank u

[@jerseyallen8939]

My issue is I've never been married and my kid's mom doesn't want me to see nor have my kid at all for any reason and I've never done anything for her to be acting like that. I'm in ohio and it's a mom state even if they're on hard drugs. The system here is the worst in the world. I'm worried the judge will be a woman and we know how that goes(never fair) plus her family knows everyone in that little town.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope you get a chance for a fair hearing. Children benefit from the presence of both parents in their lives, good question.

[@CooleeBravo]

Basically judges don’t care about context. Irony. This man said “Yes you have rights but”. So the rights don’t matter 😂😂

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Just trying to show the best way to frame your case, Coolee Bravo.

[@CooleeBravo]

Live On Purpose TV yeah I know but if the rights don’t matter we all just playing one big ass game of Appease The Random Person Who Decides The Fate of Everything lol I just think it’s funny how context plays no part in courts. Not even just custody cases. Lol

[@justmeandthethree]

This is great advice! I have heard so many horror stories about disastrous divorces. My ex and I consulted an expert on how to prepare our children for the breakup. We also used third-party mediation, and that made a HUGE difference. We saved money, and we remained civil. Too often lawyers tell their clients not to talk with their spouses or do any negotiation on their own. I think that is a huge mistake to cut off our conversation and communication. Attorneys look on a divorce as a battle to be won rather than a puzzle to be solved. My ex and I still argue about stuff, but we don't FIGHT about it. We also try to remain flexible with respect to vacation and family gatherings. And, we put the well-being of our children first.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Just Me, I am so glad to hear that you and your ex have found a way to remain civil and put your children first. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

[@justmeandthethree]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I think it also helped that we divorced before we hated each other. But, mediation helped us remain focused and civil. Many times I thought the mediator was biased in favor of my ex-wife, but she thought he was biased in MY favor so I think that means he was doing his job correctly.

[@signyupz6921]

The personal space displayed here is uncomfortable. But, the advice is valuable.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Signy Upz, thanks for the feedback.

[@nickywaggs8672]

The first rule is why my ex lost custody. She moved with our children, 1,250 miles away. I didn’t see or hear from the kids for 74 days. I hired an attorney and she had to fly back for court. The judge switched custody. It was the best day of my life.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Congrats. Sounds like things are looking up for you.

[@nickywaggs8672]

Yes we had court orders in place. Hire an attorney and bring her to court. She’ll have to answer why she moved them away from their father.

[@MeetJackBlack]

I know of a situation where the kids were afraid to go back with one parent, due to their heavy handed tactics in disciplining them (excessive yelling, swearing, and threats). Not spending time with the kids, and asking things like if they preferred play time with that parent, or for said parent to cook and maintain the home for them. And, also, for allowing their significant other authority over the kids, to yell at, make disgusting jokes (mocking things the kids love), and to be involved in correcting them. The parent I know withheld the kids, after one of the children expressed desires to self harm. All kids said they didn't want to go back there anymore. After a while of withholding them, the kids started to miss their parent, though there were phone calls allowed between them. Now, my friend has hired a lawyer and started the process for court involvement, but is afraid to send the kids back beforehand. And courts are very backed up because of Covid. They fear retaliation, either on them, or on the kids, for having spoken up to people about the issues. The kids aired their grievances to counselors and CPS. It seems that things are trending to trying to maintain shared custody. A very hard situation to watch unfold. And the stress is slowly killing my friend.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jack Black, I am glad you are there for your friend as they navigate this stressful time. Sounds like the kids are old enough to speak up and hopefully they will continue to do so throughout the court hearing.

[@shanda822]

Thank you guys for the video! It has given me a better insight for how I can regain sole custody of my child. Can you guys do a more in depth video on custody situations like this but involving a relative that has the child instead of the other parent?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Shanda Mickens, it is pretty much the same, I don't think there is a whole video there, thanks for watching.

[@a4yster]

Here is a peculiar case for y’all. -Frankies son is now 9 and only recently learned that Frankie is his real father. -Frankie been paying alimony all this time. -State of Texas ruled that Frankie is to have his son for the weekend twice a month. -Court of the glorious state of Texas has no power over the Republic of Belarus, where the mother took off to 8 yrs back. - Frankie can’t enter the aforementioned republic, because ex nullified his parental rights in the court of Belarus and Frankie can’t obtain anything but a tourist visa which would be lying to the visa officer of Belarus.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

This is a tough one, a4yster. I wish I could help you with this, however psychology is my profession. I worked as a custody evaluator for 13 years, but came at it with a psychological perspective. Best wishes to you.

[@a4yster]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV IT is a tough one indeed. I wrote this primarily to show that sometimes situation is so dramatic and unusual that all you can do is help that dad to calm his pain. After learning what happened to this man, I went online and learned that this problem (separation by border) is not unique. There are many cases where both dads and moms lose any ways to contact their kids due to international kidnapping by the spouse.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

@@a4yster That is very sad and unfortunate.

[@doreengalea7329]

I would like to give a big Thanks for your Beautiful video clips i am sure that it would be a big help we re going thru this right now with our case of my grand daughter i will take your advice i am sure it will be a great help for us

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are so welcome, Doreen Galea, good luck.

[@MrClone]

I am looking for help with this issue. I now have over 6 years about of proof of my ex wifes deliberate attempts to keep my from seeing my daughter. We had a court order, that she refused to follow, which I have proof in the form on text messages, emails, online communication through our family wizard, and talking parents. The problem is my income has been such, because I lost in court to reimburse costs that were already denied 2 times prior, because I had no paperwork on that date due to my 1 lawyer I had enough money for to hire, refused, and still will not give me copies of my file, which pissed the judge off cuz he thought i was lying I guess, that I can not afford a lawyer now, and it has built up to a massive financial burden to even try to get help from any service or lawyer just to fill out papers. All I need is a pro bono lawyer that will help me fill out the papers as now I am so overwhelmed I am not sure where to start. It is insane the amount of times she refuses to follow the order, I filed contempt charges years ago but did not fill out the paperwork right and her lawyer demur it and it got thrown out. I went through 5 supervisors trying to get her to show when court said I needed to do 10 visits. She refused to even respond to them for over 18 months, in which my old lawyer has proof. I hope anyways. I have evidence she lied on court papers to get a TRO, lied about why she did not come to visits or why people could not supervise anymore, she bribed me at one point to sign away my rights. I have begged pro bono services to help with no one returning calls or not getting back to me I am guessing because it has just become a mountain of issues. I know for a fact though if she loses the contempt, which with all the proof I have I do not see it possible for her to get out of this, I can get lawyer fees, and she makes more then enough money. I am here because I am desperate. Please any help you can give I will take or advice. Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am not an attorney, Mr Clone. I do want you to be able to see your daughter. Don't give up and make sure your daughter knows you want to see her but don't say anything bad about her mom.

[@raymondssmallmotors1279]

My ex n i broke up when she was pregnant with our daughter. Soon after she moved a lot and I could not find her for 4 years. I had to hire a pd to find her. Now she told the judge I abandon my daughter. Can she get me for that?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Raymond, this is just another example of how things can get really crazy in these custody cases. This sounds like a question for your attorney. In the mean time, stay connected to principle and don't let the craziness pull you out of integrity. Best wishes! DrPaul

[@sidunrau7880]

Not enough info to give you a Utah-oriented legal opinion. Based upon what you stated, the answer should be no, unless you were more complicit in the non-contact than you allude to.

[@mikekerr9172]

Hey Rocketman, my ex did the same thing to me. They both just vanished without a trace. A co-worker of mine, told me that my daughter is in the same class as his kids. I went to the school to find out what was going on, they wouldn't let me see her, because the moms boyfriend at the time was listed as my daughters father. The next day I was served a RO by the police on the grounds that I was stalking my daughter by going to her school. That was the beginning of the nightmare that robbed me of my daughters childhood.

[@johnbeechy2913]

What is the outcome when the wife gets alcohol the under age but she wants full custody of stepchildren when those were the ones that she did give alcohol under age?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am not sure, John Beechy. Not a good thing for sure, don't know the whole story.

[@johnbeechy2913]

Live On Purpose TV she filed faulty things against me of domestic violence and proven to be true. She wants to do a legal separation just not a devorce.

[@gabrielagamero7677]

What about the one parent harass the other parent while droping off the baby from the one parent house? The one parent doesnt say anything but just stay quiet

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sometimes being quiet is the answer. Sounds like the other person is looking for a reaction to maybe use against them. Remember, the child is the important one in the relationship. Try journaling to work out the thoughts you wanted to say or when it is happening, think to yourself, this amuses me. Let me know how it goes, Gabriela Gamero.

[@tinagonzalez9317]

What do I do if I know that there is domestic violence in the other house in front of my kids where it goes as far as a knife being involved? My children come home and tell me how there's constant fighting. I told the cops, my lawyer, the law guardian but for some reason if his girlfriend won't admit to it (which I know she's scared because I was to when I was with him) they can't do anything because there's no proof. My kids keep telling me but I feel helpless. I'm their mom and I should protect them. But no one can help me. They keep telling me but won't tell anyone else because they say their afraid of their dad. Without their testimony and his girlfriend's testimony they can't help me. It's just hard to constantly hear it and I can't do anything. What do I do?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tina Gonzalez, this is one of the hardest situations that I can imagine for a parent. Get clear on what you can and what you cannot control. Be there for your kids, like you are. Listen to what they have to say and be empathetic. The time will come when the girlfriend or the kids will decide they have had enough, it happened with you. This is difficult.

[@tinagonzalez9317]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you. If I know my ex husband like I know him he'll mess up but I'm just afraid that the situation will be really ugly by the time I can prove anything. Thanks for your advice. I really appreciate it!!

[@alexandercaruso2889]

actually watching all these videos for research for a chapter im writing for a book im working on

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hope you find them helpful Alexander - thanks for watching! DrPaul

[@queenvero157]

Great but justice is not equal

[@sandilakesglow]

I'll contribute my story.

[@ineedatbitch]

I would love to help

[@HarveyKlee]

This may be true in the US. This approach doesn't matter at all in the UK. After told these secrets by judges in hearings and witnessing the law degree level of professional gaslighting by barristers and social workers over many years of court cases, I'll share it with you. In the UK the welfare and best interests of the children involved in the case aren't really of any importance. The court secretly puts the resident parent at paramount priority. Their logic is that the happier the court makes her, the less distressing and traumatic she might be against her own children. Also the longer her false allegations are entertained the more money all the key law professionals, witnesses and court appointed child service makes. Whichever parent is happiest to steal money from their children to give to law professionals the better they fair in UK courts. So even though preference is favoured for abusive resident mothers the Father could potentially be the family destroying plotting resident parent. Child abuse in the UK is a multi-billion pound industry for family law courts maximising profit while minimising do diligence

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for sharing, unfortunately the problem is world-wide.

[@LG-sj6nj]

Dealing with a narcissistic parent in court would be a good help

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Got it and I have had this request. Some personalities are more challenging than others. Thanks for the suggestion, elizabeth ramirez.

[@jamesricker9156]

I can tell you from experience that how you phrase this to yourself and others makes a big difference. Your ex may be Narcissistic. However, they are still your child's parent. make your focus on your child having two parents, always. "Exposing" them by pointing out their flaws (saying things like dangerous, self absorbed, abusive) is the type of game they are OK with playing because they are likely much better at it than you. It takes the focus off of where it belongs.

[@WizardofGOP]

Or borderline personality disorder. Pathogenic parenting sucks.

[@kerriscoville5773]

I would like to see a video about that on hes purposely going against our pantle agreement in the custody order

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'll put that on the topic development list, Kerris Scoville. Thanks for the idea.

[@oncewas37]

Can ya'll do a video on grandparent intervention in child custody cases. I ask this because I am a grandparent doing this now or rather trying to, we raised our granddaughter for 41/2 yrs and the father had nothing to do with her not a phone call not a Christmas card nothing he lies to the court his lawyer n gets emergency custody its a big mess that an 8 year is having to deal with he had absolutely isolated her from everything she has known in the past 4 years its been 102 days n still the judge has not heard my motion to intervene help any info please

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Chris nTammy Davis, my heart goes out to you and what you are going through. I am not aware of the laws of your state so seek legal advice.

[@csb315]

Ok, all valid points, however, explain to me these outrageous child support payments when you’re following all of the above. Why does the higher my income the more I pay? I understand the child has grow up healthy protected and sheltered, but from $1000 to maybe over $5000, it’s outrageous

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

christopher brabham, I am not sure what is happening so I can't explain it. Ask your attorney to explain how it happens, he probably knows the law related to the support and how it is calculated.

[@bufubufu8258]

Wow this is a multi billion doller business I think I want to be a custody Lawler. What I see is long as everyone arguing I get paid if the parents getting alone for the sake of the child everyone loses

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It can certainly feel like that, vuxvux garner. Thank you for watching.

[@bufubufu8258]

I like your message anything I can do to help you spread the word I'll be a made I just wana get around like minded individuals

[@darkaoshi27]

My ex and I aren't divorced yet. We've been separated for over 5 years. Neither of us can afford a lawyer to get divorced. But qe get along. Our child stays with each of us on certain days. We both take care of our child. And my ex and I hold no grudges against each other. We fell in love. Then the love drifted away. And as soon as there was a sign of things getting bad, we called it off. No point in dragging it out and making things worse for everyone. So yeah, now I'm a better person because of the situation.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

darkaoshi27, so glad that you are able to work together and decide the custody issues without making it a huge fight. Your child will be grateful one day.

[@ernskrizztexizzleritizzlek9613]

2 kids 2 ex wives. they collaborated and sharing information. I haven't submitted anything negative about them and all they do is rip me apart....well their lawyers do. I represent myself, trying to not lower myself to their level. but it seems to be the norm to attack the image or person on the other side. I'm just trying to get time with my kids, i don't want to hurt their mothers in the process. But they feel it is an attack on them by me requesting 5 weeks out of 52 weeks of time with each of them. I don't get it, i'm exhausted and really about to give up because of the barriers these lawyers keep putting up for them. I won't though. 2 years ago i got screwed because the lawyer made the system work in a way that i only had 16 hours notice of the hearing. i was served with over 200 pages of proceedings in which i thought a decision was already made by the judge the way i was given the information. almost 3 years later, i snap out of it and re-read everything and see how they purposely did it to me. So now I am fighting back. Hanging in there.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ernie Ritacca, glad you are continuing the struggle to see your kids.

[@michaelhakes5845]

Dam dude....keep it grinding

[@tramarthomas6105]

Big oof for you

[@anthonyramirez4874]

My ex joined the army, while we were married and got a new boyfriend were still married its been over a year and we had an agreement on custody but now she changed her mind about giving her back to me

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Anthony Ramirez, was the agreement done in court? You may need to seek legal protection.

[@sassietroy428]

It also depends on the judge. I know of a case where the father calculated his child support based on the New York guide lines and paid it every two weeks without an order. He recalculated it every year. I convinced him to stop paying in cash and to pay by check and write "child support" in the memo line. This worked fine for years until the mother applied for welfare. When she applied she lied and said she never got one cent in child support. When she went to court she claimed again, she had not received any money. The father had a box of cancelled checks proving he had been paying child support for years. What did the judge do? She recalculated the child support and said the father was delinquent and owed 18 dollars. The mother lied to welfare, lied to the court, and she had no consequence. This was a small county and this judge was known to be completely unfair to fathers in custody, child support cases.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

This is so unfortunate. I wish people were honest, and that the judicial system was better/fairer. But imperfection is all we have to work with. Best wishes to your friend, Sassie Troy. Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.

[@themultifacetedmom]

My husband and i had an abusive marriage. I divorced him because he was sexually abused by my husband while in the bed with my children. I want him to have visitation but i also do not want over nights. I have a restraining order with supervised visits. Do you think this will suffice?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I really don't know. I wish the best for you and the children.

[@tammiemcwilliams4259]

What do you do when your a grand parent that's put in the middle of two bad parents. My pre teen grand kids are being sexually permiscuous and no one knows what to do about it but ignore. Suggestions of counseling is being ignored. The kids are losing all trust and respect for mom and dad because they hate each other. Always telling the kids to hold their slander comments secret but back stab each other to kids daily.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What a sad situation, Tammie. Be there for the child and remember to love them no matter what and even if.

[@Thegrandmathatplays]

Wow. I hope you two have to go through this some day. Very bad people get custody when they shouldn’t. People are deceptive and sneaky and still get custody. Yeah, decent humans get screwed by liars.

[@TaraSmith-r8g]

Yes to hear blah blah blah is crazy when dealing with an alcoholic abusive ex.

[@jamesricker9156]

My case of custodial interference was so bad that I was told the Custody Evaluator, Reunification Therapist, and the Judge had never seen anything quite like it before in terms of severity. It took over 4 years in my case and I will admit that 50/50 custody at the end (after almost none for years) was a bit of a shock not only to me but seasoned professionals as well, given my ex's verifiable behavior. BUT. HERE'S THE THING. All of these things are still helpful. Don't try to control things you cannot control. (Like the judges, your ex, evaluators.) Control your own behavior. PUT YOUR KIDS FIRST! I also know this judge dealt with more than one case of parental kidnapping and my ex's lawyer showed herself to be really aggressive, to the point an appellate court slapped them on the wrist and as seasoned family attorney believes several of the things that were done are potentially sanctionable. Best interest of the child also includes not potentially being kidnapped or worse. Is it a perfect system? Not by a long shot. But I am among many people actively involved in improving things. I believe the arrangement I have is much better than I might have gotten even 10 years ago. I stand on the shoulders of those who were strong enough to get involved with change and listen to common sense tips like this as a foundation.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sounds like you have a great attitude about everything. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[@ellencook7347]

i have a question i am married. and i have two children not by the same daddy and my soon to be husband is trying to take them. and i have court tomorrow and he's got fake ppl coming to testify that i'm an unfit mother

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ellen cook, I wish you well, hopefully the judge can see through this.

[@spaghetti_in_a_shoe7726]

Hello... I go by Peanut. I just turned 13 and I want to live with my mother. My father is very intimidating, and he scares me. Though he's never hurt me, I do believe I'm going through mental abuse. I went to a Psychiatrist(think that's it.. the one that prescribes medicine) and had a breakdown the first day because I was talking about all things I'm going through at my dad's. I want to know if, since I'm 13 now, am I allowed to speak in court? If so, will my opinion matter? If I asked, could I talk privately with the judge? I'm scared that, if I go to court then because I'm intimidated by my dad, it will affect what I say there. Meaning, I won't say what I really think. Can my opinion help my mother win custody? Follow up question... I have a 10 year old little brother. He also wants to live with my mom. I love him, and I don't want to be separated from him. If my mother were to win custody over me, can I speak for my brother, too? I'm really scared and I don't have anyone I can ask about these questions.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi Peanut - thanks for watching! Unfortunately I can't specifically answer all of your questions here because each case is so unique and each locality has its own rules and laws. Probably the best you can do is to keep those lines of communication open with your parents. They will get caught up in their own concerns and issues, so you may not get exactly what you want, but whatever happens you can find a way to handle it. Look at the video I did here about how to convince your parents to get you a phone (kzbin.info/www/bejne/kKHYoplvg5t-nrM). I know this is a totally different issue, but you will see here some powerful principles about working with your parents. Best wishes to you! DrPaul

[@markcharleswashington2073]

At fourteen someone can be emancipated.

[@chasethompson7392]

Same thing but I’m 15 my dad is really emotionally abusive and drinks a lot, but he has a lot more money than my mom so I’m scared I’ll have to live with him

[@09jackntheboxkids]

Wonderful video thanks... My problem is now that he had involved the courts in controlling our child... How do I get the courts to not take me for granted as he does... I don't file papers as he does for everything however he always lose...I have been trapped I he and the courts web if it is fair then I should feel some benefit... I don't have a personal lawyer to explain to me validity so I keep pressing on... I am 49 with an 11 yr old and between the two I am tired... He has his court order and has never followed saying they can't tell him what to do which leave me stressing over all that he does and don't I would be in court everyday...nothing has help my child which I thought was in the best interest... Since he never molested her anything goes... She comes home a mental wreck most visits... Her goes my Christmas stressing because as usual he's not going to pick her up as order so there goes my plans I made with my now 18 daughter because I have custody and the courts can't make him come get her if he doesn't wants to... To think they have controlled me for 11 yrs now I say but what about ME.🤔🤔🤔😭😭😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It is a tough situation, 09jackntheboxkids. Sounds like you need to get clear on exactly what you have control over and then work from there. Thank you for watching. I hope things go well this next week. Your daughter is lucky she has you looking out for her best interest.

[@09jackntheboxkids]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks for replying and I am grateful that I have never lost custody that's all that matters I realized that yesterday 🙊 you are so right I feel so much better THANKS

[@monicacasares4044]

This video is very helpful . Definitely hiring a lawyer. But I’m glad to see we’re not the only ones noticing the judges are biased and believe bullshit story’s

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Monica Casares, thanks

[@jans724]

In Sweden it's ok if the mother does all these things. It's incredibly biased against the father/men and much like a feminist GDR. The mother can safely procude false allegations against the father, for example accuse him or sexual abuse of the child or of her, or of beating her etc.. - and he will be prosecuted without evidence. In Sweden hearsay is counted as evidence so good if she just tells a friend and the friend will automatically be a witness. Two friend = two witnesses. I discovered this the hard way. I have managed 50 % time with my daughter but am contunuously fighting false allegations by the mother who is a covert narcissist. She didn't fool the custody evaluator (thankfully) but she can fool the police and prosecutors.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for sharing, I have never dealt with this in Sweden.

[@SingleDadSurvival]

I’m sorry to hear about your situation, and I have heard of similar ones. I have videos on my channel for fathers who are dealing with custody battles like this. If you feel they would help you out. Good luck to you.

[@catdcambs]

This comes late for some. I am not convinced the system, by that I mean Judges, social services, Guardians are bothered. about the child. They system helps to discredit parents ability to look after their children and it sticks. My grandson lived with his mother with no issues. His father ( whom was domestically violent to his mother and his mother ( who worked for local authority was favoured more than his mother, who cared for him single handedly from birth until seven years old. The lack of factual evidence, was beyond us and how keen they were to accept hearsay was another disbelief . There is no hope for the poorer people of this society. It is a two tier system and you are lucky if you get any help in it. Please look at my channel. It is called My grandson, his story, child without a voice . Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for your comments, kathrine G.

[@juliejustus6878]

My grandkids are in foster care and have been since last July. They have a GAL that has only met them once and claimed my daughter has traumatized them. My daughter has a KZbin account that shows that’s an absolute lie. They’ve done absolutely nothing toward reunification and her lawyers keep refusing to take it in front of the court. Now they’re asking her to do things that they know are absolutely impossible for her to do. Please someone help her. We can’t afford a lawyer to help us 12:02

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

See what resources are available to you. Hard to know from here. Let the kids know you love them no matter what and even if...

[@juliejustus6878]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I refuse to believe the what if! Satan has control over these people but, God has the final say! If he can resurrect Lazarus from the dead, cast demons from a man that had a legion of demons, cause the lame to walk, cause the deaf to hear and heal a paralyzed to walk? He can change this situation in a blink of a eye so, I rebuke the devil

[@MicahDadsLegoTV]

These gentlemen appear genuine yet creepy

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Martin Davis, not sure why creepy??? Thank you for watching.

[@MicahDadsLegoTV]

My pleasure thanks Ill watch again @@LiveOnPurposeTV

[@WONDERYYY]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Creepy because u think that because u have done thousands of divorces what u are saying is right for EVERY family.! Second, no one in the court building cares, they just expedite cases, to get $! Third no one seems to care about the children's futures, I live in the real world where AFTER these decisions I see the WASTE of the children's lives, which helps the system u worked for anyways, children have to continue in the training they were receiving and if they don't THEY lose, so how is it that U CARE about the children when u don't want to hear truth. It's just creepy to leave your FAMILY FUTURE in the hands of people who don't even seem they love GOD, but want to play as if they were. This whole video seems creepy when it's actually YOUR children, the whole system seems creepy, when you can see it's just another day at the office.

[@briancrawford8751]

It's the predatory, aka "psychopath" stare. Yes, you're right, and yes, it's an authentic representation of what I've seen.

[@LifeCycleUniversity]

Exactly that 😭

[@qianag3822]

My son's father's girlfriend has been pushing him down throwing him on the couch terrorizing my son the attorney referee won't change the visitation so she can't be left alone with my son we have not even been in front of a judge yet it's been 2 years

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Qiana G, that is horrible. I would hope your son's father would step in and stop the abuse.

[@meaghanpike2424]

Thank you! 2 mediations and upcoming court- this is so valuable!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Meaghan Pike, good luck.

[@nikkyblaze5064]

What if mom is attacking step mom. Because, School and government has sided with you. Because, Step mom has done everything that mom is supposed to do. Mom was barely present and could never fulfill her court agreement. As in the days to keep them. We had to file emergency custody order. As for. The last time mom had kids. Kids saw drugs being handed out. Our attorney and CPS all said we should not return the child.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am glad you have people advising you on what to do. That will help when you go to court.