living alone in nyc: my tips to staying safe as a woman

[@mohuyakhan]

i posted this video early by accident 😭 but, i hope it was helpful and let me know what else you want to watch :)

[@bindar8473]

I’ve been followed home, when I’m grocery shopping and just generally creeped on whenever I leave the house and it honestly gives me so much anxiety. I even have a code word with my family and close friends, so when I call them they know I’m in a scary situation.

[@mohuyakhan]

it's so sad we have take these precautions. im so sorry, stay safe

[@ms.pirate]

Me: "hi John, I just ate pineapple on pizza today" Her husband john: okay were tf are you, I'll kill that creep (Just trying to make a joke)

[@lunalee5843]

New York City has gotten worse since the pandemic. Not only in crime but the homeless population as well. They’ve become a lot more aggressive as well which is scary. Just be aware of your surroundings and carry pepper spray and an alarm. Be especially careful on the subways, stay away from the tracks until a train comes.

[@fatimatariq1313]

Wait what type of alarm?

[@lunalee5843]

@@fatimatariq1313 you can carry small hand held alarms which emit a piercing noise when you pull a pin or push a button. I wanted to add that NYC seems to be bouncing back. As in any city be aware of your surroundings and what’s going on around you!

[@suchhun]

What of they are wearing safety goggles

[@tamarathejudeochristianmedium]

Where did you find pepper spray? 💙🙏🏻💙

[@ms.pirate]

Yeah, mostly because police were defunded over there. So more and more crime is on the rise

[@ashleylauren3448]

It's awful that we have to be scared and anxious when leaving the house. This goes for anyone. I will never be able to comprehend the evil in the world. I'll say this though.. the fact that you're aware is good. Always be aware of your surroundings. Try to be close to where other people are. Always be ready to defend yourself. Try not to live in fear...easier said than done but just continue being aware :)

[@IdaraJoy]

please don’t apologize, this video was so helpful! NYC has been incredibly dangerous these past few months and it’s nice to get a perspective from a woman of color 🤎🤎🤎

[@mohuyakhan]

i'm so glad you liked it; i appreciate you

[@tiffanycurtis4794]

IDARA ALL WOMEN CAN BE VICTIMS OF CRIME REGARDLESS OF RACE GET OUTTA HERE WITH THAT 💩 HOME GIRL😡

[@dior7895]

I love this video. I feel like every vlogger only shows the pros of living in NYC which could lead to misconceptions. But this video really balances the reality of living in NYC

[@amyb-k1212]

I see you as informed & cautious, not paranoid. I read so many horrifying incidents in NYC, i think you are realistic & smart to be so cautious. You are right, bad crime is across all of the U.S.A. I live in Mpls & its never felt so dangerous. People are crazy, too many guns & jerks taking out their anger on other humans, usually vulnerable. Disgusting esp to attack elderly women.

[@krankykritter6402]

For your windows get pieces of wood (dowl) cut that you can put in the side of the windows, that way you can make them so when they are in the window can only be put up to a certain height.

[@jeannettecortes8243]

I agree. I live in NYC and I don't feel safe. I carry a pepper spray.

[@curtflirt2]

Just bought some tonight

[@Bart-dg6qv]

Pepper spray? What the heck, do you want to defend against bears? 21st century and some people use spray to protect their lives... in USA! Insane.

[@curtflirt2]

@@Bart-dg6qv Well, In NYC currently, there are a bunch of Animals running around harming people SO YES!

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Even Raleigh Durham is not safe

[@Cheri94]

Is pepper spray legal in NYC

[@lorrainei1622]

NYC is so hard, I feel like it’s become dangerous anywhere you live and it’s sad. Even all those new luxury apartments they’re building all over the city seem to be in bad neighborhoods.

[@mohuyakhan]

it's so hard to be a woman. i wish subways looked safer like paris and we didn't have to constantly be on the look out

[@MannerofMagi007]

I have never been to NYC but I lived in LA for many years. This is exactly what is happening in LA. But they are overdeveloping to make California cities like NYC. I’m like NYC doesn’t even want to be like NYC right now. Urbanization is a SCAM. Young people don’t fall for it. When it’s new it’s nice, once it’s too expensive, homelessness goes up, roommate situations and situationships due to expense goes up, crime goes up, you will regret not building a life where you can have rest and land. If there is no specific community or industry keeping you in a city, really reassess.

[@cheriseliesdek5166]

Great tips ! This should be a PSA for NYC living.

[@susanwilliams6989]

Hi Mohuya I love these types of videos regarding women's safety, so I have to say a huge thank you for making this one which I think is brilliant. I used to be afraid of walking home alone at night before I started to take self-defense classes, and I'd like to share some tips that I've leaned from my classes so far with all of your female viewers, which I hope can be of some help. I've recently been taking Krav Maga for women classes for self-defense, and so far I've learned that the best best self-defense targets on a mans body for women (and girls) to attack, and the best ways of striking them are as follows: - the eyes (finger poke them) - the nose (palm heel strike upwards) - the throat (chopping like actions) - the testicles (knee / kick / punch / slap / grab-twist-pull and hold on to them tightly until he collapses and passes out within a matter of seconds) - the knees (sideways kick to dislocate) We always remember "eyes, nose, throat, testicles, knees" or "eyes, nose, throat, balls, knees" I've also been taught that even a trained, determined teenage girl could easily take down a man if she goes for these targets, especially if she goes fast and hard for the eyes or the testicles (or "high balls" and "low balls" as I've also heard them called!) One very powerful technique I also learned is that if a man has removed his trousers and he is about to rape you, then his testicles will now be extremely vulnerable to the "grab, twist, pull and hold" counterattack. You should snatch his balls and keep squeezing and pulling them as hard as you can until he passes out in under 8 seconds - and I've been taught that he will , no matter how big and strong he is. You can even use both hands, and it's still just as effective even if you only manage to get hold of one testicle. Apparently, when a man has his testicles forcefully squeezed it causes him to curl over, collapse, convulse and quickly lose all of his strength before he collapses and passes out or goes into shock in under 8 seconds. Most importantly this holds true no matter how big and strong he is - a wonderful natural advantage we females have in combat over men. Surely this is something we should all be made aware of and we should all be taught how to do it! I really wish that more women and girls were made aware of effective ways to fight back - in particular I wish they were made more aware of this "ball grab and hold" technique. From what I've read and been taught it has literally saved many women throughout the world. The women of Somalia even have a name for this move and they call it "Qworegoys". Mothers teach their daughters to reach under their attackers tunic and grab, twist, and pull his testicles until he passes out, and to also tuck their head in until the point he loses consciousness in case he initially starts to fight back. We, as women, really can fight back effectively, stay safe, and lessen our fears if we know how and where to strike on an attackers body and most importantly, learn how to "fight dirty" ❤

[@Ooana]

I left NYC in April of last year. Lived there since 1996. I remember how beautiful and wonderful it would be when it first would get warm. The city was indeed alive. I’m so heartbroken to see how dangerous NYC now is - it was when I left as well. Props for sharing ways to protect yourself.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Was it dangerous after September 11th or only after the 2020 pandemic 😷?

[@scrubmomma555]

When I went to NY I just peeped down the subway steps I was like o hell noooo to dark for me but I was just visiting that’s good you are protecting yourself

[@babymoon555]

Great tip for the subway platforms. I also stay far back from the lines.

[@katerina9159]

this is exactly why i hate living in big places, I know there are more opportunities there but my anxiety is always on the roof. My dream is to live in a village or a small town.

[@mohuyakhan]

i think about that life all the time

[@vidm8389]

New sub here and oh my gosh has it become so unsafe in NYC! I live in the city and feel unsafe at times- these tips are so helpful and it’s taking a lot from us as POC women to just stay safe!

[@azraelinarakoczy7862]

Thank you for this video, I'm a widow since 2019, and I live alone, so this door jam has given me a great Idea for me to use in my apartment especially where I live here in Brooklyn. Thank you so much.

[@mohuyakhan]

of course 💖 wishing you the best

[@crystalchi]

I’m so sorry you are worrying so much 😔..if you can change your locks I would, my building rules are if I change my locks, I have to provide them with a key🥴… I just walked to the store literally across the street from my building and I still had my pepper spray ready to go! I might try that little gizmo that you have!!! TFS💕💕💕💕💕

[@naricole811]

That’s NYC law not just your building .. You have to give a duplicate key to your landlord upon request

[@mehtab4237]

Tysm for sharing these tips. I will definitely be getting the lock that you showed. But like DAMN the AMOUNT of precautions that POC, women and POC WOMEN Specifically have to take😕🙄 in order to just stay safe is scary, ahh. I’m sorry and I can’t imagine how stressful it must be being right now with all the scary news abt nyc incidents. Onto a lighter side note tho, Ty for posting these cos they’re so helpful to us, and YESSS that color suits you SOO WELLL! And you’re right, it DOES make your hair color pop and you looked v v beautiful in fuschia (idk the spelling soz haha), anyway take care and have a safe week ahead byeee 💕💕💕

[@mohuyakhan]

thank you for this is in depth comment, wishing you the best❤️

[@tamarathejudeochristianmedium]

Paranoia is imaging people are out to get you. The fear you’re feeling living in NYC is real. The statistics are scary and you can feel when you are being targeted 💙🙏🏻💙

[@GS-dc8tu]

You are my new favorite KZbinr ♥️

[@mohuyakhan]

[@Julie-lh5jb]

I really loved your video. So interesting. Thank you 🌹

[@sambailor]

I'm going to share these with my girlfriend, thanks for making :)

[@mohuyakhan]

glad to help 💖

[@azraelinarakoczy7862]

You need to put bars on your windows. I have bars on my windows and I live on the 4th floor. As far as the subways I don't take them anymore, I travel with Uber to work in the city.

[@MannerofMagi007]

This is what no one wants to talk about. Women are too afraid of the metros. California wants to urbanize and remove cars from the masses. HELL NO!

[@bananacreampie6974]

Scary, I just turned 18 and I’m homeless out here. I’m a dude tho so things r a bit easier, scary with all the drugged out homeless and crime. I did live in Chicago for a while, which is much more dangerous I’d say.

[@ashlisarang5381]

That color looks AMAZING on you

[@mohuyakhan]

thank u!!!! trying to find more tops this color RIGHT NOW

[@ashlisarang5381]

@@mohuyakhan yessssss!

[@yourfavpersuasion9385]

I am moving this year eff that!

[@letyceleste2805]

That color looks soooo good on you

[@mohuyakhan]

thank you!!! 🥺

[@yulissaagreste470]

May God bless and educate everyone 😇😊❤️❤️

[@妍敏陈]

thank you!

[@christinie_]

where did you get the keychain knuckle spike please!!! love you from manhattan!

[@mohuyakhan]

alythuh.com ❤️

[@TheLunaPulvia]

Great tips thank you 💕

[@Salso97]

New subscriber here. Love your videos. Looking forward to to watching more!!

[@mohuyakhan]

thank you so much!!

[@Barbarajhere]

Unfortunately I'm all to familiar with growing concerns about this zest pool of a city. Couldn't find the link via the description for the part mentioned via the key chain. Be safe. Thanks.

[@mohuyakhan]

it should be linked below now : www.amazon.com/dp/B082WQR3YM?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2_dt_b_product_details. stay safe!

[@giselle9429]

Girl Cali is the same

[@youngblisslife4308]

I go to NYC every Christmas season and I usually rely heavily on the subway. I didnt use it last year with the new covid variance spreading like crazy and crime and I'm really nervous about using it this year. I seen a lot about subway stabbings and shovings on the news on yt. Of course people take the train every day and it doesn't happen as often as the news make it seem. Do you have any suggestions or would you suggest avoiding it if you can?

[@Itssshudaa]

Gosh thats soo scary.. i m from the netherlands and those things dont really happen here but I want to move to nyc … after reading the comments I m gonna think twice!! Hope you will be safe though💗😔

[@youngblisslife4308]

@user-yz7ol3xh7x I just went to NYC for NYE and the train was fine. I didn't use it a lot but it was a lot of people down there and I didn't see any craziness.

[@TransparencyBodycam]

Have you ever fired a gun before?

[@andrearenteria3739]

Los Ángeles is getting so much worse as well.

[@shaniahpaster12]

Especially at night around the Hollywood area it's ridiculous way to much drug addicts

[@watching7721]

Anyone who's feelings about that city aren't outright hostile is odd

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Even Raleigh Durham isn’t as safe as it used to be

[@fatislimi5145]

oh God :( why is that !?

[@zahramusa2570]

You got me with mentioning Kurdish rights with Daughter of Smoke and Fire since I literally never see books on the Kurdish rights besides non fiction.

[@mohuyakhan]

RIGHT!! i'm so excited to read it

[@zahramusa2570]

@@mohuyakhan I’m actually Kurdish so it makes me happy to know there’s actually a fiction book about Kurds instead of nonfiction. I went and put a hold on the book from my public library so fast Lool. You definitely should talk about your feelings on the books you read in your vlogs 😊

[@LLAVZ]

Stay vigilant!

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Even Raleigh Durham is not as safe as it used to be 15 years ago in the year 2008.

[@fahimafatema4280]

Hi Mohuya! This video is very helpful. I really wanna talk to you about travelling New York alone. I need your suggestions. Looking forward to hearing from you! 😊

[@betterxhalf]

I see that mayday parade shirt… they were one of my favorite bands in like 2008 lol I think you mentioned you were 23, curious as to how you know them? Anyways, stay safe out there!

[@mohuyakhan]

they were also one of my favorite bands in highschool! saw them in concert a few times :)

[@betterxhalf]

@@mohuyakhan nice, I saw them a couple times too, at warped tour. Miserable at best will still put me in my feelings to this very day ahah!

[@debrafirestone861]

I would have eyes everywhere

[@harsimran.kaur2004]

girl is going to be HEARTBROKEN after finishing it ends with us

[@mohuyakhan]

i finished!! it was really good and i haven't read a story from that type of perspective before BUT i do also have some unpopular opinions abt it 🤓

[@debrafirestone861]

I hope you stay safe but if I were you I woukd not go out alone at night especially. Crime there out of control

[@tunajjinaahmed4568]

There is lots of self defense small businesses on TikTok

[@Bart-dg6qv]

The biggest danger when I go for daily 3 miles walk is mud. Literally couple spots where you can get your shoes dirty...

[@politicalviews7762]

Great video

[@Ejeomah]

New subbie 💃

[@mohuyakhan]

welcome!!!!

[@Jude13able]

Why are New Yorkers so anti-gun? Please explain to me why New Yorkers don't think they sound have a weapon to protect themselves? Having a NY attitude only helps so much until it's just hot air. And no matter how much you train hand to hand if you don't train against men you will fail in a street fight. Do the women of New York think they don't have the right to protect themselves with lethal force?

[@MannerofMagi007]

Americans living in Baghdad conditions.

[@jlewinsky4436]

13:28

[@PassengersUnited]

I liked your video. Please let me know if you would be interested in doing a subway safety video in the subway. I am the president of Passengers United

[@Beardodoomus]

If only people realised the state and safety of a city is connected to which political parties are voted in...

[@1x1HealthyEnergybyAndrew]

If you want to be independent it is ridiculous that NY let it get this bad. Otherwise, I see many cops and men otherwise that would walk you home. We need to be tougher on politicians and enact new laws that remove lame duck politicians immediately.

[@PearPear336]

“Police are bad! Get rid of police! Defund police!” … “Omg the police aren’t doing anything!! Where are the police?!!”

[@curtflirt2]

OH Wow, Let me find out you work by me Lol

[@debrafirestone861]

I hesr it on the news each day. They are getting out of jail Thsts your lawyers and judges at work

[@brownlatinaa46]

so sad in this culture kids are obsessed with moving out, think about your mother id happily give away 90 percent of my freedom in order to take care of my mom and be with her, our generation needs to learn to be more adjusting and accepting

[@mohuyakhan]

props to this generation for putting our mental health first and balancing independence while supporting your parents :)

[@kp-tk1ov]

Not everyone has good parents or parents at at :/

[@shaniahpaster12]

I'm thinking of getting a doberman pinscher and some safety gadgets and a gun once I move out

[@pearlfeather9326]

Boxing will not help you.

[@redcat9436]

I have no sympathy for for the people of NYC.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

They all got together and was United 22 years ago after September 11th, 2001.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Because you are single and independent

[@shaniahpaster12]

Bruh

[@PraveenSrJ01]

?? Odd remark

[@fatislimi5145]

Wtf

[@deactivated-rooneyelmi1818]

hey - where did u cop that door lock? i need one too 😵‍💫 ty !!

[@mohuyakhan]

it should be linked below now : www.amazon.com/dp/B082WQR3YM?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2_dt_b_product_details. stay safe!