Living With A Slob? School 6 Days A Week? Taking Care Of Our Parents? | Ep.272

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[@hannahthehomesteader]

Regarding a messy spouse- I've been there and still am. Katie is right that I first needed to deal with my own bitterness. Then I needed to truly own my role as homemaker. These 2 motions were so key to enabling me to resolve this peacefully. I created systems he could easily snap into. I minimized what I owned so that his clutter was easier for him to see and, if he didn't see it, less overwhelming for me to manage. When he had suggestions around the house, I honored them so he felt included and had buy in on the status of our home. And so on... fix your heart, then fix your home.

[@thesmiths629]

Biblical Sabbath has been the best part of my journey in discovering Jesus. Our society is so busy on Saturdays, and so religiously "Remembering the Sabbath to keepnit Holy" has set a beaitiful tone for our family life.

[@ashleybruce979]

I'm actually really happy to hear Elisha's thoughts on attractive women. At the beginning of our marriage, I *struggled* a lot with the scantily-clad women around us. We've grown A LOT in the past 6 years, but I'm blessed to have a man who's relationship with Christ has only deepened through the years. After a few *very messy* conversations early on, he has made sure to verbalize that he loves *me* and desires *me*. Unrelated note: I adore Katie's outfit. The colors (and those sleeves) make me really happy.

[@sabl6381]

We do both church and rest on Sunday. We go to our church's earliest service (8:30am) and it feels like we still have the whole day ahead of us afterwards. We use paper plates and utensils so I don't have the usual chore of dishes. We've started using a few minutes on Saturday nights to plan for the week ahead, which further frees up Sunday. It's a different dynamic for us right now though because we only have a 2-year-old (with another on the way).

[@user-yb6jd6cg1t]

The Valentine's question was likely referring to Gil and Kelly Bates' family from the UpTv show. They choose to throw a big party in February in order to allow the married kids (they have 19, ten+ of which are married with kids) to spend Christmas and Thanksgiving with inlaws or their own nuclear families. February was a slow time of year for them, so they decided to exchange Christmas traditional gifts/parties for "I Love You Day" in February. Many of my married friends do separate Christmas Eve vs Christmas Day, but that doesn't work for people who live states away.

[@user-yb6jd6cg1t]

Do your siblings all get together for a particular holiday, or do you do family reunions in the summer time?

[@esteph154]

Dying laughing over here at Elisha proposing the day AFTER Vday 🤣🤣 Poor Katy ❤️❤️ Love you guys so much!!!

[@everwoodbaby96]

Our church has Saturday service so we have our sabbath on Sunday! Saturday's have birthday parties, etc. so we've found Sunday to be much more restful since we do church on Saturday's

[@bairuta08]

The question where a woman worries that her husband might feel she is not enough. My question back would be “do you feel like you’re enough”, and if you are not confident that you are enough then you might be projecting the lack of self confidence onto your husband in daily life, that you aren’t probably even aware off to the point where you might even cause your husband to doubt if you are indeed enough. I don’t think that it’s a husband problem, but more an issue of a woman herself and whether you feel confident in the Word of God or not. Because the Word of God says that God created one man and one woman, then it means that you are enough, you just need to rest in confidence that this is the truth. What i often see in women who themselves gaze upon immodest billboards, commercials and stuff is that they compare themselves to that image and belittles themselves so much that they asks their husbands questions like “do you think that she’s beautiful”, or starts belittling herself saying things like “oh my belly is so big, i wish i had the curves like she,…” STOP doing that! Your husband probably isn’t even paying attention to those things as much as you do, but you might cause it. It’s better ,if you don’t feel confident, that you do something about it, workout, eat well, wear clothes that suits your body type, but mostly read the Word of God, of what God considers beautiful and try to rather fit in that standard, than the one that billboards present. By doing that, you will feel more confident, because you will be doing something and not just worrying ,and that would boost your self confidence and radiate from within you.

[@saraigomez9573]

Thank you!

[@HR-rm1dw]

Where did you get your dress? I love it!

[@Not_a_witch]

Katie, your outfit is so cute! I really want to know where you got that dress and apron!

[@lindseybast2888]

Something I heard recently really appealed to me when talking about immodesty everywhere. Especially when talking to boys. A man can recognize a beautiful woman and like Katie said he should! But do not dwell on it. And if the woman is immodestly dressed or whatever to help your son realize that she is beautiful but her beauty is being used in the wrong way. That should be for her husband and not for other eyes to see. And let them recognize and not be ashamed when they do see a beautiful woman and are drawn to her but that they know she is not using her beauty in the correct way.

[@petraroca2790]

Does the music academy focus on playing by ear or learning to read music?

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Hi! Yes, the main focus is to learn to play by ear, but we do teach notes and theory. Our piano teacher has a crash course on reading music. :)

[@UnashamedJesuslover]

❤

[@Memore18]

Regarding the messy question not sure if I agree in everything she said. We are adults and we should take responsibility of our actions. When we were kids maybe our mom or dad clean after us sometimes or at least help us, but as adults we are out of the house and one cant be cleaning after a significant other all the time lol it even sounds silly, especially if both work. I feel like perhaps you have that mentality because you are a stay home mom and your husband is the provided, so your job is to clean and teach the kids. I feel like as adults ones we are being aware we need to take action and responsibility of our behavior and habits, that’s really the only true solution.

[@lucybeachy9271]

As adults we should both be responsible. But if the spouse isn't picking up the way they should it's my responsibility to voice what I'm feeling and not allow resentment to set in.