What I Learned In Therapy | Anxiety Update | Tea Time

[@NatashaCreatesThings]

The idea that negative thoughts are thoughts just like “i like turtles” is really helpful. They’re both just thoughts and hold just as much weight as each other and just because one feels more important? Doesn’t mean it actually IS. Thank you!!

[@curledrocksy]

I totally relate with this!I am also too sensitive, emotional and I also fear of having to make phone calls. I will get that book , thank you, Lucy!

[@emiliesfineartstudio304]

As someone who deals with a lot of anxiety (mostly social anxiety and fear of failure), I can definitely relate. However, in regards the the fear of phone calls, I almost wonder if it is something to do with our generation. So many people I know who don't display other anxious habits, hate talking on the phone and try to avoid it at all costs too. We are so programmed to simply send a text that picking up the phone and actually having a conversation with someone is difficult. I think its because we don't have the option to edit what we are going to say, and feel overwhelmed by being put on the spot with someone when we can't see their face.

[@mascara1777]

I'm in my late 30's and am still afraid of phone calls even though I didnt get my first cell phone until I was 23. I think it's a typical anxiety symptom. People have always struggled with what to say on the phone (unless you know the person you're talking to very well and are already comfortable.)

[@maritrolljenta]

The things you said where kind of eye opening! I used to struggle a lot with anxiety and sometimes still do, but not living alone anymore and seeing my family and friends more often changed a lot for me too! I'm much more emotionaly stable now and realised how important human connection is. I'm not as introverted and a loner as I always used to think I was :)

[@TheSarahLindy]

It took my husband years before he could commit to going to therapy for his anxieties, and bipolar/ depressive periods. Unfortunately, it took a rather drastic change in his physical health before he was ready to address his emotional health. Luckily he got a good psychiatrist and a good psychologist from the start. His extended family is also very supportive, which helps more than most people would believe. The changes are night and day, at least that I can notice. As a spouse, I can appreciate the power & value of my loved one talking through things with someone, even if that someone isn’t me. Best wishes for you & your journey with all the feels ❤️

[@katerinacerna8555]

Hi Lucy, I've been watching your videos periodically for a few years, but I stumbled upon this older one just now. I'm a 23 year old med student living with anxious mind and constant fear of losing the people I love. I feel privileged to have people to love, but the medical side of me offers me so much possibilities to what could happen. I've always been a bit anxious, I went through a therapy session when I was a child and the answer I got was exactly the same as they've told you. Just a very very sensitive child. Lately things have gotten a bit serious again, I got engaged and I love my fiancée so much... Which is a burden sometimes. School has been hard, I've been struggling a lot, so I reached out to a therapist again. It was amazing.❤ I'm so glad I went there. She has once more told me, that I'm just very sensitive and I have to learn to live with myself, but she's been so kind and nice to me and she reminded me there's so much beauty out there that I can concentrate on instead. Looking at it now, we had a forensic pathology course then, which was very very drastic, and I'm not surprised at all that it got me falling into pieces. 😂 I just couldn't see it when it was happening. So thank you for this video and best of luck to you, your husband and your baby!❤

[@QueenMarceline47]

Long-time lurker/follower/fan, I've been with you since 2012. I'm 25 too, and, in this weird new-tech way, I grew up alongside you. I appreciate you going here, Lucy, it means a lot to see someone you admire and feel kindred ties to admit they have the same struggles, and that those struggles can be surmounted. We're all struggling, but I'm glad to know I'm not alone, and I hope you know you're not alone either💜 Keep growing and expanding your channel, I'll be along

[@alyssadean7661]

I relate to this!I hope you are doing well :)

[@bilges9536]

Thank you for this video ♡ As somebody who has a LOT of social anxiety I needed this

[@elizabethscreations2814]

Thanks so much for this video hun, I'm going to now watch your other video. I also have the strong, crippling anxiety about loved ones dying. I convinced myself that it was some bad omen or something. But now thanks to your videos I'm starting to realise it is an anxiety beginning with me. I am relieved to hear that I am not alone in this anxiety, although it's horrible that you have it too. I hope we can be relieved of this fear some day soon! xx

[@momoyome]

I’m so glad you’re doing better. You really did well for yourself in 2018!

[@killerskiely100]

Been getting death anxiety over the last 2 months, feels like it came out of nowhere. This video helped me get over the most recent wave, thanks!

[@cd4536]

I think tons of people have anxiety about the phone. I do. I am happy you were able to seek help and be successful at it. I am in American and I have been in therapy most of my life trying to deal with various things. I also have a bachelor's degree in psychology and during my internship I was able to do limited therapy in the counseling department at a school. Next year I plan or pursuing my doctorate. I think anxiety is one of the fastest growing problems it is also probably the most treatable. All of the stuff from you first video I have heard before. It does so much good when someone with a platform shares their experiences.

[@LE123LE123]

My brother had phone call anxiety for years. He was in his 20s when he finally over came it. Hugs to you. No one should belittle what gives them anxiety---it is what it is and good for you in getting help for it. :)

[@ClaraCB5]

My best friend is my therapist haha, no kidding, she's the person I go to whenever I feel bad, I have something I need to talk about, or anything else. I can tell her everything and anything, and always understands me better than anybody else. She also studies psychology so she understands the implications of difficult things I've lived when I was younger (for example my awful relationship with my father). I used to have quite bad social anxiety; it was never as bad as preventing me from going outside or not living my life anymore, but I was always so scared of doing things I wanted to and lose control. Last year was very challenging, because I kept facing my fears and pushing myself to get above it; as a result I had a great many panic attacks, but I also improved a lot. I now live in a different country, I moved there alone, met strangers, made friends, did plenty of things I would've been unable to do just a year ago. And I'm so proud of me. I feel like you can see anxiety two different ways: as being a victim of it, or seeing it as something to overcome. I definitely do the last one now. No matter how anxious I get, I challenge myself every day. If I start having panic attacks, I go out for a run as if to tell my body 'You want to run? I'm gonna make you run. You want to hyperventilate? You're gonna have a good and valide reason to do it.' Now I've come to a point when I know that I'm gonna have other panic attacks, but I will know how to deal with them, and one day I'll be able to say that yes, I have anxiety, but it doesn't affect me anymore. Good luck to anybody who's struggling with anxiety. It's very hard and challenging to get over it, but the outcome is worth every single fight. You can do it :) (and as a HSP/empath, I know how you feel!)

[@emmarichards3172]

I still have my fear of death of a loved one. My mum is one of the people that know me the most and I love her sooo much!! She is young and healthy but the eventual death of her scares the freaking crap outa me. She is the person who I talk to when I’m sad or anxious I can spill all my emotions on her and she won’t judge me. The thought of her not being there to do that to anymore scares me sooo much!! I feel so weird having this ongoing fear and it’s been here for the past 4 months and that scares me because it shows how fast time flies and her death is coming closer. My mum is the complete opposite of me. Is not faced by death just puts it as “when we are dead we are dead” that’s all!! Why am I soo caught up on her death when she is fine with it. Thank you Lucy for talking openly with your fear of loved ones dying in such a calm way compared to the other videos I have watched.

[@fishstingray5487]

Emma Richards I can agree with absolutely everything you said. I always go to my mom for help, and she’s not afraid of death at all. She always tries to calm me down, but now it just never seems to work. I don’t understand how she can just live life freely without worrying about death and I just can’t do that. The thoughts won’t stop coming and I just can’t deny it anymore. I know we’re all going to die, and the thought of that scares me. What happens when you die, no one knows. I’m scared because I don’t want to live forever or be somewhere forever but I don’t want to die so soon. What if heaven isn’t a thing? What if we just don’t exist anymore once we die? I don’t want to forget the memories I had with my family. I don’t want my family to forget the memories they had with me. I want to face my fear, but it hurts so much and I don’t know what to do. If you could reply and we could chat a bit that would mean so much to me. I’m really stuck right now and I just need someone to relate to without them getting frustrated or something.

[@risnstr]

@@fishstingray5487 I'm so there with you. I've had this fear since childhood. It never leaves my brain for even a second. I've done everything in the world to try to help myself. Even my faith doesn't stop the thoughts from coming. I love the Lord and I know he's a great plan for my life and anyone who is reading this. I just would give anything to have more freedom and enjoy the life that I do have left. Lord help us all!

[@fishstingray5487]

Whitney Steele Preach!

[@strawberry1025]

Very informative video, thank you. I too function very well but exhaust myself emotionally internally. I have never heard it expressed so clearly.

[@CatryH]

I'm also an anxious person. I have always been, ever since I was a child. I've come to the same conclusion that a lot of this is just me being sensitive and it can't or shouldn't be changed. A lot of my anxiety revolves around trying to save everything. I have this fear of losing things and it's really hard for me to give up things, even when I don't need them anymore. This applies to everything: childhood toys, old clothes, photos... Of course you're allowed to have memories, but I sometimes try to save EVERYTHING and I'm way too worried about losing things or data. I find this kind of embarrassing, 'cos it's so useless and seems kinda shallow. But I know it's just my anxiety acting up.

[@cupofcakee]

I love your channel, every video feels like a breath of fresh air 💕

[@Xnedrashallan]

Thank you for this! I have been contemplating returning to therapy, and I think you just encouraged me to go return to therapy. I too have a variety of anxieties but compartmentalize and cope “well,” every day until I do not. I put aside many of my anxieties, but then it builds up quietly overtime until events trigger me to essentially explode emotionally. Thank you for sharing that you returned to therapy and that it helped you feel better. That is truly amazing

[@cathcritchley5423]

The happiness trap is an amazing book! The illustrated happiness trap is such an easy version to read as you can literally pick it up and it’s comic strip type illustrations make it easy for most people to understand the concepts quickly. I would really recommend it x

[@vivianedossantoscaipira7075]

I'm really glad that you are talking about a topic like this.I also have anxiety,and on it we have a lot in common

[@hannahjean4301]

I'm so glad I found your channel yesterday. I'm definitely going to be grabbing that book!

[@gabye.]

I am not ready yet to go to therapy...I think I can't do that just for the people around me, it has to be for myself. The fear of death of your love ones...I can relate completely, I have a son and a husband, so everyday when they go off to study and to work, I just fear for them. Good for you to take action, I hope one day I will do that too.

[@fishstingray5487]

gaby e. Right now I am experiencing the fear of death more than I have ever before. It’s to the point where every night I start crying and thinking about it, I just can’t stop. The feeling of what happens after death and losing loved ones... It really prevents me from living life to the fullest. I can relate to what you’re saying. I’m afraid I can’t really give any advice, because I’m kind of stuck too... But, at least you know that we’re all in this together.

[@makeupboss9812]

I have a little bit of certain types of anxiety. My biggest anxiety right now is thinking about my future. Right now I’m living with my mother in law, my husband is not working anymore and I have to do the money making. I always fear that I’ll never make enough to be able to be happy. I love my husband, but I am unhappy with life . He just doesn’t seem to get it, he’s always saying, “ well , you should be grateful that we have somewhere to be , that at least you have a job and you have me and your daughter. “ ( my family is an hour away and I don’t get to see them like I used to, he doesn’t seem to think I need that ) ! I’m proud of you for taking the steps to deal with your anxiety. I usually try prayer, it helps immensely.

[@ariellakahan-harth8831]

Glad to know you're feeling better.

[@CineNOV579]

Thanks so much for sharing this, Lucy! So many people, including myself, can totally relate.

[@sarahlouise6970]

I was in therapy for just over two years, from the age of 16. However, in January, they decided I was able to deal with things myself. To begin with, I was doing really well, but as it came to exam season and such, my anxiety and depression grew much worse again. Unfortunately, as I am now 18, getting support with my mental health in the UK is difficult.

[@KraftyScorpio]

I have phone call anxiety myself, and I know other people who do too. That's not silly at all!!

[@idap1879]

I also have anxiety when I have to make phonecalls. It's getting better but it's really hard at times.

[@MituDjakarian]

This video is incredible, thank you so much. I think I feel the same way. I used to be SUPER good dealing with thoughts and emotions and everything, but then something traumatic happened and it totally knocked me down. Now I am hoping I will re-learn it! At least I know it IS possible, so... :)

[@sailorskinlefay2747]

I couldn't even pass through the phone calls phase 😳 I will definitely get that book. Thank you for sharing your story 💜

[@NamiNuitsuki]

My anxiety definitely stops me from living a fulfilling life. I feel that my social anxiety is the worst. I can somewhat deal with my depression and general anxiety, but social anxiety is ALWAYS the straw that breaks the camel's back for me. When that part of me is overwhelmed, I have panic attacks, meltdowns, escapism, the whole nine yards. I'm looking into therapy, but I'm SO SCARED of cognitive behavioural therapy. I know it's normal (because I have anxiety, duh I'll be scared), but it's like my social anxiety is stopping me from receiving help because that means interacting on a deeper level with another human being. It's ironic, in a way, how that works. Social anxiety is keeping me from getting help for my social anxiety, great. Does anyone have any tips? I've tried "just doing it" and backed out, I've tried telling myself over and over and reading about the process, but that freaked me out more because I overthink everything. I've tried so many things, but I can't seem to deal with that aspect of therapy. I live in the U.S. and therapy here is very much getting-thrown-into-the-deep-end-on-the-first-session so, needless to say, I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I'll have to do this since I will be taking classes soon which will involve peer interaction and therapy is absolutely the only thing I can do now as a last resort, I just need a way to feel like I'll do okay and something to think or do to prove to myself it'll be okay :(

[@Loepsie]

To me it was very much a "ripping off the bandaid" type of thing: it's not going to be fun but needs to happen and you'll come out better on the other end. There are different types of therapy and if this particular one doesn't feel right that's definitely something you can talk to the therapist about, see if there are other options or if they can ease you into it. Maybe talking to someone with the sole purpose of discussing the options would be a good first step? Then you can see where you'd like to go from there

[@caureaCiryamo]

Wow, díky za toto video! Přeji ať se ti daří a zdravím z ČR! :)

[@mayfair_forest_witch]

By listening to you talking about yourself, not only in this video, I think you might have same thing I do, what is called high sensitivity or sensory processing sensitivity , this is the type of personality we are born with which means we can't change it, we just need to learn to live it.

[@nadeshkaholmes9511]

Hi Loepsie! I've been watching your videos and i love them! I wanted to comment about this because i don't know if i have anxiety or i'm just too stressed, if you or someone else reading this can help me i'd be very thankful. A couple years ago (near christmas eve)i had these episodes where i started feeling physically bad (heart racing, difficulties in breathing, trembling like i was cold, feeling dizzie) and when my family talked about what i was having (in moments when i was fine) i started feeling the sympthons coming. So basically we couldn't talk about that because just talking about it made me feel it all over again. I spent new years eve trembling in my bed with the fear of something was going to happen to me because i couldn't breathe correctly. I went to the doctor and he told me to not eat junk food/coffee/chocolate/energy drinks. Months later i had this episodes again but without the shaking and one time i felt like i was about to cry but i controled myself. This stoped eventually, time after that my family and i went through a really difficult economic situation. During that time my brother got really afected (he was just a teenager) and he got kind of drepressed and had some health problems. I remeber that i started having this fear (and i still have it today, but at more sporadic periods of time) that something could happen to him and he could die, or he could kill himself. Then i was afraid of my parents death. This to the point that any unsual sound in the house could mean(to me)that someone in my family fell and die or was having a heart attack or something. I was (and sometimes i'm still) in a constantly state of alert. My brother's room is separeted from the house and it's visible from my window, a couple months ago i got worried because it was really late and his lights were still on. The first thing i imagined was that he was on the floor unconcious. Recently my brother got sick (btw he's in a better emotional state now) and again i was in constant alert. Again, it happens the same with my parents but i'm just cuoting a few examples. I must say i'm really emotional, i tend to be really demanding with myself, i tend to overthink but i try to stop myself from doing that, i'm introvert and shy, i get really nervous if i have to talk in public but i usually can handle it. I mean, i can force myself to speak if i have to interact with unkown persons, and i'm not anti social or something i do like to talk to some people. I know it may be ridiculous to write all this but i'm really confused and i need to know if someone can tell me if this is just stress or anxiety or what. Thank you so much if you read all this

[@djezmin_o]

Zo fijn dat je een goede POH getroffen hebt!

[@kfie3731]

Love watching you...

[@SyReNaxD]

I learned to view my hyper-sensitivity/empathy as a gift thanks to therapy too =)

[@indigosky9578]

I relate to this. I’m terrified of the phone.

[@maamianne1555]

Acceptance & commitment ❤ you're so reflective person as just as i am. I love the thoughts you've shared 😍😇 God bless, afterall you're doing better. Being sensitive is not that easy especially dealing with others who are qouted with the characters opposites on your own perspective. Be you and be better. 😉

[@LunaCurlysAmethyst]

Zo mooi dat je zo goed op weg bent :) Dat doet me goed! Ik heb zelf ook last van angsten. Ben er voor in therapie geweest, maar de sessies waren te weinig, dus werd ik doorverwezen naar GGZ Centraal in Almere. Daar ben ik botweg afgewezen omdat ik niet problematisch genoeg ben. En dit was de druppel. Ik ben al vanaf mijn 23e bezig om de juiste therapie te vinden. Ben nu 35 en het is me nog steeds niet gelukt. Ik doe het nu dus zonder therapie en zoek hulp in de spirituele wereld. En dan bedoel ik niet geesten enzo, nee. Meer healings en een cursus zelfliefde. Want mijn angsten komen onder andere door gebrek aan zelfliefde en blokkades daarin. Daar ben ik nu sinds augustus dit jaar mee bezig en ik voel me langzaamaan steeds beter en lekkerder in mijn vel. Aankomend weekend ga ik zelfs weer alleen met de trein. Vind het doodeng, maar ik ga het gewoon doen en blijf mezelf aan praten dat er niks mis kan gaan. Ook ben ik beheerster van een Facebook groep voor mensen met psychische problemen. Ik heb deze groep nu iets meer dan een jaar geleden opgericht omdat ik het gevoel had dat ik niet begrepen werd door mensen in mijn directe omgeving en dacht, ik ben vast niet de enige. Dus ik maak die groep. Ik heb daar veel steun aan en ik merk dat mijn leden (rond de 100) ook steun hebben. Dus eigenlijk zijn we lotgenootjes die elkaar steunen erin en dat is fijn :)

[@Alwaysrunning87]

Heb je al geprobeerd om bij je huisarts een verwijzing voor een PO (psychologisch onderzoek) te krijgen? Wat vervelend dat je bij de GGZ gewoon bent weggestuurd...

[@LunaCurlysAmethyst]

Ja, vaak zat. Ben al ruim 10 jaar bezig met hulp zoeken en voor mij werkt het helaas niet. Gelukkig zijn er andere vormen die voor mij wel werken ^^ Sinds ik daar mee bezig (ongeveer 2 maanden nu) voel ik me beter dan dat ik in de afgelopen 12 jaar heb gevoeld :)

[@Print229]

Thank you for sharing this. My son suffers anxiety. How did your parents help you? What did they do right and wrong? Thank you, again.

[@15xbailee]

I have bpd and panic disorder plus health anxiety I am constantly thinking I’m dying. If I have a pain or sickness I’m dying and I can’t get out of it .. I just want to live but I’m constantly having panic attacks

[@maxrojas9714]

Good Vídeo....I love Tea ...Thank you

[@TheElysianer]

Thank you so much for sharing this video and your experience. I relate a lot with how anxiety doesn't stop you from doing things and facing your fears. I dismissed therapy as well because it didn't work for me. I'll give the book you mentioned a shot and see if it helps me deal with powerful emotions. I think that all artists or creative people tend to be highly sensitive. Do you agree?

[@ellipsis-]

I have really bad anxiety, like it literally stops me to do basic human things. I really want to get help but idk how

[@YouTubeusername5285]

It’s helpful at about 10:00

[@bunnylovesapples]

oh damn i hate phone callls too. I always avoid them unless it isnt possible and if I have to I would plan what to say. I dont even know why I hate them. Maybe because i cant see the person I am talking to

[@jennifergrove2368]

I'm in therapy too. I always wondered why solitary confinement is considered a punishment. lol XD

[@elliyo4286]

I'm 99% sure I have anxiety but I'm way too scared of every social interaction to get help, and also scared of not being diagnosed, and scared of calling a therapist, and I don't know what to do...

[@MarinaInChrist84]

Find your brave side. We all have one. Try to be brave for 5 minutes and take one step towards helping yourself. It can be something small. Good luck!

[@elliyo4286]

Thank you so much.

[@Loepsie]

Thank you for sharing. You can take however much time you need with these things, if you can try to get used to the thought of finding help one day until you're ready to actually do it. If there's one person who understands how scary it is for you to reach out it's the therapist. I know it can be really scary but take comfort in knowing it's not a rational fear. Don't give up on yourself! Sending love and strength ❤

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

Please look into acupuncture. It has gelped me immensely. I visit a community accupuncturist which is a fraction of the cost and it just wonderful.

[@patriotusa6184]

Hi Loepsie , I enjoy your videos. I wouldn’t have ever dreamed you have any social anxiety. Wow! My good friend has social anxiety & suffered greatly from elementary school thru high school. It took her years to overcome what the bully’s did & said to her. She got her drivers license, graduated from high school with very high grades & wasn’t sure what she would do beyond that, so she took college courses & finished her first two years of prerequisites & then wasn’t sure what occupation to go into. She felt very limited bcuz of her social anxiety & that made her depressed & more isolated. She started cognitive therapy ( previous therapists didn’t work for her bcuz they were pushing her too fast to move forward & that just made her more determined to NOT do what she knew would help her, but she wasn’t quite ready yet). Her new therapist SPECIALIZED on Social Anxiety. The therapist was known to have had it herself when she was younger & had a tender way of doing the cognitive therapy that helped my friend feel empowered. This went one baby step at a time over a few years. It doesn’t mean it wasn’t ever hard for her, bcuz it was...but she was determined to power through this social anxiety (talking on the phone, speaking to strangers, asking a question, trying to make a new friend & worrying about the potential rejection by them or feeling like she said the wrong thing, etc). She always liked using computers & she decided to try to sell things on eBay. She tested things to sell & some things worked, others did not. She kept plugging along until she had something she enjoyed making at a profit. Then she started selling on Amazon. She got noticed by Amazon for selling a lot of items & became an up & comer to Amazon. She made her own website. Learned how to ship things for profit so she could continue to build her business. Four years later she is still improving her business online with no phone calls coming to her (as she prefers, but uses the phone at times to work thru website problems, supplies, etc). My point is this: get the help you need, work thru each problem as it comes up, try not to anticipate something bad will happen if you can & be happy with what you have accomplished today & look towards the future. She is now taking more college courses online to finish up her degree in Business. Good things can happen if you have a little TLC along the way. God Bless! ♥️♥️♥️

[@devindersingh4086]

Liked before watching

[@alexandradevrelis3365]

do you meditate?

[@Loepsie]

It's something I feel would be beneficial to me, but can't get into the habit of. I've started running and skating with the same kind of intention/goal as meditating though and that's been wonderful :)

[@Tigerlily7330]

Hey Loepsie, how do you talk to your boyfriend about it? I have a lot of anxieties and not really anyone i live with listens or understands. Does Robert play a day to day role in helping you get through rough days? - Liv

[@jasminegarcia7164]

I get anxiety when i drive at night and when i'm around a crowd of people. To me i don't think talking to someone helps i get more anxiety I don't take no pills i use to 3 years ago lol and i stopped i think taking pills is bad for the body it makes your liver or something go bad

[@faithandfitnesswithanna]

I go to therapy 3x a week for 26 years. My therapy is church. Jesus is my savior. The Bible gives me hope.

[@cristin97]

"there's a reason why solitary confinement is one of the strictest punishments we have" well, hello 2020 :'(

[@عابرةسبيلعابرةسبيل-ق2ز]

منورة لازم تتعلمي العربي ههههههه

[@VitriolXandakas]

Μωρ' δε μας κλάνεις μια μάντρα αρχίδια;

[@NamiNuitsuki]

لماذا تقول هذا؟

[@عابرةسبيلعابرةسبيل-ق2ز]

@@NamiNuitsuki مذا قولت ؟؟