Losing it all to a Pattaya bar girl, it's easier than you think, I did!

So easy to lose your heart, mind and bank account to a Pattaya girl, I share my story with you.
I never expected this but it happens and I had no idea it was coming my way!
Have you lost much to a relationship over here in Pattaya, Thailand?
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[@markdonovan1540]

There were at least two things you did right: 1. Leave the UK 2. Get out of that situation alive and live and learn from your experience. What a catalogue of errors, with all the signs on the wall that you couldn't see because of wanting, albeit not consciously, to live a fantasy. It all sounds like confessions of a fool with more money than sense, but by sharing this video you might prevent some other blind idiots from falling for the same scam. Divoced men with good financials are the prime target for any "love hook" scam, among other things. This can happen anywhere in the world, part particularly in large cities where many people are driven by money. In a poor country like Thailand, there will be even more people from poor backgrounds that try to find a way out of poverty. The mass tourism, which includes "sex tourism" (I know you didn't go there for that) will attract both types to "the party" - those vulnerable to (sometimes driven by) various desires and those willing to fulfill them for a PRICE and then back out of "the deal", but with all the benefits on their side! The bit about her having cancer and then you wait outside while she goes into the hospital, that is clear as day the sign that it was a lie. The Internet is plagued by websites to tempt men and women into situations that then go badly wrong. In this case, you managed to do it live and direct while trying to make a new start in life. Fortunately, you seem to have broad shoulders and are now able to reflect on it and put it all behind you. You sound like an overly trusting person, gullible even, so take your time and don't assume others will see things or do things as you would. If you've suffered depression, then you should be working on yourself first. Get to the bottom of your issues and transform yourself. Leave the temptations to massage your ego, it will always lead to pain, shame, etc. If you don't really know yourself, or at least be working towards it, then how can you really expect to find love and happiness with another, especially when you don't know anything about them and you're in another country and there are huge language and culture differences. Take your time to get to know a person in real life, not in bars and clubs. Don't fall for the emotional or other "good time" triggers without finding out what's real first. Look at yourself hard, but also give yourself a chance and be positive not needy.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thoroughly enjoyed reading your comment and I agree with all you said. I think the moral of this story was that at the time I was vulnerable and despite I didn't come out here looking for a relationship due to the fact that I was shown some attention it cascaded into a windfall of pain. And yes you are right looking at yourself is far more important than looking at what others think. But thankfully every cloud has a silver lining and now I'm extremely happily married with a fantastic wife and someone that actually wants to be with me for me rather than for what I can give. Thank you again for your comment

[@markdonovan1540]

@@Buzzinpattaya I edited it a few times, as I felt I was being a bit harsh at first, so hopefully it didn't come across like that in the end. I did see some stupid and negative comments, so that prompted me to write something a bit more balanced. I meant to add that being in Thaliand, you have easy access to some very good places where they either teach or practise such things as meditation, Tai Chi and Tai Yoga Massage - any of which, or all for that matter, would be tremendously beneficial to you. If you have the time and money to do such things, then in Thailand you will find very good teachers and schools - obviously there'll be a few charlatans too, so do your due diligence first. Good luck and enjoy wonderful Thaliand, which is one of my places to visit. I actually have a granddaughter whose mother is Thai, so I'm sure I'll go there one day.

[@AmericanInThailand]

Great advice and insight.

[@mall231]

Leave the UK are you from there ?

[@markdonovan1540]

@@mall231 yep, born and bred, as they say

[@striproyale]

There are very few 20 minute KZbin videos that keep my attention. A human story from someone with nothing to prove, but a great deal of valuable experience - thanks for sharing.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Just sharing what happened to me mate, cheers

[@senianns9522]

I went through all that crap 20 years ago! She moved her family into the house I had bought. She 'disappeared' somewhere with 'her car' ! I took the 2 very young kids with me to a small rental house in town. As I was working I hired a maid. Engaged a lawyer, he was fantastic. I took her to court for divorce and custody of kids, and division of estate. All went well, Thai court were excellent! I paid her out a bit, kept the kids and got the house back after about 1 year! House was 'gutted' all furniture taken by family, but eventually it all came back together! She never contacted the kids for 7 years! Kids are now through University, well educated and working. The days of living on 'Elm Street' are lone gone! So don't worry--over time it all comes good! *I'll never ever get involved again! ** Pay for play and 'walk away'. Good honest report Trevor! Well done!

[@davothefirst9371]

Pay for pleasure Na !

[@shabbos-goy9407]

A sorry story that is not rare. They a wired to fk you over. Definitely do not marry!!

[@paulhomer7882]

same here mate never again

[@jonathanfoster4243]

I remember I went to Phuket with the wife in the early 90s on two weeks holiday, after a week it was changeover day and the lads from Manchester probably early 30s were saying goodbye to their Thai girlfriends there was hugs, kissed, crying, the girls were crying the lads were crying the girls were on their knees pulling at their hair distraught, the lads were promising to keep in touch, come back, send money, it was all very distressing, that was about 5pm, we went out for dinner about 9.30 pm and those girls were in the restaurant with the new arrivals that had come on the plain the Manc lads were going home on, not a care in the world, laughing, kissing, flirting, happy as and I just thought about the Manc lads, on the plain still, all miserable and making plans for their future with the Thai girls......

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Hahaha brilliant mate

[@zdd22fixes47]

Lol, i watch a "so called" mate get caught like this, he put thousands into it too! Multiple times to different whores too lol...

[@paulwally9007]

This story should be written on every visa issued for Thailand.

[@antoniotula262]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I've witnessed that in the DR.

[@zdd22fixes47]

@@paulwally9007 no way! It's amusement for the locals an ex-pats... nothing funnier than watching the boys drinking the sugar water! Wakey wakey, love is a business in some towns eh

[@keegan773]

A fool and his money are easily parted. An old fool and his money are parted even faster.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

lol

[@curtisj2165]

There's no fool like an old fool

[@rogersmith9705]

“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself.” 🐕 Thanks Trevor for sharing your experience. ❤👍

[@sassasins031]

And if you don't feed it then it will leave too.

[@rogersmith9705]

@@sassasins031 100% right .. Always remember the 3 ''F'' rule to keep your girl .. F**k, Feed and Finance.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I love my two dogs

[@ingwisingwis8336]

Big respect for telling us your story. This is great. Looks like in the end everything went very well for you.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yes, thank you

[@matthewgreen9062]

Trev my heart goes out to you mate I’ve been battling cancer since I was 30 and now 38 . I’ve had my teeth and tongue removed at such a young age and I can’t believe how someone could lie about such a thing !!! Thai people just love money and it always happens to nice guys . Stay strong mate and can’t wait to visit Thailand 🙏

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I'm not quite sure how to respond to you other than saying I wish that you make a full and speedy recovery and everything's okay mate..... Stay strong

[@markjenner7199]

So sorry to hear that Iam sixty and by the grace of God have not faced cancer yet it's the one that needs to be defeated sooner than later all the best in the future mate

[@ianskeldon6032]

Huge respect to you mate, you are the better person for accepting the situation and moving on, which is never easy, take care and stay happy and healthy.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

All good mate

[@franksu9735]

Most of people would not talk about their bad experience , i admire your courage .

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Just thought if nothing else it would show how it happens

[@johnclark7973]

Trev, you're one keep it real/ straight shooter! I appreciate you so much. I don't know if you actually realize how much you help us total newbies. It's a lot! This video has a lot of views and comments, so it was of interest and of value to many!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate much appreciated

[@juliangilbert5465]

Good of you to be so honest, telling your story even though it shows you to be naive, but to warn other men. That takes balls. Kudos to you. Mind you, I'm not sure this story is exclusive to Thai women. The story could be in any country. 😉

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yeah I was dumb but we emotions are involved it's easy to lose reality

[@stevenfinch9026]

@@Buzzinpattaya true mt

[@paulwally9007]

It COULD be in any country -if you're unlucky. But in Thailand it's practically an industry.

[@bammbammsummers6346]

Yes it happened to me Thai dr Philippines it’s a sad deal we are only a atm for there family enjoy while it last rent don’t buy they still get a lot for nothing in the end

[@jasonjames4254]

You've helped someone, somewhere, from making the same mistake you did. Thank You!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

No worries!

[@darrenjones3118]

Thanks Trev Just been through it. 4 years then the silent treatment overnight. Lost so much because it’s not worth trying to fight for it. Killed my dream, but hopefully rebuild 🙏

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Sorry for this mate, stay strong

[@senianns9522]

Now you know for sure! Don't look back, turn it into a new life opportunity! Good luck, walk don't run. Cheers!

[@CrazyClips876]

Fool me once shame on you fool me twice………….

[@darrenjones3118]

@@CrazyClips876 anything you would like to say ?????

[@CrazyClips876]

@@darrenjones3118 simply saying you made a mistake and to learn from it and not do it again. Rent everything never buy no matter what a Thai woman tells you or how much she”loves” you.

[@jakeenan]

So many guys who come to live in Pattaya.....who were married, now divorced, with kids now grown up.....think they are gonna be that guy they were before being married.....but that guy is long dead and they revert back to what they know: marriage and kids. And the cycle begins again. Plus, the majority of guys CANNOT live alone. They confuse boredom with loneliness. Big mistake.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Indeed mate

[@davidcole1670]

That’s a very good observation, well done alone does not mean lonely 👍

[@tomgodheart4557]

So fuckin true dude

[@s3any1977]

'They confuse boredom with loneliness'. Spot on.

[@AG-so4gl]

It puzzles me why bar girls are even the first thought. It shows the character of the man, no?. Can easily meet professional corporate / government workers in the malls, shops, restaurants. Its called - making an effort.

[@TheLegenDacster]

Good on you for making such an excellent effort to explain your honest and heartfelt experiences, in order to help others. Very happy that things turned out so well in your life. All the best.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate

[@RandallWarren-x3k]

The best lessons come from the most painful experiences! And you've learned, grown and matured from those difficult endeavors.. Most importantly, you are resilient and able to bounce back and recover fairly quickly, with minimal damage and a good attitude. We, (you, me and everyone) really lose when we cant trust again or have bitterness, anger or resentment. Good job, great attitude and good luck, sir.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate, have a great day

[@louistavernia8163]

Wow, what a great story. Very honest and not expected from the usual content. You always seem to be afraid about going out of your comfort zone, but I think you should trust your instincts because that is where your content seems to be your best. Just my opinion. This personal story is much appreciated. Thank you for sharing.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Your welcome

[@wotreeclapton]

When I first came, here a good older friend of mine who had been round the block said to me "They are born lying, don't trust or believe anything they say. Pay them to leave the next morning it's the only way." That advice has stood me in good stead for 7+ years now.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Gotcha mate

[@duncanboard9452]

Well done Trev for sharing a difficult story. Takes a lot of guts and she lost more in the long run

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate

[@terrycurzon1318]

Thanks for sharing your story, absolutely astonishing….proves the old saying what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Glad you finally found happiness. Best wishes for the future mate 👍

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate and yeah look forwards not backwards

[@jkay7850]

Waaaw....A real life experience presented in a way that most reasonable people would understand and appreciate that at the very least "the journey and experiences of life" sometimes take us to places and situations that we never ever imagined. Thanks for sharing. It's stories like this that help make the "road" a bit easier to travel for some of us no matter where we go or find ourselves. Live long, live happy, live healthy and keep doing what you do. Cheers.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate much appreciated

[@Ezzynah]

No mate, you're spot on. It's not as easy as it may sound to just walk away from things like that. But on the bright side, you came out the other side happier and stronger. All the best to you, mate. People like her will get their comeuppance one day.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate and yeah it happens

[@mikebrady5747]

Glad that you had the emotional and financial resilience to come through this.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate, was a tough time to be fair but hey ho....

[@philrobinson476]

wow Trevor, really enjoyed this vid. its a part of life that lots of us experience but never talk about. never thought that i would sit for 20 mins listening to someone just talking. thank you

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate, just wanted to show how easy this can happen

[@paulmorgan6269]

You've been through a lot Trev. I really wish you well in the years ahead. You deserve it mate. Keep up please with the updates and video's.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

All good mate thank you

[@howwwwwyyyyy]

Fell for the first woman I met in Thailand!!!!-19 years later we're still together, she's ace & Burmese

[@Buzzinpattaya]

wow nice one mate fair play to you

[@Baz-ur7wv]

Respect for telling your story Trevor....I just got away from an Ex Gogo (38 years old) a real expert! ..She was playing the long game, eyeing up all the assets, condo (although it was 100% Foreign Freehold, best move ever)..It's taken a lot of effort to walk away as she was incredibly sexy and fun but dangerous. I had to totally block all contact and never look back, saying nothing . It still hurts ,but I know I did the right thing and consider myself V lucky. I listened to my gut and instinct at the time. I would have lost a lot more if not the lot and then just been replaced eventually, I am 100% sure of that.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thank you too for sharing what I can imagine is a very painful experience you're going through and yes it's very hard to walk away when emotions are involved

[@jimmydempsey6857]

She must have been frustrated Baz that the fish slipped off the hook, lot of time and planning must go into the long con 🥴

[@billionair4115]

Thanks for sharing your story, bro. You saved a couple of broken men from falling deeper.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

No doubt!

[@klaviere1]

Unfortunately as an Austrian guy I'm not able to follow you in every talk of you because of your quick and special "dialect", but this video was very emotional for me. Its a fact, coming to Thailand it is very easy to fall in love, belonging to me this happens within just 2 or 3 days... Until now I didn't loose some money, thanks God. On the other hand I met a lot of expat married for many years with a Thai lady and they are very happy.. It can be good or bad everywhere in the world. But many thanks for giving this deep inside in one part of your life and as you mentioned very often, it was also a nice phase of live too....

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Gotcha mate and yes you can find happiness here for sure, just take it day by day

[@michaelmallal9101]

My Filipina wife has taken me down too after 14 years marriage. Nice to hear you're now happy.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Sorry for that mate

[@milkybar6276]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's easy for people to sit back and judge or make fun, but it could easily happen to anyone.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

No worries mate

[@northforkrunner]

Give yourself a lot of credit Trevor!! You know what I'm mean. Hard lessons, it's about forgiveness and faith.Your good people and that's priceless

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thank you very much and yes I don't bear any grudges I've moved on in my life and I'm happier now with my wife than I ever have been

[@chrissmall1246]

Trev, your courage is apparent in your vulnerability. To take responsibility and ownership for your mistakes because you were unaware, uneducated in Thai ways and having a big heart and a generous soul is not a bad personality characteristic...it was a life lesson. I did much research on Thai culture and Thai women before relocating to Thailand. I came looking for love and a long-term relationship. I still made many mistakes, nothing catastrophic but certainly those that created a need for adjustments in my perspective and expectations. I came in search of the simple and natural Thai lady from the farming community in the North. We enjoy both worlds, rural and natural farming but also time in Pattaya golfing and Island hopping. After 18 months in Thailand and learning so much... sitting and enjoying a cold Leo on the beach in the early evening in Koh Samui with my Sweetheart I couldn't help but think and say..."This is the life, this is so nice, what a beautiful place, what a beautiful country....thank you Love." We all create our own destiny via our own choices...there are always mistakes. Don't worry about being right all the time, instead try to be wrong less and be grateful for all you have experienced in this wonderful life. My advice, go slow, a little at a time. It is all one big gift...give more than you take. Cheers!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers for sharing your experience, yeah life is all about learning curves and I have had a few lol

[@JaiDii-Thai-]

@Chris Small, ...wow!! First time I read such a intelligent, and very good understanding, .. i guess your a man with loads of life experience, and a deep understanding and writing it. You must have studied psychology, or are a very talented high EQ person,.... I humbly say,... I love meeting people wise as you,... And only listen. I've nothing even close, to add after reading this. I'm not being sarcastic !!! I'm not easy sucking up like this,... But i just needed to react to someone's by coincidence, reading another reply... Your amazing!! I'm no idiot, but reading this!...i still have much to learn. 👍 ✌️

[@southerndiscomfort2412]

Love is a form of madness and once you are fully consumed in it with a Thai lady...it's bloody difficult to walk away. Thanks for the honest video.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Well said mate spot on

[@expanserecords1290]

That`s very true. Love is an form of madness and once you are fully consumed in it (epescially with an beautiful, hot thai lady) it is bloody difficult to walk away. I`ve been in the same situation as well, and i know how it feels.

[@ruairijoseph]

‘I came to Thailand because I love spicy food’ 😂 yes he did actually say that

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yes I actually did say that...... And???

[@ruairijoseph]

@@Buzzinpattaya 😂

[@merrills8984]

I love it the dog saying grab a pair and leave her. You traveled down the hard road to success. Congrats!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Haha cheers mate

[@markgarretson689]

Hi Trevor, that cancer lie from your ex filled me up with rage. I lost both my sons aged 23 and 29 to cancer two decades back and I can completely relate how you must have felt. Though you’re laughing it off, losing it all isn’t a big joke. I’m so glad that you’re doing well with your present wife and life in Thailand. May it remain like that forever, best wishes.

[@shabbos-goy9407]

Both boys? That’s heavy. I wish that on no one.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I can't imagine how losing your son's must have been, catastrophic at best....so sorry to read this mate, genuinely sending you my best wishes to you...... Fuck that's so hard to get my head around your loss!!!!!!

[@reread2549]

Yes I lost my father and my older brother to cancer. The only positive thing that I could take away from it was that neither one of them suffered for long. It was fast and they both passed away at home with family around them. Cancer still sucks. I can’t imagine losing two children.

[@shabbos-goy9407]

@@reread2549 RIP.

[@shanefcd4004]

I am very sorry to hear about your son's 😭 my wife was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer on the 19 August, it's spread to her spine and she is now suffering from a fractured spine. I am taking my darling home to The Phillipines in January

[@Ken_oh545]

Silent treatment such a classic. My two experiences with this ... 1. British wife. She could freeze me out all day then her mobile would ring and the smile would come on and the lively tone of voice! Then back to glum the minute her call ended. Such an operator. 2. A Kenyan g/f, we had a fantastic couple of visits then on the 2nd one we were driving back to the airport and she went silent on me for 3 hours. We got to the airport and as we bid farewell she asked me to leave her with $100, well I gave her a $50 note and told her we will never meet again but that it had all been great until a few hours ago - adding that a woman who does silent treatment even before a ring goes on is simply a no-no. Imagine life 5 years down the line. I went into the airport to check in, had a few Tuskers and laughed all the way home about the dodged bullet.

[@jimstokes7111]

I had a similar experience with a Kenyan lady here in the UK. However the silent treatment always lasted 5 days as a minimum. Any way we tried to patch things up by selling my Luxury flat and buying a house together and as I had just been made redundant from the Oil Industry but had a fair bit of cash, I paid 60% cash and she took a mortgage in her name for the 40% balance. Anyway after 5 years it all went sour and she took my house keys away and made me homeless. That was nearly 2 years ago, still fighting using Lawyers, she has the house and I am in a private let, paying someone else,s mortgage

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Haha cheers for sharing mate much appreciated

[@derekmay8679]

Hopefully you didn't get a dose of something to remind you 😉

[@Ken_oh545]

​@@derekmay8679nothing like that, she was from the non promiscuous side of life

[@derekmay8679]

@@Ken_oh545 🙏

[@hotnom1]

I suffered the same fate, I don't know if you've seen Dave and Nat on Thailand Bound channel but it's a very must see for anyone coming to Thailand.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I don't follow other tubers, nothing against them just like to sit in my own little word of YT lol

[@graemethorne4540]

Yes a great show a must watch definitely

[@awlonghurst]

Fair play to you sharing your story and you're so humble and honest about it too. Hopefully it can help someone else avoid being swindled. I'm impressed you're so cheerful and positive, and I wish you all the best for 2023

[@Buzzinpattaya]

One of life's learning curves

[@awlonghurst]

@@Buzzinpattaya honestly, I think you're stronger than me, if what happened to you had happened to me I'm not sure I'd have coped. So your fortitude impresses me. Been 6 years since I was last in Thailand, now that things are opening up after Covid I'll have to take a trip there again.

[@bossdog1480]

Thai's plan far ahead. I know a Thai lady that came to Australia and married a local guy. She sent his money 'home' for years to build a house in her village. She was working in my restaurant and she was telling me that she was just about ready to return to Thailand, and her Thai husband, as the house was now finished. 😁

[@Buzzinpattaya]

They can definitely play the long game

[@happycook6737]

Very common scenario .

[@kennethbulmer8773]

The problem is Im an obese bald headed 65 year old but in my minds eye I am still as handsome as I was in my youth. How on earth could that beautiful 25 year old Thai girl resist me. It is pure narcissism on my part...the most attractive part of me is my bank balance and the fact that should I marry a thai girl she wont have too long to wait to inherit my hard earned

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Life is for living, go do it

[@fal7178]

Brave story sounds like you a positive person . Thanks for the advice

[@Buzzinpattaya]

All good mate

[@russellarendt5565]

Fair enough, and well spoken mate. As an Expat American living in Vietnam for the past 10 years, your experiences are ringing true and very similar to my own. You don’t expect to fall in love but when it happens and they break your heart in half it hurts. However, from that disappointment, I have achieved a meaningful, rewarding, loving relationship for the past eight years with a sweet, honest, funny Vietnamese woman that I truly love. Life is too short to be bitter, and sometimes out of the trash heap of one relationship real happiness can be found. Love you brother for sharing your story.☮️

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate

[@retthok]

Men, everywhere in general and especially where you are; nothing more than walking cash registers. I never take anything women tell me seriously.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

indeed

[@georgebrooks3873]

@@Buzzinpattaya I know many men here in the US that make much less than their wives. I know one guy who is a contractor who has never made more than $40k a year. His wife is a nurse practitioner that makes $150k a year plus has the health insurance through her employer. He gets drunk everyday. She never stops bitching but won’t leave. It’s not always the man who taken advantage of.

[@thebign8886]

💯

[@jimmydempsey6857]

@@georgebrooks3873 Yep it can work both ways, men also relieve women of cash. Got to keep an even keel on it 👍

[@mcpablo8123]

Good man Trevor

[@amodog99]

Same thing happened to me dealing with a Thai woman. Bought a house and was planning to retire. Ended up having to walk away from a newly built house. Thai ppl in tourist areas learn very easy to take advantage of foreigners. I was giving this woman money every month and she still insisted on staying in the club. Maintaining her self image in front of other aided in her downfall. Sad part was learning her parents and family whom I helped quite a bit were in on the scam to hide her real intentions. the end, she lost everything b/c she was never taught money management nor how to run a businesses. Great life lesson learned. I regrouped and got back on my feet. In the end I learned foreigners are mostly looked at as check books to Thai women.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Sad mate, hope you are okay

[@amodog99]

@@BuzzinpattayaThat was a few years ago. Much better now. Any woman you meet in a bar or club is damaged goods.

[@happycook6737]

As an expat woman who worked and lived in China, Viet Nam, Thailand, Japan, South Korea, Tanzania, Iraq, and India yes! Foreign poor women look at male expats as ATMs. They think nothing of marrying one and divorcing because to those women it is a BUSINESS transaction. The expat men (I'm talking about regular guys here, not sexpats) are absolutely crushed and blindsided as they were truly in love with the carefully cultivated facade presented by the demon female. Beware expat men!!!!!!

[@Jim-wf6xi]

Very brave to share your storey Trevor. We all can get drawn into the lies over here. For my part having had 4 failed relationships where I sponsored a girl whilst still working and going backwards and forwards, I was about to give up on Thai women. Thats until I met my wife who was 19 and a gogo dancer. 11 years later we are now fully together and married for 8 years. These relationships do work but you just need to find the right one. By the way I am 35 years older than her.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yeah shit happens mate

[@mistertwist]

Cradle snatcher!

[@mikecurley3849]

Good on you for being candid with us mate. It's always the sign of a fully rounded human being when U can share things that went wrong and have a chuckle about it. I reckon 'Private Dancer' should be mandatory in-flight reading for anyone heading to the LOS...

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Just wanted people to see how it works and can happen

[@geoffsmith5563]

Good Honest Story Mate, You'll Never Get To The Bottom of Them, Strange Breed, The Sad Thing is You Take Them Out of Poverty, Give Them A Bloody Good Life Style, And This How You Get Repaid, They Don't Deserve Us, Sometimes it's Better to Leave Them Picking Rice, Although it's Against Our Better Nature, At Least The Dog, Bless it's Heart Stood by You, Your Best Friend 👌

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate and yeah hard to understand at times

[@shabbos-goy9407]

In Hindi they say “you can’t keep a snake” No matter how well you treat it, it will one day bite you. It’s a shame as there may be good Thai women but it’s generally better to to rent then bin them.

[@keenedgedesigns]

Thanks for putting yourself out there like that.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

No probs at all mate

[@geo525252]

A high percentage of these girls are born into the hustle, know the game, and have no qualms about destroying people for fun and profit.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Indeed mate

[@enrique383]

your absolutely right but american and latin women do it to just as bad

[@williambarry70]

Trevor thank you so much for sharing your story your honesty and frankness say a great deal about your kind and positive character .

[@Buzzinpattaya]

No worries mate, just sharing it can happen to us all

[@steveferry5629]

my thai landlady says 'you can take the lady out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the lady'.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Wise words

[@maddogmorgan1]

If it floats, flies or fucks you are always better off renting.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Haha true

[@anthonydowling3356]

An honest story .I can not point the finger as a similar thing happened to me.The house was not B3.7M but B1.4 M but with improvements and money spent on furniture it probably came to B 2M .We lived there 10 years up in Chiang mai .At least i got 10 years where i was rent free and when we sold she did give me B300k . Met her in Pattaya .She had a hair Salon off Soi Bukhao .The shop was flooded out at the time with 50 cm of water .She lived in the back room and her bed was swimming in water.We hit it off.I felt sorry for her and let her stay with me at my tiny Condo in Jomtien.The rest is history and it did work out and i was happy enough for 9 years at least ,until it went pear shaped mainly due to my lack of money .

[@Buzzinpattaya]

wow thanks for sharing mate, wish you all the best

[@ricksmith7308]

Trev,, not boring in the slightest! I love how honest you are, your ex, depression etc. Respect

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate much appreciated

[@tonydoherty8056]

Came to Thailand because I love spicy food🤣🤣🤥Give over mate

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Think what ya like I don't give a toss mate, judge me all you want

[@johnmacleod9226]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 gotta love the spicy food fs

[@robertmason6366]

I went to Thailand for the wild-life

[@theunspokentruth5987]

Came for the food 🤣🤣🤣 ikr .

[@PhilMcCrackin-f3n]

I lived in Thailand for three years back in the early 2000s .. I was working for an international company, got transferred there and everything this guy says happens to EVERY Farang who lives there!! The only difference is 90% wont ever admit it publicly.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate and yes happens far too often

[@jamesmiles4159]

You lost the girl but got to keep your dogs, that's a good trade in my opinion. You'll get far more loyalty from a dog than you'll ever get from a woman!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

100% mate, love my dogs

[@dumb-old-trump]

so much drama with women in an relationship. good luck with the dogs.

[@allenconigliaro2545]

I experienced worst in the states my friend. Looks snd money makes no difference. Your personality is a blast of energy people are drawn towards truth and honesty. Fun is the name of the game keep having fun in the end we are all buried alone with no money.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate great shout

[@keithbentley6081]

Anybody that's been in any relationship should know that when one person loses interest in sex it's because they are cheating or have someone else in mind.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

ok

[@keithbentley6081]

@@Buzzinpattaya Not a criticism of you, we've all been there. Glad you're doing well now.

[@henrydelbosque1989]

That happen everywhere in the world with any woman…that said, full respect to you. I married a Thai bar girl 30 years ago. She gave me two lovely children and we all still are so happy in our lives….but that happen everywhere in the world with any woman..That said the guy who enter the tiger cage should know he courbe be eaten…

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I guess mate

[@kerouacist]

Learning to be by yourself is a great benefit ,especially in Pattaya. I can go out and have my fun (outside my hotel). Come home to my hotel sanctuary with no issues.I would hear screaming matches at night,doors slamming and guys being given hell. I wouldn't start a business with a beautiful stranger. I buy no meals or drinks for strange women whose friends want to rort me. I never have an issue, I never get involved in dramas. Fly low and alone.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks for sharing mate, much appreciated

[@baldandbankrupt]

Loved this. Good honest story of majorly fucking up in life. You bounced back anyway mate.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate

[@brioquery]

Apart from the bedroom aerobics, what on earth is a middle aged bloke and a 20-something girl going to have in common?

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I know mate I know

[@stephenboyd4934]

£20 ?

[@seojimjames]

Sounds like every relationship/marriage I ve ever had , here in California. No Different. Pattaya, Los Angeles, all the same. But Great Video, and thanks for your expertise and hard work. hehehe

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thanks mate much appreciated

[@rolandpotter479]

Middle aged men are vulnerable to pretty and calculating women especially when bereaved or divorced. I do not sneer or laugh at you I'm very glad your life is on track,but there were a number of red flags in plain sight! I'm a man of 67 years of age and I don't look bad for my age. I also know a woman twenty five or thirty years of age would be interested in me for money not looks! If men go into this situation in Thailand,Philippines or Vietnam. Be careful. The attention of beautiful women is hard to resist,but be realistic. You are a lucky man to have found happiness. I lost my wife a year ago after twenty happy years she was kind generous and caring I miss her every day,but I will probably live my final day's as a widower. Your story is a very cautionary tale.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yeah it happens and as I shared happened. Sad but true

[@happycook6737]

I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss. My mom died after 52 years of marriage and my dad also refuses to remarry. 😭🙏💐

[@zoltanas77]

Respect. Not many man will admit to their mistakes so honestly like you.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I just want people to understand despite how they think that it really is this easy to fall into the trap especially when emotions are involved

[@danielali6571]

@@Buzzinpattaya for sure. Apparently there is the 3 day rule.. But as for your story I don't think you can call it you lost everything to a thai girl as from what you said she didn't scam you at all apart from the sick story but likely only to make you stay otherwise why would she say it . It would be different if she made it up and was getting you to give her a load of money ans buy things for her to get treatment but that's not how the story went so I don't see how she did too much wrong but more it didn't work out and the point is more be more careful about thinking its the one and forever and investing everything into cars and houses

[@oceanstateyakfishing]

What a story! You could write a book with that one

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yeah lol

[@terrancekenallen2241]

Not your girl, it's just your turn. Even if you really like her, just compliment her and let her go. That's all you can ask for. Just be a slag and get in and out. That's life.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Gotcha

[@carlosmark9840]

Hell of a story thanks for sharing we all taken a big loss over a woman myself included.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Glad you enjoyed the video

[@caliman1098]

Happened to an older friend of mine, he gave her and her family 100 of thousands of dollars, married her so she can get the visa ofcoarse and come to LA. Lets just say she has a house now and he lives in san bernadino. All they care about is the money and money to they family, you cant buy a girl no matter how lonely you get, and we all get lonely at times even with a wife laying next to you

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Sorry your friend got burnt

[@caliman1098]

@@Buzzinpattaya Im not sorry, this went on for years all of us at work kept asking him WTF are u doing??

[@mararoxa2275]

People shouldn’t be leaving nasty comments. Women like her are predators. No excuse for that behaviour some men have committed suicide over things like this. It’s very serious & I feel for u. You was vulnerable & she prayed on that x I wish u all the best x

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Thank you, I was a challenging time in my life but thankfully it's behind me now.

[@shaggydoggs]

So old men going to third world countries to prey on young girls aren’t predators?

[@expanserecords1290]

Happened to me in thailand to, getting scammed big time by an bar girl who was an predator also. So, i can relate for sure. Fantastic, to see you doing great now :)

[@mararoxa2275]

@@Buzzinpattaya no worries & I’m glad u r doing better now :)

[@mararoxa2275]

@@expanserecords1290 it’s so sad that this happens. I’m sorry it happened to u too. I’m glad u r ok now :)

[@nigelingram8514]

Wonderfully honest video, Trev. Your best yet. We have all been there. As someone said recently here, most bar girls are "devils in angels bodies".

[@Buzzinpattaya]

thanks mate

[@alistairrobinson3865]

Massive respect for sharing your story, appreciate hearing it

[@Buzzinpattaya]

All good mate

[@gimmyherbert8217]

Retire or buy land ...pay your bills and travel around ...never ever fall in love.....watch your back

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Gotcha

[@gimmyherbert8217]

@@Buzzinpattaya haha take language lessons in the country...and then you might avoid problems

[@antiGravity74]

@@gimmyherbert8217 can't believe he still hadn't learned it.

[@gimmyherbert8217]

Just means you won't need her to interrupt...walking around with her ...can then hear conversation

[@BellagamingTV]

To be honest Trev, this isn’t necessarily just in Thailand! I had something very similar over here in the UK with my Italian ex. We all live and learn….

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I get ya mate

[@Sirvalian]

1: Never buy a house in Thailand because that will always be in someone else's name, instead buy a condo in your name. 2: You can own the car in your name.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

You can own the car yes but a lot of paperwork

[@gavinsverdloff4291]

What a great story, I can’t thank you enough. I lost my wife after a 42 year relationship, 8 years ago. I am very vulnerable, & this could happen to me. I have tried to get a lady to spend sometime with me. The chat is always questions about my finances, how much is my house worth, what pensions do I receive, what’s my Company worth? I never wanted to be on my own, man shouldn’t live on his own, two heads are better than one, aren’t they? Happy New Year to you.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Sorry to hear that

[@thomasridenour277]

I have lived in Pattaya for many years.....no comment. It is a syndrome called "Cherry Boy Thailand". I have seen it scores of time. First time away from home. Divorced. You are prime bait.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Gotcha

[@TheDarthSoldier]

Sounds like every relationship I've been in while living in America

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Yeah I get ya mate

[@zero24111]

Takes a lot of guts to share something like that, well done!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

All good mate

[@tommykempo8962]

Flying 7000 miles for spicy food 🤣 pull the other one bruv 🤣

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Think as you wish I don't give a toss as you don't even know me mate.....

[@derekking5386]

Just knew you would get some smart arse comments on here. Probably they think they have never fkd up in their life. Good on you mate

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Haha it's cool mate and yeah nobody has ever made a mistake lol cheers mate

[@draculasneeze6681]

They're the same guys who tell you "I've never had to pay a bargirl ever"

[@Jugggle]

They manipulate men by their heart strings ooo no matter what country ooo obviously U hav a big heart ooo well done for yr honesty n the warning ooo

[@Buzzinpattaya]

As you said when emotions get involved is very hard

[@RR-xu5xk]

This is one of the better stories I have ever watched on youtube. thanks for sharing.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Welcome as always mate

[@desr6991]

Had a mate that went to Vegas,he says….brought a hooker to his room..Big mistake,she drugged him with Mescalin, and kept on topping him up over a week, and took £19,200 off his credit card…he tried to sue the hotel,and they just laughed in his face.So it can always be worse!!!!

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Wow thanks for sharing

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Actually, his credit card company should have reimbursed him. It's fraud.

[@googleuser2609]

"From the military school of life --- what does not kill me, makes me stronger". -- F. Nietzsche.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Well said

[@Jimmyredcab]

The problem is that every guy thinks that his girl is different to the rest, deluded.

[@revenge9431]

Exactly

[@Buzzinpattaya]

In many ways mate

[@timothysidebotham]

Grateful for your story, you’ve got a big heart, we’re all suckers for love.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers mate

[@fabianh.5848]

Never open a business or buy a house in the woman's name. This is the biggest mistake you can make. Not just in Thailand but everywhere.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

okay

[@GusMac6129]

LOL. A middle-aged, well off divorced British man going to Thailand for the spicy food & heat. Aye ok. Iv'e heard it all now....

[@0Davie0]

Haha Haha no they go for skinny teenage girls that love them long time

[@GusMac6129]

@@0Davie0 I was being sarcastic, mate. We all know why single middle-age men go to Thailand.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

You can judge as you wish, despite never knowing me. The fact is I was long time married, divorced and had two years of hell. Wanted a break and knee jerk reaction booked a flight to BKK. If I knew why did I stay in BKK, if I knew why then go to Koh Samui???? Tar me with the brush if it makes you feel better it really doesn't matter

[@GusMac6129]

@@Buzzinpattaya Well, you must be a one in a million then, mate. It was the excuse of spicy food & heat that got me, you can go to Spain/India/Middle East and get that. Anyway, you still ended up in the bars. You are correct, it does not really matter, just don't BS your audience.

[@antoniotula262]

It's a shame it has that rep. I've never been there, but Thai restaurants have been my favorite for years & I've always loved Caribbean beaches so Thailand offers both, but you'll get the side-eye if you tell people you're going there.

[@seriousdoubt]

Every farang has a money tree in his yard or an ATM in his pocket (Thai proverb)🤣

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Indeed

[@RacerRoss]

Thank you for being honest and genuine, it helps guys looking at this from a distance.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Always!

[@andrewwilliams8413]

The guys who get the most out of Thailand, Philippines, are the love um and leave um type guy's, to many mines in those rice fields

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Cheers

[@chriswood7165]

Its cheaper by the hour.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

By far

[@michaelb2388]

Very true. Why get married to them when you can just pay for a rump?

[@user-fq7ii3ub4m]

I always feel envious when I hear these stories about these girls making off with someone's fortune. Where can I find old fools to scam? Tired of working in hospitality😪

[@Buzzinpattaya]

I wanna be reborn a woman lol

[@rajyads6582]

Respect brother. You are so strong. I am going threw something like you have in the UK. ALL WE WENT IS TO LOVE AND BE LOVED. RESPECT. TOP MAN FOR KEEP GOING.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Keep looking forward and don't look back, always remember tomorrow is another day and as long as you focus and keep walking forward the rest will gradually disappear

[@rajyads6582]

@@Buzzinpattaya THANKS BROTHER

[@berniesookie]

Don't be silly. You pay for short term fun if you are into that scene..long term is a recipe for disaster for your savings. Remember fellas renting is cheaper then buying.

[@Buzzinpattaya]

Okay